We’re constantly bombarded by messages that we should seize the day, live life to the fullest, and that we can do and be absolutely anything that we want. It’s either empowering or emotionally exhausting depending on your point of view. One of the problems that lie at the core of this ‘go-gettism’ philosophy is that there often isn’t much guidance behind the energetic urging to not waste a single moment more and embrace an adrenaline-filled, happy-go-lucky lifestyle.
That means that it’s up to every single person to try and figure out what they really want to do, whether it’s professionally or during their spare time. And that can lead to some very naive mistakes. Maybe you realized that bungee jumping really isn’t for you. Perhaps you learned the hard way that camping isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be if you don’t have a tiny Aragorn living inside your heart. Or maybe you got burned after trusting your colleagues too much.
Reddit users opened up about their worst experiences and mistakes in a brutally honest thread full of worldly wisdom. Scroll down for the anti-bucket list of things that people will never ever do again.
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Work in a covid unit. It was worth it in the beginning when I felt like I was trying to rescue victims of an unknown enemy while risking my life to buy precious time for a game-changing miracle. However, parts of me have died over the last two years. The patients that come into my ER now days have turned up their noses at a vaccine that many have died in my presence waiting for. The ones dying of covid are shouting at me, hitting me, threatening me, and trying to pull the PPE off of my face because they don't think that covid is real. I've had to drive past protesters on my way home from a shift where I had to take an eight year old off of life support because her unvaccinated parents gave the virus to her. I don't even feel sad anymore when a patient passes because now I have a ventilator open for at least one of the next three patients circling the drain.
I'm tired of getting yelled at by antivaxers and their families. I'm tired of risking my life for people who won't do the bare minimum, like taking a jab, to live.
I've spent my life trying to help people, but no one is worth it anymore. You win. I'm done. I regret it all. Everything I ever stood for is dead. The only thing that matters to me is my dog. She will never understand why I never came home, but she has widespread cancer, so that won't be long either.
He is not the only medical professional who feels that way. It's awful what these men and woman have gone through. I'm not a medico, but I volunteer at the hospital, I've seen how utterly exhausted these saints are.
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I could've written this, minus the dog. Two more days and I'm done. I am not renewing my license to practice medicine. I am *out*, back to the reseaerch, and away from .... all he described.
again, sending you hugs, Leo. It has been incredibly traumatic for you medical personnel. i don't blame you in the least for wanting to be done with patient care. 💔💕
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It has been a brutal 2 years for people in healthcare. We've gone from heroes to the enemy in such a short time because "internet research" is so much more "factual" than actual education and experience.
Yes, the years of medical school were apparently all part of the Covid scam.... Ugh. I feel you.
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This is very distressing. I am truly sorry that you have to deal with rude anti-vaxxers and anti-masks. The reason why we, who believe that COVID is real, are not in the ER is because we know how to take care of ourselves. Hang in there. There is still hope in life.
Hey, what do you mean why you never came home? Please don’t harm yourself.
He means what we all mean ----- we're on shift 72 hours straight sometimes. Yes, that's how bad it is. I'm done in another 72 hours, by choice. I'm not renewing my license to practice medicine. I did my time as a volunteer support personnel, then as an MD, and I've had two toddlers taken off life support to die b/c of their parents in the last 9 months. We don't go home. At the start, we were camping in the parking garage in tents to be sure we didn't contaminate anyone. He may self-harm, but he's still talking about his pain, so hopefully, he won't.
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This is so sad, i hope ur getting better or are better now. Medical people go through so much, this isnt fair for what people do to people in medical similar to you!!! hope ur doing okay though!!!
Please, please know that MOST people are on your side and do everything they can to prevent the spread etc. I cannot imagine the utter pain you are in…☹️ Hug your dog, hug your family snd most importantly hug yourself!! I am so sorry for all that uou have gone through…. SO sorry. Take care of YOURSELF now, ( and go gif beautiful walks with your doggie)❤️
To be honest, I was in this dark place, too. Working at the hospital during COVID was an eye opener. I quit in October. I moved home to take care of my mom who is only 65 and is in the later stages of early onset dementia. At least I'm with people who love me. Hospital administration are horrid. They have no idea what it's like. Patients kept getting worse & worse. While I miss working, I'm so glad I left.
I'm sorry about your mom. You are right about hospital admin.
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Many medical staff feel the way you do. I know here in Canada, we've had way too many medical professionals simply walk away. Our provincial government is desperately staff hunting because the nurses and docs (esp. ER and ICU) just don't want to deal with it anymore. As you said, they went from being heros to being castigated by anti-vaxxers outside the hospital exits and near emergency entrances. I mean - how ill-bred and ignorant can you get?
I know it will never be enough, but big hugs to you and all those who fight unreasonable fights to keep the rest of us alive. I don't think any one of us living in this nightmare are really sane anymore, but my heart breaks a little to hear your story. I'm a minister, and I have buried the dead ones. I still think you are all heroes, and for every single simpleton out there being mean, evil and dangerous, not to say patronising as hell, there are ten, hundred, thousand of reasonable people, who cheer on for you and your coworkers. We love you, stay safe! ❤️
Once this pandemic is done, there's going to be a shortage of medical professionals worse than the teacher shortage of the last two decades. And we will have only brought it upon ourselves.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through all of that, but I hope you know that for all of those people, there are many who see you as a hero.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this. It must be incredibly frustrating to see what covid can do and still have antivaxxers shouting at you.
We can all thank that loathsome, insidious, warped, and delusionally narcissistic orange blob of syphilitic pus for brainwashing so many people, or at least being the catalyst that led to their brainwashing.
Please know that you are dealing with the bottom of the bottom of the barrel at this point. A vast majority of us owe our lives to your hard work. We’ve heeded your warnings - done the things you’ve told us to do… and in doing so don’t NEED to end up in your care. WE… are eternally grateful for your hard work and sacrifice… even if THEY are not. I’m so sorry - heros should not be treated this way.
Please hold on. There are those of us who have taken all precautions. We have seen loved ones -- masked, isolated, vaccinated but older & vulnerable because of other health issues. Some of them loved, some didn't. But they all had a chance because of people like you. Thank you
I feel your pain. I'm a nurse in long term care & I can't begin to explain what we have to go thru at this end of the spectrum. Hang in there it is getting better.
