Get Premium
Dark mode theme is available exclusively for premium users. Learn more about the benefits of subscribing.
No fees, cancel anytime.
Dark Mode 
No fees, cancel anytime 
then open in external browser
and click "Open in External Browser" 
“We Are No Longer Together”: 35 Times Men Ignorantly Assumed They Knew More Than Women
Interview With Expert
You know those men who see a woman backing into a parking spot and immediately decide that they should start directing her and giving her “help,” even though she’s done the same maneuver a thousand times? Or what about those guys that feel the need to explain cryptocurrency to any woman who gives them a second of her time? Being mansplained to is, unfortunately, a universal experience that women know all too well. And today, we’ve got a list of facepalm-worthy examples down below.
Women have been sharing the most condescending mansplaining they’ve ever endured on Reddit, so we’ve gathered their most infuriating stories. Enjoy reading through these tales that might make you violently roll your eyes, and keep reading to find a conversation with Suzanna de Baca, CEO of Story Board Advisors.
This post may include affiliate links.
#1
I've been in a call with a company client where we did introductions, I'm the laboratory analyst and was the one working with the stuff they were sending to us.
We ran through normal procedure, and I suggested some ways to move forward with their stuff to get the results they wanted.
"That's great but what does the man working on our stuff think? (Directed at my boss)"
Boss: "the man not working on your stuff thinks the woman working on your stuff is right."
Oh the client wasn't happy, but it felt wonderful and big props to my boss for being a legend.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
"And since you treat people on the basis of gender, you can no longer be our client."
Tom De Paul 11 months ago
No. He put him in his place. Now take his money.
Load More Replies...
RELATED:
#2
I was on the clinical dev team for the phase 3 moderna vaccine. Countless people, almost always men, would explain how the vaccine does/doesn’t work after I’ve explained my line of work.
Bonus: I now like to call mansplaining “correctile dysfunction”
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
Got the vaccine, still alive. My sample size is exactly ONE but it's enough for me.
SheamusFanFrom1987 11 months ago (edited)
Haven't had the shot yet (optional where I am), but if she's the expert and she says it works, I ain't saying otherwise. After all, I still have plenty of business left on this mortal coil and she's keeping me alive long enough to finish them. Don't worry, I'm dysfunctional but definitely not the correctile type... XP
Schmebulock 11 months ago
Explaining your line of work does not mean the results of your work. And it wasn't always men so more indicative of that position than sex.
#3
Not sure if it counts, but a guy trying to explain to me how to get blood off your clothes... And he refused to simply believe I've been washing blood off since I was 11
jessica r 11 months ago
Men cannot comprehend how often women have to deal with blood. I'm sure they think we only have to deal with some blue liquid stains.
Nikki Gross 11 months ago
As a soon to be 48 year old woman and 14 years as a Lab Tech in a Blood Bank and I have dealt with countless spills, Keep bottles of Hydrogen Peroxide on hand, because it's really cheap to buy, so stocking up isn't a problem. Completely soak the stain and surrounding areas with the HP, depending on severity I would let it sit for 15-20 minutes. After that take the piece with blood on it, this works on clothes/shoes/towels/sheets, etc. and submerge in Cold water for 30 mins to 1hr depending on size and how bad the stain is on it. Wash on COLD water, do NOT use Warm water or Alcohol in place of the HP. If you have some type of stain remover it's okay to use it, but ONLY when you are preparing to put it into the washer. Seriously, if you want tips on removing ANY type of body fluids, just hit up someone in the Healthcare industry, that is exposed to this type of s**t on a regular basis. They can't afford to constantly replace s**t, just because it has some type of stain on it.
Remi (He/Him) 11 months ago
I've heard a theory that female serial killers might do better because they know how to remove bloodstains 😁
Hugh Crawford 11 months ago
Ha, I was going to comment "why?". In my own defense, it is Friday and I am ready for the weekend.
To gain more insight into this topic, we got in touch with Suzanna de Baca, CEO of Story Board Advisors. She was kind enough to have a chat with Bored Panda and break down what exactly mansplaining is.
"Mansplaining is a made up word that describes the phenomenon of a person, generally a man, providing a condescending explanation of something to someone who already understands it," Suzanna explained. "Mansplaining differs from 'normal everyday explaining,' in that the explanation or comment is generally communicated in a condescending or overconfident tone, is sometimes inaccurate and often oversimplified."
#4
I always had really painful, irregular periods. Was diagnosed with PCOS at 14, and had to fight for an endometriosis diagnosis for a decade. I was probably 21, and saw a military gynecologist, on base. I didn't get to pick the doc, so it was a man. We proceed with the appointment, he asks about my pain, so I explain how it's pretty constant, not just during my period. Then he asks how I know I have PCOS. Well.. I was diagnosed thanks to labs and ultrasounds and symptoms. He doesn't believe me and orders new tests. THEN he tells me I obviously need to work out more, because my pain is muscular. He says that my pain just "doesnt make sense", then proceeds to explain the whole menstrual cycle to me like I am a child, even after I tried to stop him. It was as if I'd never had a period and didn't understand hormones and cramps.
3 years later I was diagnosed with stage 3 endo on every pelvic organ. Thankfully I found a fantastic excision surgeon who never tries to mansplain.
Lee Banks 11 months ago
I hate this for you. It took me 20 years to get a pcos diagnosis. I had to grow out my facial hair, and find foreign female dr to even get scheduled for an ultrasound.
DragonofMordor 11 months ago
It took me almost 20 years to get my endo diagnosis. And another 5 years to finally get a hysterectomy (extra tissue was in a place couldn't be removed). And even after that, I found out my doctor got fired after my insurance refused to pay after the fact and she just didn't tell us that and ate the costs.
Load More Replies...
Orysha 11 months ago
It if was a man sickness they would have found a cure a long time ago (or at least tried).
Sue User 11 months ago
I read once that excuse for not including women in medical trials was because their bodies were just so complicated. They were worried that " other factors outside our control" would alter the results.
Load More Replies...
Velvl-Kai Ryder 11 months ago (edited)
I had endo for 30 years before I finally got a hysterectomy. That s**t is EXCRUCIATING. But according to all my doctors til I was 24,its just normal to have cramping during a period so bad you throw up and pass out for three days. I'm so sorry you had to suffer through that nonsense too.
Upstaged75 11 months ago
Yeah, I was told I was being a wimp and that some women just have difficult periods. The surgeon who removed a crapton of junk from inside me (which included my tubes because they were destroyed) disagreed. Sadly it was all women who refused to treat me properly and a male surgeon.
Load More Replies...
Dusty's mom 10 months ago
PCOS can be dangerous. My sister had it, developed polyps and lesions, inside and outside of her uterus, ovaries, fallopian tubes, and bladder. One day, when she was with us in our car, one or more of them burst. The pressure pushed upwards and compressed her lungs. Hubby and I were driving the car we were all in, and I ordered him to drive to the nearest hospital. It took two surgeons, one for women's organs, one for bladder issues, to excise all the adhering tissues. She had black, viscous, blood all over inside her lower torso, which, thankfully, was removed. She had developed a kind of peritonitis. Thankfully, the staff took things seriously. She could have died. Not one gynecologist in 35 years warned her of the dangers inherent in PCOS. She could have avoided this.
Sarah B 11 months ago
Same. I had to have full hysterectomy and oopherectomy at 19 because the PCOS would grow so heavy to twist my fallopian tubes and endometriosis took over my enterire pelvic bowl, uterus, ovaries, the ligament in my hips, at the base of my spine and around the part of my vagus nerve near my stomach. Multiple doctors brushed me off and it took one gyno , Male, in his 60's who took one look at me and said, " I know what it wrong with you and you have 2 choices. HAve a baby now and hope the hormones destroy the endo or have a hysterectomy. There is no cure." 4 Lapro's later, full hysterectomy and oopherectomy. I wasn't going to have a child as a "cure". Old guy knew immediately, the other male doctor's thought I was anorexic (so thin due to being unable to eat), had appendicitis, or was a hypochondriac. I hope you know you are not alone and I am so sorry you ahd to go through that!
MsPlants 11 months ago
I have to say Ive lucked out with my docs. I didnt even know what PCOS was until I was married to my ex and we decided to go off birth control and after a year didnt get pregnant. I went to a doc that specialized in fertility but also cradle to grave womens health. He asked me a bunch of questions then said he wanted to do an ultrasound, I was all like ok until I found out there are internal ultrasounds! that was an eye opening day! and next thing I know I have PCOS. that was when I was 28. I hit 40 and went from light 3 day periods with regular cramps (on the pill for acne) to horrendous cramps and buckets of blood. found a doc who took me serious and did some tests and was like have you heard of fibroids? 1 hysterectomy (my uterus was 5 times it should be when removed) later that was actually a suggested option for a fix to the problem and I was pain free. I know I was lucky to find these 2 docs in 2 different cities and states apart.
