35 Times Single Moms Took Their Entitlement To The Next Level And Got Shamed For It On This Facebook Group
Finding a good deal is a skill. Some people compile coupons, compare prices and scrape together any and all possible discounts, promotions, and other sales. But for every educated buyer, there is a person whose strategy boils down to “give me things because I said so.”
The “Single mom is not a coupon code” Facebook group documents and shares all the unhinged encounters sellers have had with women who tried to leverage motherhood into free stuff. So get ready to roll your eyes as you scroll through and be sure to upvote your favorites. And don’t forget to comment your own “choosing beggar” stories below.
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"My daughter wants to learn violine, so give me your Stradivari, bitchh!"
Let’s get it right out of the way, single mothers do often have a lot to deal with. It’s not easy, looking after kids alone and trying to fend for themselves at the same time. However, as the old adage goes, if you make the bed, you lay in it. So trying to have random people subsidize the consequences of your own actions is deeply entitled.
Unfortunately, a feeling of entitlement is very often wholly unrelated to the things we might think would make someone entitled to benefits, station, ability, or even disability. Instead, particularly entitled people tend to have very poor social skills, which means that everyone who has to deal with them ends up getting unreasonable demands from the most undeserving people. Entitlement is linked with poor emotional regulation skills, so many of these single moms do sincerely believe they deserve what they are asking for and are more likely to get angry at a refusal.
Sometimes entitlement can come from the belief that the universe owes you something. After all, being a single mom is unlikely to be the main choice of lifestyle for these women. So they may rationalize their situation with the belief that because they have gone through hardships, they are owed a break by karma, God, or some other cosmic arbitrator. This tends to cause some amount of anger when it crashes into the reality that a seller won’t just give away free things.
This behavior isn’t just limited to single moms, in fact, they at least have a reason to try and ask for a discount. But there are just as many random people online who simply decide to get free or discounted things because they feel like it. Entire online communities are dedicated to sharing and documenting these encounters, for example, the “Choosing Beggars” subreddit. The risk of being shamed and immortalized online doesn’t seem to stop most of these individuals, so at least we can get a nice laugh out of the situation.
Wait. Was she seriously hoping that her kid screaming loud enough would make the poor dairy queen guys give out free ice cream?
Are these ranked in the order to make me angrier after reading each one?
Welcome to reality… where everything gets more and more infuriating if you don’t get your coffee in the morning XD
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So imagine every person who has a bratty kid that screams for sh@t they can't have, had the "right" to demand free stuff from shops just because they can't control their demon spawn ....wow
I get it. They bank wouldnt give me any money when I went in either. What is up with these businesses??
If you pulled that at a bank, you'd be arrested. "I need money for my kids!"
His screaming didn't break her heart, just her nerve. This is a great way of breeding the next generation of Karens.
I'm wondering who told her the world owes her and her kid a free ice cream cone.
Poor people who work at dairy queen. Probably not first time she did this. I get kids can't always have what they want. There are many ways to calm the child expecting someone else to fix it is stupid.
The mother may need some parenting help. But demanding free ice cream is not the way to get it.
UM - so you were confused/upset that an establishment expected you to pay for your purchase? What is the world coming to when Moms can't get free sh*t for their kids. OMG.
If the kid cries loud enough would she ask for a free elephant at the zoo?
Jack needs to learn that having a meltdown won’t work, and that no means no, I see problems in this kids future!
The kid is only entitled if he's over the age of 5. Tantrums before that age are age-appropriate behavior, regardless of the parent. They're still learning emotional and behavioral regulation.
Who in their "right" mind would even think this would work? That child is going to need some serious psych help later.
Can we go to your work and get free stuff? No? Well then. WTF did you expect. Idiot
we're seeing the results of these types of parents right now, partially why this country is going to c**p
If you are not familiar with the term choosing beggar, it’s just a play on the old saying that “beggars can’t be choosers.” Simply put, if you are asking for a free thing, you should be grateful for what you get and not start making demands. Unfortunately, as this list and the aforementioned subreddit demonstrate, there are people who believe they absolutely can and should be choosers and will try to negotiate from a position of zero power. Brave, misguided, but you can’t knock their confidence.
There is a sort of twisted logic to just trying to guilt people into free stuff. Normally, begging has some shame attached to it, but doing it online creates a bit of a barrier. Similarly, digital communication lets people reach a much larger audience, so many of these choosing beggars seem to believe that if you just cast a net wide enough, someone will send you money. I’m not sure who they are envisioning, as I have never sent a random person money or free stuff, but statistically, there must be a few individuals who do it.
