Common sense is not so common, Voltaire once wrote. There is always that one bad-mannered person in class who sneezes without covering their mouth. Or the person who takes up two seats on the train just because they like to sit with their legs spread out. As much as we’d like to live in a world where everybody is truly well-mannered, there will always be bad people who lack common sense or mindfulness in the most common situations.
Here are thirty simple reminders of what to do and not to do when you’re in a public space. If you think of yourself as having good manners, most of these annoying things probably will be a no-brainer for you. And don’t forget to share your worst (or best) experiences with annoying people who lacked common sense in the comments!
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Not Letting People Get Out Of Busses And Elevators Before Entering
It makes a lot more sense than you trying to push yourself into the crowd who’s trying to get out anyway. Just stand aside, let people out, and then get in.
Or pushing your way in front of wheelchairs. My mom has the hardest time getting on or off anything because she doesn't want to run people over, but they keep pushing their way in front of her. Rude as hell.
Amen. That´s maybe the only occasion I´ll wilfully walk into someone. Please use your brains in traffic !!!
Yeah! Have fully had scrum pushing contests on the tube with these fools.
Load More Replies...When people don't allow me to get out first(as decent normal human beings do), I give them a cold shoulder push. They can complain as much as they want, it's their fault they are standing on my way.
This one is not just annoying. It's dangerous too. Also, waiting for the train standing at the middle of the door opening as well. There is a reason people wait on the sides of the door, and it's certainly not so that an inconsiderate randomer can put him/herself to be the first in line.
I agree on this, some times you had to shout and just freaking ram everyone just to get out. Worst? They wearing headsets.
Not Using Turning Signals
When did it become normal for people to ignore the most basic rules of driving?
ehehe... i wondered, whether someone will mention it :D .... "If you think that your job is useless, think about those mechanics that install turning lights into BMWs"
Load More Replies...When I'm driving a giant metal death machine I don't want anyone to be surprised by what I'm doing and I don't want to be surprised by what you're doing.
ESPECIALLY WHEN ITS RIGHT NEXT TO YOUR STEERING WHEEL!!!!! Yes I'm yelling, this pisses me off!
I don't typically have Sylvia Browne as a passenger. 😂
Load More Replies...Meeting people who don't use turning lights: when you are a passenger... But you still curse along with the driver.
It still makes me wonder why a lot of people don't use turning signals. I mean, with just a flick of a hand or finger, how hard is that? Your safety and the safety of others is important.
Being Rude To Your Server
Imagine working 12 hour shifts, always on your feet, tired as hell, and then dealing with the most annoying and rude customers? Yeah, don’t be that person who thinks waitresses have to deal with your terrible attitude. They’re just here to do their job and leave, don’t make it harder than it is.
if you think you'd not be able to do the job, respect the person who does it so you Don't have to do it.
That's the problem. They all think "Oh, I could do it better", while really they are clueless about the job completely.
Load More Replies...Don't do this to retail workers either... we don't make the policies, we don't make the prices or anything else.... we're just trying to get through the day just like you. I had to put up with this shi- for 8 yrs. It wears you down.
@ Divine: I think some people treat service employees with disrespect because they consider themselves to be superior. Maybe they make more money or have a more skilled occupation. They can make you job miserable.
Load More Replies...Beside the fact that not being rude is basic respect, being rude to someone taking care of your food is stupid... just saying.
A-to the-MEN. I've been a waitress, so I try to be super-nice to all wait staff and anyone in customer service. Their job is not to be envied.
@Naomi: I do the same. I've been a waitress myself. These people work hard and don't need attitude.
Load More Replies...The last time my husband's parents were visiting, his dad was rude to our server (who was new and doing a poor job, but she was just a kid). He didn't listen to me at first, when I told him off. Then I told him it's stupid to be rude to the people handling your food and he was so shocked at the idea that they might do something to it. At least it shut him up.
People who don't respect this job have NEVER done this job. Also, don't p**s off your server . . . you never know what they do to your food and drink when out of your sight.
I never do this, but sometimes I get really rude servers
Listening To Music Without Headphones
You think your music taste is great? Perfect, go study music, become a DJ or a producer, but please don’t shove your music taste onto other people who would rather listen to silence then the latest remix of DJ Khaled’s new song while sitting on a bus on their way to home.
Worst offenders are people in cars--at intersections, et al. when they're stopped and everyone around them has to listen to their crappy tunes. Turn it down and/or close your windows!
Also those douchebags that wake you up in the middle of the night when they drive around blasting their car sound at the maximum volume possible.
Load More Replies...Whats even more irritating for me are the idiots that sit in their cars in the housing complex parking lot at 2 in the morning blaring their music. Its like the concept of sound traveling never occurred to them. No sir i do not want my walls vibrating at 0 dark 30
Very EVIL!!!, especially when you are at the gym, working out on a machine next to them! I swear this makes me want to yell. I come to release stress and this only makes me more stressed.
Load More Replies...In Seattle recently I saw a couple with a boom box attached under their toddlers stroller. Walking along blasting their tunes...poor kid
That's how the next generation of no-earphones is being raised
Load More Replies...mobiles with the horrible tinny sounds and their horrible tunes. Here, take my headphones, please!
the ones on public transport. wish I could whip that crappy phone speaker out of their hands when they do it. and anti- loudspeaker music whip
And with the advent of Bluetooth speakers, no public spaces are safe. Last few trips to the Caribbean were ruined my idiot tourists battling each other with their Bluetooth speakers. Especially on the beach.
I think it depends on situation. In the park where I roller skate there is a dedicated track for cyclists/skaters/skateboarders etc and a lot of the time they will have music playing on a bluetooth speaker. At first it surprised me but then I realized that's the compromise between wanting to listen to music while moving and trying to stay safe, because for the love of god, definitely do NOT do fast-moving sports like cycling/rollerskating in public places while wearing noise-blocking headphones. The annoyance is minimal(if there at all, most seem to have decent music taste there:P) because they just zzzzip past you and you can maybe hear them for 15 seconds tops. Stuff like music booming out of open cars at 3 a.m....yeah, not so nice.
Texting While Driving
Just don’t do this one. Don’t. You’re risking yours and someone else’s life for a text, it’s not worth it, and no matter what you’re typing, it will never be as important as being safe at the road.
If the text or call is that important, pull over!
Load More Replies...That's not just annoying, it's stupid and dangerous. You aren't just putting your own life at risk when you do this, you're putting everybody's life around you at risk. Just don't do it. Anything on your phone can wait until you get where you're going. If it really can't, pull off the road.
If your phone calls really ARE that important the company will get you a chauffeur.
Load More Replies...This is the same type of people who drink and drive oh 'it won't happen to me'. No it will happen to you, the other vehicle you hit AND the family's of the person you potentially just killed. Do.not.do.it.EVER. Nothing on that stupid little box you are addicted to is worth losing your life over.
How about texting while walking??? I see that the pedestrian is also NOT paying attention.
People die because someone else was doing this c**p. sometimes the Offender dies. STOP IT!
Not Putting Your Stuff Back On The Proper Shelves In Grocery Stores
Just because you decided you don’t need that item anymore doesn’t mean somebody else should have to put it back to its place. Your ignorance creates extra work for the already busy grocery store employees so put the stuff back from where you took it.
Yesss, that's really annoying. Especially if it's perishable foods - I don't want to buy meat or fish which was left out on a shelf for hours!
Place I worked at all perishable items get thrown away regardless it was brought up 1 minute ago
Load More Replies...It's wasteful, it messes up product counts, and it makes the store disorganized. There's nothing wrong with taking an item to the checkout with the rest of your groceries and telling the cashier you changed your mind about buying it. Especially if it's perishable. Having worked in retail, I can guarantee that they appreciate it far more than finding it randomly dumped somewhere, hours later.
In most cases, the cashiers have a basket for unwanted items. If they aren't perishable, someone comes around every half hour or so to collect items and return them. In the store I shop at, if it's a perishable item, they immediately call someone to put it back.
