Remember watching something in a movie you wanted to repeat? Well, fiction is not only there for escapism; many writers/filmmakers want spectators to be wiser and adapt lessons characters learned to real life. They convincingly use words, directing, cinematography and music to portray emotions. Of course, not every film has a profound lesson in it. Some are pure entertainment or teach bad lessons. And that's ok.

Anime and gaming fan Micu was thinking about what an "awful message" the musical Grease delivers and asked Reddit "What's a movie that teaches a really bad lesson?" She received over 6k responses. Rom-coms and action movies got a lot of smack in the thread. Scroll down for the best ones, and an interview with Micu.

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group just about every rom com that teaches men that 'no' means 'keep trying' instead of 'f&%k off'.

daddyshotmess , His Girl Friday Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

Again not romantic cut it out!

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Any movie that teaches the idea that if you're persistent, then you'll get the girl/guy.

JoMiEd , Pride & Prejudice Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

It's not romantic it's creepy!

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Micu herself gave some opposite examples—the good lessons. "I recently watched ‘Words Bubble Up Like Soda Pop’ which was about loving yourself as well as all your flaws and accepting love from other people. Also, ‘Dead Poet Society’ teaches you to seize the day."

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Grease : If He cannot "rise" to her level - She should "sink" to his.

BlitheringEediot , Grease Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

I hated the ending of this movie! That they had to change to be with each other and of course the woman was the one to compromise in the end

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Fifty Shades of Grey.

It’s a movie about a guy who was ab$#ed perpetuating the cycle of abuse with the thin veneer of “it’s okay because he’s rich and this is how BDSM works.” The f%^k it does; almost all the characters are all sh$^ty people. Period.

Lentra888 , Fifty Shades Darker Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

This franchise was the definition of cringe and should be #1

E Menendez
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1 month ago

If he pulled up in a white van and whisked her away instead of in a helicopter it would have a completely different energy... Th e while movie is about how abuse is ok if you have money.

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Sapna Sarfare
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1 month ago

In India there is a joke. 50 Shades was acceptable because the guy was rich. If he wasn't, it would have been another episode of some Crime Diaries reality show...

Stannous Flouride
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1 month ago

Exactly why this movie was a flop among the aficionados of real kinky sex. The nearly universal coda is, "Safe. Sane. Consensual." His manipulation and exploitation of her naiveté was abuse. (btw- Never read the terribly written books and have zero interest in the movie)

AnnaBanana
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1 month ago

This was the worst piece of 'literature' EVER WRITTEN!

Alex Smith
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1 month ago

This whole book and movie franchise is gross to me. As a parent of 2 girls I would be so angry if they met a man like Christian Grey. I don't care if he is rich. He is gross and creepy. The fact that people love this movie and its become this weird thing makes it even worse.

I' Gomez & Morticia's kid
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1 month ago

They ruin the whole description of Dom/Sub relationship

kjorn
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1 month ago

change him into a trailer park hillbilies and not the same thing

Marlowe Fitzpatrik
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1 month ago

Would be an interesting read, though, to be honest. Maybe as a setting to a crime-novel?

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Coryn Hope
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1 month ago

We thought the Twilight-franchise was bad yet here we are. The message of the books/movies: Its okay because hes rich and supposedly hot. Ugh

Glirpy
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1 month ago

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Both stories also written by a woman. Wonder what that means?

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Daniel Mattock
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1 month ago

Didn’t actual rape happen in the books?

blugeagua
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1 month ago

Are we surprised that the author based it on Twilight?

OffKeySinger
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1 month ago

NO surprise that 50 shades of gray is bad since it is fan fiction based off equally terrible Twilight series

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Karen Wenzel
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4 weeks ago

he raped her and people thought it was cool and bdsm. everything but!

Calypso poet
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1 month ago

Have not read or seen because it sounded like an abusive sexual relationship to start with. Then the white bread actors they cast just did not seem sexy together.

