You can't please everyone. Especially the Internet.
There's a subreddit called r/WeddingShaming and as the name suggests, it's a place where people trash everything from brides and grooms, in-laws and outlaws to venues and menus as well as decor and Uncle Bob's armpit odor.
Of course, it's not all out of spite. Some posts that get a ton of attention are funny and lighthearted. Like the one where a bride shows off her mom's dress, a white gown, way fancier than her own (12,000 upvotes).
But as you might've already noticed in Bored Panda's earlier piece on the subreddit, it's the juicy stuff that gets its 189,000 members riled up. So continue scrolling and join the judging team: upvote the pics that deserve criticism or tell us in the comments if they should be rehabilitated.
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Shaming These Awful Parents, While The Siblings Rock
An engaged couple makes a lot of big decisions about their special day that not only impact them but also their guests; while they want to stay true to their own desires, they also have to consider what their guests might enjoy. After all, everyone's a part of the ride. "Financial worries are usually forefront for most couples," wedding planner Lisa Burton told Bored Panda.
"The worry is they can't afford the wedding day they want and might have to compromise too much. With the couple's expectations being so high, they worry the reality won't live up to the dream."
This Is A Whole New Level Of Bridezilla
Bride Claims “No Masks Allowed” At Her Wedding
Burton, who has over 14 years of experience throwing weddings abroad, said another worry for her destination wedding couples is that the expectations of the guests — who have spent money flying across the world to attend their wedding — will not be met. "There's a lot of pressure to provide the 'perfect' wedding experience. I try to reassure them that guests are on holiday first and foremost so they are in a more carefree state of mind. Most, if not all guests will not have attended a wedding abroad before, and certainly not at the same venue so they have nothing to compare it to. Even if your day is perfectly simple and intimate they’ll still be experiencing something they’ve never experienced before. This usually helps to calm the bride and groom."
The Audacity Of This Wedding Guest And Their Mum! Plan Your Own Special Moment, Cheapskates!
I can't imagine wanting to propose at a wedding, or indeed any public venue. It doesn't seem romantic to me at all, it's got a coercive element - if you turn me down, it's in front of everyone whose day you'll ruin. Good grief. Or if they already know it'll be a yes, then essentially they've already proposed, and there's no need to grandstand.
I'm actually surprised the woman called and asked beforehand instead of putting the bride on the spot at the wedding right before the bouquet toss.
I'm shocked to say that I'm siding with the bride on this one. Proposing at someone else's wedding is a BIG Taboo.
My sister's ex-husband proposed to her the night before my wedding....I never let her know that it made me mad....
The last thing you do at someone else's wedding is steal the bride's thunder. By doing a proposal at a wedding, you are doing just that. It's her day, not yours. Propose on your own time and own dime.
You don’t propose at someone else’s wedding, that’s just mean
Throw it. Proposing at someone else's wedding is more than super freakin rude
Asking for a favor of the bride is fine. Bride saying no is fine. Freaking out like it was the worst thing in the world is not fine. Maybe I'm just super laid back, but at least they asked and didn't just propose in the middle of your wedding.
You👏🏻dont 👏🏻propose👏🏻at 👏🏻somebody👏🏻elses👏🏻f*****g wedding👏🏻
Tell the attention hog: "I didn't want to draw attention away from you by holding a wedding at your proposal."
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Actually, (controversial I know) - If this was me, and if the person who asked this was someone I was really close to, I might consider doing it in a different way.... Honestly these days most brides don't throw the bouquets because they're bloody expensive and beautiful and lovely to keep. BUT. If the guy was willing to pay for a copy (like maybe an extra of what the bridesmaids had), if at the end of the night when everyone has gone home, he takes her outside to a quiet place and then gives the (extra) bouquet to her... he can then do a spiel about, "bride didn't throw her bouquet, because we needed to make sure it definitely went to the next person to get engaged (/married). And that person is you... (give her the bouquet, get down on one knee, bobs your uncle
Ok in hindsight having typed this all out that's an awful lot of faff! I just wanted to try and find a positive! But yeah, nah. Keep your flowers. Let him take some from the table decorations at the end or something and do it privately when they get home. NOT AT SOMEONE ELSES WEDDING. Although... to be fair.. at least they asked. I mean flowers or no flowers, if he'd just proposed anyway without asking; like in front of everyone...... so so selfish and awful and anyone who does that needs to pay for a chunk of this wedding as they just made it about themselves!!! So, yeah, at least they asked. I hope they respected the no!
