“There is no doubt in my mind street smarts kicks book smarts’ ass,” Scott Berkun claimed once. Despite our best efforts to balance the scales by saying that you need both in order to thrive, being street smart still kicks book smarts’ ass. So we will just leave it at that.
While you can read a couple of books and be well-educated in philosophy, citing Nietzsche probably will do you much good as waving your wallet when you find yourself on the wrong side of the tracks. In order to see what it takes to survive in the 'concrete jungle', we have delved into the depths of the internet to bring you the best street smart tips.
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My dad gave me this advice: if you ever think you're about to be mugged or attacked, and you don't know that you could win the fight, act crazy. Talk to yourself, chew on your fingers, p**s your pants if need be. Any group of people can feel safe taking on one dude, no matter how big he is. Nobody wants to f**k with crazy. Crazy doesn't give up when you break his nose, or when you smash his head into the ground. Crazy will keep whaling on you with two broken arms until he physically can't move. Nobody f***s with crazy.
In the bustling metropolis of modern urban life, having street smarts is similar to having a navigational compass in an unforgiving concrete jungle. Those who embody this discerning quality find themselves adept at reading the city's unspoken rules, mastering the delicate dance of interpersonal dynamics, and weaving through the intricacies of daily encounters with almost preternatural ease. Like Spider-Man but with no latex costume.
Yet, it is not merely a matter of survival - street smarts also embolden its possessor to thrive amid the cacophony of urban life. At least that's what Mark K. Mullins and John A. Kuhn, both accomplished businessmen, claim in their 'Street Smart Disciplines of Successful People' book. Armed with a profound understanding of the city's pulse, street smart folks can negotiate with the finesse of seasoned diplomats, their deft negotiations ensuring favorable outcomes in transactions and exchanges.
"I’m not a traditional designer, I've learned more in the streets than in any classroom," Enzo Fusco, a collector of technical and military garments, has once claimed. And it's true. Street smarts enable individuals to adapt quickly to new and challenging situations, whether it's life or creativity.
Street smarts also help people think on their feet, make quick decisions, and adjust to rapidly changing circumstances. We're pretty sure Anthony Bourdain, the renowned American celebrity chef who once lived in Manhattan's tough and legendary neighborhood, Hell's Kitchen, during the early 1980s, undoubtedly grasped the value of street smarts better than most.
If you're a tourist and lost, don't stand still to get your bearings. Go sit on a bench and look relaxed, like you're waiting for someone and just passing the time.
The difference between a low income and a bad neighborhood, is that in low income ones, people are going places, catching the bus to work, etc. In bad hoods, people are hanging out on street corners appearing to do nothing.
Speaking of putting that street smarts knowledge to good use outside of survival, we were lucky to catch Scott Berkun, the best-selling author of 'Confessions of a Public Speaker', and talk about how it helped him achieve so much in his life. "Whether you're on the street or in any other challenging situation, being street smart compels you to cultivate trust in your own judgment concerning people and what truly holds significance. This skill holds immense value in every aspect of life, regardless of how far removed you are from those initial experiences on the streets," he told Bored Panda in an email.
One of the best ive heard for “novice level” street smart levels is always look like you know where you are going and walk with purpose, as youll look like a less easy mark than people nose deep in their phone and looking around confused
In my teens I’d go to the mall regularly and on sundays they closed early but I had forgotten this and didn’t have a cell phone to call for a pick-up so I asked a stranger to use his. He looked conflicted but then asked for the phone number and dialed it himself, confirmed it was a mom, then handed it to me. It took a while for me to realize he just didn’t want his phone to get snatched and stolen, but wherever you are cell phone mall guy you taught me a valuable Street smart lesson about belongings that day.
I've given two people my phone to make a call. Not the smartest idea, but I'm glad I could help out
I will make the call FOR you - standing two lengths away from you in full view of cameras. I will even give you money to catch a bus. I WILL NOT give you my phone - not even for a second. I will help, given what my intuition tells me; but I refuse to do something foolish while helping.
