Dating is hard! It takes time to meet someone who truly matches you, and then when you do finally land a seemingly decent person, it turns out that they just got out of jail, or, I don't know, have a kink for diapers.
Intrigued? Well, here is a list of 32 weird, juicy, and plain wild stories from women who shared why they decided to "ghost" their partners/potential partners!
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He told me about his sister, he was really close to her and she had a special nickname for him and he was missing her because she moved out of state. Then he asked me to have phone sex with him and role play AS HIS SISTER and use the nickname and say things like "when will mom be home?" "What if mom sees us?"
Those red flags were like the flappy tube men outside of car dealerships. Bye bye incest man ✌️
Called Obama the N Word while cooking dinner for me on a stay-in date.
I stood up and said I couldn’t be with someone who thought that was ok.
Never spoke to her again.
Went on a date with a guy and he was super nice, said all the right things, charming. I couldn’t put my finger on it but something seemed *really* off about the whole thing. I mean, my spidey senses we’re absolutely *screaming* so I cut the date short and googled him the same night when I got home. Turns out he had been arrested, not once but *3 separate times* for domestic violence. Immediately blocked him. Found out later through a coworker that knew him that all 3 of those arrests were with different women and apparently he had put his hands on other women too but was never arrested for it or anything. She told me I dodged a hell of a bullet and clearly I did. I’ve never felt more validated about listening to my instincts.
Another one: we were kissing in his car after our first date. He put his hand between my legs. I gently removed it, all while keeping lip locked. A minute later, his hand wanders back. I removed it again, "I'm not ready for that yet".
When he put his hand back a third time, I said "dude what the hell!?"
He shrugged : "It's a woman's prerogative to put down boundaries, but it's a man's prerogative to push them."
There was no second date.
I was divorced with a 10 year old son. Worked in customer service and a regular customers brother asked me out for an after work drink. Clean cut men in their early 40ties. We met and had one drink before I had to get home to my child ( after school care) He pushed for me to go back to his place and got annoyed when I sad NO. I said I did not know him well enough to go back to his place. I was the kind of woman who liked to take thigs slow and get to know someone first before jumping into anything physical. I concluded that I had responsibilities to attend to and had to get home. . The next day I am sitting outside on my lunch break and the regular customer comes up to me to complain that I was disrespectful to his brother and wasted his time. He said and I quote " What's the big deal about sleeping together on a first date ? You have a kid. It's not like you're a virgin" My mouth dropped open in shock for a brief moment before I looked at him and said " So because I have been married and have had a child I should just let any man inside my body ? He looked at me like I was speaking a foreign language. He just did not get it. That was years ago and it still bugs me that men think that way. It is beyond disgusting and disrespectful.
Displayed extreme hatred towards gay&trans people, and sex workers
I have zero tolerance for this
After a few weeks of talking to this guy online, I ended up hospitalised because of my Crohn's. I told him that the following morning they were going to do another colonoscopy to check how things were, and that I was a bit scared (doctors weren't sure if my intestines were at risk of a rupture).
His reply? "Nothing compared to what I would do to your a*s".
NOPE 😐 I blocked the hell out of him.
His ex called asking where he was. Turns out he'd arranged with her to see his kids that day, but instead he told her he couldnt make it, because he was at my house. I had only known him a couple of weeks.
I made up an excuse to make him leave shortly after that call, and completely ghosted. I have no respect for a man who shits on his children and ex and commitments that he made.
Showing your date that you're a crappy father proves you're not only a selfish person but you also have poor judgement.
He wasn't allowed to work with children. Immediate ghost.
Googled his name and found out he had recently been in prison and had pending felony charges for planting a homemade bomb underneath the car of a man his ex wife had been seeing.
Went on a first date, and she jumped right into talking about this "amazing income opportunity."
Noped right outta there.
I was seeing this guy in college and one day, he brought up his disgust with women's periods; not just the bleeding, but the symptoms that came with it. He said that women calling out sick because of menstrual cramps was utter BS and we should just suck it up. My friend has endometriosis and suffers from extremely heavy periods and chronic pain. I had extremely heavy periods which was a result of a hormone imbalance and was later diagnosed as anemic.
I did not see him again after that conversation, but I let him know that he was way out of line.
Speaking as a man : good for you. I've been blessed (so far) with partners who don't have your, let alone your friend's issues but they still called it a curse. Knowing what goes on in a woman's body during a period, I'm more than happy to help in the small ways I can : warm water bottles, chocolate ice cream...
He wanted to "do just the tip" without a condom, when I had clearly stated I wasn't doing anything without a condom. Threw him out and blocked his number.
