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There are a lot of things that shape our way of life. On that list, family members arguably matter the most. But it’s not only about the parents; siblings are equally as important, and even the line of succession can be of influence. Firstborns and the third child, for instance, often live through completely different experiences, despite growing up in the same family.
Being the firstborn usually comes with quite a few responsibilities. They often act as the parents’ right hand with, well, nearly everything, in a way becoming the backbone of the family. This can be attested to by numerous firstborn children out there, and their Tweets prove it better than anything else. It’s time to hear the voices of the eldest daughters, and today, that’s exactly what we’re doing. We’ve found their Twitter posts that best describe all that being the oldest child and a daughter entails. Scroll down to find them and familiarize yourself with what it means to be the flag-bearer for your siblings.
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Three_mental_illnesses 2 years ago
as a trans man/former eldest daughter, this is double true for me lmao
*¤° ᎷᎧᎧᏁᏕᏂᎥᏁᏋ °¤* 2 years ago
Well.....we have to parent our siblings that don't even belong to us....Like what the f**k?
Having siblings can be a blessing and a curse at once. At times, there is no one more annoying than your little sister whining about some toy she didn’t get, or your brother being a typical stubborn toddler throwing vegetables at the kitchen wall. On the other hand, no one is as good of an accomplice for mischievous endeavors or providing a shoulder to cry on when you need one.
Oftentimes, no other person in the world can get you quite like your sibling does. Not only have you spent so much time together that you can finish each other's sentences, you also have gone through the same happenings in the household, both the good and the bad.
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Verinder of the Valley 2 years ago
This...... hits hard. WHO'S BEEN SPYING ON MY LIFE????????? HOW DID YOU GET A DESCRIPTION OF ME???
A Wild Bean 2 years ago
Dw, I don't think you're being spied on... pretty sure they're talking about me
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Cal the dragon! 2 years ago
I'm the quiet and depressed oldest daughter with diagnosed anxiety and ADHD.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Oh ... well, that's a disappointment... and here I thought "at least my grade-school teachers liked having me around"...
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The Exquisite Pancake 2 years ago
Definitely. Also one of my siblings is a year younger than me so they won’t listen to anything I say. ALSO my parents are so much more lenient with my younger siblings but sooo strict with me!!! 😭😭
Raabh Aquino 2 years ago
Saaaame. We're all adults now, but I'm 10 years older than my next sibling. The bar was always set higher for me...
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That is why unconditional love bonds most siblings; but one of them stands out as being particularly protective. And that’s the eldest one. They often help parents watch over the baby basically from the moment the younger sibling is born, which is how they become a safeguarding figure in the little bundle’s life.
Unsurprisingly, later in life, moms and dads are fast to jump on the train of using them as a nanny service, no matter how frustrating it might get at times. “Want to go meet your friends in the mall? Take your sister with you”, “Are you going to spend time outside? You are only allowed to if your brother is going, too”; anyone with a younger sibling knows the drill.
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Nor 2 years ago
I'm the eldest, younger brother is 5 years younger...I always fought his battles when others tried to bully him, today still fight his battles with his cray-cray girlfriend. Tells her he doesn't hit women, but he knows someone who will
Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago
Oml "he doesnt hit women, but he know someone who does" im stealing that its so good
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Sally Jenkins 2 years ago
I'm the middle child and only daughter. I could literally carry this around my neck for the rest of time.
Lisa Philpot 2 years ago
Not the eldest daughter. However i am the one that always fixed everything if it could be fixed.
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dragonlady1850 2 years ago
Actually, each oldest daughter would want to do things her way. 😁 (I know, I'm the eldest!)
Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
Okay but then it would create a problem: who's the oldest of the oldest daughters? Cause she would be the one in charge, and the others don't know how to deal with this
Nightshade1972 1 year ago
I'm the oldest (female), I have a younger brother. When I was a teenager, my parents bought me a flat-pack bookcase so I could have some extra storage in my room. The box sat there for about a week, every time I asked my father when he was planning on putting it together, he'd promise he'd "get to it"--but he never did. I got tired of waiting, so I cleared out enough space in my bedroom so that I could put it together myself. My parents heard the noise, and by the time they came upstairs to see what was going on, I had about 95 percent of the bookcase put together. My parents were surprised that A, I was willing to do it myself, and B, I'd actually done it properly. I realized then that I'm perfectly capable of putting stuff together, the only time I "need" someone's help is if it requires brute strength, which I admit I don't have much of.
Morgan Lemmons 2 years ago
OK yes, but make it a democratic voting system comprising of 300 ish eldest daughters with 150 of them growing up in abusive homes and 150 of them growing up in healthy homes.
However, even before the arrival of the addition to the family, firstborns have to deal with a certain set of challenges. In an article for Psychology Today, parenting expert and child and family therapist Meri Wallace, LCSW, pointed out that they often have to meet the high expectations of their parents.
As it is their first child, they’re learning the ins and outs of parenting as they go—often by trial and error—and might subconsciously put too much pressure on the kid. In a way, they want their kid to succeed, as that would ensure they're doing a good job of raising them.
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Curry on... 2 years ago
The youngest boomer mom would be 60. Maybe it's time to put all the blame on Gen X.
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
I'm the GenX eldest daughter of Boomers. It's accurate.
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Deb Fullwood 2 years ago
LOL booner mothers are grandmothers at that point. Gen X even has their children mostly grown
Linda McCormick 2 years ago
I feel bad for folks on this post, but that was not my experience at all! I miss my mom every day!
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
... what, wasn't that the sign they all used to tell when top stop breaking you down for that particular berating? "okay, we've made her truly suffer, we can finally take a rest and stop yelling................for now."
A. Starhawk Hunt 2 years ago (edited)
I learned the truth at @ 17. That love was meant for beauty queens. Wasn’t even 10 years old, mom would go to dog show; I would be home with my youngest and/or second eldest brothers , one of which was molesting me. For a weekend. With as many as 40 expensive dogs to care for. I had nightmares about somebody took the dogs. Or a medical emergency; one time I had a little dog who was convulsing. I’d treated her but the emergency meds didn’t work. This was in the 70s, mind. I ran from one neighbor to another-this was in the Boon-Ives. I ran over a mile before I found one who drove me to the vet, with this tiny, gravely ill dog. Thanks parental units).
A. Starhawk Hunt 2 years ago
Incidentally, I’m a boomer. The only time I would have asked my eldest daughter to watch her brother is if I needed to do some chores that they shouldn’t be involved in. I was always accessible to them but they they had no compunction about pull me out whatever outdoor chore I was involved in (except mowing lawn). My son had been her baby, since the day I brought him home.
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AutumnSong2009 2 years ago
Why is this so true. Especially if my mother is away then I’m stuck to do whatever’s there
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
I'm on vacation. By which I mean my parents are in Spain and I'm home with the dog and cats. My days are just like normal, but without having to constantly go upstairs to watch some YouTube video my mom NEEDS me to see. It's heaven.
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LillieMean 2 years ago
Ouch. So, since I'm the eldest daughter, I do things automatically. I'm cooking even though we were arguing and right now I hate your stupid face but I still love you. Please eat your hate flavored pasta while I make an appointment for therapy.
A Wild Bean 2 years ago
I get weirdly territorial when it comes to jobs that I usually do, because I assume my siblings don't know how to do it (mainly because if they do it wrong, I have to re-do it, so I can save time by just doing it myself)
Spoiler Alert 2 years ago
I am exactly like this at work. It's hard to stop when you are often right that it gets done incorrectly. Easier to just do it myself
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rapid unscheduled disassembly 2 years ago
Oh man. That hits. Eldest daughter AND wife of husband with ADD. It's a lot.
Junebugjump! 2 years ago
I was think until I retired. Women: retire from this baloney as soon as you can.