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Not the same scenario, and this is good advice, but on a related note: a man once came to my door (I'm in a rural area) and asked to use my phone. The dogs hated him, and he was afraid of them and unarmed, so I handed it through a slot in the door. He made his phone call and took off. About an hour the cops came looking for a man who had robbed someone's house up the road and was on the run. I was able to give them the phone number he called and description of his tattoos. They caught him.
Yes. Do not hand your electronics / valuables to strangers. While not outright theft, a related 'trick' used in some countries (Egypt on a camel is one example) the person takes your picture for you on 'thing' but then does not want to give back your camera until you pay them for the picture. Not quite a snatch and grab but still extortion.
Anytime someone that idk needs to use my phone I will dial the number myself and put it on speaker phone. My phone does not leave my hands.
LOL I hesitate when I hand it to a telecom sales guy when I need something done!
If someone asks me if they can use my phone, I ALWAYS have them give me the number and their first name, then place the call FOR them. ONLY if the person on the other end asks to talk to the one who asked will I put the phone on speaker for them. I absolutely REFUSE to hand over my phone! I lost my only means of communication ONCE, NEVER AGAIN!
Also, if someone asks you for the time and you’re not wearing a cheap watch, you don’t have the time. Don’t flash your expensive watch or pull out your smartphone. “Sorry, can’t help you” can save you from being mugged.
The biggest difference between street smarts and book smarts, then, is how you acquire the knowledge, Berkun says. "Street smarts place you at the center of the experience, while book smarts involve absorbing someone else's perspective on the world." Street smarts, in other words, are earned through personal exposure to risks and the ability to overcome them, while you can get the smarts from art in the comfort of your home, snugged by a cozy blanket.
When you buy an expensive item, for the love of god…don’t just put the box outside by your trash can. It screams “rob me and my new 50 inch plasma flatscreen!”
While contemplating and mentally preparing have their merits, Berkun, who also admits to being a book nerd himself, firmly believes that envisioning how to handle tough situations is a far cry from the actual experience.
If a stranger is being helpful and helping you get somewhere be incredibly mindful of that.
Fresh to London I was totally lost on my way to an interview. A very kind guy offered to walk me to my destination - he stayed a respectful distance the whole time, chatted to me and shook my hand at the end. Another time I was waiting outside a chicken shop for my brother and his friends (who were inside) and the biggest, scariest bloke came bounding up to me, asked the situation, then went inside and absolutely berated my brother and his mates for leaving me vulnerable outside. I have quite a few of these stories where strangers have been very helpful to me
Ok, I live in a dangerous country, here are my street smart tips:
* 1) Don't watch people in their eye (maybe split second, or on throat)
* 2) If responding to an ad in the paper for apartment, dont walk with rental deposit in cash. Verify somehow
* 3) Boarding a taxi, text somebody the license plate
* 4) Always tell someone where you're going
* 5) If you go out with someone, text/call each other upon arrival at home
* 6) Driving at night and there is an obstacle in the road, don't stop to remove... drive over or reverse the f**k out of there.
* 7) Buying a used car from someone?. Verify there are no outstanding loans attached to it. Verify the chassis number or something. People have been known to rent cars then sell them
* 8) Study whoever is approaching you and attempt to decipher if they're acting suspicious
* 9) Consider crossing the street when people are approaching you, to make more space between you
* 10) When walking home at nights, walk on the safe side. I.E The side of incoming traffic. So you can see cars approaching you. In the Caribbean cars drive on the left hand side of the road. Walking on the right hand side, a car will never creep up behind you.
* 11) When parking your vehicle in a parking lot, park it in the center or somewhere lit and visible
* 12) Don't leave valuables showing in you car ...like on the seat or something
* 13) If paying someone large sums of cash, pay via check, bankers draft etc, to leave a paper trail. Cash is harder to trace.
