30 Of The Most Brilliant Things People Realized In Therapy That They Felt Everyone Should Know About

I have high functioning autism, but for me that means I'm not taken seriously and a lot of people (including healthcare professionals) don't believe I need the help/resources that other autistic people get. It feels invalidating and lonely.

Clinical anxiety is no joke. Sometimes I still worry about whether all I am is a nuisance to loved ones and strangers alike based on that alone. Then, I remember I am much more than a lack of certain brain chemicals and it does help!

This so resonates with me. Am deeply depressed/affected by the weight of the world. I hide it very, very well! The only place I feel I can freely talk about the heavy despair I feel is with my therapist. At night I curl up with the dogs. With my husband, friends and family I mainly listen and cheer them on. The minutiae is a solace, the birds, the faces of the flowers in the early mornings and the groggy bees. I try so hard to find joy in these small things to fill the void in my heart.

I hate it when you tell someone ur neurodivergent and they go ‘u hide it so well!’ Like it’s a good thing. It’s not it jsut makes it worse for me so ur not uncomfy.

Amen

God that's such an unexpected outcome, I'm so pleased that it worked out so well xxxx

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Glad OP took care of himself. When one partner has dementia, the caregivers partner is much more likely to die first due to added stress and lack of self care. I assume this can hold true for other diseases as well.

Don't argue with idiots. Which is most people anyway.

However, when you 'avoid' arguments by never replying, or by walking out rather than address the issue, then this is not 'always' good advice.

Oooohh, sage advice. Thank you..

Working on that one every day

Then why some people just cannot pass up the opportunity?

There are reasons why we procrastinate. Once we find out the why and stop beating us up about it, many tasks become easier, more doable. I had a fair amount of coaching sessions about it. i still procrastinate and always will, but much less and no longer to point of self-sabotage.

I started to read this; maybe I'll finish it later? I'll get back to it, possibly.

me avoiding doing my english research project rn

I read a story about someone whose boss had a “No Self Bullying” sign. After making a mistake and being hard on him/herself the boss showed the sign again and said “I don’t tolerate bullying of any kind” (or something on that order). This is up there with the “today I’m not going to ‘should’ all over myself” sign at my old therapist’s office.

Be careful to make a habit of positive self-talk instead. For me, remembering that God created me exactly the way He wants me and that my past does not and will never define me helps immensely.

He (or she) who successfully breaks the cycle is a hero of the highest order. It's very difficult to do. My mother fought to break her family's toxic cycles. She was successful to a large extent.

Right? It's called CHOICES. Yeah, we had kind of a crappy childhood, it still doesn't excuse your narcissistic / completely self absorbed behavior - sister I no longer speak to.

So much is normalised from a troubled upbringing that it's harder than it should be to break the cycle. You just don't know that you're either doing wrong or accepting unfair treatment..

Seeing my mental illnesses through the lens of them being adaptations to keep me alive, rather than as adversaries, has made it a little easier to live with them.

Quite true, but one of the ways it keeps you alive is by releasing chemicals that make you feel good when you do things that tend to keep you alive. Foods in nature, that are sweet and tasty, are less apt to poison you; being close to others and belonging to a group protects you, etc. But it is so easy to create things that feel "good" in modern civilization, even if they are not necessarily good for you, that the system has become dysfunctional. And we have confused feeling "good" with being "happy".

It is in fact not even designed

So true :0

Something I heard which greatly affected the way I am... "What others think of you is none of your business."

So are my actions towards another people reflection of their actions towards me.

So true! As Maya Angelou said, ‘when someone shows you who they are, believe them.’

Well this is me lol I learned to tell my inner mean girl to shut the **ck up!

Preach.

Don't tell someone the day they get bad news all the things they should be saying to themselves in order to cope. I found out I have almost no cartilage left in my right knee, which impacts pretty much every plan I have made in the past year of making huge strides in having something other than misery in my life for the first time in 25 years. It affects how I make friends, my activities, where I live, whether to move to another state, which car to purchase, my finances, the thought it might not be too late to have good energetic sex (which I've never had), etc. People were trying to give me the old, "Well, on the bright side," immediately. DON'T DO THAT! I needed a few days to grieve for a big loss of potential life.

My nephew died 3 weeks ago. He was 25.

Often we feel guilty for not smiling, being happy and being a 'downer' We are entitled to feel how we feel, no one should make us deny our feelings..

I love it when I recognise the emotion of sadness because it is a real emotion that has fought its way through the fog of Depression and PTSD.

Also, timers for housework and personal hygiene are good when those feel like too much.

I literally do this all the time b/c motivation is a huge hindrance for me. And yes it works. I dont want to work out, but I can handle doing it for 5 mins. Before I know it, my whole 1 hr workout is done, yay

Do the things you don't like to do first, the things that you do like to do will be even more fun.

This is dumb. If the issue is motivation, timeboxing it to 5 minutes is not going to suddenly fix whatever is causing the lack of motivation.