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Dating and relationships are difficult even on a good day. And good days are pretty rare. Unfortunately, that is the reality everyone lives in when navigating the romantic world. Especially women. But at least they have a place to vent.
The subreddit r/FemaleDatingStrategy has 175K members (or as it calls them, queens), constantly discussing their love lives, and that includes all the nonsense that arises too. Continue scrolling and check out what they have to say.
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#1
Men Only Bringing The Audacity, Yet Again, To The Table!
BlackestDawn 4 years ago
Took me a sec to realize it, but good going. You have to consider yourself first.
SCamp 4 years ago
That’s actually one of the smartest posts I’ve seen in ages and I’ve seen a lot. Nice work 👍
Sky Render 4 years ago
Never keep someone in your life who thinks there's nothing wrong with deliberately hurting you. You can always do better.
Christy Smith 4 years ago
Why was he even w/her if bigger ladies aren't his cup of tea? Why waste her time?!
To help you get a better understanding of these posts, Bored Panda got in touch with dating coach, 2 million view TED speaker, and media personality Hayley Quinn. She believes that "dating is different for men and women. However, you'd be wrong to think that one gender has it easy."
"Instead men and women often face equal and opposite problems to one another," Quinn said. "Guys might struggle to think of how to approach a woman, and women (who traditionally and maybe wrongly) have been told they can't make the first move and so panic over where they can find all the guys that want to approach them."
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#2
Say It Louder For The People In The Back!!
denzoren 4 years ago
I've never understood this...if you lose control over what a woman wears then you need some serious help. The problem definitely isn't the clothes.
SBW71 4 years ago
Oh yeah it's the clothes alright, the guys pants and what's in them to be exact! That's the problem. They always think with the wrong head!
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I' Gomez & Morticia's kid 4 years ago (edited)
I said the same thing to a guy tomorrow but he keeps ranting about How our culture does not teach wearing shorts and revealing clothes🤦🏽♀️ they always got ridiculous reason to blame you
SydneyP 4 years ago
As a lesbian I will say this: I have witnessed lesbians who wouldn't take no for an answer however I have never personally witnessed a lesbian sexually assault someone. Not saying it hasn't happened. I just haven't witnessed it personally. It's never okay to harass, cat call, touch, photograph, etc a woman OR a man without their consent. I understand in most public places you can photograph people but it doesn't mean you should and it definitely doesn't mean it's ethical!
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
EXACTLY. It's not our fault that our clothes apparently """distract""" boys or men, so stop punishing us for it and punish the creeps who find a sliver of our skin distracting.
IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago (edited)
Most men love an expensive car or the latest i phone but would NEVER go into a store and steal one because it's "on display" and they want it. Same with women. Just because a man sees a woman and wants her does not mean she's his for the taking with out consent. If men can behave themselves around things that ARE objects then they should be able to control themselves around what is not.
Daria B 4 years ago (edited)
Im my opinion, if the assumption is that males can't control themselves (which, btw is derogatory to men and boys, and we all know you guys are better than that in real life), a better comparison would be "if gays can control themselves when boys are walking around with their naked torso, maybe the problem isn't the clothes".
#3
Poetic Justice
Shaun Coleman 4 years ago
No conflict. The ex-wife wants to take him to the cleaners and so does her lawyer. It would only be a conflict of interest if she was his lawyer.
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Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
And this kids, it's the definition of karma, or as you kids say now : broooo
Natalie Seaton 4 years ago
Nice try, but fake story. Conflict of interest, where an attorney has personal feud with the other party.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Not everyone woman who breaks up with a crummy boyfriend is still in a personal feud with him several years later. She didn’t go seeking this situation. It’s just a coincidence.
Load More Replies... Sue M. H. R. 4 years ago
Why? It's actually a much more common scenario than you think, especially in small markets. And no conflict here, for there to be a conflict the attorney would have to benefit. No such obvious benefit just by hating the jerk that your client also hates.
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In the world of online dating, Quinn also sees noticeable disparities. "Guys may feel like they're having to move heaven and earth to get one lousy response from a woman, whilst women can feel overwhelmed and harassed by unsuitable suitors," she explained. "Men could usually learn from women that they need to have higher standards for the women they interact with, and women could take a leaf out of men's dating and learn how they too can be proactive."
#4
Some Men Need To Learn This
BingeFest1 4 years ago (edited)
This goes for everybody. Treat others the way you want to be treated
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
Just be cautious with this one, I might want to be treated differently than you. But I get what you want to say.
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SydneyP 4 years ago
Yes!!!! I'm a boyish lesbian and you wouldn't believe the hate I have gotten from "men" who attempt to prove they're manlier than I am. Dude I don't care! I'm not a flippin man! I am not trying to be a man. This is just me. I can't stand people who stereotype. They see me and automatically think I'm going to try to compete with them. If you have to compete with a lesbian over your manhood then you're not much of a man!
Vic 4 years ago
I actually like boyish girls by nature, they make excellent friends!! Be yourself, you are great and don't let anyone tell you any different!
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Margaret Buckley 4 years ago
It includes exes. Not long after she met an attractive man, a friend asked him about his previous relationship. He said: She was a f---ng bitch. She told him that they might as well not start anything, because in a while, she would be his f---g bitch. I think she was wise.
All's Gravy 4 years ago
Most people manage it with their mothers, grandmother, sisters, daughters. Why not other peoples's female relatives?