As soon as we sat down for dinner, he says “So actually I just got out of jail today! Crazy s**t. I have a bit of temper.”
I hightailed it out of there pretty quick
If "jail" and "I have a temper" are mentioned, run in the opposite direction.
He was antivax to the point where it affected his ability to get a job. So he's living at his parent's house, doing nothing with his life.
He also has ambitions to become a "rapper". I've heard his tracks. They are not good.
I actually dated a guy in high school that wanted to be a rapper, he was pretty good to. Unfortunately his depression took over and he shot himself. But he was a great person. Not all aspiring rappers are bad people, so idk if that would be an immediate red flag for me. Now, the fact that the person on this post wasn't any good and was antivax, yea, I agree those are huge red flags.
Had a date booked with a guy from an app.
Day of I stalked his social media and saw a recent post where he had screenshotted a ladies dating profile from the app and posted it laughing about her body to his friends.
Stood him up and got loads of whiney messages but f**k him.
He had a wife and children. Found out after a month of dating.
He wanted me to put him in diapers and said he was falling in love with me...on the SECOND DATE.
Officially Caspered
He told me I wasn’t the “kind of girl that he could introduce to his mother” and will spend his life with the person she chose for him while still wanting to be with me. Never spoke to him after that.
Did hear he threw a tantrum over my engagement so I consider it a win
Clearly a man-child, throwing a temper tantrum that someone you dated kept living her life.
He, unannounced, brought his three-year -old with him and tried to force interaction between us.
Later tried to initiate sex whilst the kid was sleeping in the room.
OMG.....I had a male neighbor who took my friendly chatter as flirtation and suddenly started "bumping into me" everywhere with his school aged kid. The kid hugged me and asked if I was going to be his new mommy. Had to gently put him straight.
He was TikTok famous (I'm not on there) and was cancelled for homophobic and creepy child-related "jokes". I found out when my mother Googled him and sent me a video of him, saying, "is this really who you want to be associated with?".
Reminds me of my university professor who I thought was a very cool guy until I found out he runs an anti-sjw youtube channel.
He said he didn't like giving oral because he thinks it's 'gross', but expected me to give it to him anyway.
I was talking to a guy on a dating site and he just started giving me creepy vibes - he wanted to know all about me, but when I asked him anything about himself he clammed up. When I stopped talking to him he would just send me selfies of himself smiling ... But it was a creepy smile. No message, just a selfie.
I can't explain it but I always got a bad feeling about him.
Unless the guy was "The Wiz" from Seinfeld, creepy smiles are not okay.
A morning text “I need to f—k” inspired me to peace out.
i met a guy at a party and we really hit it off but then he mentioned he was REALLY into dark humor... he even had a chat with his friends were they shared jokes and he told me about one that mixed TRIGGER WARNING p*dophilia and SA... any attraction i had for him literally DIED in 2 seconds, like i could FEEL the attraction leaving my body and being replaced with a huge YIKES!
These days, in 99% of cases, "dark humor" is just shorthand for vile bigotry masked as humor. I no longer bother watching any comedy which advertises itself as "politically incorrect", "controversial" or "dark humor".
So I was dating this 28yo when I was 17 and one evening on a date he noticed my self harm scars and asked me about them. I got really upset and he wanted me to go back to his place to stay the night because he was worried about me but we didn’t have to do anything. Anyway that turned into him pressuring me into having sex even though I kept saying I wasn’t up for it. I didn’t realise anything was wrong but I just ghosted him for the next week until he sent increasingly desperate text messages and I let him know I didn’t want to see him anymore. Still didn’t know why but something felt wrong 🥲 realised what happened like 6 months later.
He told me he was a writer and then when I went over to his apartment for the first time he had *no* books, he said he “wasn’t a big reader”, and when he showed me what he was working on it contained the phrase “the sky was as dark as a Wagnerian opera”. ✌️
I'm an amateur writer and I'm already running out of shelving 😅 IMO you can't write well if you don't read.
On a second date with a guy (didn't even actually see him as a potential partner yet, because I was starting to see some red flags) he says "I hate Brazilians" (I'm Portuguese and so was he, both living in Portugal). Nope! Xenophobia is enough for immediate ghosting.
I was talking with my boyfriend at the time (who constantly pressured me into gaining weight for him bc he had a fat-fetish and I was quite skinny when we started dating, and he kept his fetish secret for the first months) and he suddenly said that he constantly fantasizes about breaking up so he can eat whenever he wants (I cooked what he wanted for him and am a solid cook and he liked what I made for him, but he felt inconvenienced by having to come to the dinnertable when I had dinner ready) and so he can go on Tinder and look for fat girls 🤡
When I reacted hurt he started gaslighting me that I can't "punish him for just being honest"
Edit: Admittedly I didn't permanently ghost him after this bc I was used to a lot of his b******t, but that was definitely the point I finally realised he's a piece of s**t, and that was the beginning of the end at least.
