If you're more of an introvert, you know there's a limited number of group photos you can pose for during a weekend before you decide to spend the next one home alone, recharging.
Even though you might feel like you're betraying your family, friends, or whoever it is you're casting aside in favor of a warm bed and snacks, there's nothing wrong with prioritizing yourself.
But if you need a reminder that you're not the only one doing this, check out the Instagram account FOGO, or the Fear of Going Out. It perfectly describes what it's like to embrace your inner loner.
Continue scrolling for a brief summary of FOGO's content and don't miss the chats we had with psychologist and educator Dr. Laurie Helgoe, as well as Jenn Granneman, founder of the award-winning blog Introvert, Dear, and introvert coach and consultant Thea Orozco.
You'll find them spread between the memes.
When you're done, fire up Bored Panda's first publication on this relatable online project, too!
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'in The Unlikely Event...' Jane Knows What's Up!
Whenever my Granny was on the phone and wanted to get off, she'd ring the doorbell so that the person on the phone could hear it in the background and know that she had to go.
I only came to check if anyone got it. Not surprised at all the people thinking it's real.
Load More Replies...I prefer my method of simply not answering the door unless there's a mail truck.
No, just a weird reason why you put your coat on before your shoes.
Load More Replies...Or just look out a window and Marine crawl across the floor if necessary.
Love This Idea As Long As The Canceling Step Is Clearly Spelled Out In A Mutually Agreed To Legal Document
I have friends coming over tomorrow at 2:30. Am I cleaning now? Nope. Obvi. I'll frantically start cleaning at 2:14 and have to catch my breath when the first one knocks on the door and act all nonchalant. #TheStruggleIsReal
My friends wouldn’t care about a messy house. It’s more welcoming than a crazy clean house sometimes
I have my friend(s) come over and just sorta sit down while i clean around them. Not really an introvert thing, more ADHD
I never bother. I just put a few "Get Well Soon" cards on my mantelpiece and guests coming over will think I've been too sick to clean! (Bonus points if you can get them to "help you clean!" LOL!)
Been using this method for quite some time now. can confirm, it works. plusside: my best friend is the one who does this, and if i find the energy I can always invite them over to bingewatch after :)
The terms introversion and extroversion were introduced by Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst Carl Jung, although both their current understanding and usage vary.
"In general, introverts work things out in their heads, and extroverts work things out in the world," Dr. Laurie Helgoe told Bored Panda. "This has all kinds of implications. When presented with a question, an introvert will bring the query into their private laboratory, work it through and then offer a response. This takes time and focus. By contrast, extroverts will work things out in the interaction, thinking out loud or bouncing ideas back and forth."
"Introvert preferences: writing, one-on-one conversations, solitude for reflection. Extrovert preferences: talking, fast-paced interactions, social feedback."
*gagging Noises*
Finally. Finally someone who understands. You sir, you should be giving a medal and be giving lectures about this.
I've always heard that talking about feelings is a good form of therapy. I've never felt that way.
Talk to your Google Home, or just out load, it's always listening anyways. You might not get answers but you will get ads related to whatever you talked about.
You don't have to tell anyone anything, you owe these peeps no explanations. Privacy is cool
Me and one of my friends call each other midnight therapists and we just chat about stuff that we need to and help each other out. It’s very good and we don’t tell anyone else
You should tell people. It encourages them to do the same. Not the details, just that you do it.
Load More Replies...That sounds so accurately awkward. Or awkwardly accurate, I don't know.
*throws All $6.72 Of My Life Savings At This Kickstarter*
I am only replying because you and I have the same spelling of our first names and I think that's cool!
Load More Replies...How would the other person know about the cancelation without knowing that it came from me?
They would know you want to cancel, but only if they also want to cancel. And if they also want to cancel, it doesn't matter if they know you want to cancel too.
Load More Replies...Oh god, I’d go to every event wondering if the other person secretly wanted to cancel.
I would obsessively check to see if the other person wanted to cancel even when I don't
That Took A Twist
f**k, they had me in the second half too!
Load More Replies...Think of all the people I wish were dead right now. That would be all of you. Get away from me. F**k off.
And to think we didn't even get to choose any single one of our almost 8 billion contemporaries. That sucks.
