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30 People Online Answer “What Are Some Of The ‘Guy Code’ And ‘Girl Code’ Unwritten Rules That You Always Follow?”
In social situations, we follow plenty of unwritten rules. However, it can be smart to look up other cultures' customs for tourists or just check in to what is expected of you as a friend or a guest in certain situations. Unwritten rules of how people look out for close friends or strangers of the same sex are popularly referred to as girl code and boy code. There is plenty of comedy that pokes fun at those that take same-sex loyalty to the extremes.
u/bakedbutnotburnt asked Reddit "what are some of the 'guy code' and 'girl code' unwritten rules that you always follow?" The question was upvoted 42.9k times. Bored Panda selected responses people tended to agree more with, take a look:
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#1
If I offer someone a beer or other alcoholic beverage and they turn it down, I never push it. Sometimes I don't want to drink and I hate being pressured. Never pressure a drink on someone.
funkybluegirl 3 years ago
Yes! This is huge. I never understood why some people feel the need to push alcohol and/or drugs on others.
Eb 3 years ago
One word for it is 'enabling' - they need someone else to drink so they can drink.
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Otter 3 years ago
As someone who's been sober for 15 years and who intends to stay that way -THANK YOU! Everyone, please respect anyone who says "I don't drink any more", that means they have a damn good reason not to drink. Also respect anyone who says "No, thank you", they might also have a damn good reason to decline, but they don't want to discuss their reasons, and they don't have to.
Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
And for the love of Pete, never make someone explain why they don't drink, that's none of your business.
Eb 3 years ago
Good point. Reminds me of that time Ellen tried to make Mariah Carey drink as a way of making her admit she was pregnant. Mariah later had a miscarriage.
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Feral Heart 3 years ago
THIS IS HUGE!!! If someone politely declines an alcoholic drink - respect it! We have a colleague at work who doesn't drink and bosses are always forcing him like "C'MON C'MON". STOP PREASSURING PEOPLE - MAYBE THEY ARE ALCOHOLICS! You never know!
Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
People do it because they subconsciously feel some kind of shame about how reliant they are on drink being part of their fun. I understand one encouragement because people do sometimes like to be persuaded "oh go on then, it's not a school night", but after two declines let it go.
Terran 3 years ago
Not necessarily. In my country (Austria) drinking alcohol, especially beer, is a huge part of social culture, so especially young people drink loads of alcohoI. So being able to drink a buttload of beer and still being capable of standing straight is considered a skill you can be proud of. So no, I was not subconsciously ashamed of getting drunk, I was actually proud of getting drunk. I did pressure a lot of people into drinking more then they should and I realize I was an actual A-hole back in the day and stopped doing that. But many others don't seem to have grown up and are still doing this.
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MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago
If I have to drink in order to be fun then I have to ask why you invited me.
Bexxxxx 3 years ago
I’m a recovering alcoholic and had an awkward work dinner where a n important guy from out of town was just baffled that I wasn’t drinking. Kept trying to buy me a drink, insisting, tried to go behind my back and order me one. I didn’t want to tell him I’m a recovering alcoholic (not his business and he may be my future boss someday so didn’t want to tell him) but I really wish just one of my coworkers, who are aware not to offer me alcohol, had said something or tried to save me while he grilled me (“who doesn’t drink on Friday night, come on, you don’t have kids!”) instead of blankly staring while I was scrambling to figure out what to say.
Tamra Stiffler 3 years ago
I'm the same, and there are certain situations where you don't necessarily want to "out" yourself and, really, it's no one's business. I've come up with "Alcohol doesn't agree with me", or "Booze really kills my stomach". Both of which are true!
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Answers about guy code seemed to focus on uplifting other men, helping a friend flirt or fight, how to treat women, friends' romantic partners, and who pays in what situation. However, the girl code was mostly focused on appearance, periods, including sharing menstrual products and when and how to tell someone about a leak, and safety, especially from men. Both addressed topics of cheating in a committed relationship. Some people responded universally for any sex.
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#2
As a guy that lifts weights and has brought some of his other male (and two female friends) into the fold - you never, EVER, slander another person's weight on any lift. If your friend is 250 pounds and only benches 135, but is trying his a** off - then you never make a sound other than howling intense encouragement at them.
The rule in my basement is - everything is heavy to SOMEBODY. As long as you're giving it your full-a**, then the number is irrelevant.
Tami 3 years ago (edited)
Absolutely, and your cartilage may thank you later in life if you don't lift heavy.
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Mike Loux 3 years ago
THIS. Absolutely THIS. I turn 51 next week and recently started lifting (under the much-needed tutelage of a trainer). The last time I bench pressed anything was in college, and I have no idea how much I managed at the time. Yesterday I benched a 20kg bar with a mere 15lb plate on each side. So, basically 75 pounds. It's not much, but I am calling it a personal best. Meanwhile, my wife can dead lift way more than me (and her form is better, too). Neither one of us makes fun of the other - it's all encouragement. And it's awesome.
von Funnyname 3 years ago
I love this. One of my favorite powerlifting programs has a rule that I adopted for any lifting I've done since: "We Never Miss A Lift". Always end on a good note, and never EVER allow yourself to get negative/in your head about it. Same goes with a training buddy. Also have a personal one of: "did you move today?" because sometimes you need to keep the bar at a gracious height to get over
#3
Brocode: If a girl passes out at a party, you're not allowed to touch her. Make sure one of her lady friends knows ASAP, preferable a relatively sober one.
Scott N 3 years ago
Messing with her is against the law.. keeping that from happening is bro-code ..
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Stacey Childers 3 years ago
And her girls don't leave her alone or without her. We go together we leave together
Marco Conti 3 years ago
Why "Brocode"? Why not "basic human decency"? No one should pat themselves on the back for NOT assaulting an unconscious person.
Lynsey Edwards 3 years ago
Where in that statement did the person say about assaulting the girl? Basically saying don't help a drunk girl because you will be accused of assaulting her even if you were only actually helping her!
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martin734 3 years ago
The message is a good one but it could be taken too far. If someone is unconscious through intoxication, it is extremely important to place them into a safe position so that their airway is not compromised and to keep monitoring them. It may also be necessary to provide first aid if they have injured themselves. If you do have to touch them please have someone with you and explain to them what you are doing and why. I was a Paramedic before moving into physiotherapy and I unfortunately attended a small number of incidents involving drug or alcohol intoxication where someone died from choking or other causes because people were too scared to administer first aid. Sometimes it is necessary to touch someone of any gender who is unconscious, even if that means physical contact between a guy and an unconscious girl.
Mark Karol-Chik 3 years ago
I rescued a very attractive and VERY drunk woman at a bar one time. Sure, she was flashing her goods leaning over talking to the DJ, but as she was starting to leave the bar, the wolves encircled her. I cu through them, gathered her up and gave her a ride home. Got her to her apartment and had her room mate take care of her.