Fire Singer 11 months ago
I had the worst luck with military doctors for the first 18 years of my life. I never knew getting blood drawn didn't hurt, I didn't know doctors would listen to you, and I didn't know it was possible to tell a doctor a concern and they'd take you seriously. I'm positive there are good military doctors, but I sure never met one.
Panda Cat 10 months ago
I briefly had a former military physician and he was great. He was so happy to be out of… I think it was the Air Force? Unfortunately, he moved to a small quiet town.
Load More Replies...
Kate Johnson 11 months ago
I had a female gynecologist tell me "It's women like you who whine over a little bit of period cramps that make it harder for women to taken seriously." My next gynecologist, a man, had one appointment with me and scheduled surgery. I had endometriosis and ended up having a hysterectomy at 38 after 4 surgical laparoscopic "clean outs"
Joanne Hudson 10 months ago
See expert on that Bindi Irwin .yahoo.com/search?p=bindi+irwin&fr=yset_chr_syc_hp-s&fr2=p%3Afp%2Cm%3Asa%2Cct%3Asa%2Ckt%3Anone%2Csa_mk%3A7&type=hpsetv2Aug27&fp=1
Panda Cat 10 months ago
I had incredibly painful periods for years, but it wasn’t PCOS or endometriosis. I got very lucky and happened upon a tea by the company Traditional Medicinals called Women’s Liberty. I drank it almost every day for a couple of years, realized my pain was gone, and my periods were absolutely normal. The company is still around, but as far as I can tell the tea isn’t. Even if it helped other people just a tiny bit it would be worth it. this garbage of dismissing women in medicine to stop. It happened to me once I ordered the physician to leave the room and get me somebody who would actually help. I was very lucky for decades to have a family practitioner who always listened to me. Think I had one of the shortest times to a diagnosis when I started having symptoms of non-Hodgkins lymphoma because he took me seriously. Sadly, he took early retirement.
#5
I was training a new employee (male) and part of the training was sitting in with me when I met with clients. First day, first meeting, I explained to the client that I was training new employee and new employee would be sitting in but not participating in conversation, just listening and learning. Within 30 seconds the client was directing all questions to new employee and ignoring my answers. Finally, I asked new employee to step out of the room. I asked client if he had a problem with me and would prefer to talk to my boss? Client mansplained to me how males are better at my job because the male brain is better at business because they think without emotion. He asked for the new employee and I told him new employee has been on the job for 2 hours, the only thingbhe knows so far is where the bathroom is and where the breakroom is. Client finally accepted I would be the one helping him and appointment continued. After he said - wow you really know your stuff.
Of course I know my stuff! I've been in my industry for over 10 years!
StrangeOne 11 months ago
It's not a compliment to assume a professional is an amateur and pat them on the back for knowing more than assumed.
Jenni Howard 10 months ago
Men think without emotion???? Domestic violence & general violence stats would say otherwise
Kate Johnson 11 months ago
It's funny how men like this think women are stupid, when so many of them are drooling morons!
Hagia Sophia of Athens 11 months ago
I hate when it goes the other way and the male professional talks to my husband over me and when I ask questions. I totaled my car and did all the research on what the value should be so we got a fair payment from our car insurance company. My husband came with me and let me doing the negotiation. For everything this man tried to undervalue, I handed him printed pages proving what the value should be. At one point, he looks over at my husband with exasperation. My hubba hubby leaned back onto the chair with a bright smile and said, "Don't look at me. She knows what she's talking about." At that point, the adjuster got hostile. I think the final check was about US$2,000-3,000 less than what it should have been but I.got almost $5,000 more than his initial offer.
Caroline Starr 10 months ago
I (a midwife) was appointed as Commissioning Officer on a team working on a new maternity unit. The chair of the team is the Senior Nursing Officer for the district, and the Senior Midwifery Officer (both women) were also on the team. IThere were other women from other parts of the service, but they needed someone to co-ordinate all the different parts. When I was introduced the site manager said "Oh no, not another bloody nurse, what does she know about commissioning?" I said 1) I'm not a bloody nurse, I'm a bloody midwife and 2) How many buildings have you commissioned? None So I know as much about commissioning as you do, but what I can do is read the manual (yes there was one) and draw on the expertise of all you others. When the project cane in on time and under budget I received the biggest bouquet of flowers from him. 'To the best bloody midwife I've ever worked with'.
DragonofMordor 11 months ago
I very often have potential clients try to direct things to my male paralegal, assuming he's the lawyer. Even when we make clear at the start that I'm the lawyer and he and the other woman are the paralegals.
#6
I had a man mansplain mansplaining 😂 Apparently, it’s when a man wins an argument and a woman doesn’t have anything else to say to win, so they accuse him of mansplaining.
Pandemonium 11 months ago
Maybe you didn't understand that post. You see, when a woman...
Load More Replies...
StrangeOne 11 months ago
Good grief. This is narcissistic behaviour. This is how narcissists wear down their "opponent" in an argument/debate/conversation, you name it, so they will always come out appearing right. They have to win. If you call them out on it then they get all irate, basically like someone losing at Monopoly and tossing over the board.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
From Wikipedia: Mansplaining (a blend word of man and the informal form splaining of the gerund explaining) is a pejorative term meaning "(for a man) to comment on or explain something, to a woman, in a condescending, overconfident, and often inaccurate or oversimplified manner" Did you know Wikipedia has an entire article about this?
Mingey 11 months ago
I had a straight ex mansplain dating men..I just asked him is that what all your boyfriend's did....silence😂😂😂😂
"While women have, for decades, experienced the realities of gender disparities in the workplace, a new vocabulary has emerged to describe those experiences," Suzanna continued. "It is not always gender specific, but research conducted by Michigan State University graduate research fellow Caitlin Briggs published in the Journal of Business and Psychology indicates women tend to react more negatively because we are so often questioned about our competence and qualifications."
"Over time, the term has become commonly used to describe a disrespectful or condescending explanation regardless of whether the commenter was male or female," she added.
#7
I have big b***s and the number of times I’ve had guys try to explain bra sizes to *me,* or act like DD/DDD is the “biggest they can get naturally”…
That, and “why are you showing them off, just wear looser clothing”… when I was in a T-SHIRT. Not my fault you can’t control your eyes hon
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
As a man, what got me was finding out how damn expensive bras are. When My GF in college told me she spent $150 on a bra I was blown away, but I understood and was immediately sympathetic.
HeavyMetalHeart 11 months ago
That’s insane! Mine cost £6 from PRIMARK and is perfectly comfortable. And I’m an E cup.
Load More Replies...
Amy S 11 months ago
The number of people who don't understand band sizes is astonishing. Was having a conversation about the cost of bras and mentioned as a 28D mine are expensive even though they are small. Had a guy argue with me that I cannot be a 28D because that would mean I have big boobs. If you don't know how something works don't argue with someone who does.
Kate Johnson 11 months ago
LOL! I wish DD/DDD was as big as they got naturally. My G bra and sore shoulders and back begs to differ. My fantasy is breast reduction!
ManuelQue 11 months ago
Would insurance cover that if your doctor said it was for medical reasons - "sore shoulders and back".?
Load More Replies...
Mel Kai 11 months ago
I am a 38L (American) and 38HH (UK). They are so hard to find. Everyone wants to sell a "full Body" bra. I do not have a full body; I have large breasts and a smaller rib cage. $80 each for a bra if you can find them.
Dusty's mom 10 months ago
I bet underwires are torture. I always ripped them out, being only 4'10", small frame. I bet you matured very early. I started menses at almost age 9, and my body stopped growing, but the breasts grew so fast that my mother yelled at me for going braless in the 4th grade (U.S.). You're even larger than I am (38K U.S.). Why can't we find sports bras or bras with extra padded straps? It's like they make big bras for the sex industry! I just get by with a tank top tucked under the breasts. Works well enough for this Boomer.
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 10 months ago
38K: Non-enhanced breasts. Bras had to be specially made. I just don't care anymore now that I'm a senior citizen.
OzymandiasTheManokit They/Them 10 months ago
NOW BP IS SENSORING BOOBIES? WHAT ELSE ARE WE GONNA CALL EM', SHOULDER BOULDERS?