Load More Replies...This is so wasteful. They have to throw the food out and, if they're not trained well enough to know they have to throw it out, they put it back in the refrigerated display and risk the health of the next customer who shops for that meat. That's not even considering the rack for the chips now is supposed to be sterilized and the chips these touched are supposed to be tossed out, too, or risk contamination from the meat. This is rude, wasteful, and dangerous.
Worked in retail a few years and our stores motto was when in doubt throw it out.
Load More Replies...Especially people with Food Stamps, they will put tons of frozen stuff in their cart and during check out, they will return most of them because they don't have enough $$$ or junk food and Sodas are more important! now we have to throw them away because our store's policy, we can't put them back in the freezer..tons of food got wasted. it's a shame coz most of the meat are the expensive ones. They get free food .. don't have brain to calculate what they have to spend from tax payers like me..
Honestly, I'd like to know how much money is wasted because of lazy a******s like this. Nothing pisses me off more than seeing some douchebag throw frozen foods/meats/milk, etc. onto a shelf because they're too damn lazy to walk the extra two aisles and put it away properly.
This is especially rude when the items are frozen or need to be cooled and they just drop them somewhere in a non-fozen section!
Staff HAS to throw it away, because they don’t know how long it has been there. So not bothering taking it back is actually wasting food! Also - it’s how people still think they don’t pay for the food stores throw away (the ONLY way to cover their loss, is to add it to the price of everything else).
When I worked at Target, I saw ice cream left out at room temperature by the checkout lanes for over half an hour. It was in sight the whole time, but I couldn't do a thing about it because I was stuck ringing people up in the holiday rush. Ruined. Another time, a customer handed me a jug of milk they decided they didn't want, and I took it over to the service desk where we're supposed to bring declined items, and my manager told me "well, we have no idea how long it's been out of the cooler, so we have to throw it away". It was still cold, and if it had gone home with the customer, it certainly would have been out of the cooler for longer before being kept in their fridge.
Just give it to the cashier when you check out and tell them you changed your mind about the item - they'll call someone over to put it back for you.
Leaving A Mess After Yourself
No matter if it’s your office, public bathroom or a clothing store, leaving your things all over the place is just rude. You’re not entitled to having people picking up your things after you.
This makes me crazy, especially at work. I saw a great sign at an office: "This is your home 8 hours a day!" Is this how people treat their homes? Gross AND rude.
I certainly hope not, we had to clean human waste off of one of our restrooms walls at work last week. If they do that at work their houses must be a whole new level of disgusting.
Load More Replies...I once heard a mother told her children in a return your own tray food court: "just leave it here, this is the cleaner's job."
I used to work at Macys when I was in college and I was shocked at how people left the dressing room. I mean it was disgusting, even left food and trash.
We had people peeing in ours. Had to switch to carpet tiles because they were easier to replace.
Load More Replies...i hate that. i would physicaly hurt those scums who do that. it is disrespectful and rude. you not only make extra work for sales assistant, but also make difficult for other people find what they are looking for!!! the fact, that you are lazy git who have time to go through piles of messy(and dirty, don't forger dirty, because that floor isn't sanitized!!!) clothes, doesn't mean, that other (working)people are not in a hurry.
I can't shop at big discount stores like Marshalls or Nordstrom Rack because it's so disorganized and everything is higalty pigalty. My need for clean is ridiculous and I have to fold and straighten
The behavior of persons in the SUA, would not last 2 minutes in the UK
Standing On The Left Side And Blocking The Way
This one will definitely make your blood boil. Every country is different, but usually you walk on the left and you stand on the right, it’s that simple.
In some countries it's inverted. Same level of annoyance though! Argh!
I find it funny in the UK with this. It only really applies in London (and they will apply with verbal force!) but in the rest of the UK you can spot Londoners as they never stand on the left!
We have subway here and it's generally the same rule for escalators. In rush hour often both lanes are standing-only - too many people at once and with too many not wanting to walk everyone gets to stand and that's one thing, they even announce it on the speaker, but when the lane is like half empty and that company just decides to pointedly go on LEFT side and STAND there...omg 10/10 should be a punishable offence
We do the same as driving in Australia, stand on the left, walk briskly on the right...except for the more multicultural areas...then it's everyan for himself it seems.....use the driver Ng rules ofr pedestrians and OCD-ers don't go too spare!!!
Swiping Right When Someone Hands You Their Phone To Show A Picture
They only wanted to show you one picture, you do not have the right to scroll through their photos and check what they have on their phone. Imagine how awkward it would be if you would stumble on something very private?
Yes, and that's why I always put photos in an specific album in my iPhone before I hand it over because they ALWAYS do this!
I have stopped handing my phone to people. Not only does the swiping on my photos annoy me and invade my privacy (I usually like to tell people if they keep that up, they may see something that offends them and embarrasses me) but my phone has all my banking and personal details on it. Would you hand your bankcard to someone else to hold ?
Also true when an artist hands you their sketch book to show you a drawing. There may be personal drawings in there, don't flip through the pages! Please, just look at the drawing and give the book back, don't be nosy.
Phones can be hacked as easily as a computer, why you would want "private pictures" on your phone is beyond me
I have done that out of habit. Then I have apologized to the person for looking at other pictures.
Lol most of the photos of my phone are pictures of my pets or selfies containing my ugly face
Oh, i really hate that one, and i shame people doing it "helping yourself to my private pictures??"
Not Cleaning Up After Your Dog
Picking up poop and throwing it away takes way less time than stepping in it and cleaning it up, not to mention getting rid of the smell. So, if you want a dog, understand that it comes with a poop that you’ll have to pick up.
Oh my god, literally yesterday I was at Winners in the shampoo/nail polish/makeup aisle and some family had a little dog in the shopping cart. The dog was not a service dog and should not have been in the store and to make it worse, the thing s**t on the floor! I saw it happen and told them that they had better clean it up since it looked like they were just going to leave so they grabbed makeup wipes off the shelf, opened them and used one to pick up the s**t, then they ran out of the store without paying for them! The worst part was that the smell remained there for a while
Clean up after your pet. They can't do it themselves. streamcare...37af6e.jpg
i would physicaly hurt people who do this! there was a case/incident, when a little girl fell on the grass and she landed with her face in dog's c**p. bacteria infected her eye and she lost it!!!
Putting Your Feet All Over Somebody Else’s Space On Planes And Trains
Feet are already a sensitive topic to many people, nobody enjoys seeing or smelling somebody else’s feet (unless you’re into that stuff). But taking your shoes off and putting your feet near people sitting next to you is just rude and disgusting.
I was on the bus a while ago and this chick had put her legs on her boyfriend's lap (both school age), so her feet with shoes on were dangling in the way of passengers getting on and off. An older lady told them off and the boy had the nerve to talk back at her as if she was the problem. F*****g brat. Since we're in Eastern Europe, there was the obligatory reference to "commie times being over", but unfortunately I wasn't sitting close enough to ask that idiot what communism has to do with his lack of manners.
Omg I remember on my plane trip to Fiji this 30-35 year old lady put her seat all the way back so my 7 year old sister started kicking it because she barely had enough room and then the lady put her seat back up and demanded another seat because my sister was a 'brat!'
I'm a manspreader, but I do shrink back if people come in. I'm 6ft 3 and if I want to use the headrest/backrest I normally have to slouch which spreads my legs out or forward. Most tall people are the same, same with sticking your legs out into the aisle if you have no legroom.
Load More Replies...I have travelled a lot but have never come across this in Britain, have I just been lucky?
Not Washing Your Hands After Using The Bathroom
Nobody wants to touch your hands after you used the toilet, and it’s even worse since nobody is ever sure who washed their hands and who didn’t. Be kind to others and stop sharing you bacteria.
I don't get the ones that just rinse. It does absolutely nothing to run your hand briefly under water, so what is even the point?
Load More Replies...If I don't wash my hands after the toilet my hands feel all weird and "gross" until I do. I always wash my hands. Especially in public toilets.
My genitals are cleaner than my hands. I wash my hands before #1 and after #2.
I lost my temper about this at work. I took the handsoap out of the toilets and no one noticed/mentioned it
No one washes for even 5 seconds at work. It's so gross but they are the ones who get sick a lot so karma awaits them.