* 14) At a stop light ?... Lock all doors and pull up windows. People can open doors and sneak in
* 15) Do not ask anybody for directions. Find someone in uniform or something.
* 16) If you are being followed, DO NOT GO HOME, head to the nearest Police Station. Don't let them know where you leave
* 17) Invest in electronically closing gates. Risky to get out of car to open and close gate
* 18) Consider keeping "rob money" on you. If being mugged you don't want to p**s off the mugger by not having anything to give
* 19) Consider using the same taxi if possible, Or specially designated Licensed taxis. Random taxis may rob you.
* 20) At a party and s**t goes down?. The warring parties may leave to get armed and return afterwards. leave immediately
* 21) Dropping a friend home, let them enter their house/ gate before you drive away.
* 22) Have keys handy upon walking to car/ house
* 23) If an unfamiliar person comes asking questions about the whereabouts of somebody in your area. You do not know.
I used the "drive to police station and go in" tip when being harassed and followed.....it worked well.
"Embrace real-life interactions by engaging with the challenge heads on, visiting locations, and immersing yourself in the nitty-gritty aspects of your work. Avoid a hands-off approach," Berkun suggested. "Embracing all experiences, whether positive or negative, will gradually build your confidence, familiarity, and understanding of the world around you."
In other words, learn to be street smart by stepping outside of your comfort zone. Although, don't go steer too far off - it can get a bit nuts and there might not be any internet connection.
If you're in a really sh***y neighbourhood, the plain clothes cops have nicer teeth than everyone else. A family member who's actually a cop told me this once. It makes sense if you've ever been in some really rough neighbourhoods.
Because welfare & insurance doesn't pay for dental. I hate jokes about toothless poor people, if you choice is between food for house or dental your gonna feed the house.
Don’t ever tell the cab driver you don’t know where you’re going.
Ladies, never hold your purses casually. I know women who've had their bags snatched and there's no chance you can catch the thieves when they're already running and you don't know what just happened. I have an over-the-shoulder purse and I usually feel ok about it, but I still swing it in front of me when I'm in a crowded place.
Also, never believe anyone's sob story when they're asking for money. You won't believe how genuine these people can sound and look - especially those people in train stations saying they only need $X to get to X place, their stuff was stolen, whatever. As a resident of a city, you'll see dozens of people give them money and they'll still be there.
If someone describes themselves as "street smart" it means they are not smart.
When in a bad area, keep a confident posture and facial expression. But don't invite too much attention by staring everyone in the face.
I got mugged once, and even though they only got $10 and half a pack of smokes from me, I promised it would never happen again.
Fast forward a few years, a buddy and I are walking home from a party and I'm carrying some gear worth at least $1000. We pass a group of 4 folks, and two of them leave the group and start following us. Down the street are another 2 folks that suddenly start walking towards us. I tell my buddy we're crossing the street. All 6 of them also cross the street with us. Now knowing for sure what was about to happen, I hailed a cab that was passing and we jumped in. My buddy asks 'why are we cabbing it, you live a block away'. I pointed to the 6 guys that were now just staring at the cab. 'Those folks were about to mug us', I say.
This would only work if cabs are available like that where you live. They aren't where I live.
De-escalating and deflecting intense situations.
Knowing how to do that is the ultimate street smart in my book
Women are experts at this, since every encounter with a strange man is a potential hazard.
If your "gut" tells you something is off about a situation, trust it and get the f**k out of there. Also in a street fight, all bets are off and everything is fair game to attack, but never hit a man while he is down.
If you think you're being followed, casually make a left at each intersection you come across. Repeat this 4 times and if he's still following you, casually call the cops.
My policy is: Walk fast and never stop for anyone. I walk fast, so by the time some piece of s**t has finished his evaluation of my muggability, I'm already gone. I don't stop for anyone I don't already know, f**k politeness, I don't have any business with random strangers and they have no business with me. You want to know what time it is? Get a watch. You want to conduct a survey? F**k you, I don't owe you any data just because you're smiling at me.
