30 Women Share “Something A Man Did That Made You Realize You’ve Been Accepting Too Little From Men”

This depends on the context. We cannot know what her father told this about. What if someone really cannot do something? What if he should help his partner some way, but he can't do it because of a health problem? For example, having to lift something heavy while helping her to move to another house. A lot of people with various problems cannot do things. What about someone with social phobia, who should phone the woman with whom they love each other, to tell something important, and he wants to call her, but finally he doesn't call her, because of his fears?

Sounds to me that most of these woman think a relationship is a one way street. I took me a long to learn that woman should do nice things for me also. My last GF would take me out a treat me to a nice meal. I'm 53 and dated and lived with different woman. Not one had every treated me to a night out or really ever done anything nice for me. I've fixed there cars, painted apartments, lent money, help them move paid for holidays when the couldn't afford. I can't even start to count the money I've spent on going out concert tickets. now I more cynical. If the second time I go out with a girl she doesn't offer to pay the third time I split the bill. After that 90% don't want anothe date, some didn't even have money or card on them.

You're lucky to have a father let alone one who tells you such things to keep you protected. That is rare for me ... my father was the one who rather sell me off.

This shouldn’t be here . It makes me so sad that it is .

Just like any other human being should do. Always.

That so nice that he was there to take care of this poor woman who couldn't get a nice car on her own. To think the poor darling never had to eat a meal she didn't like. I guess it's a good thing that men have absolutely no problem driving a car with out heat air and music even though they paid for a vehicle that has all of those things. Maybe some day she'll be in a place where he can actually just order what he wants at dinner which I'm guessing he's paying for. Love is two people respecting and caring for each other not one constantly needing to care for the other to be considered worthy.

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Very in contrast with the "when he did something i did not like, he apologized and changed his actions". This article seems to support one sided and very toxic relationships

Consent is REALLY important!

This!!! It's been quite some time since I've dated (married 22 years in February) but I went out on one date with an aggressive type guy all was going well he walked me to my door, I said thank you for dinner and kissed him on the cheek. As I turned to open my door thinking he was waiting to see I got inside as he didn't walk away yet, when he grabbed me and pulled me into not just a kiss, I'm talking tongue down my throat. Before I could even think I right hooked him in the side of his face! I broke my hand and he had an almost instant black eye...he had the nerve to ask me when he could see me again and I said I'm sorry I can't date a guy who I can knock down with one punch! : D

Goals! I will not get into a relationship where I feel alone. Ever again. (After ten years of hell? How can I?)

This would be a game changer. A guy I was dating got pissed b/c I had started new meds and didn't want to go to dinner with him and his friends. That ended right quick.

that's very nice but when I spiral I don't want anyone around. I will end up saying things I don't mean. I can be vicious.

I find that thoughtful, not sad.

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Hmm. Kinda weird. U don't want to be fed by him. Lol. More like spend time with him.

A man that gets it! You are very lucky to have found each other.

Emotional intelligence is though thing to master. It is always good to reflect the feelings. She did the right thing to explain him why she felt that way and hopefully the guy did the same thing. That's the way people get to know each other and find the common ground instead of repeating same thing driving them into conflicts. Or find out they are not compatible in peaceful way.

I have ADHD and I do the same thing.

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I dunno if he's a sweet boyfriend who cares, or a creepy boyfriend. 0.o

Yay! You got someone who doesn't gaslight you!

Glasses are (as far as physical concrete things go) my most important possession so this would mean the world to me. <3

That man is a KEEPER!

Not as epic, but I realized, where the relationship is going, when she cancelled the date due to being ill, and I thought I simply must do something to make her feel better. So I bought her preferred home remedies plus flowers and chocolate and drove to her place. 15 years married next February.

He rode the bus to "drop me" off near my home. I got off, started walking and within ten mins I felt scared to walk pass this scary house (at 3am) and so I texted him because we would chat nonstop. Surprisingly, he took a bus back to help me cross the street and walk one block to my door. He again, took a bus home. (2011) We got Married in 2012. Multiple times he abandoned me since then. Only comes around when he needs something. A complete narcissist who seems so very caring that you would never think he would be one. Until you're committed and he's not.

I cant agree to this. If they are wrong let they know...if you back them up on something wrong in public itll bite you in the ass too. Had this happen before. Friend of mine was in the wrong and making a fool of themselves online n i called them out on it. They were furious i dodnt blindly have their back. But i explained they were wrong n they were just making more trouble for themselves n those they knew.

I do believe that many are misinterpreting what this poster said. I read it to mean that he'll be on her side against mean family members, and those who would put her down - not that she was going to be right, no matter what.

Ahh.. a man who the only tears he brings to your eyes are in a bottle

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Sometimes a bad thing ...( in my case, never cared what I did..... whatever I say goes and even if I was do something unorthodox, eh. Whatever. No opinions)

Oooh a gentleman !

Apparently controversial, but I would prefer he wait in the car, rather than expect to be let in my house while I'm still getting ready.

Ugh I hate it when they honk like in movies and shows

Wait until you hit 60 and have been together for 30 years ...... once a year is OK maybe, that's just from my perspective (I'm the guy btw ..)

This shouldn't be a bid deal? No? *Man goes to the bathroom, handles himself, (hopefully) washes hands and comes back*

Me too :(

I'm happy for you. However...respecting other people's boundaries should be something anyone above the age for 4 should do automatically.

Too many "ums" for me to finish reading. Is that really necessary?

Despite the ... difficult read, this is a very sweet story. Summery: she has a quirk where she wakes in the middle of the night and has to eat a green apple, half asleep and then go back to bed. On the 4th date she told him and because of circumstances she slept over at his apartment (without anything happening between them). She wakes in the middle of the night, he is not there. She goes back to sleep. She wakes again and there is a green apple on her bedside table. He woke up in the middle of the night and realized he had no green apples, so he went out to get one for her and had to go to x different 7/11 and gas stations before he found one.

I got halfway before the 'ums' got like, you know, too annoying.