Someone Asks Women “What’s Their Cringy ‘Nice Guy’ Story” And The Responses Are Really Creepy (30 Posts)
When taken literally, the term “nice guy” refers to someone that anyone would like: a man who is gentle, compassionate, and agreeable. But in popular dating culture, the same term can be used to describe an insecure man who expects his kindness to be rewarded with physical affection.
Women who have an experience being friends with “a nice guy” often tell about how they manage to use their friendship with an ulterior motive to progress it to a romantic and sexual relationship. So when someone asked on r/AskReddit “Women of Reddit, what’s your cringy 'nice guy' story?” the question immediately resonated, amassing 11.4k comments with various such stories.
Scroll through the cringiest and creepiest down below, and be sure to share your thoughts in the comments below!
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Ok, my best actual nice guy moment - I went out after work in London with friends and caught the last late train back out to where I lived. Long story short I was pretty drunk and somehow managed to fall asleep and miss my stop. I started panicking, crying and realized that my phone battery was dead and I didn't have my housemates numbers written down. Basically, I was f*cked roughly 80 miles from home, in the middle of the night, drunk. Not great I know but I was very young. Anyway, I'm cursing my own stupidity when an older man on the train wearing a suit walks over and asks if I'm OK. I explain my predicament and he says not to worry, he's getting off at the next stop and will show me to the taxi rank. I was a little bit wary of him but I didn't have too many options so he got off the train and he put me in the taxi. After an hour and a half taxi ride, I arrive back home and ask the taxi to stop while I attempt to withdraw £200 from the atm. He just smiled and said "don't worry Miss, your friend has put this fare on his account" HOW F*CKING AMAZING WAS THAT!!! It bothered me for ages that I never got to thank that man. What a legend, I hope I get to pay it forward one day.
This actually just happened recently. My good friend from college and I, along with other friends from our program went out to a bar to celebrate finishing our degree. He kept feeding me shots but I figured everyone just wanted to be drunk and have a good time. The night is coming to an end and I’m quite incapacitated. My “good friend” frantically approaches me saying that he had just seen a guy put something in my drink (which I had just finished). He told me that I would soon be unconscious and it was best that he take me back to his apartment so he could take care of me. Being heavily drunk and also quite scared, I agreed and he helped me back to his apartment.
After making me something to eat and giving me some water, we set up camp for the night on his couch. He put on a movie and he said he would sit and watch me sleep to make sure I didn’t throw up or anything. As I started to dose off he started touching me, first on my feet and knees and then my upper thigh. I confronted him about it and he said after everything he had done he felt he deserved “compensation”. I laughed it off but after he tried to make a move again I got angry and we began fighting. He exposed to me that no one had put anything in my drink and it was all a ploy to allow him to make his move. After some more arguing he decided it was best I left, and he kicked me out of his apartment at 3:00 am while I was still considerably drunk.
This is someone whom I’ve trusted and spent 4 years being friends with. Safe to say I’ll be a lot more speculative with future male friends.
I know right? Why do these men think it is some kind of quid pro quo system?
Load More Replies...Acting like sex is something you're "owed" in exchange for doing someone a favour. Classic "Nice Guy" behaviour. *eyeroll*
And yet ppl are irate that women can have trust issues 🙄 what disgusting creep
The old "I did this for you, so you owe me" bs. That thinking is beyond disgusting & flat out wrong on so many levels
that man is a predator. He could have told you he like you--instead He got you inebriated, scared, isolated and thankful. POS.
See, men like that are why women learn not to trust men! Putting on a convincing facade for nearly half a decade and then pulling that? Sickening.
And people wonder why women probably don’t drink a lot because of this kind of thing happening
It's terrible that this utter d**k has made you feel wary of future male friends. I can't believe he said he wanted "compensation just for being a decent human being. What a pathetic waste of oxygen.
Most are decent, we just hear more about the f****d up ones. Can't paint most/all guys with the same brush.
Load More Replies...One of my best HS friends was raped by a "platonic" friend after he finally figured out that the only way he'd get into her pants is if he got her drunk first. When she told him she was pregnant, he ordered her to terminate, then he spread rumors that she was a "s**t" and it wasn't his, "no matter what she says!" which gloriously backfired on him when a lot of their mutual friends said, "A, I thought she was a virgin (she was, until then), B, I didn't know she was pregnant, C, I didn't know until ten seconds ago that you're a raging a$$hole. STFU and GTFO."
Some guys think "friendzone" is so bad. But friendzone means you are important to someone, as a friend. they like you for who you are. It's way way worse to be sexualised by a friend, you thought they liked you, that you're important to them, but all they wanted was you body. They just saw you as a piece of meat to f*k, and when they don't get it, they abandon you, you had no real meaning to them. WAY WORSE than just being friends.
I find it quite alarming that this is so common. I would hate to think any of my brothers or mates would act in this way to anyone let alone a vulnerable friend.
Okay, so he saw a guy putting something in a girl's drink and didn't do anything about it. Like confront him, call the police or whatever. And besides that, she could have severe problems from whatever was allegedly put in her drink. So no calling an ambulance or have her see a doctor. How drunk was she not wanting to consult a doctor herself? Or tell the bar owner so other women would be save? I don't say it's her own fault, not at all. But drinking responsibly should be the first rule of self-protection she should learn.
I would have spent a lot of time and effort making myself throw up on his closed door!
Met up with a guy from collegeclub.com and we had planned for a quick bite to eat. I had forgotten my wallet so he came to my dorm room with me to quickly grab it. We get there and He immediately starts looking around at all my of photos etc. around the room. He finds my Homer Simpson slippers and a rooster beanie boo my nephew had left there. He takes the rooster and stuffs it in Homer’s mouth and makes it move (as if the slipper was chewing) and says “Look at me. I am vain. I create suffering for animals so I can feast. Selfish hungry b*tch”. I was speechless but then he opens my drawer and starts throwing makeup around saying “this is tested on animals - I am vain. Animals suffer for my beauty” And THEN opened my wardrobe and started throwing clothes around saying “these things have been made in sweat shops” My friend called security on him.
Some guy messaged me online and seemed nice enough. Asked if I'd like to meet up with him. I said sure. He tells me a Starbucks between our places and said he'd see me in 30 min. I was like, "woah, not right now, it's 10pm" He said okay, but he'd like to keep talking to me if it was alright. Few days later this exchange happens over messenger:
Him: "hey what's up?"
