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As kids, we see our parents as all-knowing people. However, as the years pass, we realize that our moms and dads are just regular humans after all, and that they too don't have all the answers. So we start looking elsewhere.

There's an interesting study published in the British Journal of Political Science, based on data from the U.S. and U.K., which found that parents who are insistent that their children adopt their political views inadvertently influence their children to abandon the belief once they become adults.

This can be explained by the fact that children who come from homes where politics is a frequent topic of discussion are more likely to talk about politics once they leave home, exposing them to new viewpoints—which they then adopt with surprising frequency.

Similar transformations happen in other areas as well. To get a better understanding of them, Reddit users u/nousername1982 and u/ZestyClose_Ad4682 recently started threads asking people to share the things their parents taught them that turned out to be totally wrong. Here are some of the responses, ranging from romantic relationships to personal finance, that we thought might be interesting and worthy of your time.

#1

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations "If a boy acts like a jerk, it means he likes you!"

No...just no...

First of all, he shouldn't be let off the hook for acting like a jerk. (Whether he's 5 or 105.) Secondly, it teaches girls that abuse is okay, or that they should expect to be treated like crap (and that it's okay for them to be treated like crap.)

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I swear this was initially an embarrassment tactic for the boys to stop pestering girls and it originally stopped being said to the boys at "courting" age. (I put quotes because it's so cheesy and old-fashioned to say "courting", and not something I say normally.)

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That sex, sexuality, drinking/drugs/partying, politics, money, spirituality are awkward things to discuss. I want my future kids to know facts and that if they are ever in trouble, I am a safe place for them. We don't have to talk about it if they don't want to, they'll be taught how to be safe, but they should also know that these subjects are a part of life and should not cause shame.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't have a safe place to talk about anything, so I made sure I am the safe place for my kid, too. Nothing will shock me. I will not judge, just listen. However, some things do need to be talked about no matter if anyone wants to hear it or not.

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We managed to get in touch with one of the Redditors that sparked this discussion, u/nousername1982  and they agreed to have a talk about their post and parenting in general.

"I don't really [remember] what I was doing exactly [when I came up with the idea to ask the internet this question]," they told Bored Panda.

"But, I have kids myself who are very curious and ask questions all the time. I made a promise to myself to be as honest with them as possible (without spoiling Christmas). But sometimes it is difficult to give a genuine answer because the truth would make something more difficult to accept. I've seen many Redditors posting about parents telling them they 'can do anything.' I believe those motivational speeches are essential for a child. Probably most of the stories were a variation of that."

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations If you stop reacting, they'll stop bullying you.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This hits hard. It was the teachers and daycare staff that were saying this trash to me, though. My mom sorta ignored it and thought I was doing something to cause other kids to bully me. No support. Nothing. This carries into adulthood. Eventually you stop caring what other people think but there is a stronger need to be heard the loudest, so you end up repeating the injustices you experience in life to friends and family until they acknowledge your plight, which never happens because you're being a downer, an attention-seeker, and a boring repeater. But you're not really trying to be any of that. You just want to understand why people are shitty towards you of all people.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Lack of empathy. My parents grew up in a really really horrible situation and they made it out and did well for themselves. So now anytime anyone struggles they refuse to feel bad for them because they have gone through worse and did fine. I think people deserve empathy regardless.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know this guy's story or where he comes from, if he's homeless or has a home and struggling with something. I was at Subway and saw him chatting with the staff. He left with nothing. As soon as I started asking what he wanted they said he wanted food, and that he comes in frequently and they used to give him free food but can't continue doing that. I was going to buy him something if that was the case. I was a bit hesitant hearing that it's been a regular occurrence but then I thought I've been homeless and hungry before. Why the hell not. I bought a $10 gift card for them to use it towards him the next time he shows up. If he doesn't show up, someone's got a free gift card regardless and that is just fine.

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u/nousername1982 thinks that parents and their kids every now and then simply end up on different terms. "Sometimes parents have priorities that kids don't understand, like 'Why are they always having to work that much?' Truth is, at least in my case, I don't have to work that hard, but I'm motivated to advance my career. I'm not working to pay for the food, house, or toys. I'm working for the extras."

"Also, most parents strive to have an easy life, which is sometimes difficult to combine with kids. You don't want to tell your kids they can't have something because mom or dad doesn't want to make the effort," the Redditor continued. "My parents told me I had to quit my favorite sport because of a kid that was dealing drugs in the club. Later, I realized it was because the drive was too much of a hassle. The drug dealer had little to do in the decision."

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That parents never have to apologize to their kids.

