35 Normal Things That Are Actually Pretty Horrific If You Think About It
Ready to feel a bit mad? The world throws away around 1.3 billion tons of perfectly edible food every single year. That's almost half a trillion worth of items destroyed, which, to add insult to injury, produces over 10% of global greenhouse gases.
Someone asked “What is something that is normalized in society when in reality it is horrific?” and people shared their best examples. So get comfortable as you scroll through, prepare to shake your head, upvote the worst ones and be sure to share your own examples in the comments below.
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Your pug cannot breathe properly. Your poodle has joint pain. You are promoting genetic mutations that cause unbearable suffering to animals because you think its cute.
You drag them around, keep them in tiny apartments and make yourself the center of their lives to the point that they have anxiety every time you leave for work, you do this to validate yourself and yet you are not treating them with the respect they deserve.
Find a healthy breed, give it a home with space, and companions, ideally outside of a cramped noisy city, raise it properly and respect it as sentient being, or don't have a dog.
In a perfect world, sure. In a perfect world I'd have a riding tiger.🐯
Load More Replies...But some people - not me! - have to live in cramped, noisy cities. There are plenty of little dogs, healthy dogs, that can happily live in cities with the people who properly care for them. Some people manage large dogs in city environments. You have some valid points, but I think you're a bit over the top.
I have a rescue teacup Persian with a cleft palate (unfixable we tried). Stop breeding these smush faces!
Also, please don't buy the "balloon" varieties of aquarium fish. Their organs are confined in a smaller space than is healthy for them to function properly, reducing their lifespans. And while I'm on the subject, the betta fish with the overly long fins and tail have difficulty swimming. Don't buy them either.
Well said. Too many people have pets as accessories to be seen and to fit into their life, not individuals to live alongside.
Yep, purebred actually means inbred. My dog is a rescue beagle-ish mutt and she's a doofus but we love her.
You can have a dog in a small place. What you need is time for your dog to get enough exercise outside your place. If they do, they'll just sleep at home.
Well…… as long as you get your pug or poodle out of a shelter, please do and give them a good home! The pugs that sre already here deserve a good home too! Just don‘t pay breeders to breed more of them.
Sneering at single mothers instead of the deadbeat dads.
I'm childfree myself, but this infuriates me.
Especially when the same people would sneer at them for staying with the deadbeat dad's as well. They can't win.
And constantly putting them down for needing to be on welfare, cause the deadbeat dad took off and left them financially unable to take care of themselves, or accusing them of popping out babies and being of low morals to get on welfare. No little girl grows up dreaming of having lots of babies and struggling to make ends meet on welfare.
Load More Replies..."Well she should have better taste in men!" Yeah, f**k off. For all you know the father DIED.
My widowed mother used to get sh*t like that all the time.
Load More Replies...Don't the people who sneer at single mothers also want to ban abortions?
Yes. They are not intelligent enough to recognize the glaring disconnect between the two ideas.
Load More Replies...I've never, EVER met anyone that had anything but contempt for deadbeat dads.
I think the point is that it’s easy to identify a single mother but any man on the street could be a deadbeat dad and you’d never know. So people see a single mom and think bad things about her without thinking about the man they’re not seeing.
Load More Replies...Yeah. Being a good parent is something people like to shame, because it implies to care about someone else besides themselves and their careers and productivity
I hate this I am a single mother now after my husband left us 13 yrs ago I’m also 60 n disabled now drink drivers truly suck ! kids are 23-20 we haven’t seen him since he left uk is remarried me I choose to stay single bliss lol even being housebound anyone looks down there nose at me they better be prepared to get it broken ! can’t stand people like that
Worshipping billionaires as some kind of genius self-made men when they are mostly the reflection of what's worst about modern society.
And they almost always aren't "self-made". For example Jeff Bezos' start capital came from his parents, not his own savings, if he didn't have parents who could afford helping him financially he probably wouldn't be where he is (not to mention not paying taxes and exploiting workers, that's really how the uber rich get rich).
It is absolutely impossible to be a self made billionaire. There aren’t enough hours, minutes, seconds in the day, and years in a lifetime for a person to work in order to make a billion dollars without having to work thousands, in not millions of people into the ground and so completely unproportionately distribute the revenue and profits made by whatever company the “billionaire” started.
Load More Replies...billionaires get their money through family help, inheritance or exploitation, never their own work, for example a certain Musk got where he is because his daddy owned emerald mines in RSA in apartheid times and gave the sonny-boi some.. mommy also contributed some.. (the man also turned out to be a white supremacist for supporting the German neo-Nazi party, but that's a different story)
And even some members of the right wing party in Germany think Musk is overdoing things a bit...
Load More Replies...Musky never invented anything, and his companies all farm government subsidies more than they sell products. Most of his fortune comes from taxpayer dollars because people don't want to buy most of what he's selling
They are just hoarders. No more admirable than the people who keep piles of old newspapers. The money they squirrel away would be better used spread out and improving things. Sure some have a pet project that is of benefit but really, look at the bigger picture.
I think Elon Musk revealed the emperor is wearing no clothes
Scaramucci, Trump's ex-spokesman in an interview with an Italian newspaper (Corriere della Sera) Why did the tech oligarchs side with Trump? Are they afraid of him? "They're billionaires so they don't have principles, right? You don't become a billionaire if you're not ready to make deals. They've decided they're afraid of him, so they're making deals."
Destruction of unsold or unused goods. I've watched some documentaries about it and talked to people who worked at such jobs.
A warehouse full of unsold TVs, computers and other such items - scheduled for destruction. An excavator comes and squishes it, throws everything into trucks and off to the landfill. Friend asked if he could take a TV but the other guy just pointed at guards and told him not to even try.
Unsold shoes, all perfectly fine and wearable. Saw a documentary of trucks full of branded shoes leaving them at landfills. I believe they cut them open in beforehand so no one could take any for themselves.
Food thrown away after the day.
I've read articles of bakeries giving stuff they'd usually throw, for free to homeless. They get hefty fines for that.
I know brands will do it to keep the price up. But how is it for the enviroment? I bet it's way more ridiculous than my plastic straw.
Louis Vuitton destroys merchandise that doesn't sell at the end of the year/season.
As long as the priority for every business ever is to make more money next quarter, this will never end. In fact, I expect it'll get worse long before it gets better. Unregulated capitalism sucks total ballz and I hate it.
Thank Republicans for deregulation. They only want to regulate women's bodies.
Load More Replies...Yes!!! I can't believe the amount of stuff just thrown away. Dumpster diving carries a fine here in my state. I don't get why these companies can't just write them off. Like ulta or sephoria with make up, why can't they give it to charity like dress for success or something idk 😐 just sad
We exist in a litigious society and no one wants to spend five years fighting a lawsuit.
Load More Replies...Had a friend that had a side gig with something like this. Would go to places like Costco to remove recalled items.i had a truck so they asked me to help with a huge bulk load. All perfectly good dry packaged food but it wasn’t labeled properly. Milk maybe? It was cookies. Instead of trashing them every one we knew had boxes of cookies for a year. They apparently don’t ask questions on where you are disposing the product.
I left a job at a department store because of this. The amount of perfectly good, brand new stuff that ended up in the baler was heartbreaking. I questioned one of the managers about this and asked why, instead of destroying it, couldn't it be donated to charity or something, and he just shrugged his shoulders. He didn't care less. If there's one thing I truly hate is our wasteful throwaway world.
Clinton passed a law that all food manufacturers and restaurants etc, can give their leftovers to food banks and the homeless. But they throw it away instead. They're afraid of lawsuits apparently. But that's what the law protects them from! Grocery stores won't even let employees take food destined for the garbage home with them.
Years ago, I worked for a distribution depot that supplied the UK's largest DIY store. There was a time limit for loading and offloading lorries. Pallets were dropped at speed sliding across the floor into a long numbered bays smashing into the pallets already there. When reloading if the lorries had more pallets that spaces, there was no time to rearrange them tidy, doubling up meant crushing anything under it. Back of the yard was a car sized grinder, all the furniture returns went in there, nothing was ever salvaged.
This is why Dumpster Diving has become HUGE. There is multiple Subreddits dedicated to DD and the hauls people get are insane.
Denial of medical care because of inability to pay
The US is the only civilized country where you can go bankrupt paying for healthcare.
Load More Replies...Unfortunately, it's becoming more and more common here in Australia and we do have universal healthcare. Especially when it comes to mental health care.
Load More Replies...If the US would embrace proactive medical care instead of reactive medical care, the amount of money that would be saved would be astronomical. Even though every Dr. will tell you that every woman needs an “annual” with her OB/GYN every year, a PAP smear, a female wellness exam, a mammogram after the age of 40(?), etc. Medicare says nope. They only cover the “female wellness exam” every year (which is a few questions & a breast exam at most). A PAP smear is covered every 2 yrs, unless the previous smear came out abnormal. Mammograms are also every other year, unless there was an abnormality or the Dr finds something during the exam. You may request to have any of these procedures done, but you will pay for them out of pocket. So while every Dr in the world has stated exactly what testing women need, Medicare would rather play Russian Roulette with our health, save a little bit of money up front, even if that means having to pay a fortune for cancer treatment later on. And the US does this with EVERYTHING. Why try to prevent climate change when we’ll just pay a fortune for every natural disaster that results from it? Fires, hurricanes, tornadoes, floods. Why prepare for the next pandemic when we’ll just have our surprised Pikachu faces all ready and waiting?? The federal government does nothing to prepare, but we’re all supposed to have stocked emergency kits in our houses that have everything we need for the apocalypse, including at least 3 months of all our prescription meds- you know, the ones we can’t fill more than 2 days in advance. 😳🙄🤨
Because it’s not about saving money; it’s about the insurance companies getting more money. I can’t wait for Luigi’s trial to start in order for people not to forget.