Me: nm, how are you
Him: I'm good.
Me: good :)
5 min pass so I assume he was busy for a sec.
Him: Well if you don't have anything to say you f*cking b*tch, don't lead me on and let me think that we can be together. You're nothing but a f*cking wh*re anyways. Only wh*res lead nice guys like me on. F*ck you f*ck you you f*cking wh*re.
Yep, nice guy.
In high school a guy I barely knew tried to convince me to tell my parents that I was going to a friends house but really go hang out with him. I was normally rebellious but got the feeling that my parents would be right in telling me I couldn’t spend time with him. I politely rejected his offer and blamed my parents so it wouldn’t be awkward and he retaliated by covering my dad’s car in dyed tampons. Patrick, you’re a f*cking creep.
I lost a bunch of weight and my ex from high school contacted me out of the blue. He pretended he wanted to catch up and claimed that he was in a committed relationship so I let him visit me. I was very naive. Long story short, we had non-consensual sex and he outright said that the reason he contacted me was that I owed him my body because he suffered so much embarrassment having to date me while I was fat.
So not a stereotypical nice guy really, but I met him at a party, gave him a ride home and after belting out "don't stop believing" together, he asked for my number. We went on one date, and texted for a week. Then Saturday morning, I woke up to 50+ texts that started with asking what I was doing (sleeping because i worked in the morning) and went all the way up to "I should just kill myself since no one wants to talk to me"
I told him that was unacceptable as I had already told him i worked saturday morning, but even if I hadn't theres no reason to text me over 50 times. If I'm not answering, I'm not answering.
He whined about being so nice, and how good he was to me and blah blah blah blah blah. Thankfully, when my friends asked why i was ignoring such a nice guy, showing them the texts was enough for them to drop it.
Threatening suicide is emotional abuse and a huge red flag to get out now
The one that was the most upsetting was a guy who had been my friend for years, who I was close to and confided in, telling me my boyfriend at the time had cheated on me. I wanted to confront the boyfriend and this "friend" kept dissuading me, telling me to just drop contact with him, and trying to comfort me with physical contact.
Obviously I still confronted my boyfriend. He said no such thing happened. And it turned out my friend had made it all up.
I was friends with a coworker. We had hung out a few times socially after work and got along well but it never really occurred to me to wonder if he was interested in me. At that point in my life I did not get a lot of male attention, and honestly was pretty cringey myself, but that's for a different thread.
Anyway we were walking side by side and I guess he went to put his arm around me. It surprised me (like that 'someone is tapping you on the opposite shoulder' trick) and I turned abruptly. He took it as incredibly rude, gave me an angry lecture about leading people on and how disgusting you make someone feel when you literally flinch from their touch, and called me a b*tch. Uh... sorry for my reflexes?
About a week later another friend came to me at work to let me know that guy was telling everyone I was a whore who was sleeping my way through the department. Nice!
The dumbest part was that I probably would have gone on a date with him if he'd asked--I just had no idea he was thinking along those lines. Bullet dodged!
If he was going around work saying that you could report him to HR. It’s creating a hostile work environment
I went on a first date with a guy, casual date for coffee. It wasnt terrible but it was obvious that we didn't really click that well. He did the typical "nice guy" stuff during the date where he talked about how he was different from other guys, knew how to treat a woman, some talking down on "gym bros", etc.
I ended the date pretty quickly as I wasn't really feeling it, and had just gotten off of a midnight shift so it was past my "bedtime".
He insisted on walking me to my car and opening the door for me. Fine, whatever. Then he hugged me, and when we went to break apart, he tried kissing me. I turned my face and he immediately got agitated, blocked me from entering my car and said "What?!? No kiss?!".
I'm a pretty easy-going and tolerant person but that was the first time something like that had ever happened and I immediately felt a slight bit of fear, as the guy was blocking my car and was about 6'4 - so much larger than me. I immediately put on my super serious face and said "No, sorry. I really need to be getting home now". and luckily he moved.
Took a bit of a break from dating after that.
There was a customer who came into the coffee shop where I worked. I asked him what he wanted to drink and he moaned, "Something that will fix a broken heart..."
I forced a smile while he told me that he had been stood up... again. I smiled through all of it and when he still hadn't told me what he was going to order, I suggested what I like to drink. He asked what it would cost, and I said, "No charge. Tomorrow's another day."
I made his order and went back to finish washing dishes.
He came back in and brought me a Cosmo magazine, saying he was a magazine vendor and he thought I might like it and thanks for being nice. I said no problem, wished him a good night and forgot about him.
A few days later, my co-worker races to the back to tell me this guy was back and blocking our drive thru. Now, when he came in last time, I had my wedding ring on a necklace because I didn't like to wear it when I was washing dishes. I asked her what he wanted and she said he was demanding to talk to me.
I said, "Tell him I'm not here."
She says, "He saw your car."
OKAY THAT IS CREEPY. He knew what I was driving?
I reluctantly come out after popping my wedding ring on my finger. The guy has a large bundle of carnations and a box of chocolate and is in one of those big old 1970s vans with the little circle window on the back row.
I made sure my ring was very visible and made sure to fiddle with it. I came up to the window and asked how I could help, and he saw my ring. His face reddened and his tone became very threatening.
"Where did you get that ring?"
"This ring? My husband gave it to me on our wedding day seven years ago."
He is pissed. He begins to bellow at me.
"YOU WEREN'T WEARING THAT LAST TIME!"
"I was, you just didn't see--"
"QUIET YOU B*TCH! IT'S F*CKING SL*TS LIKE YOU THAT KEEP NICE. GUYS. LIKE. ME. FROM. GETTING. A. DATE!!!"
He threw the carnations at the window as we pulled it shut in a panic. He beat on his steering wheel and honked the horn and yelled profanities. We were about to call the police and were locking the cafe doors when he squealed out of the drive thru, almost knocking the patio furniture over.
Yeah. He was a super nice guy.
I started talking to this guy from Tinder. We agreed to go on a date together, but when he arrived at the bar we were meeting at, I realized he cat-fished me. I called him out on this, told him it wasn’t going to be a good idea for us to date, and left. The guy proceeded to call me once a day for the next week, claiming we had such a good time that night, and we could be friends. After the first week, he started leaving nasty voicemails telling me that I don’t deserve such a nice guy like him. By week three, he just started screaming into my voicemail that I belonged to him. I kept the messages for a month in case the psycho ever found out where I worked or lived.