Auntriarch 4 years ago (edited)
Have to say that has never been a problem for me. Also, I even respect men that I'm not attracted to
#5
“Nudes?” He Asked Hopefully
Vic 4 years ago
His comeback would probably be" As long as you call my brain tiny, it's fine! Everything else is super sized"
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Kay blue 4 years ago
I'd send him directions to the nearest nudist beach.
Load More Replies...In 2020, the Pew Research Center surveyed Americans to find out more about their love life. While single-and-looking men and women reported equal levels of dissatisfaction with their dating lives and the ease of finding people to date, women were more likely to say they have had some particularly negative experiences.
Most women who were single and looking to date (65%) said they have experienced at least one of six harassing behaviors asked about in the survey from someone they were dating or had been on a date with, such as being touched in a way that made them uncomfortable or rumors being spread about their sexual history.
#6
Oops
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
When you made an effort and treated her well and when you just stopped.
Rajender Saini 4 years ago
She is a side chick of indian religious guru, who is in jail now on rape charges. She is also a married woman and cheating with her husband. Her name is HoneyPreet.. Search in google 😄😄😄😄
Jjiinnee 4 years ago
This is unfair, and I know that won't be a popular opinion. I don't dress up any more. Juggling work, kids, life... yeah. No time to take 2 hours at the mirror. Also, my husband loves the way I look without the 10 lbs of make up and hairspray, and I'm so thankful for that. He's a wonderful man.
Canada 4 years ago (edited)
This true in many cultures. I am Canadian and married a Texan. Gave up everything to move there for him . Once I arrived and we married he went from treating me like a princess to a vulgar verbally abusive tyrannt. I could not work and was on a spouse visa. He constantly threatened to send me back to Canada where I no longer had a home or job. He was a complete control freak . A complete flip from the year of dating .
Christina Rosetti 3 years ago
That's awful. I hope you're not still with/married to him?
Load More Replies... Christy Smith 4 years ago
I wonder what's going on in pic # 2 (?). Why is her pic being taken, and why does she look like she's been to hell and back a few times (?). I feel bad for her.
Rajender Saini 4 years ago
She was in indian jail.. For helping his Old ugly boyfriend to rape school girls. Also she is married and was cheating on her husband.
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Amy Pattie 4 years ago
How does someone post this and not see this as “this is how a relationship with me has affected this woman” How?
elStiJneriNO 4 years ago
well i think it's kinda normal to not expect my wife to treat me as my mother did. i have to take care of my share of the household and that is indeed not always the most fun part of the day and a bigger part than when i was still living with my parents.
Bee / she/her 4 years ago
Perhaps a better caption would be how happy she felt with her parents vs. how happy she feels with you
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Stop Normalizing Men’s Immaturity
Miss Cris 4 years ago
Also, old men put that as an excuse to be with young girls. Wait, you might pass your puberty one year after but it isn't an excuse to be immature forever in your life and it isn't an excuse to fuçk with women ten years younger than you.
Load More Replies... BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
I swear if I ever hear the phrase "boys will be boys" to explain their immaturity one more time, I will flip. Out.
Kt 4 years ago
I hate this phrase and what makes it worse is, it always seems to be women who use it! I know a women who only has boys and she uses that phrase a lot to defend what her kids say and do.
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An Co 4 years ago (edited)
Mainly because boys do not mature slower than woman. That was misogynistic bullshit put out as an excuse for some men acting like scum. No survey, no definition, nothing. (Women do begin puberty earlier than men, but men reach their sexual peak before woman do. Neither count as 'maturity'.)
Tiny Dynamine 4 years ago
Emotional maturity depends on how society expects you ro behave. Women have a harder time in life so have to learn how to be more wary. Many young men (I'm a man) are free to act like d***s until they finally work out what responsibility is.
"Though men might think women have guys queuing up to date them (which sounds great right?) in reality women face plenty of dating challenges," Quinn said. "They may feel emotionally drained by dating, as they push through dates where they don't feel a connection. If they're seeking a relationship they may struggle to tell which guy's going to be in for the long haul, and who will disappear at the first inkling of commitment. They may even not know how to get offline and actually meet men in real life; and get stuck in the belief that all the 'good men' have run out, and it's impossible to meet someone."
The dating coach added that women also face significantly more judgement around things like their age, which can be a challenge on dating apps; and more scrutiny for expressing their sexuality. "So don't think that just because she's got a queue of potential suitors that she's not having a hard time dating."
We all can be douches to one another. Let's not.
#8
That Really Puts It In Perspective
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
And it's always on us, don't dress that way, don't walk there, don't provoke. When it happens we didn't fight enough, fought too hard, didn't say no, didn't mean it when we said it. If we report it we get blamed, re traumatized by questions and rape kits that are then left untouched, called liars.
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
Yes! People need to stop telling girls and women to dress a certain so they don't provoke assault, and instead teach boys and men that rape and sexual assault are disgusting and teach them that women are people too and don't want this happening to them!
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An Co 4 years ago
There are multiple different definitions of rape. I have sen numbers ranging from 1 in 4 to 1 in 10. (25% to 10%) The 1 in 4 number uses a definition that if it is applied to men, means that 1 in 8 men have been raped. (I.e. the same survey that came up with the 1 in 4 women was given to men and 1 in 8 men met the same criteria). The honest truth is we do not know how many women are raped, in part because women are ashamed of having been the victim of such a horrendous crime.
Auntriarch 4 years ago
I know one friend who has been raped. Which is more than enough. I know one friend who has been assaulted. But wheN I speak to friends/relatives who 'don't understand what what all the fuss is about these days it didn't happen when I was younger' well guess what, uncles, teachers, etc.it all comes out of the woodwork.