I love my dad. He is a great dad and I know he loves me so much, but he has it in his head that even now, even when his youngest (me) is an adult, that he doesn't need to apologize if he does something wrong. It's baffling.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. Mine barely uses basic manners with me. She does with everyone else. Just not me.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Math and science aren’t gonna serve a girl well.

I would had killed to have someone reared me into STEM when I was younger.

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Even though the idea of lying to your kids sounds harsh at first, a study published in the International Journal of Psychology found that 84 percent of the American parents surveyed do it to get them to behave. This is also known as 'instrumental lying.'

While the decision when to use it is ultimately up to the parents, there are certain situations where it's considered more acceptable. For instance, the fictional story of Santa Claus is universally known, and many young children learn it from their moms and dads. So long as they're not using Santa to threaten the little ones into behaving, it's perfectly fine. Interestingly, one study, published in Child Psychiatry and Human Development, discovered that children who eventually found out the truth about Santa Claus reacted positively to the news.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations "Respect your elders" but in the sense that you should just keep quiet when you disagree with somebody older than you - turns out many people are awful regardless of their age. Don't get me wrong, my default is to respect any new person I meet, but when a person has repeatedly shown me that they don't are about my feelings or even basic logic, I won't hold back from speaking my mind calmly, even if they see this as disrespectful.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandad taught me that respect is earned, there is no situation where respect is to be given just because. You don't just get respect from being old. He was a man I respected, and he earned it multiple times over.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Finish your plate. B*tch that is what all that Tupperware is for.

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However, it's important to remember that there are other ways to go about it. Although parental lying is common, too much of it may lead to negative long-term effects. In a study where the researchers surveyed 379 young Singaporean adults who reported their parents lying during their childhood, they discovered that the participants who were lied to as children were more likely to lie to their parents as adults.

The study also suggested that parental dishonesty can create trust issues and problems externalizing certain emotions, like aggression.

#9

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That crying is shameful.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a tendency of crying to easily when i was younger so now nobody takes me seriously when i am in visible distress

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That you need to hustle 100% of the time and be constantly busy with school/work, extra activities, side projects, cleaning etc. Spending time unwinding is a sign of laziness and boredeom and intelligent people are never bored. This really messed me up and I'm still learning the art of wasting time.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm quite skilful when it comes to wasting time ... continues opening a few more boredpanda articles

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"I read some stories about pets that 'ran away,'" u/nousername1982 said. "I too discovered 20 years after the 'dog ran away' that he was euthanized. I can imagine the truth is difficult to share with kids."

"Other lies are just lame, with no excuse. I shared the story that my father told me he had to get A's every day at work. Of course, that is not true, and it didn't help me to get motivated. A friend of mine tells his kids about a 'dangerous man' coming at night if the kids are not good. This is just bad parenting."

Even though the Redditor believes it's impossible to raise a kid without lies, they nonetheless think that parents should strive to be honest.

#11

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations My mum made me believe that privacy was a privilege. Wasn't until I started studying childcare and learning in depth about the rights of the child that I learned it is a right and that my mum is full of bullsh*t

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#12

“Bullies are cowards.”

No they aren’t. They’re evil scum who are naively capable of ruining your life for decades after. And they’re not afraid to do so.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Cowards? They are anything but cowards, they feel all powerful because they literally massacre children who have done nothing to them, well hidden behind the school garbage cans. And if by some miracle this child manages to talk about it, to a teacher or a supervisor, these assholes are smart enough to make everyone believe that it was you who started it and WORST that you deserved it. A "big" (12) girl from daycare (I was 6/7 years old) spent three years telling me every night "your mother is dead, she won't come to get you, she will never come back". It created anxieties in me that I still feel today... But Go die Sarah!!!!

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If you're contemplating whether or not to bend the truth, experts advise to ask yourself a few questions first:

  • Are you only helping them in the short term, which might affect things in the future?
  • Will your lie confuse them or give them unrealistic expectations of people?
  • Is the lie for you or them?
  • Are they able to understand the truth?

Often, a child's age and maturity determine whether or not a lie is the way to go!

#13

30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That it’s rude to express any negative emotions.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Tell me the truth I won't be mad.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Aaaaaaaaand that's how you get to be punished (in the best case) for something as trivial as having forgotten to start the washing machine for the mother-in-law...

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That you have to “suffer for love” (I’m a chick). Thanks mom, you set me up for a lifetime of trying to change narcissistic losers.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My "best friend" when I was a teenager (15), told me that in love or in friendship, if we didn't suffer, it wasn't real... Yeah, of course...