Throwing Something Into A Trash Bin, Missing It, And Not Picking It Up
Struggling with your aim? Then maybe just try walking to the trash bin? Who would have thought that it’s that simple? Groundbreaking.
What annoys me is smokers dropping their butts on the ground. If there is not a bin stick the butt in you packet. I am a smoker and hate it when people do this.
Or throwing trash from your car window while driving (or parking) on the street
I once saw someone open a bottle of beer with the edge of a trash/recycling can, then throw the cap on the ground.
Cleaners are paid to do this. Do you wanna get them fired by doing their job?
It is hard to understand how homosapiens "climbed" to the top of the food chain only to become the laziest species in the world!
Ugh yeah...hate hate HATE this. Like seriously, it's one thing when there's simply no trash can for hundreds of metres around and there's trash on the ground(it's still not excuseable, but at least it makes some sense), but to have trash on the ground literally AROUND the trash bin? That doesn't even make sense. Like...oftentimes these are next to benches, you literally just have to stretch your arm to throw your stuff in it. Just how hard is that?
Parking In Disabled Parking Spots
Oh come on, this one is just plain illegal. There’s always a free parking space somewhere, always, just try harder to find one.
This one pisses me off so bad! I have an invisible disability and can't walk too far without almost passing out. I have a placard and I still get called out because I am not wearing a cast or something. So please don't be an a*****e and park there if you aren't handicapped and please remember that if you see a car with a placard, understand that they obviously need it even if it isn't obvious to you.
And parking too close to these spots, like in that special area marked off next to them for vans with chair lifts. One of my neighbors has their own handicapped spot in front of our building, and people are ALWAYS parking too close.
They might be able to get a sign that advises people not to park within 10 feet or whatever. Any way you look at it, it's inconsiderate and illegal. They should start calling tow trucks.
Load More Replies...ALSO- Young people on the bus who sit in the section reserved for handicap & elderly.
I know a supermarket where these spots had a sign "Here parks a disabled person or an A*****e"
also, the empty area NEXT TO disabled spots. ya know the one with a lines across it indicating that you shouldn't park there? a lot of people think that's just a random empty spot and don't understand that it's actually used so wheelchair ramps in cars have the room to unfold and allow the passengers out
I've always thought it would be nice to break something of theirs.
Load More Replies...This. I'm disabled and find it so hard to park in a normal bay and get in and out my car with a wheelchair etc. I will not hesitate to ring up and report you for parking without a badge
I have a disable parking permit in my car for my father. I refuse to use disable parking spots unless he is getting out of the car. If he wants to stay in the car I will park in a normal spot, usually closer to the parking exit than to the shops!
You are a person of integrity & a good example.
Load More Replies...I encountered someone parked on a disabled parking space and asked him he shouldn't park there. He showed me that he has only 9 fingers (ring finger on the right hand is missing), and said "I'm disabled, see?" Then just walked away. I was like, "Wow". I'm not sure if it counts as a disability but he is more able to drive normally that people with real disabilities.
Having A Cart Full Of Groceries In The Express Lane
It might be quicker for you but it ruins the whole point of the ‘express lane’. And don’t act so surprised if the cashier refuses to scan your stuff.
On express lane, usually cashier ask those kind of peopel to move on a regular lane (in France at least)
I've been in a different line and the cashier in the express lane will tell me to come on over because she's not busy, and when I unload my stuff someone always comes up behind me clearing their throat and looking daggers at me so the cashier will let them know that she asked me over.
THIS is the problem! It is the actual way that they conduct their entire lives! "THEY are the only one that matters!)
I was in the grocery store a few days ago and some guy on line ahead of me did this. The cashier politely told him he wasn't supposed to do that and he rammed his cart into a bunch of wine bottles and knocked them down. There was broken glass and wine all over the floor. what a jerk!
This is starting to become an issue close to me. The supermarket is closing the regular lanes and expecting everyone to use self checkout. I refuse to use self checkout, it is cramped and inconvenient and doing local people out of jobs, so if they won't open a lane (I do ask), then I WILL use express. If they don't like it, they can open a lane or they can put my shopping back on the shelves.
Work for walmart and at my store we are not allowed to refuse a large cart at 20 items or less
Not Dimming Your Car’s Front Lights While Driving Past Someone In The Dark
Headlight flashing is a popular way to send another driver a message. But always remember that your lights can be blinding other people and distracting them from the road, so please make sure that your lights are not too bright. The rule is simple, if you can see the driver - you’re too late.
I see far more people driving at night w/NO headlights
If I see someone coming towards me at night w/no lights I usually blink my fog lights at them a couple of times and hope they understand what I'm signaling. Alas, most don't :(
Load More Replies...I think a lot of people do this as an honest mistake. They forget they are on full beam or realise too late
My mom would forget sometimes, now she doesn’t drive at night because it’s too hard for her to see.
Load More Replies...This is really dangerous, especially since there are also epileptics, older drivers etc.
If you can’t see the person walking in the street it’s too late too. Use the sidewalk people.
This is also illegal. If you are within city/town limits, it is illegal to drive with your brights on. If you can see the tail lights of the car ahead of you, your brights should be off. If you can see the head lights of a car coming toward you, they are already being blinded by your brights.
Parking on the side of the road facing traffic and leaving your headlights on. Blinding, use sidelights. Local police do this a lot
All the time I see people using their brights when there's oncoming traffic. Drives me crazy.
Dimming then when you are behind someone in a drivethru!!! I have a small car and truck headlights shine right in the mirrors ALL OF THEM. Usually if they see me shielding the light with my hand they will turn them off but there are those who just don't care OR the ones who think it's funny to turn their brights on.
Standing Too Close To Someone
If you’re waiting in a line, please try your best not to breathe into someone else’s neck. This accidental intimacy is uncalled for and always unwanted. Try to be mindful, there’s a reason the term “safe space” exists.
If you are standing thisclose to me, I will physically move you back to a comfortable distance!
In some cultures, as in some of the newly arrived folks in my city, to stand too far away is considered rude.
Load More Replies...It's a cultural thing. People from heavily-populated countries really pack it in.
As someone with PTSD, I will not hesitate to ask you to step back. I don't need that panic attack, thank you.
This happens from time to time. I usually tell them that if they want to get that close to me, they'd better be buying me dinner first.
I used to allow this but now I'm asking me to move. They have all been very nice and respected my wishes. Now if people understood what excuse me means and holding open a door...
Snapping Fingers At A Server
Just don’t. It’s rude, obnoxious and degrading.
Only time it's appropriate to snap your fingers at someone is at a poetry slam lol
Or they would genuinely just not notice you. If the place is crowded, and they're doing something else... Chances are high they won't even hear or see the fingersnaps. So... That's not only rude, it's also stupid.
Load More Replies...I have a friend who snaps at his friends, including me, to get our attention. I was once at a bday party with him, he and I were listening to music (albeit, with headphones since everyone else was doing there own thing and leaving us be. I admit it now, this was a bit rude). Apparently he liked my shirt, it had a refrance to Alice in wonderland on it, so he kept snapping at me. I took my headphones off, confused, and he just snapped again and pointed like whatever he was listening to made him incapable of actually speaking. Needless to say I had no idea what was going on and he had to snap four more times and ACTUALLY TALK to get his point across. It's an annoying habit amoung friends, but to do it to staff is inexcusable
As a European, living in the U.S. I do have to point out though that it is perfectly acceptable to do this in other countries. That's how you get the waiters attention there. So..some people may not know they are doing anything wrong when they snap their fingers.
Most of the waiters are rude beyond any normalcy. Why would I treat them different?
Leaving Carts All Over The Parking Lot
How many times have you needed to park your car, thought you saw a free space, but when you drove closer saw it was occupied by a bunch of grocery store carts? There are special places to leave them, and they are always near the parking lot, please, put them where they are supposed to be.
In France, as most carts have to be unlock with a coin or a token, most people bring them back to get their coin/token back
I think it's the same all across Europe for most bigger carts and in bigger stores
Load More Replies...I was at the store the other day and saw a guy basically just throw his cart towards the store
Our stores have racks throughout the parking lot so you don't even have to walk back to the store with your cart and people still leave them out or just toss them in the general direction of the racks. Some people are seriously lazy.