Canada 4 years ago
I was sexually harrased by a customer at work. I finally complained to my male manager and I was blamed for being 2 friendly. I work reception and greet and assist every customer. I showed the man no personal interest. The managers insisted it was my fault.
Beth Arriaga 4 years ago
I am so sorry. If possible, go to your state's (if in the US) Employment Dept and file a complaint against the company and be specific on naming the culprits
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Christy Smith 4 years ago
It happens to most of us at least once thanks to the lovely date rape drug(s), which is why I have stomped into my 15 yr old daughter's head to never leave a drink unattended and don't ever trust a drink some guy brings you who isn't a very close friend or someone you've been dating. I've been burned a few times
GenXandEarnedItAll 4 years ago
My woman's intuition has helped me many times. Don't ignore yours, girls!
#9
Lol
I am avoiding my homework 4 years ago
Agree entirely and this is one of the reasons I hate Disney movies
Miss Cris 4 years ago
And still he felt in love forever and wanted to marry her?
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Julie C Rose 4 years ago
It was that or abuse. Women didn’t have a whole lot of options back then.
Scagsy 4 years ago
True. Cinderella was being oppressed by her stepsisters.
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Hermione Granger 4 years ago
Kinda off topic but… Snow White was 14. The prince was 20 or 30 something, and kissed her without her consent. Gross.
WildBerry 4 years ago
Forget that part of it even.... she lived with a bunch of little men and was their maid. How stupid is that?
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Suzi Gauthier 4 years ago
There is a book, but can't remember what it's called, that takes place AFTER Cinderella gets together with the prince. He's boring & vapid. The rest is quite an adventure.
Milan 4 years ago
Yes, please start shaming a f*cking cartoons. Wtf is wrong with people nowadays. Everybody wants to be soooo correct…
Hermione Granger 4 years ago
Well, we need to shame the f*****g cartoons because some of them are f*****g messed up. Read my above comments about Snow White and sleeping beauty.
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Shrug
Anna Banana 4 years ago
Wait, aren't we supposed to wear sweats so that men aren't tempted to harass us?
denzoren 4 years ago
What's wrong with sweats? Those guys need to pay more attention to the lecture.
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
And using that wardrobe money to help me with having the money to use in a constructive way along that path to a degree. Food. Roof over my head. Having to buy the darn latest edition of some text book because they added a word to the old one that will change the course of physics. So many more important priorities.
bonnyatlast 4 years ago
I didn't wear make up or fix my hair up, jeans and a tshirt mostly when I went to college. I had one grad class with all guys. I came in dressed to the nines, hair fixed nice, make up--all that. They all wanted to know how come I looked so good. I told them I was going to pick up my fiancé at the airport after class. That shut them up.
Bee 2 years ago
I'm in grad school and I normally throw on leggings and a huge hoody before I leave work. My brother asked me "is that what you wear to class?!" My response was simple "my payment went through." Man please. I'm not dressing up to impress anyone unless they're going to pay my tuition for me
#11
100% True For Me
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
I feel a drop off interest on men (thanks a lot) when I say my husband is a police officer or a jujitsu master.
Thorfin Wolfsbane 4 years ago
funny how men will respect another man they've never met rather than the woman standing in front of them
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Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Maybe I'm not putting this right way but when a guy tells a woman he's gay she immediately relaxes because she doesn't have to deal with him being some aggressive jerk just trying to get in her pants. But if you tell some guy your a lesbian it becomes his goal to be the one who turns you because he thinks he's the male sex god that can do it. Apparently the "problem", is that all lesbians just haven't been with a "real man" to get what they've been missing.
Helwin 4 years ago
It's almost like the common problem here is straight dudes, wow...
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Bobby 4 years ago
I hate that this is a thing. I've had it go the other way. Woman thought I was gay and when she found out I was straight walls went up a mile high
Alexei Arntzen 4 years ago
Women also hate that this is a thing. The difference is that you hate it because you want a date, and women hate it because they don't want to be raped or murdered.
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NsG 4 years ago
The flip side of this is there are some predators who will "turn on the camp" precisely to get a woman to lower her guard. Yes, some straight men *do* realise the extent of this, and have started weaponisng it.
Margaret Buckley 4 years ago
I hope that's not true. I've never experienced it.
Load More Replies... Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
That you can stop thinking about "is he really nice or is he doing this because he wants to have my body in return" alone.
El muerto 4 years ago
the fun part, being gay doesn't protect men from being misogynist...but yeah, at least the gay guy won't be a but hole when he don't get your pants off
NsG 4 years ago
It's a different kind of misogyny though. To be clear, *all* misogyny is bad, but some kinds are significantly more dangerous, and statistically gay men who dip into misogyny tend to be the "really frickin annoying" kind rather than the "genuinely in fear of my life" kind. I'd much prefer to eliminate it altogether, but in a world where that's not yet possible, I know which kind I'd prefer to have to deal with until it is.
Load More Replies... Robert Thompson 4 years ago
As a married man, I am not looking for a mate. This helps me relax around women. They notice and relax around me too.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
We learn, but subconsciously, that as soon as a man shows a sexual interest in us we're in danger.
#12
A Queen Grandmama
Lynne Stark 4 years ago
My long time SO broke up with me. A few months later I was at Costco. I went to the service Kiosk.and asked the woman there to take him off my membership. She said oh you will like this! She turned the screen. Put a cursor on him name and dragged him to the trash file. I laughed and asked her to do it again, and she did! 😆
ThatOneWriter 4 years ago
I love and respect Grandma Li. Also her Twitter handle is "Atsuko's Grandma" and that is too cute!