It sounded so nice and poetic at the start but then the thought of being in a lift with people ended up making them mad
Helgoe said "our current understanding is that introversion and extroversion exist on a continuum, with introversion on one end, extroversion on the other, and 'ambiversion' at the midpoint."
"Most of us are somewhere in the middle, leaning one way or the other. And, yes, there are complex combinations, such as the social introvert who gravitates toward people, but becomes overstimulated and needs to refuel with solitude. Or the shy extrovert, who is self-conscious around people but is oriented to engage externally," the psychologist explained.
*wins Golden Globe For Performance In “Having A Bubbly, Outgoing Personality”*
Yes. Anytime I say i'm an introvert, I get told I don't act like one. Mabye I have bad memories of my parents saying that if I didn't have friends I didn't have a reason to go out, and was never allowed out if I didn't have a friend. So I had to act as an extrovert, and now it's just ingrained in my head.
Same - everyone at work doesn't believe I'm an introvert because I run big meetings and manage group projects but they have NO idea that it takes all, and I mean every single ounce, of my energy and brain power just to make myself do that without completely freaking out and hiding under my desk.
Load More Replies...This should be higher. It's so exhausting and stressful to be around people and not show that you really want to get out of there, go home, put on your comfies, cuddle your cats and veg out in solitude so we can decompress.
You just perfectly explained my feelings when I'm not inside my apartment with closed door and muted phone & doorbell! Don't know if I'm only introvert because of anxiety disorder - maybe. But I'm only feeling comfy at home with my kitties and nobody else. Would love to upvote your comment a few thousand times!
Load More Replies...I've given up trying. I just don't care if people think I'm pissed off looking anymore. I truly cannot pretend to be extroverted when I'm not. Taking a benadryl is less exhausting.
... until you go home and absolutely crash from exhaustion! At my age, being at the office is harmful for health, potentially deadly!
Yup. Although once I'm out I usually enjoy it. But it takes a lot of energy to actually get ready and go. At this point friends just expect me to cancel at the last minute. :)
Voted “Most Likely To Be Just A Tad Off” Bebe
I had a therapist tell me that instead of weirdo I should call myself unique. I replied with something along the lines of “ I’m not here because I’m a pretentious asswipe”
Or maybe you are! Personality disorders are another reason to get counseling.
Load More Replies...That's not what people mean, though. People say about some kids having old souls when they notice their is an unusual higher level of awareness about the world and no-care attitude they have that's usually seen in middle aged and elderly people. It's also a part of a spiritual belief of reincarnation. If you're interested in wanting to know what that's about, it's believed souls are reborn a certain number of times. The more times the soul is reborn, the older the soul, and the more subconscious intuitions and instincts are gained, and also the sense of "seen this, done that". Some people also believe birth marks are symbols of fatal wounds from the person's past life. Or that Deja vu is a past life memory.
I've never heard that about birth marks and i love it!
Load More Replies...I know I am weird, but I thought being an old soul meant you get along with older people so much easier than you do with people your own age or younger. I've always found it so easy to connect and talk with people much older than me, but anyone my age or younger I can't seem to find that similar ground as smoothly. I find I am less anxious around people older than myself, and perhaps I feel like I won't be judged as harshly by older people than I would be by people my own age or younger. Many of the people I would call my friends are old enough to be my parents, some grandparents. Every time I try to talk with someone my own age or younger, I get anxious and I feel like they are judging me for being different. Often I dream of making a connection with someone my own age where we would see eye to eye perfectly.
But I can be an old soul and weird at the same time… 🙃
Dogs >>>>> Humans
I would love that. Fortunately, I get to do this at home every day :), so, until that bar opens, I'm ok.
With Rowlf the Dog (muppets) playing his sweet melodies on the piano
Please do open that bar. Tell me where it is and I'll move there and be your best customer.
Cats Just Be Livin Their Best Life
If there is such a thing as reincarnation, I seriously hope I come back as a cat.
helps that when a cat wakes up groggy its adorable as hell. When i wake up groggy i look like Betelgeuse and will murder someone.
Most likely, introverts develop due to a combination of nature and nurture. The way that the human body's physiology responds to the outside environment plays a critical role in determining the level of our extroversion and introversion.
