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Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.

The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.

#1

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!

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BlackestDawn
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Took me a sec to realize it, but good going. You have to consider yourself first.

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To help you get a better understanding of these posts, Bored Panda got in touch with dating coach, 2 million view TED speaker, and media personality Hayley Quinn. She believes that "dating is different for men and women. However, you'd be wrong to think that one gender has it easy."

"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."

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    #2

    Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

    Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!

    Twohagsover30 , ghvstbvr Report

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    denzoren
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've never understood this...if you lose control over what a woman wears then you need some serious help. The problem definitely isn't the clothes.

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    In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."

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    #4

    Some Men Need To Learn This

    Some Men Need To Learn This

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    BingeFest1
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This goes for everybody. Treat others the way you want to be treated

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    In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.

    Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.

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    "Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."

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    The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."

    We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.

    #8

    That Really Puts It In Perspective

    That Really Puts It In Perspective

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    Nadine Bamberger
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it's always on us, don't dress that way, don't walk there, don't provoke. When it happens we didn't fight enough, fought too hard, didn't say no, didn't mean it when we said it. If we report it we get blamed, re traumatized by questions and rape kits that are then left untouched, called liars.

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    #11

    100% True For Me

    100% True For Me

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    Legen ( wait for it ) dary
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I feel a drop off interest on men (thanks a lot) when I say my husband is a police officer or a jujitsu master.

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    #14

    They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

    They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect

    TheOGJammies , blackwomensday Report

    #15

    Speaks For Itself

    Speaks For Itself

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    Ana
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm still thinking about the time women had to use hat pins to defend themselves from handsy men. They were covered in fabric from head to tow. It's never about the way you dress, it's about being decent.

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    #16

    Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

    Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”

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    #17

    Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

    Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life

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    Rachel Peterson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always support the allies, reminding them how much I value them.

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    #18

    How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

    How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up

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    K Witmer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom was convinced she was just a miserable person. She eloped w my dad when she was 15 he was 19. She was 25 when she got divorced she then realized she was a very outgoing extrovert that loved to smile and be herself

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    #20

    Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

    Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes

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    #22

    Nothing But Truth

    Nothing But Truth

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    Michael Beswick
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't think that's true. Most men have women in their lives they love / care about, and absolutely hate any form of violence against women.

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    #26

    This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

    This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!

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    #27

    Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

    Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!

    _xyoungbellax_ , iamaroadtrip Report

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    #28

    Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

    Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To

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    #29

    The Message

    The Message

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    Mazer
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Choose to empower your kids by considering them now and in the future. Spot on

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    #30

    Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

    Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum

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    ZooMom
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband stayed with our kids as infants while I worked. Everyone went on and on about how amazing he was (and he was) but then we switched roles this past year and I hear how “lucky I am to GET to stay home” and how bad they feel he works long hours. B****! I pumped breast milk on the floor of a unisex bathroom while still taking phone calls.

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    #31

    Why Are Males?

    Why Are Males?

    MarbleWorld , EazyBreezyJay Report

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would call him out, get management and then call the cops! Effing dirty slob.

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    #32

    Leave Him In The Dust

    Leave Him In The Dust

    cinderella_rising , efowlz Report

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    El muerto
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    some time it bothers me, some women think they don't have a choice because they are in love.

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    #33

    This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

    This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys

    elementalvirago , sarahradz_ Report

    #34

    Keep Your Friends Safe!

    Keep Your Friends Safe!

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    #35

    Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

    Used Or New, We Will Run You Over

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    #36

    Thoughts?

    Thoughts?

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    BingeFest1
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If I ever actually find somebody I'd want to marry I would never propose with anybody around. I would want to eliminate any peer pressure and create an intimate environment

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    #37

    Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

    Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos

    reddit.com Report

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    Xottel
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not about locating the witness. It's about scaring the bad guy by becoming a potential witness. Some women even resort to making fake calls on their way home. I'd say it stops at least some horrible people so that's an improvement.

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    #38

    Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

    Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him

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    Ana
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I still think Anne of Cleves got the best deal. She didn't have to remain married to Henry VIII and even got a sweet castle and money to boot and she never ever had to get married again.

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    #39

    Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

    Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)

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    Lauren Caswell
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Sounds like the guy who yells "hey pretty lady" and approaches a woman they don't know, and when she "walks fast" to get away or tells him to stop, she has a "bad attitude"

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    #40

    Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

    Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence

    Shefthegooddog , iamsedem_ Report

    #41

    Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

    Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support

    Journalist_Full , BridgieCasey Report

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    fire bug
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ummmm... my wife and I support our family. I work long hours. My wife takes care of 90% of the household stuff. I clean the kitchen every night and get home by dinner time every night to have family time with her and our kids. I don't support her and she doesn't support me. We support each other.

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    #43

    Tea

    Tea

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    QueenMiri
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Women who could tell stories about crazy ex boyfriends rarely make it out alive. That's why you only hear about crazy ex girlfriends.

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    #44

    Seriously

    Seriously

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    Guido Pisano
    Community Member
    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    helping your wife means that most of the job is on her shoulder. I prefer say that I do my part...

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    #45

    Reminder

    Reminder

    tahliaw , brownandbella Report

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    J. F.
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a misanthrope- I actually enjoy to not have to deal with somebody on a daily basis. I must be a quite rare man according to this article

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    #46

    We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

    We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault

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    Zephyr Anthem
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    True if you date a self centered douche who doesn't care about your pleasure...