Just to say again that, for everyone who doesn't think mass media matters, it's part of the root of this distrust of sound medical advice. If anyone tries to dismiss our governance as "politics" and the garbage opinion media channels pretending they are "fair," this is what happens when propaganda meets a serious problem. I cannot believe that anyone votes for a party that promotes death by brainwashing their people into thinking the pandemic was "fake," masks don't work and the vaccine are poison. But, here we are and the sad and inexplicable fact is that the Republicans are leading the polls. Why? How on Earth can people be so dumb as to vote for the people who brought us into this mess?
And the anti vaxers believe because their list in chief told them so. Hah! The jokes on them. He not only got the jab but the booster too. Don't believe everything some small minded person tells you & that includes your self.
the people that think its not real are dumb if it was a conspiracy then every doctor in the world every scientist every world leader thats millions of people that many people part of a secret conspiracy theory plus all the people that have lost loved ones would have to be in on it that many people part of a secret plot wouldn't ever be able to stay secret
and this is why there is a shortage of healthcare workers. i feel for them. they were abused by people for not getting seen fast enough or getting the treatment they thought they needed pre covid but now they have to witness how selfish ignorant people keep those who did everything they were supposed to do get sick and not have access to things such as a ventilator. in the beginning of all this my son went on a rant that every person who refused to get vaccinated and/or wear a mask or stay home and got sick needed to either be denied medical care or, as they did in other countries, make them the ones that became the people who had to transport and bury those who had died; maybe even work menial job in covid ward. i thought that was harsh. now, i don't.
This person needs immediate help. If anybody knows them, please call a suicide hotline. Please reach out. This person has saved so many lives and now it's our turn to help them. The suicide rate for healthcare workers is the highest it's ever been. Please please be there for the ones in your life. They need us now more then ever, and we owe the. So much.
Quit. Just go and quit and work somewhere else. We as a society have failed you so there is no need for you to stick around and rescue us. Go and live a happy life!
You sound like a cop I know. When you’re doing a job to save and protect people but all you get is abuse.
That's a suicide note if ever I read one... Hope someone is checking in on this person because it sounds like they've given everything for everyone else
This is how a huge number of healthcare workers feel on a daily basis dealing with the pandemic. They are quitting in droves!
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My heart aches for all those in the medical profession, emergency workers, and those with immune deficiencies..
I'm so sorry so many people are selfish , ignorant jerks. We need people who care, like this person.
This is the saddest thing i have heard... if you cannot have sympathy for such saviours or those that have died due to Covid, stop calling yourself human beings..
I wouldn't make a good doctor or nurse. Not because I'm dumb for it, but I wouldn't freaking do even the bare minimum from stupid people: the sooner their genetics are wiped out from the face of the Earth, the better for humanity.
You do strong work. Let no one else cause you to believe otherwise.
I'm sorry you too, became a victim. I work on the same front line, had covid 2x,almost killing me BEFORE the vax came out. I'm vaccinated and still on the front line..but not sick or worried any more. The foolish/selfish unvaxxed people do evil with their disregard, but forgive them for they don't know they're stupid. Find a therapist to offload your grief with. Best money you'll ever spend. Peace.
I'm a nurse, and while I agree with the sentiment, the author is misguided in the idea that this vaccine will prevent transmission. It's a logical fallacy that the WHO, the CDC and the various governments of the world have sold us. It prevents serious illness - not transmission. It doesn't kill the virus. It stops us from getting sicker. That's because it's a Covid, just like the flu or the common cold. We will never be able to prevent it's transmission or mutation. That's why we have flu vaccines annually. Mutations happen. Covid is here to stay. The good news is that the Spanish flu managed to mutate itself into what we consider a cold. There is light at the end of the tunnel and it's not an oncoming train.
Any patient or customer that heaps abuse on a worker should be banned forever no matter where it is.
I have a lot of respect for people doing the right thing for society standing firm on their ideals. God knows I've lost that since coming to terms with how ugly the world is as a child. I wish these people who still have these ideals would never have to turn out this way. But alas, 'tis not that kind of world we live in.
This is why I am not ashamed to live in my bubble most of the time. I only have 80-90 years on this planet if I'm lucky. Not going to spend my time with asswipes.
This is so heartbreaking. This man has gone through the wringer. I don't get how some people are so foolish enough to not want to vaccinate themselves.
I did take the vaccine but was admitted for another reason, you saved my life. I didn't get a chance to thank you.
Hey, so I’m concerned here OP. When you say your dog won’t understand why you never came home, I hope that doesn’t mean because you’re thinking of escaping this madness by harming yourself. If I got the wrong end of the stick that’s terrific. If not though please PLEASE stay here. Reach out! 800-273-8255 https://www.google.com/search?q=national+suicide+hotline&rlz=1CDGOYI_enUS643US643&oq=national+suicide+hotline&aqs=chrome..69i57.9200j0j4&hl=en-US&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8#
You are a hero. Sometimes heroes end up with broken hearts. When you are ready, go get another pup from the pound. They need heroes too. Bless you.
I'm so incredibly sorry for what this person has experienced. They have done a phenomenal job, protecting and saving people and the actions of complete arseholes have destroyed them. It's just heartbreaking 😢
Why do I read these posts? They're too depressing. Also sorry you feel like your life sucks right now man. Feel better maybe your dog will live who knows.
I feel very sad for your loss ... not all anti-vaxers are cruel and thoughtless, and not all those who are vaxed are blaming others for their condition, and not only unvaxed can pass on to others this illness, but also the vaxed can ... I can only hope and pray you will find a place soon that does not drain the life and love within you, even if it is buried so deep it seems to have disappeared completely, and that could reflourish under the right circumstances - I truly hope you find that ... GOD bless
Never forget that antivaxers and Covid deniers only care about themselves.
Please don’t give up on us. I know that most of us are so grateful for all of your hard work and commitment. Please give yourself the time to regroup whilst knowing that you ARE both needed and appreciated. Take a minute to be kind to yourself. Sending you prayers
Covid has caused the burnout of far too many medical personnel. To have the ignorant make their lives that much more difficult borders on the criminal.