On a physiological level, a network of neurons located in the brainstem known as the reticular activating system (RAS) regulates arousal levels, including wakefulness and transitions between sleeping and waking.
The RAS also plays a role in controlling how much information we take in while we're awake. When confronted by potential threats in the environment, the RAS increases arousal levels so we can be alert and ready to deal with danger.
Each person has a basic set point in terms of arousal level. But while some naturally have a high set point, others have a much lower set point.
I Hope They Have Parachutes
Me, sitting in J3, when they are handing out ukulelels: "Excuse me, stewardess? I think somebody put a bomb in my luggage."
Nothing sounds better than 100 untuned ukuleles being played by amateurs in a confined space.....
*intentionally Dumps Jar Of Marinara On Carpet* “Sorry Tho, The Mess”
OH YEA??? MY CAT WILL BARF ON YOUR TOES!!! >:V
Load More Replies...You might not mind the mess, but I do. I don’t want you to know how I live.
YES. When I was about to move in with my then-fiancé, a good friend and colleague of mine helped him move some stuff to our flat from my one-bedroom. While I was working. Without my knowledge. They were doing a nice thing, but I almost cried when I found out, because that friend is VERY cleanly and organised, to the point of vacuuming and scrubbing the floor daily (!) and I was in the middle of moving my messy a** out of my first apartment after 5 years. She never mentioned it, but to this day I fear the opinion she must have of my household skills...
Load More Replies...I literally saw this conversation on FB between a friend and her friend where the other lady kept asking her of she wanted to do something, can she come over right now, or maybe they can go somewhere, etc , etc., and my friend repeatedly insisted it was cleaning day in her house and she was going nowhere and doing nothing else until "cleaning day" was over (she lives alone, if that matters....she just made it sound like she had 5 kids and 3 dogs in the house). It all culminated with the other lady insisting she come hang out and my friend saying, "Im cleaning right now" and ending the conversation. I never saw anything so jointly rude or admirable in all my life 😂😂
In my house, it is customary for you to return to your house as soon as possible.
Unexpected company is uninvited company. Period. Alternatively, I have pinkeye. Or, name your disease.
It's important to respect your friend's boundaries. Period. End of story. Case closed.
I would invite you in but the inside of my head is a very busy place, and at the moment there is no room on the schedule for guest speakers .
Canceling All Socializing For The Next 7 Weeks To Save Up Enough Energy For Thanksgiving
This makes me think of one particular family. Recently I worked for a client hosting a sales meeting, I loved the client, it was a family business, his family were warm, amazing and super fun. I noticed his son and the client started calling me his daughter-in-law. Before I took my shot at the son, I asked some of the employees what he's like, they told me he was shy. He was NOT shy. Dude was dancing when no one was, talked with everyone, participated in games and was super friendly with a loud voice and a big smile. I told him about how I thought he was going to be shy since I was told so and he said his brother is SO hyper-extroverted that his extroversion comes off as shy. I'm an ambivert and I was struggling to keep up, I finally had to do my feeding cocktail to his mouth kissing trick to get him to socially isolate with just me
And when your just enjoying being alone and someone from your family walks and has like a 5-minute conversation with you and won't leave but when they finally do they don't even close the door.
Fortunately my family have now caught up with my "social restrictions". We can do Christmas in 2 1/2 hours. 3 hours if an elderly friend or neighbour needs to be invited. I spent years as the driver for collecting and returning the less sociable non driving family and friends, got there last and left first. We love my brother's cooking, so avoid the place until he says to arrive (he hates "help" cooking) then let him hide while we attack the washing up. Quick hug and rush home to hide
This Bebe Is An *icon*
I'm such an introvert that the thought of having kids makes me extremely anxious. Another person who depends on you fully that you can't escape from? Oh, god, no.
I'll never get over the "play date" thing. I used to just go over a friends house, ring the bell and ask if my friend wanted to hang out. If they didn't their parents said not today and I'd respect that. My mom didn't have to bring me over or schedule a date. It's still bizarre to me.