Anyone wants to stop me *physically*, you're losing a f*****g eye.
Again, apparently I have resting b***h face to people, nobody approaches me. Lol.
This might be obvious, but I've had to use it a few times because of the areas I've lived in.
If somebody drives up to you, do NOT stand right next to the car. If the person is asking you a question or talking to you, step away and stand like you know your s**t. If they're talking too quietly for you to hear exactly what they're saying, they're probably trying to lure you closer (which I learned the hard way). Do not buy into it. If they make any sudden moves, run away in the opposite direction that they're facing and get to a major street or intersection as soon as you can. Even late at night or early in the morning, there will be people on the major roads.
The best advice, though? Trust your instincts, always. If somebody or a place gives you bad vibes, get the f**k away, and do it with confidence. It's better to come off as a b***h to a nice person than a victim to somebody who's looking for one.
If something feels wrong GET OUT OF THERE. Mist the time when some crime happens there will always be that person who's like "something didn't feel right" but I still stayed there, and got robbed
The Police don't know anything. That's why they're asking you.
My wife grew up on the wrong side of the tracks. She knows her s**t and has been in many sketchy situations. She says that what really matters is to read the room. Disengage if you can, but if you do have to engage be respectful and talk your way out. Even play the ditzy blonde if you have to and make a joke. Run when necessary.
Leaving space between you and the car in front of you for an escape
Not just space, but reverse in always, so you can drive away quickly. All police and military vehicles are meant to be parked that way.
A decoy wallet with some small bills and s**t in it is good to carry.
That's a lovely idea, but where am I going to keep the debit card to my bank account with less than $50 in it, my library card, and half-used lip balm?
If you are in a "bad neighborhood" and someone asks you for the time. Do not pull out your phone to check, and do not look away from this person. They are most likely looking to grab your phone or jump you.
Just say, "Sorry, I don't have a watch." Just make sure that they can't actually SEE your watch.
If you're driving through a sketchy neighborhood or ghetto area, just roll through the stoplights/stop signs. A friend of mine had to drive through Gary, Indiana around 3:00AM for a job, and a cop pulled him over and told him to just run though the lights. You stop, you are at a much higher risk of getting your car stolen and your a*s beat.
Apparently Gary, Indiana was the murder capital of the US for many years, just found that out recently.
Don’t stand near the tracks when your train is approaching.
Never show any money in public. Or count your money in front of everyone in the sidewalk. If you don’t want to be mugged
Too many times in a store or on a bus, I've had to tell someone in a low voice that they need to put their cash away. Flashing your cash in public or in a bar is a surefire way to become a statistic.
If someone asks to borrow your phone to call the police because they've just been mugged or something, say you will dial the police for them.
If they say no, they can do it, refuse. They were probably looking to run away with your phone.
Learnt this from brother's streetwise gf while in Paris.
I had to laugh at this one. My husband and I live a low-impact lifestyle where possible and are very, very late adopters to new technologies. Coming home from a night out in about 2010, someone asked to borrow hubby's phone to make a call. I suspected they wanted to steal it and jabbed him in the ribs with my elbow to warn him. He pulled out his *original* Nokia 3310, they looked at it askew, made a call and handed it back :D :D
Don't be oblivious to your surroundings.
Do NOT walk with headphones in your ears at night or in an unfamiliar area.
Don't slouch, keep your shoulders back and your head up so you look like you know your s**t.
Stay in well-lit areas.
Don't keep more than $40 in your wallet at any given time.
Don't give cash to homeless people. Offer to buy them food instead.
I once heard to walk as if "everyone is going to mug you."
I now know that it is best to walk as if you are going to mug everyone.
Predators recognize each other.