#13
Cracks Me Up Every Time
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
At least Asian men know how to properly wash their ass and aren't leaving skidmarks on the sheets.
Geralt of Rivia 4 years ago
Too much generalization. How many western men say that exactly and how many Asian men groom well. You can't fight stereotypes with stereotypes
Victoria Pitt 4 years ago
As a woman in her late 30s who had to navigate the dating apps for the past 10 years, I found the number of unkempt men with little to no personal hygiene or care for their appearance alarming. And yes a lot of them looked way older than they should, although I'm sure many lied about their age. Needless to say my current boyfriend is fit, well groomed AND he will occasionally do a clear pore strip with me. Bonus!
Marcellus the Third 4 years ago
I guess most of the good ones are taken by then? The 'projects' are left on the shelf?
Load More Replies... Daria B 4 years ago
Well, I did marry my Korean prince charming ♡ This is witty indeed, but let's not generalise. Asia is huge, and I've heard the opposite for the cultural mentality of skin care from some other parts of Asia. Likewise, seen many European and American sleek gentlemen who sometimes overdo it with the parfume.
Miss Cris 4 years ago
The post isn't a matter of Asian or Caucasian. The poster is talking about two individuals and it's about taking care of themselves and having the right of being masculine. There are a lot of masculinies and only one is toxic - t his that say you're not enough manly if you are clean and beautiful, and also other more dangerous things. Also, being gay isn't an insult. Also, a gay can be masculine, too. Also, same for Asiatics.
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Holes2Heaven 4 years ago
Wow...this is super racist! I'm married to a half Asian guy and even I find you extremely offensive!!
StrawberryParfait 4 years ago
Correct. They also eat much more healthy than your average male, and that has everything to do with how you age. A diet rich with lean protein and vegetables will always trump a meat-heavy diet, junk food and soda.
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#14
They Will Always Make “Single Mothers” The Villains To Shift Blame From Male Predators Or Male Parental Child Neglect
Kat Olmstead 4 years ago
I was 17 when I gave birth to my oldest son. My ex-husband was 27. Guess which one of us got treated like trash?
K Witmer 4 years ago
The men are way over the age of consent too but the little girls are seen as promiscuous. That's also statutory rape
Carol Anne Benoit 4 years ago (edited)
It gets worse than that because some of them are forced to marry their rapist to avoid criminal charges. There are very few 'child bride' laws on the books in the US.
Load More Replies... Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
They are denied proper sex ed, proper access to contraceptives.They might have a hard time paying for health care during pregnancy and birth. They have to jump through all sorts of hoops to get social benefits, have to pay for child care should they find a job and you bet that they get called promiscuous and loose. But go ahead and deny them all that basic care and access to abortion because every life is precious except that of a single mom.
Leigh C. 4 years ago
I was 16 when I met my ex. He was 19. He wanted to have a baby and had friends who already had babies. We had our daughter when I was just 1 month shy of my 18th birthday. We were together for 9 years. A long time after I realized I was in a grooming, controlling, sexually abusive relationship. The whole time I was expected to cater to his nympho needs no matter if I was sick, or had given birth 1 month earlier.
Nandina 4 years ago
This burns me to a charcoal!! Male birth control should be a thing, nay, should have been a thing since the beginning of time! The first thing a man will say is, " I don't like to wear a condom because I can't feel anything" Boo Frickity Hoo!
Monday 4 years ago
Male birth control should absolutely be a thing. It'll be great for them since they don't have to worry about a woman lying about being on the pill and a couple not wanting kids can decide who goes on the pill...or double up if they're super cautious.
Load More Replies... Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
And their own parents for being so detached/negligent they don’t notice there’s a problem, and their daughter isn’t comfortable confiding her problems to them, and feeling secure that they will find a solution that works for everyone—-but most especially her. Remember, she may not have consented, or realized what she was getting into, when she got pregnant. Don’t force her to go through with the pregnancy if she doesn’t want to. It’s not your baby. You’re not teaching her a lesson about consequences and responsibility. You may very well be ruining her future. If she wants the baby, f*****g help her out! She’s still a child herself, and doesn’t know how to raise another child.
Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
Apparently they 'get themselves pregnant' - the phrase really does get used
Auntriarch 4 years ago
How can I have got to today years old without seeing this phrase in that light? Thank you for that Roxy
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James016 4 years ago
Many years ago I remember seeing a headline in the Daily Mail (barf) about a 12 year old having multiple older boyfriends. She was one of many victims of the Rotherham grooming gangs.
Rens 4 years ago
They were not her boyfriends, they were her rapists. At least that is the truth.
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Speaks For Itself
Ana 4 years ago
I'm still thinking about the time women had to use hat pins to defend themselves from handsy men. They were covered in fabric from head to tow. It's never about the way you dress, it's about being decent.
Joe Reaves 4 years ago
And men started trying to pass laws about the length of hat pins in response because they didn't like getting stabbed. Maybe you keep your creepy hands to yourself my dude and I won't have to stick a hatpin in you.
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Rens 4 years ago
As a woman, I don't know a single woman who has not been harassed/touched without her consent. And that includes my 19 year old daughter!
K Witmer 4 years ago
Me too including my 18 yr old. She just had a cop pull her over yesterday and he said he wanted to stick his thumb up her ass
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Marnie 4 years ago
Fighting against sexual harassment at work has been a "thing" for at least 20 years, all of my adult career. I'm 53. Stop pretending like this is new.