I Completely Understand. I Completely Understand Every Word of what this Individual has been Thinking, Feeling and Living. People with "Attitudes of Entitlement" and "Lack of Common Sense" have become quite Abusive towards Retail, Hospitality and Medical workers. Shameful Behavior really.
Please try to remember most people tried to do the right thing and we truly appreciate everything you did I'm sorry you had to put up with the idiots
I hope this person reads the messages of support by the people with common sense. We are forever grateful to you.
Omg I'm so very sorry for EVERYTHING you've experienced and for your dog. Please hang in there. YOU ARE VALUED.
Oh, how these 2 years must have been like a horrormovie for the medicalpersonel! I do understand why, people Are stupid, I myself did not get vaccinated, before I got Covid, so then I just needed 1 and a booster once in a while! But getting the decease Really gave me immunity! It is like I cant get the virus nomore? And people have it multiple times! Why?
Thank you for sharing the hard facts from your side. I hope your point of view as a health care worker helps others make better decisions. Thank you for everything you and others have done to not only help covid patients but all of the everyday things that still happen day to day.
Some of us appreciate your work and some of us are worth it. Thank you. My prays and Thought a for your best friend
My tears are unstoppable right now...for this Frontline worker and every other one, I am so very grateful for the work you have done, for the lives you save and the sacrifice you make.
I hate society right now. This is what it is doing to people who actually give a f**k
The floor nurses and doctors suffer and the admins get million dollars bonuses. Capitalism at work
I'm a med student and this post honestly make me feel just soooo sad for this noble profession. It's disheartening to see a doc lose hope like this nd at times I wonder if this would happen to me in the future as well. I would still be rooting for him so pls cheer up....
... you are in my heart. I'm sorry. My dad used to work in the ER, 30 years as a doc. He and his nurses and the parastaff were and still are my heroes. I now work in veterinary medicine because I love medicine that much. It breaks my heart to pieces to see how hard you've struggled against the very people you're trying to save. Heaven help you all.
This hurts to read. Since Covid started, people have become incredibly entitled and aggressive, and I'm lost as to why. Everyone just kinda formed an opinion, stuck to it, and now we're left in shambles when maybe nothing was every okay all along. I stopped talking about Covid and the Pandemic and formed such a negative train of thought for the same reason this doctor is regretting ever being a doctor - what the hell is wrong with people?
'no one is worth it anymore', definitely how I feel as well. In a world where 'doing the right thing' gets you abuse, it's hard to feel like anything or anyone is worth it.
This is the saddest feeling I've had ever. When u get to that point u need a huge vacation an to remember why u r doing what ur doing in the first place. Been there had to take years off of being there for others except my family. My heart goes out to u. It will get better.
Find some joy somewhere...and don't let the idiots win. You are stronger than that.
This poster needs a friend right now more than ever. I'm scared that they're reaching out like pre-suicide reach-out...
Wish I could be psychic and send you really good eraser vibes.... (I mean erasing bad memories)
At times I feel that way about people who come in for other reasons that are often based on their choices in life. It helps me sometimes to reflect on how I'm not always making the best choices for my life either and that often there are reasons why people have done to themselves what they've done.
If this person truly cared then they'd stay. He/she signed an oath.
So opinionated. The vaccine nearly killed me. Having Covid was enough and I should have just stopped with that.
Honestly, for a big part, this is how it should be. There should be some worldwide awareness that not all lives are worth saving, based on character traits. Though i do respect medical personel, i will never understand what brings people to try and save people diagnosed with ASPD from anything, drug users from an OD if they got a history of OD'ing and saving Antivaxxers from avoidable diseases there are vaccins for, let alone anyone acting entitled or physically agressive for no medical reason, except just being a pain in the butt. The sooner this is realized, the faster we can look forward to a brighter future.
The physicians' creed is "First, do no harm". Eugenics is frowned upon.
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And people that don’t trust the “vaccine” are tired of getting yelled at by people that do.
We didn't sign up to be stalked, threatened, harassed, given death threats, from organized groups of people, sometimes armed, who'd even follow us home and leave little presents on our doorsteps of bags of dogshit or worse. So, y'know, no, we did not sign on knowing all this would happen.
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Facebook. Deleted the account, never going back. I don’t miss it at all.
Vote Republican. I was a lifelong R until they picked Trump. My eyes were opened to what they were and I'll never donate another cent or vote R for any position ever again. I love when I get the calls from them, begging for money. I get to explain why the money they used to get is now going to their opponents.
I've decided as long as there are starving children and pets in this world, no political party is getting a cent of my money.
The anti-bucket list is the complete opposite of the bucket list, a list of all the things that a person hopes to do in life.
They say that the best teacher is cold, hard experience. And there’s no denying that trying out a whole bunch of different activities can quickly help you filter out what you actually enjoy doing and what sounds great on paper but is horrible in real life.
However, things aren’t so easy when you deal with underlying assumptions like trusting everyone, not just leisure activities. If the fundamental ideas that make up your life get shaken, you can be in for a rude awakening. And with a lot to think about while you’re sitting there, angry, ashamed, embarrassed.
Buy clothes that don’t fit well in hopes that “someday” I’ll lose weight and be comfortable in them. Just size up, damn it, and be comfortable now!
Settling for a relationship knowing you are not really happy.
Never. Again.
Attempt [to end my life].
After maybe three of four days after the attempt I experienced what I think is called epiphany. Started everything all over. Loved myself, finished therapy etc. No matter what bulls**t life throws at me I will never do it again.
Something that we all have to remind ourselves of from time to time is that it’s all right to make mistakes. Nobody’s perfect. And, heck, you could argue that perfection is overrated. What really matters is learning to embrace the mistakes that we make and learning the lessons that are there to be learned, without regret.
Vanessa Bohns, an Associate Professor of Organizational Behavior at Cornell University, explained to us earlier about embracing mistakes, dealing with our embarrassment, and why hiding our mistakes isn’t healthy for us.
"We spend a lot of time and effort presenting an ideal version of ourselves to other people. When something happens that contrasts with the image we’ve been projecting—when we say or do something that shows we actually aren’t as graceful or as smart as we’d like people to believe—we feel embarrassed," Vanessa told Bored Panda during an earlier interview that many of us want to seem perfect.
