There were rumors about many famous rulers of old that, in order not to rely on the reports of their own servants and advisers, they sometimes dressed in simple clothes and wandered around the city unrecognized in order to find out the pure, unadorned truth about how the state lived and how the people related to their lord.
And you know what? It would be good to extend this experience to the modern world for us - and not only to the powers that be, but also to you and me. Because it often happens that our perception of reality is very different from what it is, and this realization hurts. In other words, there are many simple life truths that are nevertheless so difficult to accept. Like in this particular collection.
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If someone disagrees with your beliefs or opinions, it is not an attack against you and you are not a victim.
Exactly. People seem to believe that misogynists, racists, homophobes, transphobes, and every type of bigot have the right to ask people to refrain from calling them names and keep argumemts calm and emotionless. They don't. "Agree to disagree" and "Everyone has a right to an opinion," are adages that apply to when to put pineapple on pizza, not when the "opinion" is that others don't deserve human rights.
Load More Replies...I don't agree. I depends on the venue. Very often, out here on the net, disagreement is voiced for the sole purpose of attacking you. Here on boredpanda.com if you voice disagreement, no matter how considerately you express it, you get yourself down-voted, and eventually banned by the administrators because of the number of down-votes received. So, I no longer express unpopular contrary opinions here on this board.
I’m sorry about that. I don’t really express personal beliefs much either online because I’m worried that people will get offended and downvote me. (By personal beliefs, I don’t mean anything related to racism or homophobia or all the isms. What I’m talking about is political opinions or anything that goes beyond surface-level stuff.)
Load More Replies...Except when their opinions and beliefs are that certain groups lack basic human rights.
Everyone on earth has a different opinion. We all should respect that and move on. No opinion is entirely correct, or right. No opinion is best. Cause guess what, none of this b******t will matter when we're 90 years old on our deathbed in a nursing home wishing we spent our younger years doing something meaningful with our lives. Not voicing opinions. Try to solve world hunger, or donate to charity, or whatever. Just shut the f**k up and leave the world as it is, cause it won't get better if we believe everyone is an enemy.
Unless you believe people of different races/religions/sexual orientations/etc. are subhuman. Then yes, I AM attacking you because you're clearly a piece of s**t
But you attacking people for not agreeing with you a pos too. If they aren't physically harming others, they are allowed to their thoughts. I have seen way more hostile people in your group than in the other group. I don't care about anything but someone treating others decently. You can do that and still not agree with someone, but y'all can't seem to understand that.
Load More Replies...Now, once they begin *pushing* those beliefs on other, they're fair shaming targets.
I'm fine with people having different opinions and beliefs. I'm not fine with people falsifying facts or ignoring facts.
That depends on the belief or opinion. I had a customer last week tell me I don't have long covid and it's all a psy op (also the govt is taking our guns for evil reasons - I'm in the f*****g UK)
Repeating misinformation doesn’t suddenly make it right.
The loudest voices aren’t always right.
It’s foolish to devote yourself to any public figure, you won’t get the same loyalty in return.
Poor Tucker Quarrelsome. Spread lies for The Mighty Orange One, and end up on YouTube with 12 listeners. Slime doesn't pay.
Never devote yourself to a political figure. That leads to cultism!
Trust in only YOURSELF. Delete your heroes from your life and instead try to live the life you wish your old heroes did!
If half your elected leaders do not respect the truth, and the media does not, and your church does not, your social media does not, where we going to find it?
Half? You are much more generous than I would be about that statistic. I'd say >99%
Load More Replies...I'm afraid that this is not correct. Opinions and fake news that are repeated often enough and authoritatively enough become 'accepted fact' Whilst untrue the outcome is that the truth becomes a lie and the lie becomes the truth. Propagandists know this and use it to their advantage all across the world..
Why is it foolish to support someone/ something you believe in? Ignorant statement. You can please some of the people all the time but can't please someone all the time
Nobody is trying to make your kids gay
True but something strange is going on in the world today. Politics has been wrecking havoc on everyone’s happiness. ✌️
LGBTQ+ people have ALWAYS been with us since very beginning. They're nothing new. They are us. Deal with it.
This interactive map shows fascinating bits of the history of gender diversity round the world. Very educational. https://www.pbs.org/independentlens/content/two-spirits_map-html/?fbclid=iwar1ckoihremxwqflcmpmmwmkokiue2k7hemn1yy8fyntwft5zayglxtuzka
Load More Replies...I have never managed to get my head round these people who say "exposing" kids to gays will make them gay. By their logic having a story read to them by a drag queen, or reading a book about a child with 2 mums, is all it would have taken for them to indulge in some same sex action. That says a lot more about them than the rest of society.
Grooming a child to be gay is like grooming a child to have blue eyes.
✨people are just trying to live their lifeeeee✨ ✨so shut the f**k up Karen and go to the gymmmmmm✨ ✨therapy is expensiveeeeeeee, gym isntttttt✨
Nobody can make anyone gay. People are the way they are and you can't change that.
The right is. They keep claiming everyone else is, and forcing media attention on it. That's the only way to explain what they're doing. Also explains their exaggerated notions of "manliness."
What is probably the hardest thing to accept is that you and I are not at all the center of the entire universe, and in fact, the universe does not revolve around us, catching our every desire with bated breath. That we're nothing more than one of nearly eight billion people, and only the star in one show, called My Own Life or something like that. And it depends only on us whether this show will be successful. And how many more seasons will it last...