Ryan-James O'Driscoll 3 years ago
Don't leave her in a vulnerable situation in order to save your own skin. Get her friends to help her if they are around but if you need to help someone, help them. Just don't be a creep, don't do anything stupid and treat her with respect. If their friends are not around, it might not hurt to get a female friend to assist you, if you can. Just to put her mind at ease if she doesn't remember the night before.
Duane Johnston 3 years ago
It's also guys job to protect her until her friends get her out of there. The next time you see her it never happened, she already feels bad enough. Leave it at that
#4
If your friends help you move, you are expected to a) be packed already... And b) provide pizza and beer.
Zoe's Mom 3 years ago (edited)
Considering what movers cost, a proper meal is always better. This is something I always do; but that's just me.
The Deez 3 years ago
It's so awful to show up to help someone move, only to find out that 95% of their stuff isn't even packed! That happened many years ago when my SIL and her husband asked for help, and I was so frustrated. I didn't sign up to help PACK, dangit!!
Amy S 3 years ago
Ugh I had this once, didn't even have boxes ready to start packing.
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Rembrandt Q. Einstein 3 years ago
Or if you're over 35 find some movers so you and your friends don't end up slipping a disc for some pizza and beer.
Katinka Min 3 years ago
And once you are over 30 stop asking your freinds to do the heavy lifting. You're old enough to pay someone and they are old enough for back problems.
Julie C Rose 3 years ago
Yup. If you can’t afford movers then it is what it is, but if you can afford them without financial duress, it’s better for everyone.
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albernistuff 4sale 3 years ago
Casual friends help you move furniture around, real friends helps you move to another house, TRUE FRIENDS help you move bodies.
Marco Conti 3 years ago
Sure, pizza can be delivered, beer available at the new house for after the moving part.
Synsepalum 3 years ago
And if a friend helps you move, you are obligated to help them move when needed.
Octavia Hansen 3 years ago
I always had a buffet set up at the place I was moving to -- makes everybody happy that it's ready when they arrive.
Snorkeldorf 3 years ago
That is such a thoughtful thing to do. You are a good friend.
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#5
Girl code: if something is fixable within five minutes (make-up, something stuck in teeth, small things on appearance) you tell her and help her if needed, if it isn't fixable on the spot, you keep your mouth shut and ESPECIALLY don't point it out to others.
Softball05 3 years ago
Yes!! One time I had a girl shout at me about a particularly bad breakout across the classroom, and the entire room went silent. Don't do this. It feels horrible- they're already aware of it
Big Chungus 3 years ago
The amount of times I have even had adults come up to me and mention my acne breakouts (especially while pregnant when I can't use my usual medication) its insane and rude
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ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
people own mirrors ok.....n try their best to be confident despite their insecurities.....u arent helping anyone by pointing them out
Jo Choto 3 years ago
I was in a busy restaurant and my server had something like spinach in her teeth, a big enough piece that it looked like she had a tooth missing. She was working hard and smiling and people were giving her side eye. She was noticing this but didn't know why. When she got to our table I simply leaned in and quietly let her know she had a little something stuck in her teeth. She came back a few minutes later and said she was REALLY grateful, because she wouldn't have checked a mirror or anything else until the end of her shift, and would have felt horrible looking like that the whole night and no one saying anything. You are definitely helping someone if you point something out that they don't know about, that you KNOW they would fix if they knew about it.
Load More Replies... Ryan-James O'Driscoll 3 years ago
It's not really about the time. Does the person need to know for their own wellbeing? Give them a heads up. Just be nice about it. If not, mind your own damn business. Don't leave them blissfully unaware of an issue just because the fix isn't quick.
Marco Conti 3 years ago
Again, basic decency? The worrisome part is that there are people that relish the opportunity to humiliate someone else.
buttonpusher 3 years ago
What if it's not fixable on the spot because of how bad it is? I'd be so pissed off nobody pointed it out.
#6
Female here.
If you see another girl crying in the bathroom of the bar/club/venue you're at, you ask what's wrong and try to help.
If you have a tampon or pad to spare and someone needs it, even if it's someone you hate, offer it to them.
If a girl looks distressed or uncomfortable with the guy who is hitting on her at the bar/club/venue you're at, she's now going to be a new member of your crew! This one is a little tricky, but it's usually pretty obvious when someone needs an out but can't manage it or is frozen or intimidated. If you see it happening, try to catch her eye because she'll be looking around. Once you make eye contact it's pretty easy to figure out if she needs an out, then swoop in and do the whole "Hey girl! Where the crap have you been, we're all waiting over at the table for you!" And then you hook your elbow through hers and walk her back to your table of friends.
If you see a KNOW that a friend's boyfriend/fiance/husband doing shady, skeezy sh**, you tell that friend right away.
Pablo Ramos 3 years ago
Drunk girl at a club's restroom: "I'm gonna call my ex". Her friend and unknown girls in three stalls: "DON'T CALL YOUR EX!!"
Zoe's Mom 3 years ago
That last line is tricky because couples will sometimes stay together and you become the bad person for spilling the beans. Thread lightly on that on.
May 3 years ago
What? Really? I've never known this to happen. Telling someone a too honest opinion about an SO, can be a bad idea, but I've never seen it ruin a friendship when reporting on SOs actions.
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MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago
I have social anxiety when I'm in large crowds of people I don't know. My kid's friend's mom invited me out to a saloon and then left me in the middle of the seating area to go play slots or talk to someone, Idk tbh. She took a long time and I started getting an anxiety attack I was trying to suppress but the tears started flowing, and I felt like a big loser crying in the middle of a bar. A group of women next to me noticed, greeted themselves and said I could join their group. Their compassion gave me more confidence that there are good people in strange crowds.
Duane Johnston 3 years ago
If girl comes up to you at a club looking distressed guys she's now your oldest best friend and you are gonna help her get rid of the drunk a**hole whoses trying paw her and can't take the hint to go away. This is a requirement gentleman!
WatermelonTheDutchie 3 years ago
the crying in the bathroom thing has happened to me a few times, and each time its always helped lift my mood, even just a little bit
Ivana 3 years ago
I stay out of giving an opinion about someone's significant other unless they are in an abusive relationship. People gave their very unwanted opinions about my husband all the time when we first started dating because he was not motivated and wasn't making a lot of money. He was the complete opposite of me and no one could understand the relationship and constantly put him down. But he is incredibly emotionally supportive, he treats me very well, keeps the house clean, helps me with my depression and anxiety, has even saved my life. So yea, he is nothing like me and that is exactly why we work so well together but people constantly attacking him led to a lot of issues in our relationship because I knew he was a better person than what people said and then kept feeling resentful that he didn't prove it to them when he never should have had any obligation to prove s**t to anyone but me. Only time I have spoken out against a SO was one who was an abusive alcoholic.