Load More Replies...I even have to sort the carts into the right lines in the trolley bay when others have put them in any old way. Can't leave them taking up too much space.
Please don't do this. Not only does it add extra work to the associates who have to retrieve then, it can also cause damage to peoples cars.
Yes, especially on a nice sunny day it's not that far to put the cart where it belongs !!!
Having Your Stuff All Over The Place In Public Places
Everybody has heard about manspreading, but have you ever heard about ‘Shebagging”, it’s when you put your stuff all over the place, especially in public transportation, blocking the available seat next to you and leaving others standing. If you ever catch yourself doing so, try putting your stuff on your legs and offering the seat to another passenger.
Especially if that person is pregnant or elderly
Load More Replies...I only do this if there's plenty of room and no one needs it. If I see someone needs a seat, I'll move my c**p, no problem. Anyone who doesn't should be slapped.
Happens often at train. People act like they are in their living room.
Try taking the train in the UK. People don't want anyone sitting next to them so they spread all their stuff around. Then they pretend no to hear you when you ask if they could please move their bags and allow you to sit for the 2.5 hour ride to Manchester.
I was once travelling with three huge bags in a metro cart with several free places and this guy came over and without even saying something sat down on my bag although the seat right next to him was free. So while I can't stand people putting their bags next to them in a full bus (as well as people who sit at the aisle and block the window seat), really just sit somewhere else if there is still space there. There is also the problem of random guys sitting next to you in an empty bus to intimidate or hit on you. Bag always next to me because f*** off.
A woman on my bus always insists her bag gets its own seat despite people standing.
I used to do this because of crippling social and physical anxiety... I did not want anyone in my space.
Same here. I'd stow the bag if the bus/train got too full, though. It would p**s me off when I was sitting there with my bag on the seat next to me and someone would insist that I had to move it so they could sit there, when there were literally dozens of other empty seats.
Load More Replies...Heavier bags really can't go on your legs but I will move them out of the way if someone else needs to sit down.
Sometimes they can be put down at your feet or under the seat.
Load More Replies...Not Changing An Empty Toilet Paper Roll
Don’t be a demon, when you finish a toilet paper roll replace it with a new one. Imagine a situation were you just finished doing your business and there’s no toilet paper, sucks, right? Well, don’t put somebody else in this tragic situation.
This used to bother me too. Then I thought about how many dirty hands were constantly touching the roll. So getting to put a fresh roll on myself… Priceless.
OOH, I hate this! I am always the one having to change the empty roll, at home and at work. Grrrr.
We have this silent battle at home, where my husband puts it "the wrong way" and I turn it around, and so on. Or I guess I might be just imagining the battle and he simply doesn't care, and does it just to troll me. Yeah, that does sound like him. 😂
Load More Replies...I have a cat who thinks toilet paper is a toy. We have to put the roll on backwards (so it doesn't unwind) and use a holder with a lid. If you leave rolls out unprotected they will be found shredded in the tub later on.
Manspreading
This one is rather simple - close. your. legs.
I usually say "Excuse me" or something to that effect and push slightly with my knee (if I'm wearing pants, at least...). Most just weren't paying attention and apologize.
I am a male and do nto do this unless I'm the only one there. I would sit in his lap, literally.
Load More Replies...Gosh..... I reaaaaaaaaaaaaaally hate men doing this, especially in a public vehicle and it's already crowded... It's even more annoying when others can't sit comfortably just because some moron is spreading their legs. They don't even do anything when they see somebody struggling to sit so I usually acknowledge people like this and say "to that person spreading their legs, sit properly". I don't care if they're offended because they're giving others a hard time just because they're only thinking about their own comfort. tsk *flips tables
I've mentioned this before. That man has no reason to spread. He has no head/back/arm rest to reach. That actually looks uncomfortable way to sit to me.
That picture is likely fake. Purposefully done for the image. But I agree with you that is does look uncomfortable.
Load More Replies...Lmao we have zero space in PE and all the boys manspread so us females keep shoving them closed or taking up extra space on the benches to show them.
Say the woman without balls. Until you grow a pair, you have no right to an opinion.
I've knocked into men's knees delibrately sometimes if they just wouldn't budge after I sat down. It usally worked.
Not Covering Your Mouth While Coughing
According to Live Science, one cough can release as much as 3,000 droplets of saliva, and they can fly as fast as 50 miles per hour. And sneezing can force as much as 40,000 droplets of saliva. Is there anything else we need to say to prove our point? Covering your mouth is not an option but an absolute must.
I know I'll get a lot of downvotes for this, but this is one of the main reasons I don't like kids. Children never cover their mouths when coughing or sneezing.
Not all kids are bad at it, but I've had to tell one of my daughter's friend to cover their mouth when they were at our house. He was repeatedly coughing with absolutely no attempt to cover his wide open mouth. I found it bizarre, as it's automatic for my kid to cough into her elbow (no germy hands to spread it around then).
Load More Replies...ALSO do it with your elbow, not your hand!!! Your germs will go to your hand and they are free to travel everywhere as soon as you touch something.
when in a theater tell people to cove thier !@#$ing mouths when they cough.
Most people in an office are exposed to cold germs EVERY DAY. You just don't get sick from it most of the time. I'm not saying people shouldn't cough/sneeze into their elbows regardless, but it's not like we're preventing bubonic plague by doing so.
People used to carry handkerchiefs years ago. I would love to see this come back in fashion. It would be better to dispose of it in your pocket than to sneeze into your sleeve all the time.
This is one of the reasons I am in bed sick for day two. There are A lot of people who do not wash their hands and cough all over the damn place. I’m sick and tired of it.
Dad used to cough and sneeze into the kitchen sink. Maybe he thought the germs would vanish down the plughole. Lots of extra washing up and cleaning everything that could be contaminated
Checking Your Phone In The Middle Of A Conversation
Unless it’s actually urgent, please do not check your phone in the middle of a conversation with someone. It seems like you’re bored, and you make other people feel uncomfortable. Also, it’s one thing to quickly check the time and another when you just keep scrolling.
I might do this if the person is particularly annoying and won't take a hint and leave. We all know people like that.
Yuph! Unless we go out with friends and decided to hangout it's plain annoying that someone/everyone's checking their phones or wearing earphones/headphones while you talk then ask you to repeat what you say to them because they misheard/didn't understand it.
Load More Replies...Good rule of thumb: If it's not an appropriate time to pick up the paper and start doing a crossword, it's not an appropriate time to use your phone.
I like this, although, the crossword can be a group activity.
Load More Replies...Yup! Also answering calls in the middle of a conversation (unless they are important.) My mom has to get every single phone call, either on her landline or her cell. It is mighty annoying. A phone would ring and she'd get up mid-sentence in the middle of a conversation and check with cold-callers or take 10 minutes to explain to her friends why she cannot talk to they right now. Just don't pick up the stupid phone!
Exactly, let it go to messages and check them privately.
Load More Replies...If someone does this, I take it as a hint to leave. It looks like a person is saying "you are boring me". No one wants to be boring to someone, better just leave.
Um, generally speaking, maybe. I'm autistic and can't deal with eye contact, and it's easier for me to focus on a conversation if I have my phone in front of me. Not, like, reading or texting, just playing a simple game that doesn't require my full attention.
There are alternatives that are less rude. Learn how to play thumbsies with yourself instead or concentrate on a fidget toy. The phone is a no no. Autism is not a valid reason here.
Load More Replies...Not Keeping A Safe Distance From Other Cars On The Road
It’s a well-known fact that driving too close to someone is not safe, and no matter what you’re trying to prove, it’s in poor taste to harass somebody by driving as close as of couple of meters from their car. A safe distance between two vehicles is at least 2 seconds behind.
I was taught that safe braking distance is one half car length for every 10 mph. Is this not the standard anymore?
Bloody hell, great if you can do constantly changing maths in your head on the fly!
Load More Replies...Been on the road on bikes, moped, motorcycle, tiny Fiat, big cars and vans....whenever someone tailgates me to bully me into going faster, I let the car slow a fraction, again and again til the either drop back or overtake. On solid ice with the only other vehicle on the road almost touching my bumper, I switched on my fog lights (in overcast daylight) to encourage them to drop back til I could pull over and let them past.