You can do everything right, do the best you can, be the best person you can be and still lose.
You can get up on time, brush your teeth, put your shoes on the correct feet, and still not make it to work.
God invented the aneurysm for shits and giggles.
Load More Replies...BUT what you do have control over is that you can also get back up, brush it off, take a deep breath, and try again.
The necessary percentage is arguable, but basically I agree. But have you looked at a tube of Pringles these days? Going through all the lengths of developing stackable chips/crisps to make them pack more economically, only to leave the top ten centimeters empty and the diameter 20 % wider than it'd have to be (or the chips smaller).
You can do great in school, graduate near top of your class, never get in trouble...and still end up 47 with no savings, no family of your own, and no joy... because you put your life on hold for a family that's always taken advantage of you out of misplaced loyalty, and your life is near poverty with no fun, no friends, no future.
A good amount of society refuses to accept that respect goes both ways.
Most older people I know were taught respect is an important part of daily life. I have found that the younger someone is, the less respect they have for respect. But this is just people I've met.
I think the problem is more that older generations (I'm 45, so I guess I'm in the middle) equate respect with agreeing with everything the elder says, which is how it used to be. Now the younger generations are more vocal about what they see as injustices and against their beliefs, which I find refreshing. They are definitely respectful but they will not put up with bigots and racists. If you feel they are not respectful to you, maybe you need to look at what kind of energy you're emitting. I have high hopes for the younger generations. I think the world will be in good hands.
Load More Replies...Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes to mean "treating someone like an authority" For some, "if you don't respect me, I won't respect you" means "if you don't treat me like an authority, I won't treat you like a person" - Rachel Thomas
I have always disagreed with phrases like "respect your elders" etc. Respect is a two way street and I only show respect to people who are willing to show it back, just because someone is older doesn't mean I have to show them respect. Younger people will show you respect if you treat them like human beings.
Unfortunately, there are an awful lot of people out there who subscribe to the view that, "If you don't respect me (my authority), then I won't respect you (as a person)." "Your authority" shouldn't enter into it. Just *because* you're a doctor/lawyer/cop/etc doesn't mean I'm obligated to automatically respect you.
That's because narcissism has become an epidemic and everyone thinks they deserve preferential treatment and be the main character wherever they go. They don't need to show respect to 'the help' or people who don't matter to them. They are entitled to all the respect and attention.
For me, everyone starts at a neutral zero. Any increases or decreases in respect from that number is entirely dependent upon THEIR actions from then on.
There's a hierarchy of respect ingrained in North American society because of capitalism. Rich dudes are at the top, especially if their skin is of a certain hue. Patriarchy itself demands a hierarchy of respect. Women gain respect through marrying men at the top of the chain. Those who don't fit society's definition of 'normal' - mentally ill, disabled, queer, BIPoC - all sit near the bottom, especially when it comes to getting respect from those who embrace the capitalist patriarchal system. I know the hue of my skin garners me certain respect from some demographics, but that respect lessens when they discover I'm disabled. And I'll never get the automatic respect my dad does because of his age, race, gender, and economic status.
The bible is not proof god exist.
If you believe that, if it - if any holy book - gives you comfort, that's fine. Just don't try to change what I beieive.
It's proof in the same way that a Batman comic proves the existence of the Joker.
More fundamentally, the Bible is not God. I would guess the majority of Christians are idolators as defined by the Bible based on my experience.
Religion as a means to achieve peace and endure suffering is fine. When it becomes a tool for discrimination and oppression, then it is evil
And Jesus was not a blonde hunk with beard, and was not speaking modern english.
It's also outdated in many parts. Especially the ones that are the Old Testament and that are still a part of it
A book written over 2000 years ago. By multiple authors. Long after the events it portrays may or may not have happened. Translated, and re-translated, edited, and re-edited over the years.
"In general, debunking myths about one's own exclusivity is a very painful process, and it doesn't matter who we are talking about - of humanity as a whole or about some of its individual representatives," says Irina Matveeva, a psychologist and a certified NLP specialist, whom Bored Panda asked for a comment. “Remember, at least, how hard it was for us to realize that it was not the Sun and stars that revolve around the Earth, but we live on an ordinary small planet in terms of space. And the only thing that makes it unique is that we actually live here."
"Of course, a child from their earliest years perceives their whole life as something that revolves only around them and the people who surround them as a kind of 'people-functions'. To feed, read a fairy tale, take a walk or go to football or basketball together. And there is nothing strange in this - at the childhood stage of human development. But then adulthood sets in - and the sooner we accept many worldly truths that are unpleasant for us, the easier and better it will be for us. And, ultimately, for the people that surround us, as well. After all, you should never forget that someone else's life does not have to revolve around us," Irina concludes.
Stating a personal opinion and then writing the word "Facts" after it does not make your opinion a fact
But it also often happens that those are facts. And people see facts that they don't like and say "it's just your opinion".
Fact: The problem with 24/7 news channels is filling air time with actual news ( and not opinion).
Too true. Ted Turner learned this in the 80's when he started CNN. Unfortunately, some people forgot that these channels are businesses and need to earn a profit like every other business. The opinions brought in viewers and ad prices spiked earning them billions. They just let some hosts go too far.
Load More Replies...Oh yeah, I am the single best ninjaTrashPandaBoom to ever exist forever. Factusessss. (My new word....copyright pending /s)
Load More Replies...Opinions are like a$$h$$$$, everyone has one and most of them stink.