Load More Replies...UK healthcare, in my experience, is awesome. Yes, the Tories have tried to make it as ineffective as possible, so people will switch to private. But the Principle of the NHS and dedication of the staff is as good as healthcare gets. Let's hope the current government is less inept than they currently seem.
Load More Replies...They can't deny you medical treatment. They can bill you for the treatment.
And we don't have debtor's prison. Just don't pay the bill. And don't pay $5/month because the statute of limitations gets restarted after each payment.
Load More Replies...Only in the U.S. which has health lack-of-care about as readily available as it would be in the wilderness. No care for their citizenry at all. They'd rather just let people die.
Liberal hero Obama forced everyone to buy health insurance. The Democrats said everyone would have great care. Apparently they lied...yet again.
Load More Replies...If you're sick or injured, federal law says that they Have to give you medical help, especially if it's an emergency. Now, the bill will be so big that you'll never pay it off, but you'll be alive. So if you're injured or horribly ill, please go to the ER.
And leave yourself and your family completely destitute? What a horrible position to put a sick person into. Your government truly sucks.
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The fact that we possess the medical technology for people to die painlessly (and at the time and manner of their choice) and yet there's some sort of taboo to try to legalize it. I understand why but it is what it is.
We all agree that it is the compassionate thing to do to euthanize our pets when they are suffering and there is no way to make them better. But when it comes to humans, most refuse to acknowledge the same thing, I think for two reasons. First, religion. I think it’s a power trip by the higher ups in all the major (mainly Christian/Catholic) religions. But mainly I think it’s the health insurance companies & hospitals that have lobbied Congress to not approve legislation for euthanasia in most states because of the amount of money they would lose if people were given the choice of euthanasia instead of being kept alive by machines and endless rounds of brutal “experimental”treatments. I’m not saying people should just give up when given a terminal diagnosis, but too many people are guilt-tripped into believing the quantity of days you have left is more important than the quality of days you have.
The problem is, like everything else in life, someone will exploit it. And if you think it couldn't happen because it's a persons choice, you obviously don't believe gaslighting and being forcibly sectioned for mental illness are possible either.
Load More Replies...Amen! I always say that we are more humane to our animals than our humans. My late dad was terrified of dying in a hospital hooked up to tubes. He died in his bed, a massive heart attack, between one breathe and next he was gone. Mom died in her sleep. No pain, no needless suffering, no prolonged trials. Quality of life. Give me quality over quantity any day.
Both of my parents died by assisted suicide so they wouldn’t linger for months with cancer. It was very difficult, but I would never have taken away their choice to die on their own terms. (We’re Canadian). It was a blessing.
Only a week ago, I went to my mom's place to help out and run some errands. Instead, I found her barely breathing and unresponsive, looking around the room confused and disoriented as she went in and out of consciousness while saying "I think it's time for me to go..." She has always been adamant about no resuscitation if she's in a position like that, to the point of wearing a 'DNR' medical bracelet. For well over a year, she's been existing, but certainly not living, as 60 years of smoking have led to severe COPD and asthma that limits everything she does. While sitting with her holding her hand, I asked if she wanted me to call 911--not to save her life, but so she could die more comfortably if she wasn't going to pass right there next to me. Even now, she's been given few options for any relief. It's cruel to force people to continue existing when their bodies are barely hanging on. Assisted euthanasia or taking one's own life is far better than endless suffering.
It's not legal in the UK but I've always said that the day I can no longer take care of myself is the day I want to end it. I don't want to be a burden to my daughters or the NHS and I don't want to be kept alive for the sake of being kept alive.
I'm so very very glad to be living in a country which has legalised euthanasia, both for physical and mental reasons. It's still really difficult to get organised but at least it gives people the right to die in stead of being forced to live.
When I first started working after getting my RN degree a man was brought in coughing up blood, Possibly from TB. After testing it was found to be throat cancer. This was a Catholic hospital and we had Nuns all over the place. He told me several times that he didn't want any of them visiting him. He went downhill rapidly and got to the point of not being able to speak. He died within 2 weeks of admission, this was long enough ago that they let people stay in the hospital longer. His family brought in the Nuns when he could not speak or even wave people off. I was still really naive and thought people should have their wishes known I tried speaking up but was shot down quickly. All I could do was give him pain medication and hope he was past noticing. I got royally ripped because I cried when he died.
That everyone and anyone should procreate. It affects another person's life who can't consent to it. If you can't give a child a good life you shouldn't have children, as they have rights too.
My (very unpopular) opinion is that people who want children need to adopt. There are so many parentless children in need of loving families. And they are suffering. If you are truly motivated by love, and not by the desire to photocopy your DNA, there is someone out there right now in need of that love.
It's not feasible for most. Many people who want to adopt are rejected for myriad reasons (among them being single, too old, or in a same sex relationship). Then there are the costs. And there simply aren't enough kids to be adopted, because most of them are in the foster care system where they still legally have parents that might reclaim them at any given point
Load More Replies...Most people have kids for selfish reasons, to have a mini me, keep up the bloodline, have help when they're old, pass on their ideals and have a little immortality. If you're not okay with your kids being different from you, gender disappointed, gay, religion ect don't have any
So happy you said this 'cuz I was going to, thank you.
Load More Replies...Remember that the circumstances of our lives change. People who are healthy and prosperous when they have children can suddenly find themselves unemployed and homeless. No one plans on that happening to them.
Load More Replies...And yet, the second you try to regulate it, you start sliding into eugenics and it WILL be abused to prevent the "people you don't like" from breeding. Humans simply can't be trusted with regulating things like this.
I agree that people shouldn't have children if they can't, or won't, take good care of him or her, but think about the implications of enforcing this. Does anyone think that system wouldn't be abused? Look how well China's "one child" policy has worked.
I don't think the post necessarily suggests regulating it... Just that we have the discussion and people start reflecting on what they are doing, so they might change their behavior. It is the socially accepted idea that we might need to reconsider, instead of everyone just going by what seems to be the default option by now.
Load More Replies...My very unpopular view is that you have to pass a test before being allowed to reproduce.
I''d like to see that policed. 😅Chastity devices for all of child-bearing ages.
Load More Replies...You can try to implement this, but do not complain if you find yourself murdered by the fascist regime, that will eventually topple whatever government you were part of. Procreation is an inherent part of life and humans have an instinct and drive to do so. You can try to enforce childlessness, but you will eventually fail.
People should have to pass an iq test, have met a financial threshold, and take parenting classes before they are allowed to reproduce. Kids are being pumped out starving and uneducated by idiots who don't know how to prevent it because they lack education. S*x is going to happen but kids shouldn't be forced to bear the weight of their parents' mistakes.
Watching or recording as people are being hurt or dying. Instead of someone acting to help you see everyone pulling out their cell phone or walking away. Obviously there are times where helping might [be dangerous] so I understand someone not jumping in at those points. Last year there was a IG post showing this exact scenario.
There was security footage of a man whose wife died in a car accident. While he was on his knees crying and holding her hand people were walking up behind him and taking pics and video. This man is having the worst day of his life and people are taking video to post online. Somewhere society stopped caring about others and it is horrific.
A few years ago I was at a high profile parade on a very hot day. A member of one of the marching bands was clearly struggling, vomited, and nearly collapsed. Several people helped him to a shaded area, gave him a folding chair, and numerous people walked over and started fanning him and giving him water bottles. One person went to get nearby medical personnel. I felt a little restoration in my faith in humanity since everyone’s first instinct was to help this individual, and even though there was a large crowd I didn’t see anyone filming what was No Doubt a very scary and somewhat embarrassing moment for this individual.
There was a guy charged in Australia a few years ago for filming police officers dying by the side of the road after a truck hit them. Horrible! He only got 10 months jail too.
This. I actually shouted at people for this when there was a bus accident right by us. When you remind them this is someone's special person in any way, it makes them uncomfortable - good. Would you want them filming your mother dying for social media? I also cannot stand the fact that new sites need to show you people's death moment. that plane crash last week - I did not need to see the moment the plane exploded, taking 170 people. and that was BBC who have really sunk to depravity.
Did the others indicate they wanted you to do that? If not. Good job not respecting them.
Load More Replies...People who film instead of helping should be charged with depraved indifference. Even if it's just to dial 911 at least you're helping.
Calling 911 to help George Floyd was a great idea.
Load More Replies...It is in Germany. You will be charged with "Unterlassene Hilfeleistung" = neglected support I you don't at least try to help. Of course without getting yourself into unduly danger. Then there's the law against "Behindernung von hilfeleistenden Personen" = Hindrance of assisting persons that will get you sentenced for being a hindrance for paramedics, firefighter etc. like when you don't get out of the way, gawk or film
Load More Replies...People have always had their grisly side though - going to public executions and the like. Not always for the most serious of crimes either, not in the past. Crimes eligible for the death penalty included shoplifting and stealing sheep, cattle, and horses, and before abolition of the death penalty for theft in 1832, "English law was notorious for prescribing the death penalty for a vast range of offences as slight as the theft of goods valued at twelve pence." So did society stop caring? Or has society always had some kind of gain from watching human suffering? Edited to add - I've been on the receiving end of people watching my drama unfold in public when in a nasty car accident. I've never wanted to do the same back.
In the middle of the pandemic the was a car crash and i grabbed my phone to call 911 and check on the people, so did my neighbors, the drivers just tried to get around us. We didn’t have masks on, went back in for some after EMS and police arrived but we were all in PJs and hoping no one was filming. This was early am, essential workers only out and an elderly person had a medical emergency. I still try to keep a coat and pants nearby the door.
I would never do that if I didn't know what the person wanted. Are you aware if someone's w/ it enough they have the right to not go? I don't think you are.
Load More Replies...I understand filming a rescue operation in which you are not able to help. That is the one scenario I can think of tho. The footage can be used by authorities etc to understand the situation and learn from it. But those sick demented f***s who film the dead... Yeh a punishment needs to be delivered... Then again Logan Paul is somehow now selling food to kids after filming a hanged man and streaming it so....