How does the logic work when the person politely declines and the beggar insults them. 'Oh, sorry, now that you put it like that, yes, I realise I am an a*****e and tell you what - you can have the car I was selling for free!'
So instead of trying a normal barging approach or accepting the (limited) help someone might give you, a lot of these people adopt a gambling strategy and just try to win big. This could be the result of overconfidence, as our brains, unfortunately, often overestimate our own role in our success while underestimating just how often we are to blame for our failures. So without sufficient self-awareness, people build up a massively inflated sense of self that translates into a breathtakingly misguided self-confidence.
So in the case of these moms, we can see the interaction of a number of forces. First, the entitlement, the belief that they should just get stuff because they are forced to shoulder the burden of motherhood alone. Remember, entitlement also limits emotional regulation skills, so these types of people will at the same time likely suffer the overconfidence and inflated sense of self that could lead a person to truly believe they deserve free things and that any who stand in their way must just be greedy and evil. So remember to keep some Facebook marketplace sellers in your prayers.
It’s called ‘contraceptive’ lady, you can’t just have kids and expect to rave like you’re in your early 20s chewing your face off like a zombie 😆 you grow the f**k up when you have kids. (I chose raves, parties and drugs over kids, I don’t believe having both is responsible, I was also raised by idiots like this, kids need responsible parents not party animals.)
"I'm poly and he's mono" is one way of saying, "I cheated on him & got caught."
I'm not sure I'd trust anyone to watch an infant for $40/day, over 12 hours a day.
So far with this thread, the first thing I’ll be doing is going to court to make sure they pay child support
Honestly - it is not a very bad deal. It is not like she offered 500 or 1000. Usually, people will try to underbid a bit - that is how the marketplace works. Don't like her manipulating it, further down the story. Don't like his reaction either. Yet,basically, wanting 3000 and getting 2500 ( in cash) offered is not that entitled.
My gf and I are moving 14 hours away and selling things we don’t need or don’t care about to fund the gas. I had to beg her to send me a screenshot. She was MUCH nicer than I would have been. I wanted to screenshot this group name. Lol. Y’all ruined me. jk I’m here cause I’m already a kindred spirit. But the audacity. 200 dollar frame. 30 bucks.
Oh. For my gfs privacy. I cropped her. She explained why it’s 30. And said if no one buys sure. Single moms response?
“K” lol
I don't see how this is entitled. It's a bedframe being offered for $30 and she's just simply asking if she could have it for free for her kids. When told, basically, no unless no one buys it, she didn't clap back with insults like the rest of these posts. She just said ok.
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some of these aren't choosing beggars at all, some of these are just sad :(
I was just about to say, a lot of these are just to the point begging, and I'm like, am I supposed to laugh here? Cringe? Because neither happens, I just feel sad for them.
Load More Replies... Some of these people look like they are actually struggling like the person asking for pants for her son. I'm not saying everyone is being honest and obviously some are really bad but some do seem genuine. Not everyone who asks for help is a choosing beggar
Some people miss the point of choosing beggars. People in need who beg for help are not automatically choosing beggars. They're just beggars and it's sad that for example single moms have to beg for childcare so they can work because no affordable child care is available for them. Or when people have to beg for food and clothing. The choosing part is infuriating, but that's when people decline reasonable options they don't like and/or ask for luxuries they don't need.
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Half of these are simply mothers who ask for help. They only get shamed because they mention that they are single. And often enough it seems that the fathers are the actual arseholes. I stopped reading. What a f****d up society shames women for trying to find a home for their kid, but says nothing about the father who kicked said kid out? Mentioned it a couple of times: I guess most are from the USA, and it's clear why they need to force women to bear children. I wouldn't want to have them in such a f****d up society, too. This being said - yes, I know. Many of you are better than that. So please - if you see this kind of shaming, speak up. And help, if you can and if the request is worded politely. FFS, I'm so glad to live in a better place than this, where we help single parents.
There's obviously some selfish and horrible people here, but I find it troubling that these posts are always aimed at moms. They crop up pretty regularly, and they're never focused on dads behaving badly on behalf of their kids. Is that because we have such low expectations of fathers? Or is it just easier to shame and target women. I get that some of these are just rotten people, but lumping these posts into a list where we all scapegoat one parent feels gross. This seems to play into misogyny and stereotypes rather than calling out bad behavior.
I came here to comment the exact same thing. The "entitled mom" meme is mostly driven by the fact that online culture is so male-dominated. People of all types sometimes behave well and sometimes behave badly. But if any group in our society should be given grace and support, it's mothers. Especially single mothers!