Science is real. Facts not feelings. Pop tarts are the best! Opinion. Toaster strudel are the best! Facts yo
I try to cite my sources with at least links to them. But that’s only when things get contentious.
"Then" and "than" are not interchangeable. "Would of, should of, could of" are not the correct way to write 'would've, could've, or should've." People have argued in support of these egregious errors too many times.
Published author here, things like this make fear for the future of our language.
The amount of people who use "your" instead of "you're" is truly frightening. And I'm not talking about people whose first language isn't English. I'm talking native speakers.
Load More Replies...Their, there and they're. English is not my mother language but I've no idea how some people constantly mix them.
I'm a total grammar nerd (comes with my education). I get ridiculously excited when I get to use their, they're, and there in the same sentence, like "They're being their own fanboy and fangirl over there."
Load More Replies...I think these egregious, appalling errors are due to people not reading enough (reading your SM feed doesn't count). It's unfortunate that so many people make this error that likely it's going to become part of the vernacular.
I've always believed this to be true. I couldn't tell you what a dangling participle is, but if I saw one in a sentence I would know that it would cause confusion and should be rewritten. I love to read, and I know that by reading I have become a better writer through example.
Load More Replies...I am not even a native speaker, but this "Would of, could of" nonsense p*sses me off to no end...
I cringe at those who believe spelling correctly is an ... *ahem* "ok boomer" thing to mock.
Honestly…..this is purely anecdotal so take it with a grain of salt, but all the boomers I personally know can’t spell. My boss regularly stresses me out with his emails. Even my grandpa sent me a “hapy birtday” card (which I will love and cherish forever.)
Load More Replies...Editor and publish author here, I LOVE LOVE LOVE this. Grammar and punctuation is important. A comma can change the meaning of a sentence. That's pretty important in a legal document where a lot of money is on the line. It's annoying to learn, but it makes many things in life much easier and safer.
"Judy invited John & I to her wedding." OUCH! And if you don't understand what's wrong with that, then stay off my lawn.
Karma's not real. Some people will be liars and a******s all their life and get away with it until they die.
Yes. This is a very unfortunate truth. It's why I don't have any hope that Trump will ever feel the consequences of his lying, cheating, and being an overall horrible creature.
I would agree except he made a really bad mistake with lying about the boxes of papers. That is messing with money of people far more wealthy than he is and that is where he will pay. the nameless billionaires who we dont know about. They are finished with Trump and now he will pay. I dont think he will do any prison time but I do think it will kill him.
Load More Replies...And some good people, like good samaritans, sometimes get the short end of the stick
In my 59 years of life, this is one real truth that has become all too apparent. There are too many instances of truly good people being shat upon by circumstances and bad people never receiving consequences for Karma to be an actual thing. I know that there are people who believe in Karma because it gives them peace, and that's OK for them. It's hard to accept that fairness and justice are not universal, metaphysical truths. It's depressing to think that the worst of the worst may never pay for their misdeeds. Goodness isn't always rewarded and evil isn't always punished and that's just the way it is.
Karma doesn't always happen, but you should still do good deeds even if it's not guaranteed to bring good fortune. Also, I don't care if karma takes revenge because revenge doesn't undo whatever happened first
As I always tell ppl who believe in karma: if karma was real, civilization wouldn't have need of laws or prisons. "Oh no, somebody broke in and stole all your stuff and killed your family? GURL! That sucks but can you imagine what karma is gonna do them?!"
Yes that's the point! Karma is the balancing force along the continuum of lives ..
Nope. It's "the sum of a person's actions in this and previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences". Every action you take causes you to accumulate karma, which is a bad thing, and you want to avoid it.
Load More Replies...So will we all. And then that's it. So what's your point?
Load More Replies...This is a great example. He was one of the most evil men who ever lived, and although he had to flee his native Germany; he was able to live out his life in comfort in South America. He never paid for his atrocities and died at a ripe old age.
Load More Replies...What is even more difficult to understand and even more hard to accept is that not everything in this life depends on you and me. It's only in a video game that if we do everything right, then most likely we will succeed. Life, after all, is much more complicated. And yes, games too. If you don't believe me, ask any Patriots fan about the 2007 season. They were the strongest. They did everything almost perfectly. They had almost no flaws. They lost their only match of the season. And it just so happens that that match turned out to be the Super Bowl...
By the way, just here lies another important and not always pleasant nuance - after life unambiguously makes you understand that not everything happens strictly according to our plans, it is damn important not to break down. And if we did everything right, then sooner or later we will be lucky. Or not... Yes, that's another painful truth to accept.
It’s “COULDN’T care less” not “could care less”. 99% of people who have said this phrase makes this mistake for some reason.
Oh, yes, this is a pet peeve of mine. I even addressed it in a blog post.
I could care less, because it's morer importantest to have correct spells! /s 😀
Load More Replies...I actually think couldn’t care less is correct, because it implies it is literally impossible for them to care less because they care so little
I always remove the "you" and try it in a sentence by itself with just "I" or "me" and if it sounds wrong that way then it is. I think. Maybe that's completely wrong as well like most math rules I made up in my head that were only helpful in failing abs diagnosing a learning disability lol
Load More Replies...And it's wrong to say "TRY AND ...." That implies you can do it!! The correct way is "TRY TO.." That means intent, which is what you are trying to say.
You are not the main character in anyone’s life except your own.