Has been long before cell phones. Lookyloos at accidents almost causing another accident. Or just watching and doing nothing.
I used to work for a blood bank; we went to all kinds of places for blood drives, including high schools. For most kids, this is their first time donating blood, so they’re understandably nervous. Sometimes, such kids would pass out and/or get sick during after their donation. And when this happened, some other kids would invariably take pictures of these kids at a vulnerable moment. It always made me so angry! Not everything needs to a spectator sport for people to gawk at and/or memorialize!
Not horrific, but I hate that drinking alcohol is so normalized that people think something bad happened or something is wrong with you if you don’t drink.
I almost always get asked if I'm a recovering alcoholic when I tell people I don't drink
Lately, the way it's portrayed in shows has been really bugging me. Unless it's a drama and there's a specific theme about addiction, people drink to excess in shows and movies and it's portrayed as funny/cute. Maybe they have a hangover the next day but that's about it. Hardly any negative consequences are ever shown. How come no one ever has anxiety the next day, or if they do something inappropriate or even dangerous, it's considered funny and not a sign for concern?
YES! Every time the characters go to a bar, they do shot after shot after shot.... Forget about a hangover, you'll have alcohol poisoning. I worked in bars for more than 30 years, if I ever saw one of my bartenders serving people like that, they'd be fired on the spot. It's so unnecessary to model such extreme and dangerous consumption.
Load More Replies...I'm slowly moving away from being a night time alcoholic (I don't drink during the day). Very close to being Friday and Saturday night only now. The same people who told me I drink too much are now questioning my dry days. Yes, it's till unhealthy, spare me the lecture, but you can't say I drink too much and then comment when I don't drink enough to make you happy when we're out. Oh yeah, that's because you used to blame me for the shots when you instigated them knowing fully well I would have one. It's been insightful.
If you have successfully reduced your drinking that much simply by choosing to drink less, you probably aren't an alcoholic. It's not defined by how much you drink, but by whether or not you can control it. Do you have to choose not to drink on your "dry" days?
Load More Replies...Important to realize that 85% of alcohol sales in US are to10% of adult population and vast majority of adults don’t drink/drink very occasionally.
According to recent studies, 62% of US adults drink alcohol, and 19% of those say they drink too much at least sometimes. https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/01/03/10-facts-about-americans-and-alcohol-as-dry-january-begins/#:~:text=Overall%2C%2062%25%20of%20U.S.%20adults,a%20July%202023%20Gallup%20survey.
Load More Replies...This. Actually, getting drunk is normalized, and not getting drunk is frowned upon.
Or some view you as a closet alcoholic because *everyone* drinks. I have had one or two people get furious because I refused to drink.
I think that's because they might have to look at their own drinking...
Load More Replies...Alcohol and alcohol consumption predate modern civilization, with evidence suggesting it played a significant role in the social, cultural, and practical aspects of early human life. And it does play an important role in my social life too. Having some drinks with friends - or getting wasted every day is clearly not the same thing. Choosing whether or not to drink is a personal decision, and if you prefer not to drink, that’s completely fine—it’s your choice. However, I would urge caution in pushing anti-alcohol rhetoric. We’ve seen an abundance of “anti-this, anti-that” campaigns over the past 15 years, and it’s clear that some people are growing increasingly tired of this constant stream of negativity and label it as propaganda. Let’s focus on promoting informed choices rather than fueling division.
Ahahah funny how I grew up in the entirely opposite situation XD The same ppl who fearmonger alcohol as if a sip would send you to hell can't stop jittering because of their addiction to coffee and smoking... The problem is abusing whatever [insert substance here]... As for me i only drink when out with friends which is happening more and more rarely due to growing older and more responsibilites i guess... Said abuse is almost ALWAYS born from another problem in the person's life which is made worse by addiction to [insert substance here]
Male victims of domestic violence. A lot of people just think it’s funny.
Domestic Violence is a scourge on society. If you're a violent f****r, prone to jealousy, insecure and so entitled you can't cope with not getting you're own way, do everyone a favour and stay single and DON'T breed! Men or women. Penalties for domestic abusers need to be a helluva lot tougher and there needs to be a register like there is for sex offenders so people know who they are getting involved with.
If they had serious penalties and a register, police departments would have a recruiting crisis.
Load More Replies...I see it so many times in tv shows where a man is being fawned over by some women, and sometimes chased, stalked, touched, and the show plays it off as ‘comedy’. If that same scene was played with reversed genders, chances are the story would be following the metal toll that is placed on the victim.
and victims of r*ape. Men have no control over that part of their body, it doesn't even need manual stimulation to rise - be it by choice or not. They can and are r*aped more often than is reported. Reports are low due to people's erroneous belief that a man will only get it up if they are aroused and WANT to have s*x, thus they are rarely believed and find it pointless to report it.
Agree. I've seen many cartoons with a very angry wife in a dressing gown holding a baseball bat in front of her nervous husband and it's 'uh-oh, what did he do? hahaha.' Now reverse the roles and see how funny it is.
I work in the mental health field. It's never funny, in my view.
Load More Replies...The problem here is that nobody believes, I've been taken handcuffed to the police twice. Only to tell them that I want her to live my house. I tell them that I broke up with her and she just keeps turning up, in different states of intoxication, at my house, my job when I was out with friends. All they said including the police shrinks is that "you have to talk with her"
I now realize I was lucky not to get arrested when I called the police. They just told me to "call back when she grows a penis." Most cops are male, but why are all the dispatchers female?
Load More Replies...As a woman, I cannot stand when other women antagonize a man knowing they can’t physically react. I don’t think anyone should get physically with anyone but it just really gets under my skin.
Media has normalized men being hit by women to the point where women almost feel like it's not a problem if they slap their partner in anger. It's still abuse and you should never resort to any sort of violence when having conflict, especially with someone you claim to love.
In the area where I live, we have an above average rate of intimate partner violence. This violence is committed by both genders - although men seem to represent over 90% of offenders. It seems to be closely tied to socio-economic conditions and education. This is someone no-one wants to talk about. Instead of helping these people get into a better situation in life, all the programs are aimed at dealing with the damage done afterwards. Young people need to learn that abuse is not love, when someone yells at you and threatens you, they are not being good to you. They need better options than jumping into the first bad relationship they can find. The murders, assaults, broken homes and twisted children this producing is horrendous. Just help break the cycle that causes this.
Referring to humans as illegals and then treating them as if they aren't humans and as if you yourself haven't benefited from immigration even your existence is partly somewhere down your bloodline the result of immigration. The us and them mentality disgusts me.
The same people who b***h about the US being overrun by immigrants who don’t speak English are the same people who will 1) brag about what countries their grandparents came from to the US not speaking English and only having $50 in their pocket; 2) complain about immigrants taking all the good jobs from hardworking Americans but at the same time claiming they don’t work & are milking the system; 3) Are so proud to take those Ancestry tests to prove that they themselves have as much claim to the US as anyone else, with the exception of the Indigenous Peoples of North America.
And 4), have no problem that the housekeeping staff in your hotel are more than likely immigrants. Or the groundskeepers, or the facilities that process that nice juicy steak you are eating. Huh...wonder what'll happen when they get shipped back?
Load More Replies...If the border problem was our northern one and blonde blue-eyed English speaking Canadians were pouring illegally across the border, I doubt that the current immigration ranters would be heard from much.
Yep, this is 100% what it's about. The confederates are still among us people.
Load More Replies...Mostly the problem is exaggerated by the Right wing media and Republican politicians. Their purpose is to sow fear, and to mis-direct any attention from the fact that 99% of the country's problems are caused by excessively greedy rich people and greedy corporations. Income inequality is the major cause of world problems.
I disagree with this. I am an immigrant in the EU myself. I grew up watching smugglers scam boys my age with this promise of sailing to the EU... My own little brother is now being kept at check from taking that path... You know what happens to those ppl? a) they drown. b) they are sold as human slaves. c) they get rolled into the organized crime of said smugglers. d) they make it and have a better life. D is the tiny small chance that is basically the gamblers fallacy...EVEN then... Anyone who breaks the law as the first action they do has no sympathy for me. It is not about us and them it is about being civilized. Seeing most ppl who comment about this just makes me think... It is pure naivetée... Illegal immigration is a blight! If peopel are escaping some place the solution is not to let everyone in because what they are escaping FROM are in 99.9% of the cases OTHER HUMANS! So that is why we put up rules in place to make sure we can help the good people and unmake the bad ones... We have walls around our very homes for a reason. People need to ASK PERMISSION and then walk in when it is given... Else we might as well be back to barbarians roaming around... Ohh yeh that what happend to rome!
Thank you for your honesty and sharing your own personal experience regarding this very sensitive subject.
Load More Replies...It's being used as a noun to label people. Yes, they violated a law (an administrative law, not a criminal law) to come here, but we never see that label used on people who violate any other laws. If someone is convicted of, let's say, shoplifting or running a red light, we don't refer to them as "illegal." The term is used to create fear and make immigrants seem dangerous.
Load More Replies...Every system has its carrying capacity. It makes sense for a community to restrict the amount of immigrants it takes in, rather than saying we'll take any number, no matter what. New York City is experiencing these problems right now.
You need to learn where the $ comes from to pay SSI & SSDI benefits. Today's benefits are paid by current workers. In the US the birth rate is declining. Without significant immigration there will not be enough $ to pay future disabled/retirees.
Load More Replies...A bit of an aside - the man who drove a truck into those people in New Orleans was radicalized by the Islamic state. He was a decorated war veteran and a citizen of the United States who was born in Texas. I wonder what Trump would make of that.
Hed have to see his birth certificate. And then scream that it's a fake.
Load More Replies...Built especially by the involuntary immigrants - the slaves.
Load More Replies...Try getting into another country illegally. You would end up in jail and being deported.