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    #47

    Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

    Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women

    Twohagsover30 Report

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    Valisbourne Spiritforge
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know about any 'bro code'. But any friend of mine cheating on his SO (also probably a friend of mine by association) and expecting me to keep it a secret isn't really my friend.

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    #50

    *internal Screaming, Forever*

    *internal Screaming, Forever*

    anonymous , NikkiCallowayy Report

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    #51

    Be That Kind Of Direct, Lol!

    Be That Kind Of Direct, Lol!

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    Kari Panda
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eh, careful with that. There are enough wannabe sugar daddies out there who‘d gladly take you up on that.

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    #52

    Wow

    Wow

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    alwaysMispelled
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Why do I have trust issues? Being cheated on repeatedly, repeated gaslighting, and emotional manipulation. Oh, and the flat out lying.

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    #54

    Imagine: It’s Your Life

    Imagine: It’s Your Life

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    Ellie J
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Eslamala every time I see a comment from you my eyes already roll before I read whatever idiot comment you write :)

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    #55

    100% Accurate. Never Let It Slide

    100% Accurate. Never Let It Slide

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    #56

    Women Are 6x More Likely To End Up Divorced If They Are Diagnosed With Cancer Or Ms, Than If Their Male Partners Were Facing The Same Illness

    Women Are 6x More Likely To End Up Divorced If They Are Diagnosed With Cancer Or Ms, Than If Their Male Partners Were Facing The Same Illness

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    May
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is this in the US? I work in oncology, and we don't have this phenomenon here in Denmark. That's so depressing.

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    #57

    Please Share Stories Of Some Weirdly Specific Rules You Set After *that* One Guy

    Please Share Stories Of Some Weirdly Specific Rules You Set After *that* One Guy

    PallaviGunalan , PallaviGunalan Report

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    #58

    Never Let Them Get Comfortable!

    Never Let Them Get Comfortable!

    aclick1999 , Spericaa Report

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    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Can opener in our house. And since I cook from scratch, I don't need it, but he would!

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    #59

    We All Know Why

    We All Know Why

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    NsG
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Phoning their parents - I'm 40. Why has a bunch of teenagers decided to crash my dinner party?

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    #60

    Ladies, Let’s All Do Our Best To Teach The Next Generation Of Women This. While Sexual Adultification Affects Young Black Women The Most, It Definitely Occurs To Young Women Of All Backgrounds

    Ladies, Let’s All Do Our Best To Teach The Next Generation Of Women This. While Sexual Adultification Affects Young Black Women The Most, It Definitely Occurs To Young Women Of All Backgrounds

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    #62

    Love A Good Roast

    Love A Good Roast

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    Viviane
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm straight and female and I'd marry the mom before I even think of dating her son. I just wouldn't have kids with her.

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    #63

    A Trend I've Noticed Among Lvm

    A Trend I've Noticed Among Lvm

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    #64

    If You Catch Feelings Easily, This Might Help! Stay Strong!

    If You Catch Feelings Easily, This Might Help! Stay Strong!

    totally-not-lame Report

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    #65

    Psa: As Soon As Man Says That, Run The Opposite Direction Sis. This Is Red Flag. Manipulation

    Psa: As Soon As Man Says That, Run The Opposite Direction Sis. This Is Red Flag. Manipulation

    wordy_fries , _lifeofjada Report

    #66

    It Do Be Like That

    It Do Be Like That

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    Kari Panda
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The first time I met my now husband, I was wearing socks with holes (grew up poor and had been wearing socks with holes my whole life). He teased me about it and then brought me a pair of his own socks to wear :)

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    #67

    Potent

    Potent

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    Anna Banana
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Women feel like they don't need men anymore" is precisely what went right with this generation!

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    #68

    Facts

    Facts

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    Pheebs
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have so much respect for the middle school I attended. All genders took tech class (basically wood shop, with a bit of electronics mixed in) for 9 weeks every school year, and all took home ec where they learned to cook, sew by hand, and eventually use a sewing machine. Skill was not based on gender - it was based on the effort you put in.

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    #69

    Reason #6567 Why Being Single Is Better Than Settling

    Reason #6567 Why Being Single Is Better Than Settling

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    Mimi777
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I got relationship advice the other day from someone who was on their 4th marriage. They were appalled over the fact that my boyfriend and I aren’t married and don’t plan to.

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    #70

    Exactly

    Exactly

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    Bobby
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I sure hope it auto deletes the profile. I haven't had any notices or alerts from tinder in about 6 years, but I never thought to delete the profile when I deleted the app. And I'm not going to download it again to check, that's just a misunderstanding waiting to happen

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    #72

    So Glad He Is Her Ex

    So Glad He Is Her Ex

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    #74

    Girlfriends/Wives Are Not On The List Of In-Network Therapists

    Girlfriends/Wives Are Not On The List Of In-Network Therapists

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    MAL
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No, hun. You can support him, but not as a therapist.

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    #76

    This Is Nice But If You’re On A Date At Hooters It’s Already Not Going Well

    This Is Nice But If You’re On A Date At Hooters It’s Already Not Going Well

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    #77

    My Wish For 2021 And Beyond Is That More Women Realise That They Don’t Have To Put Up With Callous, Selfish Behaviour In Their Relationships

    My Wish For 2021 And Beyond Is That More Women Realise That They Don’t Have To Put Up With Callous, Selfish Behaviour In Their Relationships

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