Really? That's not what my grandson says, and I think I will believe him more than I do you. And he is mine.
I've always felt like a character actor in a movie about someone else's life, anyway.
Every generation imagines itself to be more intelligent than the one that went before it, and wiser than the one that comes after it
If I thought I was dumber than my parents, I'd still be living in their basement instead of standing tall, and moving to my Aunt's basement.
Every generation should be slightly wiser than the previous due to the accumulation of knowledge. Should be.
Every generation is slightly dumber than the previous. I blame Adam Sandler movies
I feel bad sometimes for the vitriol baby boomers get online. Yes, they made some bad decisions with long last horrible consequences, but as individuals, they were mostly just doing the best they could with the information they knew. It's not like they purposely set out to destroy the environment or the housing market.
Statistically; each generation is actually more intelligent than the previous one.
Kids are really smart and think much more than we do. I remember how I was back then and was a better more well minded person than now
Well, perhaps the most important and wholesome thing from this collection is that we simply do not have the right to comment. When you open a bag of chips, the air that fills it is predominantly nitrogen. And it is really damn useful - because it acts as a shock absorber. Without nitrogen in a pack, the fragile chips would have crumbled long ago, perhaps right at the factory. By the way, don't worry that nitrogen can somehow negatively affect the chips. Or affect us.
First, nitrogen is actually more than three-quarters of all the air we breathe. And secondly, back in 1994, scientists conducted a detailed study that confirmed that nitrogen in bags of chips is not only harmless, but can even increase their shelf life. So feel free to grab some chips, scroll this list to the very end and maybe add some worldly wisdom based on your own experience in the comments. After all, we will all be grateful for that. Or not. Well, gratitude for good deeds is not something we should take for granted...
That children learning to say no is an *essential* life skill, not something that should always be treated as simply an annoyance/something to discourage by schools, parents, etc.
Funnily the kids whose parents refuse to use a "no" on them learn using it themselves just fine. Kids need to learn to say "no", but they also need to learn to accept a "no"
Learning to say yes and please and thank you would be great, too.
Yes please, I would like for people to do that very much, thank you!
Load More Replies...This, combined with their "No," needs to be respected by adults around them. I don't mean they should be allowed to say "No," to things like doing homework or vaccuming. But if they say they don't want to show an adult a story they wrote? It's not code for, "I'm insecure about my writing so my parents should forcibly read the work I don't want them to so they can admire my skill." Likewise, refusing to give a family member a hug or kiss is fine. They may jusr not feel like it, or maybe there's a more serious reason. Either way, adults need to learn to just accept their refusal and move on.
SO MUCH THIS. You did not deserve a downvote of any sort. Kids need to learn that their body is their own and nobody can touch them without consent. They should also be given the freedom to have some privacy and make simple decisions for themselves, because that fosters independence and teaches them consequence. And how a child responds to invitations for hugs and kisses can be a BIG indicator if someone has harmed them. Forcing them to hug or kiss others is also a very good way to make them vulnerable to abuse because they don't learn boundaries and believe they must do whatever an adult tells them. Everything you're saying is super important.
Load More Replies..."No, no, no, no, no, no no. Mama Mia Figaro." (Freddy Mercury as a child.)
My parents always phrased something that I had to do as a question so I could never say no, and if I did say no they'd yell at me and I'd do it anyways. I'm s****y at saying no to anything now
That's a dangerous way to raise kids, and leaves them vulnerable to exploitation and abuse.
Load More Replies..."Don't you dare tell me my little Bratleigh should hear the word 'no'! No one will ever tell her no! She does not need to learn that." The scary thing is, there are a lot of parents like that.
Teach them how to block, duck, and doge while you're at it, why don't you?
Sometimes you are the problem.
And in the same vein, being aware of your faults is not the same thing as actually trying to change them.
Apologies mean nothing when they aren't followed up by attempts to change the offending behavior.
I was gonna upvote this but it has 69 likes and I'm not trying to ruin that. Upvote in spirit<3
One of the most helpful lessons I have ever learned (but don't always implement) was: Whenever I find myself surrounded by @ssholes, idiots, and whiners consider whether it isn't perhaps possible for it to be the other way around.
Life isn’t fair.
Usually what people then mean is more fair for me. In general, we should take a good look at situations around the world where most help is actually needed to make it fair. We only look at our immediate surroundings but tons of people are still starving, doing slave labor for the first world countries or don't even have access to clean water.
Load More Replies...“Life is unfair, but remember: sometimes it is unfair in your favor.” – Peter Ustinov
I loved Ustinov in Quo Vadis, such a nuanced Nero
Load More Replies...Rule #1: Life is not fair. Rule #2: You cannot make life fair. Rule #3: If you don't like Rule #2, see Rule #1.
No, it isn't. But that does not absolve every human of their responsibility to make what efforts they can to address and correct injustices. I'll probably never be rich. But I'll always do what I can to help those in need, even if it's just handing out sandwiches. At least I know I'm doing my part even if others don't.
I detest this phrase, cuz it's almost always used to shout down someone with a valid grievance. We as a species should be trying to make it as fair as possible.
Which is why we should treat our neighbors as brothers and help the less fortunate rather than punish them or treat them as less than. We are all trying to get through life
"No, it's a joke. And your fugly f*****g face is the punchline." - Me to my reflection every morning
The air in a bag of chips is necessary.