I had a date with a guy I met through OKCupid. When he found out that I was (at the time) writing erotica for a living, he put his hand very gently on mine and asked, with all the sincerity in the world, 'Who hurt you?'
No one hurt me, guy. I got paid money to write stories about people d*ckin' each other, and I had a whale of a time. He absolutely would not believe that I enjoyed my job, and that I wasn't lashing out as a result of some obvious sexual trauma I'd had in my past that he could somehow 'save' me from. God only knows how actual sex workers cope on dates if that's a common approach to people who aren't terrified to openly discuss penises.
There was no second date.
I've seen two guys get into a fist fight at an office Christmas Party over who was going to 'help' an intoxicated 27 year old married woman get home...
I managed one of these guys and subsequently found out he had sent her 80 emails in one day with all that 'why wont you talk to me' 'we're friends' etc stuff. He was fired but couldn't see how he had done anything wrong.
I met a guy one night after a night out. Exchanged numbers, he was handsome, seemed normal. We met for dinner, and I was surprised when he brought flowers and a bottle of wine, as it was our first date and we knew nothing about each other yet. Throughout dinner, I noticed that he would ask questions, but not listen to my answers. He seemed in his own world, as if he was preparing his next question. Very robotic. He mentioned that his sister was out of town and he was house-sitting for her in the building a few blocks away. Okay...even though he weirded me out a bit, I was young and still felt like things were going fairly well. Anyways, when we left, he was walking me to my car. I was wearing heels, and as such, felt comfortable holding onto the crook of his arm for support as we walked. As we walked, he tried to persuade me to come into the apt building that he was supposedly house-sitting. “We’ll go up to the rooftop,” he said. “BEST VIEW IN HOLLYWOOD.” Which was the clincher for me, bc it was so corny, and also so creepy. I kept saying “No, no, I have to get up early, etc..” when we got next to the building, he tightens his grip on me and said “What’s your problem??” His facade dropped and he looked scary, and angry. “I bought you flowers, I brought wine, I paid for dinner..” as if he was checking off ABC is supposed to equal D. Then; “WE WERE HAVING FUN WERENT WE???” And was pulling me towards the door and twisting my arm. I pulled away from him and literally ran to my car and pulled off. I have no doubt he would have raped/worse, me if I hadn’t. I know this is beyond NiceGuys but the way he felt that he had systematically performed his steps and earned more from me..the horror stays with me. TL;DR first date with a normal-seeming, handsome guy who seemed to think if he robotically went through the steps of a successful first date, that I owed him to be forced into an apt building and got scary angry when I refused/I had to run
in middle school, guy stutters out a question on if I'd want to go to a dance with him. Well, he seems real shy, but nice enough, hell, why not. Go to dance and he literally says not one word. I assume after attempting conversation that this is going nowhere. His friend comes up to me the next day at school and tells me he's so happy that Guy and I are dating. Huh? Apparently everyone now 'knows' that we are dating. I go up to Guy, and ask him what's going on with this - he didn't ask that, he asked me to a school dance and then didn't say a word for 4 hours straight. He nods at me and just smiles. Friend tells me that it's okay, Guy is a really nice guy. I tell Guy that until he actually asks me out, we're not dating. I then get a 10 minute long voicemail that night from him telling me how he's going to break into my house and do all sorts of things to me because I don't appreciate him. My father did not find it as funny as the joke Guy then pleaded it was when he got called out on it.
I was 21 at a bar doing “research” for a paper and this really old, beer gut kind of business looking dude starts talking to me, telling me I’m cute, asking to buy me a drink. I say no thanks, not interested, and he says I’m not pretty enough to reject him.
It is amazing how many men go straight to personal insults when rejected or challenged. I assume its because they are entitled and not used to being rejected/ called out
A guy at a bar bought me a drink (even though I really tried to not accept it), and he asked me if I was single. I told him that I was dating someone and he took the drink back and called me an “ugly wh*re.” Uh... okay... haha
My ex would always state how nice a guy he was and how lucky I was to have such a nice guy like him when there's so many dickbags in the world. Never mind the fact that he was an emotionally abusive nutso who not only more than once called me a c*nt and a whore but also decided to use my apple ID to secretly track my whereabouts to try to catch me doing something, anything, he could think to yell at me for. I once stopped for red bulls at the nearby bar since it was closer than the grocery store or gas station. He scolded me for lying to him about running errands. No matter how much I told him it was for red bulls, he was convinced I was out cheating on him. Sure glad to be rid of such a "nice" guy.
If you need to tell someone you're a nice guy, chances are you aren't a nice guy, since real nice guys don't think of themselves as nice guys, just guys.
I was sitting at the bar by myself and this guy in a fedora comes up to me and we just start talking. He seems okay, we got into some casual conversation, then he starts talking about how he thinks girls should be nice to him if he does something nice for them. i.e. open the door for them or buy them a drink.
I tried for a sold half hour to get him to understand that a girl was not going to fall head over heels for someone who thought that opening the door for them meant that they were a knight in shining armor. I tried very hard but he just would keep talking over me.
I had just begin dating after a bad breakup and was out on my second date with this really nice guy when he turned to me while driving me home and told me “I am going to marry you one day.” I actually laughed at him and asked him why he thought that and he told me “because we guessed each other’s middle names on our first date.” Umm... what?
I broke up with him not too long after. We got back together several months later and have been married almost 5 years. Joke’s on me.
I'm a guy, but I have a gay friend who would always try to give me massages to "relax" me then slowly work his way to other areas. He tries to contact me all the time to hang out and give me a place to "chill." Yeah, no.
Why are you still "friends"? Its clear he is creeping on you and doesn't respect boundaries
I work retail, and have for more than 25 years.
I once (about 9 years ago, when I worked in a liquor store) had an older customer that would come in, and (I thought) play flirt with me.
A lot of customers play flirted with me, so I didn't think anything of it. Plus, this guy was, like, twice my age....and I was no spring chicken. I had no idea that he seriously thought we were really flirting.
Until one day...
...he asked me out. Not in a regular way, mind you...oh, no. He said, "So, we've known each other for a while, now....I'll just wait until you're off tonight, and then we can go out. I'll take you to (expensive restaurant)!"