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Lee F. 2 years ago
5. calendar dates to remind everyone of each other's bdays and other important dates
Monday 2 years ago
6. List of anxieties about what will go wrong if you don't remind everyone of said important dates
Load More Replies... Superninjatiger 2 years ago
Me: telling my mother she should see a therapist because of all her traumas. My mother: saying she's not ready to talk to someone about it while dumping it all on me.
Delta Dawn 2 years ago
and then your real father’s trauma when you get your 23andme results back, not to mention the trauma of all his other kids to whom you are now the oldest (surprise) sister too
Before the birth of their siblings, firstborn children are given parents’ undivided attention, which can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, the kid is surrounded by love and support in every possible way as moms and dads want nothing but the best for their little bundle of joy. On the other hand, such wishes might push them to enroll kids in one too many activities, make one too many comments about reaching for the stars, or encourage overachieving tendencies in some other way.
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Ria C. 2 years ago
I always say I had my babies. There are 4 of them and they range from 8-21yrs younger than me.
Jude Laskowski 1 year ago
Anyone who asks any woman why she doesn't have kids yet is incredibly rude.
tabithapaquette98 2 years ago
Yep! Oldest daughter out of 5 sisters. I'm the only one who doesn't have kids.
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SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
And we KNOW how to bring this system down, believe me.
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Oh. Wait WHAT?? Where's the paperwork? Where do I sign? Dangit... younger sibling took all the credit, props and support for everything... I have no idea where to LOOK for this compensation.
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Nikkie Nothing 2 years ago
I am an oldest daughter, my siblings are 10 and 12 years younger than me. My baby brother (12 years younger) started giving me mother's day cards when he was around 10 or 11.
Family and marriage counselor Sarah A. Smelser, LPC, expanded on the way being a first-time parent affects their—at that moment—only child. In an article for Comprehensive MedPsych Systems, she suggested that because of the way mothers and fathers interact with their firstborn, the latter is often more goal-oriented, outspoken, stubborn, independent, and perfectionistic.
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Boreddd🇺🇦 2 years ago
Yupp. My younger siblings- they scream nonstop, all day long. But if I scream at them to shut up I'm "overreacting" and "too loud". Bruh wtf
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couch potato 2 years ago
Congrats!!! I bet you will be an amazing parent!
Load More Replies... Raabh Aquino 2 years ago
The mere idea of taking care of a kid, even for a couple of hours, triggers a strong reaction in me. The trauma is real.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
YES.. NEVER. EVER. HAVING. CHILDREN. All y'all can have them and I'll happily be the insane 'auntie'.
Addi Moore <3 2 years ago
honestly. but i dont think i will have a baby in my 40s because i dont want that baby comin out the womb with back problems lmao
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marianne eliza 2 years ago
Yes. And I'm 63 now. But my parents, who I caretake, are 92 and have dementia so I lie a lot to end rambling conversations. Got all that practice when I was a teen so now it's time to use it for real.
🧜️Mermaid098 2 years ago
Yes that’s our Moto,”Fake it til you make it” Which is the only reason the family is actually sort of ok.
Junebugjump! 2 years ago
I feel this. I shut them out and down. After what they did they do not get to witness a goddamn thing.
Parenting expert Ms. Wallace pointed out that the firstborn also has to deal with the sudden change of household dynamics when their baby brother or sister is born. That in no way means that parents love them any less; however, it often leads to a decreased amount of attention and one-on-one time. And that, as with any other major change in a kid's life, requires adjusting to.
Meri Wallace also emphasized that parents tend to seek help from their oldest offspring, no matter how big or small they are at that point. That might be the reason behind a strong sense of responsibility; however, it can also lead to them being rather controlling of their younger siblings.
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Yep. EVERYTHING... no matter how realistically impossible. My dad got food poisoning when him and mom were on vacation OVERSEAS... but you know whose fault it was... it was MINE... because I had gotten myself a pet they didn't approve of while they were gone... so the BAD LUCK from that totally gave dad food poisoning. (You think I'm exaggerating. I am not. This is literally what happened... along with threats to terminate the pet if I did not get rid of it before they came back home).