Psychologist Hans Eysenck suggested that these arousal levels could be thought of as a continuum. According to his arousal theory of extroversion:
- 15% of people have a minimal set point, meaning they naturally have low arousal levels;
- 15% of people have a high set point, meaning they naturally tend to be more aroused;
- 70% of people lie somewhere in the middle of the continuum.
According to Eysenck, introverts have high levels of arousal. Because of that, they tend to seek activities and environments where they can escape from overstimulation. Alone time gives them the opportunity to process and reflect on their experiences.
I Love That Dogs Don’t Ask Me These Questions
"Are you doing anything fun this weekend?" "Yeah, I'm gonna watch YouTube" "And?" "And....I'll probably make some coffee to have while I watch it.............."
Trying to find an answer to "how are you" that is socially acceptable but also not a lie because I hate lying really is a riddle
Like not everything has to be a game like let me live a normal life alone
I hate when people say “so tell me about yourself” like what do they want my trauma or my favourite colour? Like, be specific. — I love that meme. I found a meme that said that and I loved it.
And what work you do. Listen, I have a boring job that I don't like and isn't important or exciting & isn't worth talking about.
My mom had to tell me that people don't like the honest answer to "how are you?" It is more of a greeting, so they want you to say "fine" and move on. But usually I'm not fine, and when someone asks how I am, I feel like I should be honest. It is a lie to say I am fine when I am not. If you don't intend to hear the honest answer that might take a few more minutes of your time, then don't ask the question. I will be honest. Why do we ask "how are you?" if we don't wanna hear the truth?
"What do you do for fun?" is such an intimidating question. First, what I do for fun may not being considered fun to the person asking. Second, this feels like a set up to ridicule my answer, as if they're just asking to measure up your fun meter to see if they think you're interesting enough to be part of their circle of friends, or more.
#livingmybestlife
I have fomo but then when I do get invited I don't want to be there...
Honestly. You're probably not missing out on anything. Stay home and have fun, it's all good.
The Future Is Here And It Is The Worst
Boy am I happy video calls haven't become popular in my tiny social circles. Phone calls are bad enough as they are. (Just text like a normal person ;n; )
I hate calling people. Especially in loud public places because I can't hear anything so I turn the volume up then the person on the other end yells so I can hear and then everyone hears and I feel super embarrassed and this definitely hasn't happened to me before...
Load More Replies...Saying there is something wrong with your camera when nothing is wrong with your camera has worked for me.
Only thing is that in some of the apps, like Whatsapp, there is no way to switch the video off. I use a piece of black electrical tape instead. Works like a miracle!
Load More Replies...There were video calls in a couple of sci-fi movies growing up and I always thought that would be the worst thing in the world and here we are having spent several years doing appointments, work, and parent teacher conference by zoom or something similar. Heck I even did zoom to pick my corgi from the litter. But seriously it's still my nightmare. Id rather meet in person.
We only use video calls for good reasons in our family, like calling my mother when my twin toddlers want to see her (she lives hours away). But we would rarely ever do that without asking if the recipient wants to be called.
I put a piece of black electrical tape over the little hole in the front. And suddenly my phone's video call doesn't work! Ooops!
I find calls that are not specifically on my phone to work better for me. So Zoom, Discord, Facebook messenger stuff thru my laptop. Even video calls are okay. My anxiety is specifically tied to calls with my phone...it's weird.
Maybe it's the movement, if I'm on a video call I don't just sit there, I make myself anxious by looking at all the things I could be doing if I were free, or my hands weren't having to hold the phone at a flattering angle for my face! That's exhausting. Also, they can see that I'm still in my pjs at 4 in the afternoon 🤷🏼♀️ Does it all boil down to not wanting to be judged for our introverted behaviours?
Load More Replies...I’m glad it hasn’t been invented that when someone face times you they see you and you see them before you answer it. What a nightmare that would be. Especially unknown numbers… Uh oh did I just give corporate America an idea? Dang it.
Dogs > Humans
He will be “Spaghetti’s person” for years until you realise it’s been too long and you’re too embarrassed to ask his name now.
I live next-door to Archie and Echo's owner across the road from Fluffy Mittens owner and two doors down from Riley's owner. I don't know any other people in my street, they don't have pets.
My dog is a therapy dog and we visit hospitals and all the doctors and nurses know his name and not mine and I am very ok with that.