People not caring about the poor. Thinking they got where they are because they're lazy, or d**g addicts. In reality, if we made some poor choices we could be in the exact same position.
You don't even have to make a poor choice. This is my biggest fear, I will have an accident or some sickness and lose my job and then my house.
Reagan even said that most people are only one payday away from poverty.
Load More Replies...It’s not about poor choices—it’s often circumstances. I was destitute because of my circumstances; I was not a d**g addict, gambler, I didn’t over sorbs…I had three traumas in a row which left me without a penny. Don’t judge.
I lost my job, and if it wasn't for the fact that my parents are able to support me until I find a new one, I could well be homeless now too. Now when I see a homeless person I think "there but for the grace of Mum and Dad go I".
Many homeless are on the streets because of mental health issues. Our country's politicians have zero compassion and will not create decent healthcare for all.
People don't understand that sometimes the bad things that happen find you no matter what you do or how smart you think you are. And those that think they're so far above everyone else usually fall the longest and hit the ground the hardest when they get thrown off their perch.
You can be exactly one bad moment from this and probably wasn't your choice.
A current news story here is about a former member of the Ontario government who is now in a homeless shelter. The members of this government get no pension when they leave but do get about $7000 to tide them over. This man suffered a seizure shortly after leaving and was in a coma for a month. He then stayed with his brother but tensions arose about money. Former colleagues got his permission to start a Go Fund Me to get him started in an apartment with some decent furniture. His doctor gave him a clean bill of health and he'll be setting up a law office and returning to work. It can happen to anybody.
Some of them ARE lazy and/or d**g addicts. I used to know a couple who had a baby just because it meant they'd never get kicked off welfare. The mistake some people make is thinking that because someone is homeless due to their own actions, they don't deserve help or a second chance. They still deserve help and support.
Women getting iud’s without legit pain meds. F****n barbaric.
And uterine biopsies. Absolute agony and definitely not just a "pinch".
I had migraines and horrible endometriosis. Got a uterine bx and it was excruciating. I can handle pain!! I lost it on my gyn and she fired me as a patient. Thank god I found a gyn that cared and understood female repro issues (a male doc, no less!!).
Load More Replies...I got an IUD without pain meds. I was told only that I'd feel "a little pinch" so it didn't occur to me to ask about pain meds. (This was before the internet was everywhere so it was normal not to research things.) Well, I felt that "little pinch" the way someone being eaten alive by a bear feels a "little nip". I spent two days throwing up from the pain. Just brutal.
I'm bad enough after a smear, so when the doctor suggested an IUD, I was a DEFINITELY NOT!
Load More Replies...Yes!!! I will NEVER get another one of those things. One of the worst pains I have ever felt. I was literally screaming and he kept saying "it's not that bad, I've almost got it", he did get it placed but damn that hurt. Went back 5 years later to get it removed and it's just gone. They never found it, the ultrasound tech kept asking me "are you sure you haven't gotten it removed already"??? Yes idiot I know I havent and I think I would've noticed if it fell out. Have no idea what happened to it and this was 10 years ago.
I always wanted to tell my Gynecologist, when having my IUD replaced, that I would have my hand right at his testicles. He would feel any "twinges" I did.
Pinch, my a*s. I got off the table and fainted from the pain. That's not normal for me. Found out there was no justified reason for the 3 that had been done. That doctor is a sadist.
The fact that some people have a higher pain threshold than others doesn't mean that the rest need to just "handle it."
I had my prostate biopsied. It felt like someone shoved a staple gun up my *ss and fired it about 20 times. No sedation or pain meds were offered. I also had a colonoscopy without meds. Qitcherbichin. Or next time ask for what you need before undergoing the procedure. I know . . . groundbreaking
This. Mine was done by a Catholic doctor who tried to talk me out of it, then during the procedure was very rough and kept sighing, loudly. He made me feel terrible. Then it had to be removed because of infection and later on had a hysterectomy. .
In the USA, tying health care to your work / ability to produce at a high level.
Health insurance is not even offered at lower-paying jobs.
Mixing health insurance and employment just seems like a bad idea to me. I had a hotel manager in the US who had to work with terminal cancer until her final 2 weeks because her treatment/insurance was tied to her employment. Similarly, a good friend is continuing to work past retirement due to the superior benefits his insurance provides for him and his wife. He is ready to retire but is worried a medical issue could bankrupt them. Crazy.
Now you see why it’s tied to employment - indentured servitude
Load More Replies...This is completly insane to me... How are the US people not revolting... I said this before and i will say this again. In my poor third world country and the one i immigrated to in the EU... health care is a human right... Why was Bernie called a radical for it? Why was he backstabbed by the so-called progressives with their go to "racist" and "misogynist" smear campaigns in 2016??? I will tell you how... Everyone must be involved in that scam. Every single powerful party and politician all have a hand in this violation of human rights...
This is done to have another way to control the employee. Land of the free my a**.
So many US jobs keep employees under 28 hours per week to make sure they won't qualify for benefits. I understand that the benefits are expensive, but I know so many people who are good employees who need more hours, and the job requires more hours, but the company doesn't want to pay
It's a great irony that if companies paid the same amount into a medicare-like universal system not only would their employees have coverage as the do now, but the amount paid would provide for everyone to have coverage at a level far above any of the insurance plans out there. Insurance literally is the reason medical care in the US is so expensive - and we pay so much for so little and object so strenuously to paying much less for much more.
Of course it's offered. So long as you're ok having 1/2 your check deducted.
Depends. Amazon does. Even to part-time and seasonal employees after 90 days.
Child brides, are mortifying to me. I remember one time there was this three year old girl getting married off to a 36 year old man. I thought how horrible to myself and aloud. A guy at work thought I would be comforted by the fact that her husband shouldn't have [intercourse] with her until she was of age. I wasn't because it's not guaranteed he won't consummate the marriage with his toddler bride just because it's frowned upon.
This is clearly child abuse.. . . and BTW, "of age" usually means when she begins to menstruate, so could be 10 to 16.
I legit had an argument with a "friend" about this. Her argument trying to justify Mohammed raping Aisha when she was 11 was that "girls grow and mature faster than guys" When I asked her to imagine herself suffering that fate it changed to "Humans of the past were different plus he was scared "... At that point I just blew up in her face and yelled "There is nothing sacred it is a made up word! If i could go back in time and choke the life out of him I would so i dont have to see you say and defend insane s**t like this" She was a PHD holder... She was a smart person... I don't understand how the mind can be hijacked by a cult so deeply that it falls to those twisted rationalizations... Anyway she blocked me and later removed the Hijab and added pronouns in front of her work profile as if to do 180 switch... My guess as to why I am still blocked is she would be too ashamed to talk to me after having that kind of f****d up ideal? I dunno...
Alright; at the time I’m reading this one, it’s #15, and I’ve had enough. I’m closing the page. These 15 have only served to add to my feeling that human beings aren’t worth it, the US certainly isn’t worth it, and a plague, asteroid, or world-obliterating nuclear war don’t seem like such awful ideas anymore.
"shouldn't have.../...frowned upon": is "shouldn't have" actually the same as "illegal"? Not to mention that whatever happens behind closed doors is effing hard to say, let alone prove/prosecute, especially if it involves two parties who are this disparate in terms of power.
Religion and the indoctrination of children and vulnerable populations (poor, sick, incarcerated, etc)
And in the most hypocritical way imaginable these are many of the people that accuse public schools of trying to indoctrinate children and demand books be banned and that things like critical race theory, gay pride, etc. never be taught
The same people who think a twelve year old is mature enough to bear a child also think she needs their permission to read a book.
Load More Replies...I hate that d**g and alcohol addicts are always offered religion to get off their addictions. Most of the time, all they've done is switched from one addiction to another when they say religion "cures" them.
I hate that too, it isn't necessary to find religion to get sober. At all.
Load More Replies...The deep dive to me..this book that all claim to follow says nothing about descendants of Ishmael being unworthy. Nor does it say anything about different sects of the SAME faith being heretics, yet here we are. Religion itself is not the issue, it's taking passages out of context to further your personal views that's heretical.
There's nothing Christians like more than a poor and desperate person
In my old religion we get baptized at eight we have no choice we just do what our parents tell us is right
Have to disagree on this one. You're going to teach your kids the values you have, whether they come from a religion or some secular philosophy.
And religion is toxic, and deliberately taught as an attack on the ability to reason.
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Forcing kids to show physical affection to anyone.
I used to embarass my parents a lot with this when I was very little, because I would protest loudly that I did not want to give a kiss to a bunch of relatives because "auntie is prickly!" (she had some remarkably strong hairs on her chin), "uncle smells!" (he was not averse to a little glass of any alcohol, anytime), etc. I was too little to understand that it's not nice to say things like that, and I saw these relatives maybe once a year, they did not feel like family to my little mind, just weird, unattractive strangers. Up to this day it makes me very uncomfortable when anyone (partner's family, overly friendly new acquaintance etc) comes up to me to greet me with a peck on the cheek and a hug. I have a huge personal space and hate any touching from anyone other than maybe 3 people in this world. I'm 100 percent sure that this would not be the case if I was allowed to choose who to hug/touch/kiss when I was a small child.
No one is allowed to touch you without your permission. This applies to family as well.
How do you teach consent to children if you keep control of their bodies by forcing physical affection? You can't. My child does as he wants, and he's a very sociable kid, but only when he wants, and it's fine.
Yes. First time I met my cousin's kid she was 7 or 8 and her mom encouraged her to give me a hug. I looked at kiddo and said "it's okay if you aren't comfortable hugging me." She had such a look of profound relief...I did get a bearhug once she got to know me. :)
I have ingrained personal boundaries into my son since he was born. He isn't afraid to speak up when he doesn't want to be touched.