#8
I work in marketing. At the time I was working for a beer company and was the only female in the room in a planning meeting to come up with campaign ideas for the following year. I was there as the retail marketer, as I worked closely with the sales team to execute campaigns in-store.
They came up with an idea they thought was hilarious and became an echo chamber. After a bit I spoke up and said it was a really fun idea, and we should definitely do a social media campaign about it, but it wouldn’t work in retail. Keep in mind that before we got started the CMO gave a big speech about how any idea we presented to the President needed to work in all spaces. So he didn’t like that I said it didn’t work. He legit said these words after I made that comment, “You see unicornsneezes, how marketing works is that xyz.” I had been in the industry for over 15 years and had more actual marketing and advertising experience than a lot of other people in the room. I just shut my mouth.
The next day he presented the idea to the President of the company. Guess what he said. “Cool idea, but there’s no way it’s going to work in retail.”
StrangeOne 11 months ago (edited)
It's these times, when you know someone higher up will bring you just desserts, without you getting in trouble getting all heated.
Sue User 11 months ago (edited)
The problem here is the boss might go "unicornsneezes should have known better" and if unicornsneezes tried to explain how they were shouted down, then the boss us upset because unicornsneezes cant effectly persuade. So either way, speak up and overridden or not speak up, you are held responsible.
Load More Replies...
#9
I was a gas turbine engineer in the Navy. I had a friend ask me to teach some of her new guys the propulsion part of the surface warfare pin exam. I took them to the engineroom and one guy started a whole spiel on a ballasting system that we did not have on our ship. He actually dismissed me when I started explaining the seawater compensation system that we used onboard instead. He also insisted we only used diesel engines and went on to explain how I am confusing gas turbine with diesel engines. We did not use diesel engines. I am a gas turbine engineer, stationed onboard this particular ship because it is powered by gas turbine engines. I also write the exam questions for my section of his exam. He did not pass.
StrangeOne 11 months ago
I would redirect him to the commander chief and tell him to explain everything he just said to me. Sounds like this dunce isn't qualified for his position.
Bookworm 11 months ago
Yeah, I personally know nothing about engines, but I would definitely wonder who assigns an engineer position to a guy who can't identify the general type of the engine that is apparently right in front of him. Like, I get that these guys are new and still taking exams, but wouldn't someone who wanted to be an engineer on a Navy ship have to pass some kind of basic job training before they actually get on a ship?
Load More Replies...
zims 11 months ago
"Exam question 5: When touring the ship, Private Brown said it used a ballasting system and diesel engines. Explain what systems we actually use."
Tom Brincefield 10 months ago
Nitpick incoming. Seaman. Privates are Army or Marines.
Load More Replies... Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
Dude could not tell the difference between a diesel and a gas turbine? That's a new one for me. Sounds like he declared that after seeing the actual engine room. JFC what an asshat.
So why are men so inclined to "mansplain"? "Research varies, but traditional societal norms or expectations reinforce the idea that men should exude confidence, appear knowledgeable or add value," Suzanna noted.
"Men (or women who mansplain) may do this unintentionally, unaware that they are doing it. The condescending tone or approach may be attributable to numerous factors, ranging from a lack of emotional intelligence to unconscious overcompensation for a lack of confidence," the expert continued. "In personal situations, men may be trying to be protective or assist in solving problems, or lack the ability to connect emotionally so resort to behavior that ends up being patronizing."
#10
When I (F, late thirties) first met my SIL's new boyfriend, he asked what I was doing for a living (I work in academia). He then proceeded to explain my own PhD thesis to me, you know, the one I have written and defended years ago, and the one he hadn't even heard of before we were introduced... 🤦
Also, I am assistant professor now and whenever I show up for class with my teaching assistant (M, early twenties) for the first time, people often automatically assume he is the Dr. in the room. When I mentioned this on one of the academic subs around here, the most upvoted comment was (I wish I was kidding): "What were you wearing?" 🤦🤦
#11
I'm an electrician (when I still worked in the field I mostly did commercial and industrial work; I teach at our training center now). One day I was installing electrical boxes in stud walls. The brackets I was using to mount the boxes were an expandable type, adjustable to fit different stud spacings. A carpenter walked up out of nowhere, took the bracket I was adjusting *out of my hands,* and showed me how he'd seen other electricians adjust the brackets, "because you see how the studs are only attached at the top and bottom? They're flexible, so if your bracket is too wide it's going to bow the studs out and the drywallers won't have a straight line to hang their boards with."
I lowered my chin and just stared at him until he got uncomfortable and went away. I've been told I have a "scary" resting face and it comes in handy all the time on jobsites (and occasionally in the classroom).
Snowkit 11 months ago (edited)
I have one like that too, even creepier if I widen my eyes and creepy smile. >=)
Joanne Hudson 10 months ago (edited)
I used to offer my boss's phone extention if he was unhappy with me. Just a sweet smile but my eyes could kill. When I was a moderator on a website my friends used to say I could tell you to go to hell in such a way that you looked forward to it.
Load More Replies...
detective miller's hat 11 months ago
The silent unblinking stare + resting murder face (that's what my friends and family say I have) = the best way to let someone know exactly how stupid they are.
#12
A male acquaintance of mine was trying to tell me how he took Tri-Cyclen (oral contraceptive pill) for acne when he was a teenager. I asked him if he meant to say tetracycline (an antibiotic used to treat acne) but he condescendingly responded that it was Tri-Cyclen. He had no healthcare background. I’m a pharmacist.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
I don't have any sort of degree or background in medicine and I know it's tetracycline.
Thee8thsense 11 months ago
But you are a much more intelligent person from the men described in these situations (imo, from the comments I have read by you on BP).
Load More Replies...
Dusty's mom 10 months ago
Ah, if only they had a contraceptive pill that men would be willing to take!
Debby Keir 11 months ago
Hahaha - tri cyclen is a birth control pill, BUT also used to treat acne vulgaris in girls over 15. Acne vulgaris is acne of the vulva, so joke's on him/her.
michael Chock 11 months ago
Maybe he was condescending because he really was taking contraceptives to cure his hormonal acne. Should have asked him if he started lactating.
Kelly Scott 11 months ago
Like my brother. I was trying to tell him there was no such thing as a "silver" lab, as per a woman I had been talking to who was a top lab breeder as was her mother. My brother was insisting they were wrong. I said, "These women have been involved in labs for decades and bred numerous champions. How many champions have YOU bred?" Crickets. But, oh boy, there were silver labs around because he met just ONE of them and talked to the owner, who probably knew less than him about labs.
Ruth Watry 10 months ago (edited)
Ask him how he felt when he began growing boobs - or if he had any side effects when he started taking birth control pills
But Suzanna says that it's important to know that not all men mansplain. "And not all explanations are wrong, even if they are not communicated in a productive manner," she pointed out. "It is possible the person – conditioned by societal norms – is truly trying to be helpful. It is possible the person is trying to add value, or in a personal situation they want to protect or take care – or perhaps they don’t really know how to connect."
#13
A coworker mansplaining our job which I've been doing over a year, with incorrect information. I straight up told him, "That is incorrect, and in fact the process is exactly the opposite of what you just said. I assure you, the client does NOT want 10 identical data sets, but 10 unique ones for analysis. Since I've been here a year longer than you have, they would most certainly have corrected any mistakes by now." So I pulled rank, seniority, and y'all...HE APOLOGIZED.
#14
I'm doing my PhD in soil chemistry and am experimenting with biochar in forest soils. A random dude with no background in the area started telling me that adding biochar to forests is a fire hazard and that I must stop immediately. Biochar has huge water retention potential and can be incredibly beneficial in preventing forest fires, but who am I to explain stuff to internet experts...
StrangeOne 11 months ago (edited)
People tend to think they're smarter than they really are. Some people have smart potential, but are fed misinformation they deem as facts. This guy must be the latter, or both. I'm sure he has good intentions, but has a skewed education. Either way, society needs to learn something about Stoicism. Inquire before assuming.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
A person who knows one thing on a subject often mistakes that for knowing more than one thing.
Load More Replies...
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
I gotta wonder what dude's logic was. Did he think they were adding charcoal to the soil? The two are similar. I wouldn't BBQ a steak on biochar though, it's basically organic waste. Wouldn't taste or smell very good. Also you ever try to start a BBQ with no lighter fluid? Take a lump of normal charcoal (I know about the self lighting kind) and light it with a match. You're gonna need a lot of matches.