"Because introverts go out less frequently than extroverts, they often have higher expectations of social situations," Thea Orozco, the author of The Introvert's Guide to the Workplace, explained to Bored Panda.
However, that doesn't mean introverts have to come out of their shell.
"Oftentimes they feel a need to act like an extrovert at parties, or talk to half the people at a networking event. Instead, introverts should think about what they actually want from socializing. For instance, the goal for going to a party might be to have one interesting conversation, or for a networking event it might be meeting two people you want to keep in touch with."
Host Of Party: “Can I Get You Anything To Drink?” Me, Thirstier Than I’ve Ever Been In My Entire Life But Also Terrified Of Being An Imposition: “No Thanks!”
And then he finally gets enough courage to mention water would be nice and she either doesn't hear him or forgets.
As a child, I once literally fainted from heat exhaustion/dehydration despite being offered a range of drinks, and on another occasion vomited from standing in the sun rather than taking the chair offered. I would be doing this still as an adult except for the fact that now I just don’t go to stuff.
I got it from my grandma. She doesn't like to ask people for help or request things. I am the same. I feel like I am putting an unnecessary burden on others. As the oldest child, I often feel like a burden to my parents. I don't want to ask them for anything because I don't want to make their lives harder in any way, especially financially.
Stop. Just, stop. You are not a burden, you are a gift.
Load More Replies...I come for the food and drink. If I see none I ask for something. Coffee, tea, cola, wine, juice, water anything. I will not just sit there listening to others while not having some purpose to be there.
See, and I will always take any opportunity to get my hands on a glass of water or sth., so I will have something to hold on to and not fidget. Especially in job interviews and when meeting new people.
Why Would You Do This To Me? I Thought We Were Friends. Is This What It Means To “Have Beef”?
As an introvert, I used to be this way until I had a mental emergency and kept calling my brother and he wouldn't answer(he's super introverted). It was abnormal as I would not have normally called him, I just didn't know who else to call. I almost decided to take my life that day, and if it wasn't for someone I hadn't seen in a long time randomly stopping by during those failed calls to my brother, I may have done it. Anyway, now no matter how uncomfortable I am, I will answer a call for someone I know. Sorry for the random, depressing story.
Obviously she's done putting up with the likes of the entire WWE roster so one more wrong move and she might turn heel on all of us XP
My answerphone is on all the time so I can screen calls. My mobile only rings 3 or 4 times before the answerphone connects, not enough time to get it out of my bag and answer it...so sad...not switching voicemail off
I'll hate you for the panic. I'll hate myself because I didn't answer your call while you maybe needed me. And I'll hate you back for making me hating myself. And I'll hate myself for that too. And so on.
It's neither antisocial nor introverted. It's social anxiety you have here, honey.
Mission Accomplished *fist Pump*
My mom has a fully WFH job. She's been there for a year and a half and I've never once seen a camera on in any of her meetings. Meanwhile my company sends out passive aggressive reminders that cameras should be on, employees should be sitting up with their feet on the floor, not eating, etc.
I'm so glad my work is more like your mom's. We've been mostly wfh since 2020 (I've been at the office about 5 times this year). We are encouraged to turn on the camera, and about half of us usually do, but we are only actually asked to do so when we are welcoming new team members, or doing something more social, and we are usually notified beforehand when something like that comes up. It's also absolutely no problem to turn off your camera at some point in a discussion. People often show off their pets. It's very comfortable, all in all.
Load More Replies...I had a manager once say to me" you handle customers really well, but did you notice your rolling your eyes at them the whole time".....oops no jordan I did not lmao, nor will I stop probably
In the mask wearing days at work i was grateful for the cover for this reason! The best was a customer called to complain that i made a "disrespectful face" under my mask. What?!
When I used to work in sales, a customer once complained that she "knew" I'd rolled my eyes when my back was turned. Like. Okay, lady, crystal balls are that way.
Load More Replies...*surprises Fairy Gm By Last Minute Bailing On Ball Entirely Because A Night With The House All To Myself Sounds Way Better Than A Social Outing*
If someone bothers to knock on the door and be offended by my pjs it is totally their problem
Load More Replies...I hate the way she said “pajamas” like no one calls them jammies
Orozco highlighted that introversion is neither inferior to extroversion nor a synonym for shyness.
