Let it out here. It can be from stepping in something gross with new shoes or from having a midlife crisis on your hands.

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#1

Honestly? Lots of things but one thing here on Bored Panda: Please don’t downvote others because you disagree. If it’s racist, misogynistic, mean and nasty then yes go for it. But simply downvoting because you disagree is silly. The Pandas get minus 10 and suspended for nothing. Let’s be nice. If you’re a VBP (Very Bored Panda) then scroll and give others an uppie! Some really great Pandas I’ve missed lately: DUN DUN. Bacony Cakes, Sam, Hans. Love you guys !

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Nathaniel
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cannot upvote this enough people. All my suspensions have not been because of answers that could be taken two ways and mistaken as nasty, but all have been inoffensive, that people just do not like, and there are those that just see minus numbers and pile on!

Ozacoter
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The suspensions dont make any sense. The other day i got downvoted and suspended for stating that humans are primates... Apparently a bunch of trolls or creationists disagreed...

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Elaine Richards
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I don’t like or agree with a post I scroll on past.

Josh Cutts
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What is the proper function of downvoting? Is it meant to be something harsh? I always just thought it was a way of reflecting public opinion, that’s all.

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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is harsh bc sometimes people follow w***y-nilly and downvote too. This causes the person to be suspended and shuts off all discussion.

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Jef Bateman
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Exactly. And if you do really disagree with somebody, take the time to leave a comment to explain why.

Autistic apricot
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even if I disagree with some, that’s no reason to downvote, so i upvote if they have downvotes

*Displayname*=idk
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

OMGOSH YES! I LITERALLY GOT BANNED FOR A WEEK! (A week ago) I got banned for saying "wow"

wellwisher
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3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this what happened to DUN DUN? I was wondering, I'm not familiar with the others names. I hate that though.

Contented potato.
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yeah DUN DUN used to be here all the time. She vanished and I don’t think anyone knows what happened

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Tigerpacingthecage
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And the most irritating thing is that some who are actually really misogynistic and racist gets to keep on going... I got banned for 5 days because I responded to an am I the ashole- thing. I agreed with the majority but said one thing could be a bit to much. Compared to people who can say really hateful things that seems a bit out of proportion.

RK Barbo
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I learned this the hard way one time when I was really stoned and made a silly comment on every post in a topic. Nothing rude, just dumb stuff, song lyrics, whatever. Learned you can't be silly on BP.

K- THULU
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3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yesss....found that out the hard way...

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    #2

    I care more about animals than people

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sometimes people can be so mean to each other that I totally get this.

    Whysoserious
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too, and really easy to feel that way.

    ScotuL
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same, animals are the best

    Susan Green
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. I love all animals. Don’t get me wrong though, I love many people too, I just don’t like bad people.

    wellwisher
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Humans, we are creatures of our own demise, animals and children are innocent. So I feel the same way.

    Johnny U
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know the names of the dogs in the park. Not so much the humans that walk them.

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    #3

    i have depression and i'm not straight like my parents think

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry to hear you have depression. Are you afraid to tell your parents? Hugs muffin kid.

    oddly_informed_raven
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    hi, I'm your sibling now, this is not optional, all the hugs

    Maia Wecker
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We love you, hope you have a good, or at least better day. It’s going to be okay.

    Susanne B
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is that why you have depression? That you fear what your parents might say when they find out

    Susan Green
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes me feel bad. I hope your parents will accept you, once you tell them.

    heyitsfionabtw
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. All of the hugs, dear friend!

    JJ(they/them)
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in the same boat, I'll vibe with you and join all the people being your internet family. :)

    wellwisher
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There are some great and kind-hearted people here for you. I'm sending you love. Let me know if you get it.💝

    Aidan Eubanks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m also not straight, or cis either, I’m your new sibling

    Roni Kova
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hello! I have undiagnosed mental glitches and am definitely not straight. I'm rooting for you to find solid ground and a safe space to open up and let loose <3

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    #4

    This will get buried I am a minor (this will help you understand) My friend was acting weird and then later asked me out, I said yes because they are manipulative and would of hurt me if I said no, and knowing I have autism, still asked me to kiss them after I said my brain stopped me from doing things like that. She later got mad at me for not looking at her. I’m still dating her but I hate it to the point I’m scared to hang out alone with her, as she might do something (she is 13 and had same gender sex but told me all about it 😖). Soon after I trusted her again and accidentally put my self harm scissors in my bag, which she looked through and stole them and wouldn’t give them back until I shouted at her (the next day) and they were broken. I am too scared to break up with her I don’t feel right, I like being biologically female but it feels odd and I hate having pronouns or a name (it’s not my name that’s the problem, I could have any name and it would be the same). I use they/them and that feels better, but no one seems to care I go through things where I am either overexcited or having suicidal thoughts and I feel like nobody likes me, or knows me and I’m crying while typing this because nobody cares and I’ll get in trouble for telling people these things because “nothing bad has happened so you are faking for attention” Sorry you had to read that Nobody else knows any of this but I feel a bit better getting it off my chest

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    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Here, take my upvote and keep it higher. I know what it’s like to be manipulated and be autistic. I am also emotionally sensitive and have struggles keeping myself under control. Get rid of the friend. Get help. It’s hard, but you need to have respect for yourself. If I could do it, so can you. Your feelings are valid, and I’ve felt them too. Multiple times. Get help. I’ve got it and I’m doing much better now.

    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m really sorry you had to read this, you people don’t even know me (unless you do from reading this, if so, hi 🫤) and you shouldn’t care about me, what am I worth anyways

    Maia Wecker
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi, I don’t know you, and you don’t know me, but I have struggles too. I get it, I just wanted to say that you are incredible, and brave, and beautiful. You are worth something. Take the little things and cherish them. You are incredibly brave to expose yourself to the world and I hope it gets better. Have a wonderful day, you bright sunbeam. Also, I know it’s a day late, but happy pride month, take some rainbow hearts on your way out. 🏳️‍🌈❤️🧡💛💚💙💜🏳️‍🌈

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    Emma Starr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Reach out for help, and get a diagnosis. It will open thr doors to a lot of support and help. You deserve to be safe and respected.

    Emma Stripp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You might need to do therapy for your self esteem issues. If she's doing things like breaking your self harming scissors she probably thought that would stop you harming yourself. If you do harm yourself you might need to get the injuries checked by a doctor. Infections can happen and they're worse to deal with. Also maybe speaking to your doctor about how you're feeling could help get you the help that you could need. Art therapy is really good for some people. I do it all the time and it helps me by getting out of my own head for a while. Which makes me feel good as i've created something from absolutely nothing.

    Paul Werner
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just know you're not alone you'd be surprised how many people feel the way you do, you just need to know where to find them.

    Kyle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have a lot on your plate. You are worth more even in your worst times.

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also these are the emojis (read the top of the submission post thingy) 😭😖😶

    Michele Lein
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (Cont'd on from below) So I know exactly how you feel. If you can, when you feel this way and have an adult you trust, tell them how you feel. You may have Bipolar Disorder. The extreme over excitement, then the sad low moods, are indicators of this disorder. If you can't talk to your family, you could: confide in a school councilor. You need to get some help for your feelings. Even calling a suicide hotline where they can direct you and advise you what to do could help, if you don't have any adult you trust. What is most concerning is the person who you say you are 'dating'. You aren't dating if you are scared of her and fear she will hurt you if you refuse her friendship and attentions.You are in an emotional hostage situation, and you need to find someone who can help get you out. Above all, do not give up. Your feelings are age related, and possibly you have Bipolar Disorder, so it's not really you (meaning these feelings aren't hopeless, or ingrained in you for forever).

    Michele Lein
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All through my teen years I was told that I was faking having very serious anxiety, being sad, being depressed, and acting like my life was miserable, which to me, it was. They said I just 1. Wanted to be the center of attention 2. Was spoiled and used to getting my own way, (I wasn't or I wouldn't have been in that situation.) 3. Was faking being sad, depressed, and frustrated why(?) 4. And my favorite: "You have a chip on your shoulder". I was all of those things, except I didn't have a 'chip on my shoulder'(and female, which was fine, I'm cisgender and straight) because: 1. My father had died when I was eight and my mother was dating a born again Christian who wanted me gone (I had overheard talk of "boarding school". Who does that? We lived in the U.S.A. during the 1970s.) 2. I was, overweight, not pretty, shy, and got bullied. 3. My grandmother always picked on me, and whenever anything upset me, or when I had anxiety over anything she would say: "You can't be that way".

    Jaden Alexander
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are more than your depression. You are more than autistic. You are more than your gender and/or sexuality. You are more than your self doubt You are so so much more than you think. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to be loved for who you are. You deserve to have friends who are true friends. You deserve to be able to love yourself as you are no matter how you see yourself or feel. It's hard now but it WILL get better. You are amazing as you are and will only grow and get better from here. You can do it.

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    #5

    I don't enjoy hanging out with my friends anymore, except for one person. I can't tell my parents that I'm pagan, or that I use neopronouns and want to change my name. I'm terrified of being a financial burden on my family.

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    Tina Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why did this person get downvoted? I brought it back to zero, but they're honestly posting something they're struggling with! Currently, the number one post is about not downvoting someone just because you don't agree with them, for goodness sakes! Unless there's something about the post I'm not understanding because I'm old and sometimes clueless, downvoting a real problem is awfully mean.

    Marinasongs1432
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Agreed, but there are so many trolls and people who don’t like anything others say. It’s really sad.

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    Emma Stripp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being a pagan isn't terrible at all. Believe me. Plus you're not a burden at all you'll find the right job when you're ready to.

    Trillian(from Hitchhiker’s Guide books)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey, I just looked at your profile to find your pronouns, and I just want to say- xe/xir pronouns sound so cool! I wish I could use neopronouns but they unfortunately don’t fit with how I feel. I use they/them pronouns, btw, and I just wanted to tell you, I’m proud of you for sharing this on an Ask Pandas. I wish I could help you more. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can find my contact stuff on my profile(i think). It won’t be this bad forever, trust me. Life will get better someday, I promise.

    K- THULU
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Keep your chin up, fellow pagan....there are more of us out there than people think....blessed be...

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry to hear that. Do you have someone at school you can talk to?

    RandomPanda
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is paganism, just wondering? I'm kinda stupid... /gq

    K- THULU
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Paganism is basically a term covering an infinite variety of old religions... Nature worship, wicca, shamanism, druidism.... Generally belief systems suppressed and driven underground by the rise of Christian beliefs in Europe... Many are matriarchal in nature.... You can also include belief systems practiced by many indigenous cultures....

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    basil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey I'm pagan and I use neopronouns too!

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow. I went to summer camp for two weeks and completely forgot about this post. Thank you all for the love and support! I now have contact outside of camp with my actual supportive friends, so that's good

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    3 years ago

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    #6

    Ok, here goes. As a gay man, I think today's kids have way too much stuff being thrown at them regarding sexuality. Even reading the few posts on here pertaining to it confirm what I feel. Adolescence is a super confusing time where people experience all kinds of feelings and emotions. While I'm all about acceptance, obviously, I think a lot of kids are being pushed into something they may not actually be. I also think that to be bi, pan, etc., is the trendy thing to be. I think a lot of kids are saying they're these things to fit in or look cool to their peers. Obviously, I'm not saying everyone who thinks they're one of these things is wrong. I knew I was gay for sure when I was about 13 and realized I liked m**turbating to pictures of guys. But I sincerely think a lot of young people are trying so hard to figure themselves out, that they're possibly trying to force things onto themselves that may not actually be true. Of course people are going to experiment, and that's great. I'm all for it. But a lot of kids are making declarations of I'm this, or I'm that, when they don't really know. I invite intelligent thoughts on the matter. But let's keep them civil and productive. Love you Pandas. 😘

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    AW
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Totally agree with you on this, I particularly dislike how media overhypes this subject and can see lot of people feeling pressured to be "something". Being in your formative years is very stressful and yes, sexuality plays a huge role, still I wish teenagers could take a step back sometimes and realise it's okay to be/not to be something and they have another 60 years to figure things out or even change their minds.