Eris Kallisti 2 years ago
My parents when I got spanked for some reason I didn't understand as a kid: "You should have known better!" Also my parents, when adult me is trying to express how stuff like that messed me up: "We were so young! We didn't know any better!" 🙄
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Take me to dinner first 2 years ago
If I'm the youngest child but the only girl, am I included? Asking for a friend
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Stary_cat 2 years ago
Im just happy my mum helps more as she knows what it’s like she the eldest daughter as well. So are all my friends but we all are also the second child all have older brothers, so if we were royal w would all be in the secret society for second born royals, if you get the movie reference
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Ohh... but we're the manager who is told that it's all up to us... then NO ONE DOES ANYTHING she says, because she's 'stupid and lazy'... then you get double-tapped for abuse for "Being too irresponsible to follow through" - and thus they now have created a reason to deny whatever-it-is-you-need-or-want... since you haven't 'earned it'
Pamela24 2 years ago
This one + the one about constantly worrying about other people's problems hits the closest. I'm constantly juggling everyone's problems. Planning when to spend time with my mum because she's lonely but trying to fit it into my schedule so that it doesn't get into time with my bf. Preferably with at least one sister present (two birds one stone). Make sure they get to vent, otherwise they're mean to each other and that somehow hurts me even more. Also if my mum vents to my sister, I feel guilty. How long has it been since we've seen bf's family? His mum is missing us constantly, better plan that dinner we talked about. Her birthday's coming up. My mum's birthday is in less than a week. No gift from us kids yet, I need to deal with that, of course. Also my father wanted to stop by for something, need to figure out when. I haven't helped with anything in the housein a while and I promised I'd take care of selling that old fridge that's standing in the hall...so much to juggle...
In addition to all that they do for their brothers and sisters, the eldest ones are often the reason parents let some things slide easier for the younger ones. For example, the firstborn’s wish to go to a music festival might be met with a definite no; but when the middle child asks the same question some years down the line, it is likely to become a more debatable matter or maybe even a “yes”.
When you’re a first-time parent, everything seems scary and dangerous. And it takes one person to go through life and turn out fine, so the succeeding ones can enjoy a little bit more freedom.
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Dawn Marie 2 years ago
I don't have time for feelings, I'm responsible for making sure everyone else is okay first. There is no time for me, and yes I am a first born and a daughter who held her mother's hand for three months while she lay dying while my younger sister who only live 60 miles away and could certainly afford it, only came once. But I ruined the funeral for her because my family and I were on the front row and her family was in the 2nd row. That is just how it worked out, not planned. Because of that, she has not spoken to me in 10 years. Okay, I'm finished venting. Thank you for the opportunity.
A Wild Bean 2 years ago
I'm so sorry, it's awful that you were treated that way. You deserved a lot better, although it sounds like you already know that <3
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Addi Moore <3 2 years ago
Here is the correct date. National Daughters Day falls on September 25. There are many similar holidays that fall around the same time, with World Daughters Day on September 28 and and some other countries choosing to celebrate National Daughters Day on October 1.
CalmAndCollected 2 years ago
Pfffttt.... Just cause your parents sucked doesn't mean I don't want to celebrate my dad, he is awesome. Happy Father's Day to you Dad, every day
BookwormQueen 2 years ago
Nah for real eldest daughters day should be a week long and like in the middle to end of the year just give us a whole week
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Very true. And this will be completely ignored by all those parents who did EXACTLY THIS as they 'know' it just CAN'T be true (and the oppression continues...)
Even though they can be irritating at times, siblings are usually the ride or die kind of partners. Having them not only makes life more entertaining (there’s always someone to play games or take part in activities with), but helps to get through difficult times as well (they are there for you no matter what). Reader’s Digest pointed out that having a sibling can even improve your health and mental well-being.
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SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Oh, I freely yell at my dad when he's being a d**k. And all the tools in the garage? Guess who uses them now? I don't even have to watch YouTube vids, I just grab a wrench or something and ask dad how to do something. Then I come back to the garage, ask him again, then after the third time he'll follow me and talk me through it. XD
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According to Reader’s Digest, siblings can make you more charitable and empathetic. Research has found that having one can also increase your chances of a happy marriage and lead to a healthier lifestyle. When it comes to the eldest siblings, their younger hell-raisers can even make them slimmer.
