Often, I intuitively know something but realize it only after someone says it out loud. If it's a movie insight, then there's no big deal. But if we're talking about an important life lesson, I sure as heck would've liked figuring it out by myself earlier rather than later.
So when I saw this post on r/AskReddit by u/PeakABoo_IFKU, I knew I was in for a treat. The Redditor asked: "What is the best advice you can give someone?" And after scrolling through some 2,000 comments, I think you'd like to see the best ones as well. From taking care of your body to working on your mind, continue scrolling and check them out!
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Imagine all the time that you spend worrying about your embarrassing moments. Now understand that almost everyone else does the same. Nobody is thinking about your embarrassing things. Just their own. I find this idea freeing.
Actually, I remember both the embarassing things that I did and that others did...realizing that everybody is continuously doing mildly stupid things is freeing as suggested above, though. Moreover, I guess we tend to overrate the "level" of embarassment of stupid things, i.e. the same mishap we would find more embarassing when happening to ourself to when we observe it from others.
Be careful who you have kids with.
They should use a different picture. The Bundy's raised two very successful kids. Both are actors.
Expect nothing, and appreciate everything.
You are only responsible for yourself . You cannot and should not try to control others even if you think you're being charitable. Similarly don't let other people control your emotions.
Unfortunately personal responsibility isn't something people are taught anymore. It's easier to blame someone else.
Document everything. A lot of people have bad intentions and are looking to screw you over for their personal gain. Having things documented and on paper will prevent them from taking advantage of you.
A deal is only as good as the paper it's written on and the person who put their signature to it
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THIS THIS THIS. No matter how miniscule a seemingly insignificant detail, jot it down, time and date it with "Per [enter weasel's initials here]". Email and text communication before phone (but document time & date & gist of each call), and take a quick screenshot or photo of any involved items or documents. Use an object for scale in photos. My go-to is my own foot; ex: "Size 10 shoe for scale." Always, always, ALWAYS get it in writing, document the little things, and save save save.
Even when in writing, documented, and supported by medical professionals family court doesn't care. You are at the mercy of the judge, their mood for the day, and heaven forbid if your proof goes against their "go to expert" of 30yrs.
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Even if people don't have bad intentions, proper documentation can clarify the past where human memory fails. Your boss may not have bad intentions when they send you an email telling you to stop working on one project to do another, and then saying he never told you to do that when the first client calls for status on their project and needs to up the timeline. People forget, or think they did something when they didn't (a lot of us type emails to people and then get pulled away by something else and forget to send them). Making sure all conversations are documented in writing makes sure they're is a "hard copy" of something so that fallible human memory can't cause issues.
If I am signing something with a lot of pages, I sit and read, and I mean READ every single page. I don't care how long it takes to do that even if the person who gave it to me is getting annoyed at how long its taking. I'm signing this and so I want to know what it says. If there's any disclaimers I don't understand you're going to get asked to explain. When I worked in Day Surgery it was occasionally noted in the chart that the surgeon had previously explained everything and so we could get the consent. Patients would tell us they don't need to read it. Just give it to them and they'll sign. The thing is, it also contained the risks of anesthesia, like you could die. Nope. Argue with me and I'll stand there and read all of it to you. We are allowed to witness it, but it is witness to signature only, not that they understand it. But they can't say they didn't know what it said.
I think this is the one that would have saved me the most. I was too naive and trusting all my life and had so much money stolen from me. Once I didn't have any more money they literally stole all the art jewelry and furniture. Every time I trusted someone, they took advantage. Now I am old and filled with regrets for my stupidity.
Always keep your first hydro/electric/gas bill from when you moved in to your home and your last, and a copy of your lease. My hydro account was stolen and all the previous information, including address and everything was deleted from the company's system and only this other address I had never lived at was showing, and whoever had done this racked up a debt I had to pay off in order to activate a new service.
As a former 911 Dispatcher I take notes on EVERY thing...and lemme tell you the older you get, the better habit is...especially Medical visits.✌
That sounds a bit paranoid though. Be careful with all that involves money or any kind of commitment from your part, for sure. But we also need to be in situations where we can simply trust one another without a second thought. A lot of cool social activities would not be possible otherwise.
I don't think this is true. Most people are good. Anxiety and distrust are bad advisors.
Most people are good indeed. But most people make mistakes as well. Documented records can help each party find the right way when they get disoriented.
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Something I am grateful to my father for: date photos, books, papers, what have you.
Not really. "The Nigerian Prince says he loves me, and just needs to borrow €2000. I'm going to lend it to him." Having written it down doesn't prevent the hustle from happening.
Ugh more of this Machiavellian thinking that seems such a deep cultural staple of USA.
This is nothing to do wih Machiavelli. There are a number of people I know who have put up with colleagues, bosses, 'friends' or family members who constantly either harassed, abused or undermined them, but they never took my advice to document or keep a diary. Then when the problem becomes unbearable or the abuse worsens, they have no proof, no dates, no clear recollection of details, etc. etc. and so they fail to get the help and support that they need. Even keepig a diary can help you realise just how bad a problem is - it's basic human psychology to downplay things to ourselves when it's a relationship or career on the line.
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Just because you don’t like something doesn’t mean it’s inherently bad. Don’t s**t on someone because they find joy in something you don’t.
I’m referring to things like movies, music, art, food, etc.
It's okay to not be okay
I don't mind people telling me how they're not ok, it can be therapeutic for them to share what they're feeling. Sometimes all someone needs is some compassion to realize that it's ok to not be ok. But when they're always talking about their problems, aren't helped by a compassionate listener, and never do any thing to address their problems, then I feel that type of "not ok" is not ok—for them or for me.