N that’s why back in my day I’m 60 to many kids thankfully not me where abused by family members I bought my two kids 23-20 up to know that no means no even from a tot soon as they could speak only bad parents refuse to do this
For-profit medicine. Doctors don't have to work for free, but selling stock shares based on people seeking medical help is absolutely unethical.
No. The U.S. needs to implement universal health care and get the money-grubbing corporations out of the medical field. The U.S. government needs to give their head a shake and push their hatred for their own population aside just long enough to see that they are human beings and they deserve to be cared for.
Load More Replies...Both health care and education should be required to be non-profit, at a minimum.
There's a reason why "insurance company CEO" is such a common role for over the top action movie villains. It's because those guys ARE villains, often to a cartoonish degree.
The difference between evil for-profit healthcare and doctors getting rich is that the doctors are actually providing care and deserve to be paid appropriately for doing so. The stockholders and executives aren’t and don’t. The vast majority of what we pay for care in the US isn’t going to the doctors.
Well, normalized in the USA at least - Declawing your cats
Part of being owned by a cat is accepting that furniture is not a priority.
Load More Replies...No. There's been quite a change in the US about this. Most vets won't do it anymore. I had to sign an agreement that I would never declaw my kittens before I was allowed to adopt them. A shredded couch is a small price to pay.
I'm not sure it's really normalized. I know there are no vets in my area that will do it.
In the us ?
criminalizing not only being homeless, but *helping* people who are homeless. feeding or housing or even just providing respite.
Not a very christian behavior coming from the country with the largest christian population in the world.
They are Christian in name only. It is basically just a club to find other people who share the same level of intolerance that you have.
Load More Replies...In some places giving food to homeless people is illegal (if you aren’t a charity or something). When I lived in San Francisco in the 1990s, they made it illegal to give food to the homeless. Reprehensible.
Load More Replies...People are the root of all evil. Religion is just another tool used to get people to do your bidding.
Load More Replies...My daughter attempted to help an older homeless woman by bringing her food and a new sleeping bag, after the woman declined to go to a shelter. She was also paranoid and delusional. My daughter called Social Services and was told that as long as anyone was feeding or providing anything for a homeless person, they would not step in as the person was already receiving "assistance."
The people that make these laws . . . ? You're probably right.
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The abuse of animals in the horse and dog racing business. So many d***s and injuries causing death to innocent animals. Then an abundance of non productive animals to get rid of.
Winning at the track is just as much luck-based as winning at a casino. So just stick to the roulette table if you must gamble, and leave the animals alone.
I honestly believe that more animals are harmed by the pet industry than by the gambling industry.
As raw numbers, yes. As percentages, not necessarily.
Load More Replies...I don't like the pet industry they over breed pets, especially reptiles and a common species name leopard gecko and some kind of fish like beta
I worked in the office and at the racecourse of a horseracing club. Horses came into the birdcage with whip marks, blood running, eyes wild, shaking, panting SO hard and covered in sweat. Racing is barbaric. I left as couldn't bear to see the abuse of such beautiful animals
The payday lending industry.
Giving out loans at completely unreasonable interest rates to the people least likely to be able to pay them back, leading them further down a path to misery is an evil business model, and that regulators seem so willing to look the other way is disappointing if not surprising.
And yet, folks who carry student debt as my daughter does pays 12.5%? THAT'S usurious. No more than mortgage should be the norm. You can walk away from a house, Dept of Ed is not able to be discharged
Load More Replies...Advertising this practice on TV makes my blood boil. Also gambling ads on TV.
Credit card interest rates. Despite having flawless credit and good loan history. We got behind one month (weren’t even halfway to our credit limit and could pay more than minimum but couldn’t pay completely off that month due to massive financial emergency situation) and now I’m thousands of dollars in debt and will never be able to get out without further loan assistance. It’s criminal that we’re barely making it due to some ludacris interest rate.
I've been in this trap. The company I worked for paid once every 2 weeks. So, when rent came due in the middle of a pay cycle, a predatory loan was my only option.
Paying taxes to a government that doesn't keep you healthy, educated, and provide **guaranteed** security in retirement after spending a lifetime supporting said government.
Ah, but you get a military, bigger than the next 8 biggest militaries, to protect the 1% richest people’s interests around the globe.
The over-wealthy in the US have more in common with the over-wealthy in Russia and Iran, than they do with the average US citizens
Load More Replies...But SoCiaLiSm! Let me die helpless and destitute but FREE like a ReAl AmErIcAn!!
Quit getting all your information from Fox News
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Nudging females to have kids when they clearly don't want them.
Then abandoning any responsibility once the child is born. Important until birth, then mother and child can drop dead.
Until that kid is of military age of course.
Load More Replies...When I say I don't want kids, that means I don't want kids. Why is none of your business. 'I don't want them' is a complete answer. After I say that, get a clue and f**k off. It's not an invitation or a game where you keep trying to find the right button that will make me say I want kids, because that's not going to happen. And you playing this game irritates me and makes you look like the world's biggest a*****e.
If a man can get a vasectomy at 18, so can a woman. But doctors refuse. Make it illegal for doctors to refuse tubal ligations. Then it won't matter what others think.
Actually no. Nontrans women can't get vasectomies.
Load More Replies...Protecting the fetus but not caring about the half million children in foster care.
Stop calling us 'females'. That's an adjective. It's also really offensive and insulting.
It didn't say force, it said nudge, and you clearly haven't met a narcisistic woman who wants to become a grandmother. It is done with manipulative statements , that often involve some kind of guilt tripping like: "why don't you want children? they are the best!" (e.i. you are stupid for not wanting it), "you are woman, bringing children into this world is your purpose in life", "I have spend my youth raising you, and this is how you thank me? -by denying me grandchildren". Or simply constant nagging, talking about how wonderful it will be when there are little folks in the house again, completely ignoring that you were told over and over that it is not going to happen -Like if enough exposure was going to change anything. There is the gaslighting like: "you will grow out of that mindset and regret it later"... and then there are actions, like "accidentally" leaving out things like old baby clothes in the hope that they will serve as inspiration and kick things into gear.
Load More Replies...Nudging anything upon anyone, who the F areyou to think you can do that?
It really depends... a lot of nudging is done in order to make things easier, like a sign saying: "Did you remember to set parking indicator?"" right at the entrance to a shop. It is putting up obstacles that cause people to move in an orderly and more effective fashion for the benefit of everyone. Don't forget that there is good nudging, e.g. placing the salads at the start of the buffet, so people eat more greens, something most of us ought to do. Nudging is also the foreign change collectors at the airports that makes it easy for people to donate coins for charity, which would otherwise just be thrown in a drawer when they return home, never to be put back into circulation as they are virtually useless there. Disneyland are the master of nudging, and they use it to make your experience more magical for the guest. E.g. they nudge people to properly dispose their trash instead of just tossing it, by making sure there is always a trashcan within eyesight everywhere in the park. Nudging is really an artform, and it isn't always implemented with evil intend -and it works and have a measurable effect, not just in marketing.
Load More Replies...Why are u treating ur self like a god? There is higher power..when u realize that it’s not me, me,me and that your ending somebody’s life before it even began that’s when u truly can give opinions
If it is a good higher power, it should include love, not law. It sould be a gift, not an obligation.
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The way medication is advertised in the US directly to the consumer. "Ask your doctor about...."
Just saw one of these commercials. They didn't even give a hint what the d**g was supposed to treat, but "it could be right for you"
Dammitol... the over the counter version of fukkitol.
Load More Replies...I don't need to ask my doctor. He earns enough to scrape together the money for a TV, so he's seen those ads himself already.
Don’t worry. If it’s a brand name d**g and it’s being advertised, you probably can’t afford it at a regular wage with insurance anyway. Yes, USA.m
Xiidra for dry eye. A 90 day supply is about $2500 if you don't have insurance, about $500 copay if you do. They tried to put me on it. Just buy a decent brand of wetting drops from CVS. And Dupixent is $5,520 per two 300 mg/2 mL autoinjector pens! But I see a commercial for each one about 6 times a night.
Load More Replies...I am very glad to be informed of new meds that might be helpful to me. My doctor isn't always up on things.
Then your doctor need to do some continuing education.
Load More Replies..."Ask your doctor if getting medical advice from television commercials is right for you."
I disagree with this one. Back in '98 before I was on the internet I decided to give up smoking for Lent with the hopes of continuing beyond Easter. Without the commercials for Zyban I would not have known there was a pill that could help me achieve my goal. Because I got happy after being on the med my doctor and I realized I had been suffering from depression. So these commercials probably saved my life.
To be fair I've brought medications up to my doctors before. Sometimes they say "no that's not right for you because xyz" and of course I listen. Other times it's something they hadn't considered and it actually works. In the U.S doctors often don't care about patients and aren't up to date on the latest treatments. They spend five minutes pretending to listen to you and then get to the next patient.
Lunch debts in schools.
He calls himself RicoSuave, of course he's a d**k. And has a s**t sense of humour.
Load More Replies...Nothing like being a child and having your food taken away because you can't pay, screw the system
School age children should have access to free and nutritious lunches. Many of them do not get much at home.
Also, the quality of lunches in U.S. schools. They serve the most disgusting c**p. You look at school lunches in other countries and the difference in quality is astounding.
That really depends on the school district. I've seen the lunches let my daughter gets at her elementary School and to be honest I was really impressed and happy to see the quality of the food they were giving her. We are by no means in a privileged or upper class area, but the school district here really takes pride in making sure that the children at their schools are taken care of (kind of even more impressive when you take into account that we are in Texas and that the state/s**t-for-brains governor have really been trying to do their best to screw over the school systems and students the past couple years)
Load More Replies...Serious question, if everyone knows school lunches in America are so unhealthy, why arent students just bringing their own lunch from home which is the norm in so many other countries. Is it just laziness?