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting. Never really thought about it before, but as a male I can tell you the hormones are all F'ed up until about 28 years, so until that point of leveling out I feel like love and lust are hazy things at best. So I think I agree. (?) I guess I just want to see freedoms up held and not trampled in favor of a mass populace or particular religion(s).

    Your Neighborhood Alien
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    THIS. Yes! My family always says that it's not a big deal however you identify yourself! As a teen, I can confirm it seems to be VERY trendy to be a part of the LGBTQ community. You kinda feel left out when you're not a part of it, honestly.

    DeoManus Argentem
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well put! These days they're pushing sexuality on kids as young as 5/6! Even as far as allowing hormone therapy/blockers and reassignment therapies! You wouldn't let a kid that young decide what's for dinner (ice cream!), let alone something irreversible!

    Wandering Muffin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This tosh is absolutely a scare tactic and not true at all. I have personal experience in this field and I promise you that no one is giving 5/6 year olds (who are not any where near puberty) blockers or HRT. Parents may allow their child to play around with their gender expression at that age (I.e. hair styles, wardrobe choices, etc). But that has nothing to do with being sexual, (the complaint of the original post), you get that right?

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    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m bi or abro, and I knew it from the moment I wanted to kiss my female best friend (it was sudden) and started to feel major feelings for some other girls. But I keep changing somehow, like I’m more Les, or I like both, or I’m straight, or that I don’t love anyone at all for long periods of time. It’s confusing; even my romantic feelings change along with my sexual feelings. Sometimes I have them, other times I don’t.

    Daffodil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    On the other hand, using the term bisexual for myself was actually a big step in helping me figure my identity out. At 12 I realized I like girls and I remember when I first realized it, I thought to myself "wouldn't it be funny if I was a f*****" and then thought about my relationship with one of my best friends and realized "oh c**p I like her" Being able to use the term bisexual at that point in time for myself helped me have less internalized homophobia and actually accept myself as a lesbian. Obviously there's some people who use the term to be "trendy" but I think the majority of people don't, and at least in my environment, I've never seen it be "trendy", I've just experienced homophobia and transphobia.

    RandomFrog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dammit this is one of those things my parents take out of context and use to think they’re helping me. Totally agree but it can be taken out of context easily.

    Jeffery
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    agreed, especially for younger kids who are just starting to go through puberty (or even befoer that) and might not really know the difference between genuine attraction and finding someone nice to look at for example

    Wandering Muffin
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think I agree with you, (in the sense that we shouldn’t be quick to slap labels on children, and let them develop their own sense of self in their own timing) but your wording is a little vague, and I see people in the comments doing a lot of gatekeeping about who has the right to call themselves x and at what age. I would be interested in what examples you might give as “way too much stuff being thrown at kids regarding of sexuality”. Are we talking about the age kids take sex ed? Or the kind of movies and content marketed towards kids? Or is it day to day interactions: like when adults tell a little boy over and over again he’s going to be a lady killer or tell a little girl her parents should lock her up when she gets older? It seems like you may be thinking of children coming out really young compared to when you were growing up?

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    #7

    I feel like the Democratic Party has been really crappy lately, but since the Republican Party decided to be fascist and everything, the Democratic Party is by far the one to vote for, and its wrongdoings are nothing in comparison, but still, the worse the Republicans get, the more the Democrats use it as an excuse for their crappiness, and voting Democrat kind of feels like voting in a one-party system since voting Republican was never even remotely an option.

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    Nathaniel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There needs to be a third party or more.

    TheOrangeGrape
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well there are lots of political parties in America (where I'm guessing OP is from) but because we absolutely suck, none of them get recognition and are treated as unimportant because they aren't Republican or Democratic. Now, this may be biased since I'm independant, but I feel like America could really benefit from someone who isn't in either major party.

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    Susanne B
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You sometimes don't vote for someone, but against someone. It is still important to vote

    wellwisher
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always had to vote for the lesser evil.

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    Mahogany Eclipse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is exactly why I'm an Independant. Both leading parties are corrupt and out for themselves and what they can wring out of the people.

    wellwisher
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have news for you ALL politicians are liars and politicians are out for themselves and themselves only.

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    Ryner
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    POLITICAL PARTIES ARE DUMB JUST VOTE FOR WHAT YOU BELIEEVEEEE INNNNN

    ben woskje
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the illusion of a 2 party system is common problem.... but is is just that, an illusion.... unfortunately it requires enough people to be politically informed to change that.... which is a struggle everywhere - but seems to be particularly pronounced in the US

    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s all about the money. No one else has been able to raise enough to compete with the established parties.

    DeoManus Argentem
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fascist doesn't mean what this person thinks it means...

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not all Republicans are fascists, but quite a few of them literally are. They prefer swastikas over the fasces emblem, though.

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    Mark Faby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wanting to be left alone is 'Facist', huh? You need to read up some more.

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    #8

    Telling someone who says they don't want kids that they'll change their minds is INFURIATING and ENRAGING. It's condescending, patronizing, and it treats them as if they don't know their own mind. It takes away all agency. Just say OK and keep all opinions and arguments to yourself, please. And whatever you do, please don't do that BUT WHYYYYY thing? You're not asking to understand; you're asking to start an argument where you undermine another person's reasons. "I just don't want to" is a reason.

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    Hei Hei
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damn right, Katie! If I had a nickel . . . . My favorite has always been, "but you're so loving. You'd be such a good mother." Ha! Let me say that again: HA! I usually reply, "you never knew my mother." (My sisters have kids, but they both broke the generations-old patterns and expectations that were laid down for us.)

    SageHare37
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Louder for folks in the back! We (humans) are not *just* walking reproductive organs. Humans don't need a reason to choose to not have children. There are tons of excellent reasons to have kids, and tons of reasons not to. "I don't want kids" is the only reason anyone has to say.

    Jode Mode
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    100% This. Thank Gawd I never wanted kids - I would screw up any child I raised. Now, if all the ppl who shouldn’t be parents had that awareness, the world would be so much better. I like Margret Cho’s line: I ovulate sand. I also add: my biological clock barks. Mind ya biz, folks.

    Dog Mom
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not wanting children is a personal choice. You shouldn't have to go through being told you're wrong about your own business.

    Lene
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When someone tells me they don't want kids I just say "I totally understand". Even though I have 3 myself. Because I do understand it. I also didn't want kids before I met my bf. I really didn't. Now, I love my kids! Don't ever assume I do not. But I also look forward to them being adults that are not sharing roof with me. I miss me-time sooooo much 😬

    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, you have a right to plan your own life as you see fit, and NO ONE should be pressured into taking on the responsibility, worry and sacrifice that parenting involves if they don’t want REALLY want children. That said, having children is such an important and life altering event that (particularly) the people who love you probably don’t realize how intrusive they are being in their attempts to make sure you don’t miss out on something (they feel) is so wonderful. (Sorry)

    Daffodil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yessss. Istg one time my brother choked on popcorn while I was the only one home (he could still sort of breathe but not fully), and so after all my panic and his crying and cleaning him up after he got spit everywhere after coughing the kernel up, later I told my grandma "this is why I don't want kids" and she said "Oh, you'll want kids, you're gonna have like 6 of them" Um. no. I won't. Or the time I told my dad I don't want kids ever and he said "Just wait. The biological clock will start ticking." Like wtf is THAT supposed to mean???????

    AliJanx
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please don't have kids if you don't want them. Life is miserable for all. Ignore the idiots, they don't know what to say so they say the stupidest thing that comes to mind.

    Helen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "My life was lacking its purpose until I had kids. They helped me to understand my priorities. Once you have your own kid, you'll change your mind." WHAAAT? So much BS. If you have issues, you should solve them before having kids. To rely on kids solving all your (mental) issues is extremely irresponsible.

    Wendy Benedict
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It seems like everyone has an opinion on everyone else's reproductive choices. I have only one and got numerous "but they'll be lonely" comments when I said I was stopping there.

    #9

    I’m a recently out lesbian with a pretty unsupportive family, about to head off to a private christan college for the next four years where I will, yet again, go back into hiding. :’) (Also my cat is sitting on my chest and if she does not get off soon I’m going to pee myself before I can hit “publish”) (now I need to get THAT off my chest)

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    Danniee Gyrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I support you!!! You got this, no one is supposed to judge you for your life. Cats are lovingly weird... we have 2

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I taught my cat that the phrase "I gotta pee" means that she needs to get down briefly but will shortly be allowed back up.

    SageHare37
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm envious of your pet communication skills. My cat stomps off in a huff just because I need to go to the bathroom.

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    Tanner Nelson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah, I'm in pretty much the same situation. Good luck to you!! Stay safe at college

    #10

    I was in that 2% once, when pills didn't work. In my early 20's, I was pregnant without knowing it till the labor-pains started. Yes, I had my periods till the 9th month. No, I didn't notice any strange-moves-in-my-belly. Yes, I gained some weight, but just about 5-6 kg, didn't make me suspicious. Yes, I was on pills. I went to my house-doc with very bad cramps, only to find out, I'm in labor. In hospital, they told me, he -yes, was a boy- was born already dead. But I'm till now not sure, because I remember hearing some weak crying voice. But, maybe, just my imagination played me.

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    Tina Smith
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish I knew what to say to help. All I can think to say is that I'm so very sorry you went through that.

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for your kindness. It was 20 years ago, and nobody, than-close-to-me knew about it. Even not the father. The only thing, what disturbs me all about this, is, that I can never be sure, if that baby was really alive, or just was my imagination? But considering, that I was taking anti-baby pills, and was partying with drinking and smoking all of my 9 months of my unknown pregnancy, I hope, it was just my imagination.

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    Ziggyc
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is so sad,I hope you can get some closure on this,my heart goes out to you

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you for your kind words. Honestly, I never felt myself a mother-type, not 20 years ago, and not now. So, despite it was really shocking experiencing this, it sure gave me a closure: I became firm in not wanting children. Don't misunderstand me, I don't hate kids, at all, but not all people are made to be parents. It requires some qualities, what I don't have.

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    #11

    I get way more upset when animals die than people. Okay

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    Iris
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I thought this was just me 😭

    RandomFrog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I can’t deal with death… I jsut kinda shut down. I go emotionless and sit still and try to think abt anything else and then avoid it.

    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Makes perfect sense to me. Animals are nicer than people.

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I watch nature documentaries, I always cry when the bunny/antelope/other prey gets eaten. If an animal in a book is murdered, I cry for it too.

    Violet
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I know a whole family that’s like that. It’s completely normal. Also it’s very understandable and reasonable.

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah the mixed emotions on the animal planet shows where the prey are hunted definitely causes far more mixed/odd feelings than Rambo for me.

    #12

    I am so not straight. I am pansexual. And no, it is not the same as bisexual.

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    Emma Stripp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same here 😂 I really fancy everyone at times

    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You have feelings for everyone, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Bisexual is when you like two genders, mainly male and female but can be others too.

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    Roni Kova
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same! We love our bisexual siblings regardless <3

    #13

    I think I'm depressed

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    Sarah Bell
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sending love and good vibes your way ! As someone who is depressed myself please seek help . Your not alone . People don't understand depression tour life can be absolutely perfect and you can still be depressed. You are loved and I want you to know it's possible to beat it or at least make your situation better . Therapy and medicine have helped me beyond belief. I'm still depressed and I have bad days and good days but I'm in a MUCH better situation now . Good luck to you in all that you do!

    K- THULU
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I really believe that depression is the true epidemic of the 21st century...... Sometimes BP is the best therapy....good to know there are nice people left in the world....hugs to everyone...

    Susan Green
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Many people suffer from depression, you are not alone. It’s very important to get professional help for it though.

