Somebody Asked People To Share Double Standards They Hate, And 50 Responses Were Spot-On
“Lower your standards and expectations and you will never be disappointed!” – Hannah Hart, My Drunk Kitchen.
While this does effectively resolve the problem of double standards (any standards, actually), in the real world, alas, we can’t help but laugh at it and then, with that little bit of comedic positivity, move on to tackling the issue at hand by bringing it to light in a Reddit thread.
Incidentally, that happened with folks listing all the double standards that they just can’t stomach. Whether on a personal level or on a structural, cultural, societal or economic one.
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I said it last time I saw this and I’ll say it until the point gets across to whoever needs it:
If you don’t like abortion, ignore it like you do the kids in the foster system.
Exactly. Might I also add that while many anti abortion people say it's acceptable if the mother's life is in danger...why is it now so many doctors (especially OB and ER doctors) have to be so fearful of prison or loss of licence even with proof of the mother's danger? Or when there is proof of miscarriage with no chance of it reversing, and the mother is left to bleed out until the "heartbeat" is gone. Laws have become too restricted vague for the exceptions. You can't allow exceptions then turn around and make those exceptions impossible to happen. Edited to fix my restrictions and exceptions mix-ups
How a man can get a vasectomy without any questions asked, but if a woman wants to get her tubes tied, then it's all hands on deck to gaslight her into changing her mind.
In some states they even require the husband's permission! I'm in Louisiana and technically still married to my ex. I had uterine cancer and needed a hysterectomy they wanted me to break a restraining order to have him come in with me to agree to sign off on a hysterectomy. I said f@ck that and went to another state which is sad that I had to do that but yeah women have no say over their bodies at all.
Religious institutions taking in enormous amounts of money but don’t have to pay taxes on it.
Double standards are commonly viewed as a bad thing. No surprise there—nobody likes to be treated differently than anyone else unless it has a positive effect on them. But even then someone other than the beneficiary is put at a disadvantage and that is also not good. So, the idea would be to be treated equally regardless of circumstance.
Wealthy get away with crimes that would put a poor person in prison. The world is only fair to those who have the most.
People call their dogs their fur children but when I call my children my skin dogs people think it's weird.
On multiple occasions have seen a woman beat up on a man and nobody intervenes. The moment he pushes back to defend himself then you get all these white knights intervening. Disgusting double standard- nobody should hit anyone and if you hit someone you shouldnt expect to be immune from retaliation because of the genitals you have.
A few years ago on a chat show here in the uk, a young man was on telling his story about how his girlfriend was physically and emotionally abusing him and how it drove him to consider jumping off his balcony. People in the audience were giggling at him until the presenter snapped at them.
Now, the pursuit of equality is a very commendable thing. However, soon you are faced with another problem, and that is how far will you take it? Pushing it to an extreme is not an option, so where do you draw the line?
This is where you might start to realize that there isn’t really any ideal place to be in terms of being treated equally as there are too many variables to consider without going overboard. It has to be realistically reasonable, right?
People like my step-father-in-law who have been on Medicare disability for the majority of their lives who rage about socialism and people wanting handouts.
I had a 21 year old mentally disabled kid on disability who complained about people living off the government. Kept telling him that he was the one. Of course if he understood that he would not have been on disability.
Nobody asks my husband how he juggles a career and children.
My dog stares at me like I owe him a portion of all my meals, and yet not once has he offered me any of his food.
And so once that black and white type of thinking subsides, folks might humor the idea that maybe double standards aren’t some evil social construct that benefits those better off. Because that’s the core problem of double standards—that they put someone at a disadvantage or someone else has the potential to benefit from it.
Racial prejudice is never ok, no matter what your skin color is.
Bunch of people dress in their fav football teams colours and watch a match.... acceptable. Bunch of people dress up as their fav characters and attend a comic con... bunch of wierdos.