Sue User 11 months ago
I once found this stuff that was like a gel that advertised " no fuel smell on food".
Load More Replies...
RajunCajun 11 months ago
"Dunning-Kruger effect" - a cognitive bias where people with limited competence in a particular area overestimate their abilities, often because they lack the knowledge to recognize their own incompetence.
#15
I had a Lowe's (hardware store in the US) employee tell me he was "trying to find a way to compare it to cooking or cleaning" when I asked him for advice about putting up drywall on a partition wall in my garage.
StrangeOne 11 months ago (edited)
"So, what you're trying to say you don't know enough about putting up drywall. That's okay to admit. Perhaps you can page someone who knows more about it."
Michael Largey 11 months ago
What drywalling and cooking/cleaning have in common is that both sexes are equally capable of both.
Charles McChristy 11 months ago
Those guys don't know what they are talking about anyway. The same goes for Home Depot. These guys get a week or two of training and all of the sudden they are expert carpenters smh
g90814 11 months ago
guessing it's a stock photo, no nametag or anything either.
Load More Replies...
Amanda Reinstatler 10 months ago
"its not your fault you don't understand your job, honey. I will go find someone who isnt a half wit."
Dusty's mom 10 months ago
I had to teach my husband how to mud a wall. Thankfully, he's the kind of guy who listens and asks questions. Guys, it's the sexiest thing a guy could do for a woman!
So how should we respond to mansplaining? "Well intended or not, it is important to respond with clear and respectful communication to point out the behavior and to reinforce your own ground rules for communication in the relationship," Suzanna shared.
"It can be helpful to refer to the behavior or inaccuracy, and ask the person to listen to your point of view or perspective. Depending on the situation, you can remind them you are familiar with the topic or situation (perhaps even have specific expertise)," she continued. "You also can politely respond that you’ve 'got this,' redirect the conversation or – if your response is falling on deaf ears – end the interaction or come back to it later."
#16
I used to work at a coffee shop and a man ordered an americano from me and I went over to the espresso machine to make it and this m**********r leans his grubby elbows onto this $15,000 machine to say “yeah so an americano is like espresso and water.” YOU DONT SAY?? Thank god you’re here to teach the BARISTA how to make coffee !! Enjoy your decaf
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
It's the second easiest coffee drink to make besides coffee. My eyes would have rolled so hard me head would explode.
Daune Tullina 11 months ago
I say my eyes rolled back so far , I was able see my brain
Load More Replies...
Kate Johnson 11 months ago
It's sad that these morons think they're being cute. They are so completely repulsive.
Kami “Kelodin” 10 months ago
L'Americano n'a aucun goût, c'est du jus de chaussette comme on dit ici ^^'
#17
I was born and raised in South East Asia, and learned how to use chopsticks from my South East Asian grandparents (who both came from wealthy, snobby families) and parents.
My American born non-Asian ex tried to explain to me how to use chopsticks because he learned how to do it differently through YouTube.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
Who learns chopsticks (not the song) from YouTube? Was dude like, "I'm dating an Asian woman. I should learn to use chopsticks." And went to YT? Hot tip for guys, asking a woman to help you learn a new skill builds the relationship and makes you closer. That's a good thing. Bro didn't do that and now he's an Ex.
Rafael 11 months ago
Good advice, asking for help in general tend to make people be interested in your success, which is a good thing for all involved
Load More Replies...
Michael Largey 11 months ago
It's ok to talk about how you learned something if it's done as sharing a past experience, not as teaching a lesson in the present.
SheamusFanFrom1987 11 months ago (edited)
I'm Asian, and by most standards, my chopsticks skills are still amateur. Tutorials only guide, you grow into them slowly. Or not... (Former colleague, also Asian, never used a pair of chopsticks in her 31 years of existence and couldn't get the hang of them no matter how hard I tried to help. Poor lass, kinda).
Panda Panda Bo Banda 11 months ago (edited)
Maybe because it's racist to assume someone knows how to use chopsticks just because they're Asian. Especially since many Southeast Asian cultures don't use chopsticks.
#18
I was working out on a public path. A guy is staring at me. When I pause he announces "Men don't like women who are too into fitness." I laughed a bit and said I was ok with that and tried to go back to working out. But now he is in front of me, all puffed up and red, "No, you need to listen to me, I am telling you something you need to know!"
I decided it was time to start my run.
Dragons Exist 11 months ago
"men don't like women who are too into fitness" ok then why are you staring at her
Another Panda 11 months ago
“Do you think all men are so insecure that they don’t like their partner to be healthy, or is it just you?”
tresgatos72 11 months ago
I'd have said, "Women don't like random men who try to tell them what to do."
Michael Largey 11 months ago
"Women don't like men who don't like women who are into fitness."
Finally, Suzanna added that there is often a burden on women to sit politely and smile, use humor to diffuse a situation, or to be accommodating when we are interrupted or on the receiving end of condescending interactions.
"To change societal norms, it is important that we speak up about the type of communication we prefer and deserve to receive," she told Bored Panda. "Providing that feedback in the same respectful way we expect to be treated will help provide opportunities for others to learn, grow and change outdated societal norms."
#19
To preface, I'm an electrical engineer and have been at my current job for over a year.
I was in a meeting with all of my coworkers (who are male). For about an hour, one of them is reading and explaining a program in depth specifically TO ME. I let him talk the program up and don't say a word. The design is going to be used on all of the systems in the company starting this year. He talks about how the director is really excited about it and how it'll up our production. He said I could really benefit from reviewing the code and learning from it.
I ask him to look at the revision information.
It says "author: u/NickieSteph"
Face crack lol
#20
Was explaining to my sister that there are 4 different types of IP addresses while on a hay ride.
Guy sitting with his wife starts saying, “No.” After every one of my sentences.
So, I pulled out my phone like, “Hey sis, let me show you on google the different types of IPs. Public, Private, Static, and Dynamic! Yep, some people think there’s only ONE, but those people only work on ONE so I understand their confusion!”
He didn’t interrupt for the rest of the ride.
You didn’t know me 2 mins ago 9 months ago
wait Maggie that’s actually such a funny reply to Jessica 😭
#21
I was in the middle of donating platelets, which is a 2-hour process. I was trying to read a book during it, so when the nurse asked if I was comfortable, I asked for a pillow to prop the book up. (It's hard to hold and turn pages one-handed while not accidentally moving the arm with the needle in it.) The man next to me started trying to tell me that I should've asked them to tilt the bed at a different angle for better neck support.
The nurse interrupted him to say, "you don't have to tell fuzzybunny how to donate blood. She's here every 2 weeks." And pointed to the "Blood drive ambassador" T-shirt I was wearing, which I got for volunteering to raise awareness about the need for donor blood.
That shut the old man up.
LB 11 months ago
I started doing this (donating platelets) but had to stop after a few sessions because I'm a heart patient now :(
BookFanatic 11 months ago
Genuine, very ignorant, question. Are the two correlated?
Load More Replies... Dusty's mom 10 months ago
I started donating pheresis back in the 80s, and so glad to see the progress the process has attained! But as OP stated, it's a 2-hour procedure, so bringing a lap desk can help. The timing hasn't changed much, as they really can't speed it up safely. But it's possible to donate more frequently than whole blood. Now, as a cancer patient, I REALLY appreciate the dedication of people like OP!
#22
During a training class for a new job, I had a guy mansplain how to close an internet page. And yes this was in the last 5 years.
You click the X If anyone is wondering! 🙃
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
CTRL-F4 works too for closing tabs. ALT-F4 for the whole browser window. Follow me for more 'LEET SKILLZ from 2002.
Nikole 11 months ago
But can I copy and paste something without using the mouse?
Load More Replies...
StrangeOne 11 months ago (edited)
This is something I come across by both men and women. Get it all the time at work. A coworker, eye-dropping on my phone screen during break tried explaining to me how to play a fruit merging game because she didn't like where I was dropping the fruit. Completely unsolicited and nosy.
Christy Barrett 11 months ago
Umm, I have actually had to explain to people how to close a document/internet page to people. Yes, click the x. Some people actually know nothing about using a computer. Which is sad because the jobs I have had to explain it in are jobs that require computer experience. But our HR would just take their word on it.
#23
My BIL asked me if I was sure I understood crime rates after I corrected him on violent crime rates in major US cities. I’ve been a crime analyst for 5 years and have a Master of Science in criminal justice/criminology. He has a GED and has never worked in the field, just gets all his information from Fox news.