"Shyness is the fear of being judged by others, while introversion describes how a person recharges their energy," she said. "They might look the same on the outside, but they have different motivations on the inside. Shy extroverts do exist!"
Yeah I Said "Generic Excuse", And I'll Continue To Say "Generic Excuse"
I've got the place......I mean the red death. Please I'm contagious don't come near me. Don't come to my house. No bill. My disease can kill. Please. No I don't need your help bill.
NGL I have texted this meme to friends more than once....okay often....okay nearly every weekend. Don't judge me
Gold Statue Girl Fall Is On, Y’all #whatareyoudoinginmyswamp
That sounds nice then he can be my friend dragon and I will take him everywhere. And behold people far and wide will be in fear and not come near. Or I will tell him to huff and puff until they burn there house down. 😬
Scrub the deck and make it look shinayy 🎶
Load More Replies...Different dragons value different things. Hoards of gold, books, puppies, a vastly spread out hoard of introverts, plush toys, etc
Every start of winter I get like this and just want to hibernate like a bear for the rest of winter.
*gently Tosses Phone Into Lake*
Except for when you're texting and want to sleep but the other person just. Keeps. Texting. You. And it's only politeness that makes you respond.
Load More Replies...what kills me is now that I had an android and could download them for free, switching to Iphone (work made me) has pissed me off to no end for requiring purchased ringtones
I usually have my phone on silent mode. BUT sometimes I put the sound on because I'm expecting an important call, like when my twins are back at daycare after a week of being sick and I'm paranoid that they'll call me and tell me I have to pick them up again. Those expected calls NEVER come. What does come, is 42 notifications of apps I didn't even know I have, 36 calls from my sister, right when I'm doing something important/dangerous, 28 pictures sent by my mother, one after the other, 14 group chats that are suddenly highly active, and 7 unidentifiable sounds that I can't even identify. How did it work 10 years ago?!
My classic response to my phone ringing is to curse... Then I pick it up and try not to sound too much like a grumpy jerk.
Voicemail on, if it's important there will be a message and I can text back (unless it's mum, who doesn't text and rarely emails)
I Thought You’d Never Ask
Dare you to go home to your comfy bed and watch your fav show with your day off being tomorrow!!! Double dog dare ya. Yep. You sure did a dangerous dare there. Most everyone would do it for sure
I would take it as a hint they didn't want me there in the first place
Come back! Let go of the dog/cat/whole cake/plant you've been hugging, then go home
I Live Every Day In Fear Of Becoming A Meme
i like obnoxiously standing in the background of people filming tiktoks & flipping them off or doing something insanely distracting to ruin their video. tiktok sucks & the people who film in public are the absolute worst. i love discouraging them from harassing people just trying to go about their lives
I honestly thought I was the only person that has this irrational fear of being in someone’s tik tok, ending up a meme or in general being humiliated for someone else’s kicks and giggles
Kids were filming at school and I walked straight in between the camera and the kid
I still wear patterned masks, lots of weird witchy fantasy hats and loud colourful clothing. Keeps most people away, apart from those wanting to know where I get things to repel the gloomy ones.
And You Will *love* It
If they told me as a kid that I could do that when I grew up, I would have actually grown up.
Load More Replies...When I couldn't afford a place of my own, I used to go camping on my motorbike with books. Alone in a tent (pre mobiles) with food, hot chocolate and books.
Thankful For You
Chronic illness friends. Never plan to get 3 of us together at once. If 2 of us plan to meet, it can be cancelled at any time, or changed to one popping over with a flask of coffee and some cake for 20 minutes or less instead of an outing for both. During covid it was texts only as everyone was sheltering.
Awww Sweetie. You Got It All Wrong! “Finally” Has Two Ls And Only One N. But Other Than That, A+
Quite Frankly, Getting Trapped On A Desert Island Sounds *marvelous*
Coconuts float away as a way of dispersing of their seeds or so I’m told
Load More Replies...*jazz Hands*
I'm an extrovert trapped in the body of someone who is very very sleepy 😴
Talk About Myself?? *gagging Noises* I’d Much Rather Regurgitate Information I Heard On Podcasts. That An Option?