The mentality towards victims of SA depending on their gender. You see a news story about a 15 year old male student and their female teacher, and half the comments are things like "lucky kid," "wish that were me," "why would he tell??" about a CHILD being abused by a person in power that they're supposed to be able to trust. It's disgusting and when the genders are reversed the mentality is completely different.
Agreed, it happens and it's unacceptable but also when reversed it's often - she's 16, she knew what she was doing.
If benefit is at the heart of it, consider utilitarianism. Utilitarianism is an ethical theory that focuses on the outcomes to determine if something is right or wrong. By proxy, that which brings the most benefit to the most people is the best thing to do. This is in part the reason why the lesser of two evils idea is sometimes the go-to tactic for some people.
“Be the bigger person”
Always and without fail only **ever** applies to the person being wronged beyond all belief.
When a man is assertive at work he is a boss, when a woman is assertive she is a b***h.
It’s OK for employers to see employees as replaceable but it’s not OK for employees to be constantly passively job hunting cause that means they have one foot out the door.
So, with that in mind, would a double standard be a bad thing if it brings more good than the next best option, which would be to have a single standard?
An example of this can be seen in college admissions practices. Educational institutions might give preference to people from underrepresented backgrounds to promote diversity.
Miley Cyrus licks a hammer nude: art, powerful, brave.
I lick a hammer naked: drunk, scarring, banned from the local Ace hardware.
‘Human rights violations committed by my civilization were due to the circumstances and norms of the time, whereas those committed by the rival civilization were due to its inherent evilness and inferiority.’
Parents can send the most vitriolic, acidic emails to me and my fellow teachers but we are expected to respond both realistically *and* respectfully.
Yes, there is definitely a double standard there that puts one student at an advantage over another all because of who they are. However, from the utilitarian standpoint, ultimately, it aims to achieve a more equitable outcome through example, increasing overall societal and cultural health by providing opportunities to those who might have been historically marginalized.
Many members of the LGBTQ community preaching openness and acceptance yet are incredibly biased towards one another within their own community.
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I've experienced so much of this. It's sickening. That's why I try to avoid LGBTQ+ spaces now, even though I'm bisexual. I just don't feel safe there.
Sexual harassment.
I've been the victim of it, but I'm male. The reaction of "Eh, so what? get back to work." really pissed me off. If I'd grabbed some woman's butt, or made comments about how "good her a*s looked in those pants" in the workplace, I'd be bounced in a heartbeat.
Another double standard that you might consider not a bad idea is the idea of the different standards applicable to adults and children in terms of responsibility.
After all, the maturity and understanding of the world that adults possess mean that they are expected to take on more responsibility and face full consequences for their actions. Children, on the other hand, get more lenient treatment and are provided guidance in the same situations.
When people have an extensive list of things a potential partner must be and must provide, but they give nothing.
Your ideal partner won't be picking you if you have nothing to give.
I don't quite know how to word this type of double standard, but I can give an example. We all know how Janet Jackson had a "costume malfunction". A very polite way of saying Justin Timberlake accidentally ripped her top off exposing her breast. Her career took a nose dive, even though at worst many MANY were at fault. She was mocked and berated, and her career took a nose dive. Justin Timberlake suffered very little repercussions from this. To be clear, I don't think anyone should have been ostracized. But definitely not just Janet.
Translation: women are shamed and punished for not being the keepers of sex/uality whereas men are rewarded for it.
People who only like facts and statistics when it reinforces what they want to hear.
In turn, such a double standard allows for appropriate support and paces expectations based on children’s aptitude and understanding. It’s what essentially allows us to foster the right kind of environment for kids to effectively learn the ropes of life, building character, and teaching them things like accountability.
I'm in the US and I'm a white guy. I have a friend who immigrated here from China. She is rich and lives on a beachfront property in California. She claims to be extremely oppressed over her race while living a better life than anyone I've ever met.
She calls everyone racist while also making the most racist statements I've ever heard about other minority groups. She recently stopped talking to me because I'm half Jewish and she's decided that Jews are Nazis because of the conflict in the middle east.