I politely declined.
He went ballistic!
Long story short, the manager banned him from the store for life.
Thank god!
He wanted to impress upon me what a good guy he was, and he was also too scared to ask me out like a normal person. He killed two birds with one stone by having his "split personality" tell me it really wanted to kill me, but Nice Guy was bravely holding it back because he liked me so much. Obviously I fell head over heels immediately.
I was on a dating website but hadn't logged in in a little bit. When I did I found two messages from the same guy. The first one was telling me that he thought my profile was great, he had a dog and loved hiking. Okay, cool, I enjoy those things. The second one came two days later saying how "I guess you don't want something real, b*tch". His first message was actually decent so if it wasn't for his crazy nice guy follow up I might have given him a chance.
Some weird guy was grinding on me at the club and I was clearly uncomfortable, so "nice guy" swooped in to save me and told the other guy I clearly didn't want it- I was pretty grateful initially. 10 minutes later he proceeded to grab my waist and started grinding on me... I told him I had a boyfriend, and he said I didn't have a right to "friendzone" him after he saved me from the other dude and that I was probably lying about my boyfriend. I had to show him Facebook proof for him to drop it and then he called me a b*tch and walked away. Like ok?
I married my high school sweetheart. So in college we had been dating for three years already very solidly. One day two of my closer male friends came to visit me at my on campus job and both were really odd and kind of pushy about us hanging out later. My boyfriend/future husband was in school about 30 miles away and was very secure in our relationship, had no problem with me having male friends. So I go hang out with these guys and they get really sweet and over the top with compliments and making dinner and all these things. So I get really weirded out and say, “I’m going to get going. Me and my boyfriend are hanging out later.” And suddenly the feeling in the room shifts and one of the guys says, “Why are you going to see him? I thought you broke up.” Turns out some other girl with my name broke up with her boyfriend that day and they both thought it was me. So they decided to have some weird competition to be my next boyfriend. Or they wanted a threesome?! I have no idea. I booked it out of there. In case you are wondering, neither of them were invited to our wedding.
I've chatted with guys, usually acquaintances at a party/bar/get together, who get angry and offended if they find out I'm not single or not looking to go home with them.
Even if it's basic small talk or we're chatting as a part of group and there's zero flirting involved, you're treated like you're intentionally leading them on or wasting their time when all you did was talk about work or the weather. Hey, you asked if I was interested and I immediately set the story straight
I was 18 as a cashier and had this foreign man come in. He was like... 50. He showed me a watch (Rolex) and told me he was a very rich man. He wanted to show me more he had in his car outside.
Stranger danger.
He got angry and stormed out. Thought that was the last of him.
Next day I got in and he was waiting for me to open my register. He has a box in hand. In broken English he spoke :
'ah beautiful American woman, please be my bride. We make babies beautiful together until end of day'
Inside the box was a rather large ring with a rather larger stone. Unfortunately, I declined. He stormed out never to be seen again.
Maybe one day he will find his beautiful American lass.
Kept trying to hug me.
Like...every time he would see me. I'd never hug him back, yet he kept trying. I was a work study then, and he'd go to where I worked just to see me. I'd be walking down the hallway with a professor and they'd watch this guy 5x the size of me open his arms to hug me as I walked by him.
Idk if it counts as "nice guy" bit it was really cringy.
Met this guy on tinder and we hit it off. He decided he wanted to meet a few months later and immediately I felt off about it. But he was into me and thought there was this crazy spark. He spent the night that night because that was the plan (he lived a couple hours away) and I had to deny his advances the whole night. When I tried to let him down, he went absolutely insane. He insulted me every chance he got and then made 7 different social media accounts to talk to me because I continuously blocked him. He also wouldn’t just DM me, he would directly tweet at me, comment under my pictures, etc. When I finally had enough, I decided to meet him in person to tell him to f*ck off for good. When I was there he goes “well I just think we would be great together and date after this”. I try to give him the benefit of the doubt sometimes when he messages me (it’s not as common) and he blames me and says that I went insane and he did nothing wrong.
TL; DR tinder date fell hard and then harassed me for a long time. Blames me for his insanity.
We met on OkCupid and after like 2 weeks decided to go meet. We both weren't into coffee so we decided to eat a dinner together. At his place. We agreed to meet at the mall to buy groceries. He couldn't decide even one thing, but when I would take a certain brand he would mention how his grandmother would take some other. At the end I made him to pick at least one thing - appetizer (thinking of soup or something), so he picked blueberries. I payed. We came to his apartment, he couldn't cook which I didn't mind, but he didn't even feel like helping. While I was making the sauce he mentioned things like that I am not intelligent enough (because I suck at math and wasn't interested in it when he was reading his math book to me for 5 - 10 minutes), that it annoys him me not being interested in video games, he blushed when I joked and said word "pussy" and also got frustrated when he read Jesenin to me and I wasn't that interested. Then we finally sat and ate. He commented how his mother does it better. But he also ate pretty much everything. Then all of the sudden he stood up and said "now we should kiss and cuddle". Of course not. I offered to wash the dishes. He didn't even help. I felt sorry for him the entire time, that's why I just didn't leave.
He was a nice guy but had his friends stalk me in an online mmo after I was late texting him back. He was also super passive agressive like "I see you online, but you aren't responding to MY messages."
The straw that broke the camel's back was when he showed up at my college campus, which was an hour from where he lived, and wanted to randomly hang out. But he wasn't a creepy stalker, he was just a nice guy I didn't understand.
I was friends with this dude for over two years. Nice dude but we had different views on things and I just wasn’t interested in him in that way. He tried to ask me out before but I tried my best to tell him I only liked him as a friend. Fast forward I get a boyfriend and the dude hated him. He tried to tell me lies about him and say he was flirting with girls behind my back and just making up terrible lies about my boyfriend. After I called him out on it he was embarrassed but tried to put to blame on me and shame me for dating someone else when he asked me out first. I still talk to him sometimes but he still posts things on his Facebook about how girls lead nice guys on and date other people.
Not myself personally, but my girlfriend showed me a few texts between herself and a nice guy. for whatever reason, this guy was often called "Toady" by his friends. Apparently he loved frogs. my girlfriend tells him off a few times, and on about his 4th try, he unloads perhaps the highest-tier pick up line I've ever seen. "Hey babe, don't you want to get a frog in your throat?"