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I don't get this. I'd be overjoyed if someone else got engaged at my wedding. More love, more joy, more to celebrate! It would be the best wedding gift ever!
This is not a Bridezilla rant. I think her outrage is justified. Proposals at weddings are tacky and as she said, they didn't spend a dime at the event. There are better days and ways to propose.
Proposing at someone else's wedding is one of the rudest things that you can do.
I just saw an Afrikan wedding video where they did exactly this scenario...the bridesmaid was so puzzled when the bride shook her head turned around and just handed her the bouquet..then she noticed her guy behind her on one knee..it was beautiful..I dont understand why people get so upset by someone proposing at their wedding...u cannot be that shallow and insecure to think the beauty of ur entire day is going to be overshadowed by their 5 minutes of spotlight...
I like the scene you've described here and perhaps it demonstrates some cultural differences. Ultimately, each situation ought to be assessed on its on specific details. We are simply the internet getting a snapshot of a situation.
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Do immediately un-invite all these people and NEVER speak to them again! What the heck is going on here?! This behaviour is below white trash, gosh.
It's not rude to ask. Some people might be ok with it. It would be rude to do it without asking or after the couple says no.
It's tricky though. Some questions really shouldn't be asked because it puts the person in a difficult situation. They may feel bad to say no, may not even feel they CAN say no, even if they want to. It depends on whether they're "ask" or "guess" and whether everyone understands how the two approaches work. https://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2010/05/askers-vs-guessers/340891/
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Newly Engaged Dependa (Not My Story)
But some things can make the guests leave with bitter memories. "Family dynamics can be hard to balance at a wedding," Lisa Burton said. "It's one of the main things a couple can struggle with, especially if the family doesn't get on."
The seating arrangement, for example, can be enough to set off a conflict. "If a family member ends up being seated next to someone they don't like, it can affect the atmosphere at the reception. We once planned an intimate wedding of 16 people and they had 6 tables at the reception (instead of the usual one or two). This was because family members did not speak and refused to sit next to each other at dinner," Burton recalled.
Bruno Mars Disapproves. Probably
Double-Shame? Moh Knew She Had Been Exposed Before The Pandemic Wedding
According to her, expense is another possible issue. "If a couple is marrying at a luxury venue, this typically means the costs of drinks will be high. If the bride and groom don't offer an open bar then guests may have to 'dig deep' if they want a few rounds of drinks. This can often lead to disgruntled 'sober' guests."
Venue accessibility can also cause a few headaches. "If you know your venues has difficult access or steep entryways then make sure your guests are prepared. Less able guests may need help and negotiating steep cobbled pathways is no fun in stiletto heels!" Burton said.
Just Saw This On Facebook... Eek
Went To A Wedding And The Mil Wore This... Would You Be Okay With It?
I saw a photo similar to this one (with a similar story, no doubt), and the bride actually got sneaky and paid a server to "accidentally" spill wine on the MIL's "not a wedding dress" dress. I gotta say, I'd be tempted to do something like that if someone was that disrespectful at my wedding.
Event planner, life coach, and author Amanda Hudes thinks that this type of wedding shaming is childish. In her opinion, complete strangers stalking a ceremony via the Internet just to criticize it is akin to talking behind someone's back in high school.
"Shaming comes from a place of insecurity and almost never about the person who is being shamed, but rather the person shaming," Hudes told BRIDES.
Ooooo Yikes
Spotted On Facebook
The bride needs to conspire with her bridesmaids to stick a "I'm not the bride" sign on the MIL's back.
I Feel So Bad For This Bride (Groom's Family Poses For Photos Without The Bride)
Has Any Other Country Had People Wear Their Flag As A Wedding Dress? No? Just... Ew
How Dare People Be Offended When I Want A Giant Wedding In So. California Where Someone Dies From Covid Every 6 Minutes! Muh Freedumb Of Speech!
Man Proposes To Woman After Which She Grabs Her Phone To Upload A Picture On Instagram
Sounds Like It’ll Be A Healthy Marriage!
Sounds Like A Great Idea To Save A Few Cents! May Save Even More When The Twin And His New Bride Don’t Come To Your Wedding!
Look, if you write in your post "I don't want to seem rude" you have already given yourself the answer. Deep inside you know this is not the right thing to do, so don't be an a**.
There’s Still Time To Change Your Decor
i don't get themes like this. i know if i married the love of my life i would do it because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with someone. but these kinds of jokes imply it's more of an obligation by society. you don't even have to marry anyone!