Kelli Pike 3 years ago
World peace can be found in women's bathrooms at a bar a few hours into the night. You're all friends, you all help each other out, and contacting an ex is utterly forbidden.
#7
See something, compliment something.
Zoe's Mom 3 years ago (edited)
And compliment the same sex. People seem to be afraid that they will look 'gay' if they do this. So what! Compliment away.
Tracy Wallick 3 years ago
Compliment all sexes, but remember the golden rule: if you wouldn't want it said to you in prison, it's not a compliment, it's scary.
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Sarah 3 years ago
Love this! The other day I was out shopping and was wearing a kind of ridiculous but super fun Christmas sweater (had the Bumble from the Rudolph claymation special, all tangled up in Christmas lights). I seemed to get a compliment on it every 20 minutes or so! It put me in such a great mood! It honestly boosted my confidence for the day and made me smile for a long time.
funkybluegirl 3 years ago
I compliment strangers (and non-strangers) all the time and have taught my kid to do the same. If you have a nice thought about someone, letting them know might just make their day. 🙂
Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago
As we were in the checkout line, I was explaining to my husband that I love paying people random compliments. He said it was weird so I said, "Just watch." and as we walked by a woman in a pretty sundress, I said, "You look beautiful in that dress!" to her and she smiled and stood up straighter and you could tell her whole mood changed for the better. It cost me nothing and made her day that little bit better. Totally worth it!
Bexxxxx 3 years ago
Compliment your guys too! I work in an office setting and sometimes the young guys show up in a nice new suit, new haircut, new shoes. I make sure to compliment like I would my girl friends - “you look like such a boss today!” “Your whole outfit looks so good together!” “Oooo you look awesome today!” “You had such a good idea in that meeting,” “Youre a pretty smart guy and I love your ideas” Etc
Mimi M 3 years ago
When I compliment a married man, I either tell it to his wife or if she's not around I say 'tell your wife that her husband...'
Gin Saya Carter 3 years ago
Yes! Giving random but genuine compliments is one of my favorite things to do! Makes you both feel good! :)
Snorkeldorf 3 years ago (edited)
My stylist is awesome. One day at the grocery store I had a woman compliment my haircut. I was shopping during lunch and worked pretty far away from my home. I gave her the name of my stylist but explained that she wasn't local. She again complimented me and then said "but I prefer men, if you know what I mean.". I originally though she meant a male stylist and then realized she thought I was gay. My hair is short, I'm not gay, but it was a very nice compliment.
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#8
Bros before ho*s, but not before wives. Sure it’s sucks when a buddy has to stay home for a weekend camping trip, but if his wife’s sick and they have a 3 month old, it’s probably best that he keeps his family’s interests above your own haha
Jo Choto 3 years ago
Here's my code: anyone male over the age of 14 who refers to a woman as a "ho" can get bent.
Sarcastic Cow 3 years ago (edited)
Younger than 14 CAN refers to a woman as hoe? Well this young gentleman needs a detention.
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AutisticMum 3 years ago
But no one also has to stay home from a friends trip simply due to having a young baby at home.
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s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago
I object to women being called, er,hose,just because it makes a neat rhyme. And for all other reasons.
MyOpinionHasBeenServed 3 years ago
Girlfriends, fiances and wives are not hoes. If someone refers to your partner as a "hoe" just because they're female then they have no respect for or your partner.
Caro Caro 3 years ago
Like talking about their "b!tches" .... And songs with that word and girls singing along. Grrrr
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Tenacious Squirrel 3 years ago
Change wives to partners. Also they don’t need to have a baby or child to have other important matters to deal with.
#9
In his home, you always call another man's dog a good boy
Otter 3 years ago
All dogs are good boys or good girls! Even if they're just fairly good boys or girls.
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Feral Heart 3 years ago
Not really! I stopped visiting my cousin because her dog was (still is) unbelievable! And I told her that. You literally can't take a sip of coffee without dog jumping on you.
ZAPanda 3 years ago
yep. I realise most people in the west think they're sweet and nice etc., but I think there's a bias towards dogs. Here there are mixed feelings. I find them intrusive as you say. It caused some controversy a few years back. https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2253822/Jacob-Zuma-says-black-people-buy-dog-walks-just-copying-white-culture.html
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Tracy Jimenez 3 years ago
or if you are in a woman's home. If her dog doesn't like you, the dog wins.
#10
Should a bro die in a weight lifting related accident, a bro will add atleast 100 lbs to the bar before reporting the incident
Sarah 3 years ago
LOL This sounds like the equivalent to asking someone to clear your browser history.
s. vitkovitsky 3 years ago
In the olden days, it would be to get rid of amy reading material under the bed.
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Vanta Black 3 years ago
"Dude died, but he was going for 450, and you never deny a bro his dreams. Lift in power, homie. Jesus is gonna be jealous of how jacked you are."
Sage Gusano 3 years ago
So if I die bench pressing, it will appear as if I were able to life 115 pounds! LOL
Random Anon 3 years ago
A guy's phone batteries died and his wife can't reach him. So she called two of his buddies one after the other. They both swore the husband is with him but cannot talk right now.
UpQuarkDownQuark 3 years ago
It’s nice to know it’ll look like I can lift 105lbs if I die at the gym.
PandaGirl85 3 years ago
That's like me and my Bff's code: if one person dies, then download all their fanfiction onto your computer and delete it of their computer before telling anyone.
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#11
If someone offers to pay, you should ask them if they are sure. If they are, then it is rude to further reject what is supposed to be a kindness on their part.
"I got the bill."
"Are you sure?"
"Yeah, don't worry about it."
"Thank you."
Immortal Emperor Paradox 3 years ago
It depends. Some of my relatives are big misers. Getting money out of them is like winning the world cup.
Tracy 3 years ago
Hard disagree from me. If the other person isn't sure, they wouldn't have (or shouldn't have) offered. Why play games about it?
Troux 3 years ago (edited)
The games come in when it's competitive and everyone wants to be the generous one.
Load More Replies... Scrupulous Panda 3 years ago
It is hard to respond to, “Are you sure?” I love it when the other person responds, “ Want to split the bill?” Then I can say yes, if I am short on funds, or decline their offer if I want the opportunity to be generous.
AnnaBanana 3 years ago
My family fights over who pays EVERY time we eat out together! We end up with all sorts of shenanigans, trying to be the person who gets to the wait staff first with our credit card. Then everyone gets mad at the winner and the whole thing happens again next time we eat together!
Anna Wu 3 years ago
In some countries it's traditional to have a little friendly fight for who pays the bill. The next time the other person gets the bill but there is still the friendly fight. Haha
Vicky Z 3 years ago
It's tradition in my country too and i hate it cause it's annoying!
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#12
The person who buys the shots, makes the toast
Too many times I've seen someone buy a round of shots, and someone else jumps in with a toast
If you want to make a toast, buy a round!