It’s a good question if you’re not from the US. A lot of families from the US can’t afford to provide homemade lunches for their kids, especially good quality lunches. It’s hard enough for many families to even provide 1or even 2 meals for their kids at home. That’s why so many schools provide free or reduced cost lunches &/or breakfasts to kids. The big problem is the quality of the food differs from state to state & even the districts in each state. Some schools really do provide good quality food that the kids like, while others serve mainly fast food, while others serve practically trash. Many schools don’t make their meals on campus and are required to “bid out” to various companies that provide school food, & often the cheapest company wins. What makes this all even worse is that as crappy as this food might be, at least these kids are getting breakfast &/or lunch 5 days a week. But when it comes to holidays & summer vacation, there’s no guarantee that kids are getting these meals during the day. Many schools go into panic mode towards the end of the school year trying to come up with ways to make sure their students have access to good nutrition over the summer, especially in low-income areas.
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Treating addicts like they deserve to die
Addiction is a disease, yet there are so many people who still treat it as a matter of choice and strength of character.
In part, it is. It is well documented that an addict needs to want to stop to be able to.
Load More Replies...I know this first hand, an addict will not change until THEY are ready. Forcing them will just push them further into addiction or relapse. I'm 50/50 with addiction a disease.
Here’s a funny story. I’ve taken opioids on and off for years. I don’t get addicted to things including opioids, cigarettes, weed, sugar. I stop whenever I want. I know I’m lucky and I’d pass this superpower on to anyone. In 2018 my partner’s ex & her mother decided I must be an addict and the only way I was going to get “clean” was if I went to jail. The ex-wife “Nisa” assaulted me repeatedly, filed for a restraining order against me, took photos and videos against my direct demand that she not. She’d abused my partner and still financially abused him after their divorce. Because she requested the restraining order I was seen as the violent one, especially once a particular sheriff decided I was. She claimed I “falsely imprisoned” her and lo! I went to jail for a long weekend. The local jail doesn’t provide opioids or Adderall even though people have died because of the lack of opioids. Jail sucked but I was fine even though I was offered Pepto Bismol, etc.
Load More Replies...No it is not a disease it is a choice no one in healthcare believes it is a disease these people are just a drain on society
When you are so far down that the withdrawal symptoms can do some real bodily harm, it starts to act kind of like the diseases that need mediational treatment. If you try to plainly will your way out the effects of withdrawal symptoms, it will have about as much of an effect as willing your way out of broken bone.... it ain't gonna make the shaking, the coldflashes, the sweating the insomnia go away, and will probably make things much worse. Things like smoking is also a choice, but that doesn't make the resulting lung cancer any less of a real disease. Eating too much is also a choice, but diabetes is a disease. And likewise drinking excess amount of alcohol is a choice, but the effect that has on the body is a disease - to the extend where putting a sudden stop of the intake of alcohol can be fatal, just like stopping taking your heart meds would.
Load More Replies...Ok. Let's completely overlook addicted people with mental illness and horrific chronic pain who fell through the cracks and couldn't get help. lt's not black and white. Sure would be easier if it was.
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IMO, TV series being made of a serial [criminal]/ evil person being glamorized, played by some hot actor, and dramatized so that people become sort of “fans” of the real life person. Bonus points if not much sympathy or perspective is shown for the direct families/friends impacted by the actions of said evil person.
I think this is horrible. Series about a serial killers or stalkers, that's insane. If you want to inform people: make a documentary or podcast but series that is just cheap sensation.
The Dahmer series with Evan Peters portrayed him as a sad lonely gay man who just wasn't understood and it drove me nuts. Of course with it being a hot popular actor playing him there are so many more people now who sympathize with him and think he was just misunderstood. He was a murderous monster who preyed on marginalized men because he knew that society and law enforcement at the time weren't going to look as hard for them.
No, I think it's because he was attracted to "dark meat."
Load More Replies...Or just criminals in general. I couldn't watch The Sons Of Anarchy because I couldn't stand what subhuman losers they were.
I didn't need to watch SOA, because one of my closest friends growing up, his Dad rode with The Outlaws. We're pretty sure that his Motorcycle "Accident" that killed him in 2017 was caused by a rival MC. I've known several of these guys since I was 7 and now I'm almost 48 years old, so I don't need to watch a show when I can and have seen the REAL thing.
Load More Replies...The ONLY ones I have sympathy for are the Menendez Brothers. They killed their abusers.
They had other options. Fortunately, we live in a society based on the rule of law. I choose to live with the hope that our justice system is more successful than it is harmful. A jury found them guilty of murder (not self defense) and a judge followed established guidelines to impose their punishment.
Load More Replies...Documentaries that shine light on the darkest elements of society to understand how and why a person becomes a serial killer are invaluable to identifying and treating the underlying mental illness that culminates in antisocial behavior; imho. Serial killers are trying to get their basic needs met just like the rest of us. However, mental illness prevents "normal" thought processes. Hopefully, studying taboo subjects and abnormal behavior will lead to early diagnosis and appropriate healthcare. ~ my two cents, ymmv ~
This is another reason I really liked the Netflix Mindhunter series. They tried to get the actors to look as close as possible to the actual serial killer or psychopath they were portraying, and there was nothing sexy or glamorous about their behavior. I think they did a really good job portraying the depravity of those people.
This is gross. These monsters shouldn't be glorified in any way. And the suffering of their victims shouldn't be used to make money.
Glamorising having huge number of children. Totally irresponsible.
I loft all respect for the actress who played Donna (I think we her nam? Forman’s GF?) after she was in the movie about Paul Bernardo. Just disgusting, those families deserve peace.
Circumcision (when they're babies and not due to medical reasons).
FGM is pretty well known about by most educated people. We're just now really talking about MGM. Quite trying to recenter the discussion.
Load More Replies...God no this is disgusting immoral and cruel as is female circumcision to vile outdated inhumane in fact
It is not just the jews.. it seem to play a role in all of the Abrahamic religions to some extend.
Load More Replies...Religious circumcision...God made us perfectly in his own image...apart from that little bit of skin. We'll cut that off because God fụcked up there and we know best. Don't even get me started on FGM! 🤬
That is an outdated statement. Did it make a difference for people living in a dessert where water was a scarce resource that should be used for drinking rather than bathing? Perhaps. But for people who liven in a modern world and shower on a daily (or at least weekly) basis, the effects are probably so small that you can justify neglecting them and focus on something more important, and leaving Circumcision as a thing of the past. Sometimes you shouldn't go with: but we have always done it that way, and instead ask yourself if it is still relevant to do in the world as it currently is.
Load More Replies...Choice. Babies don't get the choice. They also don't get effective pain management. We don't let parents cut of other body parts for no reason or give their children tattoos because we knowledge humans' right to bodily automony.
Load More Replies...Your body was still mutilated without your consent or medical cause. Just because some goatherders decided it needed to be done because of some deity 2000 (!) years ago doesn't mean the practice needs to be followed 2000 years later. You must be an absolute idiot to let people who have been dead for 2000 years dictate to you how to live your life.
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Forcing autistic people to hide who they are, because how other people sees you is more important that your own mental health. This leads to anxiety, low self esteem, depression, and s*****e being much more common in the autistic community.
I grew up forced to mask all the time and people did not understand why I would get so exhausted and surly after doing it for hours on end (and would not tolerate it). It's only just a few months ago, after more than twenty years, that I've felt safe openly telling people I will be working or studying with that I'm autistic. Because now I know they won't judge me for it but will show consideration toward my needs. Last year I was asked to give a speech to an audience of children, and for the first time ever I stood up in front of an audience and said "I am an autistic person, so this is really hard for me to do, but I'm doing it anyway". I later learned that a lot of those kids were themselves autistic, and now here was this impressive grown-up telling them "I am like you". And that's not something I will ever fail to give the next generation again.
I got the correct diagnosis of being "on the spectrum'" when I was 68. It just made it so clear that my life was not just about being uncontrollable, or bad, or anything else. I try, I have coping mechanisms, but still, just to have an understanding of what I've lived with has been a blessing.
Load More Replies...I met a guy on the bus who looked and talked 'different'. He talked openly to people in a rather 'too opened' way. I wasn't surprised when he began to explain he was autistic but I was happy he felt safe enough to talk about it and explain to people. We need to be aware of all kinds of differences and not make them invisible. Kudos to neurodivergent people and everybody who feel different in some ways.
I started to nask out of fear and you loose yourself completely. Just not being good enough as you came.
Ive been kept in a damn room simply for being different, under the pretence of "calming down". It doesn't make me calm. All it does is cause resentment, mistrust, and eventually hatred of people in general
O just don't want people around anymore, besides families to exhausting and literally painfully.
Or people casually claiming themselves as autistic. Or ADHD or OCD. No. These aren’t fun, cute idiosyncrasies, these can be life altering diagnosis.
As someone with autism I hated it. My parents really supportive and didn’t do this but at school I had a number of friends who ‘didn’t want me to act autistic because I might embarrass them’ only one friend was truly me Freud in elementary school and was also autistic. My middle school only one was real too she isn’t autistic but loves me for me. That’s for you girlypops.
Housing as a commodity/investment rather than a basic need / shelter.
People need shelter to survive, and suitable shelter is a prerequisite to starting families or just not suffering without access to a basic human need in general.
Imagine if we started limiting access to drinking water and started hoarding to sell it for what the highest bidders are willing to take, even if it leaves behind a large chunk of our society. Imagine ensuring that a majority of people are unable to afford enough water if they were to have kids, just so investors can continue to make a bigger buck in the future. Imagine if we encouraged buying off any remaining available water, allowed corporations to hoard it, and encouraged people to hoard it as a means of storing their wealth, and as their retirement nest egg.
We already do this with water. How can you not know this? Anyone who owns a building pays a water bill. And if you rent that cost is part of your rent. We who live in "first world" countries have clean water, mostly. Those who live in poorer countries have to carry their water home every day and then boil it. People are dying of dysentery all over the world still because they can't afford clean water. Time to wake up, cupcake.