I'm a progressive and she always called me racist and conservative. When I met her boyfriend, he said "I heard about you, you're the MAGA guy, right?".
Where did she get this impression from? Because I said I wouldn't want to date an activist. She said she hopes my house gets burned down by BLM rioters so I know what it feels like to be oppressed.
Meanwhile, when Covid hit and there were racial tensions between Black and Asian people in San Francisco, she said some of the most racist things I've ever heard anyone say.
She represents a certain subgroup of this leftist movement who will consider you their enemy if you don't agree with 100% of their beliefs 100% of the time.
That's the biggest double standard I've seen. And they're not too hard to find in big progressive cities.
Jews are NAZIS????? Not only is she racist, she's an idiot!
When people were wild and then turn religious and hate on people that they were just like before religion.
How if someone starts s**t with you, you’re going to be to one yapped at for standing up for yourself, not the person who started things.
School, work, elsewhere. This always happens.
Unless you are willing to be the biggest scene throwing over dramatic toddler you can’t win, if you have any maturity, dignity, self control, you will be the one vilified because look at how upset you made them.
Heck, even the idea of hypocrisy could be justified in pretty much the same utilitarian way. For example, a doctor might consider telling a patient that they ought to lose some weight for their health, while being overweight themselves. The patient might not take the doc’s words seriously, but the doc’s ultimate goal is for the patient to be healthy, and their own bodily state has nothing to do with it.
Men can sleep around, and they are praised. Women do it. They are called 304s and shamed. When women cry and express their feelings, it's wonderful and healthy. When men do it, they need to "quit being so sensitive and be a man." Like men have feelings/emotions. Let them express those feelings before it comes out as anger or they k¡ll themselves. When a woman gets angry, it is because she is emotional or irrational. If a man gets angry, it is because he knows what he wants and gets it. Women who want to snuggle are affectionate. Men who want to snuggle are needy. Men can easily get a vasectomy but if a woman wants to get her tubes tied she has to jump through hoops. The pink tax. Men who are victims of rape, sexual harassment, and/or assault are less likely to be taken seriously. The legal system, in general, gives women fewer harsh sentences than men who committed the same crime.
How it's okay for parents to take time off when their kids are sick but frowned upon for anyone else to take time off when they themselves are sick. Especially if it's their mental health that's the problem.
I hate how a specific body type becomes trendy every few years.
So, what are your thoughts on double standards? Got some notable examples that need to not be a thing? Share your thoughts in the comment section below!
Afterwards, you can go check out another one of our articles on double standards people are tired of.
The whole men can have "a fear of commitment" but if a woman behaves the exact same way she's either a "s**t" or a "tease." Women can have a fear of intimacy and commitment too!
This implies that it's fine for men to have a fear of commitment. As a guy I find a man who's unable to commit himself weak and spineless.
The way people treat sons vs. how they treat daughters.
At least in my experience.
It doesn't have to be that way though. Before our kids were born, my wife and I decided to ignore stereotypes. My parents did! If our son wanted to play with Barbie dolls or wear pink, we were totally okay. Had two of the most boyish boys who ever boyed. Don't know where they go it from.
My ex would blow through my money, but when his mom would send him b-day or Christmas money, that was "his" money.
He was unemployed for years. The second he got a job, that was his money.
My biggest pet peeve with people is when they try to bully you/be disrespectful and when you match the energy you get called an a*****e.
But of course. And then I say a little prayer for Karma to 💩 on them.
Several of my gfs over the years have exhibited this trait and it drives me bonkers. They preach that relationships are all about "communication" ... but when they're mad they refuse to say what they're mad about!! WTF?!?!?!?!
If you're looking for logic in emotional relationships, you're looking in the wrong place. When feelings are involved, logic tends to go out the window. In truth, a good relationship IS built on clear communication (among other things), but sometimes when people are upset, they no talk so good. As well, when people are angry or emotional, we may realize that what we WANT to say may be something we'll regret later.