Zoe's Mom 3 years ago
..plus don't be cheap. Buy a round. I've seen too many times when it's the next person's time to buy, they all of sudden have to go home. Don't be that person.
meblablaing 3 years ago (edited)
I think this one is difficult. I often dont drink a lot and I hate being pressured into "rounds". You say yes to one first invitation and then you have to drink every round, cant go home, because you have to wait for your turn and spend much more money than you would have if you only ordered the drinks you wanted to buy for yourself. Sure, you dont have to participate in the first place, but it feels rude, if it has been ordered without your knowledge and already stands in front of you. In my option, if you invite someone, you invite them. You dont expect payback.
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Only if it says ´Thanks to XY for this wonderful drinks!´
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ZimZamBoom 3 years ago
During a New Year's Eve Larry my husband and I hosted, we went to give a first toast of the night and this on girl piped up to interrupt, thankfully my (real) friend told her to be quiet and this chick had the audacity to say, in my home, "but my toast would be better than hers!" If it wasn't for the fact that she was the girlfriend of one of my best fiends...she woulda been out the house. Thankfully the two eventually broke up.
#13
Dude if there’s like 8 open urinals DON’T TAKE THE ONE NEXT TO ME
buttonpusher 3 years ago (edited)
But the other tip said "see something, compliment something" ! If I was a guy I'd probably still use the cubicle.
Snorkeldorf 3 years ago
Same with women. If there are 8 stalls there is no reason to take the one next to me if I'm the only one in there. Are you afraid to pee alone?
Vicky Z 3 years ago
Honestly it's a stall what's the problem with being next to you? I always pick the cleanest not the furthest away from others
Load More Replies... Troux 3 years ago (edited)
Are any other guys not bothered by this at all? I don't care if someone's next to me or even chatting with me. We're just there to pee, it's not a date. I always pick the urinal with the smallest puddle underneath it.
Blarrg 3 years ago
Just wrong. Whatever the expectation is for personal space, it triples in a public restroom.
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MTV had a reality show called Guy Code. Their episodes ranged from "Manscaping, Sexting, Bottle Service and Camping." to "Friends with benefits, rejection, shopping and freshman year." Later it got a spin-off, Girl Code, with episodes like "Curing Boredom, Hobbies, Sexual Pressure." Singers, comedians like Pete Davidson, and other celebrities often appeared on the show.
#14
I will wingman any man. I don't even have to know you. Hell, I'll wingman any woman too. If you are trying to make an impression on someone you think you'll hit it off with, call me. I love love and am always willing to help make it happen.
Rockstar 3 years ago
Don't worry!! eventually a super cool extrovert will adopt you into their crew and they'll either fall for you are help you out!! Just gotta find the right one! ;)
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Narwhal Blast 3 years ago
Yes! I'll try my best to wingman! I need some more lessons on it though, my presence ruined one of my friends possibility at a relationship because she thought I was too hot to just hang out with him. He's found somebody else, and probably dodged a bullet!
Rider 3 years ago
Assisting with dodging bullets is a primary criteria for being a wingman.
Load More Replies... Fred Burrows 3 years ago
Could you run up to me dressed as a Hotel manager and holler " Dr. Burrows , your Maserati was stolen from the executive garage"
Softball05 3 years ago
Same! It's great to encourage people and see them happy... I feel like a lot of people (but girls especially) don't like this because they're insecure😕
Robert Thompson 3 years ago
I've gotten good at pointing out qualities in other people that I just made up.
Thundercuss 3 years ago
I really hate when people down vote someone just for asking a question. Chris, a wingman is a friend who helps you out in social situations with someone you're interested in. Sometimes, for example, a person might feel awkward sparking a one on one conversation and your wingman might help keep the banter up and use their particular skills to help you two get to know each other. You also know, because you trust your wingman, that he is not trying to compete for that person's attention.
Load More Replies... Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
How does this work, though? My dating days are long gone, but I cannot see that I would ever go from not attracted to someone to being attracted to them because someone else talked them up? Attraction is based on my feelings, not someone else's.
RedMarbles 3 years ago
I think a wingman can help facilitate the initial interaction and make the person comfortable that the interested party has friends and isn't a creep.
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Guy Code -If your drunk bro is about to cheat on his girlfriend, you must follow through with one intervention. If he says he doesn't care, you did your part and are free from any responsibility.
Mimi M 3 years ago
No - if it's a good friend, you drag them away and save them from themselves. If they aren't drunk, then the above may apply.
Immortal Emperor Paradox 3 years ago
Alchohol does not change your morals, so that's one shitty friend I'd like to keep my distance from.
Vanta Black 3 years ago
I did this. Dude went for it anyway, came clean to his girlfriend, and she dumped him. Dumbass was in that relationship for 6 days, and she was a keeper.
PandaGirl85 3 years ago
Yess! If nothing else, try to put some sense through their thick skull
snipergun 3 years ago
You forgot you tell the girlfriend. I can't count how many times guy cheats on girlfriend / wife and his friends despite having family like contact with their spouse tell her nothing. I literally never saw guy friend telling that, like who the hell deserves to live being cheated, all his friends know, they come for lunch in weekend or game nights, and noone tells you. Unbelievable.
#16
If you see another girl in an uncomfortable situation, you try to get her out of there or at least let her know that you got her back. I've done it for everyone, from my sister, to my friends to my friends moms. One time at a school event, my best friend's mom somehow ended getting an unsolicited massage from another parent with boundary issues and I quickly made an excuse up that I needed help at the concession stand. No one is too old or too young to do this!
On the more lighthearted side, in my experience, when you hug another girl, you always try to slot the boobs by going slightly to the side so that you don't just mash your chests together and hurt someone.
Ray Heap 3 years ago
„Slot…the…boobs…!“ some powerful mental visual gymnastics in that sentence.
François Carré 3 years ago
"You can tell these two girls are very good friends, their boobs slot so perfectly when they hug each other : that takes a lot of practice".
Load More Replies... Marco Conti 3 years ago
I always wondered about the boob thing. I never thought it a good idea to ask about it, so thank you for elucidating me on the matter.
Summer Mason 3 years ago
Also avoid hard hugs on breastfeeding women. Side hug them. We appreciate the affection and consideration to the soreness we experience.
Immortal Emperor Paradox 3 years ago (edited)
Can you really hurt someone with your boobs? Believe me, this is a very genuine question.
Jane Alexander 3 years ago
When you hug another girl better make d*mn sure she's ok with it first. Some of us just don't like that from just anybody.
Sometimes American comedy points out the obsessive rigidity some people follow guy and girl codes with. In the sitcom How I Met Your Mother, the character Barney, who has a well-paying job and flirting skills that land him plenty of one-night stands, making him a stereotype of a man who other men want to be, keeps referring to the rules of the Bro Code. Later the Bro Code book was published inspired by the show.
#17
Be generous with your closest friends.