But 'we' do, it's an international conglomerate called Nestle'. At least that's what the CEO is striving for.
Application fees for apartments
Yep. Let me pay 150 bucks to be told I didn't get the place even when I meet all of the qualifications. And if I do get it (after proving I make 3x rent) I have to pay 1st month, last month, and a deposit equal to one month immediately. Even knowing I make 3x rent, that's an entire month of salary that can't go to any other bills or food or anything like that. Then there's fees tacked on. My last apartment was listed at 2500 a month but with all of the monthly fees it was almost 2900 every month. Admin fee, package locker fee, mandatory valet trash, electronic payment fee, parking space rent, processing fee, sewage, and electronic lock membership fee. Then water and electricity on top of that were separate. So basic survival without even counting food was over 3500 a month.
I hate valet trash and I hate package lockers. I’ve never lost anything delivered to my door but have lost at least $1000 when it went to a package room.
Load More Replies...This. So much this. Why should I pay to see a listing on your website?
My state enacted a universal background check that landlords have to use. Some years ago we had a huge flood and the market was, well, flooded. I was staying with a friend and he asked why I didn’t apply everywhere. Um, because it’s $45+ per application? He also asked me why I didn’t look in the newspaper for properties.
It depends what it's for. At the very least they will run a credit check.
But isn't that the cost of THEIR business. I want to rent from you. I want to give you money to stay on your property. It's a business arrangement, just like hiring a new employee. My credit will be affected by your search. You can pay for it.
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That 99% of processed foods have added sugar to help for profit companies to feed addictions
Corn syrup is very uncommon here in Australia. I can't believe it's even used in soft drinks in the USA.
We've been very lucky so far with our sugar cane industry. I hope it stays that way.
Load More Replies...I always take issue with the "Added to feed our addictions." The secret to good tasting food is sugar, fat, salt. Even your grandmother knew this. They don't do it out of some sinister malevolent attempt to addict us. They do it because when you put the good tasting food next to the food without added sugar and salt - the non-additive food never gets bought. Stop blaming the "Evil corporate overlords" and start blaming your own buying habits.
So, uh, choosing something that's objectively bad is pretty much the definition of addiction...
Load More Replies...There’s a book called ‘Salt, Sugar, Fat’ about how foods are designed to hook people and keep them hooked.
See also salt. Although not so sure about this anymore. Not UK anyway.
One of the reasons I do not eat processed food at all I cook from scratch I like to know exactly what’s in my food
The chicken industry is pretty horrific. I eat chicken. But yeah when you really read about it it is sick. Billions of chickens born every year only to be forced to lay eggs for their life or slaughtered after a few days or weeks.
Then stop eating them, no one is forcing you to. These practices would change if the demand wasnt there and they weren't so lucrative.
There are lots of reasons someone may be forced to eat something that disagrees with their morals. Eg. Dietary restrictions, low income, being a minor living with parents who don't agree, chronic illness, disability, insane food prices, etc.. This is coming from an ex vegan who kind of has to eat dairy because the other option is not getting enough or something barely any food on bad days. I'm not saying for sure that this is the case, but there sometimes can be limiting factors. I don't know OP or their situation, so there could be something else at play.
Load More Replies...I haven’t eaten meat in over a decade, and I don’t miss it. We don’t even have to eat frankenfoods designed to mimic meat when there’s so many good recipes for so many tastes available free online. We don’t even have to buy cookbooks. Just skip through the life history/tome above every recipe (why?!!!! 😬) and go for it. 🙂
Would you eat meat if it was grown on a grid in a factory? I don't mean meat substitutes, but actual animal tissue that was never part of an animal.
Load More Replies...The whole industrial animal agriculture system is gross and profoundly immoral. People don't need to live this way. Yet no-one wants to change.
Both terms have been so thoroughly corrupted as to be functionally meaningless in a commercial context. You almost have to visit the farm to be sure.
Load More Replies...You think that is the sole purpose of other species on this planet?
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Deaths by motor vehicle. +1 million people worldwide every year
There was once a philosophical question that was presented like the trolley dilemma. It basically stated that if there were a technology which could greatly improve the lives of almost every person on earth, but would kill more than 1000 people every day, would you want it? Almost every respondent said no. However it was not hypothetical, it was talking about the automobile.
It is not the technology that is causing the deaths. It is bad careless drivers. How much disease did streets filled with horse manure cause?
Load More Replies...You don't even have to be driving like an idiot, or driving at all to be taken out by one of those bastards. I've come close to being run over more times than I can count, in one case because some moron blew through a red light.
And how many tens of millions of lives are saved over the same timeframe? Our entire way of life vanishes if you remove the motor vehicle. Good luck getting to the hospital in a horse-drawn ambulance.
Well, the god of motorized vehicles must be appeased every day. As long as people can keep on sitting behind the steering wheel of their precious car, they don't care how many people die on the road every day. For them every death on the roads is a blood offer worth the price.
Are you okay? Given your attitude, I sure hope you ride a bike to work and don't drive a car. If the US had better mass transportation I would take it, but for now I have to drive a car.
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The f*****g Pledge of Allegiance. Creepy, cult like behavior.
My Mom was old enough to remember when they added "under God" to the pledge.
I remember when Madelyn Murray O'Hair managed to get prayer out of the public school system. For that, I will always be grateful to her.
Load More Replies...EXACTLY! I’m an American student, and this ALWAYS confused me. Why do we have to say it *every* day. If you *don’t* say it, you’ll be eyed by fellow students. [I’ve come to a point where I don’t finish it. The lines “Liberty and Justice for all” are lines I now skip, I used to say “Liberty and justice for some,” but that was too easy to hear in crowds, so I just stopped saying the last part— like a peaceful protest? Sorta.]
I suppose it's just me, but I don't mind it. A country that doesn't even try to inculcate a bit of love of country in its people is going to fare poorly.
As a child of the 80s, I remember the gut-wrenching anxiety I felt when I had to recite the Pledge in front of the class. Each kid was tested to make sure they memorized it before passing to the next grade. I was six.
If you are really offended feel free to send your paper money and coinage to me . . . .
Load More Replies...If you think that's bad, my school recited the Lord's Prayer every morning (Ontario in the 80s)
I was actually forced to do it. How much of a pledge (or freedom for that matter) is it when you have no say?
God I hate this generation of idiots, you all are so easily manipulated that you take your 30 second clips on TickTock that are curated by the Chinese as gospel truth.
How do you have allegiance to a symbol? Why not "I pledge allegiece to the Great Seal of the United States ..."?
Suffering from deprivation justified by scarcity economics. People think there isn't enough food, enough housing etc. to care for all the people in the world. They justify being horrible to one another because of it but it is patently false and untrue. It's not only the priorities we set for ourselves as societies but also based upon an historical paradigm we have arguably progressed beyond and could be doing more faster. There are ancient empires where God kings justified their rule by showing how they had eradicated hunger or homelessness in their kingdoms. Now a days we just assume it's the way it's always been and never going to change.
"if I help someone get housing, how am I gonna afford my third pickup truck?" 🙄
Normalized ? Skipping hand washing. And also normalizing low personal hygiene. It’s frightening the things I have read lately.
Yeah, the pandemic made alot of people start washing their hands, BUT stop showering regularly. ...this whole shower once or twice a week thing is f*****g disgusting and needs to stop.
I went without a shower for a week and my crotch smelled like lasagna. Good times.
Load More Replies...I work in a GP practice, the boss is well known for this. He's a fricking doctor. Goes to the loo, comes out still on phone. Most of us no longer use that toilet.
Police and Family law court accepting immediate accusations in which a male father has to prove innocence and is denied access to children for months to years based on a mothers accusations with little to no merit. All while rewarding the false allegations parent witb extra child support due to lack of father contact due to allegations
Police and family law that give fathers access to children they clearly abused to keep power over the mothers they clearly beat the sh** out of.
We had a case like this in Belgium: a notary (Notaris X) was accused by his ex wife of abusing his two children - articles in the media showed arms and legs with bruises. The whole country believed the wife, until years later the children - grown up - made it known their mother had lied all this time. Despicable woman.
I knew someone who got custody of the kids and the ex(the mom) took them out of school before he could pick them up and then refused to release them when he got the local Sherriff to accompany him. Law enforcement told him if she wouldn't voluntarily release the children they would need a separate court order to remove them from the house. I fully believe if the roles had been swapped that law enforcement would have a state-wide manhunt going on for his a*s.
This happened the other way in Sweden recently with someone I know. The wife was accused by the ex of child abuse and got locked up pending enquiries.
Women are often in danger from men. yes, I have seen a woman abuse this system and that's really wrong. But. Violent men kill and harm women every day. I don't have an answer.
The fact that football players and famous golfers make millions upon millions more than paramedics and first responders, NFL cheerleaders being a thing, they are basically in bikinis and knee high boots jumping up and down like morons, while there’s kids and people’s wives present. I don’t care if people call me insecure for saying this either, but I’d like to enjoy a game but I don’t wanna see that s**t, it makes me uncomfortable and I’m shocked that it is still allowed. Wish they’d go away and do their own competitions or something
Yeah. I regularly get sick when I read how much money is thrown at a handful of people who are especially good at running after a ball.
This is an ancient argument. I’m a public school teacher, I wish I made a lot more money, but at the end of the day the reason entertainers and athletes make so much money is because people are willing to pay enormous sums to watch them. It’s a free market, if we don’t want them to make so much, we are not powerless. Just don’t watch.
Football players make millions and cheerleaders don't get paid enough to live.
Also parliamentarians who fought like hell to give nhs nurses 2% over 3 years or something ridiculous like that but awarded themselves 10% every year
I'm not sure why wives and children have to be protected from seeing cheerleaders. If you're that much of a prude then you have real issues. It's not like they're simulating séx in the middle of the field.