    Rob Eman
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Been there. Therapy plus meds, they held me over until I met the drug of my life - my SO.

    Violet
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m so sorry for you ❤️ I once had mild depression and it was so hard but it helped to have people there for me. I really hope you work through it and are able to find the support you need. I’m here for you!

    Johnny U
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is so much help for this. Talk about it, don't keep it in. If you ask for help, you will be surprised by the support you get.

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    #14

    My parents say I stay in my room all day, but I only do it because whenever I talk to them they insult me and yell at me for not being happy enough. They are good parents and very proud of me, but in everyday life it can get exhausting to always be stepping on eggshells.

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    #15

    Hmmm well I guess that I found out one of my friends husband was cheating on her. I don’t know what to do as she’s already been going through a lot and I don’t want to pile more on her. He’s always been a sweet guy. Should I confront him? Tell her? Do nothing!? I’ve been losing sleep over this!

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    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell her once you get evidence, but be there for your friend. Your friend doesn’t deserve this.

    Danniee Gyrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (1) If you tell her, and she stays with him... Your friendship is over. ( I know this first hand) It's like this, she/they will work on their marriage/relationship. You are the bad guy now, due to pointing out that her husband is a cheater (he is NOT a sweet guy. He IS a LIAR & CHEATER) (2) If you confront him, he will twist the story to make YOU look like the bad guy He will LIE to her and say that YOU are jealous of her and their marriage. YOU are a LIAR trying to break up their HAPPY HOME. (3)If you do nothing. She finds out about the cheating and that YOU knew, there will still be a fallout, because as her "friend" you are suppose to have her back no matter what...she will get mad at you, and end the friendship Suggestion: You could make an anonymous email to her (with evidence attached) GET RID OF ALL EVIDENCE THAT YOU KNEW when she comes to you heartbroken, just be there for her....

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty epic solution. Hope spam filter let's it threw.

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    anarkzie
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If she's going through a lot at the moment it might be better to say nothing for now. If you confront him you need to think about what you want him to actually do, do you want him to tell her and end things now in which leaves you with the same problem of your friend being piled on although still better than having to tell her yourself, if you want him to end the affair you need to know that you can trust him to end it and for him not to tell her that you knew which might make it look you betrayed her and kept it a secret.

    Lisa Clace
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would think about how I would like to be treated if the situation were reversed and do that.

    Mark Faby
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ugh. Don't get involved because one way or another you are going to get blamed.

    Phil Green
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just keep on being a friend to her. She's going to need people who care in the not too distant future. He's an a**hole and will get his come-uppance, you need do nothing. When it breaks, when she finally works it all out, she'll need you like you won't believe.

    Mrs M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I was in your friends position then I would feel betrayed by you both... Him for doing it and you for not telling me. She needs to know and soon. She may be in a tough situation but can give her the tools she needs to take control of her life and make the best decisions for herself.

    Liv
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it were me, I'd honestly want you to confront him, and if that doesn't work, tell in a comforting manner if you're sure.

    #16

    My friend's been abusing me. I thought I was overreacting, but the things he's done are actually really harmful, both mentally and physically. I blocked him on most websites, but he keeps trying to find ways to talk to me.

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    flutterbyy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry can't say much that will be of actual help, but I hope everything changes for better for you. I'm glad you were able to recognize the abuse inflicted by the "friend", that's usually the first step.

    Danniee Gyrl
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not overreacting!!! File a Restraining Order on this person. Let the police KNOW that this person has/have mentally and physically abused you also let them KNOW that you are AFRAID of this person and you do not know what more this person is capable of doing to you. STOP calling this person your "friend", this is not a friend... this is an abuser. Send a Cease and Desist letter to this person. Make your Job aware of this person is not to have any contact with you. Give them a picture, a copy of the Restraining Order and a copy of the Cease and Desist Letter to them. Carry pepper spray and a taser (check the laws for these two things in your area) PLEASE BE SAFE change your routine. I know this is a bother but change your number, Deactivate all of your social media for about month. go low contact with people that you think might be mutual associates with this person.

    Just Another Girl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you for noticing his behavior and blocking. Not sure of your age or the depth of the abuse but report this (to police, to a parent/teacher) before it gets worse.

    Emma Stripp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell people, the more you Tell them the more you get it off your chest and get yourself and that abuser therapies that help you in the long run

    Tree P
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How terrible! He is soooo not your friend. Tell the police, a parent, teacher, someone to help you!

    Atlas
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s awful. Have you told anyone about this?

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've only told my close friends. My step-dad thinks I'm overreacting and my mom says we don't have any actual proof to tell anyone serious. I might go to therapy for it soon.

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    AliJanx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Run away from him. Don't react to anything - for whatever reason, he wants your attention and you mustn't give it to him. No reaction whatsoever....any email, text, phone call, bumping into unexpectedly, anything...keep your cool and don't react. If you are in a position where you have to talk to him, be assertive, not aggressive, and get away as quickly as possible. He wants a reaction and by not giving him one you win. Plus do all the legal steps advised as well.

    #17

    Only two of my irl friends know that I'm asexual. I haven't told anyone else not because they might not be accepting, but because they will either disregard it completely or not believe me. Also I ate the last of my sister's biscuits today and blamed it on my brother, still waiting for the guilt to set in.

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    Mahogany Eclipse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    😆😆😆 for the biscuit swiping.

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    They were somehow better tasting than my share of biscuits 😁

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    AsexualShrimp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yay a fellow ace! But on a serious note. I get it. Although my friends are supportive, I believe they think that I’ll “outgrow” it. And even my parents told me it is a phase. Please know that you are an amazing and awesome person, and no matter what, please don’t listen to the haters. I can’t really help with the biscuits, but I can say that if you stay strong and find the courage to tell your friends, it will be so much easier to ditch them if they don’t recognize your asexuality.

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The "It is a phase" thing infuriates so much like, even if it were just a phase, why would you not support your own children? It takes literally nothing to respect and support that! I'm so sorry you had to go through with it, and I hope they have learnt to accept you. And thankyou so much for your comment, you're an awesome person too; always happy to meet a fellow ace <3

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    Reece Aster
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Being asexual is a pain in the a*s. I only started using the term in the past couple years and I'm in my thirties. People don't get it and it's so individualized.

    DuchessDegu
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I get you, some people will try and push you to have relationships (I like companionship but zero interest in being intimate), still you're lucky being asexual is recognised now. I was just labelled all sorts for decades and I thought I was broken somehow and forced myself to have sex, which was always unpleasant to say the least. Anyway be yourself and be happy, you can't control what other people will think of you! As for biscuits, you snooze you lose is my approach 😆

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When (if) you tell them say what you just posted! It will open some eyes and hearts. About the biscuits ... hmmm maybe apologize or blame the dog?

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you're right! And thank you. But I'll probably never say it to most of them because my sex life (or lack thereof) isn't their business. I could blame it on the dog, but then she'd say 'we don't even have a dog' and my argument would kinda have died from there 😄

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    Eoin Chak
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You appear to be rather young, so wait until you've matured and are fully understanding of your own identity before expressing it to others. If you are still maturing then you may be unsure / confused / unclear and stating something now which is inaccurate may cause others to react in ways which are unhelpful ... and as you're young you may not have the mental or emotional strength to weather such reactions without damage. (Perhaps contact & discuss with support or counselling organisations which offer anonymity or confidentiality)

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in my early twenties, and believe me when I say I've had a lot of time to mull over my identity. I'm not worried about the understanding of my identity being wrong; sexuality and identity can dynamic and that's okay. What I'm worried about is people disregarding my identity because of age or similar factors. My country isn't known to have a widely open mind about such things, and I'm afraid people won't believe me. About my asexuality I'm absolutely sure of, and confident that even though one day that were to change, it won't disregard my identity one bit. And you're right about the counselling organisations; they have helped me a lot figuring things out im the past.

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    #18

    my dad dies when i was nine and im still f****d up about it

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    Atlas
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s alright to feel that way and it’s completely understandable. I’ve experienced similar events and I’ve figured out that even though talking to people about it is hard it really helps.

    Paul Werner
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would also recommend therapy I wish I would of been afforded the opportunity as mine passed when I was 7 I am now 49 and you'd be surprised how it shapes your life and in ways you don't even realize

    Tree P
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Death of a parent is hard on a child. My Dad died when I was 18, but my youngest brother was only 8.

    Emma Stripp
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's hard, going to bereavement therapy can help you deal with your emotions in a healthy manor. You never not miss that person before me. You just deal with life carrying on in their memory

    Tracy Turner
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I lost my father at a young (20) age. I have a picture of him near my computer and sometimes i look at it and just burst out crying. I do miss him a lot, but i know that he is up there with my mum who i lost in 2010, looking down on me. I know they are proud of me and my family and that is all that matters to me and what gets me up in the morning. Try to think of him as happy and free. try to remember the good times you had.

    Jaden Alexander
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My father was a total a*s to my mom and the kids. He was abusive. He was an alcoholic. Growing up was terrible. When I was 19, he somehow figured it out. He became the husband and father that we all wanted and then some. When I was 21 he died suddenly. For years it f*cked me up. I felt I had been robbed of all the good years to come. I felt we had all gone through the hard times for nothing. I was pretty much intoxicated for the next 6 months. I feel for you but I can tell you that it does get better over time. You will never fully get over it but you WILL learn how to deal with and move on from it. Next year it will be 30 years and I still miss my father all the time but when I do, I look back and remember the good things.

    #19

    I’m either bisexual or abrosexual, I hate being an American, I’m a Nintendo gamer, and I’m too afraid to tell my family about being in the community. It’s been haunting me in my sleep…

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    Atlas
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t think being a Nintendo gamer is bad. If it brings you happiness and it’s not harming anyone why be ashamed of it?

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thanks for that. Someone downvoted me because idk, but some of my friends tease me for being a Nintendo gamer.

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    Eoin Chak
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Abrosexual is what? Why do you hate your nationality?

    flutterbyy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think Abrosexual means people with fluctuating sexual or romantic attraction over time.

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    Emma Stripp
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't feel ashamed you're a gamer, so am I and I do tell people. It's better than what some people look at online, that's for sure

    Mahogany Eclipse
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gamer here. I can tell you that its not something to be ashamed of but there is a bit of stigma about being a Gamer because some people have bad experiences with a SO being very addicted to it. Im also bisexual and am now in a relationship with a lovely, kind man (hes also a gamer 💛).

    FriendlyNeighborhoodTerror
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I totally relate! I'm also an American teenager who thinks America needs to wake up and smell the effing coffee. I also think I'm straight but recently....idk honestly but anyways I hope your family accepts you for the wonderful human being you seem to be because you seem awesome!

    TR
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    3 years ago

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    Then turn in your passport. So tired of people saying they hate their country but not backing it up with action.

    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m an American citizen, dumba*s. I don’t even have a passport, nor am I old enough to be an adult. STFU. Stop assuming that everyone here is over the age of 18 or can even afford to move. Stop being an idiot and realize that some people literally can’t leave or do anything about it.

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    #20

    I didn't think my life would be like this. Not bad....just very different.

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    RK Barbo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think most of us can relate to that.

    RandomFrog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *Nine year old me thinking I was a straight cis girl and everything in the world was good*

    Jaden Alexander
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When I was much younger, I thought I'd have ruled the world by now. It hasn't worked out like I had planned but, considering the state of the world, I think things worked out for the better. 😁

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Life is what happens while you're making other plans."

    #21

    My mother was not a good person so I was pretty chill when she died, but three years after my favorite cat died I'm still grieving.

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    Birgit M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you! My abusive father died four years ago and I didn‘t shed a single tear, but when my most beloved cat died last year I thought I‘d die, too. I am not ashamed of my feelings, and I hope you aren‘t either. 🧡

    Ziggyc
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm the same.My Dad was so abusive and when he died I didn't shed a tear.My 17 yr old cat it nearing the end of her life and the vet has told us we will need to make a date soon,this I cry about daily .

    natalie cohen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your cat was probably a source of more comfort on a daily basis. Of course you miss it.