Give a f**k about other people’s opinions of me. Not my business.
Now I always pee before cutting jalapeno peppers. The other way around, never again.
Apparently a mistake only done once. (Careful around your eyes…)
Assume that every co worker is a friend.
I truly believed most of my colleagues were friends in a place I used too work, to the point I’d go above and beyond to help them. Even if it was rarely if ever reciprocated. Yet whenever I needed help they were nowhere to be found or were ‘busy’. If I got in trouble they were quick to throw me under the bus without hesitation and would lie to my face about doing so.
I thought some of my co workers were friends and even invited them to my engagement party. They did RSVP yet none of them showed up.
"Discovering you were wrong about something most everyone else around you has long known to be true is one of those moments. In that moment we learn, 'Wait a minute, maybe I haven’t been presenting the image of being smart or worldly that I thought I was presenting all this time,' which is embarrassing,” she explained how embarrassment works.
“One thing that’s interesting about embarrassment is that, for as much as we might experience it as painful in the moment, it’s actually very socially adaptive. Being embarrassed signals to other people that you care about what they think. And that actually draws people in to you,” the expert pointed out that when we admit to our mistakes openly, we become better liked.
I refuse to ever do retail again, people are literally such a**holes and don’t realize your trying to help them and still get their job done.
But…. Everyone should work in retail or food services for a while. To appreciate the crap work and how vital it is. And to appreciate where you’ve been and where you’re going.
Smoke. Did it for 14 years. I feel so much better having quit. Been about 10 years since and the amount of money saved and the smell and the cough.
Having sex without wanting to. I was in a relationship with someone who'd frequently pressure me into having sex, and I'm definitely never ever doing that again.
Same. I'm stilling getting over the trauma. It just never feels right again.
“So blushing, burying your head in your hands, laughing, acknowledging how embarrassing something was, are all totally healthy ways to react.”
On the flip side, when we try to hide our mistakes and embarrassment, we’re shooting ourselves in the foot, socially speaking. In other words, it’s not only cathartic, it’s also socially useful for us to admit to the times we utterly embarrassed ourselves or messed up beyond all belief.
Work as a bartender.
I know, I know, the money is good. But getting home at 4am or later, the booze and drug scene, surviving on Red Bull and pedialyte, and getting grabassed by strangers while trying to pay my bills is not the life for me.
787 days sober and I’ll never look back. Got my degree and working as a design specialist/content developer for a museum now and I LOVE MY JOB. Also started my own small business and it’s going really well so far. I have an art show coming up soon and I’m really excited for it.
Stay at a job I’m unhappy at.
I've been gruelling at a job that hasn't fit my values and personality for a decade. I have an interview at a place I've always wanted to work at this week. Hope I get it.
Trying to be liked by everybody by always being nice and never saying no. Never again.
“The unhealthy way to react is to pretend you’re not embarrassed, that you didn’t make a mistake, or to get angry. Those things undo the positive effect of embarrassment typically has on other people by conveying insincerity and pushing people away rather than drawing them in,” Vanessa said.
Sharing too much.
I used to tell people my life goals and plans, and upload everything on social media as well: what I was doing, who I was dating or in a relationship with, where I was... all that.
Now I realise there is so much more peace and happiness in living a low-key life. I high-key enjoy that s**t.
Camping. Never again will I leave my perfectly comfortable house for a weekend to sleep on the ground and share a disgusting bathroom with 150 strangers.
Loan a friend money with the expectation of getting it back. Haven’t loaned money since and if I ever do, it’s a gift.
I’m aware that this might come across as slightly arsey, but I’ve stopped loaning anything at all. (Ie not money, but books, CDs, clothes, household items, etc.) I’ve grown tired of being the one who keeps pushing to get my stuff back, and then, when I do finally get it back, it’s usually in a pretty bad condition.
Being obese.
I didn’t realize how much it negatively affected everything in my life until I lost 80 pounds. Then I was like “oh THIS is how I’m supposed to feel.”
Go to Disneyland or Disney World.
Paid waaaaay too much money to stand in waaaay too many lines, fighting crowds of waaaay too many people.
Disney parks are not a fun way to spend a day.
i went to hershey park a few years ago with my family. i havent been to disneyland/world, but they have a lot of the same things, less long lines, and CHOCOLATE
Forgive a cheater.
If it happened once, it can happen again. Also, it happened for a reason, maybe they wouldn't admit it or you wouldn't believe it but something was the precursor.
Bungee jump.. as soon as my feet left the edge all I could think was "well that was stupid"...
It was exciting and probably safe enough.. but it was enough for me to know I will never willingly do that again.
Childbirth and the postpartum period. Love my daughter to death. One and done.
Yep. I had my daughter and went through so much anxiety and was told it wasn't real that I did not have another child even though I wanted one. I just couldn't imagine going through that again. Now people talk about it more so I would be able to get help but 19 yrs ago doctors got frustrated if you complained about anything to do w mental health after pregnancy. Plus I was afraid they'd take her from me if they knew how axioms I was. To the point I held her for a year straight. I couldn't put her down I was so scared. I would sleep for a few hours a night as long as my husband held her while I slept.
Allow my mood to get tethered to someone else's.
With my ex, I was only ever happy when she was happy and if she woke up in a bad mood, my day was ruined. I need to live my own life without clinging onto someone else's.
Ah, emotional vampires. My mom is like this. I'm not allowed my own feelings. Every emotion she dictates. Now I don't know if I'm a strong empath or just can't deflect others emotions.
Working in academia - left two years ago and never looking back. F**k that noise.
Soon as the business folk became in charge of the institution instead of the professors, it was all over. Changing the model from " how can we best teach and research knowledge" to "how can we make more money to expand" destroyed the core philosophy.
This is already coming back to bite us in the collective behind. Never before have I encountered so many bachelor degrees with high hopes, high work ethos and just very little knowledge of anything other than their very insular topics.
Have a relationship with someone with children, thus finding myself in the stepfamily situation with never fully feeling accepted, the ex being omnipresent, and always being the one to adjust because… those poor children. And it’s true: they cannot help their situation. But I aint doing it ever again.
Pulling an all nighter. Age is catching up on me.
Attempted to pull a late night this weekend for the sake of having a social life and ended up going home early the next day to take a nap. I think I'm officially old now.