But they could though, right? It'd be better than the weekly "We Love The Military" circle jerk at the start of NFL games.
Load More Replies...I don’t agree with this either our men n women in the forces put their lives on the line day in day out our armed forces die for us daily to but get paid a pittance for it n footballers run around a pitch for an hour n a half n get millions a year n then they get a scratch collapse on floor screaming n are out for months injured pfft im a rugby lass me n they don’t get paid nowhere near as much as footballers and they get back up n carry on hurt or not ! I say take the footballers money down to a normal wage n give the rest to our brave men n women on the frontline x
The dairy industry. Forcibly impregnating cows, taking their babies away the minute they are born to steal their milk, boy baby cows killed for veal, girl baby cows end up like their moms, continue that cycle for a few years until the mom cows can barely walk and are spent and then kill them for their meat. I cannot believe that this is normalized - it is actually horrific.
Oh and gestation crates for pigs.
And the fact that billions of animals are killed for food every week and most people don’t even think twice about where their food came from.
The first humans began to collect groups of animals for food. At what size herd do you consider is the point where you consider it slavery?
We know. We don't care. If we could afford to pay £20 for a truly free range chicken we would, but then we would require much more farmland to be used just for chickens. Vegan food is not suitable for everyone and tastes (for the most part) like àss.
I have a serious question that I don't know how to ask without sounding aggressive, but I'm going to ask you, because I agree with your tastes. Please help me understand: vegan "meat substitutes are great! It tastes like a burger! It tastes like a chicken nugget!" If you don't like meat, if meat is so terrible, why are you making fake meat? Why isn't the not meat food good as it is? A bean burrito is pretty good. why do you have manipulate it so that "it's just like beef!"?
Load More Replies...As a farm born n bred lass to this post get over yourselves bloody vegans got a lot to answer for
DUIs seem to be something to brag about where I live.
The fact that once they get to Mars most of us will be left behind with no resources, clean water etc. we will be the low class planet
What I once read: It's not about colonizing Mars (or building the Hyperloop or whatever). It's about creating an idea and keeping it running to sell stocks. Tech companies don't sell products, they live off the image of being 'interesting' so that people will keep speculating with their company shares.
We already know there is nothing to support life on Mars. We will never colonize it. We will never live on it at all. A human might get there, but they will never get off the planet and will die there.
Load More Replies...I think the basic idea of settling Mars (or the moons of Jupiter or wherever) isn't really about making the Earth better; it's about having a backup plan in case the Earth is rendered uninhabitable in any of a dozen ways.
Hubris is not a main feature in humans. I for my part still wait for the deserts on this planet to be turned into lush green paradises. Moreover, we have the conditions to reverse and heal what we destroy we put our minds, will, and money into that because we already have an atmosphere to begin with, soil that is alive, the goldilocks position in the solar system and so on and so on. In addition, the experiments to emulate our planet have failed so massively it is not even funny. Our planet never was und never will be a "low class planet". It is amazing how little it will take to clean the mess up we made here. The conditions are there. We just have to help ourselves a bit. This said, the sentence "We will terraform Mars" is much much much easier said than actually done.
Have you been to Phoenix? Or LA, for that matter.
Load More Replies...Maybe if we stop having so many children, there will be more to go around?
It is not our numbers ..it is the distribution of resources and the mindset. If we let 1% rule over 99% of our resources what do we expect to happen ...
Load More Replies...That's a simplification - it's not like there are going to be A380s taking off to Mars every 30 minutes.
I hate to be that guy, but some video game and movie violence. like some of this s**t could traumatize a pilgrim
I know no video games or movies more violent than reality (even games like GTA or Manhunter)
Yeah I'm much more concerned about the real-life violence.
Load More Replies...First person shooters are literally used to help treat people (specifically soldiers) for PTSD. There is no link between violence in video games and real life crime levels.
This is b******t. I wince at gratuitous violence sometimes, but let's be real clear, true barbarity has clearly diminished. A few hundred years ago, people would gather to watch witches be burned. 100 years ago, lynching was an after churchin' activity for MAGAt great great grandparents. Society is markedly less violent and tolerant of violence. Even though media is exponentially more violent. I credit secularism. The more God we throw out of our lives, on his disgusting, morally and ethically bankrupt, ear, the collectively better said lives have gotten. It's why we can be exposed to more gratuitous violence than ever and not act on it. Logic and human decency knows better. Religion justifies justifies, condones and embraces violence.
People apparently don't like to hear the truth. Violence by humans towards humans has been on a downward trajectory for a very long time. But that doesn't fit the media narrative I guess.
Load More Replies...End of life care being at a hospital, not dying at home for the average elderly. Hospitals drag things out and make people less comfortable in their dying days. It's bizarre and looks like a money grab.
Not everyone has family to care for them in their dying days, and thankfully not everyone has to pay outrageous sums of money for basic care.
Hospitals dragging things out and making people less comfortable in their dying days is not something I have witnessed, and I expect the same is true for whoever wrote that.
I have to agree. My husband died in a nursing care facility. I moved into the private room with him with my work laptop. He would not have had the same quality of life and care for his last three months if we were at home.
Load More Replies...So, to avoid/solve this problem: discuss death and dying with the people in your life. Parents, roommates, siblings, etc. Have a plan. And be aware of others' wishes: 1. If there's an accident away from home, do they want CPR or other heroic measures taken? Do you? 2. If something happens at home do they/you want an ambulance called? Or do you/they just want to be made comfortable and calm? 3. What should be done if they/you are in the hospital unconscious? Etc. Etc. When a person starts getting Medicare, their doctor automatically gives them paperwork that deals with these sorts of issues. But it is never too early to begin an open dialogue with your dear ones. We never know when our lives will end.
I live in Maryland. We have this paper you can keep, signed by your doctor, that lets you specify what level of care you want if you can't speak for yourself. I have one copy in my wallet and one on my fridge, and it specifies pain relief only, no CPR, no intubation, no nothing . If it's my time, let me go.
Load More Replies...Contrary to popular belief most hospice care is provided in the home.
You ever notice how people who complain about America never say where they're from?
Load More Replies... Segregation of generations. Children could benefit from learning and being with grandparents. Grandparents can help the burden of 2 income families and child care.
Multi generation households would make the world a better place. There is always someone at home who LOVES the children versus someone watching them for profit! In this country, we stick our kids in daycare, our elders in homes, and wonder what's going wrong. Many in retirement homes still have a lot to offer, but are going to dining rooms every night versus cooking traditional dishes, etc. It makes our elder age faster.
This is a generalization, you don't know the stories behind those people. Some elders have been awful to their relatives and that's why they live in isolation now. When i worked in a retirement home there was this elderly man who was nice to everyone and we always felt sad for him because no one ever came to visit him, until we learned why: he SA his own daughter and that's why the whole family abandoned him. Don't judge if you don't know the full story.
This. In my experiences, the most "friendly," "helpful," and "generous" people are the most vile, abusive, and sadistic.
Load More Replies...That works until my mother tells my wife how to rear our children (or don't you follow BoredPanda and Buzzfeed?)
This! We have to learn again to be a family and a community. Individuality leads to more depressions, burn-outs and other mental problems.
Just like frocing/pressuring people to sacrifice for people who have only ever made them miserable because "they are your blood!" leads to more depressions, burn-outs and other mental problems.
Load More Replies...Stealing, surprisingly in every store or shop you can think of, there are people who steal, from little things to big things, and its so normal, everyone expects it, but its honestly so disgusting.
No one thinks stealing is normal, and it's not always "disgusting". Some people have kleptomania, some people are just poor and forced to steal. Of course it's not a good thing and it's not justified, but there are things far more disgusting in this list.
I am more than ok with desperate mothers stealing to feed their kids or similarly a very desperate person stealing food. Yes, general kleptomania not cool (I had a thing for keyrings and feel bad as an adult), but sometimes people are doing it just to get food or nappies and they are stealing that from supermarkets usually who can more than absorb that cost.
People who don't need to steal but do it because they can get away with it are at fault. Some people are so entitled they think it's ok to steal even from mom & pop shops, where the owners work hard just to get by and can't afford loss. Most of these thieves are not starving, by any means. They think it is beneath them to go to a food bank, but stealing is ok.
Why do women have to be beautiful or sexy to be accepted in society? And why are there still no rights for women to stay at home when they are having their period? Too much women suffer each month but it is still taboo in society.
This reminds me of a BP (i think) article titled "Pink Tax is mostly on items for women." It's because people do not connect the dots.
Load More Replies...How come no-one mentioned that it shouldn't be normal that you have the right to expect that, just because you can get in touch with someone instantly, and it's convenient for you at this exact moment, they should drop whatever they are doing to respond, rather than making you wait until it's convenient for them.
I've often told people that my phone is for my convenience, not yours.
Load More Replies...The real problem underlying all of this is that too many people are just stupid, obedient consumers who don't care to learn anything. As far as I can tell this is the big problem in society affecting everything. Incurious people, comfortable in their willful ignorance.
awful article, everyone is victim, no solutions. It just serves gratuitous rage for clicks.
Why do women have to be beautiful or sexy to be accepted in society? And why are there still no rights for women to stay at home when they are having their period? Too much women suffer each month but it is still taboo in society.
This reminds me of a BP (i think) article titled "Pink Tax is mostly on items for women." It's because people do not connect the dots.
Load More Replies...How come no-one mentioned that it shouldn't be normal that you have the right to expect that, just because you can get in touch with someone instantly, and it's convenient for you at this exact moment, they should drop whatever they are doing to respond, rather than making you wait until it's convenient for them.
I've often told people that my phone is for my convenience, not yours.
Load More Replies...The real problem underlying all of this is that too many people are just stupid, obedient consumers who don't care to learn anything. As far as I can tell this is the big problem in society affecting everything. Incurious people, comfortable in their willful ignorance.
awful article, everyone is victim, no solutions. It just serves gratuitous rage for clicks.