GreenEyedGinger77
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1 month ago

*shudders* Everything in this was just wrong. Add to that the fact it's saying this is alright due to his being rich & attractive. Just wrong

Magpie
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4 weeks ago

I tried to read the first book and it read like it was written by a 13 year old who failed grammar.

Flisey
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1 month ago

Didn't the writer originally write these as Twilight fan fiction?

Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis
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1 week ago

If he wasn't rich and good looking that would'Ve been an episode of Special Victims Unit.

Kimberly Brown
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2 weeks ago

I hated this movie, the book, the premise and all the women who were google-eye obsessed with it.

kkathleen517
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3 weeks ago

Hey, I didn't see the movies but I did read the books. It wasn't like that. He was abused very very young my a crack addicted mother gets adopted my a great wealthy family and then sucked into a bdsm relationship with his mothers friend an older woman. Meets nice girl, falls in love she helps him with his issues they get married. It was actually a kind of sweet different kind of love story. Thats why she calls him 50 shades, he's 50 shades of f**ked up

Felice Coles
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3 weeks ago

The title of the books should be "The Idiot and te Asshole." What drivel.

Jo Choto
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4 weeks ago

What baffles me more than anything is why these books/movies were the wet dreams of so many middle-aged women.

Nadine Bamberger
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4 weeks ago

It's not how BDSM works, it's not sexy, it's just horrible writing turned into an even worse movie. Go on ao3 if you want stories about the subject written by people who actually did the research or participate themselves.

Riley Quinn
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4 weeks ago

Still very satisfied with myself for never seeing this movie.

Redling
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4 weeks ago

from what i've heard 50 shades does a s**t job of portraying bdsm. i havent watched or read it myself, mind you, im just going from what i've heard

Hannah Edwards
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1 month ago

Ugh, the book was dreadfully written, I can’t believe they made films too.

Misty Tree
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1 month ago

In good news, it gave the community the opportunity to correct misconceptions. They believe all such things should be safe, mentally healthy, and consensual.

Mazer
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1 month ago

It highlights that violence begets violence.

Cathelijne Van
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1 month ago

I read the book and even though it is not really good written.. I loved it 😅 sorry but it read like a train 😁 it's just a made up story (a fantasy) don't make more of it. It just intrigued me. And I wasn't the only one 😄

JuniorCJ82
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1 month ago

What is that first bleeped word supposed to be?

Nugua Nugua
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1 month ago (edited)

abused

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matilda
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1 month ago

The worst was when he came to pick her up in a helicopter or something and she was saying she isn't into him but she went anyways. I might have this wrong as I only read first book I think and don't remember much of it as it was difficult to read... Very difficult 🤣

Chelsea Bates
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1 month ago

The books are way better. The movies suck

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3 weeks ago

Then why did every woman on the planet not only read it, but love it?

Chris Longski
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1 month ago

The MSM here was really pushing that movie when it came out. Good danger signal.

Anne Mitchell
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1 month ago

Comments that contain symbols for swear words/foul language are so cringeworthy.

AnnaBanana
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1 month ago

BP automatically censors. It's not the poster's fault.

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group 13 reasons why. Not a movie, but is basically plays to the fantasy of any teenager who’s thinking of harming themselves how everyone will run around afterwards trying to piece it all together and they’ll still be a big part of peoples lives when they’re gone.

The sad reality is that this is not true and it’s a terrible message to give to kids.

RavenBrannigan , 13 Reasons Why Report

earringnut
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1 month ago

As a suicide surviver I can confirm that people don't grow souls just because someone died. If they didn't care when you were alive they won't care when you're dead. The flip side is anyone who did care is deviated.

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If Micu was making a movie with an unusual moral, she would want to communicate that good isn't always rewarded with good: sometimes the good goes to bad people instead, to give spectators expectations of "just how the world works."

#6

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Cats. It teaches impressionable Hollywood producers that it's a good idea to make a movie like Cats.

flychinook , Cats Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

Cats. Period. No further explanation needed!

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group The whole Twilight series. Edward and Jacob are both controlling pricks at best, and Bella is too spineless to put them in their place.