Anna Banana 4 years ago
This isn't a competition, Marnie. You and your generation of women have done a great job to further women's rights, just like many generations before you. #MeToo was just a moment in time when it all came to a head, and thanks to that we now talk about harassment differently than we did before 2017.
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Erik Granqvist 4 years ago
My mother-in-law worked in construction. Once a guy grabbed her behind while she was working on a staircase. She turned around and gave the dude a right hook on his jaw, sending him down the stairs. The man had the nickname "stjärtklapparen" (ass grabber, but extremley comdesending for those not speaking Swedish) for the rest of his professional life. No one ever grabbed her at work but that 1 time. Probably becuase nobody else was stupid enough.
Lyn Moffett 4 years ago
Especially a pregnant lady. What gives strangers the right to place their hand on her baby bump??? Fkn creepy
Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
I hate beeing touched without permission, no matter who, no matter when, no matter where. Nobody should paw anybody without permission.
Daria B 4 years ago (edited)
Unless if it's to pull you from danger, or when they have something important to tell you, but are unable to use their voice. But I agree.
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Cory Tollman 4 years ago
I'm a dude and I don't like people randomly touching me either. That includes neck rubs and hugs. The neck rub thing is weird because people will just start doing it to you out of the blue.
#16
Perfect Way To Deal With Their “Jokes”
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago
You can use this at any age. Hell, I’m 60, and my husband even tries this s**t once in a great while. I plan to use this next time he does.
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BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
Next time someone makes an inappropriate joke around me, I'm doing this.
Viviane 4 years ago
During a job interview, the employer (who was about to retire) used an ethnic term that has not been acceptable in years. I pretended not to understand his joke. He got flustered and mumbled "Forget it". (I did get the job. I'm surprised by his joke, since one of his employees belonged to that group and he thought highly of her).
Catlady6000 4 years ago
Older generation, from a time when that sort of thing was allowed and therefore seemed acceptable. This is what I call a form of unconscious bigotry. The offender honestly does not mean to be -ist, They just sincerely don't realize. It's where the term "woke" comes from, they have to be "awakened" to the wrongness of what they are saying or doing. Kind of like the guys who sincerely believe catcalling is complimentary. Asking "Why is it funny, complimentary, etc" is one of the better tools to help them to understand
Load More Replies... Miss Cris 4 years ago
Yes, you can ask him to repeat it when you film it with your phone.
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Ellie Rosser 4 years ago
Yes!!!!! Shine some light on their grotty little behaviors and watch them shrivel in the sun!
#17
Be A Hvm In All Aspects Of Life
Rachel Peterson 4 years ago
I always support the allies, reminding them how much I value them.
Soph the Loaf 4 years ago
Mad respect to anyone who helps draw attention back to somebody who was interrupted. Getting interrupted repeatedly drives me insane.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
It is wonderful. I wish i had somebody like this. I do not know why but I am always interrupted by everybody (partner, friends, family). If you tell them that they interrupted you you become "the grumpy bad one" but if you say nothing they wont let me speak. I doubt that they realise that they do about 80% of the conversation.
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Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
I always say, "Oh! I'm so sorry for speaking when you're interrupting me."
Theodore Theodora 4 years ago
Yes. And for a repeat offender, I would adjust it a bit and suggest saying, "You were speaking when [name of interrupter] interrupted you; what were you going to say?"
kathryn stretton 4 years ago
Good man. H must feel like he is in a lonely place too. Well done him. And thanks x
#18
How Many Of You “Developed” Issues While In A Relationship? I’ll Go First: Depression And Anxiety. Cured As Soon As We Broke Up
K Witmer 4 years ago
My mom was convinced she was just a miserable person. She eloped w my dad when she was 15 he was 19. She was 25 when she got divorced she then realized she was a very outgoing extrovert that loved to smile and be herself
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
My one grandpa died and there wasn't a wet eye in the house. Including his widow. Forty-nine years of marriage, and nobody cried at the funeral. Grandma promptly expanded her life, took over her life, and kicked a** in her life.
Kay blue 4 years ago
There are plenty of people who still believe you shouldn't speak ill of the dead. If someone was an ass in life, being dead doesn't change that. There are two people on the periphery of my life who I will not mourn when they die.
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willi santiago 4 years ago
I stopped biting my nails the day my ex left. Didn't even realize right away.
Edison Michael 4 years ago
This reminded me of that famous picture of Nicole Kidman leaving her lawyers office after signing her divorce papers from that weirdo, Tom Cruise. I don't think I ever felt half as ecstatic in my life as she looks in that one picture.
Terilee Bruyere 4 years ago
My stress triggered IBS went away and I was able to get off prescription benzos completely after the split with my husband. Too often the 'supportive partner' is in reality the one causing all the strife.
Mazer 4 years ago
My poor aunt suffered tremendously from her marriage. She was an exceptional human being: wickedly smart and funny, hella talented, kind, caring, compassionate, etc. The most positive thing I can say about my uncle he had the personality of a slide rule
Gabby M 4 years ago
Here are I few I have used in the past. 1) Personality of a dial tone / doorbell 2) Personality of wet card board
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SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
I went through this, so I can understand. It takes a lot of effort sometimes to find the strength, as well as courage to save yourself from a bad relationship.
Lola 4 years ago
That’s because the more time you spend with them, the more damage they cause. It’s easy to fall into that trap. Not so easy to get out. Not if they have slowly killed your self esteem.