Apparently I have resting b***h face to people, nobody approaches me. Lol. Except kids, those little brats will chase me down, always smiling & waving at me. It scares the daylight out of me, the number of times I could walk off with kids & their parents would never know. Please, please keep your kids within 1 ft of you at all times, even if it means use a lease system.
If you take a wrong turn and find yourself lost in a bad neighborhood, don't slow down to look for street signs if there's people loitering nearby. They think you want to buy drugs.
ANY stranger talking to you is a possible threat of violence or a hustle.
Most strangers that talk to you are just being friendly or needs directions, or what ever.
If you’re not a decent fighter sober, you are not by some miracle an mma fighter because you are drunk.
The simplest advice of all: don't put yourself in bad situations.
Read your local crime blotter and a few trends will become obvious: most violent crimes occur after dark, most accidental deaths involve alcohol and cars, and too many people confess to crimes before speaking to an attorney. So get home early, don't drink and drive, and if you're ever arrested, STFU until you speak to your attorney.
Pay attention esp to someone who is paying YOU attention. Looking around and hand tapping or brushing a pocket is a bad sign. Most people are right handed, so in an altercation step to the side of that arm. They will have to reposition themselves giving you a second or two to defend. If they start repeating a phrase over and over they are going to strike for certain. The brain loses train of thought as they prepare for that. Best one tip really is to just be aware of your surroundings and know the exits. Our phones have greatly reduced this, and its bad. Your tweet, FB update can wait I promise you this. Your goal if attacked is to ESCAPE. Too many internet badasses and action movie watchers think it will end with them standing over a fallen foe doing a victory pose. Your plan will go to s**t 100% once your in a fight. Violence is chaotic and ugly in real life, and death and serious injuries happen all the time from basic assaults.
Anytime you feel like you're getting away with a steal, or some guy offers a deal that's too good to be true, it is. Don't do it. People get hustled all the time by charismatic guys who know how to play to the average person.
No self respecting business or whatever will need you to pay anything in cash with no receipt. No one is going to give you something of extreme value for super cheap unless there is something wrong with it, or you're hooked into all kinds of odd fees and s**t. Even a free car still has to have the taxes paid on it. Sorry to sound like such a downer, but 999/1000, you are not just "super lucky". That guy is trying to scam you out of something.
Don't enter those "free vacation" boxes at the mall or McDonald's where it asks you to fill out your name, address and INCOME. One time as an experiment I filled mine and my husband's name twice each and put 5-10,000 income on one and over $100,000 on the other. Sure enough we both "won". A trip to some sketchy campground that was selling timeshares. We did not go. My stupid neighbors "won" a similar contest and all they had to do is go to this meeting. We tried to warn them. They were already bragging about the free plane tickets they won and how they were going to use them and asked me to babysit. Sure enough, they got home, slammed the babysitting money on the counter, Said "we're really tired!!" And hauled a*s to their room. Turns out they were publicly shamed after not handing over a blank check and did not get the plane tickets. Those boxes are scams. Whether it's free dinner, free cruise, free car, its a big scam.
Knowing the greeting 'Hey, Big Man' is a trap
Except I know a friendly guy at work who greets me like this. He's just friendly.
Always put cash in you wallet before you exit the store especially when it's dark, and put valuables GPS/Cash/phone under the seat when you enter a store in a shady neighborhood.
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When I read this, I am just glad that I live in a small town. We sleep with doors and windows open, never lock the cars, you can sit in every car who stops to give you a ride, kids can be outside in the entire neighborhood alone... Very freeing.
This is the start of every dateline episode. It's great you live in a place like that..and a lot of places are like this..until they aren't. LOCK YOUR DOORS AT NIGHT PLEASE
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Most of these sound like middle class people that have never been to the 'bad neighbourhood'
nah, speaking from an african slums perspective, a lot of this is accurate. Some of it is not. For example we seldom have homeless who are "out of it' on drugs/whatever and/or who have a long sob story... mostly those are white beggars who feel that they have to explain why despite decades of privilege they are poor/unemployed. African/black beggars tend to be compos mentis, ask you for money, and are ok if you say no. It's quite rare to be actually mugged/pickpocketed unless you walk busy city streets, in which case you are going to find trouble. Rather drive if you can.