Buy them an occasional beer or their favorite soft drink without "keeping score" of whose turn it is to pay.
Rijkærd 3 years ago
I've had a 'friend' ruin my evening after bringing up some 3 yr old you owe ne a beer score s**t... sounded awkward and all....not a friend any more
John Baker 3 years ago
Who other than a score-keeping douche would even remember after three years?
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Robert Thompson 3 years ago
Pretty sure my best friend has bought the last 10 meals or so. We started by taking turns, but her schedule has led to her ordering food on her phone, and so I don't have much opportunity to intervene. (I do offer regularly to reimburse her, and remind her that it was "my turn")
ThEboRedEsTpANdA 3 years ago
So, I used to buy my friend sh*t all the time, then the one time she bought some stuff for me, she was like: 'OK, you owe me £6'
Allan Reyes 3 years ago
This one is very true, know whos your close friends and also wont keep tabs.
#18
Nod up if you know them, nod down if you dont.
Rijkærd 3 years ago
Am I the only one who nodded to the guy in the pic? Am I? ...someone back me up here
King Kashue 3 years ago (edited)
This isn't just "code," it's hardwired evolutionary impulse. Plenty of other animals, especially other mammals, do something similar. Nodding up exposed the neck, a vulnerable point - it indicates trust and safety. Down protects the neck, acknowledging the person but keeping you safe. Exposing the neck, belly, other 'soft spots' is an signal seen in a lot of animal behavior.
von Funnyname 3 years ago
I read somewhere that this is an unconscious psychological thing we all do inherently to some degree also. Neat things, brains
boredkoala 3 years ago
Wow, I totally do this but never thought about it! I guess it really is a Thing!
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
That's a thing? (That may be on me for never looking up/in people's eyes when I walk by)
Geistermoor 3 years ago
absolutely! I sat here and nodded up and down 2 minutes straight :-D . And it is true!
#19
You can make fun of your own kid all you want with your buddies if he isnt around, but you NEVER make fun of your bros kid, no matter what.
Lord Mysticlaw 3 years ago
I think this goes very generally for all family members. I can say my kid is a brat, you can't. I can say my mom is a maniac, you can't. For the same reason, if my friends says her husband is an asshole, I don't agree very enthusiastically, I tread very very carefully.
Arianna Ibbotson 3 years ago
Same with siblings. Heck yea. I'll bully my little sister but bro. Inulst her. I kill you
ZAPanda 3 years ago
I disagree. You never make fun of kids. You can tease them lightly to their face AT MOST and ONLY if it's something that they are NOT sensitive about. Kids are concrete thinkers (See Piaget if in doubt), so they do NOT get that you are playing.
Lord Mysticlaw 3 years ago
I think "make fun of" wasn't really the best way to put what I *assume* the OP *probably* meant. I thought it to mean like when you're telling friends or family about something funny your kid did (which is surely something everyone does?), not making fun of in a mean way. Like when I told my family about my kid being a total drama queen about getting vaccinated - it's not meant in a mean way and I'm not laughing about something that was traumatic or anything like that. So like I'd tell my aunt the story and say, "Lol, my kid is SUCH a drama queen!" but I would be less OK with it if my aunt said to me "Lol, your kid is SUCH a drama queen!" Don't know if that explains it well, but point is I never thought of this meaning make fun of your kid in a mean way, because no, that is never OK.
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Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
You make darn sure your kid doesn't overhear you talking bad about them.
Marie Elle 3 years ago
On the other hand, I'va been on vacation with two other families with kids and we had the rule to only scold or rebuke the other kids, not your own. And it relaxed everthing bc you think twice and be far more polite to other kids.
Lily Mae Kitty 3 years ago
pretty sure you're not supposed to make fun of your kids to your friends b/c that's a really weird thing to do.
What are some of the unwritten girl code or guy code rules you follow? Does it make sense that they are different for women and men? Which ones do you agree with?
#20
I only had one chance to exercise this girl code rule, but once i was passing a girl in the lobby of a building and she told me that she had just gotten a straight perm and was waiting for the rain to pass before she went outside so I let her share my umbrella for 4-5 blocks while we walked to a bus stop together.
I would do that for any woman if it happened again.
(perms are $200+, can take up to 3 hours and are ruined if you get them wet within 48 hours of having the procedure done)
Rissie 3 years ago
As we were all taught by Elle Woods. You don't want to risk deactivating the ammonium thioglycolate.
#21
When your best friends dies, you have to delete his internet history. Common courtesy.
ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
when they die.......u enact that thing out that ur best friend wanted
ThEboRedEsTpANdA 3 years ago
which is deleting their browser history a lot of the time
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Marco Conti 3 years ago
The only reason to delete my internet history after my departure would be to save future generations from dying of boredom. Enjoy my long forum threads on obscure photoshop or javascript/CSS features.
yellowphantom 3 years ago
Please please please do not do anything like this if their parents are still alive. Someone deleted my son's FB page when he died, without my permission, and it destroyed one more chance I had of keeping a part of him alive. We want every single thing we can get, because we will never get any thing more.
#22
My personal thing is that if I ask someone to come on a trip with me, no matter the distance or how much gas it'll take, I don't ask for gas money. I asked them to come on the trip with me, their company is payment enough. I don't like when people ask me for gas money when they insisted or asked me f I wanted to come along for something. I come on this trip with them, for all I know they could just be using me for gas money.
Also, who pays for who on a date I believe should be totally contingent on who took the initiative to ask. If I ask Her out, I will offer to pay but I won't Insist, if she'd like to pay for herself.
ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
by default, it must be 50-50.....but i one insists please don't insist back
E Menendez 3 years ago
If I chose the restaurant I always offer to pay - friend, mother, cousin, whatever. I have set the price because it is where *I* can afford to go. I do not assume they can.
Load More Replies... Tenacious Squirrel 3 years ago
I don’t think there should be weird rules about paying for dates based on who asked, always offer to split. If one wants to treat the other, fine (but the other should at least offer to split).
Alexei Arntzen 3 years ago
It's not a "weird rule". It's common decency. If you ask someone out, you show up prepared to pay for both. If you are asked out, show up prepared to offer to pay your share
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Lady of the Mountains 3 years ago
Whoever does the initial asking on a date should have a plan (even if its not the one that ends up working, if it doesn't work for your date, discuss other oprtions) and be willing to pay for that plan. If your date decides to pay for both to be nice, or pays for themselves, then that's great but don't put any eggs in that basket
snipergun 3 years ago
This one's tricky for me. I agree if you ask someone on trip you anyway need to make yourself it's correct. However I also drive long distances, talking about 1500 km in one day. But in such case i make sure to tell them if I expect to pitch in for gas or food unless it's company trip, then I have it paid and don't expect anything in return other than chat, and singing along to radio (and withstand my singing 😊).
buttonpusher 3 years ago
I remember some shitbag my ex worked with. Pretty much roped him into picking him up and dropping him home. He lived in the other side of town. It started off as him waiting at a place to get collected. Eventually he was demanding to be picked up/dropped off at his door cos he couldn't be assed walking. Entitled little s**t never offered to pay petrol costs and if he couldn't be chauffered around that day he'd complain about having to pay for a bus. Tbh if that was me I would've driven out to the sticks, pushed him out and f****n left him there.