Starting Off Marriage By Secretly Going Against Your Fiancé’s Wishes... Yikes
Is It Possible To Get Married To A Cop Without Theming Your Entire Wedding Around His Job? Extra Sensitivity Points For “Stop Resisting” Being Used In Reference To Donuts, Instead As The Usual Excuse To Kill Black People
I don't agree with the Stop Resisting wall of Donuts. You could have put a sign up that said "Police tactical supplies, require equipment!"
Engagement Photo Shaming
Wedding Shaming Myself A Bit... I Would Personally Recommend To Ask Your Pastor/Celebrant To Step To The Side When The Kiss Takes Place. All Personal Preference Ofcourse. Although Hubby’s Hair Does Smell Good
Even Outdoors, A 500-Person Wedding Feels A Bit Out Of Touch Right Now, Doesn’t It?
Groom’s Mother Hospitalized With Covid And Pneumonia 2 Weeks After Mask-Less Wedding In Florida
The photographer and I were the only two people of 60 that wore a mask at my sister’s wedding. None of events staff wore one. We were in the middle of Arizona’s 3rd wave. My BIL’s family took COVID back to their hometown which had been completely untouched by the virus up to that point. Two people died within the first 10 days the ILs return home. Oh, and BIL’s brother made national news because he was dragged off the plane after refusing to wear his mask on the return flight. Not to mention, my long-COVID (I was not contagious the day of the wedding) became active and I developed pneumonia, again.
My Free Photographer Is So Much More Important Than My Sister’s Well-Being And Happiness!
My First In The Wild Spotting! Same Person. I’ll Just Pay Everyone In Experience!
Don’t All Good Wedding Proposals Start With Being Pressured To Continue An Unwanted Pregnancy? But Seriously, This Is A Terrible Thing To Do
Another Bride Comparing Her Wedding To Protests
What people must understand, is that arguing with idiots is just pointless...
Wedding In Madrid (Spain) Last Week, A City That Most Definitely Do Not Have The Virus Under Control
Damn... That Was Pretty Sudden
Meh...It can happen. On our first date,I told my (future) wife I was going to marry her, and told her so...Looking back,that's really weird, I know. But here we are 20+ years together closer than ever.
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During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
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My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
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If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
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One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
During our wedding reception, my MIL screeched from the venue lobby in what I can only describe as a drunken banshee trapped inside a Speak and Spell, “You guy’s let faggots marry here. You ruined it. You tainted my baby’s wedding day with your abomination. How could you let them celebrate next to good Christian folks?” She said this as the other couple walking into their reception and being introduced as Husband and Husband. We could hear her crystal clear over our loud music. My husband and I felt humiliated and heartbroken that MIL stole that beautiful moment from the other couple. We ended up sharing our open bar with the other party because they definitely needed a drink.
Oh no, those poor men! It must have been so heartwrenching to have that beautiful moment ruined by such a mean person.
Load More Replies... My father told me of a wedding he went to early 1950s . he was at the fancy reception when the groom's father accused another man of getting freshwith his wife. A fight ensued and soon every one was fighting . my father who was a peaceful man decided there was only one thing he should do.: save the cake. Carefully trying avoid the ruckus s He moved the cake to the floor and shoved it under a table.in corner of room. There. He waited taking small tastes till police came and stopped the fight. The couple were very grateful .
That should be a slapstick scene haha. Kudos to your father!
Load More Replies... If they "don't live in fear", why can't vaccinated people come to their wedding?
civil ceremony. a couple friends as witnesses. fifteen, twenty bucks to the county. a lot easier on the wallet and the stress level.
Totally agree. That's how i was married. Just a few hundred bucks, some family and less than $1000 on reception, few hundy on photos, no honeymoon. Still together after 14 years.
Load More Replies... One of my older relatives told me a bride-zilla story that happened when I was a kid. I don't remember this even though I was a ring bearer. Bride had a effing melt down because one of the guests was wearing white. Yes, a woman other than the bride wore a white gown - she was a Catholic Nun, and this is in the days when they still were wearing bizarre habits, hers was white with a red cross down the front. My cousin got rid of her really quickly.
I don’t like that y’all was shaming the woman who didn’t want a proposal at her wedding. Like duh, don’t do it at mine either
Stuff like this makes me happy my husband and I got married at a courthouse. We had 8 people there, aside from us. We’ve been together eleven years and have a beautiful 8 year old son.