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I've never experienced anything like what is described here. Even in the poorer districts of our city back in the 90s, after the USSR collapse. It's good to know if I ever venture a trip abroad.
Honestly you won't need them in most US places too, unless you're in one of the really big cities. Many of these are just people trying to sound tough.
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Women-opt for a shorter false mail or natural nail. Just enough to grab items off a counter easier or to scratch someone. So many ladies can't do anything with 2-3 inch talons because they don't want to break them or mess them up. Vanity can get you killed. An a decoy wallet. Keep expired gift cards and buy some prop cash off wish or Temu to make it look "rich". Toss that one at the robbers or even a fake purse with it inside. Keep your phone in your pocket with id an one bank card for emergencies going out. Don't leave your phone on a table in a bar. It's dark. Anyone can swipe it walking by if you are turned to talk to someone. You don't need it out all the time. Leggings with side pockets are the best. Hard to snatch from and with a fake purse an wallet you are safer. Keep your keys on a lanyard on you neck inside your top. Or on a long necklace. You only need a house key an car key going out. The less you can afford to lose the better.
What pocket in women's clothes holds a modern cell phone?! (Not entirely jesting here. I miss the old tiny flip phones.)
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How green are people? Is this not all common sense or have I lived in/visited areas that are worse than I realized?
I can just answer for myself. Many of those advices are not be too new but most of them I don't have do follow. And none of them I have to follow constantly. I am very very glad for this. My whole childhood I had to be on alert because of bullies (stressed me out a lot) but as an adult I only have to if I go to sketchy places or see groups of people that seem to be aggressive or behave like a predator or are drunk and full of energy (near clubs for example). I know there probably are far worse places in my country and I rarely go out so I may not see all the dark spots but on this point I am just thankful that I don't have do be constantly on alert and remember all possible safety 'rules'. And I am glad there may be many people who are that "green" that these are new to them because they are lucky to lived safe
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I was once waylaid by what we call a "charity mugger", and his pitch was full of red flags similar to what you should look out for in a cult recruiter or scam artists in general: he was VERY charismatic and charming (in fact I still remember him in terms of what a nice, funny guy he was), but he wouldn't give me any literature to look at re. the very important vitamin his group wanted me to help provide to pregnant women in remote areas, the vitamin in question didn't have a name, the organisation didn't have a name, there was no official website or at least none he was prepared to tell me about, he brought up emotionally manipulative stuff about dead babies, but most importantly of all he kept pressuring me to make a snap decision by pretending they were just about to pack up for the day (in fact they were still there two hours later). If they're doing everything they can to stop you from taking time to think before making a decision... run very fast in the opposite direction.
Heard this many times before heading to New Orleans but I assume this happens everywhere. While walking down the street if someone (usually guy to guy but I've seen a woman try also) anyway. If someone says "Bet I can tell you where you got your shoes" Don't respond!!! Just leave. If you laugh or say okay that is you accepting the bet.... they are going to tell you. "You got em on your feet". And then expect you to pay them. Whatever they choose. Just leave....
I grew up in South Africa, left in 1998, last visit was in 2003. Even after all this time living in safer countries (UK and the Netherlands) I am still very cautious and always alert. I'm now disabled, which makes me feel more vulnerable, so I'm always wary when I go out. Some things never leave you.
Many of these are good ideas. Some only work in certain parts of the world.