Jasper Eagleton 3 years ago
On every date, I've offered to split the bill, and some men act SO offended by that. I'm totally cool with paying; calm down.
Crycket 3 years ago
I have a similar rule for shows. If I ask you to come with me, and there was no mutual buying of tickets...then it is on me. Buy me dinner if you like...but it was my decision to buy tickets to this show/concert. If we decide on buying tickets to something together...than we will work it out anyway we see as fair.
Joe Phillips 3 years ago
lol, people seriously ask for petrol money? Must be an American thing
Bettie-Jean Neal 3 years ago
In my dating profile I clearly state where I would like the first date dinner to be and that I will pay for myself, so no one feels any obligation. After that, I try to split it up, let him pay, me pay, etc., especially if we're close in salary. If he makes a ton more than me, I'll be picking up drinks and tips.
#23
When guys fight, we never hit the groin.
It's against the Geneva Convention /s.
ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago (edited)
depends on the fight ig...what if they are trying to kill u?
Joonscrab 3 years ago (edited)
That's not a fight anymore. That's literally an (attempted) murder.
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Eagle Girl 3 years ago
Girl code is if a guy crosses a line that will be the 1st cross back we go for
Rijkærd 3 years ago
In a fight where I'm protecting myself from injury?? Man I will do whatever s**t yet to be invented by the freaking Geneva asswipes...imma kick em till they about to popcorn out of your pants ...
King Kashue 3 years ago
100%. And, given that literally the only time I'm going to get into a fight is if I think my physical safety is in danger and I'm defending myself, if I'm fighting, I'm fighting dirty af.
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Immortal Emperor Paradox 3 years ago
BS. Many guys who fight don't hit the groin because they don't know how to fight, or they know each other well and don't actually have enmity.
Autumn Artemis 3 years ago
I think it’s more referring to a “friendly” brawl thing? My cousins like to rumble all the time out of pure boredom, and I know they have this rule. But yeah if it’s anything else, unleash demons.
Lawrencium 3 years ago
I believe there's a whole movie about a club that does just that, but we don't really talk about it.
Load More Replies... I Liquored On 3 years ago
F**k that. If some arsehole is swinging at me I will throw dirt in his eyes and kick him in the balls. Do you know how easy it is to get killed and end up on the evening news? No thanks, Im going home.
Iapetos 3 years ago
In a real fight, you will hit the groin especially. In a play fight, it should be pretty damn clear you don't.
Lawrencium 3 years ago
If the intent is letting out pent-up aggression in classic pugilistic fashion but lasting harm is not intended, then abide by the standard rules of conduct. If the intent is unclear or harm is intended to yourself or others, then it is generally morally irresponsible to "fight fair." Personally, I would advise to generally avoid situations where a concussion is a likely outcome altogether -- inasmuch as is possible, of course.
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Guy code: when greeting someone and you're not sure if they're a hugger, always shake their hand first... it allows them to throw up the other arm for a hug if they're down for it.
Bexxxxx 3 years ago
I had a weird 2019 moment the other day and without thinking reached out to shake a customer’s hand. He took it. We had a mutual “oh f**k what am I doing” moment and instantly dropped hands (we actually both took a step back lmao) and apologized to each other profusely 😂 I don’t even remember what it’s like to shake hands comfortably
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Ann Dennis 3 years ago
I can't keep a straight face while bumping elbows. I immediately think of the train scene in "Young Frankenstein"
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Daniel Marsh 3 years ago
The handshake comes between torsos, so the resultant hug is half way between a hug and a pat on the back. Warning: this in understood to invite a real hug. If a "real hug" actually is called for, the other person can then break the handshake, put his right hand high in the air, and pull in for a real hug.
Load More Replies... Vanta Black 3 years ago
Handshakes (pre-Covid) were for formal meetings like interviews, or when you were showing your girlfriend's dad you weren't afraid of him (the last one's a joke). You don't hug when you've met them for the first time because it's weird. If you're being semi-formal, raise a hand to say "hi", or nod your head. If it's informal, fist bump. If it's your homie but they're not the hugging kind, the Topper Harley/Rabbi arm bump is the acceptable alternative.
F. H. 3 years ago
Depends on the culture, really. In some contries even young men out for a bar crawl will shake hands when meeting.
Load More Replies... Huddo's sister 3 years ago
No! I'm not a hugger but I think shaking hands is even weirder. What is wrong with a nod or a wave? Do people have to touch? That's why I don't get the whole kerfuffle with pollies touching elbows etc when they can't shake during the pandemic
Chris D 3 years ago
Shaking hands is a respect thing, it means you respect each other. Not offering or refusing is considered very rude.
Load More Replies... Rider 3 years ago
There are so many ways to greet or say goodbye. Sometimes I can't tell if they are going for a handshake, hug, fist bump, arm clasp, arm clasp with hug, hand slide, hand slide into a fist bump.... It's made for a few embarrassing moments. Personally I prefer handshake for business and introductions, hugs/arm clasp hug for friends, and fist bumps for repeat or laughed at my joke customers.
#25
when a girl says "i won't tell anyone" what she really means is "i won't tell anyone except my best friend"
Vanta Black 3 years ago
Okay, allow me to try this out. My secret is I am completely incapable of comprehending English.
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Amy S 3 years ago
My husband won't tell anyone because he'll forget what I said after 30 seconds.
Load More Replies... ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
if u are telling a person something...but u know they have a history of telling others..just don't......this one doesn't apply to everyone....some are very good at keeping secrets
Tom Harper 3 years ago
Always assume someone will keep a secret as well as the person who told them.
Marco Conti 3 years ago
I find that to be true about everyone, not just girls. If you have a secret, keep it that way by not sharing it. If you do share it, expect it to come out at some point. I have known military intelligence officers that were terrible gossips. Same for HR people. Don't trust either.
Ivana 3 years ago
Not true. I have had a lot of friends tell me things and I don't repeat them to my best friend who happens to be my husband and also friends with all of my friends. Got a ton of things that were told to me and me alone, and expressed that they want it kept to me and me alone so I respect that. Though more often than not they will often tell my husband at some point. Find out because my husband will often slip and tell me. I don't think he is capable of not telling me things.
Grayson Wrigley 3 years ago
Nah, if you say you won't tell anyone, you don't tell anyone. (Unless someone's safety is involved)
#26
If I hear a girl say she needs a hair tie I will immediately hand one over, even if I’ll only have one left for myself.
ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
lmao yeah......but just don't expect it to be returned back......good if it is.....but if it's not then not a big deal
Bexxxxx 3 years ago
Girls never lend hair ties expecting them back. We’re just so used to losing them lol.
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Deceased Nemo 3 years ago
its like letting someone borrow money, dont expect it back and if it is given back be very grateful
Huddo's sister 3 years ago
Haha, I'm sure there was a list not that long ago that said basically the opposite
Anonymous 3 years ago
It's not about looking good, it's about practicality dealing with long hair.
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Treat your friend's girl as if she's a guy
Doctor Strange 3 years ago
How about treat your friend's girl as if she is a person who deserves respect in her own right, not just because she is dating your friend?
Andrei Caldararu 3 years ago
I think the intended idea was to not hit on her
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BoredHistorian 3 years ago
Better yet, treat any girl like she is just a person worhty of respect and not a posible sexual partner
Mimi M 3 years ago
Not like a guy - like a person. 'Like a guy' implies you can be gross, vulgar, etc around her or to her - which she may find disrespectful. I like being comfortable around guys, but I don't like it if they are gross or vulgar to me, even if they are like that with one another.
Alfie kelly 3 years ago
And just girls in general, I know plenty of people who would rather have this than the treatment they get
Jess Thompson 3 years ago
Wtf so how would you treat her if you were to treat her “like a girl”?
#28
Never steal ur bro's large fry
Tiny Dynamine 3 years ago
Unless you're a woman. Then you will steal them all without thinking about it.
Allan Reyes 3 years ago
i dont like people just taking my food, i always ask if anyone would like some and then you can have some.
#29
If their bedroom door open, be careful to sound your approach before popping in. Never know what he's up to.
Kimi Tomminello 3 years ago
Bro code moment I think, but you're not wrong.
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Kevin Beard 3 years ago
My daughter is 4. Sometimes she shuts her door. I knock before entering.
Marco Conti 3 years ago
Hopefully he is trying to do some cable management of his electronics and planning to go buy a new TV.
John Baker 3 years ago
If he's dumb enough to leave the door open when he's up to something he wouldn't want anyone to see, that's on him.
PandaGirl85 3 years ago
Bedroom door closed always deserves loud, deliberate footsteps coming up to the door and knocking before entering.
#30
I hear this a lot in casual conversation: A: You know __? B: no? A: Wait, you don’t know __?!
My boss speaks English as a second language and he pointed out how common this type of interaction is & said it is off-putting. I really try to be mindful of it now!
Troux 3 years ago
I think they're just annoyed with *repeating the question they just answered, but in a more condescending way.*
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RoseAnne Hutchence 3 years ago
English jargon can be difficult even for those of us who grew up speaking English; it varies from region to region and is often affected by cultural norms.
DragonflyGreen 3 years ago
It is VERY off-putting and makes the person who doesn't know feel stupid, like they SHOULD know. How do I know? My ex did this all the time to me. He acted astounded when I didn't know a certain band/random fact, and it made me feel so dumb.
Fred Burrows 3 years ago
Wut? I may know __________ but never asked his name. You mean the bowlegged fella with the Grey Ford F-150 ?
#31
Girl code: if a girl asks for a pad or tampon, you don’t whip it out in public, and announce “HEY EVERYONE THIS GIRL IS ON HER PERIOD” instead you do the under the table hand off so that things are more subtle, especially if she is a shy or young teen
ShriSha Kamboj 3 years ago
u dont treat it like drugs.....but not like it's a marriage announcement either.....u treat it like u are making plans to out and eat...which is normal
Dylan Xavier 3 years ago
Because society has stigmatized it and made it out to be something taboo. Also certain cultures consider it highly inappropriate to talk about and you're treated as an untouchable while menstruating.
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Ivana 3 years ago (edited)
I guess I just don't care if people know I am on my period. You can toss me a tampon from across the room while screaming "In coming tampon torpedo" and it wouldn't bother me. Like being shy about needing a napkin. I would mind if you threw a pad at me though, cause I hate pads. Only will use them in the most extreme emergencies.
Bella Wexhome 3 years ago
my old office we threw them to each other. aint no shame and it's a warning to males to proceed with caution
pusheen buttercup 3 years ago
I think this is fair and good advice. If you know them and they want to treat it casually and normal that's great, but until you know that you try to be discreet. Especially for teens. Teens are embarrassed by everything, but you won't help that emotion lessen by saying it's normal, you respect their feelings even if they don't make sense to you personally.
Marco Conti 3 years ago
Even better if the exchange is done as discreetly as any other interaction and no one present gave a flying f**k about it. "Imagine all the people.... taa ta taa ta ta". We gotta lose this Victorian attitude toward normal bodily functions. Don't make a big deal of it, don't act as if you are scoring crack.
PandaGirl85 3 years ago
Me and my bff always treat like we're doing drugs in a police station. No reason, but we've been doing it like that since we were two shy preteens
#32
"Thou shalt never hold a bro's wingman duties against him"
When you're chatting up a girl, I don't care how unattractive the friend he's flirting with is, or how bad his flirting technique is... When he's distracting the air defences to give you a clear run at the target, you do not insult his flying.
Kitty Jordan 3 years ago
I don't actually mind the term "wingman/woman" because it just implies support to me, but something about the way this guy extended the metaphor feels so skeevy to me. Referring to a woman as a "target"? Ehhh...
Troux 3 years ago
It shouldn't surprise you if you're familiar with wingmen. It's all strategized.
Load More Replies... Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
Yeah, this comes across as predatory. Women are not targets. A wingman/woman is there to give your confidence to chat to the person you're attracted to, which is the time where you find out a) if you still like them once they open their mouth (seriously, no matter how gorgeous they look to you if they come across as bigoted, dull, or unbalanced, then let it go) and b) to see if they are attracted to you. The wing person is not there to prevent the friend try and protect them from a predatory trap by some man they're clearly not interested in but are trying not to offend and make things worse for themselves.
Marco Conti 3 years ago
Do you prefer six .50 caliber machine guns in the wings or a coaxial cannon on the propeller? Both? Asking for a friend. I think these "wingman" rules are getting a bit ridiculous. You are trying to join the mating habits of XXI century humans, not fighting Zeros over Guadalcanal.
#33
Unless you are asked and willing to provide further details, keep remarks about the time you spent with someone vague and borderline childish.
Roxy Eastland 3 years ago
What? I spent this afternoon with a friend, admiring her kittens, but I should keep the details to myself when talking to other people? What?
#34
If you sell a buddy a car (or anything of value) cheaper than normal because they are a friend, that friend must offer to sell it back to you before offering it to the general public.