3 seconds actually, and even that might be a bit little, it takes a second for the reaction to hit the break to kick in, and then the car obviously doesn't stop on the spot.
your reaction time should not be so bad, that it takes you 1 seconds to react
Load More Replies...Er, where you are maybe. But in some countries, the left lane 'is' the slow lane.
Load More Replies...It’s not just rude, it’s DANGEROUS! I hate the transports who tailgate, it’s like, I’m going over 110, seriously, back off! (That’s 110kph, btw)
Eating With Your Mouth Open
We try not to be too snobby here, but seeing someone chew with their mouth open is something others might not enjoy witnessing. We get it, it’s hard to control yourself sometimes, but just try to be as self- aware as possible. Also, if somebody is eating with their mouth open, here’s how you can politely tell them to stop.
I think you mean chewing with your mouth open. It’s very difficult to eat without opening one’s mouth...
Only if your a cow chewing cud Close your mouth while chewing always
Load More Replies...Not only does it look gross, but it’s twice as noisy and especially with softer foods, it is absolute torture to have to hear it.
My husband does this and it drives me insane. He eats with his mouth open, eats loudly, smacks, and chews his food sort of faster and harder than normal, making it dramatic and loud. The only thing that gets him to stop in the moment is if I start doing it too, and he gets annoyed at me! lol
Explain the problem and give him a few pointers. My husband sometimes does this but he often can't breathe through his nose and might suffocate if I didn't give him some slack!
Load More Replies...I've been told that chewing with your mouth open and making lots of smacking noises is a sign of delight and enjoyment of the food in some cultures. A friend of mine was berated for doing this - but to her it was just normal eating habit for her culture and she never new it was rude outside her culture.
All 4 of my step children do this. It drives me up a wall, but no one ever taught them proper table manners. I started calling them on it, as well as the host of other bad habits they've developed, and they've gotten better but it's still a daily occurrence in our house. Sadly, it's a decade of bad habit against two years of manners reinforcement. They wonder why we never take them any place nice than Denny's... when I told them that their atrocious table manners and flat out refusal to practice proper manners was why, the 16yo replied with "We're just eating dinner at home. Why should we have to eat using proper manners if no one is going to see?" I responded with "So if we go out somewhere nice you're suddenly going to have proper manners because we're in public, without any practice?" He didn't have an answer for that.
or sitting at a family dinner and the whole family is chewing with their mouths open
Using Words Like 'Gay', 'Retarded' And 'Autistic' As An Insult
Saying ‘it’s so gay’ is sooo last year. And even if you think it’s only a joke, and it’s not offending anyone, it still has a bad connotation to it.
Try playing video games online and you'll hear it pretty often from 13 year old boys.
Load More Replies...Gay actually used to mean cheerful, joyful. Pederasty on the other hand has always been bad.
But that was a long time ago when the Flintstones had a gay old time.
Load More Replies...Yep, people who use these things as insults are terrible. I even got a web filter to block them out! I am actually autistic myself and it pisses me off when people use it as an insult.
I had no idea there were filters for such things. Where do you get such filters?
Load More Replies...Stephen Pinker in his 2003 book “The Blank Slate” coined the name euphemism treadmill for the process whereby words introduced to replace an offensive word, over time become offensive themselves. ... So about 15 years ago we started calling people Special Needs and now if someone does something stupid someone could say 'you're a bit special aren't you...'
Gotta invent new insults... wait... no... I live in Romania, I have plenty of options
No, because the people being called that deserve it.
Load More Replies...I never understood why 'gay' was an insult. Its a sexuality and nothing more!
I use r******d WAY too often. I’m 43, so r******d wasn’t a word used to describe people with intellectual disabilities. Retards were people whose brains work properly, but chose to not use them.
Load More Replies...Not Leaving Someone's House When They Say They Are Tired And Have To Get To Work Early In The Morning
It takes a lot of energy to invite people over and plan the entire evening. So when people are starting to leave, you should understand that the lovely evening is coming to an end. And if you hear someone say ‘I’m really tired’ or ‘I have to go to work early in the morning’, it’s also a sign that you should call a taxi and head home.
And if you don´t get it, do not take offense being politely asked to leave. Please ;-)
Yes, if you don't get subtle signs and communication, you don't have right to get angry at people being direct with you.
Load More Replies...Sounds like maybe you shouldn't be making booty calls or having one-night stands on weekdays.
Blocking Pedestrian Crossings With Your Car
If you’re in a car, you’re not a pedestrian, so anything that is strictly dedicated to pedestrians is something you shouldn’t be driving on, especially sidewalks and pedestrian crossings. Is this so hard to understand??
I had somebody try to drive down the pedestrian crossing in a parking garage to save the 20 seconds it would have taken to go around to the next lane WHILE I WAS WALKING IN IT. They just came straight at me without a care in the world. I wor for the parking company that owned the garage though, and radioed security when they refused to back out and I refused to get out of their way.
Well this photo is taken in my country, New Zealand, but I'm happy to say it's not something I've seen.
Load More Replies...Well, if they are in the way when pedestrians have loads of bags of shopping I should imagine they regularly become badly scratched?
I have seen people park on the lines for handicapped parking. Usually handicapped that can't find a spot. Makes it hard for people to get out of their cars.
I’ve video this and post it to the local police stations social media. It’s so much fun to do that.
Rambling On And On To A Person Who Is Obviously Busy
Your assignment is due tomorrow, you’re already doing five things at once, and your boss keeps messaging you asking to do something that’s not even your responsibility. And then Karen walks in, asks how your day’s going, and then talks about her weekend, and then she shares a story about how her dog seems to have diarrhea. She keeps talking and talking, and no matter how many times you say ‘I should really get back to work’, she seems to not understand it. Annoying, right? Yeah, thought so.
Dude, if you dont get it that Im busy and you're wasting my time right now with non-work-related stuff I'll just go away and leave you standing and talking, F*** you, i dont care. If you literally ignore my "sorry, need to go" two or three times I'll ignore your blahblah..
It's annoying to have to do over and over and over
Load More Replies...I would go out to dine with one of my friends who was a waitress and the other waitstaff would stand at our table and talk. I'm trying to enjoy a nice dinner with my friend, but they were ruining it.
Nobody in MN is polite enough to say "I should really get back to work." Oh no, they just suffer in silence and silently berate you for not reading their mind. And considering I can't read people worth a damn, I basically just have to go through life constantly doing the safest thing, since how can I know if I'm bothering them?
I stop a machine to mention something work related and they start telling me about a movie.
"Cease and desist. My brain is fully occupied and I may vomit on you if you keep making noise"
My manager does this and it's the most annoying thing ever because then I fall behind on my work. I even try to work while she's talking to me and she still doesn't get it!
Talking Loudly In Public Areas
Yes, it’s cool you have friends to talk to, and it’s even cooler that the topic is so riveting that now you’re all hyped up. But please, make sure your voice isn’t louder than your surroundings, not everybody wants to hear what happened to you last night.
Even worse is talking loudly on your phone in a public space, especially one that is usually quiet, like a waiting room...
I really enjoy it when that happens. When people think its okay to talk that loud, at some point I enter the conversation and start asking questions about the "private" stuff I overhear...
Load More Replies...My neighbours! I am currently caring for my father in a closely built over 50's village. His immediate neighbour is a social butterfly, Italian, with a huge, loud, extended family. They think that 'saying goodbye' equals continuing conversations in the driveway, with the cars running and exhaust fumes poisoning neighbours. This is best done between the hours of 10pm and 6am.
I was trying to read on the bus yesterday when this woman started screaming into her phone. She wasn't arguing with anybody, just talking super loud. I gave up reading and put music on instead (I could still hear her yell above it even on full volume)
I can’t help that I talk too loud, I do my best to speak quieter but I’m so used to being loud, I’m Hispanic. Also I sometimes have my phone on speaker but low volume cause I don’t have good hearing must be because of loud music at parties
Or having your phone on speaker... no one wants to hear your conversation
Talking To Someone With Headphones On
If you see a person with their headphones on, it usually means ‘I am not in the mood to talk’, especially if it’s a stranger. It’s one thing to ask them a question, but to continue disturbing them is something that will make them hate you. Just let them listen to their music.