    Gloria Bethallen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Feel this too but with my dog. Want a new pet but I feel like I would be replacing him

    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No you will never “replace them”, but missing that relationship is a tribute to your dog. You should give yourself enough time to grieve for your loss, and then think of it as “honoring” your dog by rescuing a dog and giving it a safe and loving home.♥️

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    AliJanx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Welcome to being normal. Grief is a b***h and each situation hits us in different ways.

    #22

    I think I might have Asperger's. Or something like that. I just feel like I never fit in and it's killing me. I hope to understand why someday.

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    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's on my list, but I haven't had much time to do so. Definitely a good idea.

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    Lara M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a grownup with Asperger's - it's not a disease, it's not a condition, and there's nothing wrong with you. You're different, that's all. The world will try to convince you you're sick or deficient or disabled; don't let them. Remember that homosexuality used to be in the DSM too. The way you function and the way you think are as valid and as worthy of respect as the way that neurotypical people function and think. Took me years to learn that one.

    K- THULU
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep agree with you totally... I have never fitted in ever but the autism spectrum wasn't really a thing when I was a kid...it was always " oh he's just shy." Then as a teen it was " oh, he's just a weirdo", then " oh, he's just a punk / f*g /alcoholic / drug addict ".... It was only in my late 40's that I accepted that I'm autistic and asexual... Too fkn late as the damage was done....get diagnosed, get help, good luck to you....

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    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just wanted to say thank you so much for your kind words on my post, and I appreciate all of your advice ❤️

    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m on the autism spectrum and I have trouble with fitting in. I don’t, so I flaunt it. Definitely try to get tested as soon as you can, but it might take a while because the lines are huge. Good luck finding out!

    Mark Faby
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Pretty much EVERY ONE feels this way at least once and truthfully pretty much their whole lives so don't worry too much, you're normal.

    natalie cohen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How old are you ? Most people look at other people’s lives and think everyone else has it all figured out and is doing everything “right”. It takes a bit of living to realize that other peoples lives are seldom as they appear on the surface. Everyone has stuff to deal with, it’s just different stuff at different times. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

    Your Neighborhood Alien
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm in the same boat your are, except for the Asperger's. But I had a great friend once who had it, and I definitely have some similarities to aspies (or at least that one 😅)!

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    #23

    I have a crush on Kira Nerys.

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    Atlas
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don’t understand why that was downvoted but it’s completely normal to have crushes on fictional charecters

    Scotira
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dukat, sorry to say, but I don't think Kira likes you all so much. Maybe put your hopes on someone else...

    Bodd
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Relax, Dukat. Get with Garak and ask him about his crush on Bashir.

    #24

    I feel like I am the only dependable person. I am the one who has money to help, my car is always full of gas, have enough food to share . . . no one else ever seems prepared for even a rainy day, much less the rest of their life. Since I don't need bailing out I'm left out. I am not asked to parties, people ask my help to move. No one thinks of me for a fun time, only in their crisis. My cat has been a better friend than anyone for years now . . .

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Octavia, it sounds as if some people are taking you for granted. Tell them NO and find a new set of friends. What Rob Eman just posted is good advice. Rotary sounds like something you would enjoy.

    Rob Eman
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hahahaha. I used to feel like the world was full of NPC's! You might benefit by joining societies of like minded individuals, think rotary club and that sort perhaps? Even just a softball team might be a huge benefit.

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Invite some to go out to a movie, or local show, or even just to get coffee. Be sure to ask them to *join* you - don't let them get the idea that you'll pick up the tab.

    #25

    1. I hate it when people assume that all of America is bad. How much of america is bad? 3 million people at the max. That is still less than 1% of the total population of america. So stop abusing it. Also, the US hasn’t joined the war because then China would join and it might become WWIII or a nuclear war. 2. Now to the people in America, America isn’t holy pure good! It might be strong, but stop fantasizing over it! It’s not the savior country ruler of all mankind. And what makes you think Hiroshima and Nagasaki was acceptable? 3. Honestly people. Let other people do what they want to do. Wether they are gay, transgender, Asian, or want abortion, they are still people and should be treated with respect. 4. F U VERONICA ROTH!!! If you read the ending to allegiant (divergent series you will know what I mean.) 5. Putin, you a**e. Honestly, what are you doing? And rest of the world: don’t judge all russians on the cracked government. Some of them are still nice and are protesting this.

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    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also! Climate change is real. Stop it now. Join the action. For my generation and all the generations after. For this planet, please, help. And GET THE VACCINE!

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I guess I'm with you except on #1. In the US 2.8% of the population is incarcerated. So how do you get less than 1%? Would love to see your math. (Remember even if you think all those people shouldn't be in prison, a whole bunch of other people put them there, so...)

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    Wini Wimms
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Very few people lump all people from the USA (if you mean them by "all of america") together. It is part of the system that sucks. Claiming the country as free and then having mayor parts "missing" that i.e. lot of european countries have for granted, like free healthcare and education or being available for works at any time etc.. But that has nothing to do with the individuals. (Trump sucks though)

    #26

    I have trichotillomania meaning I pull out my hair. I've been doing it for the past 14 years.

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That must be horrible. Do you have access to therapy?

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've recently started therapy. Let's hope and see if it works 🙂

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    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Interesting. I've never heard of that before, nor anyone else that does it. Luckily I avoid the hair on my head... I've found that when I work on what I love / Vaca I won't do it hardly at all, but going to boring day job triggers it every time (even more frustratingly society tells me I have one of the most prestigious jobs possible!) Also i buy nail files by the 100 pack to stop the nail biting... Annoying stuff...

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For me it's mostly when I'm not around anyone and stressed out.

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    *Displayname*=idk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel you. I unfortunately do the same thing. I hate it so much and I catch myself and try to stop it but it is so hard especially when I'm bored. .

    #27

    I really like my best friend but I could never tell them

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why not? If your friends are good friends then tell them.

    RK Barbo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Could be many reasons. Maybe a same sex situation. I know I found myself in that situation several times when I was young before I came out.

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    HumanBeingFromEarth
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Tell them. Trust me. Maybe they are also too scared to tell you. If you don’t tell them, them might be too scared to tell you, and it will go on like that forever. I separately talked with my friend and a girl he likes and they both have a crush on each other. I have no clue what to do now. But anyway, tell your best friend, or else your friend will notice something is off and think you don’t want to be their friend anymore.

    RandomFrog
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My bff told me she had a crush on me, and at first it was awkward, but before we started dating we said that if one of us breaks up it won’t ruin our relationship and it should be understood. We lasted 7 months then mutually broke up becuase we felt we weren’t any closer then friends

    Cats&amp;potatoes (she/her)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Me too. I want to tell her but I’m not sure it’s a good idea

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There's a lot of reasons. But the main thing requires a little explanation. We're really, really close, and to an outsider it appears we're dating. My friend didn't know this until a couple months ago when someone asked her and she freaked out. I won't repeat the things she said, it's not my place, but I don't think she would be happy if she knew I had feelings for her and I really can't afford to lose her. Thank you all, but I don't think it will ever work out.

    Aidan Eubanks
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I told my best friend I liked him, it didn’t end well, but I hope if you tell your friend they like you to.

    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As in like like your best friend? I also have feelings for one of my best friends, so it’s complicated. Or is it that you want to tell them that they are your best friend?

    #28

    I'm concerned for all the pain voiced here in the comments. Life is hard but always remember there are other humans who care about you and identify with your pain. I hope everyone can find hope and encouragement.

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    JJ(they/them)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i wish I had those people in person. :) thank you

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a good therapist. There are things I can't talk about to my family however. There are a lot of caring people here on BP 🙂

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    AliJanx
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That was a nice way to say it.

    #29

    I grew up with drunk parents. I remember when I was about 4 years old being used as a human shield, my drunken father deciding he wants to cut my mother's ring finger off while driving, drunk, extremely fast.... Dozens of different violent occurrences. Thankfully nothing sexual. I have been diagnosed with ASPD, Sociopathy in other words. Been married for 14 years have 2 children, 13 year old daughter and my son is about to turn 8. Turns out that along with ASPD I was at a greater risk of, you guessed it, drug abuse. Long story short I had to complete drug classes to get my kids back. Completed the class but didn't get the kids back because we couldn't make enough money in California to get a place and escape homelessness. But, thanks to those classes, at the age of 32 I finally know what it feels like to have genuine emotions. I'm now 34 and no one knows of my diagnosis. Wife, parents, kids. I hate this s**t. I have no one to talk to. I've never had to deal with regret.... Now I'm not only trying to figure out how to deal with losing the kids to my parents, but my wife cheated shortly after we got back to N.C with the only "friend" I thought I had. We worked things out though. The wife, not the douche canoe. I made it pretty clear when I beat the everliving c**p out of him that I better never see him again. Baby steps right? Now, like when I was a kid, I'm alone. Not looking for sympathy. Just needed that gone so I don't slip back into old habits. Thanks to anyone that actually reads this. 🤫 We worked things

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    Autistic apricot
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well done, that must of been hard but you did it 😊

    Diana Jo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The only other person I've ever heard use the phrase "douche canoe" was my late fiancé, and when reading this, though I'm very sorry for your pain, it made me smile. Things will get better because you are making a genuine effort, and I wish you the best.

    Jaden Alexander
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's never too late to get your children back. Stay focused and keep your eye on the prize. You can do it.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lee, I'm sorry you have to go through this. I want you to know that we are here for you if you want to talk. Remember this: You are strong! I wish you all the best.

    #30

    (Tl;dr at the end) I swear if I get downdooted. I HATE that I share my opinions and people downvote me because they disagree. Why? I’m on the verge of getting banned. I’m over here about to get banned while we have these bots with -737 points and they haven’t got banned yet. I’ve responded to BP emails. No response. I love this community, but it makes it so hard to comment. Also, I’m a very sarcastic person and I get downvotes ALL THE TIME because people can’t take a joke. I now put (sarcasm) at the end of comments so I don’t get downvoted. I thought I could express myself on the internet. NOPE. Tl;dr: Read the post.

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    basil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Another way to show sarcasm is by putting /s at the end of a post

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You most certainly can express yourself on internet. Just be careful to make sure others understand what you are saying. Not everyone get's your jokes or understands that you are being sarcastic.

    K- THULU
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But some down votes just mystify me.... I've just got a downvote in the list asking about who your celebrity crush is.... I mean ??? All I posted was Carolyn Jones ( the original morticia addams ) and got a down vote, WTF?

    The leech
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I made a post about my Chihuahua and got downvoted.

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    #31

    I feel like I’m aimlessly stumbling through my life and I’m terrified I’ll get to the end and feel like I’ve achieved nothing.

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    Tree P
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand you completely. I'm 55 now and well, sometimes thinking about the end myself. Try to think of the things you have done well, or goals you achieved. This is what I do when I feel down.

    albernistuff 4sale
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Almost 60. Still trying to figure out how to "adult".

    Jaden Alexander
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Life is about the journey, not the destination.

    #32

    redo my dad died not dies when i was nine and its been about 6 years and its still messing with me

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    Tree P
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand completely. My Dad died when I was 18. I'm 55 now. Some things you never get over.

    Donna Brown
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I understand what you feel. I was 22 when my dad died and I still miss him. That was over 40 years ago.

    #33

    I am a ghost. I died in my sleep last December 13. Well not really, but almost! my wife and adult kids had to revive me and called fire-rescue, and perform CPR. I spent the next day in the ER I am feeling some guilt about them having to be the ones to see me like that. Cause : hypoglycemia (super low blood sugar) from accidental insulin overdose as I was learning my dosing (diabetes type 2) As a ghost, some of the hardest things to use are touchscreen on my phone and the automatic doors at the supermarket and Target my son hates that I joke and make light of the subject, but it is how I cope P.s. I think that the Pixar movie "Soul" really captured that aspect of "non-being then coming back to consciousness" closely

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    HumanBeingFromEarth
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After the first sentence I thought you were literally a ghost who needed help going back to the after-life.