It’s mostly nitrogen. It’s to make sure that the chips don’t get crushed and the chips don’t oxidize and become soft and spoil
I prefer mine to be vacuum packet and smacked with a mallet so I see how much it really is i a pack! /s
Load More Replies...While that is true, the amount of air that is in modern chips packets is too much. You can indeed fill the package to a generous amount and then add air. That's how it was done to actually protect the chips from breaking. But with shrinkflation the amount of chips got less while the package stayed the same, sometimes to the effect of chips rattling around in the far to big and inflated bag and breaking from that even more. So yes, some air in the package is neccessary, still there's now too much air due to shrinkflation.
This. I get that some air is needed but half the bag is bonkers.
Load More Replies...I'm fine with air in my bag of chips, I'm not ok with the amount of air increasing, the weight of the chips decreasing, and the price increasing.
Once I paid 5 bucks for a lays bag that had 5 chips in it, don’t tell me they need that much air
A published article only proves that somebody published an article
Yeah, that's why there's this thing called "peer review". Magazine and newspaper articles are not the same as academic journals. Not all secondary sources are created equally.
One must even question peer reviewed articles. Make a habit of doing a little digging into the background of all involved parties. Funding, additional affiliations etc.
Load More Replies...Or did they??? (AI is a thing, especially now - I could be AI and not know it)
The EARTH is round
I, sir, come from a long line of anchovies, and don't you forget it!
Load More Replies...Has anyone here ever met IRL someone who believes the earth is flat?
Flat earthers assidulously avoid real life, so you are unlikely to meet one there.
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Popping off on social media about the atrocities of the world isn’t activism.
Celebrities aren’t activists and it’s weird that people expect them to be.
Most people who claim to be activists aren’t actually doing anything to be activists in their own lives.
Just because people on your specific TikTok algorithm are talking about something doesn’t mean it’s common knowledge or that people care in the real world.
Not that celebrities should be expected to be activist but some feel they can use their fame to promote or assist others.
And some celebrities use their fame for a platform to spout off about subjects when they have absolutely nothing meaningful, intelligent or worthwhile to add.
Load More Replies...Social media can work as a way to educate people if you can cultivate a decent following and coherently write about issues. But that writing should also come with real-world actions to take, and as much as possible, you should be taking those actions yourself. Like, I write a lot about compassion for the unhoused, but I also go to City Hall to speak at meetings and I bring food to the camps and stuff. So I'm working on every front I'm able.
Should not look to actors, musicians, etc to be activists. Most of them simply haven't lived in the same world as most of us.
Activism is much more involved than social media posts BUT awareness and opportunity for conversation starts small, it takes tiny steps to begin with, sometimes that’s all that happens, sometimes you create interest or prompt debate maybe even open someone’s mind to an alternative way of viewing a situation or for them to seek out more information. It also gives others the chance to open your mind and view of the world. A journey of a thousand miles starts with the first step.
I think that this one applies to people who post about things that are common knowledge, then claim that they 'raising awareness'. I hate that phrase with a passion.
Reduce, reuse and recycle are true acts. Mindful buying and sustainable products are true activism. Volunteering is true activism. Growing food is righteous. Talking about it is just virtue signaling and just a front for not doing anything and taking credit for it. Hell is getting all the influencers and media yokels
Evolution is a reality that is currently taking place.
... you sure we're not devolving? Because it feels like we're devolving...
I've read we're actually less intelligent than our ancestors. We have a lot of benefits they didn't have whereas they had to figure things out on their own.
Load More Replies...yeah, and no other dumb sh1t is happening anywhere else on this planet...
Load More Replies..."Survival of the fittest" doesn't mean survival of the strongest/most intelligent/.. It just means that on average those individuals propagate most that fit the current criteria best that allows much propagation. In the past this has lead to Homo sapiens evolving to be the dominating race on earth (apart from fungi, bacteria, viruses,...). The movie Idiocrazy has a nice intro that shows a dystopian but probably real current state of how that works, that might doom human kind in the end. It's still evolution and survival of the fittest though!
That there is a difference between micro evolution and macro evolution. When people state they don’t believe evolution is the cause of change there’re referring to macro evolution. When people say “well you can see evolution happening in real time,” they’re referring to micro evolution.
He’s never going to leave his wife for you.
Yeah, this is some BS, there are plenty of men who left their wife for another woman and it worked out. Just low odds is all.
Ain't the case with Newt Gingrich. All it takes is for his current wife to become ill with something and he's out the door.
And if he does, your relationship is based on dishonesty, do you think it'll improve?!
This is true. I would also add depending fully on anyone financially is incredibly dangerous. You (usually ladies) need to be able to support you and whoever depends on you without a partner. You never know what is going to happen or what someone will do to you.
Replying to myself to add: I learned this the hard way - my mom was a stay at home mom and dad made a decent living. Until he decided to take off and wipe out the joint accounts (mom had nothing else). I'm currently watching a friend go through the same thing after 20 years of marriage. So for the young ladies that are just starting out - keep this in mind. Protect yourselves financially.
Load More Replies...The same man who obviously didn’t care about his marriage when he wanted to get you in bed will suddenly care very much about it when you start asking for more from him. That’s also when he’ll suddenly be gone.
I know three people who left their wives for the person they were having an affair with. One is now happily married to them, the other two went into relationships that failed, one had another affair, the other got cheated on. So in my exhaustive set of stats 66% of subsequent relationships fail.
Driving a BMW does not clear you of indicator or speeding violations.
They just go out of blinker fluid really fast in those really big cars, they really can't help it!
