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The term "incel" is short for "involuntary celibate." In its most basic form, it describes someone, usually a man, who is tired of their lack of sexual experiences and blames the subjects of their desires, most often women, for their frustration.
Reddit user BlueFruitJam wanted to know how to spot these people in the wild, so they asked other platform users to share the telltale signs that would suggest a person belongs to this infamous group.
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#1
If they’re from a Western country like the US but complain about women in their country being too independent. And if they talk about wanting to date women from somewhere like Eastern Europe, Asia or South America because they’re supposedly more submissive and treat men better. Bonus points if they’re over 30 and only attracted to very young women and don’t like women their age.
two-sided llama 1 year ago (edited)
Hey has anyone here heard about the subreddit passport bros. It’s disgusting, but this post reminded me of it ( I heard about it through a smosh pit episode). It’s a subreddit where men discuss the best country to go to find submissive women.
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#2
He's an incel if...
He thinks insulting or patronising you is a valid way to flirt, i.e. "negging" to assert their dominance.
He admires Andrew Tate and other incel-ebrities like that.
He tries to tell you that the real problem in the world is feminism, and women need to "get over it because gender inequality doesn't exist - in fact, men actually have it WORSE now because they can be falsely accused of r**e at any second."
Also if he tries to mansplain what women are "reaaally like" to you, a woman.
#3
When he is unable to interact with a woman as a person. There is only sexualization and weird devotion or blatant hate and misogyny.
#4
It's really hard for them to hide it because they reveal how they view women without even realizing it. When they see us as vending machines where they put in surface-level "niceness" and/or money and get sex in return, it becomes obvious pretty quickly. They genuinely don't see us as people.
Jinx (she/her) 1 year ago
Yup. All women are just there for their own enjoyment, to be looked at or used
#5
If some news comes out about a woman being assaulted by a man, and they immediately decide to defend the guy, and look for reasons to not believe the woman.
#6
There was a man on the subway yesterday who was yelling at me that he was upset that “everyone is gay” because it meant nobody would have sex with him. He proceeded to call me a b*tch and talk about how he “deserved pussy” and was angry that no one would boink him… like maybe if you wanna get some, screaming at people on the subway that you deserve to have sex with them might not be the best strategy.. 🤷♀️ So in conclusion, if you are being yelled at on the train about being owed sex, you may have just spotted an incel!
#7
When they hate everything about women but still want to date them.
Pittsburgh rare 1 year ago (edited)
They don't want to "date" them. They want a breathing sex doll because real women don't deflate
#8
Without being too snarky about it, it's probably hard to spot one irl. First, they tend to be heavily online, at the expense of being out and socializing (hence why they're often told to "touch grass"). Secondly, when they do have to interact with other people, they don't tend to be as obnoxiously racist, misogynistic, and generally horrible as they are in their echo spaces online. Incels aren't unique in this; most people with extreme views are usually at least partly tempered in their day-to-day in-person interactions, compared to their online personas.
#9
Weirdly negative of the women in their life. Act like women's lives are easier. Are mean or dismissive to women they're not attracted to, but uncomfortably nice to one's they are. Weirdly s****y towards "attractive" men. Has a complex about his height or some similar feature. Just generally treats women like alien creatures. Jokes about rape and gets offended when told to stop. Gets offended by boundaries in general. Believes false rape accusations are common. Talks excessively about "pretty privilege" while being weirdly silent about racism, sexism, ect. Fishes for physical insults.
I'm sure I'm missing some and many of these aren't diagnostic alone, but they're a really good starting place.
#10
Listen to how they talk about women, and ask them why they just don't date what they're not afraid of. The blinks and walkbalks following are the tell. "Well women are all golddiggers and only want me for my money!" "They why don't you date someone richer than you? Lots of lawyers around." *blinkblink" "Uh... uhhhh....." Next will come a cascade of their own insecurities. This will make them so uncomfortable they won't want to talk with you again. Job done.
Jill Rhodry 1 year ago
"Well women are all golddiggers and only want me for my money!" - said by the most broke arsed incels.
#11
"all my exes are insane"
What's the common thread here? Could it be you? Why are all the women you get close to driven to madness?