Birthing without an epidural. I had laughing gas instead. Made me high as a kite. I screamed in pain while I was dissociating into space.
Pregnant woman in the Netherlands here. There is now ay in hell I wouldn't want to choose giving birth without the epidural... Why to choose suffering? Hell nah, if I can, I will chose the less painful option to havea beautiful birth experience, hell with "it not natural" who cares? Also wearing shoes is not natural 😂 but hey... My respects to all women who choose to feel what our ancestors did before we had a painless option... Not for me!
Go to a strip club. I've never felt so awkward in my entire life.
I went once in my early 20s. Got a lap dance. Felt like a third wheel the whole time, like she was TRYING to give my wallet a lapdance and I was in the way.
Have a baby with someone I'm not 100% in love with AND married to.
Being pregnant and single, and raising a baby alone is by far the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I'm glad I left by piece of s**t baby daddy, but I'll never do that s**t again. My mental health can't take it.
This past year, my ex started cheating and left me pregnant. Dealing with the emotional fallout and having to move on my own, made me have a late term miscarriage. While I never thought I'd be on my own, I was, and never again. Never. Marriage first. I can get a divorce. I can not shove a kid back up there if it doesn't work out
Have a wedding.
Never. Ever. Again. Way too much planning exhaustion stress all for one day that I barely remember and that I was dissociating from cause I don't like being the center of attention. Arguments with bridesmaids and mother in law. The ridiculous cost. I did it for my husband who I love and who wanted to get married in a church and do the whole shabang. But I would never do it again if I had the chance, ever.
Hang out with people I don't like just to have an excuse to get out of the house.
Work at McDonald's.
Never again. .... Never again.
But I hear it's good place to work, they get paid well and there's all these benefits and scholarships.
Go watch a music artist that was in its prime 20 years ago, hoping for a great night…
LOL I remember when Marilyn Manson came to play in my city about 5 or so years ago. People said it was the most tired, laziest, uninspired, unenergetic show they've ever seen.
Graduate school. So underpaid that I had to take out student loans to afford rent and food. And I’m just lucky I had the foresight to do so, or I would’ve had to drop out.
Got my thesis topic the semester I was expected to graduate. Ended up staying on over that summer and assembling a 200+ page 42,000 word thesis alongside a conference paper and an academic journal submission all in the same 7-month span. For $1200 per month to support myself and my wife.
All for my masters degree. And what am I doing now? Sitting in my parents kitchen job hunting. The same thing I’ve been doing since last august after I defended my thesis.
I get nauseated at the idea of staying in those conditions for 2 more years and god knows how many panic attacks to get a PhD. Yeah. Never again.
Download tiktok.
I downloaded it once and uninstalled it soon after. Too many kids.
Swim with dolphins. They’re fast, large animals and we don’t belong in open water.
Food challenges. I tried eating a 1kg steak once and almost threw up. That was my first and last food challenge.
I’ll never work food service or retail again. You see a side of humanity you wish didn’t exist and I simply refuse to put up with people screaming in my face because they don’t like the prices I didn’t have anything to do with or that their expired coupons don’t work. I was always super nice to customer service workers, but after working it I’m super super nice.
I didn't know how bad food service was until I got out. I think I was in it so long because I didn't think I could do anything else. So glad I got out.
Never go to San Francisco, or LA. I always imagined these places to be beautiful and progressive, with quirky cool vibes...
In reality they are disgusting, filthy, cesspools of inequality, drugs, homelessness, and apathy by NIMBY Faux progressives who would rather put spikes and rocks on the sidewalks than construct one affordable house that might lower their property values.
If you get away from Market and Soma, I love going to SF (used to live there). Avoid the tourist areas and, sorry to say, the homeless areas and it is actually quite beautiful. NYC, on the other hand, I have no use for at all.
Skydive, did it for my birthday. Broke my back and blew disc's out of my neck. Can't do it again. Would never do it again. Thankfully I'm still able to walk.
What on earth went wrong? Cos that’s not what usually happens
Judge a book by its cover. Everyone deserves an opportunity to showcase their best attributes.
Decide to eat barely nothing to get thin (getting anorexia).
Making the decision every day to eat enough to stay alive, instead of rail thin, is one of the hardest long term side effects of an eating disorder that I experience.
Move to be closer to my family. I saw them just as much when I lived across the country. They put in zero effort. So I moved back. They can come visit me, or they can burn in Hell.
There is a reason I live 1000 miles away from the rest of my family. I swear, if they moved here I would pick up and start over again.
College.
I spent 12 years getting a PhD, and f**k me, going to college is the worst possible way to learn stuff. Also, academic research is completely broken. It’s just a numbers game and the majority of published papers are utter garbage.
Yup. I'm beginning a MA program because I need it for career goals, but I learn better through other methods. I'll get through it - maybe I'll learn something useful.
Getting attached too quickly to someone that wanted me first. Getting played by someone like that is a different kind of pain. If you lost interest make it more obvious geez.
Any job involving tech support or customer service. I'll starve before I deal with entitled older people who demand the latest technology, but refuse to learn how to actually use their new technology and expect the world to bend over backwards to satisfy their unrealistic demands. Half of them don't think plugging in their TV is a requirement before calling and screaming that "this darnedest, useless smart tv don't even want to come on and I've tried EVERYTHING! My old dumb TV lasted 40 years and never had a problem, now tell your boss Mr Netflix to send me a new TV and give me a refund!"
Never pull, carry or push something really heavy. I damaged my Knees just to move a closet 1 Meter!! I wouldn't risk damaging them for like 100 million dollars, f**k that
Go to time square for new years eve, looks great on TV, not great in person unless you pay to get in the walled off area.
To be fair, it doesn't look that great on TV either. Large crowd...my first thought is how and I going to get out of here and start panicking.
Drunkenly agree to chug a jar of questionable moonshine at a bonfire.
I woke up at 3am in the rain outside one of the airborne barracks a few blocks down. My phone was shattered, glasses were nowhere to be found, I had a huge scrape on my head where I must have fallen and I was covered in vomit. I think vomiting like that probably saved my life with how much alcohol I put in my system that night. What a better way to start my army career lmao.