This is what the internet is for. Get to know each other via emails - not texts, since people expect immediate responses.
Trained my tribe to reply whenever, all chronically ill and their families wanted a reply NOW all the time. If we need a yes or no answer in the next 10 minutes...no reply is taken as a no. texts will be answered when bodies and minds allow. No bullying anyone that just "can't" at the moment.
Load More Replies...Should I feel bad because actually I'm proud to say that I'm done with this? I don't want to find "the person for me" anymore. Just want to be left alone. Talking to others while shopping, going to the doc, and wherever interactions are necessary is already more than enough.
I got lucky with this, I married one of the boys I "dated" in high school which was basically us passing a lot of notes. We stayed friends for years while we weren't a couple and so when we starting dating again in college I knew him completely. I never did the dating thing where you go out and meet someone you don't know.
When I was in my late 20's, my work friends asked me if I expected that special someone to come knocking on my door. I actually met him when a friend pressured me to go on a blind date with her and her husband. The guy talked a lot and I thought, "If I marry him, I'll never have to talk again."
"So how are you?" "So Elizabeth Short, right? They cut her in half and there was like, no blood-"
Oh yeah, giving the same elevator pitch about who you are and what you do over and over again is boring. You often get the advice that you should ask questions, because everybody likes talking about themselves. Not me! I would by far prefer to learn something new instead of just stating stuff I already know. I would rather talk about something, not somebody, and then you can learn about my siblings when it becomes relavant instead of putting me through a third degree interrogation.
*camera Cuts To Me Lying In An Email About How I’d Be Happy To “Hop On A Call” Ffs*
It would be great if I had some indication of what to pretend that I was doing
If demo mode was not really good, just barely good enough, then yes.
Not "Fake it, til you make it" but "Fake it until you can get home and hide under the duvet with a pint of Ben and Jerry's"
I hope the plumber I just hired to fix my toilet is a real adult with real skills and not just pressing 'demo.'
Just Say No
Well *ahem* it seems like I don't have a deadly flu anymore! I just don't want to go out :P
Advice from a boomer...you don't owe anyone anything...no answers, no explanations.
No is an answer. You are not required to offer an excuse. Polite people accept a polite no.
#notaphase
When "go to your room and stay there" is no longer a punishment!
It Was The Worst Of Times, It Was The Airport Of Times
“Plz Quit Punching My House” I Whisper From Behind The Couch Where I’m Currently Hiding
At least where I live, luckily they are at least not allowed to call you up in order to try and sell you something (for some wierd reason newspapers, insurance companies and worker's unions are an exception)
Oh You’re A Hugger? That’s Cute. I’m A *please Respect My Bubble-Er*
No I Am Not *gently Boops Interviewer’s Nose*
Sorry Toots
Honestly I Think I’d Like To Learn This Phrase In Every Language *just In Case*
I Will Not Be Able To Attend Your Bridal Shower Because I Fear That Some Form Of Weather Will Be Present At That Time
For my mother, that might be an actual reason to not leave the house. My parents live by the sea, and my mother has recurring pain issues from an operation when she was young. Whenever the heavy sea wind goes, she has to wrap up half her face very warmly, or she'll have pain in her face for weeks after being exposed. It's gotten better with therapy, but it can be reactivated at the worst possible moment.
*meows*
Yes. So do you prefer switches, or the little k n o b (not sure why it's censoring it lol) things that turn and control the light setting?
Load More Replies...Modern Day Friendships Are Held Together By A Fun Mixture Of Cat Videos And Full Emotional Meltdowns
Me and my friend send each other YT videos with no context at all. It's great!
Do you have full length conversations in yt videos?
Load More Replies...Sleepytime Is My Favorite Tea. Not Because I Like The Taste- I Just Appreciate The Relatability In The Branding Of It
It set up the false expectation for me that it would work so quickly and well I would be knocked out before I could make it to bed LOL
Load More Replies...Unrealistic. As a British person, we would have a cosy on the teapot! So when you awaken the tea would still be warm. Cold tea is criminal.