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations My dad always said. "Children should be seen and not heard." I'm not a big fan of that one

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This basically tells children that their opinions, experiences and feelings are invalid and their parents don't care about them. Good strategy if you want your adult children never to talk to you again.

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Well I was mostly raised by my grandparents. We lived in an all white community and my grandparents believed every terrible thing they had ever been told about black people. I spent my youth being fed those lies but everyone I knew was white and I couldn’t imagine it being true. When I got to college I met my first non white people and was able to verify that the things they believed just weren’t true.

And luckily both of them realized that before they passed away.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Animals don't get cold, they're made for being outside.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations ‘’Parents always know what’s best for their child’’

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations They're not gay, they're just confused.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

bullshite. so what if they're gay? if ya got a problem don't look. just live under a freaking rock your entire life

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My grandson is gay and I could not be more proud. He is a wonderful person and I am looking forward to meeting a wonderful boyfriend in the future 🥰

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom, an original feminist and WWII nurse, used to always say, "They must be born that way because why would anyone choose to be gay?" So one day I replied, "Of course being a woman isn't a choice, because why would anyone choose to be born one in a male dominated society?" Then she finally understood; it's not your identity that make life difficult or pleasant, it's how people react to your identity.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'd like to propose that they are both gay AND confused.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I would go a step further and say we're all confused at this point regardless of our demographics.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I've heard worse from within my family, I'm embarrassed to say. We had a gay mayor for a while. Yup. Lots of intolerance was said.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My 5 wants to marry a girl when she grows up because boys are useless. "No, boys are not useless. But you can marry whomever you want."

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hah. My sister (also 5) is VERY convinced that she will be marrying her best friend Harper.

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Benita Valdez
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh and bi is just an experimental phase and you're really just gay or super confused. That was a really annoying and frustrating one for me; why was it so hard just to except men and women turn me on? Maybe I'm just too indecisive

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No your e bi, and that's ok. Also your sexuality can change throughout your life! That's totally normal! I'm bi and sometimes I like men more, sometimes I'm more into women. Its more about the person and their personality than it is about what gender they are. Thatis totally a thing and you are perfect just the way you are.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother still talks about it like it's a choice. She says she doesn't understand why someone would want to be gay. Tried to explain that someone can feel the same way about straight people. "Why? Being straight is normal." Tbh I gave up. She's one of those people you can't get through to.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She might legit be bi, having "chosen" to just "be straight" she thinks it's like that for everyone.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In Florida, the governor and his cronies would make it illegal to be gay.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I never really got this from my parents, as much as I got this from my peers. I grew up in the "gay" as insult era. My parents taught me that homosexuality is a mere fact of biology. They added no more shame to it, then to being short or tall. It was my friends who really pushed the gay = bad ideology. Where they got that from... I can only guess.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I was raised in a Extremely racist home. I learned that, it's sickening to be racist. To me, everyone is the same on the outside, and on the inside. Everyone, gas a mind if their own. People, can be an inspiration to me! My mom, and dad, would turn over in their Graves if they knew, I've become Non-racist. Dear God! What they would have done if they knew, My daughter, is gay. I love her with all of my heart! It's her choice, and her life. They would have disowned me if they knew that I support it. I love her friends to death! They all call me, Mom. I love it when they come to visit!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's great that you've not come away as the same views as you've parents. And awesome that you support your daughter! I would just add that its not really a choice for her, she was born who she is. But yes she does get to make her own choices in general and that's amazing that you love her and support her so much!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mom used to work in a prestigious hotel in/near the gay district of Dallas. One day I saw a guy "with breasts" and my mom said "that's what happens if you smoke too much pot". It's a great lady but her child rearing tactics were beyond my comprehension sometimes

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I uderstand it is a way for straight to silence gay people. But actuallywhy not both ? Searching for you sexual orientation is a long, deep, journey and i wish people would understand it. It put a lot of pressure to come out because we are told we need to be sure. F**k that, i'm attracted to both gender now, maybe it was not always the case, maybe it will not always be the case. People change, just accept them as they are now.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its totally normal for our sexuality to change and develop throughout our lives!