    Pterodactyl in Disguise
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Does the touchscreen not work, how can you be a ghost, I am honestly confused, but also think that is really cool, but terrible that you almost died, or did die

    1.21Gigawatts?!
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hypo meaning low Glyc meaning glucose or sugar Emia meaning presence in blood I watch too many Chubbyemu videos. Jokes aside, that must have been scary! I’m so sorry!

    St34mpunk_Pirate
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it’s how you cope keep it up! Don’t let others tell you not to

    Arachnid
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *genshin impact qiqi refernce instead of my comment*

    #34

    idk but i think i might be part of the lgbtq community. I just dont know fully what i define my sexuality as.

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    S. L. W.
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You're not str8, but not gay... or bi... or pan. You have yet to figure it out

    Adam L
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who says you have to label yourself, you are you

    natalie cohen
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Take all the time you need, you’ll know when you know. Don’t rush it.

    RandomFrog
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don’t have to label it. Biology is so complex! If we had a term for everything no one would be able to keep it straight (gay pun intended) people jsut are who they are and it doesn’t matter who your attraction is towards

    Tanner Nelson
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It took me nearly 4 years from the time I realized I was LGBTQ to when I found labels I was comfortable with. Keep searching, and if you don't find one, who says you need a label?

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's the Q - Questioning.

    AnonymousApple
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's okay to not know. Give yourself time and grace.

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Give it time, don't force yourself in being "something".

    #35

    I often feel worthless and not valued. I question if people really love me, and I question their motives. I don’t understand what they see in me because I don’t see it in myself. I hate the way I look, I hate my body. I’m ugly and I feel worthless.

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    HumanBeingFromEarth
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh. Do you have someone to talk to? You aren’t worthless, I’m sure and ugly or pretty… people don’t look for that. They look for your personality. And people do love you, I’m sure. Anyway, do you have someone to talk to?

    K- THULU
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd love to give you positive uplifting advice.....but you sound like me....so please fight those feelings, fight them with everything you have,find someone, anyone who believes in you, it's so hard but just fight it..... don't end up like me, 54 and completely alone,no family, no one to turn to, just me and my cat against the world....

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Felt the same way when I was younger. Turns out it might be one of the purposes of life: to grow, learn, develop and THEN help society. Hard (but possible) to do while young, think tutoring younger people or helping disadvantaged. It might take a life time to find your purpose, and sometimes it may be found in you by another and you may never even know it. Perhaps think about yourself less and think about others more as a first step?

    Tanner Nelson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've been in the same place, hell, I still am. But over time, if you want it to, it will get better. It's not quick. It's hard to notice. But maybe you'll stop questioning a friend's motives, or accept that you are really good at something. It could be anything. But it will slowly get better from there. I promise.

    #36

    I'm very scared for the future. Near future, far future, my own future life, the future of those around me... I want to stop time to catch my breath and also hurry it up to get my present over with. I'm exhausted :')

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    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You are not alone, but if the anxiety is overwhelming you need to start by speaking to your doctor. ❤️

    #37

    Thanks guys

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    Susan Green
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anytime you want to talk about it, many of us are here for you.

    #38

    Hating my witchmother to the point,that I'll throw a Party when she finally dies. Iwant to be able to speak to my dad again. He die 2008

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    Kyle
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parties are good. I had one for my dad when I was 55. We buried him and I felt I could finally walk away.

    Kate Johnson
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm glad you could. But the very fact that you feel that way means you were miles ahead of him already.

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    #39

    I don’t normally enjoy unpacking myself on others but I’ve held this in for far too long. My Mom is a wonderful woman, she loves and cares about me but something’s about her bother me. For starters she has a strong belief in science and uses this to tell me I’m not valid and I “scientifically” can’t be what I am. Then she compares me to her younger self listing all my differences as imperfections. I love my mother and don’t have anything against her but it bothers me that she puts science in front of her child’s happiness.

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    AW
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To me it sounds like your mum puts "herself" and not "science" first. If she's comparing you or your traits to hers when she was at the same age, it only shows she can't connect to you or accept you because her values and views are different. Everyone can cherrypick scientific research or take certain parts out of context to prove them right. I understand this is very disheartening; as a child a lesson to learn is recognising how your parents work and understanding you are not responsible for their actions; even if it hurts

    Jennifer Batron
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Data, peer reviewed papers, and double blind studies are pretty hard to refute. See what you can find on the topics you and she disagree about. It might not fix anything, but you'll be better prepared.

    AnonymousApple
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A lot of people who rely on science to tell you that you aren't what/who you are, don't actually understand the science.

    #40

    I haven't had a cigarette in 13 days after smoking for more than 25 years. I'm taking Wellbutrin and using the patch to help me through and it's working but it is still hard. I haven't told ANYONE because I can't handle people constantly asking me about it. "How's it going?" "Are you still not smoking?" "When's the last time you've had a smoke?" The reminders are a trigger for me. I've been isolating myself from people as much as possible since this started. I figure a couple more weeks and I'll come out of my "hibernation" and get back to my regular life.

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    Calypso
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can do this Jaden!! One day at a time and eventually the days will add up to a year and more 😃 Greetings from Australia 🦘

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    Beth
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, SO proud of you!! That is not easy, but with each day it will get easier. You're moving towards health, freedom and a better life! Go you!!🤗💪🕺

    albernistuff 4sale
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wellbutrin helped me kick. over 20 years and no backslide. I can even hang around smokers with no desire to light up.

    Tx jac
    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Best of luck to you!

    Tree P
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Quitting smoking IS very hard, but I am glad you are doing it. My step dad tried, but could not kick the habit. He died of lung cancer almost ten years ago. Keep up the good work. It is worth it!

    SageHare37
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Way to go! You can do this! Everyone's journey is different. Be patient with yourself, and remember most folks asking are (ignorantly) trying to encourage you. There are some excellent resources online to help you spot triggers and ways to cope. Wishing you the best!

    Caro Caro
    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Congratulations! I know how hard this is. I quit 8 years and 9kg's ago. Good luck!

    #41

    I work full-time, have freelance work and online sales of my own work, and I'm still homeless living out of my car. It has gotten ridiculously difficult to get into an apartment these days, and not only due to the high cost of rents. Many apartment management companies haven't caught on to the new "Gig Economy" so they consider me to be unemployed and have unreliable income. I want all greedy property owners to just die.

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    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *greedy landlords* is more likely what you meant. Also you should read rich dad poor dad. You too could be rich and then not blame others for your hardships (Him and his wife started their empire just like you, living in a car starting businesses from it). DM me if you need more self finance books. I was once like you until I learned what they should have taught us in school (since schools teach you to be a cog, nothing more...)

    AnonymousApple
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "not blame others for your hardships" where the actual f*ck does he do that? Can we please just acknowledge that this economy is currently f*cked and a lot of people don't get a fair chance? It's not all about "blaming someone else," that is such a cheap f*cking cop out and an insult to people who are trying their damnedest in a system and economy that makes everything harder than it should be. Inflation is INSANE right now. That's a fact, not a deflection. Also... how tf are landlords not property owners? That's literally the definition. Someone who owns a property and rents it out. If we're talking about property *managers*, okay, that's a different thing.

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    #42

    I told someone I liked my best friend and that person told him and we haven’t talked in like two months. Also I know that I am lgbtq+ but I can’t figure out my sexuality.

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    Danniee Gyrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hi. That person sucks big time. I hope you are no longer associated with them. As for your Best Friend, see if they will meet you at a coffeehouse or at a Park, so you two can talk. If they refuse, just remember the good times and LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE.

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, likely better too than spending an entire life wondering "what if" you had said something. Rejection>Regrets IMO

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    Daffodil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry that your "friend" betrayed your trust like that, and don't fret too much trying to figure out your sexual/romantic orientation. Labels are for you to use if they help, they're not forced. And don't be scared to commit to one label, if you end up wanting to use one, experiment for a while with different ones until you find one that works.

    Hei Hei
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's a tough position to be in. I'm sorry your confidante betrayed you. Sorry I don't have any comforting words - words fail me. I feel deeply for you, Ray. I do. Sending best wishes for comfort and clarity of thought.

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's the Q in LGBTQ - Questioning. It's perfectly fine to be that way.

    Devil child
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You dont need to label your sexuality just be your best and happy self.

    #43

    My parents are really homophobic and idk how to talk to them about it (15 and straight)

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    Ann Dennis
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's a tough one without them thinking, "oh, you must be one, too". Changing other people's opinion isn't easy, especially your parents.

    Beth
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm late to the party but I thought you might like to hear this. It's hard for ppl to change, esp ppl like your parents who probably grew up with that mindset and believe all sorts of untrue things about the LGBTQ+ community. My parents were like that and it took a long time, but they have actually come SO far! I can even talk to them about my own bisexuality and while it is still hard for them, esp my mom, to understand it, she asks questions and doesn't judge. I just wanted to say that to hopefully encourage you that it CAN happen! When I asked my dad what changed his mind, he told me that he had been assigned to work closely with a married gay man at his work and that seeing how normal and loving the gay man's marriage was and what a truly decent person his coworker was really stopped him in his tracks. He grew up with the impression that gay people are deviants and all that other toxicity. If you can point out things that contradict their beliefs in a loving way, that may help!

    #44

    I ran out of dog poo bags and I left one on the ground. Also: the whole world is going to s**t and I don’t like it >:(

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    #45

    It was me on the grassy knoll.

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    flutterbyy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not sure why this is downvoted, but I'm all more curious to know what a grassy knoll is.

    Marinasongs1432
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s by the place Kennedy was killed. There is conspiracy theories about there being a second shooter, but it hasn’t been proven.

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    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, I thought it was pretty funny once explained in comments. In retrospect I'm a bit surprised there wasn't more of these given the topic.

    flutterbyy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right, me too. I can understand the joke isn't for everyone and that's okay, but I still think there's too much overreaction in the comments.

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    Emma Starr
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you're how old now?? 1963 was a long time ago!

    Tree P
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So, what, should they be dead now? I was born in 1966 but I know about this.

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    #46

    The new fad of misspelling lose as loose or vice versa drives me to a level of despair I'm concerned about

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    flutterbyy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you loosed your mind? /j

    Trillian(from Hitchhiker’s Guide books)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I misspelled sense as snese once and now it’s a joke btwn me and my friends

    Boreddd🇺🇦
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And people writing to instead of too and the other way around

    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah pelling is something I miss too. /j

    #47

    I (f) am married, I really love my wife, but I have a crush on my co-worker (f).

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    RK Barbo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Crushes are normal. They happen. Don't feel ashamed. What matters is the choice you make going forward.

    Beth
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Couldn't have said it better! While it's true you can't always control your feelings, you CAN make conscious choices to diminish them like keeping space and working on things in your marriage that may be lacking. To the OP, ask yourself what it is about your crush that is so attractive. Are you missing something in your own relationship that you can work on? Crushes are fleeting, love takes time, effortand commitment.

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    #48

    I was in a relationship not too long ago with a guy that I really don't like now. He was emotionally abusive and he kept trying to get me to do stuff with him. I'm very sure that if something hadn't happened I might've been raped or forced into doing something similar. I'm also probably depressed and I'm a biromantic asexual that hasn't come out yet. I haven't told anybody except for a few people about these things. We were 13 at the time.

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    Trillian(from Hitchhiker’s Guide books)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey I’m panromantic asexual! And I’m sorry that you had to go through that and I hope you’re doing better <3

    Reece Aster
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Where do you find out about all these different types of asexual? I know I'm asexual, but not sure the best term.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You dodged a bullet for sure. May I ask how old you are now?