Not a viable excuse. If this is an issue with your beamer, then it’s a responsibility that comes with the car. So you better just be a grownup and check and refill it more often.
Load More Replies...Ok thats nice. First time i see a foreign term to bmw. Just k ow th german terms. Ike bayrischer mistwagen. Bavaryan sh!tcar
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Too much coffee isn't good for you
Too much exercise isn't good for you
From Fry and Laurie: "Well of course too much is bad for you, that's what "too much" means you blithering tw*t. If you had too much water it would be bad for you, wouldn't it? "Too much" precisely means that quantity which is excessive, that's what it means. Could you ever say "too much water is good for you"? I mean if it's too much it's too much. Too much of anything is too much. Obviously. Jesus."
I'm interested what BP thinks is excessive. Because I've had people tell me here that 45mins of exercise a day is excessive.
That's something you should discuss with your physician. Different people need different amounts of exercise. Age, body condition, underlying health issues... everything comes in to play. I'm slowly working myself down from severely morbidly obese to a healthy weight. Lost 100 lbs so far! I started with two minutes a day on the elliptical. A physiotherapist evaluates me regularly to ensure I'm not harming my joints, etc. and advises different exercises to strengthen weak areas. I can now comfortably do 50 minutes on the elliptical, and the physio and the physician are both pleased with that, but they don't want me to take it any higher because I could make exercise the drug that food used to be. That being said, my teenage nephew has to run around at least two hours a day or he gets agitated and cranky. He has so much energy, he needs to work it off. Everyone's different.
Load More Replies...Too little coffee isn't good for you. Too little exercise isn't good for you
I'm sure flat-earthers can "prove" that just the right amount of coffee and exercise isn't good for you, either.
That change can in fact be good and that things can in fact be better we just have to actually TRY to do them
I want to upvote this as much as I can. Almost all change is good. Including climate change, a doubling of atmospheric CO2 results in about a 60% increase in the growth of all forests, about a 35% increase in crop yields, and a similar expansion of marine ecosystems. A big win for the environment. Change isn't always bad.
It says CAN, not WILL, people. You guys are literally saying exactly what the OP stated. 🤦♀️
The problem with change is that when something in my life changes, it's to make someone else's life better. Mine usually gets 1000% worse. So F change.
Change is scary to a lot of people. In fact, just trying to change is scary. How many smokers have you heard claim they didn't want to try to quit because they "enjoy" smoking so much? They're actually just afraid to try because they believe they'll fail. Remind them of it on their premature death beds.
Whataboutism does not help promote your cause. It just shows that your side is as bad as the other.
Any f*****g time women talk about their issues online, without fail there's always someone who has to come flying in with "wHaT aBoUt MeN??", even if the comment or post/article is specifically about women. It's extra infuriating when it's clear that the only time they even pretend to care about men's issues is when they're shouting down women for bringing attention to women's issues.
The problem is, at least on BP, all the articles about women, are pro women and bash men. The ones about men are almost always negative
Load More Replies...Back when such things as Debate theory was taught in schools we called this argumentation trap “moving target” and it is used to avoid clash which is bad for debate. Glad we can now refer to it as “whataboutism” so nobody needs to think or know anymore.
Whataboutism often shows that you are propably running out of arguments for your original claim.
I used to have a supervisor that would always use what if this and what if that. I would always come back with, well if we are going to visit the land of what if then lets just move in right there. WHAT IF, doing this redundant paper work I got a paper cut and WHAT IF I get an infection in that cut and WHAT IF the infection is so bad that it infects my entire arm and WHAT IF it needs to be cut off and WHAT IF I can't work any longer because of that. That doesn't make this redundant paper work all that important, Does it.
Technically, this is called the fallacy "tu quoque" which means "you too."
It's a sign that the user knows he or she is losing, like resorting to calling you names instead of making a counterpoint. You see it from the right all the time -- increasingly in congress, unfortunately.
Luck has a lot to do with where you are in life.
But if you play a game and roll 6 several times in a row that makes you win it is caused by random chance but could still be called luck right? The definition is good things that happen because of chance.
Load More Replies...It plays a much bigger role in success than most successful people are willing to admit. I'm not particularly successful at anything, but I am lucky for what I have, and I always appreciate that.
Luck can be defined as being prepared for when that good opportunity comes your way.
Alcohol is bad for humans.
My father's doctor told him to have a glass of red wine every night, that it is good for his heart. So who is right?
There are a lot of newer studies that have shown that no amount of alcohol is "good" for you.
Load More Replies..."Everything I like is either illegal, immoral or fattening." - Alexander Woollcott
Everything is bad for humans, we should stop doing things and the world will be healthier and maybe more depressing for a lot of people who like these vices.
"Beer is proof that God loves me and wants me to be happy." Benjamin Franklin
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The world isn't black and white
Technically the world isnt anything except how we take in information around us using senses that have evolved to our personal needs as a species that come together to form things we see as "reality"
Reality isn't material, and it can't be described, because it isn't words. Reality is
Load More Replies...It’s not even gray, it’s all colors and all shades of those colors.
"The world isn't black and white" -- Well, it *used* to be! And I have plenty of old photos to prove it.
I was looking at anti-vaxxer vs pro-vaxxer a while back. You'd think that was pretty much black or white. It isn't. All they disagreed on was safe dosage. Pro-vaxxers said that the dosage has to be high in order for the medicine to be effective at all. Anti-vaxxers said the the dosage has to be low in order to avoid side effects. There's a completely grey area between the two.