Don't be so hard on yourself, sometimes life gets complicated, is not your fault, just do your very best in every situation, and let things go as they should
Drink water
It's amazing to me how many actually don't. I worked with a woman for years who drank nothing but diet Coke. Never saw her drink anything else.
Learn skills to make yourself as self sufficient as possible.
Yea this became glaringly obvious when the pandemic hit. Things everyone should know: how to sew, basic woodworking (you should be able to cut 2 pieces of wood and screw them together), and how to dress a chicken.
Never put anyone on a pedestal, they will have no choice but to look down on you.
This one I learned the hard way. Treat everyone equally as we all have the same value. No life's worth more or less. We all exist and each life is valuable. There's nowhere that states that a life is worth more because of skin color, gender, money, education, nationality, culture, success, etc.
If someone really loves you they won't intentionally hurt you.
You are only young once, but you can be immature forever.
Try it. Whatever it is you are debating, as long as it doesn't hurt anyone, and isn't illegal, try it.
Not trying it is going to weigh on you far more than any minor embarrassment you may get from trying it.
Take responsibility for your actions.
3 rules I found in life that have found should followed...Dont lie, don't steal, and if you screw up admit it.
Is there anything you can do about it?
No?
Then don't worry about it.
Never lose sight of the parts of life you're absolutely clear about. The truest part of ourselves is found inside that clarity.
Also, never ever ever be afraid to start over. You will NOT be starting from scratch, you will be starting from experience.
Treat yourself as if you’re someone you’re trying to help
Don't go to college UNLESS you are REALLY READY to do so.
I strongly reject this one. There might be some truth for countries like the US where tuition will cost a fortune, but in general, I strongly believe that lifelong learning is essential, that it is *always* the right time to try out learning something new, and that *any time* in life is the right time to find out what you want to do; taking up studies may well be part of this process, regardless of whether you retain these or soon give them up again.
There’s only one person in the world that can possibly act in your best interests in every situation: yourself.
Take care of your teeth and body when you are young.
47 year old dude with bad knees from playing sports.
Every time my kid doesn't want to brush her teeth I tell her that she needs to look at the brown spots on mine
Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it
Don't react. Respond. The difference is reacting is a visceral emotional automation, whereas responding means to think and give an appropriate reply.
Not sure where i got this from but: If you were able to believe in Santa for 10 years or more, you can definitely believe in yourself for 10 minutes.
At a minimum, at least be honest with yourself. At least be true to who you are. And if you don’t know, figure that out.
Don't stay up late doing something that you would not wake up early for.
Meditate. Try. Every morning. It has freed me from some of the dark side effects of my mental illness.
Also, establish a great morning routine and night routine and stick to it. Practice gratitude every day.
Let go of resentment and hatred you have for others. No matter what they’ve done. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive does not mean you tolerate what they’ve done or that what they did was okay- but it is meant to free YOU. So you can move forward and reclaim the power you feel you’ve lost. You can be compassionately wrathful and stand up for what’s right without hate in your heart. Hate only hurts you in the end.
Ie. My brother was murdered- but I have never hated the man that killed him. I don’t have to live with that resentment in my life
Take advantage of health insurance when you have it
As in get regular physicals and preventative care, address small problems before they potentially turn into bigger problems at the same time as you lose your insurance. Sneaking suspicion that you might be pre-diabetic, or have the family high blood pressure? Get it checked out. Small painful lump, or mole that's looking different than it used to? Don't ignore it.
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A lot of these would be great printed on a throw pillow or kid's shirt, but if you're living your life by words from a fortune cookie . . . let me hold your wallet. You look look really tired.
It's more like "be kind but don't be a mug, and always put on your own lifejacket before helping someone else into the lifeboat".
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When you get the chance to sit it out or dance. I hope you dance.
Here's my tip. Don't have the audacity to post a bunch of two bit cliches and think they're interesting.
Honestly, why did you give a platform to these two-bit hacks? They're mostly pretentious simpletons saying the most obvious things and trying to come across as clever.
I loved every one except the covid shot. That will be determined if people look back and appreciate it. A lot of people have died from the shot and this is disturbing to their families.
A lot of people have died from COVID, not the shot, karen.
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Have a sleep schedule - keep it EVERY day for LIFE. Well rested, organized people are SO ahead of the game - it is staggering.
Yes, I'll just tell my insomnia and chronic pain to knock it off.
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Admit mistakes. Don’t justify, deny, or give excuses. Be constructive. With practice it gets easier and it takes a huge burden off your conscience. If you do this, the consequence will more likely be positive rather than punishment. It demonstrates you are willing to learn and improve, which is an admirable quality. Everyone makes mistakes - owning up is what makes the difference.
A lot of these would be great printed on a throw pillow or kid's shirt, but if you're living your life by words from a fortune cookie . . . let me hold your wallet. You look look really tired.
It's more like "be kind but don't be a mug, and always put on your own lifejacket before helping someone else into the lifeboat".
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Here's my tip. Don't have the audacity to post a bunch of two bit cliches and think they're interesting.
Honestly, why did you give a platform to these two-bit hacks? They're mostly pretentious simpletons saying the most obvious things and trying to come across as clever.
I loved every one except the covid shot. That will be determined if people look back and appreciate it. A lot of people have died from the shot and this is disturbing to their families.
A lot of people have died from COVID, not the shot, karen.
Load More Replies... Have a sleep schedule - keep it EVERY day for LIFE. Well rested, organized people are SO ahead of the game - it is staggering.
Yes, I'll just tell my insomnia and chronic pain to knock it off.
Load More Replies... Admit mistakes. Don’t justify, deny, or give excuses. Be constructive. With practice it gets easier and it takes a huge burden off your conscience. If you do this, the consequence will more likely be positive rather than punishment. It demonstrates you are willing to learn and improve, which is an admirable quality. Everyone makes mistakes - owning up is what makes the difference.