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

When I was a teenager and had just recently came out to my parents, they took away my door saying "Privacy is a privilege, and you just proved to us that you are not trustworthy." I spent most of my teenage life crying in my open room because I had to hide the fact that I liked girls, while getting boyfriend to please them. I now realize that they are complete assholes. I am so grateful that I was able to escape them at an early age.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Privacy is a privilege, and you just proved to us that you are not trustworthy." I literally snarled aloud at this line, (and yes it’s weird but it’s just a thing for me to react with).. Well, I support you! I have a female friend who’s into girls and she is amazing 🤩. You shouldn’t have to get a boyfriend just for their happiness! Can’t they see how much pain they caused you?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They're young so they don't know what they feel. I hate that with a passion 😒

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My cousin came out and my grandpa told him he just hadn't found the right girl. Once he realized he was 100% and it wasn't a "phase" he fully supports him and his bf

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No, they are confused that their child is gay. Their child is still gay and needs unconditional love and support.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

At 12/13 my daughter had to talk to me. She informed me she was bi. I said, "okay...?" Like what's your point? I've know she was since she was able to walk pretty much. It wasn't news to me. But I would have supported her even if I hadn't seen the signs.

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Kelly Jo
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If lesbian, less competition, if gay males, shopping buddy to help pick out the outfit to get the guy I like.

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Wren Kaiser
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

HIGH FIVE TO THOSE GUYS I LOVE THEIR SHIRTS 👕🏳️‍🌈

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll never understand the issue people take with gays. It literally does not effect you that Larry and Steve are deeply in love and in a relationship. You can explain to your child that sometimes some people feel that way and it's fine. You don't need to feel forced in either direction of feeling. Live your life and let them live theirs.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Lol mind is blown by gayism, therefore must be confusion. Can't compute, must rationalize.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

May be true in some cases for younger children (pubescent and prepubescent who are developing their sense of self in an adult sexual world, and are most easily influenced by what they see or don't see in peer groups) but by the time you are around 16 or older, you pretty well know your preferences. People will love who they love.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do people think being gay is a choice you are what you are meant to be!

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Sabrina Bowen
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

In my home it was "They're gay because they made a choice to follow evil." Both my sister and I are LGBTQIA....

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Me who just today got told "I think your confused about liking girls" from my mom, but thank God I have my dad, who accepted it and said "if you need a wingman, I got you" love him

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I once joked with my teenage daughter that I wished she was gay because I was certain no man ever born would be good enough for her. She would talk about friends from school and I would be surprised when I met them because they would be a different race or sexual orientation and she never mentioned that to me. When I asked her why she didn’t tell me that she said “why would I?” I think that is awesome. This is the best generation ever.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"you will go to hell if you like someone the same sex as you" (my dad back when I was growing up when he was a preacher) "No school dances and no proms, all they are is a way for teens to have sex." Or was told "your brothers and sisters never went to dances or proms when they were in HS neither are you"

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm gay. I'm not confused. I've been gay for years. it is ok to be confused about your sexuality tho.

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James Nelson Jr
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or if they cross dress they don't know what gender they are, I'm not confused I just feel more comfortable in women's clothing

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This attitude is so archaic. Yes, I would imagine there can be some uncertainty/confusion for someone while they are trying to develop their own gender identity, especially where they are from an environment that is less than accepting of anything other than heterosexuality, but once they have it figured out that confusion ceases but it's THEIR choice. We don't get to choose who we fall in love with.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I shi̶t you not, the other day my religious conservative christian mom pulled the "you're just confused" card on me and i just laughed as soon as i left the room. but it really does hurt. Recently, a series of unfortunate circumstances led to me being unwillingly outed (technically it was my teacher's fault but it really was an accident so i'm not mad.) but the things that have been said/overheard in the last month since mom and some other people found out: "you're not a they." ~my mom. "you're confused."~also my mom. "Tf? She wants to go by 'Micah'? Does that have anything to do with her name? How tf does Micah relate to [deadname]? Is that her middle name or something?" ~my best friend's stepdad. "you're struggling with your identity right now, but it's all right. we're here for you. you'll sort it out, [deadname], and realize you are a girl like the way God made you."~a church leader. "Huh? Wait, you got outted to mom? Oh. I'll pray for you."~my unsupportive older brother (next >>)

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Micah Chips 🇺🇦
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

idk if anyone's going through something similar, but i just want to say. Be who you are. LGBTQ+ or not, you are VALID. to my fellow gender non-conforming peeps: it's your identity and you rock it. you're not confused, you're not "sinful" for it, you're not a disgrace. you are beautiful/handsome/amazing (pick your preferred compliment) and you are a human being and should be treated as such. to the rest of the LGBTQ+ community, the same message. currently my target audience is mostly people under nonbinary umbrella but this really goes for everyone ^^

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MessyMind32
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A couple years ago I finally felt comfortable to come out as bi to a couple of my friends and was told I was "faking" by one. I'm in my mid 20s and still haven't come out to my parents. They're the type of people to say stuff like this.

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LucyGoosey
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will personally fight anyone that says this. It's 2022. GET OVER IT.

