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Effectively she has. He knows. I agree that the gender role thing is stupid. She has proposed passive aggressively because she thinks it's his role to do it overtly. She's already broken that stupid "rule" so why not just be straight up about it? I'm curious if his answer is similarly vague. No definite proposal leaves more room for no definite answer. Has he said, "No. I don't want to get married." or has he kicked the can down the line with a "Maybe someday." He clearly doesn't want to marry her. Does she know why? Is it marriage in general? Is it her? They both need to have a clear conversation. Looks like they've been together 15-20 years. It's about time.

Honestly, worst thing that will happen is he'll say yes and not mean it--but says it out of pressure. I already know multiple divorced friends and family members who said yes to avoid the embarrassment, fighting and unprepared-for-life-change that saying no would cause--don't you? If he hasn't proposed yet (obviously years have passed), she's a temporary fix until the woman he wants to marry comes along. Nothing to do with gender roles. Everything to do with a man who's comfortable getting everything he wants from her without giving anything he wants (freedom from actual commitment) up.

Never even considered the possibility that he'd tell her he's already married, did you?

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Not to be rude or sexist, but when the girl proposes it's seen as a sign that the guy has no respect for the girl or her family, since he never had the guts or whatever to propose.Edit: I understand now that that was sexist. I guess I am not allowed to share my opinion without getting downvoted. Sorry about this comment, and about sounding bitter. I got banned from BP for the day. Sorry again!

People have a vision in their heads of what their life is supposed to look like (this could come from wider societal norms, family pressures, or a feckin Disney film). When life doesn't turn out the way it's "supposed to", they are discontented.

Marriage gives you more rights when life takes a bad turn, such as someone has an accident and the like. Your partner dies early and you are not married? You won't get anything. A married person will receive bereavement benefits in many countries. When there are kids, legal reasons are even more important.

Because they are shamed or assumed to be "undesirable" if they're single--which is bs

Could be for legal reasons etc

Great question, Lady G. I can answer from my experience: I am Gen X, so I grew up in the 80s to boomer parents (for pop culture context). I was programmed to think the "expected/accepted" life path was going to college, getting a salary job, buying a house, and being married with kids on the way by 30. My mom passed when I was 29, and the guilt I felt that I hadn't gotten her grandkids or a wedding or a house of my own... it kicked off a lot of accelerated life changes in the following years. By 31 my new wife and I moved into my new house and were trying to have kids. I was divorced by 33 (no kids), and at risk of losing my house in the Great Recession. Unraveling that subconscious programming of what life was "supposed to look like" and the massive failure I considered myself took several years in therapy. It's refreshing to me that Millenials and Gen Z seem to have a little more freedom from a lot of those older traditional expectations.

Because they want to say they're married on social media.

Why do people care about other people wanting to get married? Obviously this is the cringiest way to go about it but for many people marriage has always been a desire of theirs and they want the security and commitment.

She might be wearing heels

How did you write this comment from back in 1931?