Dan Holden 1 year ago (edited)
To be fair, I've known people of both sexes who consistently end up with toxic people even though they're not toxic themselves. Not to be confused with the "why are there a******s everywhere I go?" people who don't realize that they're the a*****e.
#12
Anyone who talks about or refers to an “alpha vs beta male” ideology. might not be an incel, but it’s probable.
anyone who whines about what women like and how they do or do not fit the bill
anyone who decides they know how a woman should or shouldn’t behave in any sense.
Lil Miss Hobbit 1 year ago
When they say things like "Women like dad bods...they don't care about nice gym bros like me. It's so frustrating."
#13
Referring to women as females or toids or whatever weird name they have come up with.
Jenny Mason 1 year ago
Urban Dictionary defines it as: https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=toid
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Baali Venomax 1 year ago
As a woman, I use the term female and woman interchangably to describe myself but it's weird when these odd guys do it. It's almost like they don't know how to use language properly.
Danish Susanne 1 year ago
That may very well be the reason. They are hardly the most intelligent men you will encounter.
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Luke Branwen 1 year ago
I've never heard the word "toid" and I think I was happier when I didn't know it.
Cat_Whisperer 1 year ago
They call women ‘girls’ or ‘females’ but other men are ‘men’ or ‘bros’. In response, I suggest calling them ‘boys’ or ‘kids’…or an ‘omega’ if you really want to make them lose their sh!t. (They always buy into the ‘alpha male’ garbage despite the whole Alpha, Beta, etc thing being debunked decades ago)
Ouss Ben Aziza 1 year ago (edited)
Are they writing science books or something? Hilarious. And sad... We need to bring bacl some kind of monkhood for those guys.
Ross “Sarcastic Dad” 1 year ago
Ever called a guy a "male". No? Ok. That's why calling them females is weird.
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#14
Telling you about women rather than asking you about yourself as a woman.
#15
Refers to women as females and constantly plays the victim. Bonus if he keeps on talking what a gentleman he is and how women only want a******s.
#16
It’s what they say. Common phrases include: “My biggest fear is that tonight we have sex and tomorrow you accuse me of r**e” “There is no such thing as equality” “Women only want xyz and that’s why no one will f**k me” “I don’t date because I’m not a free meal” “Sorry not sorry. I’m a guy and I’m gonna talk about have sex with you.” In my experience.
#17
If they’re obsessed with Jordan Peterson and Joe Rogan, that’s a dealbreaker ladies.
#18
This guy referred to our society as a gynocracy. That counts, right?
#19
When you set any kind of boundary, no matter how small, how they react to that is very telling.
Also, the way they respond to a woman who is knowledgeable about any topic.
Becca not Becky 1 year ago
I feel like this one is more misogyny as a whole and general toxicity rather than specifically incels.
#20
They mansplain what women want / how women are + ignore anything a woman says that counters their statement.
They slam and blame women for however they choose to deal with / survive / thrive in a patriarchal world, from preferring a specific type of men, to monetizing their sexuality, exploiting pretty privilege, to wearing baggy clothes etc.
Meagan Glaser 1 year ago
mansplain what women want/how women are, then take two different women wanting two different things as proof of our hypocrisy, lies, and irrationality. Instead of proof that wer'e, ya know, separate people and not a hivemind consisting of every woman on earth
#21
I remember back in college there were boys who liked me just because I was a pretty girl. There were also boys who hated me just because I was a pretty. They assumed all sorts of bad things about me just because of my appearance. Those boys are the incels. Incels hate you because they are attracted to you. They think that attraction gives you some sort of control over them. They assume you will use that power for evil instead of good. Typically when someone projects that sort of thing onto you, it means that is what they would do in your shoes. They would do something bad to you if you were attracted to them.
#22
Something someone said to me which in hindsight should’ve had me running away (but I was beyond good decision making at that point): I crashed at a colleagues place late one night after drinks. He makes a move. We make out a little and then I say: “hold up, I’m not sure if this is a good idea”. He goes: “that’s ok, we don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.” … “as a woman you have the power” … “that’s the problem with monogamy, it’s given women too much power.” Scotch and hormones had me a little less reactive to such a remark than I normally would’ve been. I still kick myself for not speaking up in that moment although if I had, it would have probably been even more awkward at work than it already is now… TLDR: talking as if mutual consent is a power struggle that victimizes men, instead of it being of a non negotiable prerequisite for sex is an incel red flag.