And it seems that quite a few people benefit from one of these positive influences, as according to US Census Bureau’s 2022 data, roughly 80% of children have one or more siblings.
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KittyGotClaws 2 years ago
Story as old as time... I will now appreciate my oldest daughter, who is also the oldest child; as a single mom i did depend on her so much!
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GhostlySnail 2 years ago (edited)
Yeah except I can’t fix the problems so I kind of just paint them over or hide them under my bed where they whisper to me at night
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Yeah... I know i feel that way because I was raised to believe that it's ALL on me. My parents discussed divorce? I was told straight up that it was MY fault that this was happening (they did not divorce. They should have. It was horrible). The family's finances are in trouble? Yes... of COURSE it's the 12 year old's fault. Go tell her that!!! Oh no, she's having a moment of peace? I was told in NO uncertain terms that since they didn't get the easy life how **DARE** I expect more than what they got?
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These pictures cover what it's like to be not only the eldest kid in the family, but also a sister, who should be cherished at all costs. According to Reader’s Digest, sisters can prevent their siblings from experiencing strong negative emotions such as feeling guilty, unloved, lonely, self-conscious, and fearful, and that’s the kind of support we all need in life.
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Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago (edited)
Okay now 364 more takes to go... than we can start the next year of takes and repeat until we go off to college
SkyBlueandBlack 2 years ago
Nope. Better choose a school nearby, cos guess where you'll need to go every damn weekend.
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Uh... no one. We just have to pony up the ridiculous cost of professional therapy and if we don't have the funds or the health plan for it... too bad for us. Oh, but wait, there's more... if you dare mention this to your family, they will 100% sh** on you for whining and being so ungrateful for the 'good life' they gave you.
JD Cass 2 years ago
Plus, they don't believe in seeing those Brain Witches, anyway.
Load More Replies... Violet Jensen 2 years ago
My gf, she’s an oldest daughter but A: she’s trans so she never had the caretaker role, she came out late enough to avoid it and B: she has one sister who’s almost her age. I’m an oldest daughter of 7 kids 😭 at least she takes care of me
Aisling Raye 2 years ago
Grandparents. The fact I didn't have a complete melt down when I was growing up is absolutely bc of them.
Morgan Lemmons 2 years ago
We do. We take care of ourselves. Always have, always will. You know why the Eldest daughter gets married and has kids last? Because we are waiting for the person who will take care of US. We want to make sure that the kids we have NEVER feel the way we do. Sorry for the rant.
As difficult as it often is, being an older sister—as well as having one—is rewarding in so many ways. If you feel like browsing more sister-related content all of a sudden, make sure to check out these sister quotes to express their love for each other or these adorable illustrations by a Korean artist depicting her memories of growing up with a sister.
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dragonlady1850 2 years ago
Being the eldest daughter in a military home guarantees it. I don't care that my brother was born 5 years later. I was still the oldest son.
Susan Reid Smith 2 years ago
Especially if there are no sons in the family. I can mow a lawn and put together a meal among other things.
Tiphani Hoehn 2 years ago
I was the eldest daughter of a two daughter household. Of course I am the eldest son.
Susan Bosse 2 years ago
My dad tomaught me so much he never taught my brother & sister. I was 8 months pregnant and changed a tire. The next day, my brother (11 years younger...21 at the time and a college baseball player) had to call for help changing a tire. 21 years later, I still haven't let him live that down.
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AutumnSong2009 2 years ago
Yeah if I cook it has to cater for my brother as well and seeing as he’s got so many allergies, it’s a great feeling when I make something he can’t eat
Violet Jensen 2 years ago
Yeah, sometimes I bake cookies and they’re all mad they’re not gluten free. Bruh these are my cookies
Load More Replies... Pamela24 2 years ago
When I was 11 I went to the UK for a school trip. I automatically bought everything twice (once for my sister) to bring home. I felt so guilty for her not being able to go too. She didn't do that when she went to France a couple years later. Don't blame her but the difference is obvious.