That life is full of randomness. Our fear of accepting this leads us to do things like blame people when bad things happen to them. We want to imagine that similar bad things couldn't happen to us, so we rationalize that they must have done something that led to the bad thing happening.
Of course this isn't to say that what we do has *no* effect or that people can't do things that contribute to bad (or good) things happening to them. I'm just saying there's a lot more randomness in it than we're comfortable admitting.
And the human mind tries to make order from the randomness, and it doesn't seem to work.😐
Things we do or say actually have a ripple effect, like the ripples you see when you throw a pebble into a lake. You may never know what kind of effects are in those ripples, but they do affect more people than you realize, including people you don’t even know, and that effect can go on for years. Once in a great while you do find out the effect of something you said or did, and hopefully it was good. Decades ago I advised a coworker, a young single mom, to go back to school and get her degree, so she could get a better job in a field she was actually interested in. I changed jobs shortly afterward and lost touch. Ran into her about ten years later. She actually did go back to school, and got a degree in a field she really loved, which also paid well enough that she could buy a house for her and her son, and put money in a college fund for him. Where she was when I worked with her, those two things would’ve been impossible. So what I said to her not only affected her, one of the ripples affected her son, and later ripples would affect her grandchildren and great-grandchildren because she had improved her life, gotten her education, pulled herself out of near poverty, bought a house in a safe neighborhood, and made it possible for her son to go to college. That’s the only one I ever learned the outcome of. I only hope something I said to someone else didn’t have a bad effect on their life. The guilt would honestly kill me.
“There is a tendency to judge a race, a nation or any distinct group by its least worthy members. Though manifestly unfair, this tendency has some justification. For the character and destiny of a group are often determined by its inferior elements.” – Eric Hoffer, “The True Believer”
That they’re responsible for sorting their own lives out.
Better to learn this early than on your deathbed. If you don't fix you, no one else will, and it doesn't matter if they are actually, legitimately to blame for your situation. They just won't do it. You have to. Unfair, but that's life, and the rewards far outweigh any sense of outrage you might have over it.
Again, the people that say this are the ones who believe being selfish is a good thing. No one can succeed in life without help. No one is "self-made." But some people have a support system and others don't. If you have been successful in life, you had some form of outside help, even if you refuse to admit it.
Yes but that people are willing to support you is an ability that you need to have. You either got it by your parents raising you well or learned it later in life. And what is wrong about being selfish? All I do is selfish, I feel better in a clean environment so I try my best not to pollute it, I feel better if I'm surrounded by sane and intelligent people so I do my best to offer support to others. I feel better if my employees are highly skilled so I'm invested in lobbying for a good educational system. Don't pretend you do things for others, you don't, you never do. Every action in your life is done to benefit you. The question is do you get your joy out of putting others down or out of lifting others up?
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That their side can be wrong as well.
i've been wrong a lot and i admit it. but sometimes, people are asshats
Some people are just so terrified of being wrong they can't let it go no matter how much proof is put before their eyes. It's a weird concept to me to stand firm that I'm right with irrefutable proof proving me wrong.
Load More Replies...This links to believing one is the most intelligent person around. "How can I be 'wrong'?"
its not about you
I hate it when there's a murder and some dimwit says "that could've been me" just because they know the murderer or the victim. The way I see it they're trying to make it about themselves.
Wow this is super wrong. Literally being alive is all about you. I'm sorry I'm doing anything and everything to make sure I survive, even if that means you don't.
Life was much, much different 30 years ago and comparing today's life with today's technology and instant information in your pocket is an unfair comparison. Think about it this way. One reason people hate boomers is because they didn't recycle and now things look grim for our planet. You might be surprised to learn that recycling did not largely exist 30 years ago. Many products sold were bad for the environment but there were no alternatives. Or the alternatives at the time were just too expensive to be used widely. Cars leaked oil and burned a ton of gas - all unavoidable. 40 years ago our town dumps were hills. Everyone in town drove to the same location, threw all of their trash down a hill, and drove off. Once every month or so someone would burn it. The boomers parents are to blame for that. The boomers are the ones who cleaned that up.
Contrary to what many youngster believe, many boomers don't just talk, they act. This points out something that too many young people believe, life was different and standards were different. It's comparing apples to oranges. I'm looking back at over 50 years. A computer in my home? Never going happen. But it did. Talk to people before painting them with such a broad brush. There are good and bad in all generations.
But when we’re talking about the pollution, the economy, the housing crisis, the way “minimum wage” doesn’t mean “the minimum wage required to live your damn life” anymore, etc etc……I’d love to say “oops there’s good and bad in every generation” but that was Very Crappy for the rest of us. We got screwed by previous generations (ever notice it’s mostly rich Boomers in charge of politics these days? What could the problem possibly be?)
Load More Replies...This is what happens when you try to paint a generation with one brush. It can't be done. You have the hippie boomers who created the whole recycling movement and you have the corporate boomers who are clinging to fossil fuels because it's what made them wealthy and comfortable into their golden years. There are dozens of other categories of boomers to fall into also, just like every other generation. Not every 70 year old is a clone.