#24
I listen to their stories. They tend to complain a lot about: - being single and blame society for it - their female friends don’t want to date them - their female friends are whores for prioritizing other male friendships - constant negative assumptions about women’s lifestyle based on how they look - trash talk about other men to make themselves more appealing You can also try setting a firm boundary or saying no to their request and see how they respond. Such as “I don’t feel comfortable talking about this topic. Let’s talk about something else.” If they respect you, they’ll move on without further comments or questions.
#26
He stormed out of class because another student criticized Elon Musk.
#27
MAGA hat is a dead giveaway.
Aiden Brough 1 year ago
This just proves their lack of intellegence, not what subculture they belong to..
#28
Asking me early on how many people I’ve slept with.
#29
Surprisingly easy. The stereotypes are true; poor hygiene, complaints about women, complaints about 'wokeness', socially terrible and I do not mean socially awkward I mean socially incompetent, insecure, manipulative, the list goes on! I HAD a "friend" who had a track record for asking out a bunch of girls only to be rejected. Every girl that said 'no' he held a grudge towards and would nitpick anything about them to fuel his sadness. He was hardly confrontational luckily but his quiet behavior is telling that something was up. When we officially hung out (a few years after graduating highschool) he was opening up how he never showered until college (he only took baths before then. Explained a lot). He was into gaming but would complain about certain games that involved lesbianism yet he fetishized the f**k out of other characters that are militarized or wore catsuits (I found this very ironic). Oftentimes we check out games and the like on his desktop. The area was deeegusstingg. Garbage can brimming with used tissues. Keyboard was gnarly. And he had a drawer full of cash from his pizza job that he loved to show off (who does that? That's inappropriate). Even showed off his firearm. A lot of his behavior is constantly complaining about women, showing off, and telling inappropriate stories; all of which was done too soon upon meeting each other after a long time. The top three things that put the nail in the coffin (I promise I didn't forgive the previous things, I knew for awhile this isn't going to last) 1: I caught him closing out a red pill reddit page. 2: he tried to coax me into kissing him despite I was engaged at the time. 3: I was always exhausted when I came back home. Blocked him everywhere, no regrets.
#30
Anyone who says "friendzone".
George Costanza 1 year ago
As a guy I've def put women in the friendzone. It's just a zone where we're friends and I don't want a romantic/intimate relationship with that person.
#31
- lack of social skills - woe-is-me mentality - lack of hygiene - misogynistic attitude - envy of others - insecure about height/appearance - unwilling to foster a friendly or positive attitude - expects something in return - porn addict - spends a lot of time online (spends a lot of time on phone, makes obscure internet references, gets into misogynistic internet subcultures like MGTOW) - unrealistic, unconventional, or misogynistic views on relationships - poor problem solving skills - needs validation from others.
#32
When they make sexist jokes about women. and on first meeting, they always cant control themselves and touch ladies without permission. also i would ask one question " If a female friend was SA by this guy friend, would you a) continue to be friends with this guy b) unfriend/ make sure the guy does not go near this female friend" I am not sure this question relates to them being incels but at least it tells us his opinion/stance. I would not want a partner who would choose guy friends over me, especially in these kind of situation. it is rather dissappointing that most guys would reply "no comment".
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
Look... I'm a fat, out of shape guy that has never fought in his life, but if I found out some of my male acquaitances SA'd a woman, there's a good chance I'd get violent.
#33
Just gotta pay attention to what they say and how they act. If they make broad generalizations and or act entitled to someone’s affections. If they say things like “women only want guys with money. I treat them well and they never want to date me” there’s a good chance that they are an incel.
Lil Miss Hobbit 1 year ago
I had a friend who said "Women only marry for looks, fame, or money" and I laughed at him and said "Um well I wouldn't." And he said "Well not you of course." And I said "I'm a woman," and left it at that.