JustABored1 10 months ago
That's funny, because after reading a bunch of these I'm thinking mansplaining could be replaced with magasplaining!! 🤡
Panda Cat 10 months ago
turns out that multiple surveys by reputable groups like Pews show that Fox News viewers know, and understand less about what’s going on in the world then people who say they don’t follow the news. Now, isn’t that interesting?
Load More Replies... Panda Cat 10 months ago
Poor insecure Magahats. Maybe you’re one of the many people who voted for the felon who now say it was a huge mistake and they regret it. Or maybe not.
Load More Replies... #24
One guy mansplained seasons to me because I tried to tell him that HVAC needs in a museum are very different from other county buildings. He literally started by saying, "You see, there are four seasons in a year, and you have to change the temperature in each season" and then went on for another 20 minutes
Michael Largey 11 months ago (edited)
If he's old enough, ask him "Four? What about Frankie Valli?"
StrangeOne 11 months ago
"I see you like reading Oprah magazine. You should apply to be her "What I know" columnist."
Celtic Pirate Queen 10 months ago
One of my favorite responses to mansplainers is to tell them, "You're an idiot" and just walk away.
Julia Mckinney 11 months ago
Did you tell him "don't worry your pretty little head about this"?
Bookworm 11 months ago
From context, I'm guessing he was an engineer/architect/similar title who was supposed to be designing an HVAC system?
Load More Replies... #25
I have a BA in psychology. When I was in my junior year of college I had a guy who I randomly happened to bump into often while smoking in between classes. He asked me if I knew the difference between a sociopath and a psychopath. I told him that neither were in the DSM 5 and they never had been. I let him know that the correct diagnosis was antisocial personality disorder. He, this guy who was in his first quarter of college, proceeded to lecture me about the difference.
Like dude, I’m majoring in this and have been for three years. You started college a few months ago and are majoring in business. But sure, I needed a man to tell me about my chosen field of study. I’m sure all those professors who have masters degrees and PhD’s in the field were just waiting for you to come along and correct their decades of experience.
Lyoness 11 months ago
Did he even know what the DSM-5 is? Or were his diagnostic skills from YouTube?
Snowkit 11 months ago (edited)
Their from wiki I bet Edit: no offense to wiki, just that wiki is an internet thing that might have false information if the fact checkers missed a thing or two.
Load More Replies... 
Feathered Dinosaur 11 months ago
But there is a major difference between these two. Sociopaths are the one with the antisocial personality disorder, it develops by nurture (upbringing), while psychopathy is nature, the way your brain is wired and you're born with it. Most psychopaths lead fairly normal lives blending in quite well while a huge amount of sociopaths end up in prison
#26
I was ill in bed with pneumonia and a kidney infection. I got my period mid-week - the mouldy cherry on top of a really s****y cake. I asked my then-boyfriend to grab me some tampons on his way home from work. He called me and whined that people might think they’re for him, they’re dirty, he doesn’t want to carry them. Could he not come to the house, pick me up and I go in and buy them myself? After I explained gravity and the impact of blood all over his precious car, he relented and agreed.
He called me from the tampon aisle, *whispering*, to ask which ones I needed. I explained just a box of regular. He grabbed them and then he was like, “umm there’s some super plus plus ones here. Wouldn’t they be better?”. No thanks. I know my flow. Regular is fine. “Babe I don’t know if you know but there’s *a lot* of blood. I really think super plus plus would be better. Trust me”. Again explained my flow doesn’t need them so just the regular please.
He came home with the super plus plus. I had no choice but to use them but I did explain TSS to him and why the right tampon for the flow is vital. Too big a tampon does not make it any easier. Idiot.
Kari Panda 11 months ago
"He called me and whined that people might think they’re for him" Of course. Whenever I see a man buying tampons, my first thought is, "Gasp, that man is having a period!"
Dragon mama 11 months ago
Ignoring explicit directions given multiple times by your partner regarding an intimate product that will only be used by them is inexcusable.
LB 10 months ago
It says "then-boyfriend". But yeah hopefully it didn't take too long.
Load More Replies...
Janissary35680 11 months ago
To the tune of "We are the champions": https://genius.com/Bob-rivers-we-buy-the-tampons-lyrics
Bookworm 11 months ago
Sounds like some transphobia to me, on top of the blatant 'they're dirty' misogyny.
Load More Replies... cerinamroth 11 months ago (edited)
We don't like men like that. My husband bought breast pads, nipple cream and maternity pads for me and thought nothing of it.
Anne Reid 11 months ago
Exactly. My husband had no problem buying me tampons. He kept a picture on his phone of the brand/size I preferred so he wouldn’t accidentally buy the wrong ones. When I complained that feminine products rarely went on sale, he made it a point to check every time he was in a store….he loved him some bargains! I miss that man.
Load More Replies... BarfyCat 11 months ago
My husband buys me menstrual products all the time, and somehow his penis has never fallen off! Go figure!
Tabitha 10 months ago
Mine always did too back when I still had periods (the one good thing about menopause). Not only did his d**k never fall off, he also never even had a fleeting thought about using them on himself.
Load More Replies...
Courtney Christelle 11 months ago
My 15 year old son has carried my tampons for me while shopping. Doesn’t even bat an eye.
#27
A new hire at work was in training and had been under the guidance of two of my male coworkers the day before. On his second day, he was under my guidance and began telling me how to do my job. At first I thought he was just reciting specifics out loud to remember them for his own sake, but after the third or fourth time, I realized he was literally trying to train me on how my job works. I stopped him after only a few minutes, and told him I am a supervisor and am here to train him today. “Oh, my apologies- I thought you were new here too.” As I stood there in a full supervisor uniform with my name tag that says supervisor and after he had been told a supervisor with my name would be guiding him on that day.
Bookworm 11 months ago
Might want to mention to someone that they need to look at their hiring process, because this guy isn't just a bit sexist, he's generally clueless, unobservant and doesn't listen to instructions.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Instead of "My eyes are up here, guy", it's "My badge is up here, guy".
#28
My boss of 8 years. He's in his 60s. I get pregnant for the first time. He taught me all about childbirth. He was a self-proclaimed expert. How? His ex-wife had 2 kids. So he knew all about it. He told me what it would be like, how recovery would be, and that I really only needed a few weeks of maternity leave. My entire pregnancy was full of advice and explanations.
THEN.
A małe co-worker's wife gets pregnant. Guess what? He's going through a major life change. We don't expect him to show up for meeting for months. He's excused from tasks nearly 3 months after baby arrived. Boss knows the stress he's dealing with.
Thee8thsense 11 months ago
He sounds like a two-fer...a mansplainer with a twist of misogynist thrown in.
JP Purves 10 months ago
Everyone knows that pregnancy and childbirth are much more difficult for men than women.
#29
In the earlier years of Discord there was this guy on a private server for friends that tried to claim that mansplaining doesn't exist. A lot of us tried to explain to him that it's a real and demonstrable thing that exists, and his response was to just... Mansplain mansplaining. It was kind of spectacular how much he didn't get it.
#30
My bf’s car braking system was making odd noises and he was complaining that he needed to take the car to the mechanic. From the sound of the noise, I suggest a couple mechanical problems that could be the cause. I worked at a dealership most of my younger years and two years as the parts manager. I grew up in a car business family, so I know a thing or two about cars. Bf listened to my suggestions and then explained to me (very slowly 🙄) how braking systems work. Uhh, okay I know, I could literally build one. Smh.
Lee Banks 11 months ago
I'm assuming this was a one-off. Even the best of folk have really dumb moments.
Load More Replies...
Joyce Melton 11 months ago
Similar. I was a parts manager at John Deere, Caterpillar and Ford for four years and had someone try to explain things to me after I took my ancient Ford in for a broken shift linkage. It being a Ford, I was able to drive it in using just 2nd gear. I told the mechanic right away what the problem was and that he would probably have to order the part since the car was so old. After twenty minutes of making sure the car would start and all the ignition wires were in place, he finally told me that the shift linkage was broken and he would have to order parts from Ford.
Joanne Hudson 10 months ago
Sit down with him, knees to knees, look him in the eyes like he's going to reveal some great secret. Ask questions you know he can't answer but pretend he's a genius. Maybe suggest you fix it together.
#31
A few years ago during college I went to visit my friend in his frat to smoke a little and hang out. These two younger guys were sitting on the couch and talking me and my friend up. At some point they started explaining really basic statistics, like what a p value to us.
It was really satisfying when they stopped and asked what I studied to tell them I was pre-med and a computer science major. Then my friend (a political science major) corrected their explanation because she had just taken stats. A glorious moment.