Load More Replies... Most of these people should have used contraceptives instead of complaining about life and dragging a poor kid down with them
Some of the comments on these post are really vile. We don't know these people nore their struggle and still some people here assume the worst about them and comment really nasty things.
Ya know, Justin, learn some empathy. That may help you distinguish between real choosing beggars , and desperate, struggling people. Or no, you just need to be born with empathy, right? Go gather some pictures of baby animals now.
I have a feeling Justin might have just been a lazy author and used an AI to do his work for him? Wouldn't surprise me if Bored Panda just started doing whole list with AI to write them.
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There's a big difference between "just give me your nearly new car for free, you jerk, before my kids start crying" and "help, I just lost my home and have kids...their dad is a deadbeat...can anyone help me".
Good on them! IDK why people are shaming these queens, they are just doing what they need to do to survive, we should instead shame the a*****e men that left them! 👏🏻
Obviously it all the mens fault. Women are not capable of functioning without a man and are pathetic fragile creatures that just can't cope without a man's support. Not my view but what I'm hearing in your sexist little rant.
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A few of them made me sad. But also- if your a “single mother struggling financially” why are you getting a tattoo?
yeahhhh this is a dumb list. some actual choosy beggars, but also some people in actual need here.
The top half are definitely using being a single mom as an excuse to be entitled. I ran into this once, I could not believe she was serious. Was on a quick trip to Disney, carry on luggage only, and saw a lady wanting a person to pick up a specific item for their child for the holidays. I offered to help since my trip was to make new, happy memories. Item took up a lot of my luggage but I figured I could just not get other items for myself. We agreed on a price, I used mobile checkout so I could screencap prices. Once home, I promptly became sick and had to put the item outside my door for her to pick up (covered hallway apartment). She picked up, saying thank you but noticed a small spot , that could easily be washed out without compromising the item, but she flipped out and demanded I give her a discount. This is after she paid. I made it clear at the beginning I'm not a personal shopper and when she demanded this, I said I'm not a store, I'm not going to refund anything ...
... she pulled out the whole single mom bit that can't afford a lot (after the price of item, taxes, small pick up fee, and currency conversion, she happily paid $60). She said I ruined their holidays. When I told her I was really sick and couldn't handle the conversation anymore, she brought out this whole "I've been sick for 2.5 years!" And proceeded to tell me her medical history. It was insane. She kept repeating about being a single parent. I just blocked her, just no. I'm a student that moved to another country on her own after escaping an abusive relationship with no funding for my first semester, only being able to go on the very short trip due to a very generous gift. Like, seriously lady? She tried reporting me to the group admin but I messaged them letting them know what happened. Their first reaction: it was very kind of you to offer to pick that up for her.
Load More Replies... i mean some were pretty entitled but the majority seem to be people really asking for help
I have a problem with the term "entitlement" in reference to single mothers. I would love if I culture could keep this term in the realm of people who because of age, gender, or race feel as if the rules everyone follow (social contract and all) do not apply to them. Making fun of a parent who is raging over a child not getting a free ice cream cone makes me want to hug her more than laugh or shame her.
what a trash list, just shows the rude opinionated twits how run this site. Man... give some of these woman a break! Did an AI write this?
Or and I know this may be a radical idea, so I understand if it's a concept you may struggle with, how about you hold the men who decide not to support the children they are 50% responsible for creating completely accountable for that decision? We could even make groups and posts about them and how utterly abhorrent that is and shame them? See told you it was radical
Load More Replies... some of these aren't choosing beggars at all, some of these are just sad :(
I was just about to say, a lot of these are just to the point begging, and I'm like, am I supposed to laugh here? Cringe? Because neither happens, I just feel sad for them.
Load More Replies... Some of these people look like they are actually struggling like the person asking for pants for her son. I'm not saying everyone is being honest and obviously some are really bad but some do seem genuine. Not everyone who asks for help is a choosing beggar
Some people miss the point of choosing beggars. People in need who beg for help are not automatically choosing beggars. They're just beggars and it's sad that for example single moms have to beg for childcare so they can work because no affordable child care is available for them. Or when people have to beg for food and clothing. The choosing part is infuriating, but that's when people decline reasonable options they don't like and/or ask for luxuries they don't need.