So many stories omg. I've had 5 different guys think that because they liked me, we were bf and gf. 3 of the 5 took me on a date without telling me it was a date (We even talked about how it's not a date). 1 of those guys (before I knew he told people we were dating when we weren't) was massaging my foot that I had a pretty bad sprane in, I suddenly feel wet, he's sucking on my toes. When asked wtf he's doing he said, "I don't know" and I replied that I do know and that he needs to stop.
1 of the 5 showed up at my window unannounced to give me dirty rocks he picked up by the train tracks and acted like it was romantic? Another kissed me, open mouth (mine was closed, he did it without permission), then pushed me away and dramatically said, "I must be going," without an ounce of irony. A different one attempted to set me up for a date with him and on said awkward outing he said I love you. When I asked what he just said he goes, "oh! I was just singing a stupid song from elementary school! awkward chuckle". After I made it clear that I'm not interested and have a bf he asked, "who do you have more fun with, me or your bf?"
Without hesitation I replied, "my bf, I mean I wouldn't be with him if other people were more enjoyable to be around." He got angry and said he could probably beat him up. We stopped talking after that.
Last incident, I was at this dude's house to chill and for some reason I was brutally exhausted with a bad headache. He said I could lay down if needed, so I did. I didn't fall asleep, just had my eyes closed and he knew this. He got up and crawled into bed behind me, got in spooning position, and laid so close I felt his breath. I immediately got up and left. We haven't hung out in years because he doesn't know what no means. I got more but those ones are top of the list.
One evening I was walking home and a group of young guys in construction crew uniforms were coming toward me along the same path. I tripped and my sandal broke. One of the construction crew men came up to me and said "Here, let me help". He fixed my sandal and gave it back to me with a friendly smile, and wished me a good evening, and we parted with thankyous and best wishes. And that's an example of a guy who is actually nice. It's sad that some people apparently need to have it explained to them, but if you expect to get something in return for it, then it ain't niceness. It's being a manipulative jerk. And that goes for men and women and everyone in between.
Once I uploaded a language exchange app, and in a span of five minutes, while I was filling my profile with relevant information, I received like 8 messages from the same guy. At first, he offered to help with my target language, and when I didn't answer after one minute, he lost his s**t. He started whining that I'm ignoring and disrespecting him, that I am probably a racist(not sure where it came from), and a gold-digger because he was sure that all women are registered there because they are looking for a rich husband. I guess you gotta appreciate that some people waste no time in showing their true shitty colours and let you know you should be avoiding them like the plague right away.
lol he basically gave away no one wants him because in his mind hes not white and poor
Load More Replies...Wow, the majority of these people need to be in strait jacket and heavily medicated...
"he's a really nice guy" my then-BFF said to me. Two months later, she asked if he could meet with her at my parents' house, me present, and he brought a flipping SHOTGUN to convince her to not break up with him. I was apparently supposed to stand between her and the shotgun. 1. Not BFFs anymore b/c 2. Call the cops b/c 3. a guy with a shotgun pointed at you gets arrested and goes bye-bye. She risked my life, my mom's, rather than call 911 on this "nice guy gone creepy". Some friend. ex-friend...
Did she know he was going to bring a shotgun? She could have told you she was afraid of his reaction - if she knew how he was.
Load More Replies...No judgment at all but just my opinion.... I dont see how people can feel safe meeting up with people they dont know on a dating app. It just seems so unsafe and weird to me.
That's why if you do meet someone, you should do it in broad daylight in a public place. You ALWAYS take your car and NEVER let them take you home - if they turn out to be creeps, you don't want them to know where you live. ...///... These are basic precautions that you take even if you meet someone IRL instead of online.
Load More Replies...The short version is this: I asked the guy who sat next to me in abnormal psych if I could see his notes from when I was absent. After that day, we never spoke again until the day before finals when out of nowhere he said that if I didn't agree to start dating him now that the semester was ending, he was going to kill himself because he gave me part of his soul (which I told him to take back cuz I didn't want it). I tried to be calm and rational, reminding him that he didn't even know me, that suicide is his personal decision not MY fault, and that he should talk to a therapist. It didn't matter. After class, I booked it out of there but he chased me down the stairs and grabbed me (which almost knocked me down said stairs) so I screamed, "keep your f***ing hands off me!" and took off again. He then started following me to my car, crying, & continuing to threaten suicide all because he gave me his notes and his "soul."
Well, what did you do afterwards? This guy obviously needed prof help.
Load More Replies...This one shows how really low some men can be. My husband was terminally ill, had signed him up for hospice as I was caring for him myself at home. First time hospice nurse comes to house, I was delighted, was actually a guy I had gone through nursing school. Great guy became great nurse. Felt so much better being able to go through the whole process with a person who knew me. Fast forward, hospice program and nurse very helpful the entire time. Night my husband died, I contacted hospice, they sent out appropriate services needed. Hospice nurse came out as soon as notified. After everybody left, let me cry on his shoulder. After a bit, he sits me down so I can try to relax. As I am sobbing, he starts to sexually assault me. Now the worst day in my life has become horrific. I'm the only one there, already hysterical and that is where his mind and his hands went. Now when I think about night my husband died, isn't is mixed with sexual assault memories shoulder
Sorry last sentence mixed up. Should be-Now when I think about night my husband died, it is mixed with sexual assault memories. That is a total mind fu*k I have to live with for my entire life.
Load More Replies...I was a supervisor at my company in my early 20s. One of my male employees was really funny and great to talk to, so we became friends. One weekend, we made plans to meet up with some others to go to a comedy club. When I arrived at the venue, he was the only one there. I asked where everyone else was and he admitted it was all a ploy to get me to go out with him, then he tried to kiss me. I told him I didn't feel that way about him but would like to be friends. He sent me flowers several times after that, all with notes saying I was the most beautiful woman he'd ever met, etc. Eventually he kind of gave up and moved on to another job. Shortcut to a few years later. I had met my fiance at the same company, and it was three days before our wedding. Nice guy shows up with his best friend and asks the receptionist to call me up to the lobby...where he proceeded to ask me to leave my fiance and marry him instead. I would have admired his courage if it hadn't been so creepy.