Boop the Snoot. Pound the Paw. 11 months ago
How do you go to a frat to smoke and hang out and end up with the p-value guys?
Michael Largey 11 months ago
How were the younger guys supposed to know the academic background of the OP, whom they'd just met?
Betsy S 11 months ago
They were on campus. All students. Getting to know each other. Wouldn't one of the FIRST questions be "What are you studying?" If not, they obviously don't have the most basic social skills, and that is bound to set them up to look like fools.
Load More Replies...
#32
I used to drive Uber. One time this dude came into my car, asked me to turn down the radio and proceeded to EXPLAIN TO ME HOW UBER WORKS. While he was in my Uber, which I was driving, and had been driving for years. I wanted the five stars so I just had to listen to him for the whole drive.
StrangeOne 11 months ago
Is it really worth it? Are we really sacrificing our respect and dignity for star reviews?
Tropical Tarot 11 months ago
When you depend on those reviews to continue making money to survive.
Load More Replies...
#33
My wife and her female friend (both PhDs in biology) had a bro (with no biology/medical background) try and explain to them that the gene responsible for depression had been discovered. He had listened to a ~2hr podcast on the subject and could not be convinced that these two people with a combined 10+ years of education in the field might know more than him.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
OH I HATE PODCASTS! For this exact reason! All they do is enable uneducated bro-dudes to think they know something the people who actually study these things don't. Joe Rogan doesn't know SH!T about vaccines, nuclear energy or really anything other than Joe Rogan. He's actually worse than Howard Stern in the '90s.
StrangeOne 11 months ago
Same. I don't get them. It's just Am radio, Yak, yak, yak. No substance. But the fiction stories ones can be interesting.
Load More Replies...
Susie Elle 11 months ago
People think other random people who bought a microphone are proper sources of information
Robert Beveridge 11 months ago
Podcasts are talk radio for people who claim to not like talk radio.
#34
I have a PhD in neuroscience. A first year student tried to explain what Parkinson’s disease was to me, after I explained to him that I knew what PD was. But he knew better than me, because he was a few weeks into his first course on neuroscience. So I had to listen to 20 minutes of partially correct rambling.
Syrah 11 months ago
Because it's very hard to shut the idiots up without pissing them off and us women don't want to do that for safety reasons.
Load More Replies...
Surralvampi 11 months ago
Because it is safer to listen and deescalate than confront directly as a woman.
Tucker Cahooter 11 months ago
By letting them drone on you are encouraging their behaviour. What you should have said was "I have a PhD in neuroscience you jerkwad, so STFU"
Tom Brincefield 11 months ago
Easy for men to do. Not a good idea for women.
Load More Replies...
#35
I work in IT at a software development company. I provide support to customers for our manufacturing software. I've had men explain to me how the software works. Wait, are you doing my job for me? Why did you even call for help then?
The other good one is when I answer the phone and they go, "oh I'm sorry, I must have pressed the wrong button, can you please transfer me to support?".
Dawn Marie 11 months ago
Me: F(60) I used to work for Summit Racing. That is an after market car parts business. I worked in customer service remotely. I can't tell you the number of times after I said my name, the name of the business and "How may I be of service" the first thing out of a man's mouth was: "let me speak to a man." UGGGGGG!!!!!!!
Through the lens of societal behaviors, it's intriguing to observe how often certain actions, like the undervaluation of unique abilities or the prevalence of condescending explanations, manifest. While discussing the range of talents people possess, often labeled as 'useless', it's noteworthy how personal abilities can be trivialized.
For instance, understanding how a seemingly minor skill or piece of knowledge might be perceived ties back to a similar theme of undervaluing certain capabilities, much like the unique skills and talents shared by many Reddit users.
#36
This English guy once tried to explain to me how mariachi was just one single band called mariachi. I’m Latina.
When I tried to explain mariachi was a genre of music and there were many many mariachi bands he was like “are you sure because my friend went to a mariachi concert once”.
Ray Ceeya (RayCeeYa) 11 months ago
WTAF? Now I wonder is there a band out there called "Heavy Metal"? How about a band called "Rock and Roll"? Talk about a way to never be found on any streaming platform.
SCP 4666 11 months ago
My favorite band is Best of the 80s. Check them out, they kick äss
Load More Replies...
#37
Proposed a huge amount experiment in lab. Super excitedly explained all the results he was expecting and got mad at me when I told him it wasn’t possible.
After he screamed at me in a hissy fit for being a negative Nancy I explained to him, with math, how much each of his 243 runs were going to take. It took an few extra explanations and a marker to demonstrate he couldn’t physically do them all in time.
I was the lab manager, FFS. I scheduled the machine usage.
#38
I have a coworker who is particularly bad at this, he does it so much that it's become comical.
He'll ask me a question over DM, I'll answer it, then 5-10 messages later say the same thing back to me in the most condescending language possible.
Last week I asked to transfer to another team 😂
#39
On reddit, I once had a man explain to me in detail that finding women’s clothes with pockets is not difficult at all.
The topic in question involved 17/18 year old girls going to a school leavers concert. When pressed to find an example of appropriate clothes with pockets, he produced a link to a pair of expensive workwear overalls for gardeners. He then explained that overalls are appropriate attire for women in all circumstances including evenings out and corporate jobs, because “Steve Jobs wore a turtleneck and look how successful he was”.
Say No to Downvoting 11 months ago
Oooo - just had a mid 90’s flashback when we were, indeed, wearing our overalls everywhere, glamming them up for school discos, going grungey for hanging with friends, etc. So, the dude’s not wrong - he’s just 30 years late.
g90814 11 months ago
well you know how fashion comes back in cycles, maybe overalls are next years thing? /s
Load More Replies...
#40
I work in tech as a project manager, drawing flow charts and process documentation are MY things…
A completely new manager explained to me what each shape meant in flow chart… like what square or arrows meant…
Mansplaining in tech sector is such commonplace, it’s worse for me as I appear young and inexperienced. I am not.
Urg girls in tech must unite
Rafael 11 months ago
But your eMoTiOnS will get in the way and you will need a MAN with no tech training and zero hours of actual work experience to save you all with the power of his masculine logic! /s
Load More Replies...
#41
Got explained how a software worked... That I was part of the development team of. At a convention, where I was present as an exhibitor for said software. Right on the booth. With my exhibitor pass.
I didn't learn anything new from said guy.
#42
I spent some years writing healthcare software. As a result, I was pretty good at reading code in that language.
Fast forward a few years, and I'm bored with coding and want to see the world. I get a job in a hospital that uses my software. They specifically hired me because of my years of coding that particular software.
I was talking to some coworkers about how the program worked and this guy walked up to correct me. I told him that I was very familiar with the software seeing how I WROTE IT.
He doubled down and insisted he knew more about the software that I wrote.
#43
I was at the DMV and needed to print out proof of insurance. When I went to print the document, what came out looked like wingdings- just incomprehensible nonsense. The computer account was of course a guest account with no admin permissions, so I couldn't do anything to troubleshoot, like reinstall the printer driver. Restarting the printer did not help. I flagged down a nearby DMV employee, explained all of this to him and asked him if I could use the printer behind the counter because the public one wasn't working. His response?
"Look. You grab the mouse. And you go File........Print"
We both watched as my proof of insurance once again came out as wingdings.
He did not let me print behind the counter and I had to take more time off the next day to go back to the DMV.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Wingding Casualty & Collision really doesn't offer the best rates anyway.
#44
My fiancé's best friend is a champion mansplainer. But i think the worse/best one is when he mansplained me the Portuguese language and culture.
I am half Portuguese, and he's Vietnamese.
He visited my family, he knows them, has been part of some of our traditions and gatherings before the pandemic, he has been in a room with us while we were speaking Portuguese. But yet felt the need to educate me on my own language and culture.
Daune Tullina 11 months ago
My Mexican husband, who speaks learned and write english years ago. He has a okay grasp on written english, but still struggles with grammar and spelling. I've been helping him learn over the years. He decided to take a few classes to help him get better. A few of the printed lessons were grammatical incorrect. When I was explaining why a sentence was incorrect. He mansplained english to me! We even got into a few arguments with me. A few times I pulled examples up on google and he still said I didn't know what I was talking about. Ya' know, I've only read all day long and habe been speaking and writing in english for 50+ years. This habit of his drives me nuts. I'll tell him something. He go to a friend and ask the same thing, then come home and tell me his friend told blank. I've said"So the same thing I told you first." More times than I care to admit
Deborah 11 months ago
I think you need to check your spelling and punctuation.