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Axolotl King
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ugh. Sunday in the car I had to listen to my dad give a rant about how it's not right for single mothers, single fathers, gay parents, polyamorous parents etc. to have kids because a kid has to have 1 mom and 1 dad in order to grow up correctly. Only 3 and 1/4 more years.

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Addison Bonine
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can always choose to accept their choices and love them anyways. You dont always have to agree. You are entitled to believe what you want. While I think being gay is wrong, im not going to shame or be hateful to anyone who is. That is their decision. (Yes it is a choice)

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Jan Steuck
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh dear. I not 'gay' but I have friends who are. It is their life. I have a long time friend who "came out" . I was amazed only because I had no clue. Of course we are still friends.

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Dizz2K7 Gaming
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same could be said about straight people. But, this was more to avoid having a conversation about sex with a child, which is justifiable.

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Maeve Quigley
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think it is pretty easy to tell a child about gay or straight people without mentioning sex

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Brian Willess
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

not all love is love. the woman who ran off with her son-in-law while daughter was giving birth said: "you can't help who the heart loves " what a copout. Gay is selfish love. illogical, unhealthy. are you a beast led by your whims? beast often eat their young.

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meme lord
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

idk how gay love is any different from straight love. Why is gay love selfish? How does being gay make me a cannibal?

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Being gay is a choice, just like all other sins. They aren't confused, they're minds are distorted, and given up to be a reprobate. Romans 1:26-32 26For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature: 27And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet. 28And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient; 29Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers, 30Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, 31Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection,

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meme lord
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

your mind is about as sharp as a sock full of soup. I'll pray for you, so the hate will one day leave your heart

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What bulls***. Just because they choose to love a different gender does not mean they are 'confused' or 'going through a phase'. Parents need to stop teaching their kids that being gay is a bad thing.

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Draj
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Might want to reword your post if you're serious... We didn't choose it.

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What kicks me is when gays say it wasn't a choice. Everything is a choice. Let your kids know they can chose gay or not. Then they will be gay or realize people are free to do what they want.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Its really not a choice. I'm assuming your straight, so let me ask you, did you choose to be straight? Did you try really hard to like men, try dating men, kissing men and then finally decide you just couldn't? You can't force yourself to like a gender you just don't. Gay people are pressured into trying to be straight for the world and it causes so much pain. We would never choose to go through that pain. Its not a f*****g choice.

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"confused" can mean many things. my moms friend wanted a girl but got a boy, so when he was, like, 5, she sorta made him trans. im not saying that ALL gay or LGBTQ people are "confused" but they're are situations where they are.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

that doesnt make any sense???? if the kid is cis, then he isn't trans (obv lol) and if the kid is trans, then they are. i agree that a mother shouldn't force any kind of identity on a child, but that goes both ways. you can't make someone something they aren't. im starting to sound transphobic but don't take me the wrong way, i'm literally genderqueer myself.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That their love has conditions, and if not followed they will drop you in your time of need. Right or wrong, I hope my children will never feel like they can’t talk to me or that I will judge them.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And some elderly folks wonder why their family dumped them in a care home and don't want to contact them again.

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Saying, 'Do as I say, not as I do.' A leader shouldn't ask his followers to do something he wouldn't.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That sex is something to be ashamed of.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Let me guess? Religious parents? Why are they SO obsessed with sex & punishment?

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That as long as we “have always been given everything we need we are loved”. The emotional abuse has ruined me

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yeah im always called ungrateful or selfish or the "dont you know what we have done for you" when i stand up to their abuse

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations The man of the house is always right.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations No, it's not racist to say that.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Any discrimination based on skin color is racism. There are no exceptions.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations Don't worry about the college loans! You're smart, you'll get a good job and pay that off in a few years.

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That it is illegal to have the little ceiling light on in the car.

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30 People Share The Dead Wrong Things Their Parents Taught Them, And There Is Actual Wisdom In Their Realizations That i basically have to be a smaller version of them, believe exactly what they do and not think for myself and have my own opinion. If i have kids id let them be open minded and believe what they want

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Every parent should aspire for their kids to be better than them not the same

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To try to fit in as much as possible and to please others, at the expense of who you really are on the inside.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are so many things in this list that have hurt me over the years, but this one was probably the worst one for me and is still today. After already years of mental issues, currently recovering from a depression. After 36 years I'm now finally at the point that I really feel like I'm allowed to express myself. Wear the clothes I like, live the life that I like, hell even think what I like. Never, ever tell your kids to be normal, if they are expressing themselves differently. They will start eating away themselves from the inside and at some point they will break.

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