As part of the boomer generation (1958 to be exact) I remember many things today's folks would NEVER put up with. "NO GAS" signs were one I'll never forget. You think today's inflation is bad, my dad bought a house with a 14% mortgage. On a positive note, if you had a college degree in ANYTHING except Art, Music, or Theater, you could get an executive or managment TRAINEE position. No one ever asked about your college GPA unless you were applying to medical school. Had an ounce of common sense? Your career was literally like having a Saturn V rocket under your a*s. You were going nowhere but UP! Today, I've been served coffee by 4.0 GPA students with a masters degree. That's messed up!!!
Todays “boomers” are the hippies from the 60s. In 30-40 years, the current generation will be ripped by the babies of today. That’s the way it has always been and always will be. See #6
I’m gen a (early2011) and the younger kids even a year younger are soooo annoying
Load More Replies...A bit of a blinkered view. Products were manufactured using designs and parts that could be repaired / replaced, you could fix things in your shed and keep them running, modern design and manufacturing techniques often don’t allow for this to happen, built in obsolescence is a thing. ‘Back in the day’ vegetables were put in paper bags, not plastic, milk and soda was delivered in glass bottles that were recycled. Each generation has messed up, each generation has moved the human race forward, things don’t always move to a better place but even if things get worse we learn and develop new plans and hopefully they move us to a better place. Look back and learn but don’t throw them under the bus.
I remember going to the butcher shop with my mom. She picked out what she wanted, decided how much she needed and the butcher pick it up out of the glass case, weighed it and wrapped it in paper with wax on the side next to the meat. Never heard of recalls, food poisoning, etc. We didn't lug 30 pounds of meat home for the month like some people do now.
Load More Replies...Not a boomer, a gen xer here. This says 30yrs ago recycling wasn't a big thing? I have to say false. In Michigan at least, there was (and still is as my mother still does it) for pop cans, you take them to the store and get .10c per can. There are recycle depots all over the cities. Bring your paper bags, computers, furniture, newspapers, etc. Boomers? I'm not sure what they did or didn't do as I was alive then, but they were only 1 gen ahead of me so I'm sure they must've did SOME things. We have landfills now, cars still leak oil and burn gas. Yeah, we've got electric cars now, but they're not the only vehicles on the roads. I just don't entirely agree with this
Just a few points from the 60 / 70's (in UK) by way of explanation not excuse. Firstly - we had less stuff - way less stuff - all our weekly rubbish fitted in one dustbin [trashcan] for a family for a week. Our milk was delivered in bottles that were taken away and re-used. our fizzy drink bottles were glass and we got 5 pence back when it was returned for re-use. food did not come in plastic packages - nor did most of it fly across the world in frozen shipping containers - there was way less choice but it was fine. they were not eco-initiatives - they just made commercial sense until the shops decided they could make more money using global commercialism - and of course we went for it - wouldn't you have? No - ok, lets look at a current equivalent, stop using the internet - and cut the worlds carbon footprint in an instant. see - never that clear cut.
What's more, our glass milk bottles were delivered and collected on electric milk floats...way before Toyota hybrids and Tesla electric cars.
Load More Replies...I was born in '62. Moved town in '74, so must've been 6 or 8 when I remember my folks going to the local Meijer in Lansing Mi and putting steel, green glass, brown glass, clear glass, and aluminum in the dumpsters in the parking lot. EVERYONE sorted, not like today. "#1 plastic? #2 plastic, this is SO confusing"
So when I was 13, we didn't have recycle bins? Because we totally did. When I was 3, we lived in a tiny village in Nebraska, and yes, dad drove the trash to the dump, where it was burned every few years. At the same time, my grandparents were learning what to put in their recycle bins and what belonged in the trash bins in Southern California. Location is more telling than the year.
Born in 71. There was no mandatory recycling with the bin pickups until I was in my 20s. So boomer politicians put that in place. Getting rid of leaded petrol, happened late 80s. Also a boomer move. The plastic bag? Invented to be reusable and stop paper bag production. Corporations changed that so one boomer idea equalled out by another boomer idea. The 2L soft drink bottle? Replaced for safety because the glass ones were ticking bombs. Hit one of the glass one the wrong way, and it didn't have to be a hard hit either, and boom - soda and glass everywhere.
You're not fitting back into those pants you wore in school.
I never grew much so I can still fit into old clothes from a few years ago
I'm 36. I don't have anything that I used to have when I was in school. Except the depression and anxiety, and they're one size fits all.
"Gaslighting" isn't just a fancy word for lying or being manipulative, it's got a specific definition. Similarly, "narcissism" isn't just another word for selfishness or lack of empathy. It's also got a specific medical definition and if you haven't worked with someone extensively (and aren't a clinician) you aren't qualified to diagnose them with it.
"Your truth" does not exist. There is one single truth and it is the same for everyone. The word you are looking for is "opinion".
not everyone will be as kind to you as you are to them. you could do them a great service and they'll just flip you off and spit in your face. it's a sad reality
Most of these "truths" are Just old well known platitudes that have been around forever and haven't changed a damn thing .
"Gaslighting" isn't just a fancy word for lying or being manipulative, it's got a specific definition. Similarly, "narcissism" isn't just another word for selfishness or lack of empathy. It's also got a specific medical definition and if you haven't worked with someone extensively (and aren't a clinician) you aren't qualified to diagnose them with it.
"Your truth" does not exist. There is one single truth and it is the same for everyone. The word you are looking for is "opinion".
not everyone will be as kind to you as you are to them. you could do them a great service and they'll just flip you off and spit in your face. it's a sad reality
Most of these "truths" are Just old well known platitudes that have been around forever and haven't changed a damn thing .