    #49

    I wish people would be nicer to each other. Sometimes I don’t like my sister. I think I’m lesbian. I might have a slight crush on my best friend but she’s dating another (female) friend of mine. I stole a tiny, sparkly green toy horse somewhere between the ages of 6 and 9. Then I lied about it. I just wish some people would go die in a hole.

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    #50

    I'm struggling to find in-person friends and a summer job (I'm a college student). Everyone always says you'll find your people at college, and I haven't. My job let me go because business was too slow, and I was making friends there, and, long story short, they either decided not to contact me or didn't realize that I gave them my contact info on the work chat. It's also hard for me to find friends because I'm not really into a lot of the pop culture stuff, so I don't get a decent amount of references, and I'm not at the point with my driving to where I can comfortably drive by myself. Basically, I'm lonely, kinda stuck, and talking online to someone or having to start a friendship from the ground up can be mentally exhausting. It's sucks, too, hearing how some of my old friends are in relationships and yet I've never been in one. :(

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Making new friends can be tough. Sometimes you think someone is a friend and you realize they are just "acquaintances" or co-workers. Do you play an instrument? Can you join some club? Sports, music, singing, art, whatever. Try that. Find a group with like minds. Good luck!

    SageHare37
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please remember there are such things as situational friends. These are nice people that you are thrown together with at school, work, long bus rides, etc. They are fun, but often mentally it can be tough for people to carry the friendship outside the situation. If you've offered an invitation to hang out and didn't get much response, please know that taking these to social friendships can be difficult. And, please forgive me, some of it is your current peer/age group. In my experience (yours could be different, I'm in the US), it takes a long while after high school for people to learn that friendship takes effort when it's not situational. You have already expressed a desire to put in that effort, which is awesome! Being friendly will pay off, it just may take a bit. Making friends as an adult that aren't situational friends can be tough. I suggest groups that interest you, especially common goal groups like volunteering. It's much easier to talk with people as you work together.

    Community Member
    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Thank you!! Yeah, I've been struggling to find friends for a few years now. I had a great friend in the latter half of high school, but he stopped being friends with me, I think because having a friendship and that much social interaction was just too much for him (he has autism). And, when I was in high school, I even made the Rock 'N' Roll club, but hardly anyone came, and I didn't make any friends out of it. :/ I feel like a lot of people I've met in college are just not mature enough for me. I'd be happy to talk to someone who didn't necessarily have the same interests if they were just a genuine, nice person! I have a bunch of "acquaintances", but not really that close friend you know just "gets you". And it especially sucks eating at a college dining hall alone while seeing other friends happily talk to each other.

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    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    (for context, so you don't think I'm older than I am - my mom gives me a hard time for what I can't do at my age - I'm 18 almost 19)

    Community Member
    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh! And here's the emoji for the end, since I read your description, OP of the question! 👽

    #51

    Yesterday, I Tried to take my life with painkillers paracetamol and I threw up after 2 hours so it did not work. Nobody knows that. But I’m hiding from my husband and 2 year old daughter and don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave my daughter but my husband and I are toxic / codependent he’s abusive all that good stuff. But I’m a terrible mom a terrible friend and I don’t know if I should try again. Please don’t judge me I love my baby, I just think I’m a bad parent for her because I don’t want to live like this

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    Birgit M
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Please try to reach out to someone! Maybe you could consider a telephone help line? I used one once, and the person there helped me very much. I wish I could do something for you, but I can only say this: You are not a bad mother just because you want something for yourself! You deserve to be happy!

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    First of all, you are not a terrible mum. You're having some horrible sad things to deal with. If you post your state and country we Panda's can see if there are help lines available to you. At least you can tell someone who can get you some help. For now, stay here on BP and talk to us. We will do all we can to help. I'm sending you a hug and please stay safe.

    SageHare37
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are in the US, I encourage you to look up the Crisis Text Line. It's anonymous, free and 24/7. They are a great resource for when you need to talk to someone and calling feels too overwhelming. There may be similar programs in other countries.

    Jaden Alexander
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Not wanting to live" and "not wanting to live like this" are 2 totally different things. Both present a difficult road but vastly different paths. There is hope for you (and your child) no matter which road you choose. I hope you can find your way to a better life for yourself. Best of luck. You are not alone. A good friend just went through something similar last year at Christmas. She had left her abusive husband and took the 3 kids with her. On Xmas Eve he tried to end his life. SHE is the one that actually called for a welfare check that saved his life. Since then, she has filed for and was granted a divorce. She is a single mom with 3 kids and life is a struggle but her and the children are 1000 times happier.

    #52

    It really bothers me when you are watching a movie and the protagonist college buddy, who is down on his luck, has to stay at his and his new wife's double story 2400 sq ft mini mansion. Although, they have 6 bedrooms, 5 bathroom the down on his luck buddy has to crash on the couch where all kind of uncomfortable and embarrassing antics occur. Why can't he just stay in one of the many, many spare bedrooms?!!!!

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    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And this is what you’re worried about ?

    #53

    I have never told anybody this, but when I was eleven I couldn't sleep and so like the scared eleven year old I was I went to my parents room. I heard them talking so I walked in and said hi. Apparently they didn't here me so I walked to the mattress in the corner and layed down. I stayed there the whole night while my parents were doing the dirty. I knew what it was so I guess it's good that I didn't find out that way but still very scarring.

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    #54

    I think all the people I consider as my best friends don’t consider me as their best friend.

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    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as you know they are friends, don't worry about the "bests".

    #55

    massive crush on asexual friend also i stole a couple of books from the library

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    sourlemons
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    asexual doesn’t mean they don’t date unless they’re also aromantic - as long as you accept that they have boundaries, you can still have a great romantic relationship!

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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    theyre on the aro ace spectrum and only had like 2 crushes so :|

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    Marie Dahme
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I confess I stole hundreds of books from my school library. This was years ago when books had a paper card inside them. I had a twisted logic in middle school and high school that I thought I was saving those books from being destroyed since they hadn’t been checked out for thirty or fourty years. No one ever knew. Not a kleptomaniac just empathetic bibliophile. I was proud of myself then. I feel terribly guilty about it know. The worst? My favorite person was our librarian Mrs. Hatton.

    Trillian(from Hitchhiker’s Guide books)
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    *gasp* whaaat? You stole books? /sarcastic /joking I’m a huge bookworm and love libraries, but honestly there have been times where I’ve wanted to steal a book

    Liamreel
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you return the books to the library. All is well That's how the library works.

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    #56

    I drink too much and I'm afraid to ask for help.

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    Rob Eman
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Therapy and many wonder drugs nowadays. Though AA is likely best as it will teach you to tell others so they don't accidentally put you in awkward drinking situations.

    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Admitting you have a problem is a huge step. Now take the next one, it isn’t as scary as you think…

    JB
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    So did I and I’m still working on it. BUT now I have a mental health clinician and a psychiatrist who are helping me so much. I know how scary it is. I know all about the shame and fear. What if my work finds out and I lose my job? What if my friends find out and abandon me? How/why do I keep doing this to myself? You can do this. You can do it in secret so that only the people who are providing support, therapy and medication know about it. I literally bawled my way through the intake interview because the relief of finally asking for help and getting pure support and sympathy was indescribable. I hadn’t realized just how much weight I was trying to carry alone until the professionals I reached out to, took my (metaphorical) hands and said “it’s ok, we can carry this together”.

    AW
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't let embarrassment or shame hold you back; opening up about a problem to a therapist or in group is the beginning of recovery. GL

    JB
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    JB
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No idea why BP is posting my replies in the wrong places. Happened three times today already.

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    #57

    I think I have a small crush on a fictional character! I'm way too embarrassed to say who, and I know it's stupid, however, I feel like I've been burying it down for too long now!

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    wowbagger
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My first crush was on Mr. Spock, way back in the 1970s! Many years later I wrote a romantic fanfiction about him and posted it on a fanfic website. That started a whole new love of writing fiction. Crushes can be great motivators or tools for self-exploration.

    QueenStella
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have crushes on fictional characters all the time! One day my friends were talking about which cartoon characters we thought were hot. Nothing to be ashamed of!!

    MH<3
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yup! I have lots of crushes on fictional characters...I've realized that a lot of the characters share traits that I find super important in a partner and have found in my husband! I don't think that's weird at all.

    AnonymousApple
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've had SO many crushes on fictional characters.

    Boreddd🇺🇦
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I used to have a crush on Peter Pan a while ago, so yeah, it happens

    Daffodil
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'll be honest, I've never understood the concept of having a crush on someone I've never met irl (I'm Demiromantic) but I don't think it's embarrassing at all!

    Autistic apricot
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do as well (I think I have a crush on a few 💀)

    #58

    I say this knowing good and well I’m going to sound like a complete a*****e, and I totally deserve it, but, whenever I make friends, as I learn more about them, if I find out they went through something traumatic in the past, or have harder living circumstances than I do, or have it worse than me in any way, I end up distancing myself from them. I don’t do it consciously, but it always seems to happen. I guess I’m scared of sounding spoiled or entitled, because I feel like you should be able to vent to a friend, but I’m scared if I complain that it’ll sound like I don’t care about what they went through, even though none of them have ever actually said anything that implied they’d take it that way. My brain just kinda made that up and refuses to let me not think that way. I would never do anything like that on purpose, I don’t think of them as “less” than me, I’ve always seen them as equals, but I don’t know how to stop doing it. Sorry. *emoji*

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    SageHare37
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In the end, all pain stands alone. If you vent about something and they bring up their trauma that is totally unrelated, that is something they need to deal with themselves. Saying "someone has it worse" is emotionally dismissive and teaches you that your struggles are insignificant. That's not true. Your emotions are valid. I do think friends sometimes need to give us a gentle reminder if we are making a huge deal out of something that isn't ("Uh, Sage? That purse being out of stock in the color you wanted was sad, but it's been three months. Is it worth still crying over?", etc). That doesn't mean friends shouldn't validate your feelings. I'm sorry your subconscious is distancing from you from what could be some cool folks. You might give them a chance. While you can offer friendship and a listening ear, you don't need to feel guilty because you haven't the same negative experiences as them.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't say sorry for your honest opinions. Are you distancing yourself emotionally bc you're afraid to be hurt?

    #59

    well i seriosly need to get the allergies of my chest it iches so bad!

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    #60

    I'm tired, miss my old life, and my anxiety has been crazy lately and I need to relax but I am around people I do NOT feel comfortable or happy around. I kinda hate her and the world sometimes. 😐

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    #61

    The other night I couldn’t sleep. I think it was just stress from everything going on right now in the US. So I was up at 4am, just walking around quietly, cause what else do you do at night with a houseful of people? That night, like I said, I was stressed and in a bad mental state, I had cried at midnight and again right after I was up walking. Anyways the part I need to get off my chest: when I was up walking, I was dissociating, like a lot. I’m not kidding when I say it felt like I was walking around in VR, like I could’ve reached out and swiped my hand through the couch. And I dissociate a lot, it was just really bad that night. Sometimes I wonder if that’s normal, if everyone feels disconnected from their own body and what’s going on around them and it’s just something we need to talk about more, or if there’s genuinely something wrong with me. Anyways *emoji* (cause I doubt it’ll actually show the emoji if I put one)

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    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you reading all these other posts ? You aren’t alone.

    #62

    My ex threw away my journal. Nevermind how he got it but it was my most prized possession. I want it back but I’m never going to get back those years of poetry drawings and writing about love. I’m so heartbroken.

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    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Adjust your perspective: That journal represents the old you. You will never get those years/poems/memories back. Now it's time to create new ones. This is an opportunity to start anew.