#34
Their reaction when I say I’m Bi. There’s something about their immediate response that will tell me all I need to know so I try to bring it up pretty early in the conversation so that I can see the type of person they really are. Any version of ‘Bet you just haven’t met the right man yet’, ‘So your indecisive?’ or ‘So how do two women f**k?’ as a response tells me all I need to know about their true outlook on women and I move on.
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
They ask "how do two women f#ck?" as if they weren't intensely researching this subject since they turned 13
#35
For me it’s whenever they say “women like…” or start going on about height. Women like different things and we don’t all love the same things. Stop talking about what evolution says because we aren’t cavemen anymore. And the height thing, they need to let it go. Times change and saying that women love tall men is just a very large generalization. These two are just huge red flags for me.
#36
“I’m a nice guy but girls only want toxic f**k boys” mentality.
Using “female” to talk about women The way they treat their mom, act like she’s their personal servant Always mad about female lead movies (captain marvel and such) for no reason (their actually is one: women) Honestly some media/video game are a red flag, American psycho and such. And like yes, I’m aware, not every guy who plays league is a nasty incel, I’m a non binary angry “”blue haired”” feminist, I play league, my partner is feminist too, been playing a ton for 10 years. Honestly generally bring up how you’re feminist, or feminism generally and see how they react “feminist nowdays are extremist, their is nothing left to fight about, we already have equality, they just don’t want men to pull etc…” Andrew Tate, for obvious reasons, they’re more discreet about it now tho, so his mentality and lingo are generally a red flag Set a boundary, it doesn’t matter which one, if they do anything but agree, if they start arguing 🚩🚩 (and depending on the boundary 🚔🚨) When they make generalization about women, what they like and don’t like, what they want and don’t want. Their are a lot of other signs, generally keeping up with what’s going on in the incel world can be helpful, it’s a whole other time line, they regularly find a new thing to be mad about, a new famous women to harrass, a new « podcaster » they surrender their soul to etc… like a few weeks ago, saying « have you seen she hulk, that last episode was rly nice! » would’ve been a good question, because incel respond with disproportionate hate to those, screaming, crying, punching air, normal people that didn’t like stuff say « I didn’t rly like it, the cgi was off bla bla bla movie stuff… » Generally disproportionate responses to stuff that once in forever, where about women, and not men.
Poison Ivy/Boo 1 year ago (edited)
*ahem* Star Wars "fanboys" springs to mind. It's.A.Frigging.Movie! Enjoy it for what it is,..stop pïssïng in everyone's Cheerios because you don't like the way the franchise is going or the strong women in them. My god, grow up already!
#37
"Uhm, AKSHUALLY..."
Every guy I've met who uses that phrase turned out to be an incel. Every. Single. One.
#38
They are bitter and resentful towards other people, because in their mind the world is being unfair to them. They don’t know how to make themselves appealing to a woman, and they are lonesome, and for that everyone piles up abuse on them, so they grow bitter and resentful. It takes little to cure them, if you have good intentions.
Bored Retsuko 1 year ago
"It takes little to cure them, if you have good intentions." - What??
#39
They give me a major vibes of unattractiveness, which consists of different things individually for each of them.
#40
People think incels have to be from the corners of the internet type troglodytes but they’re not. Anyone who has extremist views about marginalized genders and sexualities is an incel. It doesn’t even have to be people who are “celibate”. It’s people who uphold patriarchy, sexism, homophobia, racism and who want the repression of everyone because they think the world owes them more than they actually deserve or have worked for.
Luke Branwen 1 year ago
Idk about that... AFAIK, "incel" is a specific term for a man who has an atrocious, misogynist personality, can't find a partner because of it and ultimately blames women for his failure.
What do you think ?
Michael MacKinnon 1 year ago
Personally I have an issue with the name: it looks more like it's entirely voluntary.
Timothy Walker 1 year ago
Any man who says in a comment below a FB video of a female comedian that all female comedians are not funny ... there's your incel. (And yes, I wrote "female" comedian and not "woman" comedian because grammatically speaking woman comedian is just wrong. Would you say "man" comedian?)