Oh, god, I get this one a lot. Especially with the religious people. I'll be waiting for a bus w/ my headphones on and they'll shove their damn pamphlets right under my nose.
Happened so many times! When I have headphones, it means that I want to be alone.
When I'm on an airplane I don't want to talk to you I just want to watch my movie or listen to my music in peace. If you see me with headphones please leave me alone.
I swear I am beginning to believe some people don't know what headphones are. They must not. They see you wearing them and just keep talking.
Well, I would never be able to talk to my kids if I followed this rule.
If you don't want to be spoken to with headphones on, then don't come to my counter. Likewise, if you do want to be served, then don't come to my counter with headphones on, or talking in your phone. Doing either of the above will result in me talking in a very low voice and asking a plethora of questions required to complete your transaction until either you give up and stop your headphone listening/phone conversation, or you give up and go elsewhere.
From what I mentioned from previous entry it's fine if your alone but if you are with someone (unless they are annoying and you want to go away)you planned to go to or talk to just don't use both earphones or if it's a headphone lower the volume so that you can hear them when they talk.
lately I've been having sales trying to start a conversation with me on my phone with someone. Equally annoying and stupid.
Eating Stinky Food In Public
We get it, you’re busy, you didn’t have time to eat and you’re just too hungry to wait until you get back home and fill your tummy. But please, be considerate of others and avoid eating stinky food like tuna sandwiches in public, especially buses or trains, where nobody can escape the smell.
I don't really have a problem with this. You gotta eat, food stinks. And what stinks to one person may smell good to another. Who decides what is acceptable. This is one of those you just have to suck it up problems.
Yeah, you really have to suck it up to just not eat disgusting stuff for a second.
Load More Replies...Many fish stink but a tuna sandwich? Get over your overly sensitive sinuses
or using the microwave in the break room to warm up your "raclette" or mackerel
Be prepared for me to throw up if you have curry anywhere near me. It may be the most popular food in Britain but smells worse to me than the local sewerage farm . Fast food places are almost as bad. For those who like spray on scent... begone too. A slight waft may be ok, but please don't marinate yourselves
Meh, never bothered me, everyone is entitled to their preferences. Also, food is not allowed to be eaten on public transit.
Not true actually for a lot of places. It's not allowed in the state I live but in other states in my country it is as long as people aren't messy with it.
Load More Replies...I've experienced people on planes break out strongly scented chemical products - nail polish remover, nail polish, lotions, perfumes, etc. This is crazy to me because there are so many people with allergies and chemical sensitivities. Please have some consideration for others!
In the movie theatres once some family brought in mcdonalds and that was all you could smell for the whole movie. Bad idea
Not Taking Care Of Your Personal Hygiene
Personal hygiene isn’t something people should need to be reminded about. Don’t forget to think about others when thinking about skipping a shower or two.
Not everyone can get a shower or a bath easily. Elderly, disabled or homeless people for example.
But there also a lot of lazy and sloppy people. I work in a open space, we have a man at my floor that sometimes wears the same clothes for 1-2 weeks and they clearly aren't washed. In summer to work near him 8 hours a day was torture. The problem is that our crappy HR girls didn't want to talk to him, because they didn't want to offend him.
Load More Replies...People also produce varying levels of body odor. Some people can take a shower and smell terrible ten minutes later, while others can go a week without showering and still not be offensive. It's tempting to judge everyone who smells bad as a lazy person who can't be bothered to shower, but the reality is a lot more complicated.
Hmmm...I just carry a sample size perfume to sprinkle if my seat mate is odiferous.
With chronic illness and depression, wet wipes are our best friends. Do all the nooks and crannies and then dry shampoo your hair ( wet wipes for my hair as I use clippers so I have less to deal with) All clean without getting out of bed if fresh jammies are in reach
Since when do you care about personal hygiene when you have depression.
Load More Replies...Uhm... This picture... They are probably smelling the air around them in a big city or something... It probably has nothing to do with the guy on the right. Maybe 'posting pictures with people you don't know and labeling them with something you think is inappropriate' or 'shaming someone you just googled' should be on the list to... Just saying... If you're the guy in this picture and you don't know about this... I think nobody would like that...
That's not only racist, but ungodly inconsiderate and insulting! Hygiene is a personal thing that verys from person to person. Dentistry can be expensive. Some people simply cannot afford things like that. If you do not know someone's situation, I suggest not clumping the person into a group like that.
Load More Replies...Talking On Your Phone When You’re First In The Line
If you’re in line to order a drink or anything else, please be aware that nobody wants to wait for you to finish your conversation to order. Just known what you want, say it and don’t make the barista wait for you to tell your mom what you ate yesterday.
I believe we need to bring back phone booths. Just empty booths for people to use for their phone conversations. No one should hold lengthy conversations in public.
Love it when people confuse bathroom stalls for phone booths. Like, I don't need to hear your personal business while I'm doing mine.
Load More Replies...I've seen many, many cashiers telling people that they either need to hang up or go to the end of the line.
Good. I don't understand people who ignore cashiers and yammer on the phone about nothing when they need to be paying attention to the person standing right there in front of them.
Load More Replies...It seems impolite to always be on the phone in public, not everyone wants to hear your conversation, plus even though the cashier at the store and you don't have to have a whole conversation, it seems impolite to treat them as a machine or not worthy of your full attention to the process.
Or.. groups of friends still arguing what to do and there are still a lot of people waiting in line.
At the cash desk, get your payment ready whilst you are waiting instead of being on your phone
I have no idea what this is about.. Is this really a thing that happens?
Yep.... it's usually business men who think they're SO important that they have to take calls while they're barking at some poor barista or they're in a call the entire time in the line.
Load More Replies...I like the places that have signs that tell you to finish your call before asking for help. Get off your phone!
Sitting Close To Someone On An Empty Bus
This one is just creepy. Why would you choose to invade someone else’s private space when there are plenty of free seats on the bus?
Once a woman placed herself next to me in a nearly empty bus ON TOP OF MY GROCERIES! I think she did it out of principle because I had dared to occupy a second seat (in an empty bus).
Once a creep not only sat next to me in a literally empty train vagon, he was so close to me that he could have as well sat on my lap. My shrinking into the corner didn't give him any hints, unfortunately, so I was the one to stand up and take another seat (while carefully looking back to see whether or not he would follow me, good thing is he didn't, he just kept using his phone, not moving a millimeter)
Load More Replies...Seriously? If there is a seat near the front of the bus, I would sit there rather than walk further just because someone else is vaguely near me
Agreed. This seems odd, although I have never had this experience.
Load More Replies..."Hello, would you like to hear about my (insert gory word here) surgery? I have pictures"
This is why some people put bags on the seat next to them. There are 27 empty seats, and you HAVE to take the one next to me?
Using Both Armrests
Long train ride? Flight? Want to rest? Well, why not try thinking about your neighbor and leaving one armrest for him? Afterall, sharing is caring.
And according to a manner coach Adeodata Czink, “if you’re sitting in a window or aisle seat, the middle seat passenger gets to put his arms down first. If there’s room left over, great. If not, it belongs to the middle seat passenger. And one more thing, try to be nice about it.”
Middle person gets 2 arm rests, out side people get 1 arm rest, basic rules in edicate. If you don't understand why, you're a rude person but you don't know it yet.
Well they shouldn't be stingy and should give everyone their own arm rests.
Then fat people will be complaining there is no room on their seat.
Load More Replies...Worse: pushing your airplane seat right back into my face, so I can smell the movie I'm trying to watch.
Nope, not giving you this one. I am on a plane for multiple hours, I WILL be pushing my seat back to allow my body comfort and my back some rest. If you don't like the smell of the movie, change the channel.
Load More Replies...One part that I don't like about this one, it says "Why not try thinking about your neighbor and leaving one armrest for HIM?" I just hate it. What if your neighbor is a girl? What if??? It is not ALWAYS a man...
Could have easily been solved by using 'them' instead...