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Donna Martin 4 years ago
I thought I had depression, then I got divorced. Turns out the only depression was sitting on the other side of the room all along.
JustAnother Soul 4 years ago
I was suicidal and depressed, fearful and suffered anxiety and insomnia. Then I left my horribly abusive husband and his family and the cure was almost instant.
#19
Keep It Real Out There
scarr_bee 4 years ago
I remember when I started talking to this random person on the internet. I was 12, almost 13. he was 17. My friend told me he got weird vibes from the 17 year old, so boom I blocked him and now I realize it was the right thing to do. That's hella creepy. And he continued to talk to me even after I told him how old I was.
Miss Cris 4 years ago (edited)
I'm sorry but he continued to talk to you *because* you were 12. And he might be 71 instead of 17.
Load More Replies... Coleen 4 years ago
The idea that kids are "mature for their age" is much more far-reaching than older boys. Families can be equally responsible. I can never forget when Jessica Dubroff (age 7) died in a plane crash while attempting to become the youngest person to fly a plane across the U.S. (It is believed that she was not flying the plane when it crashed in a storm, but that her father consented to take off in a storm to keep her on schedule.) One of her parents mentioned that she was "so mature. She was 7 going on 30." Someone replied in an editorial, "No, she was 7 going on 8 and now she will never see 30" thanks to being allowed to make that attempt.
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
I remember one time some pervert I didn't know texted me asking for "rough [a**l] sex" and I told him exactly what I thought of him asking such a young girl a question and then blocked him.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Well, they aren’t Romeo and Juliet, and this isn’t the 14th century. He is of age to be an adult so, push come to shove, he could be threatened with arrest and being put on the pedophile registry if he refuses to leave the little girl alone. One would hope, if in that situation, it wouldn’t come to that. Thing is, even though ten years later the age difference won’t matter a damn, right now it very much does, as the difference is more than just numbers, it’s a matter of physical, mental, and emotional maturity. Even the 18 year old isn’t that much more mature, regardless of the legal designation as an adult.
Lyn Moffett 4 years ago
He's a creep and he's trying to take advantage. Block him and concentrate on your life. Internet is a killer
#20
Hvm Right There. Take Note Scrotes
Francesca Schrödinger 4 years ago
Well my husband judt took the kids and tge dog and went for a long walk so i could take a nap. For me that's the same. Should start calling him my lizzard 😄😄😄
Margaret Buckley 4 years ago
Haha! Thanks for the laugh. It was badly needed after reading all the stories.
enby from hell 4 years ago
smol lizard boi drinking the respect women juice like a fine wine. good scaly boi
#21
I Got You, Babe
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
How does one even have such thought process???? Oh, here a helpless woman>rape rape! wtf...
chrissy goodman 4 years ago
sadly thats how this sometimes happens. guys wait for girls who r helpless. my friend was almost a victim i was in the bathroom my boyfriend was waiting by the bathrooms for me while keeping an eye on my friend as im coming out my boyfriend asked the bartender who we knew to let me behind the bar. he then went to my friend pretended to b her boyfriend to save her from this creep. if we werent with her who knows wat wouldve happened. my boyfriend told me he saw the guy slap her ass and her being completely drunk she thought it was funny.
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OhForSmegSake 4 years ago
This person is a fking hero to me. I had my drink spiked and was being dragged into a taxi by a guy. When the bouncer came over to see why I was struggling and saying No the guy told the bouncer that I was just his drunk gf and he was trying to get me home. The bouncer believed him.
Michael Beswick 4 years ago
A few years ago I was walking through my town after leaving a bar and saw some girl sitting on the pavement looking absolutely drunk. I stood there for a minute just to see if some friend might come looking for her, then some guy walked up to her knelt down and started talking to her. I it might have been a friend until I noticed he started to put his hand up her dress! Anyway I shouted something at him and walked over and tried to pretend it was his girlfriend, so I asked what her name was and got scared and ran off. Meanwhile this poor girl wet herself :( . I wasn't sure what to do, so I asked some girl I knew that was walking by to stay with me and try to help her. After some time she was able to tell us her address and luckily the girl I knew lived the same direction. She agreed to make sure she got home safe, so I paid to a taxi for them both to get home.
#22
Nothing But Truth
J. F. 4 years ago
I think that's based more on perception- a lot of the average everyday men not only shame but will speak heavily against rapists.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
It's more about what they consider rape. There's still this "she asked for it/didn't explicitly cry no/no shame in snagging a drunk girl" consent thing going on.
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Dennis Troelsen 4 years ago
i'm just going to assume that most here are Americans, being from denmark myself i have been to parties (in denmark) sitting or standing next to a few women and they end up talking sex good and bad experiances partners and so on and never have i thought anything shaming about them but good for them that they have been curious and learned a few things like one i remember very clearly when trying a**l ALWAYS remember lube and lots of it and take time, most of this shaming comes from bad parenting and trying to be the cool/alpha male, bad boy, and for my part korrect if some guy i knew started to brag about rape i would not shame him he would (maybe) wake up in the hospital at some point.
Michael Beswick 4 years ago
I don't think that's true. Most men have women in their lives they love / care about, and absolutely hate any form of violence against women.
Stephanie IV 4 years ago
This seems to be very true where I live. I have yet to meet a man that would speak or act in a way where I’d feel they were shaming anybody for lots of consensual sex or make light of rape.
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Jason Boling 4 years ago
If a man knows another man is a rapist he'll get plenty of shame from other men. That is especially true in prison.