"My love dumped me, so I'm going to engage in reckless behavior."

"My love is dead, so I'm going to commit su&%#de by cop."

"My love is in a relationship with someone else, so I'm going to try to force myself on her so she will change her mind."

If you want some professional input about how bad the relationships are in Twilight, check out Cinema Therapy on YouTube.

DeadpanWords , Twillight Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

Honestly all the characters need therapy! They have serious issues! Probably the writer too!

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#8

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Any romcom. You're about to get married, but you met a really cool person you had a connection with. Now your fiance seemed... Off. They aren't the right person for you. Leave them for that stranger.

DIDiMISSsomethin , Bridget Jones's Baby Report

matilda
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1 month ago

And suddenly your fiance seems to be the worst person ever

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Talking about sending messages, movies are treated as a powerful tool for propaganda. While today's Hollywood is more influenced by the audience, award shows, and other countries' censorship, from 1934 to 1968, the industry was self-regulated by the strict Hays Code. 

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Love Story. "Love means never having to say you're sorry!" What the hell were they thinking?

NutsAndOrBerries , Love Story Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

That is the most stupid movie line in the entire movie industry worldwide!!!! By far!!!

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group The Sex and the City Movie… and series. Big leaves Carrie time and time again over the years. This teaches that if you stick around your toxic relationship the man might finally change and commit to you…even after 10 years!

With that said, I love SATC! Watching it in my 20’s I saw Carrie finally get her man. Watching it in my 30’s I cringe and just wish Carrie would have stayed with Aiden.

mizzo0o , Sex and the City 2 Report

Ellie Rosser
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1 month ago

I am 100% team Aiden, but glad he didn't get stuck with Carrie, she would have made him miserable!!

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#11

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Most high school movies. There's nothing wrong with wearing glasses. Characters barely ever study etc.

eliterule12 , To All The Boys I've Loved Before Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

But if you don't wear glasses in the movie how you will take them off after and suddenly be the hottest person in the school?🙄

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The Hays Code was influenced by moral panic from spectators and politicians as well, but many of the rules wouldn't fly in todays US. It prohibited things like interracial dating, French kisses, evoking empathy towards criminals, etc. In fact, in one of the movies mentioned in this list, Cinema Paradiso, a filmmaker shares memories of stealing cutout frames of kissing from a small-town cinema in Italy, where they were censored by a local priest.

#12

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group 50 shades of gray. Creepy dude gets viewed as elegant and mysterious just because he’s rich

CaydeWick , 50 Shades Of Grey Report

An Co
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1 month ago

While I agree the movie is evil (mainly because the people are scum and it portrays BDSM incorrectly.) But your description of it sounds like a solid preparation for real life. Rich men are perceived as elegant and mysterious even if they are just creepy scum.

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group 40 days and 40 nights. It's about a girl who's a total slot but she decides to challenge herself not to have sex for 40 days. She's doing fine until her friend makes a website about it and a being pool starts. Suddenly everyone is trying to get her in bed.

Meanwhile she meets this really great guy who teaches her that love doesn't have to involve sex, you can have a great time and even be intimate without f@#king.

Still, she's so horny, you guys. At the end of the 40 days, she literally handcuffs herself to a bed to keep from letting anyone f@#k her.

The pool is up to huge amounts of money now.

Then her ex boyfriend walks in. He sees her tied up, so he ra&#s her. He claims the prize money and literally rides off into the sunset.

The s*#^ty girl is upset because her awesome new boyfriend might not accept her now that she cheated on him by being r&#ed but it turns out he's ok with it.

Oh wait oops I accidentally reversed the genders of all those characters.

Ray_LAC , 40 Days and 40 Nights Report

Susie Elle
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1 month ago

I'm confused

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#14

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Lots and lots of romantic movies. Maybe you can just walk up and kiss someone like in The Notebook if you’re Ryan Gosling. In reality, though, get consent first ffs.

Any action movie where someone disarms someone who has a knife. Don’t try that. If possible, run the fuck away.