    #63

    I resent my mother for selling the house I grew up in, built a new house that I can't sell if she passes over me for reasons too complicated to explain, and BRAGGING to me that unless I want to move back to Alaska and live among relatives I strongly dislike, I'm not going to have an inheritance. I mostly resent her because I have never ONCE asked her about what I gain from her death and was willing to let her do what she feels she needs to do, but she keeps bringing it up. But she gets more than a little angry when I tell her I don't intend to outlive her so she's wasting her breath. 😒

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    natalie cohen
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She sounds like she’s becoming mentally altered. My family had to deal with this too. For the longest time they just did maddening things that wouldn’t necessarily be indicative of a mental decline, but now looking back we see that it started way earlier than any of us understood. Do you know if she has waived her HIPPA rights (she would have to sign a form giving her physician the right to discuss her medical issues with a designated individual) It sounds like she’s put the house in a trust of some kind. You should make sure she has designated someone as her Healthcare Proxy, and has a Durable Power of Attorney set up as well. (even if it isn’t you) Good luck

    #64

    My boyfriend doesn’t know how to show appreciation. Even though I know he does.

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    #65

    This is my first time posting anything on here, so here goes. I am 12 and I just got out of 6th grade and my grades were dropping. My sister went to the same school so I feel like I have to do just as good as she did but she’s always been better at school than me. I feel like my parents are gonna punish me for not getting good grades and the school doesn’t want to accommodate for my autism and ADHD. My brother and two of my friends are LGBTQ and I’m constantly worried that someone’s going to try to attack them for it. I don’t think I’m straight, but I do t no what the f**k my sexuality is so I’m worrying about that. My other friend recently had surgery on her leg and I’m worried she’s going to accidentally damage it permanently. Two of my friends live in Europe so I’m worried about them because of the war. Speaking of which, I hate what Putin is doing in Ukraine but I can’t do anything to help. I hate the way my country is going downhill (I’m American, just an FYI) and I’m worried that if things get much worse my mom is gonna move is out of the country somehow. Speaking of my family I’m also kinda hurt that my dad didn’t want me at first. Mom wanted three kids but dad wanted two. I think you can guess what number I am. I am also depressed and I have had suicidal thoughts. I actually planned out a way to kill myself and I have cut myself before, but I didn’t cut myself because I was suicidal. I did it because I got angry at myself for getting so angry at my mom for not letting me use the bathroom because I was covered with dirt and sweat from working outside. My dog who I’ve had since I was 3 I believe is on her last legs and I never really got over the death of my favorite cat. My sister also loves stealing my notebooks where I write down what my imagination comes up with, which I prefer to keep to myself since I’m self conscious about it and my sister knows that. I’m always tired and my self esteem is almost non existent. I’m sorry you had to read that, since my problems shouldn’t impact you but I really needed to get that off my chest. I don’t really have a right to post this since other people on here have actual problems unlike mine. Go ahead and downvote me. Criticize me. I don’t care. I already hate myself more than almost anyone. Nothings going to change if you insult me. I’ll survive. But thank you for reading.😔

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Don't put yourself down. You most certainly DO have a right to post here. That's what the thread is for. 1. Does the school know you have autism/ADHD? Make sure they know. 2. I'm pretty sure your parents won't punish you if your grades aren't as good as your sister - As long as you do your best. 3. You're 12 going on 13 so your sexuality will reveal itself in time. For now I suggest you let that evolve. 4. I find it really sweet that you worry about your friend - just be there for her. 5. hurting yourself is never good. Can you find someone to talk to about this? 6. I hope your dog is fine, losing an animal you love sucks. 7. Steal something precious of your sister - see how she likes that! 8. You are a lovely person. Accept who you are, love yourself. 9. A Hug from me :)

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    #66

    This is more of a complaint than getting something off my chest, but, I've been getting stomach cramps n feeling like my stomach is full for the past few days whenever I eat and it's gotten to the point where I hate eating bc I know I'll be miserable at night. Currently sitting in an empty bathtub in pajamas at 3:37 am and my phone's at 4% because if i lay down to sleep I'll feel even worse.. 🗿

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Btw y'all Im still eating. I'm gonna try to convince my parents to take me to the doctor tomorrow

    Emmanuelle Levy
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that's a good step. you might have ibs, write down foods you eat to see if there is a pattern.. Depending on what I eat, my stomach can blow up to the point where I look pregnant with twins...and in so much pain. Get well!

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    More context is I feel fine after I eat but a few hours later or at night, my stomach feels full and like it's cramping.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey, I just thought of something.... do you have a nurse at school???

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    Diana Jo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think you are constipated. Try drinking some warm prune juice. It's not as bad as you'd think and if you are constipated, you'll feel a relief like none other.

    Diana Jo
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm sorry, I just saw how old this post was. Hope everything worked out ok.

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    1.21Gigawatts?!
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is likely not it, but if there is any way perhaps test for stomach migraines. My oldest sister spent a couple years where she could barely eat and lost a fair bit of weight, threw up after eating, stomach pain, etc. Doctors kept saying “It’s worms” or “It’s a virus”. Two years went by before she was properly diagnosed with stomach migraines. She takes a pill every night (which even helps her sleep!) and now, as long as she doesn’t forget to take the pill, she’s normal again!

    Vasha
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ask your doctor to test for celiac disease, irritable bowel syndrome, or gluton intolerance. Or maybe your just dehydrated.

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's been ~4 days so I'm not that concerned at the moment. It just was painful at that moment and I needed to vent somewhere lol.

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    St34mpunk_Pirate
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe see a doctor about some kinda virus or parasite

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom thinks it's rotavirus cuz that might be what my brother has, but since it's only been ~4 days we aren't concerned (except me lol)

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    #67

    Yesterday, I Tried to take my life with painkillers paracetamol and I threw up after 2 hours so it did not work. Nobody knows that. But I’m hiding from my husband and 2 year old daughter and don’t know what to do. I don’t want to leave my daughter but my husband and I are toxic / codependent he’s abusive all that good stuff. But I’m a terrible mom a terrible friend and I don’t know if I should try again. Please don’t judge me I love my baby, I just think I’m a bad parent for her because I don’t want to live like this

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    anarkzie
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jesus, you need to get into therapy. Literally stop whatever you're doing now, and ring a suicide hotline. You thinking you're a terrible mom/friend is certainly the product of majorly distorted thinking. I don't know what else to say, but you need to get help and talk to someone, you can work through whatever is going on in your life, you have nothing to lose by trying. Please reply back to this if you can.

    #68

    My parents know I’m asexual, but keep pressuring me to have kids, when I don’t want to.

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    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't owe them grandchildren.

    Tree P
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nobody should be pressured to have kids! Only have them if YOU want them, not to please someone else.

    SageHare37
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I don't want to" is an excellent reason to not have children for *anyone*. I'm really sorry you have to deal with their unjust pressure.

    MH<3
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't owe ANYONE children. That's a personal decision for you to make.

    #69

    OK here goes please be kind. I cannot stand Greta Thornburg. Sorry there it is off my chest. There is just something I can't put my finger on. How does she make money? How does she travel all over the world and not create some kind of carbon footprint. It's now off my chest I can now sleep more easily.

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    Adam L
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I may be downvoted for this, but I cannot watch any movie with Leonardo DiCaprio in it. I think he's grossly overrated.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She travels by boat, train, public transport. She really tries to lessen her carbon footprint.

    QueenStella
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I cant stand Martha Stewart 🤷‍♀️

    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's probably true for most of us. I know it's true for me.

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    AnonymousApple
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Her parents are/were famous. Her mother is an opera singer and her father is an actor. She also gets sponsored by a lot of groups. And she makes an effort to limit her carbon footprint when she travels. She literally sailed across the ocean on an eco-friendly yacht to avoid taking a plane. Like, two seconds of Googling would show you all this. https://www.tuko.co.ke/406466-greta-thunberg-net-worth-2022-how-wealthy-teen-climate-activist.html

    #70

    1# I've basically been continuously ill since I had covid in November despite not being very ill while I was testing positive (vaxxed– between first and second vaccines,

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh cool like 80% of this got cut off. GREAT/s

    #71

    I'm not a straight perfect kid, I'm pansexual and nonbinary, and I want to go by a different name/pronouns. also I have a huge crush on a friend I haven't seen in a year. I'm always angry but cant tell anyone but random people in the internet ;p

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    #72

    I am an introvert. I love my own company. I am also living with my bf and our 3 daughters. On a daily basis I daydream about being alone again. Even just for a week or so. I do love my kids to bits and pieces and with every fiber of my being. But I miss my own time so much and I think this may be part of the reason my memory is so bad, my stress is up, I studder pretty often, forget words, and need systems and planning in order to function just fairly normally. I look forward to when the kids leave home. My oldest turned 5 years old today 😬 (I am so happy and proud for her, though. Her eyes shined like rivers of gold all day because she was so excited about everything that happened today).

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    SageHare37
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is nothing wrong with desiring a solo vacation, or even a staycation when everyone else goes on vacation and you get time alone. I think most of the world after the past two years needs a break to be alone. If you are struggling with executive function, you might consult a physician or a councilor as it may be a sign you need some changes. Aside from what your physician suggests, you might consider weekly "alone time". Perhaps you and your bf could take turns taking the kids to a park while the other stays home, or watching the kids while the other parent goes somewhere to get some alone time, like a coffee shop or a park bench. Wanting some alone time doesn't mean you are less of a parent, you are still a human.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Lena, I think every mother dreams of alone time. It's normal. You must be exhausted. I don't have children but watching parents around me working, raising kids, having a social life, cleaning and cooking.... Just looking at this makes me so tired. Do you have the grandparents around to care of the kids for a few days?

    #73

    I don't want to work. I have no real ambition for a career. This idea you must "be someone and make tons of money" feels like it's been programmed into our heads since elementary school. Most of us will manage to be well-off enough to live comfortably in a little home. Many will struggle to earn a decent living and be stuck at a job they loath because... money. I don't want to interact with people everyday, but I must to get my art out there. I don't want to work and have people yell down my ear over their issues. I don't want to work. I want to sleep. Just... sleeeeep .. .. forever....

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    Elliot Fowler
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You know what is weird. Effort feels good. All humans feel pride after accomplishing a task that required effort no matter what it was (example, building a piece of furniture yourself, drawing an art piece, etc.). But for some reason this joy is not exist at work. Why is that? what is wrong with the way people work? (from ‘Anti-Work’: 59 Of The Most Accurate Capitalism Tweets And Jokes That Prove We Already Live In Orwellian World)

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just that, but the pressure to pick a career, go to college. Sure there are things I want to learn to do and I would love to master something. I love that sense of accomplishment. In reality, to get the actual skill and earn a living with the skills you love to do, for some reason, is just out of reach for us. When we do get into the field there is so much competition, mind games, people higher up getting in our way, shooting us down it distracts us from the enjoyment of the journey, makes us miserable and all we can do is vie for the ending. The ending never comes. We lose perspective and reasoning to why we do what we do until we completely forget then lose interest. The other reason, is we get pressured to just get a job to so we're independent, and then all our energy and focus goes toward that rather than what we want to be doing. We become trapped, develop skills irrelevant to the skills we desire and that becomes what we brand ourselves. If you can find an out you're lucky.

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    #74

    Pretty much everything I have ever done

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm pretty sure you have done some great things! Remember that.

    #75

    I love road trips, but I really don't want to take this one. I had a very long post prepared, but I think it's best if I keep that to my journal.