Get married. Been married close to 30 years. If something happened and I was single again; I’d stay single for the rest of my life. I see no need to get the government involved in my relationship again.
The benefits to the state being involved do not manifest when everything is going well. They manifest when everything goes to s.h.i.t, like someone's severely injured, died in another country, suddenly killed, or you divorce. Times where you really don't need to be digging around trying to find evidence to prove you are in a long term relationships.
Sky diving. Sure static line sky diving by climbing out of a moving plane and hanging on a strut then letting go was fine.
It was after chute opened and I was swaying from the chute, with nothing to see but the ground that I started to get really nauseous... Like sea sick. I guess the inner ear feeling me swaying did not jibe with what I was seeing. Basically ground is so far away my brain couldnt see parallax correctly.
I still managed to land right on the target on my first try! Then I sat in the field for like 20 minutes before I was sure I wouldn't throw up if I moved.
Nobody much mentions sea sickness while skydiving but yuck, it sucks.
Long distance relationship.
I tried it, it didn't work out but I wouldn't say it can't. It can work if both persons want it too.
I'll never submit entirely to my cravings. I once made and ate 2 boxes of Mac & cheese, and then snacked on some pickles. I was woken that night by the fury boiling in my loins and I ended up on the toilet for around 5 hours. Turns out I had given myself temporary lactose intolerance by using up all of the lactase in my body. Since your body produces lactase (the enzyme which digests lactose) very slowly, I ended up learning later that I was lactose intolerant for a few days after.
Body suspension. What’s it feel like being hung from your back by hooks? Feels like being strung up from the ceiling by big metal hooks in your back… why was I surprised that it wasn’t transcendental?
Have an open relationship. Began with swinging and then full blown polyamory. Such a s**t storm. Never again.
Open relationships helped me figure out that I want to be celibate.
Go to Disney World’s Magic Kingdom on Christmas Day. Shoulder-to-shoulder people, insane lines, and nothing special I couldn’t see earlier in the month.
I feel sorry for the staff who are often made to sacrifice Christmas Day with their families to deal with ungrateful, spoilt and demanding visitors. Must be a nightmare.
Marathons.
I did one to prove to myself I could do it and have no interest in doing one again. I know a lot of people say they 'catch the bug' and can't stop doing them once they've done one. I am not one of those people. Once dated someone whose family did triathlons and ran a marathon on Thanksgiving as their turkey trot. Absolutely not.
Glad I did it - never again.
A half is about as far as I'll do. That's a good challenge, it keeps me training, etc. I tried training for a full, but got done with my 12 mile training run and realized I was going to need 2 hours AT LEAST to recover, in addition to the 2.5 I just spent running. Aaaannn there goes my Saturday/Sunday. Michigan summers are too short to spend one of my weekend days just training.
Hot air balloon. I had a full blown panic attack and thought the bottom of the basket would break. Worst experience of my life.
Having my headphones turned up all the way for extended hours of a day at a time. i was born half deaf in one ear and after doing this for so long i made my hearing worse.
Compete for first place in the duolingo diamond league. So ridiculous and useless. I can spend that time learning grammar, watching foreign films or reading foreign articles etc.
I won the 1st place in the diamond league and it was such a blur. You have to essentially cheat to win. I was reading stories on my mobile and laptop to get more points. Whenever I get into a battle for the top spot in any of the leagues,I miss out on the fun of learning.
Go inside the great pyramid. It's cramped, hot, and people smell.
Spend my whole day doing nothing, Just watching video games and eating, I thought I would be happy but it made me miserable, after a while I dived into a deep depression, I felt so useless and like I had no purpose and when I started to study again and doing something with my life I felt amazing so now I’ve decided even if I have free time, I’m never gonna sit around and do nothing for days in a row.
You likely really needed that down time of doing nothing and then felt replenished enough to get back into the swing of things. If we just constantly go go go and keep busy all the time then we burn out. Eventually we need a lazy day.
Drive to work in the snow. Just not worth it. Company will not pay for damages if you crash or get hit. I work in a supermarket which gets virtually zero business on a snow day anyway. I’ll gladly use a sick day where in the past, I’d sleep over ahead of the storm just to avoid having to drive in it in the morning.
I was forced to drive I-5 south of Seattle after a snowstorm and during a power outage to get into work where they canceled it anyway. My boss at least was apologetic but that was a nerve wracking drive with cars in the ditch everywhere because of icy roads.
Run an ultramarathon and not listen to my body when I blew out my knee. I continued to run 10 miles to finish the race with a severely strained IT band, hamstring and partial tear in my calf. Took my out of running for 6 months and did a number on my mental health. If I would have quit when it started to hurt I likely would have only been out for 8 weeks.
I've never understand those people who (usually running race) run with their last power, run hurt, in the end they go on hands and knees. This in not the 'power of will' or heroism, this id plain stupidity. It' a sin against yourself, your physical and mental health and against nature and the common sense. Sorry English is not my native language but I hope it is understandable.
Binge drink. I used to go on benders for a week or two. Now I barely ever drink.
I can't even smell Pepsi, whisky, gin, vodka, Old English, Crown Royal, Bacardi, etc without wanting to puke.
Live in Alberta where the winter is 6 months long and goes down to minus 40c.
I'm in Montana so same thing which is not surprising based on the proximity to Alberta. This spring has been uncharacteristically beautiful so far. We had snow into June last year.
Mountain climb. I climbed Mt Fuji got altitude sickness and had to be carried down.
Ride an elephant.
I was talked into and convinced to go against my morals and beliefs that riding an elephant is cruel. I adore elephants and wanted the experience of getting close to them.
It was a "sanctuary" that looked after elephants that had been hurt and wouldn't be able to get by in the wild.
I got to feed them oranges and play a game with one using my shoes and i had photos taken with them - I hate those photos- they remind me that I went against something I truly believe so I didn't miss out.
Camping by a river that was flooded by melting snow from an area that was 6 hours away and having to be heli-rescued. It was f***ing embarrassing.
At least they were lucky enough to end up embarrassed rather than dead.
Get another dog. Close to retirement so it’s time to travel.