I met up with a guy from OkCupid for appetizers. He got beer and I got a fancy soda. He commented on how expensive the fancy soda was. Ummm not more expensive than the beer? We got two different flavors of wings to share, but he decided that he didn't like one so he would eat the other and I could have the one he didn't want. The part that really killed me was when he started prying about health issues. I had heart surgery a few months before, so questions like, "what do you do for a living?" I would answer with something like, "Well I had been in law school, but that's on hold while I sort out health stuff." I answered more than I was comfortable telling because it felt kind of rude to have a major mystery, but he wanted to know details about things like scarring. It got so uncomfortable that I pulled out a $10 bill, set it on the table, said, "this should cover my half," and left.
Several weeks later, my cousin told me about this crazy girl his friend had half a date with. He said that he wanted to pay for things because her life was so hard but instead she threw a tantrum and just left for no reason. There were enough details that lined up and so I asked what his name was. Yup. Nice guy just wanted to make my life less terrible. As it turns out, the heart surgeon did a great job of it. Almost as if that's what his job was.
Load More Replies...Just turned 21 and hanging out at a coffeehouse with teenagers every night playing pool. A cute adult guy starts visiting a few nights a week. Happens to be deaf but reads lips really well. He gets to know my sisters and mom from church and me from the coffee house, we talk about lots of stuff. One day he confesses he is going to marry me or one if my sisters (ages 16 and 11), and wants to move to a cabin in the woods and have lots of children so he can raise an army to protect him. When I get creeped out I tell him I need to leave. He invites me to meet at Library and I agree since it's a safe place. He tries to convince me again (is not proposing or anything just trying to convince me he's right). I leave and he chases me down the street screaming about how I'm the Devil and Seductris and I turn and face him and tell him to F×@< off. He goes but screaming to the skies the whole way. Ended up in jail for sending his old ex threatening letters.
When I met "Tim" in college, we hit it off friendship-wise, but he wanted more. I was clear I really liked him as a friend, but nothing more. Then, when I couldn't get a date in college for the life of me, I learned why: Tim was telling everyone we were in a romantic relationship. I broke off our friendship. A few months later, he apologizes and wants to be BFFs again. Says he understands it's just friends. We become friends again and end up going backpacking thru Europe together twice. Eventually I get married to someone else and he gets married to someone else a couple of years later. This entire time we're still friends. I go to his wedding and arrive early to help set up when Tim's former college roommate and longtime friend comes up to me, calls me a b*tch and other rude names. I thought he was joking! He was not. Turns out, all these years we were friends, Tim was telling people what a horrible person I was. He just never got over me not dating him. I never spoke to him again.
True story. Met a guy on the bus in my neighborhood. Weird guy. Saw him often on the bus, 6-7 years. Weird, but he seemed nice. Not great looking, but he seemed nice. Polite. He asked me out, and I went on one date with him. He just was creepy. I could NOT kiss him goodnight. 15 years later, I see him on TV. HE was George Sodini. Google him.
I have to admit I got nice guy with a girl. She had a hangover and i said I could get her some soup and coffee. She turned me down saying she was way to tired and not feeling great and didn't want to see nobody. I persited and turned me down again, and I snapped, told her a bunch of things, that i was just being nice, etc you get it. She just ignored me. Next day I felt so dumb and really crappy and told her, and she graciously forgave me, knew I was in a shitty time of my life right then. 20 years later we're still friends.
I hate that guys like this are the reason why women have to carry their keys like Freddy Krueger and live in fear of being sexually assaulted. As a normal guy, married for 20+ years, I wish I could do something. I guess the best thing I can do is raise my boys to respect women and "No" and my girls to be careful and know the signs and ask for help if needed. Disgusting humans, usually men but not always. #amberheardabuser
None of these are really "Nice Guy" stories, the men depicted in these stories are all just assholes.
I "think" he gets it... quotation marks mean something.
Load More Replies...It's insane that guys will buy you stuff you don't want and then call you a w***e when you won't put out in return, like, in a transactional way. I'm behaving in literally the opposite way? But go off son. 😂
I feel very much like this post really should be seen by everyone that's in the dating pool. NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO ANOTHER'S MIND, BODY OR SOUL! YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO ACT LIKE AN APE!!!
I got catfished once big time. I was young and naïve. Chatting to this guy on the internet for a good few months. He sent me a picture and i didn't find him all that attractive but we got on so well i agreed to meet in person. Well, he came to my house to meet up and go to the movies with my friends and I. He did not look anything like the picture he sent. He was cross eyed, massively overweight and to top it all off, had a hunch back. I went to the movies with him anyways. He didn't say one single word the entire night. When he drove me back to my place he asked if he could come inside. I told him no and that he lied about a lot of things and it wasn't going to work. I went upstairs and watched him sit in his car for 30 minutes, then he peeled out on my parents front yard. The next day he messaged me telling me he had such a great time and wanted to see me again. I was like wtf no it was terrible date and you peeled out on my parents lawn! He lied and said he hadn't lol
Once I met a guy who was seemingly nice. Not the best I could date, but I was young and not exactly known for making the best decisions... Anyway. After we spent some time together he actually admitted that the only reason he approached me was to have sex cause his friends (my ex) told him I am cheap. Needless to say he never saw me again.
Why would you twist a term like Nice Guy into something bad. How about you just use an appropriate existing term like douchebag?
It’s because typically, these men (loudly and repeatedly) claim to be Nice. But the moment you don’t do exactly what they want, they show what they really are. A truly nice person doesn’t insist on telling people how nice they are. It is self-evident from their actions and other words. But yeah, “douchebag in sheep’s clothing” or something, would be more accurate.
Load More Replies...There was this guy that was a customer in a store I worked at, say him years later and he couldn’t place my face. I told him where he knew me from ( commission sales job, make sure you remember faces). We were chatting, so moved it to a coffee shop. He asked for my number and with the caveat that this was only friends, he agreed and I gave it to him. I was also newly back in the county after 3 years in Tokyo, and foreigners talk to every other foreigner, so my guard was down. So dude on 3 calls makes romantic convos, which I shut down. He so does no get the message. So I finally told him, I didn’t want him to cook for me, didn’t want to touch me much less dance with him and told him to NEVER call me again.
I had a woman try and accuse me of knocking her up. I never ever touched her. Tried to take me too court and found out my poor buddy did the deed. She was going after me because my family was wealthy. Let’s get some of those CREEPY MANIPULATIVE Woman stories.