Cal the dragon! 2 years ago
I can't do anything my brother likes on my ownnnn 😭😭😭 I just wanna play Mario kart
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Historyharlot93 2 years ago
“A son’s a son ‘till he takes a wife. But a daughters a daughter for the rest of your life.” A proverb that must have been written by eldest daughter.
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D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Oh... you mean... you're still worth less than dirt and your parents refuse to really tell anyone you exist; only doing so when you physically show up and the guests at the house are like "Who is this?" Yeeeah... great.. good times. Oh, and don't forget how any awards, certificates and honours you won are hidden away somewhere so no one can see... but your brother's EVERY LITTLE THING has a million pictures and expensive frames all over the house.
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Pieter LeGrande 2 years ago
I feel sorry for my eldest child - eldest daughter whose mother was an eldest daughter and grandmothers were eldest daughters, as was at least one GGM.
Terry Tobias 2 years ago
Just support her and show her that you appreciate her. I wish my parents had done that for me.
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Pamela24 2 years ago
Yeah, my mother used to use my youngest sister as a way to get back at our cheating father. Even literally told me she sees no reason my sister's happiness should be more important than hers. As the oldest I tried my best to protect my little sis. Tried so hard to get in between and get the emotional trauma instead. Didn't always work anyway.
KittyGotClaws 2 years ago
God that's awful. You, as a child, should never have to parent your parents!
Jude Laskowski 1 year ago
Same goes for only child daughters of alcoholic parents who never wanted to get married in the first place.
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Tracy Wallick 2 years ago
I'm deeply uncomfortable receiving praise or compliments. Am eldest daughter.
Katy Rose 2 years ago
Even if it’s in a deeply shameful sexual context? Methinks you don’t get the reference.
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Rhonda Gray 1 year ago
yeah, right after christmas...so we can't enjoy that day for ourselves either.
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Teresa Hale 2 years ago
I am commenting on this because it is the last comment. This is a fascinating read in that I grew up with an extremely insecure, procrastinating, hapless oldest sister who is emotionally dyscontrolled and has trouble keeping jobs or friends. Perhaps the exception proves the rule, but my life experience is 100% the opposite. Takes all kinds!
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kitten levels tokyo 2 years ago
Please don’t ever shorten “Eldest Daughter” to E.D. because everybody will think you are talking about erectile disfunction.
D. Pitbull 2 years ago
Buddy boy ... have you any IDEA how jam-packed that 'personality trait' is? It's a g***amn mansion housing a bajillion other things. We eldest daughters have more complexity and personality than ANY of you.
#41
KittyGotClaws 2 years ago
Do you think you can let go enough to start disappointing your family? I but you can't!
Show thyself 2 years ago
They won't. They'll just tell you to Stop slacking off and be more like [sibling] who is x-years younger and already doing better than you at [siblings] age
LemmeProcrastinateThis 2 years ago
This is what I realized... It's not possible cuz once you do less they yell at you and ask you to be useful for once :(
Sunflower_Bee 2 years ago
This hits hard because my mom says I never do anything when I'm virtually doing stuff she should be doing. I'm the one that cleans her stuff I'm the one that cooks. All she does is sleep, drink, listen to extremely loud music and in general act like a teenager. She had me at 16 so I feel like she wants to have those years back so she takes them from me.
Load More Replies... ShaZam Beaubien 2 years ago
You can do it once ... then it starts bothering you. So there's no point. Eldest daughter speaking.
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Show thyself 2 years ago
Been there, done that. 500+km away since nearly 20 years and still I'm the first one my brother contacts when he needs help in any form
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KittyGotClaws 2 years ago
Again, no child should be used as a mediator/counselor for her parents!
Pamela24 2 years ago
You're right, they shouldn't. But sometimes you don't really get a choice...