Nope IWont 4 years ago
Just want to point out that rapists routinely get beaten and abused in prison. It's so common that they automatically get put in protective custody in a lot of institutions. Most men DO NOT like rapists.
Colin Matthews 4 years ago
Um how could you possibly know that? I don't know a single man who is built that wsy
Lj 4 years ago (edited)
Maybe it’s about consensual casual sex? And being called a s**t for it. :/
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Where Is The Lie?
WildBerry 4 years ago
Having 'daddy issues' isn't an insult - it means the woman hasn't gotten over/worked through issues she has about her father. Same thing with the men's version. It happens and the person needs counseling.
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Daddy issues is a stupid, sexist myth. Woman do not have daddy issues, anymore than men are 'mommy boys'.
Leigh C. 4 years ago
I once made a manly men joke on FB. It wasn't an exact quote but I heard a popular talk show host say something along the same lines "I need my MAN razor and wear a MAN bun, and carry my MAN purse." It triggered some random guy and he tagged one of his buddies, as his buddy said "Oh this bitch here, you were talking about?" I was like, Geeze, take a joke. I was making a reference. Then one of them accused me of having "daddy issues." I just blocked them and I have to admit it made me upset and angry they even brought that s**t up. Idk what was originally meant by "daddy issues" but it's not my fault he doesn't want to be actively in my life other than the occasional email. I don't have issues about it though and I wasn't going to go into all that with a bunch of numbskulls.
Natasha Yasgar 1 year ago
I hate being called a single mom. I am a PARENT. I am doing what any parent should do to take care of their child. My relationship status has nothing to do with my parenting skills.
Soleil SanMao 3 years ago
I was watching Divorce Court last week and a young lady was trying to make a relationship work with a man that had 9 baby mamas and 11 children. And she struggled with trust issues. smh. She was upset because she suspected him of cheating. He has NINE baby mamas! He will ALWAYS be on the phone talking to other women.
#24
Being Decent Isn’t Difficult
Ryan-James O'Driscoll 4 years ago
"Boys will be boys" if for when your kid dives headfirst into a mud puddle in their clean clothes. Anyone who says it for sexual assault needs their head examined.
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
I heard a father say this once and I said in a cheerful whisper in his ear, "And rape is still rape. Even in prison" He looked very uncomfortable at that thought. His 5-year-old son was looking up girls skirts while one of the girls dads was complaining to him.
Miss Cris 4 years ago
You should have say it loud, in a way the child could hear you.
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Biljana Malesevic 4 years ago
It's never excuse, it's traumatizing for girl that was harassed and it stays with her. I don't care about their "hormones" and "puberty", it's not excuse to molest girls.
Tommy Edison 4 years ago
when has anyone ever excused sexual assault with "boys will be boys" this is so extreme and pathetic.. most of you females need help.. its really pathetic how you act ...get help...seems like most of you are little girls who never grow up
#25
Geee I Wonder Why
shep ona 4 years ago
This is so true. I remember when a Brazilian model was dating a multi-millionnaire who was much older and the press were making a big deal about her being a gold digger and she asked them, "do you think he wants me for my brains"? Guys are allowed to be superficial but women are not.
Viviane 4 years ago
I'm sure Anna Nicole Smith's 90-something husband felt he was getting his money's worth. ;)
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BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
What a jerk. He sets his standard so high and then he has a meltdown when he doesn't meet someone else's standard.
Katherine Heasley 4 years ago
Yep. Women should want his short, ugly, broke ass, but he demands a beautiful woman with money.
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He's short, ugly, and broke—by his own admission—yet he feels he's entitled to a wealthy supermodel.
Viviane 4 years ago
I hope he changes his attitude. I read of one young man who was was attracting women, but not the model types to which he felt entitled. He ignored women who were not "hot" enough. He realized his attitude was self-centred and shallow and totally counter-productive.
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#26
This Almost Makes Me Want To Redownload Dating Apps To Do The Same!
Joe Reaves 4 years ago
The average intelligence of the idiots storming the Capitol is such I'm amazed any of them are competent to stand trial.
Nicki 4 years ago
It is definitely true, I have seen it on the news, and they say the authorities caught a bunch of guys because of girls doing this. It is SPECTACULAR!
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Robyn Marsden 4 years ago
Good on her, there is a great difference between patriotism and nationalism.
#27
Even A 35 Yo Man Has These Same Meltdowns But They're The Logical Sex!!!
Just saying 4 years ago
Teen boys definitely are as emotional as girls.....so let's help them and stop telling them to man up rather than using it as an excuse to beat them down.
Glirpy 4 years ago
Not at all. It’s more about the parent not doing their f’ing job raising the kids right from the beginning.
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Nannychachi 4 years ago
I raised 3 girls and 1 boy. There was zero difference during the teen years.
Amelia G 4 years ago
Bro men are not less emotional than women if they get mad the punch u, a valuable, or a wall
Katherine Heasley 4 years ago
It's because boys are socialized to believe that anger is the only "negative" emotion they're allowed to express.
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#28
Watch The Way Men Treat Women They're Not Attracted To
Kt 4 years ago
The old 'well i wasnt even interested in your ugly ass anyway' comes to mind.
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Tiny Dancer 4 years ago
I've seen both sides of this coin (lost a ton of weight in my 20s, I was hot stuff, now back to my normal self in my 50s) and this is so true. It all connects with the adage about watching how your date treats the servers at the restaurant or cashiers at the mall, whatever activity you share. It's how anyone, not just men, treats the peripheral people in their lives that tells you a lot about their character.
