This Twitter Thread Has 35 Women Sharing The Moments A Doctor Completely Ignored Their Concerns, And Now They Have To Face The Consequences

As someone recovering from a car accident, WTF? I didn't have anything near this level and was still treated well, especially after an anxiety attack. Now i don't look feminine, maybe that's it? It breaks my heart the lives that could have been better/saved if doctors would shut up and listen

I went for a series of tests to a cardiologist as part of the process of diagnosing CFS (which is discarding other illneses). He forgot to write in the report that both of my grandpa and grandma had heart issues but wrote three times that he considers that i need to lose weight. Priorities

There's a time and place to bring up someone's weight in a medical setting. The E.R. is neither of those. In that setting, there's something going on that needs attention and needs it now. While weight could be a factor in why they are there, they aren't going to lose the weight magically right there in the ER (unless, I guess, they lose a leg or something......). I have never heard of anyone going to the Emergency Room with their chief complaint being "I'm overweight/obese". A regular, non-emergency, non-urgent appointment would be a time and place for them to do so. Or even during a followup from the ER, or possibly maybe sometimes it may be OK during ER discharge.

There are a scary amount of bad doctors out there who should not be treating patients.

Believe me this is happening in England too, I'm fed up with feeling run down and exhausted all the time and the constant pain has become unbearable. I have been passed around so many doctors over the years and not one of them has investigated me thoroughly enough to find out what's going on with me. Is it because I'm a 61yr old female who's now passed her sell by date? Or could it be that I cannot do the exercises recommend because I'm in too much pain and fatigued? I'm at a loss.

This is actually really smart.

Definately makes suing them easier. Sometimes it is a zebra, not a horse! That being said, how the effing hell does someone whom graduated Med School eff-up diagnosing an appendix, since contact with the area is excrutiating!

Bad is if it won't have any consequences even if they prove it was doctor's fault. In my country it always end like that. 😡

Well patients have to sign a refusal of treatment, seems fair doctors do the same.

Bs, you don't survive a burst appendix.

I've had acid reflux since I was 6 or 7. I once told a doctor about it, wanting to look for solutions. He told me I was too young to have it and my weight was the problem. Same doctor also said my flu-like pms was "normal."

I spent all of 2020 + 2021 being completely immobilised due to pain, I would literally scream if someone lightly touched my arm or leg, I had about 20% lung capacity, had no feeling at skin level, all I could feel was pressure. It felt like my bones were on fire 24/7. Insomnia to the point that I might get 8 hours of sleep a week. My GP diagnosed it as psychosomatic, and refused to deviate from this diagnosis, after six months of begging for help I found a pain clinic nearby, that my GP apparently had no idea that they existed, up until I asked for a referral, turns out he knew them well and refers patients there all the time. Pain clinic got my GP's diagnosis from the referral, and as amazing as my pain doctor was, it mostly ended up being counselling sessions, after several failed attempts at ketamine infusions. There was that little blood flow in my limbs the machine kept deciding I wasn't connected. Self diagnosed with CIRS due to prolonged exposure to toxic mould.

I can't stand when people say something like this. I want to scream at them. How do you know how I feel and how bad it hurts!

People have been saying this to me for over a decade, often with no knowledge of what kind of pain I'm in or my actual age. 😐

“You’re young, you shouldn’t be complaining” when I told my parents about my knee and back hurting. Before that my chiropractor, who’s helped me through so much of my injuries, told me I had an over flexible spine and tendonitis in my right knee

Sadly, true. Some irresponsible doctors assume stuff just because they do not seem to get it that no one actually exists to bore them out. Some, despite elite training and years of experience, does not realize patients are human beings, not just whiny or mentally incapable. Luckily, there are still good doctors out there.

Womwen, overweight women and if you are actually infertile, you might as well go bury yourself. The lack of interest and respect is mindboggeling.

My mother and grandmother were denied treatment for their gall bladders. My grandma died. When they looked into it they discovered her gall bladder had gone gangrene. When my mother started having pain she had to go to multiple doctors. No one did anything. Once in the emergency room we found a doctor who would look. Her's was gangrene as well. Luckily it was caught in time. Trust your body.

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I hear you. My gallbladder was gangrenous by the time it was dealt with. Yet the criteria for gallbladder used to be fair, fat and forty

I had an ER surgeon tell me fingers don’t have tendons & quit being dramatic as my severed tendons protruded from my injuries. Couldn’t be bothered because there was a cute little 16 year old in the next bed who couldn’t give herself eye drops, & he was the only person who could help her. -Fussing & crying like they were tattooing “princess” on her forehead instead of just putting otc eye drops in her stupid eyes. He spent more time coddling, rubbing her back & calling her honey than actually applying the eye drops. (Her eyes were itchy so she lost her mind) Meanwhile I’m bleeding all over & in lots of actual pain. He comes back after 2 hours to stitch me up with no numbing agent. Completely ignores my assurances that fingers have tendons. End up with two drooping, non functioning fingers that required extensive surgery because I’m in my 40’s, & not a 16 year old with her boo bs hanging out & in short-shorts who can’t handle eye drops. Sadly, very common ER visit.

They really dont care about their patients at all. I have been told today by my doctor that "endometriosis and CFS (chronic fatigue sindrome) dont cause disabilities ". I guess that i am no longer disabled and I will be magically cured. Or more likely that i will live the rest of my life in pain with no help whatsoever from doctors or the government

He shouldn't be in medicine at all.

WHICH STATE? ? ?

Women get the short end of the stick on every level.

According to most of the medical world Endometriosis is nothing more than a myth

If a woman buys Viagra and takes it, will she become the ultimate horny? Or will it f**k with her body?

I was recently told by my OBGYN that my problem was "too big for her to fix". She wrote me off after realizing that I was going to be high maintenance. And after 4 trips to the ER due to agonizing pain she suggested I try Tylenol in addition to Advil. I had to beg for muscle relaxers and then instead of sending those to the pharmacy she re-sent the birth control prescription I had already filled. I have an appointment with a specialist next week, but I had to do the research and find him on my own. And I'm probably going to have to pay about $1000 out of pocket just to be seen. And don't get me started on the male ER doctor who blew me off and wouldn't even look at me until I had ANOTHER ultrasound. Which I refused because I'd already had one that week. I'm seriously ready to kill someone at this point.

I had a FEMALE doctor literally shrug as to why i was having pain in my ovaries and menstrual problems after the results of only a pap and an internal ultrascan came up negative. No more tests after that. Just a shrug "I dont know why you are in pain". Thank GOD my physio worked out that it was a blocked / trapped gland leading to my ovary from a hip injury i had got a few months earlier. He gave me some releasing / massaging exercises and cleared it up.

Mine was found during an annual gyn exam, which wouldn’t necessarily happen today now that they only do them every few years. There’s a lot to be said for a yearly check-in, especially for women in their late 30’s on up, or anyone with pain, irregular bleeding, etc. even if they think they know what’s going on.

My husband's doctor asked me if his testicle had looked or felt different to me. Which made me blush furiously but it wasn't because he didn't trust my husband. It was because we sometimes see ourselves differently than someone looking at us would.

Holy Shyt! -and asked your husband?! Aw hell naw…

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Yeah, gonna call BS on the tech scoffing and calling you a wimp. In this day and age? Pfft,

a family can still be complete without human kids or even fur babies. the worst part (especially for straight women) is that they'll be like, oh, what if you find a guy you want to have the child with? like, are you really putting your patients reproductive autonomy in the hands of a man you don't know?

What about adoption and volunteering and foster care? There's so many ways to have children in your life after the fact. People just don't respect women's autonomy