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Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago (edited)
U see thats when i scare my brothers cause ill be laughing so hard ill go insane
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JD Cass 2 years ago
I dunno, coloquial white-áss terms need translation sometimes. You ever try to explain to city folk what "Y'all are ate-up" means in the Ozarks?
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Pamela24 2 years ago
My boyfriend has been honestly the best motor for making me work on boundaries with my family. If only for the reason that I want to spend time with him and I want to have a healthy relationship with him. He motivated me to go to therapy. He supports me when I stand up to my parents. He works as a peaceful port I get to come home to.
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Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago
Sticks and stone will never break our bones but words will forever destroy
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Cal the dragon! 2 years ago
I get the music gene from my dad but he likes classical and he plays the French horn and I like alt rock and play the electric bass guitar
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Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago
All my friends are the youngest child in there family.... they know not the trials😢
DarkenedSoul36 2 years ago
Most of my friends are boys with older siblings.
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Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago
*takes off supply bags, med kits, agendas, and ALL the stress* NO ONE CAN STOP ME NOWW *grows to 10 lightyears, and finds inner peace*
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~lophiiformes~ 2 years ago
sometimes your mom just doen't care about how you feel and only cares that your not being disrespected with your tone of voice
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A Wild Bean 2 years ago
"Why's it not working?" I ask myself as I repeatedly click on a screenshot of a video
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KittyGotClaws 2 years ago
I don't think this is just a trait for eldest daughters and their mothers
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Do-nut touch da donut 2 years ago
I read the tweet above this and was like NOPE... read this and was like YEP
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Joelle Jansen 2 years ago
Many of these tweets are basically talking about parentification. Which is a sign of terrible parenting. Good parents don't make their child responsible for their other children.
Pamela24 2 years ago
Honestly, I'm the oldest of three daughters and wouldn't expect how much I relate to these. I love my sisters, we have a great relationship, my parents never showed favoritism. But still - I am the one who's expected to care for others, to make sure things are done and people are heard. It hit me like a cannon this list.
zovjraar me 2 years ago
me too. i have a younger brother and a younger sister. i sat in the middle seat of anything so they wouldn't fight with each other. i always got the yellow cup because they wanted red and blue. i was the one who never asked for anything, because i saw the pain it caused my mum when my siblings asked for things we couldn't afford. I'm still the one who gets the calls when someone is having a breakdown. meanwhile, i'm the only one in our family who has ever actually been in a mental hospital. LMAO how TF does that work.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 2 years ago
I am the youngest and 13 and the only girl. This makes for a weird family dynamic. I am the eldest daughter so I am the glue, the fixer, the worker, the organizer, but I am also the youngest so my older brothers feel like they need to "protect" me while simultaneously relying on me for everything.
Ridiant 2 years ago
If your old people have enough bias you can be the eldest while also being the one who needs to be protected :3
Load More Replies... 𝕷𝖊𝖘𝖇𝖎𝖆𝖓𝕭𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍️ 2 years ago (edited)
I'm supposed to do EVERYTHING but I'm the oldest. That's my moms reasoning. If one of my siblings clean a room and it's terrible, oh it's fine hehe haha. But if I have the AUDACITY to forget one tiny thing on the floor, I'm screamed at.
marianne eliza 2 years ago
For all you still young or young-ish eldest daughters. Wait until your parents need caretaking. Guess who gets that job too.
Jamie 2 years ago
Yes. I'm dreading the day. They're in their late 70s now. I'm already tech support and travel agent and online representative, lol.
Load More Replies... ace pirates 4 the win 2 years ago
Being the eldest daughter generally sucks. My sister always complains that I get to do everything before her and I was like “yeah that’s the problem”. I have to go first with everything - homework, puberty, just growing up in general - sometimes I feel like the test run. Also, yes I think I may be the living embodiment of Luisa from encanto
Maikai 2 years ago
I will carry my trauma to my grave. I surf my pain like a wave. I have forgiven, though I haven’t healed. I have accepted, though it still hurts. No one’s fault; no one knows. I steer clear to cope. I embrace myself in the dark, until I’m recharged. I come back out and take it all over again. No one will understand.