Lara Verne 1 year ago
When they complain that "all women are whores who will sleep with anyone" but "There whores does not want to date me"
Sierra Leon 1 year ago
91. thinks the clitoris and female orgasm are a myth 92, says women shouldnt masturbate 93; has no idea of the female anathomy, menstruation etc but has the audacity to mansplain it 94 says he wont read books, watch movies, appreciate art and wont accept work if it's done by women 95. doesnt rust women 96. tells women to smile 97. thinks women's opinions are whining 98. thinks women are beneath him and says phrases like; women's brains are smaller 99; uses gender roles as an excuse to be lazy and dirty 100; thinks women's rights will threaten his rights
Sierra Leon 1 year ago (edited)
75; is a hypocrite on gender issues 76; makes fun of men who are confident in their sexuality and gender expression 77; any men who calls women ugly or sluts 78; expects women to make sacrifices for men 79; insults women in the hopes of changing her min, eg insisting on a woman she'll regret her childfree status 80: talks about how important his genes are and wants to leave a legacy 81; likes misogynistic movies, sexist jokes, lyrics that are misogynistic, violent games 82; wants a 50s housewife 83; wont date a woman who is fat and hairy but then lack hygiene themselves 84; follows pick up artists 85: reads the 42 laws book 86; expects women to be their therapist 87; talks about male loneliness but says alpha males dont talk about feelings 88; complains about women dating him to get a free meal but is ok with men dating to have free sex 89; tells women it's a you problem but blames feminism for his issues 90, whines about issues his own gender created but blames women
Sierra Leon 1 year ago
58: calls women gold diggers while he is broke, doesnt want to provide but wants a traditional woman, doesnt want a woman to work and have an education but still calls her gold digger 59; anyone who thinks women whould prioritize men 60; they write on their dating profiles what they want from a woman but they dont list what they'll give in return 61; anyone that uses phrases like modern women 62 andrew tate, ben shapiro, podcast bros fans 63; considers themselves alpha 64; wants the women to solve their issues 65; says stuff like, women should be seen and not heard 66; says women shouldnt own property 67; makes fun of masculine women but says feminine women are stupid 68; makes fun of anything liked/popular by women 69; thinks not like the other girls is a compliment 70; is a terf 71; thinks all women have an OF and is a swerf 72; makes fun of women's worries 73; thinks sex is owned to men and women shouldnt enjoy it, but assumes all women fake orgasms 74; calls women delulu
Sierra Leon 1 year ago
41; anyone offended by this article 42: saying men are oppressed 43: talking about wanting a traditional woman who has to be pretty 44: says he wants a natural woman when he doesnt even know what that is 45; wants the traditional woman but doesnt want to provide, protect or be useful 46: calls himself a male feminist, only to be a male feminist when it is convenient to him 47; says he wont do the housework cos that's a woman's job and men shouldnt do it out of dignity 48; makes cat lady jokes 49; doesnt get the bear vs man argument 50; thinks anything women do is for men 51; starts the sentence with: men dont like women who... 52; refers to himself as a nice guy 53: doesnt take women issues seriously 54: talks about women like we are a different species 55: says he cant understand women and women are all the same 56: is against women's rights and is pro-life too 57: body shaming women but dont want anyone to make fun of his small penis and height
Marie BellaDonna 1 year ago (edited)
I used to think my step-brother was just a coddled, immature, socially awkward Mama's boy. But now, I'm pretty sure he's "akshuyally" (lol) an incel. He's 39, but lived in my sperm donor's basement until he was in his late 20s/early 30s, when he started long-haul trucking. He's about 300 pounds, nasty skin, neck beard, questionable overall hygiene. Used to stay in the basement 24/7, on his computer. Also loved to play Halo, but was a complete àsshole to any new player, killing them off and laughing about it as soon as he could. Said he refused to date any woman who was less than the equivalent of a Playboy model (as if they would want ANYTHING to do with him-and that's not body shaming, that's just reality; héll, I couldn't pull a Playgirl model myself, lol.) Pissed in Mountain Dew bottles because he was too lazy or too engrossed in his games (or, more probably, both) to get up and go to the bathroom upstairs. SD found out about that and about popped an aneurysm. They made him get a job, and like I said, he started trucking, and apparently loved it. But a few months ago, he blew that to héll by brake-checking a fúcking LOADED SCHOOL BUS, IN HIS SEMI. He caught 19 FELONY chargers, and destroyed his career (because of course he'll lose his CDL for that). He'll probably go back to living in SD's basement. Because wife just babies him. SD and his wife took step-brother to the police station to turn himself in for his warrant, waited there, bailed him out, and paid for his lawyer, lol. Meanwhile, they wouldn't even pay for a pizza for supper for my sister, when she was at the hospital with my severely disabled nephew. Don't know any of step-brother's other views, on women or otherwise, but I think he fits the bill. And no, I don't think my SD is an incel. I think he's just an àsshole who favors his "new" family. Oh well, no big loss. I hadn't spoken to step-brother in years. And I haven't spoken to my SD in a year or two, either. Their choice. But honestly, I'm fine with it.
somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 year ago
@arshit369 i can't reply directly to you because you've been rightfully downvoted but what the F**K are you talking about, most incels are liberals? that couldn't be further from the truth, goddamn.
Dream 1 year ago
Sorry but the female thing is funny to me. Never heard of this. Guy above got downvoted for calling it out. Multiple posts here use the word themselves in describing...wait for it....female things like female lead movies and female friends. So if the use of that word makes you one, then they are too? Makes no sense. And yes I hear people use both " I have no male friends" and my favorite shirt ever "The Future is Female". How is that shirt incel?
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago (edited)
I think the issue is using female as a noun, versus every example you described, as an adjective. (Similarly, "female firefighter" is problematic to some, not because of "female", but because why anything other than "firefighter".)
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Alex Sass 1 year ago
This form of social media really does suck. Groups of people applauding their kindness whilst every other thread bashes someone's accident, misfortune, overheard conservation, private lives... Gender. Bored Panda is the ultimate "I'm so good they are not" trash. I keep coming back hoping for something to evolve but it never does. Even the products for sale are the same each week and baited to anyone who wants to "believe in themselves" through dollars. I get it, it's fun. It's playground. But it's so so so repetitive now. Men are bad. Celebrity is bad. The successful are bad. My neighbour is bad. Their wedding is bad..... Get hobbies.
Michael MacKinnon 1 year ago
Personally I have an issue with the name: it looks more like it's entirely voluntary.
Timothy Walker 1 year ago
Any man who says in a comment below a FB video of a female comedian that all female comedians are not funny ... there's your incel. (And yes, I wrote "female" comedian and not "woman" comedian because grammatically speaking woman comedian is just wrong. Would you say "man" comedian?)
Lara Verne 1 year ago
When they complain that "all women are whores who will sleep with anyone" but "There whores does not want to date me"
Sierra Leon 1 year ago
91. thinks the clitoris and female orgasm are a myth 92, says women shouldnt masturbate 93; has no idea of the female anathomy, menstruation etc but has the audacity to mansplain it 94 says he wont read books, watch movies, appreciate art and wont accept work if it's done by women 95. doesnt rust women 96. tells women to smile 97. thinks women's opinions are whining 98. thinks women are beneath him and says phrases like; women's brains are smaller 99; uses gender roles as an excuse to be lazy and dirty 100; thinks women's rights will threaten his rights
Sierra Leon 1 year ago (edited)
75; is a hypocrite on gender issues 76; makes fun of men who are confident in their sexuality and gender expression 77; any men who calls women ugly or sluts 78; expects women to make sacrifices for men 79; insults women in the hopes of changing her min, eg insisting on a woman she'll regret her childfree status 80: talks about how important his genes are and wants to leave a legacy 81; likes misogynistic movies, sexist jokes, lyrics that are misogynistic, violent games 82; wants a 50s housewife 83; wont date a woman who is fat and hairy but then lack hygiene themselves 84; follows pick up artists 85: reads the 42 laws book 86; expects women to be their therapist 87; talks about male loneliness but says alpha males dont talk about feelings 88; complains about women dating him to get a free meal but is ok with men dating to have free sex 89; tells women it's a you problem but blames feminism for his issues 90, whines about issues his own gender created but blames women
Sierra Leon 1 year ago
58: calls women gold diggers while he is broke, doesnt want to provide but wants a traditional woman, doesnt want a woman to work and have an education but still calls her gold digger 59; anyone who thinks women whould prioritize men 60; they write on their dating profiles what they want from a woman but they dont list what they'll give in return 61; anyone that uses phrases like modern women 62 andrew tate, ben shapiro, podcast bros fans 63; considers themselves alpha 64; wants the women to solve their issues 65; says stuff like, women should be seen and not heard 66; says women shouldnt own property 67; makes fun of masculine women but says feminine women are stupid 68; makes fun of anything liked/popular by women 69; thinks not like the other girls is a compliment 70; is a terf 71; thinks all women have an OF and is a swerf 72; makes fun of women's worries 73; thinks sex is owned to men and women shouldnt enjoy it, but assumes all women fake orgasms 74; calls women delulu