Edit 2: Another fun story was when he told me that he was scared to lose his last "good years" to me when he might find a fat woman in that time with whom he actually want to spend the rest of his life
So I’ve been talking to this older guy, he brags about his money *a lot.* Typically people who actually have money don’t tend to brag. *because the money isn’t actually his.* I thought it was weird. We went out and have been talking for a few weeks. I looked him up on google and it turns out he was indicted with sales of false certificates to the underprivileged. It’s a huge case. I don’t want to go into detail because I’m afraid of what he could do. I’m definitely ghosting. But he is deranged and a piece of s**t.
*Edit to add another story*
My most recent 2 yrs LTR & LDR- He was 32. Our interactions were becoming increasingly tumultuous/ toxic- *very unreasonable, mansplainer, man child behavior and incel behavior- I literally took his virginity at 30.* Inside I feel validated for ghosting bc he was straight up disrespectful most of the time. So he had very recently moved back in with his parents, after living with roommates for a few years. It was about 3 weeks in living with them- he expressed to me that he was hungry. I suggested to him maybe he should go grab a bite or go grocery shopping etc. He replies, verbatim:
“mom buys the groceries.”
He kept talking how he could date like every woman he wanted to, how beautiful and nice his (female) friends were, and he asked me why I didn't wear designer clothes to our date. I mean it's not a "found out" trait he was just an idiot.
All clothes are designed by somebody. Therefore all clothes are designer!
I went on a date (or maybe 2?) with a doctor. He ran late on the next date and ended up having to cancel because a patient came into the office in crisis that he had to attend to. He ended up complaining afterward about how it makes him mad that they "just bring it on themselves."
I'm a social worker, so I was like ohh he's the worst kind of doctor. Say no more.
He has never had a single long term relationship. All his relationships were short lived and ended after 3-4 months because he “didn’t want the other person to get too invested in him because he’s not worth it”. His body count is too high for me to be comfortable. I didn’t ghost him though, we’re friends and talk semi-regularly.
It took a long time for me to convince my woman that she is definitely worth it. She had severe depression, was abused constantly, was certain she was just a pile of meat. We've been married almost 5 years now and she couldn't be happier!
Had a date recently with a guy who probably believed all those incel gods: that because I'm over 50 and overweight I must be desperate and accept everything. He told me, during the first date that rape was horrible, sure, but these women bring it unto themselves by going home with bad guys (implied: and not nice guys like him). Let's say, I decided that the date was now a learning experience for him and entertainment for me, and over the next 20 or so minutes made sure that he would ghost me. :)
That sounds hilarious, and mad respect to you for making it a win-win (maybe not to him yet but...)
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This is the advice I have for young women that nobody asked for: Ladies, you are awesome. But you need to learn what a Man-Boy is. Stop dating them. They will take all of your resources, time and money and wonder why you aren't giving them more more more because that's what their mother does. No, they don't appear to be mama's boys, they're not. They're just grown men who are really 12 years old. They might be fun at first, but as soon as something isn't fun anymore, they will dump it all into your lap to deal with. You are better than this. They don't want a partner, they expect a second or even third mom.
Well, sometimes it's not obvious right away. It's easy to say "Stop dating Man-Boys" but sometimes people cover their craziness very well. I've known people who didn't see their partner's darkside until they were married.
Load More Replies... Had a date recently with a guy who probably believed all those incel gods: that because I'm over 50 and overweight I must be desperate and accept everything. He told me, during the first date that rape was horrible, sure, but these women bring it unto themselves by going home with bad guys (implied: and not nice guys like him). Let's say, I decided that the date was now a learning experience for him and entertainment for me, and over the next 20 or so minutes made sure that he would ghost me. :)
That sounds hilarious, and mad respect to you for making it a win-win (maybe not to him yet but...)
Load More Replies... This is the advice I have for young women that nobody asked for: Ladies, you are awesome. But you need to learn what a Man-Boy is. Stop dating them. They will take all of your resources, time and money and wonder why you aren't giving them more more more because that's what their mother does. No, they don't appear to be mama's boys, they're not. They're just grown men who are really 12 years old. They might be fun at first, but as soon as something isn't fun anymore, they will dump it all into your lap to deal with. You are better than this. They don't want a partner, they expect a second or even third mom.
Well, sometimes it's not obvious right away. It's easy to say "Stop dating Man-Boys" but sometimes people cover their craziness very well. I've known people who didn't see their partner's darkside until they were married.
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