Load More Replies... Half of these are simply mothers who ask for help. They only get shamed because they mention that they are single. And often enough it seems that the fathers are the actual arseholes. I stopped reading. What a f****d up society shames women for trying to find a home for their kid, but says nothing about the father who kicked said kid out? Mentioned it a couple of times: I guess most are from the USA, and it's clear why they need to force women to bear children. I wouldn't want to have them in such a f****d up society, too. This being said - yes, I know. Many of you are better than that. So please - if you see this kind of shaming, speak up. And help, if you can and if the request is worded politely. FFS, I'm so glad to live in a better place than this, where we help single parents.
There's obviously some selfish and horrible people here, but I find it troubling that these posts are always aimed at moms. They crop up pretty regularly, and they're never focused on dads behaving badly on behalf of their kids. Is that because we have such low expectations of fathers? Or is it just easier to shame and target women. I get that some of these are just rotten people, but lumping these posts into a list where we all scapegoat one parent feels gross. This seems to play into misogyny and stereotypes rather than calling out bad behavior.
I came here to comment the exact same thing. The "entitled mom" meme is mostly driven by the fact that online culture is so male-dominated. People of all types sometimes behave well and sometimes behave badly. But if any group in our society should be given grace and support, it's mothers. Especially single mothers!
Load More Replies... Most of these people should have used contraceptives instead of complaining about life and dragging a poor kid down with them
Some of the comments on these post are really vile. We don't know these people nore their struggle and still some people here assume the worst about them and comment really nasty things.
Ya know, Justin, learn some empathy. That may help you distinguish between real choosing beggars , and desperate, struggling people. Or no, you just need to be born with empathy, right? Go gather some pictures of baby animals now.
I have a feeling Justin might have just been a lazy author and used an AI to do his work for him? Wouldn't surprise me if Bored Panda just started doing whole list with AI to write them.
Load More Replies... There's a big difference between "just give me your nearly new car for free, you jerk, before my kids start crying" and "help, I just lost my home and have kids...their dad is a deadbeat...can anyone help me".
Good on them! IDK why people are shaming these queens, they are just doing what they need to do to survive, we should instead shame the a*****e men that left them! 👏🏻
Obviously it all the mens fault. Women are not capable of functioning without a man and are pathetic fragile creatures that just can't cope without a man's support. Not my view but what I'm hearing in your sexist little rant.
Load More Replies... A few of them made me sad. But also- if your a “single mother struggling financially” why are you getting a tattoo?
yeahhhh this is a dumb list. some actual choosy beggars, but also some people in actual need here.
The top half are definitely using being a single mom as an excuse to be entitled. I ran into this once, I could not believe she was serious. Was on a quick trip to Disney, carry on luggage only, and saw a lady wanting a person to pick up a specific item for their child for the holidays. I offered to help since my trip was to make new, happy memories. Item took up a lot of my luggage but I figured I could just not get other items for myself. We agreed on a price, I used mobile checkout so I could screencap prices. Once home, I promptly became sick and had to put the item outside my door for her to pick up (covered hallway apartment). She picked up, saying thank you but noticed a small spot , that could easily be washed out without compromising the item, but she flipped out and demanded I give her a discount. This is after she paid. I made it clear at the beginning I'm not a personal shopper and when she demanded this, I said I'm not a store, I'm not going to refund anything ...
... she pulled out the whole single mom bit that can't afford a lot (after the price of item, taxes, small pick up fee, and currency conversion, she happily paid $60). She said I ruined their holidays. When I told her I was really sick and couldn't handle the conversation anymore, she brought out this whole "I've been sick for 2.5 years!" And proceeded to tell me her medical history. It was insane. She kept repeating about being a single parent. I just blocked her, just no. I'm a student that moved to another country on her own after escaping an abusive relationship with no funding for my first semester, only being able to go on the very short trip due to a very generous gift. Like, seriously lady? She tried reporting me to the group admin but I messaged them letting them know what happened. Their first reaction: it was very kind of you to offer to pick that up for her.
Load More Replies... i mean some were pretty entitled but the majority seem to be people really asking for help
I have a problem with the term "entitlement" in reference to single mothers. I would love if I culture could keep this term in the realm of people who because of age, gender, or race feel as if the rules everyone follow (social contract and all) do not apply to them. Making fun of a parent who is raging over a child not getting a free ice cream cone makes me want to hug her more than laugh or shame her.
what a trash list, just shows the rude opinionated twits how run this site. Man... give some of these woman a break! Did an AI write this?
Or and I know this may be a radical idea, so I understand if it's a concept you may struggle with, how about you hold the men who decide not to support the children they are 50% responsible for creating completely accountable for that decision? We could even make groups and posts about them and how utterly abhorrent that is and shame them? See told you it was radical
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