I don't know, I've been to many different places around the world and have been in what are classified as sketchy areas and I've never had any trouble. I think it's because I'm incredibly boring and I just blend into the background. I'm like Ted from Scrubs; you don't even realise I'm right beside you, although I've been standing there for fifteen minutes. Of course, I'm not going to go out in other more sketchy areas just to prove a point. I have some sense
When I was homeless I would wear mens clothing if I needed to walk somewhere at night, put my hood up and wear my natural b***h face lol, even walked differently. The ONE time I wore womens clothing and walked like I normally do, I was harassed and damn near kidnapped. I taught all the gals in my homeless 'group' this trick and the harassment they endured was significantly decreased. We even borrowed our boyfriends clothing if needed, and walked in groups if we could.
In foreign nations, many of the people there know English, particularly those that plan to hustle, pickpocket, etc. you. Luckily I know a bit of Russian, so when they asked me something, I just started speaking in Russian and they left me alone. But it won't work everywhere, I'm going to Egypt in a few months, a friend informed me that tactic won't work there. Apparently, a lot of Russians visit the country so a lot of people know both English and Russian.
Hey @Donkeywheel let me explain why your advice is actually horrible. The countries where these rules won't apply - say, Sweden, maybe -maybe- or Netherlands- maybe... are safe because most citizens are reasonably well off. In many cases (particulalry NL, who colonised my country), their wealth is a side-effect of the riches they garnered over the centuries by leeching us in Africa. So those of us "left behind" in the low income countries CAN'T move to these alleged utopias for the simple reasons that (a) they do not want us, we are considered unwelcome illegal immigrants, (b) they are still racist, (c) it's too expensive and we're too poor to move there, (d) the immigration policy is so onerous it's not worth the effort (they make the rules too difficult to get in, even if you have some ancestry). SO... actually no. Your elite paradise countries are merely rich colonists who took our wealth in africa and now won't have anything to do with us if they can avoid it. So. we have no choice
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When I read this, I am just glad that I live in a small town. We sleep with doors and windows open, never lock the cars, you can sit in every car who stops to give you a ride, kids can be outside in the entire neighborhood alone... Very freeing.
This is the start of every dateline episode. It's great you live in a place like that..and a lot of places are like this..until they aren't. LOCK YOUR DOORS AT NIGHT PLEASE
Load More Replies... Most of these sound like middle class people that have never been to the 'bad neighbourhood'
nah, speaking from an african slums perspective, a lot of this is accurate. Some of it is not. For example we seldom have homeless who are "out of it' on drugs/whatever and/or who have a long sob story... mostly those are white beggars who feel that they have to explain why despite decades of privilege they are poor/unemployed. African/black beggars tend to be compos mentis, ask you for money, and are ok if you say no. It's quite rare to be actually mugged/pickpocketed unless you walk busy city streets, in which case you are going to find trouble. Rather drive if you can.
Load More Replies... I've never experienced anything like what is described here. Even in the poorer districts of our city back in the 90s, after the USSR collapse. It's good to know if I ever venture a trip abroad.
Honestly you won't need them in most US places too, unless you're in one of the really big cities. Many of these are just people trying to sound tough.
Load More Replies... Women-opt for a shorter false mail or natural nail. Just enough to grab items off a counter easier or to scratch someone. So many ladies can't do anything with 2-3 inch talons because they don't want to break them or mess them up. Vanity can get you killed. An a decoy wallet. Keep expired gift cards and buy some prop cash off wish or Temu to make it look "rich". Toss that one at the robbers or even a fake purse with it inside. Keep your phone in your pocket with id an one bank card for emergencies going out. Don't leave your phone on a table in a bar. It's dark. Anyone can swipe it walking by if you are turned to talk to someone. You don't need it out all the time. Leggings with side pockets are the best. Hard to snatch from and with a fake purse an wallet you are safer. Keep your keys on a lanyard on you neck inside your top. Or on a long necklace. You only need a house key an car key going out. The less you can afford to lose the better.
What pocket in women's clothes holds a modern cell phone?! (Not entirely jesting here. I miss the old tiny flip phones.)
