This Bridesmaid Went Viral On TikTok For Sharing All Of The Ridiculous Expenses She Had To Pay To Be In A Wedding
Being asked to be part of a wedding can be super exciting. One of your closest friends is preparing to spend the rest of their life with someone they love, and you get to be part of the celebration. The only problem with agreeing to be in a wedding party is that it can turn into a massive financial burden. Obvious expenses include the dress or suit needed for the ceremony and whatever travel is required to attend the wedding, but bachelor and bachelorette parties can cost a pretty penny as well.
One bridesmaid, a woman named Erin, recently went viral on TikTok after detailing the expenses she was responsible for to attend a “bachelorette vacation”. Below, you can read Erin’s full story and see how viewers have responded. Let us know in the comments how you feel about the situation and if you’ve ever been asked to spend an exorbitant amount of money on a friend’s wedding. Then if you’re looking for more bridesmaid content, check out this Bored Panda piece next.
After she was asked to pay hundreds for a “bachelorette vacation”, this bridesmaid turned to TikTok to discuss how costly being in a wedding can be
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While the trip was already expensive, the maid of honor even asked the bridesmaids to pay for the bride’s flight and portion of the accommodation
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Erin wondered if this is the norm when it comes to bridesmaid expenses
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While this bachelorette vacation may be more expensive than the average party, it’s not uncommon for bridesmaids to be saddled with bills for luxurious weekend trips, expensive dresses and bridal showers. According to Wedding Wire, the average cost of a bridesmaid dress in the United States is $208, and that’s without any alterations. But the dress is only the beginning. Bridesmaids tend to spend around $1,200 on weddings after travel, accommodation, accessories, gifts and more are factored in.
Traditionally, bridesmaids are responsible for their attire, the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, their hair and makeup for the ceremony, travel and accommodation for the wedding, and gifts for the wedding and bridal shower. When it comes to the bachelorette party, Brides.com says that “going away for the weekend poses a little more gray area [than one night out]”. “Each attendee should cover the cost of her own travel and accommodations—including the bride.” The general rule of thumb is that the bride pays for everything except “the big night out”, where she is treated to dinner, drinks and whatever else is on the agenda. Sometimes the entire bachelorette party involves no travel and is only the “big night”, but when it’s longer, bridesmaids should not be expected to pay for everything. So you might be wondering if being in a wedding party is even worth it when it can become such a big financial burden? Well, for most bridesmaids it is. Wedding Wire found that 95% of bridesmaids had an enjoyable experience and found the costs worth it to be a part of a loved one’s special day.
While it’s an honor to be part of a friend’s wedding day, it’s important to keep in mind what your budget can handle. We all want to support soon-to-be brides and grooms as much as we can, but sometimes a lavish vacation is just not feasible. Be sure expectations are discussed before agreeing to join a wedding party. Erin’s TikTok received thousands of comments discussing what is appropriate to ask of bridesmaids, but we’d love to hear your thoughts below as well. How much do you think is reasonable for the bridal party to cover in situations like this?
Many viewers agreed that these fees are excessive, saying that the bride could have paid for more
While not everyone is on the same page about who should pay for what, it’s clear that communication is crucial when it comes to wedding expenses
How did bachelor parties go from one night out with the boys/girls to one week vacation, sometimes even abroad? 🤔🤔🤔
What the hell. I'm sorry but I think so many weddings, bachelorette/bachelor parties and bridal showers are just getting ridiculous. And what's worse is expecting the bridal party to cough up the money. I even think asking the bridal party to pay for their own dresses/outfits is rude. The ONLY thing I asked my bridesmaids to pay for is their own lunch (approx $25) at a pub for my bachelorette lunch. I paid for everything else, oh except my maid of honours hair, but that was her choice. I only wanted my bridal party to straighten their hair, which could have been done herself. I paid for the outfits, shoes, make up etc.
Same here! I have no idea when expecting the bridal party to pay for everything started, but I'm definitely against it. Everything the bride wants should be paid for by the bride. Especially these "Bachelorette Trips" when everyone involved has to give up their vacation time, etc.
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Um, NO. Bride wants a fancy thing and wants everyone there? BRIDE PAYS FOR IT. Done. End of story. Asking other to pay for you is NOT OK!
I don't want to put the blame on this particular bride though like she paid her share and then the MoH decided to butt in and change the game on everyone. The MoH telling the other girl to send the bride her money back and have the other girls cover her seems pushy and out of line since clearly they hadn't discussed it in previous plans. The bride should have stepped up and said she was fine paying for herself though as it was a trip for all of them and expenses add up quickly.
Load More Replies... How did bachelor parties go from one night out with the boys/girls to one week vacation, sometimes even abroad? 🤔🤔🤔
What the hell. I'm sorry but I think so many weddings, bachelorette/bachelor parties and bridal showers are just getting ridiculous. And what's worse is expecting the bridal party to cough up the money. I even think asking the bridal party to pay for their own dresses/outfits is rude. The ONLY thing I asked my bridesmaids to pay for is their own lunch (approx $25) at a pub for my bachelorette lunch. I paid for everything else, oh except my maid of honours hair, but that was her choice. I only wanted my bridal party to straighten their hair, which could have been done herself. I paid for the outfits, shoes, make up etc.
Same here! I have no idea when expecting the bridal party to pay for everything started, but I'm definitely against it. Everything the bride wants should be paid for by the bride. Especially these "Bachelorette Trips" when everyone involved has to give up their vacation time, etc.
Load More Replies... Um, NO. Bride wants a fancy thing and wants everyone there? BRIDE PAYS FOR IT. Done. End of story. Asking other to pay for you is NOT OK!
I don't want to put the blame on this particular bride though like she paid her share and then the MoH decided to butt in and change the game on everyone. The MoH telling the other girl to send the bride her money back and have the other girls cover her seems pushy and out of line since clearly they hadn't discussed it in previous plans. The bride should have stepped up and said she was fine paying for herself though as it was a trip for all of them and expenses add up quickly.
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