Finish It As Quickly As Possible So That You Have A Valid Excuse (Needing Another Corn Dog) To Stand Up And Walk Away From The Social Situation
Is this an introvert thing cos it seems like a lack of empathy thing?
Perhaps that, or a "social guidelines" thing, which is commonly conflated with introversion because people who are naturally bad at talking to people also tend to stay away from them for. Obvious reasons.
Load More Replies...Also, if you're not around people a lot, you don't learn and practice social skills/cues
*pushes Jesus Away Because Commitment **terrifies** Me*
Can We Raincheck For Summer 2028?
You Mean An Awkward Brunch Where We Try To Cover "What We've Been Up To" Since College Without Making Things Too Depressing
my friend from middle school reached out to me to reconnect in my junior year or high school & asked how life has been. i wasn't quite sure how to tell her that i'd attempted suicide & that the cat who was an integral part of my life that i always talked about had passed away... i mean, she'd want to know these things because we were really close, but how the heck do i say it in a way that isn't awkward & depressing?!
i'm sorry that happened, but maybe lead with a pun. humpur is my coping mechinism, so i would've totally lead with "It's a cat-astrophe", laugh to myself, and then cry
Load More Replies...Yes but I don’t ever want to hang out with anyone until I actually do, and then I’m glad I did.
Load More Replies...Like… A Call As In A Phone Call?? Absolutely Not
Sis Naw
The Timeline We’re On Is A Dumpster Fire In So Many Ways But Technological Advances In The Art Of Avoiding Human Interaction Is A Nice Perk
Let us be honest, half of it is due to laziness. It took capitalism long enough to take advantage of our desire to do nothing.
An introvert is not antisocial. Someone give these folks a dictionary, please. Extroverts need alone time, introverts need social contact, it's like most of life, we live it on a spectrum.
a lot of these aren't "haha funny relatable," they're rude, apathetic, & portray lack of communication or high-level social anxiety as acceptable things. they're not. being introverted is completely different from not understanding other people's emotions or refusing to talk about yourself at all; introversion literally just means that you recharge when you're alone rather than in a group & has nothing to do with your social skills. i know plenty of introverts who are great at communication, can hold a conversation & talk about themselves, & don't lie to me about how they're feeling or what they want to do. if you're really that cripplingly anxious at the thought of talking to/hanging out with a friend, or if you seriously can't muster up any empathy for a friend who's sad, you don't need memes portraying this as normal, you need therapy. & don't come at me with the "talking about me feelings? ew!" stuff. that's an incredibly unhealthy mindset & i hate that these memes encourage it.
I liked most of these but I don't like how being introverted, anti-social, desinterested in other humans, unempathetic are all lumped together...
I can imagine NASA sending an introvert astronaut to Mars but then realise that when they try and contact them no one replies as they don't want to answer.
Once again: introversion doesn't mean social anxiety. If I don't want to communicate with people, it's because I'm tired of them, not because I'm afraid of them.
An introvert is not antisocial. Someone give these folks a dictionary, please. Extroverts need alone time, introverts need social contact, it's like most of life, we live it on a spectrum.
a lot of these aren't "haha funny relatable," they're rude, apathetic, & portray lack of communication or high-level social anxiety as acceptable things. they're not. being introverted is completely different from not understanding other people's emotions or refusing to talk about yourself at all; introversion literally just means that you recharge when you're alone rather than in a group & has nothing to do with your social skills. i know plenty of introverts who are great at communication, can hold a conversation & talk about themselves, & don't lie to me about how they're feeling or what they want to do. if you're really that cripplingly anxious at the thought of talking to/hanging out with a friend, or if you seriously can't muster up any empathy for a friend who's sad, you don't need memes portraying this as normal, you need therapy. & don't come at me with the "talking about me feelings? ew!" stuff. that's an incredibly unhealthy mindset & i hate that these memes encourage it.
I liked most of these but I don't like how being introverted, anti-social, desinterested in other humans, unempathetic are all lumped together...
I can imagine NASA sending an introvert astronaut to Mars but then realise that when they try and contact them no one replies as they don't want to answer.
Once again: introversion doesn't mean social anxiety. If I don't want to communicate with people, it's because I'm tired of them, not because I'm afraid of them.