Load More Replies... #45
I used to work in senior care. We had a spiel of basic info on how Medicare and Medicaid work because a lot of people just don't know. I stopped working on that industry about 5 years ago.
Our 91 year old neighbor was moving into an assisted living recently and when she shared some workers with me I have her some information to help.
Later I was discussing her financial difficulties with my husband. Bless his heart, he started educating me on Medicare and Medicaid ... using my own spiel!!!
I just smiled and said, remember when you learned that info?
We had a good laugh over it. He's not truly a mansplainer, he's a bi-splainer. He's have tried to share that info with anyone lol
Family's_disappointment 11 months ago
At least he had the decency to understand he's wrong, most people or anywhere here don't even have that
#46
A new customer software came out at my work which was heavily encouraged to be used going forward by every possible customer.
An affiliate spent 30 mins telling me how women wouldn't be able to figure it out because they aren't as "smart phone literate" and won't be able to complete the process. He threw in a generous "oh not you though, you're smart enough to figure it out"
After those 30 mins, he ended the rant by asking how to use the software because he was struggling to grasp it. I flat out asked if he saw the irony in what he just asked and he called my boss to say I was being difficult
#47
I posted this thing on Facebook yesterday about how to talk to kids about different types of healthy food in age-appropriate ways to make them appealing. This guy I went to high school with, who has no children, responded and told me that some of the items needed to be changed because the wording was too advanced for the age groupings. Thank you childless man for telling a mother of small children who has worked in daycare and was for a time an early childhood education major how to talk to small children. What would I do without you.
Michael Largey 11 months ago (edited)
It really depends on what the guy is trained in. If he's a childhood reading teacher, that's more important than how many kids he has. If he's an unknowledgeable babbler, again it doesn't matter how many children he has.
#48
I have a fabulous one.
I was speaking to a guy in a bar who said I looked like the main character from iZombie (I don't) and I asked where you could watch it. He started diligently explaining to be how to illegally stream it, including how to Google something, what to search for, what to click on, real beginner stuff. I kept interjecting to try to tell him I know how to do it but he took my protests as excuses. He kept saying "no, honestly, I promise you, it's so easy, anyone can do it, I promise you can!" and then continuing to explain how to download something and how easy it would be if I knew how. Eventually I gave up, let him finish and then replied "I know how to download something, I'm a software engineer".
I've never seen a guy go so red in my life. He had the good grace to profusely apologise and admit he'd made a pretty incorrect assumption about my technical abilities.
HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 11 months ago (edited)
Just walk away, arrrrgh! Why stay and listen?
#49
I had a mansplainer yesterday, telling me allll about puppy training pads (I’m using them to trap water from a leaking ceiling prior to repair) and how ‘they absorb a lot of water, and sometimes it looks like more water than it really is’ FFS I know how they work, you muppet.
#50
Years ago, my sisters and I invited some friends over. On the way into the neighborhood, we noticed that a section of our neighbor’s tree had split off and fallen into the road. It wasn’t huge, but it was still blocking the road, and that neighbor was out of town.
The dudes present volunteered to go move it out of the way; cool, except they were gone a really long time. I walked over to see what was going on, and found them standing around the still-unmoved section of tree. I watched as they tried to lift the trunk (you know, the heaviest bit, the bit that’s in the yard already, right where it fell) repeatedly and fruitlessly.
“Let me help you with that,” I suggested. I am 5’ 2in, but I apparently understand physics better than these f*****s.
“Oh yeah, with all of us [gestures himself and to the other two heretofore unsuccessful men] doing this, I’m sure what we need is *you*,” sneered the biggest a*****e of the group.
“Yeah…” I proceeded to explain how we were going to pivot the damn thing, not bro-dude lift it out of the way. We walked to the branches on the street, lifted, and simply walked the tree out of the street and into the yard.
No words from the other two, no apology from the mouthy one. He did proceed to hit on me throughout the evening, and finished off the night vomiting on the floor and apologizing (for puking in front of me, not for earlier) while doing so. What a charmer.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Not surprised about the puking. Foul stuff had been spewing out of his mouth all day.
#51
Was at a group strength class at my gym, led by a woman. I was struggling with certain techniques, and she helped me an gave me advice for how to do it. The advice helped a lot, but I still struggled a bit due to lack of strength and balance that will get better with practise. Had a lovely chat with the lady behind me who said she didn't think I did bad and gave me advice from how she had gotten better. She was a regular at the class.
By the end I was putting equipment in place I walked by a man who was in the same class, who had heard and seen everything. He stopped me, and proceeded to repeat exactly what the trainer had told me.
Had to keep myself from laughing and calling him out on it, since I had no energy for that kind of interaction.
#52
I was fixing a leg that fell off a wooden planter stand. My friend asked if I needed clamps to hold it together. I said no, it's has an insert to slide in, it'll hold. He then goes on about how it needs pressure to adhere and it'll fail if I don't blah blah blah.
I was actually mansplained how wood glue worked. Wood glue, y'all.
Update: planter stand holding up just fine.
#53
My ex boyfriend told me I should really be taping my walls before I painted them to avoid any mistakes. My mother owns an interior painting business and I work for her. My ex boyfriend has never picked up a paint brush in his life. Silly men
#54
I once described the unpleasantness of a pad wax in a group conversation where ladies were talking about things you hate about periods that don’t come up a lot. A guy there told me it was my own fault for being so unhygienic and chastised my past self for being so gross.
Get your own period my dude and stop thinking you know how I should handle mine.
Feathered Dinosaur 11 months ago
As someone with a period I have no idea what she means by "pad wax"
Kalikima 11 months ago
I think she's talking about when you have a pad on for a long time, and it partially dries to your pubes, then rips out pubes when you pull down your underwear. That would make sense for the unhygienic comment.
Load More Replies...
#55
I'm a young professional accountant who sounds and looks even younger.
Two years ago, we took over the books and payroll for a client who had an accountant for half the year, got fed up with them, tried to do things themselves for a quarter, then let our firm finally help. It was... A mess (to put it lightly).
I did what I could, but when we were filing end-of-year payroll returns, we realized that the old accountant screwed things up majorly by forgetting to report someone's wages entirely. This meant a whole load of amendments and creating a whole W2 for the person who was missed.
My client got us on a 3-way call where I inquired about that employee, and asked him to furnish his documents and the quarterly returns he filed. Guy proceeds to tell me in great detail how *I* can fix this. What website to go on to file the amended state returns, that the quarterly returns will need amending, and the former employee will need a W2. He started talking slower and giving me step-by-step instructions. Like, yes, I am aware. That's why I'm calling... To fix **your** mistake.
Deborah 11 months ago
STP? People all over the world, please explain things for people in other countries. Thank you.
Load More Replies...
#56
I met with a financial planner once and he told me about how the brain works. I am a neuroscientist and he knew this when he told me about how saving is rewarding because it makes your brain make dopamine. Really? Tell me more about the tight regulation of dopamine production, release and reuptake in the mesocorticolimbic reward circuit. I’m all ears.
Tucker Cahooter 11 months ago
Hopefully that is what she said to him at the time and not just venting afterwards
#57
Not my story but someone I know. A coworker asked a friend of mine to go fishing, which she gladly accepted since she’s a skilled fisherman. If you know anything about this person, it’s that she has fished her entire life since childhood. She married a fisherman and spent every weekend on the water. They entered and won many fishing tournaments. She would even go fishing alone on the boat and knew her way around the canals better than she knew the roads.
The coworker spent the entire fishing trip explaining every little thing to her. He showed her how to put the bait on the hook, how to cast the line, how to know when to reel it in. I’m talking basic fishing 101, not tricks of the trade. Bless her heart she quietly sat there nodding and didn’t even tell throw him off the boat.
Lee Banks 11 months ago
I cannot imagine how infuriating having one of your favorite hobbies being hijacked must have been. Especially since it's supposed to be relaxing.
Deborah 11 months ago
I've had this happen, not fishing, but other hobbies and professional work.
Load More Replies... #58
I once had a guy tell me I didn’t live in the city I lived in despite my address. He kept saying “No, you live in y not x” and tried to explain the geography of the city I had lived in my entire life. It was the dumbest thing I had ever encountered from a man.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Many years ago, the Post Office did this to my uncle. He lived in Berkeley, CA, but it insisted he lived in Oakland. They had drawn the local zip codes boundary wrong and refused to fix it. Any mail sent to him had to be addressed to Oakland or it would be returned as "No such address"."
