35 People Share The Best Advice They’ve Heard That Made Them Change Their Life

This is how I feel every time I see BP has padded its morning feed with 85% articles about people treating each other horribly. "My GF cheated on me so I stomped on her kitten. AITA?" /S We get it BP - BILLIONS of people in the world and at any given time some of them are busy being horrible human beings. It doesn't mean I want to wallow in it.

This is brilliant.

Once you realise that you don't need to defend yourself against criticism life gets so much easier. We learn these rotten behaviours as children and don't relearn them soon enough.

That's note true, WTF I'm here now let's argue.

I could learn from this. But I also find that when I do show up, I spare others in the future ❤️

I don't know if I could have truly heard that when I first lost my parents. But it means so much now.

My dad died when I was 3 years old, so my memories of him are few and sketchy. After my mom passed away (~60 years later), my husband and I took a trip and visited the little town we lived in then. We found my old house, and right down the street was an old man working in his yard. We stopped and asked him if he remembered my father, who had been a teacher. Turns out that this man had been one of his students, and remembered him well and fondly. He even remembered my mother and us kids. It was pretty incredible.

Whoa.

100% how I see it, too.

A man’s not gone until nobody speaks his name. Holds true for women as well

"Don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't ask for advice" is also one I like in that area

This realization brought me a lot of comfort and peace in my teens. It still does.

logic and emotion seldom meet

If that is the case, then why do I think about other people and how they are doing a lot?

I have to keep reminding myself of this. I keep having anxiety-inducing intrusive thoughts that involve the feeling that everyone thinks I'm really stupid.

Hard to learn, but No ! Is a good word.

This us my entire parenting philosophy. I've always strived to be the parent I needed.

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And now I'm called dramatic or a buzz kill for calling out things like making fun of your kid's shyness or telling the truth how i had no medical person take me seriously, ever if anyone asks ("but don't scare them just say not all of them are bad" when i say i personally haven't met a good doctor yet)

Really good one. I often hear from my partner'and ' who's fault is that' when things go wrong. Makes me furious, s**t happens so work together to solve it instead of blaming each other. I will use this

It takes two to tango. In my case they never have lived up to it.

Several times in my career my boss has called and told me to do something that didn't follow expected procedures or ethics. I've always responded that I'd be happy to do that, but I'd like an email from someone in my management chain instructing me to do it. And the issue is dropped. Every. Single. Time.

AGREE. And it's close cousin - Actually READ THE WRITING. I have seen many instances, including in person, of people whining about the terms of a legal contract they signed. And I don't just mean hidden in tiny print on page 87. I mean large type paragraphs they had to initial next to and then later claimed they didn't know.

I prefer things in writing. Phone calls can easily be misheard, misinterpreted or forgotten about. I've lost count of the number of times I have spoken on the phone to somebody, and then they haven't done as promised or got back to me, then when I phone them to chase it up they deny ever speaking to me in the first place. There are no misunderstandings if it is there in black and white.

YES! YES! YES!

All requests, orders, commands or suggestions must be via email so I can prove it wasn't my idea.

This is trash advice. Do more when they do less is a recipe for being stuck in a cycle of doing more and more. Of course, ask them what's wrong, how you can help them. But this cannot be a long term strategy

This sounds like a recipe for misery. The message here is “do more when they do less” which is a great way of keeping it from being a partnership. The fact that OP said “serve them” speaks volumes. Communicating needs and expectations is crucial. This reads like one person should just put up with the changes and do what’s needed without discussion

We learned this lesson 6 years into our marriage. We've been married for 38 years and together for 40. We both turned 57 this year!

A good marriage is not 100/100. It's 200/200. (You get that extra hundred from the other person.)

Oh, I love this.

Better yet, buy two plungers: a sink plunger and a toilet plunger (yes, they're different designs).

There are 2 different kinds of plungers. The basic round one is for sinks, drains, showers, etc. They are not effective on modern toilets, because modern toilets don't have a round drain opening; the opening is an elongated D-shape usually. This requires a different style/shape of plunger.

Excellent advice. When the time comes, you will need a plunger RIGHT NOW.

Is this advice specifically for plunger, or for anything else? Might help justify all the impulse-buy c**p i sometimes get coz i "might need it someday" :)

Get the thick black one that has the bottom with a f****e that fits the bottom of the toilet. The little red ones are ok sometimes but the good black one will always unclog a toilet.

Once k lend out my pen. Classmate used it the full day of classes and didn't return it so I waited at our locker (because of some key mix-ups we had to share lockers) and asked for my oen back and when he laughed, like am i serious i simply stared back with my rbf till he returned my pen. He still asked to borrow it and i did lend it again but this time he returned it right after class.

Good idea, but I lick the pen in front of them and then hand it over. 99.9999% of the time they F right off.

I always ask for a deposit

I'm too hard core a pen pincher. I'd get the lid the next time.

I’m a pen thief.