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I can just answer for myself. Many of those advices are not be too new but most of them I don't have do follow. And none of them I have to follow constantly. I am very very glad for this. My whole childhood I had to be on alert because of bullies (stressed me out a lot) but as an adult I only have to if I go to sketchy places or see groups of people that seem to be aggressive or behave like a predator or are drunk and full of energy (near clubs for example). I know there probably are far worse places in my country and I rarely go out so I may not see all the dark spots but on this point I am just thankful that I don't have do be constantly on alert and remember all possible safety 'rules'. And I am glad there may be many people who are that "green" that these are new to them because they are lucky to lived safe
Load More Replies... I was once waylaid by what we call a "charity mugger", and his pitch was full of red flags similar to what you should look out for in a cult recruiter or scam artists in general: he was VERY charismatic and charming (in fact I still remember him in terms of what a nice, funny guy he was), but he wouldn't give me any literature to look at re. the very important vitamin his group wanted me to help provide to pregnant women in remote areas, the vitamin in question didn't have a name, the organisation didn't have a name, there was no official website or at least none he was prepared to tell me about, he brought up emotionally manipulative stuff about dead babies, but most importantly of all he kept pressuring me to make a snap decision by pretending they were just about to pack up for the day (in fact they were still there two hours later). If they're doing everything they can to stop you from taking time to think before making a decision... run very fast in the opposite direction.
Heard this many times before heading to New Orleans but I assume this happens everywhere. While walking down the street if someone (usually guy to guy but I've seen a woman try also) anyway. If someone says "Bet I can tell you where you got your shoes" Don't respond!!! Just leave. If you laugh or say okay that is you accepting the bet.... they are going to tell you. "You got em on your feet". And then expect you to pay them. Whatever they choose. Just leave....
I grew up in South Africa, left in 1998, last visit was in 2003. Even after all this time living in safer countries (UK and the Netherlands) I am still very cautious and always alert. I'm now disabled, which makes me feel more vulnerable, so I'm always wary when I go out. Some things never leave you.
Many of these are good ideas. Some only work in certain parts of the world.
I don't know, I've been to many different places around the world and have been in what are classified as sketchy areas and I've never had any trouble. I think it's because I'm incredibly boring and I just blend into the background. I'm like Ted from Scrubs; you don't even realise I'm right beside you, although I've been standing there for fifteen minutes. Of course, I'm not going to go out in other more sketchy areas just to prove a point. I have some sense
When I was homeless I would wear mens clothing if I needed to walk somewhere at night, put my hood up and wear my natural b***h face lol, even walked differently. The ONE time I wore womens clothing and walked like I normally do, I was harassed and damn near kidnapped. I taught all the gals in my homeless 'group' this trick and the harassment they endured was significantly decreased. We even borrowed our boyfriends clothing if needed, and walked in groups if we could.
In foreign nations, many of the people there know English, particularly those that plan to hustle, pickpocket, etc. you. Luckily I know a bit of Russian, so when they asked me something, I just started speaking in Russian and they left me alone. But it won't work everywhere, I'm going to Egypt in a few months, a friend informed me that tactic won't work there. Apparently, a lot of Russians visit the country so a lot of people know both English and Russian.
Hey @Donkeywheel let me explain why your advice is actually horrible. The countries where these rules won't apply - say, Sweden, maybe -maybe- or Netherlands- maybe... are safe because most citizens are reasonably well off. In many cases (particulalry NL, who colonised my country), their wealth is a side-effect of the riches they garnered over the centuries by leeching us in Africa. So those of us "left behind" in the low income countries CAN'T move to these alleged utopias for the simple reasons that (a) they do not want us, we are considered unwelcome illegal immigrants, (b) they are still racist, (c) it's too expensive and we're too poor to move there, (d) the immigration policy is so onerous it's not worth the effort (they make the rules too difficult to get in, even if you have some ancestry). SO... actually no. Your elite paradise countries are merely rich colonists who took our wealth in africa and now won't have anything to do with us if they can avoid it. So. we have no choice
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