LOttawa 3 years ago
They could have just needed the money at that time. Sell your something of yours to a friend for cheaper than normal value is a way to get needed money fast (selling online for example could take days vs now to a friend)
Load More Replies... Troux 3 years ago
This is kind of silly because it's very rare that someone would want to get back into their old car, but there is still some etiquette here... When I was young, I got a good deal buying a car from a friend, then sold it less than a year later for a small profit. I wasn't trying to flip, I just had the opportunity to get the car I really wanted, but it still feels bad.
John Baker 3 years ago
Sometimes you aren't selling because you want to, but because you need the money. In those cases, it's only fair that the person you sold the item to offers you a chance to buy it back before selling it to anyone else.
Load More Replies... Marco Conti 3 years ago
I don't see why. The friend sold the car for a reason. Should he ask for that consideration when selling the car, sure, but otherwise it's none of his business.
#35
If you hear anything about a girl having a thing for your bro, you tell him immediately. I don't care if you're in the jungle with no cell phone service, you walk back to the nearest cell phone tower and let him know so he can get laid
Marco Conti 3 years ago
What? Why? Who's gonna die if the friend doesn't get laid? Speaking as an Italian, a former soldier and someone that wasn't shy about living la vida loca, there are more important things than chasing women to keep some kind of score. I think "bro culture" is toxic and statements like the above make it very clear.
Nadine Bamberger 3 years ago
Are you a high school teenager? If not please, don't. Just generally don't.
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Troux 3 years ago
The most common themes seem to be, Girl code: How to take care of others; Guy code: How to get girls
Jacob Nunez 3 years ago
No not really some is common curtsey and privacy and another is respecting another’s girl or helping someone get a girl. I understand what ur coming from. But it’s not the majority.
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When I smoked, the code was that you always give a cigarette to someone who needs to bum one, but you never take someone's last cigarette. (And you are universally hated if you're one of those people who "don't smoke" or are "trying to quit" by not buying cigarettes and just bumming them off the people not lying to themselves.)
Grayson Wrigley 3 years ago
Yes! Someone needs cigarette, unless they're a minor, you hand one over no questions asked. Give them a light too, if they need it. A related pet peeves though: people who bum a smoke, then stand there, finish less than half of the cigarette, and then put it out in a way that destroys the rest of it. Those things cost money!
Load More Replies... Mimi M 3 years ago
Here's Girl Code: When my friend (when I was a teenager) expressed any interest in a guy, he was totally off limits until or unless she changed her mind.
Kuato 3 years ago
Also for guys. If your buddy is into a girl, even if she starts flirting with you, you do not engage. (Damn you Thomas. I would have done that for you. You didn't even care about her. You just wanted to get laid.)
Load More Replies... John Dilligaf 3 years ago
The bro code: If I'm interested in dating your sister, I run it past you first
John Dilligaf 3 years ago
The Code: Those secrets you learned in grade school and "crossed your heart and hope to die" swore you'd never tell? I don't care how old you get, You take that sh*t to the grave
Kyndal T 3 years ago
I grew up with one girl code I always thought was childish. You never date a friend's ex. As an adult, I agree. To an extent. If your friend was in a serious relationship with that person, don't go there. If it was minor, talk to them first. Other important codes? Never leave a friend at a party you invited them to unless they know someone else there as well as they know you. Never push someone to drink if they say no. People do this to me all the time and I don't drink. Haven't in 5 years and it's just a personal decision and doesn't mean I'm an alcoholic ffs. If you just suspect someone is cheating on your friend (or anyone really) then you better have a reason before telling them. Have a safe word/phrase with friends when you go out too. Creepy dudes abound where women hang out. Sometimes, telling someone that their emailed test results came back positive is all it takes. Embarrassing but easy.
El muerto 3 years ago
this is a list for kids right? i mean, no sensible adult would take any of these seriously...what girls do, what boys do...perhaps people just need to expand their horizons a bit. you know, like hung out with other people that are not the same gender age and skin color than you maybe?
Robert Thompson 3 years ago
I treat everyone the same. Girls think I am flirting, guys think I am weird. Truth, I am some where in the middle. I Just like having friends. And I don't mind being nice to people.
Allen Lavine 3 years ago
Guy code: if a man is barbecuing all other men must be by the grill same as working on a car
Troux 3 years ago
The most common themes seem to be, Girl code: How to take care of others; Guy code: How to get girls
Jacob Nunez 3 years ago
No not really some is common curtsey and privacy and another is respecting another’s girl or helping someone get a girl. I understand what ur coming from. But it’s not the majority.
Load More Replies... Kitty Jordan 3 years ago
When I smoked, the code was that you always give a cigarette to someone who needs to bum one, but you never take someone's last cigarette. (And you are universally hated if you're one of those people who "don't smoke" or are "trying to quit" by not buying cigarettes and just bumming them off the people not lying to themselves.)
Grayson Wrigley 3 years ago
Yes! Someone needs cigarette, unless they're a minor, you hand one over no questions asked. Give them a light too, if they need it. A related pet peeves though: people who bum a smoke, then stand there, finish less than half of the cigarette, and then put it out in a way that destroys the rest of it. Those things cost money!
Load More Replies... Mimi M 3 years ago
Here's Girl Code: When my friend (when I was a teenager) expressed any interest in a guy, he was totally off limits until or unless she changed her mind.
Kuato 3 years ago
Also for guys. If your buddy is into a girl, even if she starts flirting with you, you do not engage. (Damn you Thomas. I would have done that for you. You didn't even care about her. You just wanted to get laid.)
Load More Replies... John Dilligaf 3 years ago
The bro code: If I'm interested in dating your sister, I run it past you first
John Dilligaf 3 years ago
The Code: Those secrets you learned in grade school and "crossed your heart and hope to die" swore you'd never tell? I don't care how old you get, You take that sh*t to the grave
Kyndal T 3 years ago
I grew up with one girl code I always thought was childish. You never date a friend's ex. As an adult, I agree. To an extent. If your friend was in a serious relationship with that person, don't go there. If it was minor, talk to them first. Other important codes? Never leave a friend at a party you invited them to unless they know someone else there as well as they know you. Never push someone to drink if they say no. People do this to me all the time and I don't drink. Haven't in 5 years and it's just a personal decision and doesn't mean I'm an alcoholic ffs. If you just suspect someone is cheating on your friend (or anyone really) then you better have a reason before telling them. Have a safe word/phrase with friends when you go out too. Creepy dudes abound where women hang out. Sometimes, telling someone that their emailed test results came back positive is all it takes. Embarrassing but easy.
El muerto 3 years ago
this is a list for kids right? i mean, no sensible adult would take any of these seriously...what girls do, what boys do...perhaps people just need to expand their horizons a bit. you know, like hung out with other people that are not the same gender age and skin color than you maybe?
Robert Thompson 3 years ago
I treat everyone the same. Girls think I am flirting, guys think I am weird. Truth, I am some where in the middle. I Just like having friends. And I don't mind being nice to people.
Allen Lavine 3 years ago
Guy code: if a man is barbecuing all other men must be by the grill same as working on a car
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