Nobody tells you how frustrating and time consuming it is to train a dog really well, and how much damage your house will get during those training months, or years.
playing videogames for too long
was big into vidya and still am, just not as big
if you do it too much it clouds your mind and takes away from real life experiences
don't get me wrong, i still love playing, but I do it differently now
Fiend of mine's son is 35 and addicted, it's f**k up his life. He has had several good jobs as a programmer, project managers etc on 6 figures but now he lives back at his mums he can't be without his phone, PS whatever or Xbox. Spends days in his room and has even pee himself not getting pausing a game. Once or twice I've seen him, he's twitchy like a junky. His father is heart broken and just tells friends that his son works really hard that why he doesn't drive 5 km to see him or help him when his ill. The father uses a walking aid now and we (are doggy group) walk his dog when father can't. We check in on him help him and stuff and he always excuses his Son for working so hard, such a shame.
Work in corporate management. After 35 years as an engineer (which I loved), I took a management job to put some serious money into retirement. Hated it for 4 years (but put most of my salary away. I was good at it and well liked, but I want to wash the skeevy out of my mind). Now thank f**k I'm retired!
Sounds like my dad... engineer for 35 years but refuse every opportunity to get a corporate management. He was calling that job: "The Ejector Seat" since when the company made less than anticipated (but still showing record profits) or there was a conflict of interest scandal they will fired the newer corporate manager instead of the dumbâss at the head of the company who commited the fraud in the first place. And his engineer job was unionize, so that's another plus.
Swim with whale sharks in the middle of the ocean. When you look down, it's just complete blackness. Who knows what's watching you.
I would absolutely LOVE to swim with whale sharks. It's my fear of deep water and not having the money that stops me.
Eat at a Mexican restaurant entirely staffed by White people. Literally the worst food I have ever had.
Get my nipple pierced. It was hot for a while, until it got infected and had to take it out. Bye bye money.
C L E A N your piercings they dont just get infected for no reason.
3 1/2 hour jungle hike with almost no water and wearing only a bathing suit and water shoes.
I didn't do this by choice but was more or less forced into it and it SUCKED.
"Forced"? By what? An El Salvadoran junta? You didn't notice the beach wasn't near the parking lot and wonder? You didn't pack the car for the day with water and clothes before leaving? In what world does this sort of situation just surprise you?
Pay $45 for a shot of tequila…
Go to Home Depot in April on any weekend.
Talk to my extended family.
I just don't understand what the point is inviting cousins, aunts and uncles who don't stay in touch for years and everyone else you rarely see to holiday dinners and events, then your family trying to make YOU the one be guilty of not staying in touch with everyone.
Hook up with people on Craigslist. I know it’s not possible anymore but I had always wanted too. When I did, my god it was bad. Guys straight up lying about what they look like. R*pe. Ladies with serious mental health issues refusing to let me leave for a couple days.
OMG--a couple of days?? More than one? I'm glad you survived. Good idea with the never.
I won’t ever open packages with a knife again. I ripped my sleeping bag when i got too eager to open boxed package.
That is why i have this thingy that looks like an uncut fork to open stuff. I don’t remember what it is called though
Drive out of LA at the end of thanksgiving weekend.
I had an 8 hour drive turn into a 2 day exercise in futility.
Or any weekday. Comeing home from work, a ten mile journey would take two hours.
Long distant driving to a holiday destination. We drove from Tour France to Barcelona for a few days' break and spent those few days exhausted from the drive and also the thought of the drive back was exhausting to think about. Never again.
Venice. Most romantic open sewer I've ever blown thousands at, only to be bored and ignored.
Preorder a videogame.
i'd like to know why-I preordered two games and they arrived right on time and I was happy :\
Popping into the first aid hut for a splint at the top of the run. I had broken my thumb and it was pretty obviously misshapen. Just needed a little support so I didn’t injure it more getting down the mountain to go to my car.
Turns out, once you go into first aid you ain’t gettin out on your own two feet. Imagine being taken down the mountain on that stupid body sled for a broken thumb. Absolutely the most embarrassing and uncomfortable ride of my life.
You have the right to refuse treatment, unless you have been deemed to be mentally unable to make such decisions. Cant see this applying on a mountainside.
General admission concerts for me I think. I loved concerts, been to a fair amount. I'd always line up hours early and be front row. I just think my knees can't handle that anymore.
Big concerts are a no no for me. Unless it's a band I really love and have to see at least once, I will not go for that ordeal again. Small venues, least known bands, couple of hours in line and still get to see the stage, sure, I'd go any day, but the big guys, only if they're really special to me.
Walk over 30 miles in one winter's night. Not just because I can't do it anymore. It was a little piece of hell. By the end I was near frozen and once I got where I was going my day wasn't done with me. I actually spent a bit of it sleeping standing up. Fortunately at that point I was neither alone nor out in the cold.
Going to a waterpark. I have tried it two times as a kid and a young teenager and both times I couldn't have any fun since I'm terrified of small spaces and heights. It's just so f**king scary and not fun at all. Don't see the point.
I always get sunburned at those places and I wear like spf 70.
Go to Olive Garden.... what a cesspool that was. Gave me a glass with lip gloss still on the rim from the last customer.
For the most part these are NOT bucket list things people tried and didn't like. FFS whose bucket list includes working retail, being in a bad relationship, having a child with someone they don't love. Come on this is just a list, predominantly, of bad experiences with bad things.
Exactly, it’s not things on peoples’ bucket lists that they don’t want to do again, it’s things that are now on the anti-bucket list of “I’ll never do this again in my life”. No one has “working retail” on their bucket list, but I bet a lot of people have it on the anti-bucket list after having tried it.
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This list sucks. It isn't even vaguely an "anti-bucket list". Why can't people at least try to post ideas that fit the theme, rather than jump on an opportunity to rant about something vaguely related.
I thought the idea of “anti-bucket list” was “this wasn’t on my bucket list before, but I’m never going to do it again”. It’s not things that were on the bucket list already and then turned out to be horrible, it’s somewhat normal things that they don’t want to do again. They’re two separate lists, not things from one moved to the other.
Load More Replies... i'm going to say it....having a child. i have one who is now 42 but, in retrospect, i would not have had him. it's a long story that i won't get into but it was a situation in which i could not choose to abort or adopt out. had i been able to do either i think my life would have been different. but, that being said, i will say that the experience did benefit me as i think it made me a better person. i don't know if that's a 'making lemonade out of lemons' attitude or not but after one i was done.