Load More Replies...Reading Over Someone Else’s Shoulder
Ok, this one is a bit more subtle. Many of us check what people next to us are reading on the bus, and that’s not necessarily a bad thing, if you’re being discrete. But obnoxiously reading someone’s private texts over their shoulder is a big social no no. Oh, and remember you can always feel if somebody is creeping on you behind your back.
Depends on the situation - If it's private info, that's not ok, but a book like harry potter is fine I guess.
Load More Replies...I would start writing scary s**t about "my next victim"... That could work.
I had a "friend" do this once and when I texted "someone's looking at my phone" he immediately went "I'm not looking at your phone!"
Once said to a guy 'must be hard for you to read this way. Wanna hold the book yourself?'
Actually, you can. There has been a study done where if you wake up in the middle of the night, there's a 75% (or somewhere around there) chance that somebody is/was watching you. Creepy to think about, but it's true.
Load More Replies...Petting And/Or Feeding Stranger Dogs
Always always ask the owner if you can pet or feed their pet. You never know if the pet is friendly and feeding them can even cause an allergic reaction.
And remember, the owner knows best, so if he says ‘no’ do not try petting their animal behind their back.
Just about every other person in my building complex has a dog (including me), and I ALWAYS ask to pet their doggos, and most times they ask to pet mine, or if they have kids, they make sure the kids know to ask before trying to pet. A lot of doggos I've met around here aren't too keen on being petted.
Some of the dogs could actually be service dogs and petting service dogs can distract them from their jobs.
I once met a cute dog at a bus and asked the owner if I could pet him and he asked me not to because the dog is stressed and very tired and might not take it well. So I simply said, that I completely understand and left it be. What's really sad is how the owner was so surprised by my reaction and told me that even if people ask before they pet the dog, basically no one respects when he tells them not to.
I usually talk to the dog in this situation, telling them how awesome they are and how I wish I could pet them :) Hope they understand and it makes them feel better :)
Load More Replies...Well, to be fair, you can sometimes tell it's okay without any questions exchanged:P If the dog is bopping my knees with its nose, wagging its tail like mad and licking my hand as soon as I reach out, it probably won't mind some pats. I'll generally "hi" with dogs a lot if they start it - just reach out with hand if they come sniff me so they can have an easier time sniffing. If they want a pat after that, great, if not, okay. If it's being indifferent and I still wanna pat I will generally ask, especially if it's on a leash. I also don't mind people patting my dog provided they're being respectful(my dog is pretty indifferent to pats), probably the only thing I HATE is crazy kids on the loose. No, your 3 year old isn't allowed to kick my dog. I don't care that he doesn't understand yet, that's why YOU should be there to stop him. Can't manage? Well put him on a leash perhaps like people do with dogs ;P (Nothing offensive here, littlekids' leashes are actually a thing and they do help)
Joe Clark is a troll... look at all his other comments on other images.... he's just trying to get a reaction. Ignore him.
Or if the strange dog initiates and puts their paws up on my legs with tail wagging, I take that as a full speed ahead!
I once had a dog that was pretty much allergic to the world. He was on a very bland restrictive diet otherwise he'd have diabolical diarrhea. Not pleasant to clean the back end of a long coated dog covered in poo. It was hot out so I was standing outside the car with the dog while my mum went shopping. Some lady saw us and gave our dog a treat, fortunately he didn't have a reaction but I can't stress this enough, PLEASE don't do this!! You might think you're being kind and sweet but you're not! ASK FIRST and respect the owner's answer!!
Walking Too Slowly On A Busy Street
If it’s a busy area where people are in a hurry to get to school or work, please don’t be the person who just walks like they’re in a park and disturbs everyone from getting to their destinations on time.
Or slowly walking three abreast on a narrow sidewalk (tourists, I'm looking at you). Or weaving back and forth because you're engrossed in your phone. I get that some people must move slower than others, but some people are just oblivious.
Load More Replies...I don't mind people walking slowly in public. What I do mind is those people doing so in the middle of a narrow walkway. If you want a leisurely stroll, leave room for people to go around you!
What's wrong with walking slow? They might be feeling bad or have an injury. Since you're in a hurry, go around them. It's your fault if you stay behind that person.
If like me, dead slow is as fast as you can manage, keep to one side, let people pass, and poke those that shoulder past you with your walking stick.
Really? The world should match the pace you want to go? Just go around, some people cannot physically go fast.
lol... if u see someone with headphones "walking" fast as f and passing by anyone... that's probably me :)))
Am I the only person who is constantly stuck behind a group of mums with buggies? Not walking, just stopped on the pavement talking.. Has happened too many times to me
Or looking at your phone while walking! I had about three people also run into me at the Toronto airport this summer because they were too busy looking at their phones while trying to walk! Sit down, stand to the side or put the phone away!
Jumping The Line At The Bar
When it comes to bars, there is an entire section of unwritten rules people usually follow to avoid uncomfortable situations or piss off other patrons, and one of them is to wait patiently for your turn to order. According to Good Cocktails, “When the bartender is busy, don't try to cut in by yelling, "I just want a water!" Why should the bartender stop serving the paying customers in order to serve a person that only wants a free glass of water.” But when you about it, why should the bartender stop serving a customer just to take your order even if you’re paying?
I was at a bar once where the bartender asked me what I wanted, and I said "Oh, I think this person was here first" (the person next to me). While I was saying that, another guy just yelled his drink order from behind me, over my head. AND THE BARTENDER TOOK HIS ORDER. Me and the other customer just rolled our eyes. I did not tip the bartender.
I was once at the counter at a tea shop and had been waiting for a few minutes for the cashier to come when a Chinese family came up behind me. They started passing their items RIGHT OVER MY HEAD and putting it on the counter in front of me. I turned around and said 'I'm sorry, but I was here first.' They just kept on talking and threw down their money when the cashier eventually came. She knew that I was first but served them anyway. Everyone in that store was fuming. They were loud, rude, pushy and acted like they were the only people there.
What was the need to say they were a Chinese family? Race has nothing to do with your story.
Load More Replies..."Hey. I just want a water!" Bartender: "No worries, our restroom has a sink."
I'm usually that one patient person standing at the bar for 10+ minutes bc I don't want to be rude. Sadly, bartenders tend to ignore people like me...
Pretending To Not See An Old Or Pregnant Person
We get it, it happens, you’re tired, you kinda don’t see the pregnant lady standing next to you but you really do, and in your head, you know damn well you should get your butt off the seat and offer it to someone who is literally carrying another human being inside of her.
Have you ever offered your seat to a woman you thought was pregnant only for her to recoil in horror and you realized she was not pregnant, just fat? Try it once and you'll never offer your seat again. Unless a woman specifically asks for a seat, you're better off staying where you are.
I see what you mean.. I was once outside work smoking a cigarette when I had just finished a big lunch and was super bloated (I seriously looked about 6 months pregnant). This young woman came up to me and started shouting that I should think about the baby and it's was selfish of me to smoke whilst pregnant. When I told her that I was just bloated she shut up and walked away. I wasn't offended, I found it funny
Load More Replies...When I was clearly pregnant, I sat in a really crouded bus. When an elderly lady with a walking stick came in. No one stood up for her, so I (the only pregnant one in a bus full of students) had to stand up. They just looked at their phones like they didn't see anything.
I remember when I was heavily pregnant a woman had a go at me for not moving for an old lady on the bus. In the end I said to her "look I am 7 months pregnant why don't you move so the other lady can sit down. I am not endangering my child." It made everyone super uncomfortable. The only person I felt sorry for was the old lady who needed a seat.
I’m a girl with a beer belly. I get it, I look pregnant. When people offer their seat, I just decline. “Oh, but I’ve been sitting all day and I really need to stretch my legs. But thanks for the offer!” I don’t want people to feel embarrassed, or not offer their seat in the future. Plus it’s not rude if someone doesn’t know it’s Guinness and not a fetus!
That's why I avoid public spaces. In the night the city is all mine, in the day if I have to get in a bus there are old people who stay up with empty seats. And after 2 stations you decide to finally seat and then people look strange at you and someone have to ask for your seat even if there are still seats available...
Very odd choice of images (his beach chair, she's probably with him and has a chair just to the far left,) but the words were sufficient.