Fifty shades of grey. Shit writing aside, that’s not how you do bdsm, relationships or anything in between. It’s not romantic. It’s creepy. Why in the fuck did anyone like that movie?

Zeelthor , The Notebook Report

Pamela24
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1 month ago

The worst part of the Notebook is when he threatens that he will kill himself if she doesn't go out with him. So toxic, not at all romantic.

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In 1934-1941, as divorce rates grew, Hollywood's screwball comedies, like His Girl Friday, It Happened One Night, and Adam's Rib started incorporating the theme of remarriage, which later was recognized as a subgenre by philosopher Stanley Cavell, who dedicated a whole book to it in 1979 called Pursuits of Happiness: The Hollywood Comedy of Remarriage. It's important to note that female characters in these films were independent and still chose to come back to their husbands, even though these screwball comedies show marriage as a miserable situation.

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Revenge of the Nerds can’t even claim it’s satirical. The nerds are just as bad - if not worse - than the jocks. Yes the jocks started it by running a few pigs through their party. What the nerds do is far worse but really only at the expense of the easier targets - their women.

Other than the humility of losing in what is effectively a few competitions they cheat at (along with some Tigers Balm in their jockstraps), the Lambdas don’t really get revenge on the jocks, they take it out on their women.

First they spy on them in the nude. Then they distribute the nude photos to the school. Finally Lewis r*^es Betty Childs. All because like four girlfriends helped the jocks with the pigs?

And the idea that it’s okay because Lewis is good in bed is beyond disturbing. She doesn’t just accept it, she decides she’s “in love with a nerd.” That movie was written by some serious incels.

AtomicPunk , Revenge of The Nerds Report

Susie Elle
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1 month ago

Almost all 90's comedy movies are like this. "I have a problem with this guy so I'm gonna get his girlfriend or wife in bed and then somehow it's all her fault in the end!"

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Overboard - she has amnesia so he convinces her she is his wife & mother to his 3-4 kids. Then he has sex with her.

So r#^ey.

Sparkle__M0tion , Overboard Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago (edited)

The original story described is from the 80's with Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell and not the picture above which is the remake!(edit:picture was changed after my comment) In the remake is the other way around! It was already cringe even for the 80's and i have no idea who decided that this story had any place in today's society!!

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group a lot of disney channel stuff aimed at teenage girls. the protagonists are bi&$hy and manipulative and use their looks to get what they want disguised as empowerment

Virtual_Smile , Cruella Report

Fabian Meresse
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1 month ago

Typically, Richie Rich. Would slap that kid, also uses money to get whatever he wants...including power on women. Really bad bad values there

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On the other side of the world, the first Commissar for Education in the Soviet Union remembered Lenin saying "that of all the arts, the most important for us is the cinema." He recognized the capabilities of cinema as a thought-shaping tool in a country with a large percentage of illiterate people. The Commisar stressed the importance of showing films in remote villages where people hadn't seen any, thus propaganda there would be even more effective.

#18

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Passengers with Chris Pratt and Jennifer Lawrence. It's okay to develop Stockholm syndrome and fall in love with the guy who basically ruined your life and manipulated you.

misslemon9 , Passenger Report

Vicky Z
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1 month ago

It IS okay to develop Stockholm syndrome actually! It's not the victim's fault! What HE did was horrible let's judge him not her!

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#19

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group My Best Friend's Wedding - Hey, I know a way to show my support for my best friend. Lets sabotage his wedding to a perfectly lovely girl.

AgreeableShirt1338 , My Best Friend's Wedding Report

Franc Esca
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1 month ago

It's a great movie and one of the only realistic ones. A woman realizes too late she lost her love and embarrassing hurts people acting like a complete suitcase trying to win him back. the only unrealistic part is when he forgives her.

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Not a movie, but the kids' show "Caillou" is fucking terrible. It's made for kids at the age where they copy everything they see, and the main little fucker in the show crys and whines the whole time, so kids who watch it become insufferable.

Bad lesson for kids, good lesson for parents who will learn about "modeling."