Thank you. I have 3. I felt pressured into having them even though I didn't want them and wasn't ready. I love my children, but parenting isn't really for me and they didn't deserve to be born into this world.
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Snorkeling. Did it once at a camp, hyperventilated and got back in the boat as fast as possible. Everything looked so much closer, slimier, more alive, and much better at swimming than me, and since it was below me, I couldn’t run away except by swimming to somewhere else with new horrors. At one point I nearly kicked a sea turtle that I had no idea was there. The worst part is I then had to go out again with the group the next day and they wouldn’t let me just stay in the boat. I am absolutely never going anywhere in the ocean with clear water ever again. Too many nightmares. I’ll stick to aquariums with walls, thanks.
Thank you for this actual anti-bucket list thing.
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For me, ride a roller coaster. I'll do other adrenaline inducing things, like cliff-dive or do the polar-bear-challenge, I just never had any desire whatsoever to ride a coaster as a kid. As a teen, someone begged me to ride one with them, and after a lot of back and forth, I finally gave in. I ended up getting severe whiplash, and didn't even enjoy the ride prior to the injury. It just seemed bumpy and uncomfortable, and not at all exciting. 30 years later, and I tend to throw out my shoulder a lot. I couldn't swear the whip lash is what caused my shoulder to get so screwed up, but that's around the same time it started.
I thought I was the only one who was bored by rollercoasters etc! People expect it's just that you are scared, but I would rather do something like rock climbing.
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Once I jumped off a cliff into a lake. I did not enjoy it at all.
Getting married again. One and done. Thank god I can spend the rest of my life with my current husband. We both agree we agree should have eloped. Ceremony + reception, so stressful.
Being friends with certain people who either used me as their personal therapist or refused to take no for an answer when he asked me out
Hitting my 8 year old computer in frustration while it was trying to boot. The next thing I hear is a faint error sound. It had been reading from the disk. Thank good I had backups of most of it, but my Minecraft worlds will forever be gone. Were it not for my stupidity, I would still be using my old laptop today.
I keep getting calls telling me to pay off my student loans, and the people calling are glad to help me. This is a little bit strange, because I am 75 years old, and I paid off all my student loans some 40 years ago. However when I feel the money people on the phone that, they won't listen. They just keep trying to get my money.
Would have been better if these were actual bucket list things people did that just weren't worth it, or at least sounded like actual bucket list experiences to someone.
For the most part these are NOT bucket list things people tried and didn't like. FFS whose bucket list includes working retail, being in a bad relationship, having a child with someone they don't love. Come on this is just a list, predominantly, of bad experiences with bad things.
Exactly, it’s not things on peoples’ bucket lists that they don’t want to do again, it’s things that are now on the anti-bucket list of “I’ll never do this again in my life”. No one has “working retail” on their bucket list, but I bet a lot of people have it on the anti-bucket list after having tried it.
Load More Replies... This list sucks. It isn't even vaguely an "anti-bucket list". Why can't people at least try to post ideas that fit the theme, rather than jump on an opportunity to rant about something vaguely related.
I thought the idea of “anti-bucket list” was “this wasn’t on my bucket list before, but I’m never going to do it again”. It’s not things that were on the bucket list already and then turned out to be horrible, it’s somewhat normal things that they don’t want to do again. They’re two separate lists, not things from one moved to the other.
Load More Replies... i'm going to say it....having a child. i have one who is now 42 but, in retrospect, i would not have had him. it's a long story that i won't get into but it was a situation in which i could not choose to abort or adopt out. had i been able to do either i think my life would have been different. but, that being said, i will say that the experience did benefit me as i think it made me a better person. i don't know if that's a 'making lemonade out of lemons' attitude or not but after one i was done.
Thank you. I have 3. I felt pressured into having them even though I didn't want them and wasn't ready. I love my children, but parenting isn't really for me and they didn't deserve to be born into this world.
Load More Replies... Snorkeling. Did it once at a camp, hyperventilated and got back in the boat as fast as possible. Everything looked so much closer, slimier, more alive, and much better at swimming than me, and since it was below me, I couldn’t run away except by swimming to somewhere else with new horrors. At one point I nearly kicked a sea turtle that I had no idea was there. The worst part is I then had to go out again with the group the next day and they wouldn’t let me just stay in the boat. I am absolutely never going anywhere in the ocean with clear water ever again. Too many nightmares. I’ll stick to aquariums with walls, thanks.
Thank you for this actual anti-bucket list thing.
Load More Replies... For me, ride a roller coaster. I'll do other adrenaline inducing things, like cliff-dive or do the polar-bear-challenge, I just never had any desire whatsoever to ride a coaster as a kid. As a teen, someone begged me to ride one with them, and after a lot of back and forth, I finally gave in. I ended up getting severe whiplash, and didn't even enjoy the ride prior to the injury. It just seemed bumpy and uncomfortable, and not at all exciting. 30 years later, and I tend to throw out my shoulder a lot. I couldn't swear the whip lash is what caused my shoulder to get so screwed up, but that's around the same time it started.
I thought I was the only one who was bored by rollercoasters etc! People expect it's just that you are scared, but I would rather do something like rock climbing.
Load More Replies... Once I jumped off a cliff into a lake. I did not enjoy it at all.
Getting married again. One and done. Thank god I can spend the rest of my life with my current husband. We both agree we agree should have eloped. Ceremony + reception, so stressful.
Being friends with certain people who either used me as their personal therapist or refused to take no for an answer when he asked me out
Hitting my 8 year old computer in frustration while it was trying to boot. The next thing I hear is a faint error sound. It had been reading from the disk. Thank good I had backups of most of it, but my Minecraft worlds will forever be gone. Were it not for my stupidity, I would still be using my old laptop today.
I keep getting calls telling me to pay off my student loans, and the people calling are glad to help me. This is a little bit strange, because I am 75 years old, and I paid off all my student loans some 40 years ago. However when I feel the money people on the phone that, they won't listen. They just keep trying to get my money.
Would have been better if these were actual bucket list things people did that just weren't worth it, or at least sounded like actual bucket list experiences to someone.