Jackie Lulu 2 years ago
(Almost) every one of these is so true. This thread has given me new insight into why I am the way I am. My only sibling, my sister 18 months younger, was difficult as a child. Me, in first grade, getting called to the kindergarten class to calm down my sister. The rest of my childhood and young adulthood, "can you try to talk some sense into your sister? ".
Shy Sheps 2 years ago
My sister was the eldest daughter. But we were over a decade apart in age and my parents never made her take care of me in any long term way since she moved out when I was 6. Even so. She's tried to 'be my mom' and control every aspect of my life and me as a person and now I have Trauma as an adult. :) kudos to oldest sisters (except mine)
Joelle Jansen 2 years ago
Many of these tweets are basically talking about parentification. Which is a sign of terrible parenting. Good parents don't make their child responsible for their other children.
Pamela24 2 years ago
Honestly, I'm the oldest of three daughters and wouldn't expect how much I relate to these. I love my sisters, we have a great relationship, my parents never showed favoritism. But still - I am the one who's expected to care for others, to make sure things are done and people are heard. It hit me like a cannon this list.
zovjraar me 2 years ago
me too. i have a younger brother and a younger sister. i sat in the middle seat of anything so they wouldn't fight with each other. i always got the yellow cup because they wanted red and blue. i was the one who never asked for anything, because i saw the pain it caused my mum when my siblings asked for things we couldn't afford. I'm still the one who gets the calls when someone is having a breakdown. meanwhile, i'm the only one in our family who has ever actually been in a mental hospital. LMAO how TF does that work.
Load More Replies... GirlFriday 2 years ago
I am the youngest and 13 and the only girl. This makes for a weird family dynamic. I am the eldest daughter so I am the glue, the fixer, the worker, the organizer, but I am also the youngest so my older brothers feel like they need to "protect" me while simultaneously relying on me for everything.
Ridiant 2 years ago
If your old people have enough bias you can be the eldest while also being the one who needs to be protected :3
Load More Replies... 𝕷𝖊𝖘𝖇𝖎𝖆𝖓𝕭𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍️ 2 years ago (edited)
I'm supposed to do EVERYTHING but I'm the oldest. That's my moms reasoning. If one of my siblings clean a room and it's terrible, oh it's fine hehe haha. But if I have the AUDACITY to forget one tiny thing on the floor, I'm screamed at.
marianne eliza 2 years ago
For all you still young or young-ish eldest daughters. Wait until your parents need caretaking. Guess who gets that job too.
Jamie 2 years ago
Yes. I'm dreading the day. They're in their late 70s now. I'm already tech support and travel agent and online representative, lol.
Load More Replies... ace pirates 4 the win 2 years ago
Being the eldest daughter generally sucks. My sister always complains that I get to do everything before her and I was like “yeah that’s the problem”. I have to go first with everything - homework, puberty, just growing up in general - sometimes I feel like the test run. Also, yes I think I may be the living embodiment of Luisa from encanto
Maikai 2 years ago
I will carry my trauma to my grave. I surf my pain like a wave. I have forgiven, though I haven’t healed. I have accepted, though it still hurts. No one’s fault; no one knows. I steer clear to cope. I embrace myself in the dark, until I’m recharged. I come back out and take it all over again. No one will understand.
Jackie Lulu 2 years ago
(Almost) every one of these is so true. This thread has given me new insight into why I am the way I am. My only sibling, my sister 18 months younger, was difficult as a child. Me, in first grade, getting called to the kindergarten class to calm down my sister. The rest of my childhood and young adulthood, "can you try to talk some sense into your sister? ".
Shy Sheps 2 years ago
My sister was the eldest daughter. But we were over a decade apart in age and my parents never made her take care of me in any long term way since she moved out when I was 6. Even so. She's tried to 'be my mom' and control every aspect of my life and me as a person and now I have Trauma as an adult. :) kudos to oldest sisters (except mine)
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