Bananagrahama , Caillou Report

Zophra
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1 month ago

I agree. I hated this show for my kids.

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What have you learned from movies? Have you learned the Heimlich maneuver to save a choking person? Threw a similar party to Project X? Became concerned about the fabric of reality and privacy after The Matrix and The Truman Show?

#21

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Shrek teaches it's okay to inflate innocent animals into balloons and let them float away to their probable death

RekNepZ , Shrek Report

earringnut
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1 month ago

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Pretty mild example but Justice League.

The moral of the story is basically that a team is nothing without their strongest member. Basically it’s contradicting the moral of what teamwork even stands for in the first place.

hmansloth , Justice League Report

iBlank
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1 month ago

Superman is probably the biggest reason DC suffers in general... he's way too overpowered to be interesting or have any realistic reason to team up with anyone

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Oft cited, but for good reason - Revenge of the Nerds. R@#ey stalkers are the heroes here.

Old_Year9015 , Revenge of the Nerds Report

Enlee Jones
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1 month ago

A year or two ago Cracked.com did an article about this movie and how problematic it is, especially the hero of the movie technically committing rape by deception. An alarming number of commenters saw nothing wrong with this and said they’d do the same thing if given the chance. o.0

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Didn't want to let the kids see Jackass. Gave in. Ńext day, the very next day, they were sliding down a staircase in a laundry basket.

mediaman54 , Jackass 3D Report

Fabian Meresse
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1 month ago

''Don't try this at home'' And chill out, if you let your kids watch Jackass, maybe YOU are the nut one

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#25

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Chicken Little oh my GOD that freaking chicken’s father did not give an f about his son until he was the big star of the town

itsskylerprobably , Chicken Little Report

Brian bell
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1 month ago

Hollywood seems to make most fathers into clueless a-holes. Most Dads I know try to do their best even when they are a little clueless. Another shitty movie for that was Inside Out. Made me not like the movie because of how they depict the douchy dad.

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Not a movie, but Paw Patrol. All the adults are incompetent and require a kid with 5 dogs to deal with their every problem.

7c518c130a4c , Paw Patrol Report

An Co
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1 month ago

That is kind of a requirement for any tv show or movie where the kid is the star. Otherwise the first adult they meet should take over the plot and save them.

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#27

Hocus Pocus, Max gets relentlessly harassed and bullied almost the entire movie for being a virgin

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glowworm2
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1 month ago

I was actually quite surprised when rewatching this movie in college (hadn't seen it since I was a kid) and discovering that the "virgin" bit was so thoroughly emphasized. Especially because it's Max's little sister who keeps bringing it up. Someone who shouldn't even know what a virgin is to begin with at her age.

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#28

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Any movie where a couch or car door is used as cover in a firefight.

That's concealment really...

A .22 will go through a car door or a couch.

A car isn't even cover like in Jon Wick or anything. Rifle rounds will zip right through unless it's a solid engine block hit.

Kunkyskunts , John Wick Report

Dina Simoné
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1 month ago

Good to know. I will use that knowledge in any upcoming firefight.

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#29

30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group Christmas with the Kranks teaches us that adults should not be allowed to spend Christmas however they like, and they must bow to peer pressure and do what other people want them to do.

QuietlySmirking , Christmas with the Kranks Report

C. D. McCullum
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1 month ago

Free Frosty!! Such crap, what if you don't celebrate, will your crazy neighbors harass you every December?!

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30 Movies That Teach Terrible Lessons, As Pointed Out By People In This Online Group The intern - teaches if your boyfriend cheats on you because he can't stand how successful you are, it's your fault and you should forgive him

misskitten1313 , The Intern Report

Susie Elle
Community Member
1 month ago

That's not the message I got from that movie at all. To me, it's when needs in a relationship aren't met for a prolonged period of time, or when people lose themselves in the flow of a relationship that they actually feel trapped in, people can make bad decisions, for which they ultimately can be forgiven for, if the appropriate effort is done. (emphasis on 'can' and not 'should')

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