#59
Some guy on reddit tried to explain to me how a vagina worked, and when I gave him the average opening of a cervix, he goes "No cuz a tampon wouldn't fit there"
ARG
#60
I told my boyfriend my stomach hurt due to cramps to which he responded cramps are in my uterus and not my stomach lol. We are no longer together. He also explained that women sleep around because the male attention makes them feel good about themselves.
Michael Largey 11 months ago
Gee, you mean that female attention can make a man feel good?
Load More Replies... #61
I love football. Like, LOVE football, every Sunday (and Thursday...and Monday...) I am watching during football season.
My fiance and I were watching and out of nowhere SUPER condescendingly he goes "did you know a yard is three feet?" I just stared at him. "Did you know that?" *stare* "What, most people probably don't know that!" *stare* "Well...I guess YOU probably do...with your masters degree...."
Lol thankfully he recognized it himself without me having to even say anything but it was so bad.
Lee Banks 11 months ago
We've all (male, female, in between) been guilty of this. You just get excited.
veryvenasaur 11 months ago
I did that to my parents. They're both doctors and I love medical trivia so often I will say "did you know random medical fact." and they'll just kind of side eye me.
Load More Replies... #62
Our internet went out recently because my husband didn’t pay the bill. He looked me dead in the eye and asked if I had tried resetting it. Infuriating on many mansplaining levels.
#63
Not really mansplaining, but I gave a scientific presentation to my colleagues regarding how my research on heart development related to the work I was doing in clinical cardiology. One of my older male colleagues came up after the presentation to say, “I didn’t realize you were so smart”. Thanks?
Michael Largey 11 months ago (edited)
Well, after all, it's obvious that you can't assume someone is smart just because they work there.
HighNMightyBigshotBossOfWorld 11 months ago
I had a bus buddy who invited himself along to a street festival with me ( we were walking in the same direction at the same time) weeeelllll, I “lost” him soon thereafter. Next work week, he stated how sad he was thst we got separated, I told him I was not upset at all, and he was not to worry. Welp! He wanted me to say I was upset that we had been separated. I burst his bubble on a few other comments he didn’t like. He told me, he thought expected me to have been nicer because I was “so pretty”!👀
#64
I was on a flight and talking about the town I went to school in (it’s called Gnadenhutten). A man next to me corrected my pronunciation because it is a “German word”. I went to school there, it is a Native American word and I was pronouncing it correctly. I obviously had to learn the history of my town when I went to school there
General Anaesthesia 11 months ago
I apologize for mansplaining, but Gnadenhutten is not a Native American word. Gnadenhutten was founded by Moravian Christians in 1772. "Gnadenhütten, meaning literally "huts of grace" or "mercy huts" in German, was founded in October 1772 as the second settlement of German Americans and Lenape Indians affiliated with the Moravian Church".
1 11 months ago
I don't know how she pronounced it but I've heard locals say "GinAYten"
Load More Replies... Robert Beveridge 11 months ago
Planning a roadtrip down there to check out their history museum this spring.
What do you think ?
Boo 11 months ago
This is still living rent free in my head and it pïsses me TF off! We were on holiday and I stopped at a local tourist trap shop and was looking for a bikini (now I'm a bustier woman, relevant to the story btw). I was just browsing when the owner (I'm assuming) came over to "help". Said I'm looking for a 40E top. He showed me one that was a 32C. And said it was a popular sell. Told him it was too small and this "man"...using that title loosely...tried to explain that it would fit fine. He went on and on about it being the perfect fit. I honestly let it go on for too long until I just said that after 50 years, I know what size I am and what I need, and that as a man, he has no fŭcking clue what shïte he's spouting just to make a sale. Hubs came in and joined me and then get this....he tried telling my hubs I'm wrong and that I don't understand sizing. Had my hubs not pulled me out of there, I honestly think I'd still be sitting in a Spanish prison.
Family's_disappointment 11 months ago (edited)
My cousin's ex boyfriend would always tell me how easy it is to handle dogs on the leash when they are pulling you, whenever he would see me struggling to hold onto them (all the dogs are nice, but they get very excited whenever they see food, so it's hard to control them at that moment) So one day I had enough and told him if he's so good at handling them then he should be the one to hold onto them. Safe to say he didn't even last a few minutes because he fell face forward and broke his nose after my big cuddly dog pulled him. P.s. my dad's a vet, I also plan to become one, my entire family has dogs atleast 2-3 in each household (medium size dogs), we ourselves have 2 big dogs & 2 small ones. And not only that as long as I can remember I would work part time in a dog shelter near my dad's workplace. Also there were multiple times where my dad or I bought sick dogs home just so we can take care of them.
Rachel Reynolds 11 months ago
I'm an certificated mechanic. I fix my dad's brakes for free, because he's my dad and paid for a lot of my tools. My dad, an actuary, likes to sit and watch me work and give "advice". I grin and bare because he pays my Snap-On bill.
Lost Panda 11 months ago
If it makes you feel better, I don't think this has to do with you being his daughter so much as being his child.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 11 months ago
Men mansplain other men too. We had a new principal who decided to explain to me a proposed policy he had found in his predecessor's files. At about the second paragraph I interrupted him to tell him I was the author of that proposal and pointed to my name at the bottom. Didn't slow him down a single second. (He also did not give me credit later when the policy was implemented and succeeded.)
BookFanatic 11 months ago
Dude called the library and asked a question that required a bit of research. When I asked for his number so I could call him back rather than have him wait on the phone, he explained to me how to access the library's website to use a database. I have 20+ years of library experience. Pretty sure I know our website's address and how to find the database section.
Boo 11 months ago
This is still living rent free in my head and it pïsses me TF off! We were on holiday and I stopped at a local tourist trap shop and was looking for a bikini (now I'm a bustier woman, relevant to the story btw). I was just browsing when the owner (I'm assuming) came over to "help". Said I'm looking for a 40E top. He showed me one that was a 32C. And said it was a popular sell. Told him it was too small and this "man"...using that title loosely...tried to explain that it would fit fine. He went on and on about it being the perfect fit. I honestly let it go on for too long until I just said that after 50 years, I know what size I am and what I need, and that as a man, he has no fŭcking clue what shïte he's spouting just to make a sale. Hubs came in and joined me and then get this....he tried telling my hubs I'm wrong and that I don't understand sizing. Had my hubs not pulled me out of there, I honestly think I'd still be sitting in a Spanish prison.
Family's_disappointment 11 months ago (edited)
My cousin's ex boyfriend would always tell me how easy it is to handle dogs on the leash when they are pulling you, whenever he would see me struggling to hold onto them (all the dogs are nice, but they get very excited whenever they see food, so it's hard to control them at that moment) So one day I had enough and told him if he's so good at handling them then he should be the one to hold onto them. Safe to say he didn't even last a few minutes because he fell face forward and broke his nose after my big cuddly dog pulled him. P.s. my dad's a vet, I also plan to become one, my entire family has dogs atleast 2-3 in each household (medium size dogs), we ourselves have 2 big dogs & 2 small ones. And not only that as long as I can remember I would work part time in a dog shelter near my dad's workplace. Also there were multiple times where my dad or I bought sick dogs home just so we can take care of them.
Rachel Reynolds 11 months ago
I'm an certificated mechanic. I fix my dad's brakes for free, because he's my dad and paid for a lot of my tools. My dad, an actuary, likes to sit and watch me work and give "advice". I grin and bare because he pays my Snap-On bill.
Lost Panda 11 months ago
If it makes you feel better, I don't think this has to do with you being his daughter so much as being his child.
Load More Replies... Michael Largey 11 months ago
Men mansplain other men too. We had a new principal who decided to explain to me a proposed policy he had found in his predecessor's files. At about the second paragraph I interrupted him to tell him I was the author of that proposal and pointed to my name at the bottom. Didn't slow him down a single second. (He also did not give me credit later when the policy was implemented and succeeded.)
BookFanatic 11 months ago
Dude called the library and asked a question that required a bit of research. When I asked for his number so I could call him back rather than have him wait on the phone, he explained to me how to access the library's website to use a database. I have 20+ years of library experience. Pretty sure I know our website's address and how to find the database section.
You May Like 50 Times Women Shut Down Men With Humor So Sharp It Hurts 58 Misogynists Tried To Explain Women But Ended Up Embarrassing Themselves (New Pics) Someone Asked Women How They’ve Destroyed A Man’s Confidence, And 41 Savage Ladies Didn’t Hold Back
Aurelija Rakauskaitė
Greta Jaruševičiūtė
Ieva Pečiulytė
Related on Bored Panda