Being manipulative is a hell of a lot different than the terror of sexual assault.
Load More Replies...From a genuine ice guy, happily married for 35 years, there are plenty of nice guys out there. Most women probably don't notice them though because they may not be GQ handsome, most likely kind of shy, and don't have the best pick-up lines. The guys with the best pick up lines are the guys that are always trying to pick up women. I truly nice guy will never try to convince you that they are a nice guy. Hell, they probably think you are out of their league, whatever that means.
They will keep posting it until every male on the planet understands the trauma women endure from "nice guys" who don't have a *$&@ing clue how cringy they are being. Until these *$#@* "nice guys" cut this *%@( out, we will keep posting our stories.
Load More Replies...One evening I was walking home and a group of young guys in construction crew uniforms were coming toward me along the same path. I tripped and my sandal broke. One of the construction crew men came up to me and said "Here, let me help". He fixed my sandal and gave it back to me with a friendly smile, and wished me a good evening, and we parted with thankyous and best wishes. And that's an example of a guy who is actually nice. It's sad that some people apparently need to have it explained to them, but if you expect to get something in return for it, then it ain't niceness. It's being a manipulative jerk. And that goes for men and women and everyone in between.
Once I uploaded a language exchange app, and in a span of five minutes, while I was filling my profile with relevant information, I received like 8 messages from the same guy. At first, he offered to help with my target language, and when I didn't answer after one minute, he lost his s**t. He started whining that I'm ignoring and disrespecting him, that I am probably a racist(not sure where it came from), and a gold-digger because he was sure that all women are registered there because they are looking for a rich husband. I guess you gotta appreciate that some people waste no time in showing their true shitty colours and let you know you should be avoiding them like the plague right away.
lol he basically gave away no one wants him because in his mind hes not white and poor
Load More Replies...Wow, the majority of these people need to be in strait jacket and heavily medicated...
"he's a really nice guy" my then-BFF said to me. Two months later, she asked if he could meet with her at my parents' house, me present, and he brought a flipping SHOTGUN to convince her to not break up with him. I was apparently supposed to stand between her and the shotgun. 1. Not BFFs anymore b/c 2. Call the cops b/c 3. a guy with a shotgun pointed at you gets arrested and goes bye-bye. She risked my life, my mom's, rather than call 911 on this "nice guy gone creepy". Some friend. ex-friend...
Did she know he was going to bring a shotgun? She could have told you she was afraid of his reaction - if she knew how he was.
Load More Replies...No judgment at all but just my opinion.... I dont see how people can feel safe meeting up with people they dont know on a dating app. It just seems so unsafe and weird to me.
That's why if you do meet someone, you should do it in broad daylight in a public place. You ALWAYS take your car and NEVER let them take you home - if they turn out to be creeps, you don't want them to know where you live. ...///... These are basic precautions that you take even if you meet someone IRL instead of online.
Load More Replies...The short version is this: I asked the guy who sat next to me in abnormal psych if I could see his notes from when I was absent. After that day, we never spoke again until the day before finals when out of nowhere he said that if I didn't agree to start dating him now that the semester was ending, he was going to kill himself because he gave me part of his soul (which I told him to take back cuz I didn't want it). I tried to be calm and rational, reminding him that he didn't even know me, that suicide is his personal decision not MY fault, and that he should talk to a therapist. It didn't matter. After class, I booked it out of there but he chased me down the stairs and grabbed me (which almost knocked me down said stairs) so I screamed, "keep your f***ing hands off me!" and took off again. He then started following me to my car, crying, & continuing to threaten suicide all because he gave me his notes and his "soul."
Well, what did you do afterwards? This guy obviously needed prof help.
Load More Replies...This one shows how really low some men can be. My husband was terminally ill, had signed him up for hospice as I was caring for him myself at home. First time hospice nurse comes to house, I was delighted, was actually a guy I had gone through nursing school. Great guy became great nurse. Felt so much better being able to go through the whole process with a person who knew me. Fast forward, hospice program and nurse very helpful the entire time. Night my husband died, I contacted hospice, they sent out appropriate services needed. Hospice nurse came out as soon as notified. After everybody left, let me cry on his shoulder. After a bit, he sits me down so I can try to relax. As I am sobbing, he starts to sexually assault me. Now the worst day in my life has become horrific. I'm the only one there, already hysterical and that is where his mind and his hands went. Now when I think about night my husband died, isn't is mixed with sexual assault memories shoulder
Sorry last sentence mixed up. Should be-Now when I think about night my husband died, it is mixed with sexual assault memories. That is a total mind fu*k I have to live with for my entire life.
Load More Replies...I was a supervisor at my company in my early 20s. One of my male employees was really funny and great to talk to, so we became friends. One weekend, we made plans to meet up with some others to go to a comedy club. When I arrived at the venue, he was the only one there. I asked where everyone else was and he admitted it was all a ploy to get me to go out with him, then he tried to kiss me. I told him I didn't feel that way about him but would like to be friends. He sent me flowers several times after that, all with notes saying I was the most beautiful woman he'd ever met, etc. Eventually he kind of gave up and moved on to another job. Shortcut to a few years later. I had met my fiance at the same company, and it was three days before our wedding. Nice guy shows up with his best friend and asks the receptionist to call me up to the lobby...where he proceeded to ask me to leave my fiance and marry him instead. I would have admired his courage if it hadn't been so creepy.
I met up with a guy from OkCupid for appetizers. He got beer and I got a fancy soda. He commented on how expensive the fancy soda was. Ummm not more expensive than the beer? We got two different flavors of wings to share, but he decided that he didn't like one so he would eat the other and I could have the one he didn't want. The part that really killed me was when he started prying about health issues. I had heart surgery a few months before, so questions like, "what do you do for a living?" I would answer with something like, "Well I had been in law school, but that's on hold while I sort out health stuff." I answered more than I was comfortable telling because it felt kind of rude to have a major mystery, but he wanted to know details about things like scarring. It got so uncomfortable that I pulled out a $10 bill, set it on the table, said, "this should cover my half," and left.
Several weeks later, my cousin told me about this crazy girl his friend had half a date with. He said that he wanted to pay for things because her life was so hard but instead she threw a tantrum and just left for no reason. There were enough details that lined up and so I asked what his name was. Yup. Nice guy just wanted to make my life less terrible. As it turns out, the heart surgeon did a great job of it. Almost as if that's what his job was.