Sierra Leon 1 year ago
41; anyone offended by this article 42: saying men are oppressed 43: talking about wanting a traditional woman who has to be pretty 44: says he wants a natural woman when he doesnt even know what that is 45; wants the traditional woman but doesnt want to provide, protect or be useful 46: calls himself a male feminist, only to be a male feminist when it is convenient to him 47; says he wont do the housework cos that's a woman's job and men shouldnt do it out of dignity 48; makes cat lady jokes 49; doesnt get the bear vs man argument 50; thinks anything women do is for men 51; starts the sentence with: men dont like women who... 52; refers to himself as a nice guy 53: doesnt take women issues seriously 54: talks about women like we are a different species 55: says he cant understand women and women are all the same 56: is against women's rights and is pro-life too 57: body shaming women but dont want anyone to make fun of his small penis and height
Marie BellaDonna 1 year ago (edited)
I used to think my step-brother was just a coddled, immature, socially awkward Mama's boy. But now, I'm pretty sure he's "akshuyally" (lol) an incel. He's 39, but lived in my sperm donor's basement until he was in his late 20s/early 30s, when he started long-haul trucking. He's about 300 pounds, nasty skin, neck beard, questionable overall hygiene. Used to stay in the basement 24/7, on his computer. Also loved to play Halo, but was a complete àsshole to any new player, killing them off and laughing about it as soon as he could. Said he refused to date any woman who was less than the equivalent of a Playboy model (as if they would want ANYTHING to do with him-and that's not body shaming, that's just reality; héll, I couldn't pull a Playgirl model myself, lol.) Pissed in Mountain Dew bottles because he was too lazy or too engrossed in his games (or, more probably, both) to get up and go to the bathroom upstairs. SD found out about that and about popped an aneurysm. They made him get a job, and like I said, he started trucking, and apparently loved it. But a few months ago, he blew that to héll by brake-checking a fúcking LOADED SCHOOL BUS, IN HIS SEMI. He caught 19 FELONY chargers, and destroyed his career (because of course he'll lose his CDL for that). He'll probably go back to living in SD's basement. Because wife just babies him. SD and his wife took step-brother to the police station to turn himself in for his warrant, waited there, bailed him out, and paid for his lawyer, lol. Meanwhile, they wouldn't even pay for a pizza for supper for my sister, when she was at the hospital with my severely disabled nephew. Don't know any of step-brother's other views, on women or otherwise, but I think he fits the bill. And no, I don't think my SD is an incel. I think he's just an àsshole who favors his "new" family. Oh well, no big loss. I hadn't spoken to step-brother in years. And I haven't spoken to my SD in a year or two, either. Their choice. But honestly, I'm fine with it.
somnomania (she/her, queer) 1 year ago
@arshit369 i can't reply directly to you because you've been rightfully downvoted but what the F**K are you talking about, most incels are liberals? that couldn't be further from the truth, goddamn.
Dream 1 year ago
Sorry but the female thing is funny to me. Never heard of this. Guy above got downvoted for calling it out. Multiple posts here use the word themselves in describing...wait for it....female things like female lead movies and female friends. So if the use of that word makes you one, then they are too? Makes no sense. And yes I hear people use both " I have no male friends" and my favorite shirt ever "The Future is Female". How is that shirt incel?
ElfVibratorGlitter 1 year ago (edited)
I think the issue is using female as a noun, versus every example you described, as an adjective. (Similarly, "female firefighter" is problematic to some, not because of "female", but because why anything other than "firefighter".)
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