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    #76

    This might be a lot, so be prepared. I’m only 11, but I have a lot going on. So, I’m in a friend group of 3. We’re in the break between elementary and middle school. I’m not going to school with either of them next yr. The male, Jude, it’s hid middle name, I’m in love with. He dosent know. The female, Juliet, well, I’ll get to that later. So Jude’s parents are getting divorced, and he is moving in with his dad. He therefore, will be going to a diff school then everyone thinks, he has only told me any of this. (Originally he was going to School with Juliet.) I’m going to a private school. He and Juliet are in a fight. We communicate through roblox, but Juliet and jude have unfriended each other. So me and jude are pranking Juliet by me telling her that he hasn’t been online in like a month. Therefore, when she goes to school and he’s not there, it will be ‘confirmed’ that he’s dead. And for some reason, I don’t feel guilty at all. Should I? Also, Jude is going to go to school with a girl who has a crush on him that we knew previously. Which she told me that she liked him and told me not to tell him. But I did, I feel guilty. And he knows that she will be going to that school. Next, I think I’m bi and have only told Juliet, but I told her over roblox even though we can text whenever we want. The problem is that a: I’m only pretty sure, but even if I knew then I wouldn’t tell anyone else. B: when I told her, she left the game. Then joined me later and acted like nothing had happened. Next, I’m always called super smart and intelligent, and etc by everyone. But I’m pretty sure I’m Juliet and jude are actually smarter than me even though they always say that I’m smarter. Also, Jude always says that he’s stupid, but he’s actually rlly smart (I’m not just saying that cause I’m in love with him) I’m actually rlly depressed, but I don’t tell anyone bc then they’ll say I’m just faking for the attention. Juliet broke her arm, but for some reason, I’m don’t feel sorry for her. I write stories, and have won several contests, but I don’t think I’m actually good at it. I’m Srry for my rant, but thanks for reading!

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    Reece Aster
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What you call 'pranking' just sounds mean. What I regret from that age was all the gossip and bullying.

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ok, so first. Ik it’s kinda mean, but everyone always does it all the time, she’s pranked me a lot. and don’t say anything like “that’s just them,” or “u don’t have to be like everyone else” cause I’ve heard that 90 million times 😒. Next, they practically hate each other, so I’m also doing it to try to make Juliet not hate him or at least make her feel some empathy. It’s also not bullying, I’ve been bullied a lot and would never do anything like that to someone, and don’t act like you’ve never pranked a friend b4. I’m tired of people acting like I’m so young, or don’t understand anything, or are always happy, or that everyone in my age group are perfect little angels who always get along perfectly; WE’RE NOT! *sigh* Srry if I got a little defensive; I’m in my period.

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ariana, I don't think you are mean but pranking Juliet is not done. You are all so young and at a tender age. Things that happen now could influence the rest of their (your) lives. Be kind and don't get in the middle of a fight with Juliet and Jude. They must figure this out themselves. If you take sides then for sure you will lose at least one friend and that's never a good thing. Don't be caught in the middle. Also, when someone tells you a secret - you should never tell anyone else. That's a breach of confidence. Imagine someone telling your secrets to some other person. You wouldn't like that at all. Being bi is ok but for now you are way too young to make any choices regarding this. It will evolve and eventually you will know for sure. You are so frigging young - wait. Nobody is stupid. I think you have to watch out because you are in a muddle about all that's going on in your life. Take it easy - you are 11 and have a whole life before you.

    #77

    The last person I considered a close friend stopped communicating with me recently. If it weren't for my So I would be completely alone, I got out of the army in 2014 and every year since I lose connection with someone. (No it's not me, it's time I guess. I really don't know)

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    Demongrrrrl
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ask them why. Say"I've noticed we aren't as close as we used to be. Did I do something wrong? What can I do better?"

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    At this point it's been too long and I've lost a lot of them. The last one doesn't answer so I see no need to keep pushing anything, this has how it's happened slowly we just stop talking...

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    #78

    I'm in love w my best friend and lm pretty sure he likes my other friend

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    #79

    Addictive. The word is addictive NOT addicting. Drives me mental every. Single. Time.

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    #80

    on the topic w my friends, i told them i found the idea of masturbation disgusing and i dont know why and got hated on :(

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    Boreddd🇺🇦
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's ok to feel like it's disgusting, it's your opinion and it shouldn't disturb anyone. As a matter of facts, I also think it's kinda gross

    larked
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well it depends on how you say it and what you meant by it. Saying the idea is PERSONALLY disgusting in the way it makes YOU uncomfortable is fine, but saying if anyone does it they’re disgusting and it’s a horrible act you are wrong. Masturbation is a healthy and natural human instinct (that some people don’t get and it’s not wrong !!), but it *can* be addictive. But it has multiple benefits proven by science and it also helps with period cramps !! That being said you cant bash someone for their opinions especially when backed with scientific evidence. TLDR just watch how you say it :)

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yes, thhank you, i just meant i personally found it was gross

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    #81

    ✴️Hubby & I are BOTH RETIRED (Me (@57) Hubby (@55) We"WORK"even though TECHNICALLY we're SENIOR CITIZENS🧓We watch our ACTIVE Grandson (4) days/week🧍Now, Me (71) Hubby (68) Since we've watched our Grandson from "Baby-Baby" to ALMOST (4) we're ACTIVE (NO BREAKS on our watch🙂Hubby up@4:00A🌄Me up@5:00AM🌅We live in SENIOR🏢HOUSING (Community🌲Park across the street🙂LIFE is GOOD EXCEPT for PEOPLE who IGNORE US (PEOPLE walk FAST & have NO MANNERS for "SENIORS" (PERSONALLY❓It's as though we're INVISIBLE and MOST people are RUDE‼️ i'm GLAD we're NOT OLD to KEEP UP with an almost (4) year old💜

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Them kids will keep you young. Those who ignore others are idiots. It must be a blessing to see so much of your grandchild.

    #82

    I have terrible relationship commitment issues and when things get to serious I run away.

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    *Displayname*=idk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Try getting the other person to slow down . It night be moving to fast and that is why it seems to serious. Like you just stack a little at a time. Idk I've never really had any serious relationships .

    #83

    Mmmmm I HATE the fact that I practically rely on relationships to keep me upright. Ever since I was young even before second grade (I’m going into junior year of High School now) I’ve had what I call a Disney Princess complex because I’ve always HAD to have a crush or a partner or else there was just this,,, void in my gut- not necessarily horrible but it felt like I was missing a part of me- this has led to me being assaulted in relationships, even assaulting others (in the means of forcing them into a kiss IN 1ST AND 2ND GRADE I HAVE NOT DONE IT SINCE I WAS YOUNG AND DIDNT KNOW), and breaking other people’s hearts when the dream suddenly stopped because I don’t know I’d get a weird feeling in my gut like something was off and leave. I don’t know if this DPC was started by my obsession with Disney movies or my (maybe it’s still getting diagnosed) ADHD/maybe more or by my parents teasing. The worst part is I’m starting to see me in my little sister who’s going into 1st grade as in she’s chasing down boys her age and calling them her boyfriend (they’re not I’ve had a little boy come crying to me) and getting all over them. It’s reminded me so much of myself I’ve started a subconscious hatred of that side of her and I hate myself for hating that valuable sweet young girl, it tears me apart. Ugh honestly the worst part is how I know and have to live with the fact I’ll never have a first time for virtually anyone romantically or sexually and also the fact that I stole many young boys’ first kisses but I’m glad we moved so they never have to face me the person who took that important memory from them ever again. I hate having to love someone but I love loving people on my own, I just wish that I could be single in peace and not have to chase down any boys or girls continuously to have peace, it could’ve saved me and other people’s innocence Thank you for listening

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Have you tried telling your parents? Or find a teacher you can talk to about this.

    #84

    I’m pansexual, but my parents don’t know. Siblings and a couple others do though. This one is kinda weird/embarrassing… each night I wait for my parents to fall asleep. Then spend most of the night reading fan fiction. Not the sexual ones though THOSE ARE WEIRD! Sometimes I pretend to be a character from a video game or move or tv show that I like. Then basically a fanfic in my head while kinda acting it out. I’m weird. I promised my siblings that I’ll get therapy in high school due to our mother but secretly I feel like I can’t trust a therapist to not tell my mom anything. I’m paranoid that my mom will find out anything I say about her and will punish me…

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    *Displayname*=idk
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do the same. I read a story/manga and make a fan fiction in my head, or i read fan fiction and reenact them in my head in different ways. I never told nobody so you are the first person who I ever told.

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The therapist won't tell a soul. They are sworn to secrecy (at least here in France). Before you tell the therapist ask about this ...

    #85

    I'm not a straight perfect kid, I'm pansexual and nonbinary, and I want to go by a different name/pronouns. also I have a huge crush on a friend I haven't seen in a year. I'm always angry but cant tell anyone but random people in the internet ;p

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Straight kids aren't perfect either. Nobody is. You are you.

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    #86

    My friend is moving in with me when her lease runs up at the end of the month. The day after I agreed she could move in she basically moved in. I had really wanted that month for alone time. I tried talking to her about wanting alone time, but she guilted me again. She is a good friend, but she manipulates me and guilts me more than my Jewish grandmother ever did.

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    #87

    Mmmmm I HATE the fact that I practically rely on relationships to keep me upright. Ever since I was young even before second grade (I’m going into junior year of High School now) I’ve had what I call a Disney Princess complex because I’ve always HAD to have a crush or a partner or else there was just this,,, void in my gut- not necessarily horrible but it felt like I was missing a part of me- this has led to me being assaulted in relationships, even assaulting others (in the means of forcing them into a kiss IN 1ST AND 2ND GRADE I HAVE NOT DONE IT SINCE I WAS YOUNG AND DIDNT KNOW), and breaking other people’s hearts when the dream suddenly stopped because I don’t know I’d get a weird feeling in my gut like something was off and leave. I don’t know if this DPC was started by my obsession with Disney movies or my (maybe it’s still getting diagnosed) ADHD/maybe more or by my parents teasing. The worst part is I’m starting to see me in my little sister who’s going into 1st grade as in she’s chasing down boys her age and calling them her boyfriend (they’re not I’ve had a little boy come crying to me) and getting all over them. It’s reminded me so much of myself I’ve started a subconscious hatred of that side of her and I hate myself for hating that valuable sweet young girl, it tears me apart. Ugh honestly the worst part is how I know and have to live with the fact I’ll never have a first time for virtually anyone romantically or sexually and also the fact that I stole many young boys’ first kisses but I’m glad we moved so they never have to face me the person who took that important memory from them ever again. I hate having to love someone but I love loving people on my own, I just wish that I could be single in peace and not have to chase down any boys or girls continuously to have peace, it could’ve saved me and other people’s innocence Thank you for listening

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How did it post again what did I do oh no

    #88

    Mmmmm I HATE the fact that I practically rely on relationships to keep me upright. Ever since I was young even before second grade (I’m going into junior year of High School now) I’ve had what I call a Disney Princess complex because I’ve always HAD to have a crush or a partner or else there was just this,,, void in my gut- not necessarily horrible but it felt like I was missing a part of me- this has led to me being assaulted in relationships, even assaulting others (in the means of forcing them into a kiss IN 1ST AND 2ND GRADE I HAVE NOT DONE IT SINCE I WAS YOUNG AND DIDNT KNOW), and breaking other people’s hearts when the dream suddenly stopped because I don’t know I’d get a weird feeling in my gut like something was off and leave. I don’t know if this DPC was started by my obsession with Disney movies or my (maybe it’s still getting diagnosed) ADHD/maybe more or by my parents teasing. The worst part is I’m starting to see me in my little sister who’s going into 1st grade as in she’s chasing down boys her age and calling them her boyfriend (they’re not I’ve had a little boy come crying to me) and getting all over them. It’s reminded me so much of myself I’ve started a subconscious hatred of that side of her and I hate myself for hating that valuable sweet young girl, it tears me apart. Ugh honestly the worst part is how I know and have to live with the fact I’ll never have a first time for virtually anyone romantically or sexually and also the fact that I stole many young boys’ first kisses but I’m glad we moved so they never have to face me the person who took that important memory from them ever again. I hate having to love someone but I love loving people on my own, I just wish that I could be single in peace and not have to chase down any boys or girls continuously to have peace, it could’ve saved me and other people’s innocence Thank you for listening

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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Jesus Christ how did I post three times help

    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hahaha. It's ok. We have all made that mistake... No worries.

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