How do you know I'm not suffering from a Charlie horse? Maybe I have arthritis. Maybe I just ran the whole way and am tired. Seriously this one I disagree.
Peeing Close To Someone In The Urinal
Nobody wants to pee standing close to someone else. If you’re not sure you know all of the unwritten rules about peeing in the urinals, make sure you take this test.
Urinals just need to be banned altogether. So disgusting, urine spraying back at you the whole time. Add to that how many people don't wash their hands. Just ew.
They just need a better, more curved design to prevent against backsplash. Basic fluid dynamics seem to elude most people. P**s tangent to the curved surface in the corner, and it won't splash. I figured this out when I was 9. That's not saying that ALL fixtures are like this, but urinals are better than toilets (for taking a leak, at least), in that they use less porcelain, and less water as well.
Load More Replies...I even saw people who pee into the ground in front of the urinal, standing far away and try to pee into the urinal with his micro d**k, ended up peeing all over the ground and just left (without washing hands)...
That is absolutely disgusting. I feel so bad for the people that have to clean that up.
Load More Replies...Much worse, and happens all the time : peeing on the floor in front of the urinal, peeing ON TOP (I swear) of the urinal. I think parents should teach their kids from a young age on "how to pee" so that once adult they can do this in a descent way, because apparently most adult men struggle with this their whole life.
in my work there are 3 urinals. Always leave a space between you and the other person peeing. I thought that was an unwritten rule of the toilet. Apparently a bunch of folk in my work have not heard this and like to take the middle Urinal, standing legs spread like they are king of the loo.
I don't get urinals. At home, men pee in a toilet, there IS no urinal in the private space, so why make a difference in the public space ? Plus, men never close the door behind them, and I have to see them pee when I walk by getting to the Ladies Room. Disgusting. I like unisex bathrooms, so everyone has to wait for their turn, no matter if you're a man or a women. Equality !
Why do you look into the open door of the mens room if you don't want to see in there ?
Load More Replies...I know I sound old, but there are people who really need to learn some manners and common sense; and also to stop thinking only about themselves and show some basic empathy
You don't sound old. You sound sensible. Wish there were more sensible and rational people on this world. We've turned into a species of ignorant, idiotic cry babies.
Load More Replies...They need to add a few I think, like : Farting in an elevator or confined space where others are unable to leave, blocking aisles in the supermarket for no reason, bringing babies into a movie theater, especially for movies not geared for kids, and for the men "hollering" at a women when she walks by. Seriously when has that ever worked?
I live in an area where large groups of people will just sort of gather in the aisles to converse and do not get out of the way even when you say, "excuse me, please". They often have free-roaming children misbehaving, as well. Also has a baby screaming through Deadpool at the theater. Seriously, lady? Either hire a sitter or wait until the movie comes out for rent. I had four kids and never did something like that.
Load More Replies...I agree with every one of them. So nice to know it irritates others and hasn't simply been normalised as modern behaviour.
1. Waitresses who are overly friendly (you know they only want a tip). 2. Holding a door for someone who is far away making them walk faster. 3. Double, triple or quadruple parking. 4. Parking your shopping cart in the middle of an isle and not letting people get around it. 5. Engaging the cashier in a casual conversation and making people in line wait until you are finished. 6. Letting young children run around in a restaurant or when attending a live event. 7. Not moving when the light turns green because you are on your cell phone. 8. Making an obvious joke to a stranger and thinking you are funny. I had an acquaintance who was a waitress named Wilma, every customer asked if she was married to Fred, they all thought they were originally funny. 9. If a cashier line opens up some people will run up to it not letting people who were ahead in line go first. 10. Not flushing after a sitdown. Nasty, Nasty, Nasty.
When someboddy tries to fallaciously correct me with an iignorant 'common sense' argument, I call it "common nonsense". Most of these examples are about being rude or selfish, not about common sense. The 'flat earth' common sense argument that, "Since the sun 'rises' from the east and 'set's' in the west; obviously, the sun moves around the Earth. If the Earth were spinning, then everybody would be flung off into space." Today, the most ignorant "common nonsense" argument is, "of course wearing a mask prevents the spreading of a virus"! NONSENSE! a mask (cloth, surgical, or N95), may trap 40%, 75%, or even 95% of particles LARGER than 5 microns. Most aerosols are 0.5 to 3.5 microns, and a viron is as small as 100 nanometers or 0.1 microns! Therefore, they pass right through the mask. Even if they do get trapped in the mask, the other 60%, 25%, or 5%, that isn't trapped is being released into the environment WITH EVERY BREATH ! So, contamination is just a matter of time, mask or not!
All of this doesn't sound like common sense to me, but like basic manners ! Common sense implies some intelligence for doing things in a certain way thats not dumb af, but all this is just... politeness and social manners, mixed with basic hygiene.
Some are spot on, some seem too fussy. Public space is by definition shared. If someone isn't harassing or touching you, be tolerant & go about your business.
Mine is people walking on the wrong side of the sidewalk... stay to the right!
what... these are just gripes... my gripe, listing everyone's gripes is really annoying.
I know I sound old, but there are people who really need to learn some manners and common sense; and also to stop thinking only about themselves and show some basic empathy
You don't sound old. You sound sensible. Wish there were more sensible and rational people on this world. We've turned into a species of ignorant, idiotic cry babies.
Load More Replies...They need to add a few I think, like : Farting in an elevator or confined space where others are unable to leave, blocking aisles in the supermarket for no reason, bringing babies into a movie theater, especially for movies not geared for kids, and for the men "hollering" at a women when she walks by. Seriously when has that ever worked?
I live in an area where large groups of people will just sort of gather in the aisles to converse and do not get out of the way even when you say, "excuse me, please". They often have free-roaming children misbehaving, as well. Also has a baby screaming through Deadpool at the theater. Seriously, lady? Either hire a sitter or wait until the movie comes out for rent. I had four kids and never did something like that.
Load More Replies...I agree with every one of them. So nice to know it irritates others and hasn't simply been normalised as modern behaviour.
1. Waitresses who are overly friendly (you know they only want a tip). 2. Holding a door for someone who is far away making them walk faster. 3. Double, triple or quadruple parking. 4. Parking your shopping cart in the middle of an isle and not letting people get around it. 5. Engaging the cashier in a casual conversation and making people in line wait until you are finished. 6. Letting young children run around in a restaurant or when attending a live event. 7. Not moving when the light turns green because you are on your cell phone. 8. Making an obvious joke to a stranger and thinking you are funny. I had an acquaintance who was a waitress named Wilma, every customer asked if she was married to Fred, they all thought they were originally funny. 9. If a cashier line opens up some people will run up to it not letting people who were ahead in line go first. 10. Not flushing after a sitdown. Nasty, Nasty, Nasty.
When someboddy tries to fallaciously correct me with an iignorant 'common sense' argument, I call it "common nonsense". Most of these examples are about being rude or selfish, not about common sense. The 'flat earth' common sense argument that, "Since the sun 'rises' from the east and 'set's' in the west; obviously, the sun moves around the Earth. If the Earth were spinning, then everybody would be flung off into space." Today, the most ignorant "common nonsense" argument is, "of course wearing a mask prevents the spreading of a virus"! NONSENSE! a mask (cloth, surgical, or N95), may trap 40%, 75%, or even 95% of particles LARGER than 5 microns. Most aerosols are 0.5 to 3.5 microns, and a viron is as small as 100 nanometers or 0.1 microns! Therefore, they pass right through the mask. Even if they do get trapped in the mask, the other 60%, 25%, or 5%, that isn't trapped is being released into the environment WITH EVERY BREATH ! So, contamination is just a matter of time, mask or not!
All of this doesn't sound like common sense to me, but like basic manners ! Common sense implies some intelligence for doing things in a certain way thats not dumb af, but all this is just... politeness and social manners, mixed with basic hygiene.
Some are spot on, some seem too fussy. Public space is by definition shared. If someone isn't harassing or touching you, be tolerant & go about your business.
Mine is people walking on the wrong side of the sidewalk... stay to the right!
what... these are just gripes... my gripe, listing everyone's gripes is really annoying.