Load More Replies...Just turned 21 and hanging out at a coffeehouse with teenagers every night playing pool. A cute adult guy starts visiting a few nights a week. Happens to be deaf but reads lips really well. He gets to know my sisters and mom from church and me from the coffee house, we talk about lots of stuff. One day he confesses he is going to marry me or one if my sisters (ages 16 and 11), and wants to move to a cabin in the woods and have lots of children so he can raise an army to protect him. When I get creeped out I tell him I need to leave. He invites me to meet at Library and I agree since it's a safe place. He tries to convince me again (is not proposing or anything just trying to convince me he's right). I leave and he chases me down the street screaming about how I'm the Devil and Seductris and I turn and face him and tell him to F×@< off. He goes but screaming to the skies the whole way. Ended up in jail for sending his old ex threatening letters.
When I met "Tim" in college, we hit it off friendship-wise, but he wanted more. I was clear I really liked him as a friend, but nothing more. Then, when I couldn't get a date in college for the life of me, I learned why: Tim was telling everyone we were in a romantic relationship. I broke off our friendship. A few months later, he apologizes and wants to be BFFs again. Says he understands it's just friends. We become friends again and end up going backpacking thru Europe together twice. Eventually I get married to someone else and he gets married to someone else a couple of years later. This entire time we're still friends. I go to his wedding and arrive early to help set up when Tim's former college roommate and longtime friend comes up to me, calls me a b*tch and other rude names. I thought he was joking! He was not. Turns out, all these years we were friends, Tim was telling people what a horrible person I was. He just never got over me not dating him. I never spoke to him again.
True story. Met a guy on the bus in my neighborhood. Weird guy. Saw him often on the bus, 6-7 years. Weird, but he seemed nice. Not great looking, but he seemed nice. Polite. He asked me out, and I went on one date with him. He just was creepy. I could NOT kiss him goodnight. 15 years later, I see him on TV. HE was George Sodini. Google him.
I have to admit I got nice guy with a girl. She had a hangover and i said I could get her some soup and coffee. She turned me down saying she was way to tired and not feeling great and didn't want to see nobody. I persited and turned me down again, and I snapped, told her a bunch of things, that i was just being nice, etc you get it. She just ignored me. Next day I felt so dumb and really crappy and told her, and she graciously forgave me, knew I was in a shitty time of my life right then. 20 years later we're still friends.
I hate that guys like this are the reason why women have to carry their keys like Freddy Krueger and live in fear of being sexually assaulted. As a normal guy, married for 20+ years, I wish I could do something. I guess the best thing I can do is raise my boys to respect women and "No" and my girls to be careful and know the signs and ask for help if needed. Disgusting humans, usually men but not always. #amberheardabuser
None of these are really "Nice Guy" stories, the men depicted in these stories are all just assholes.
I "think" he gets it... quotation marks mean something.
Load More Replies...It's insane that guys will buy you stuff you don't want and then call you a w***e when you won't put out in return, like, in a transactional way. I'm behaving in literally the opposite way? But go off son. 😂
I feel very much like this post really should be seen by everyone that's in the dating pool. NO ONE IS ENTITLED TO ANOTHER'S MIND, BODY OR SOUL! YOU DO NOT HAVE THE RIGHT TO ACT LIKE AN APE!!!
I got catfished once big time. I was young and naïve. Chatting to this guy on the internet for a good few months. He sent me a picture and i didn't find him all that attractive but we got on so well i agreed to meet in person. Well, he came to my house to meet up and go to the movies with my friends and I. He did not look anything like the picture he sent. He was cross eyed, massively overweight and to top it all off, had a hunch back. I went to the movies with him anyways. He didn't say one single word the entire night. When he drove me back to my place he asked if he could come inside. I told him no and that he lied about a lot of things and it wasn't going to work. I went upstairs and watched him sit in his car for 30 minutes, then he peeled out on my parents front yard. The next day he messaged me telling me he had such a great time and wanted to see me again. I was like wtf no it was terrible date and you peeled out on my parents lawn! He lied and said he hadn't lol
Once I met a guy who was seemingly nice. Not the best I could date, but I was young and not exactly known for making the best decisions... Anyway. After we spent some time together he actually admitted that the only reason he approached me was to have sex cause his friends (my ex) told him I am cheap. Needless to say he never saw me again.
Why would you twist a term like Nice Guy into something bad. How about you just use an appropriate existing term like douchebag?
It’s because typically, these men (loudly and repeatedly) claim to be Nice. But the moment you don’t do exactly what they want, they show what they really are. A truly nice person doesn’t insist on telling people how nice they are. It is self-evident from their actions and other words. But yeah, “douchebag in sheep’s clothing” or something, would be more accurate.
Load More Replies...There was this guy that was a customer in a store I worked at, say him years later and he couldn’t place my face. I told him where he knew me from ( commission sales job, make sure you remember faces). We were chatting, so moved it to a coffee shop. He asked for my number and with the caveat that this was only friends, he agreed and I gave it to him. I was also newly back in the county after 3 years in Tokyo, and foreigners talk to every other foreigner, so my guard was down. So dude on 3 calls makes romantic convos, which I shut down. He so does no get the message. So I finally told him, I didn’t want him to cook for me, didn’t want to touch me much less dance with him and told him to NEVER call me again.
I had a woman try and accuse me of knocking her up. I never ever touched her. Tried to take me too court and found out my poor buddy did the deed. She was going after me because my family was wealthy. Let’s get some of those CREEPY MANIPULATIVE Woman stories.
Being manipulative is a hell of a lot different than the terror of sexual assault.
Load More Replies...From a genuine ice guy, happily married for 35 years, there are plenty of nice guys out there. Most women probably don't notice them though because they may not be GQ handsome, most likely kind of shy, and don't have the best pick-up lines. The guys with the best pick up lines are the guys that are always trying to pick up women. I truly nice guy will never try to convince you that they are a nice guy. Hell, they probably think you are out of their league, whatever that means.
They will keep posting it until every male on the planet understands the trauma women endure from "nice guys" who don't have a *$&@ing clue how cringy they are being. Until these *$#@* "nice guys" cut this *%@( out, we will keep posting our stories.
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