Men can't be victims of domestic violence and only women can be victimized.
My wife was arrested twice for domestic battery against me, but was never charged.
As a woman, you are expected to look youthful in regular life. But at work, if you are youthful looking, you are taken less seriously.
Yes, this happened to me in nursing. Had to be over 40 to be taken seriously.
It’s weird for me, a male to like kids.
When I was a kid, we kids were told not to talk to strangers (we did anyway, but we were TOLD not to). So in public, with kids I don't know, I don't look at them, don't try to talk with them. I ignore them. People don't know me, don't know if I'm a danger or not. I can easily ignore children and still like them. BUT ... whenever I see a child who needs help, I'm there.
I hate double standards when it comes to gender roles and expectations.
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I live in a predominantly Mormon community and I’m male and my dad is building the house and people always ask me if I’ve been helping my dad, but never to my sister and she helps out more and when she says that, they’re like “oh ok”. I always feel intimidated because they probably think it’s a man’s job to do that so they wanna make sure I’m doing manly duties
Men expected to always pay on dates and outings with a potential mate. Huge double standard. I like to “take turns” and keep it 50/50.
I can't stand it when people judge others for actions that they themselves commit, without criticism.
Women expecting to be showered in compliments constantly while they never give any to the men they are with. It is a really s***ty double standard, especially when most men really appreciate compliments just as much as women do.
I compliment and uphold my husband all the time. He has low self-esteem. He's a good man and I pray one day he truly understands that I mean every word. No, he doesn't compliment me, but he is loyal, caring, generous and kind. I learned to change my love language to fit the dynamic. I don't think his family put value on compliments. Knowing this, I understand that he just doesn't have confidence in himself to verbally encourage others. He's found ways to compensate. A very good man.
The eldest child can't get away with anything, but the younger brothers and sisters can come and go as they please.
Women who vigorously enforce traditional gender roles for men while bucking traditional gender roles for women.
Or men denouncing 'feminism as a modern evil' and vigorously enforcing traditional gender roles at home but the wife has to work full-time as well.
Older female hitting on younger male is acceptable. Older male hitting on younger female is creepy.
It's legal for Christians to discriminate against queer people but illegal for queer people to discriminate against Christians.
Fighting cancel culture by cancelling.
Cancel culture is a massive double standard all on its own. You don't fight bigotry by being bigotted.
It’s rude when a man ask a woman what she brings to the table but it’s not rude if she does it.
Female rappers only become especially celebrated if they really stand out. They have to a *niche*. They have to be cute. Male rappers, it's about their rapping and nothing else. Their niche is considered a bonus.
Yep. Some showed differential treatment by pointing out that both treatments are equally problematic or equally okay, and some tried to argue that they should be allowed to mistreat others because those are trying to fight against mistreatment. And some were plainly claims that because the other group did something wrong they should be allowed to keep doing wrong.
Load More Replies... The lack of changing tables in men’s bathrooms. I try to help my wife anytime we’re out and I’m with her, but the amount of times that the men’s room doesn’t have a changing table is ridiculous. Also, if it does have one it is in the middle of the entire bathroom. No way am I going to change my two year old daughter’s diaper in the middle of a Walmart bathroom. Put it in the stall please.
When dads are looking after the children they are just 'baby sitting' them...argh
Yep. Some showed differential treatment by pointing out that both treatments are equally problematic or equally okay, and some tried to argue that they should be allowed to mistreat others because those are trying to fight against mistreatment. And some were plainly claims that because the other group did something wrong they should be allowed to keep doing wrong.
Load More Replies... The lack of changing tables in men’s bathrooms. I try to help my wife anytime we’re out and I’m with her, but the amount of times that the men’s room doesn’t have a changing table is ridiculous. Also, if it does have one it is in the middle of the entire bathroom. No way am I going to change my two year old daughter’s diaper in the middle of a Walmart bathroom. Put it in the stall please.
When dads are looking after the children they are just 'baby sitting' them...argh