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
My fiancée was a size 24. I saw her sense of humour, loving nature and that we were both gamers. She tells me every day that the fact I fell in love with her is what made her feel good about herself and in 1 and a half years she became a size 12 and got the confidence to leave her 9 to 5 dead end job where the bosses' son passed his mistakes onto her to a very successful head science technician in a secondary school and is working on increasing her qualifications. I keep telling her it was all her, and I'm so damn proud of her! She has a beautiful singing voice too, and we enjoy trolling karaoke bars (she used to sing professionally) by turning up and letting her go for it on the mic. She still sings but mainly for charity events
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
Didn't mean to delete. Meant to edit. You have company on the top of that hill.
Mariette Ferreira 4 years ago
I'm not "fat", I'm soft, I'm slightly bigger and definitely different from my pixie-like friend. So, I go out, the waiter flirts with me, my "pretty" petite built friend shows up - suddenly I'm invisible. Sucks.
Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
I know many of guys do, but I think there is no other way to treat women but with respect. At least those who don't prove otherwise through their behaviour.
Jason Boling 4 years ago
That is in no way a male only behavior. Women do the very same thing constantly.
#29
The Message
Mazer 4 years ago
Choose to empower your kids by considering them now and in the future. Spot on
WildBerry 4 years ago (edited)
Except the problem is that not all abusers are adults who were 'spanked' or yelled at as a child. They were more often beaten, starved, emotionally neglected, etc. Spanking your kid lightly on the butt isn't going to make him hit women when he grows up. Nor will it make a female child tolerate an abuser when she grows up. The psychological issues that come into play here are much, much more involved. And if the woman mentioned isn't correcting her child's bad behavior effectively, she's likely raising a kid that will become a demanding, unrealistic adult who is apt to cause problems and have issues in their adult life.
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Claire Fraser 4 years ago
Same goes when I have had to comfort my daughter about my ex- her dads behaviour to her. I don't ever say oh don't worry he loves you, and make it seem ok for him to treat her like that. Parents are not to "bag" the other parent- that's important. But I'll say, that wasn't nice what he did, you deserve to be listened to, or that was unacceptable behaviour from him (when he was drunk and kicked her out of his house late at night bc he didn't like her attitude- she was 13) - I don't want her growing up to think that abusive language or treatment is ok "because he loves you".. no freaking way
Tracy Sellars 4 years ago
This is one I can fully agree with. I had the opposite experience, every fricken time "it will get better, he does love you" or my favorite "I'm sure he doesn't mean it" If you have an ex, be like this wonderful person and don't ever devalue your child's feeling. Thank you Claire for validating your child's emotions.
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Katie Lutesinger 4 years ago
When you hit a kid, you're not teaching them anything other than that they should be afraid of you.
Mimi777 4 years ago
Exactly why we don’t hit or spank our toddler, and she’s growing up to be pretty well behaved. But sometimes we hear how she’s going to end up a “spoiled brat” if we don’t do it.
BluEyedSeoulite 4 years ago
I'm doing the same and my sister tells me to spank her. It just doesn't make sense. YOU can't hit people but it is okay if MOMMY/DADDY hits you?
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Wow. A mother not hitting her children... Someone give her the mother of the year award!
YoyoSthlm 4 years ago
Everyone seems so supportive of this mum but seriously her only promise was to NOT SPANK HER CHILDREN and NOT YELLING AT THEM. This is what all parents shouldn't do anyways!! She's like "Omg I'm such a good person" but the rest of the world wonders why she spanked them in the first place and why we should applaud her because she recognized something any normal parent knew yeeeeeeaaaars ago. Sorry but I'm not buying this, she's been hailed like a saint because she stopped spanking her kids...? That's the keyword: she STOPPED spanking her kids. I strangled cats for ten years but then someone said that was wrong, so now I’m not doing it and I’m a good person but let’s not talk about the cat years.
#30
Mom Praising Son-In-Law For The Bare Minimum
ZooMom 4 years ago
My husband stayed with our kids as infants while I worked. Everyone went on and on about how amazing he was (and he was) but then we switched roles this past year and I hear how “lucky I am to GET to stay home” and how bad they feel he works long hours. B****! I pumped breast milk on the floor of a unisex bathroom while still taking phone calls.
Lj 4 years ago
That’s crazy. :/ I’m sorry for the sexist treatment, it’s really not fair and makes no sense.
Load More Replies... Tamra Stiffler 4 years ago
It would be great if some men realized that their contribution to parenting doesn't end when the sperm fertilizes the egg.
Nathan Reed 4 years ago
Its crazy. I will always remember bottle feeding my son in a cafė whilst mom tried a few things on in a shop. Waitress came over like as if id done something amazing full of praise and how where she is from the father never does this. Feeding your baby is literally the bare minimum of being a dad; I pity them as I loved doing anything for him.
IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago
Fathers are not babysitters they are FATHERS. They have the same responsibilities as the mother and should do the same amount of parenting as the mother. The "Babysitter" is the teenager you hire for the evening when you as parents want to go out for a couple of hours in the evening.
Jessica Aubé 4 years ago
My vacations- arranged childcare , drop offs, pick ups, schedules, meals, food etc.. his vacations- ya I did the same :/ .. night shift worker for years cause childcare was too expensive .. if I wanted to sleep? Ya I was paying for it, figuring it out, calling my mom over ( who was 2 hours away btw and my in laws were ten minutes away) just not sleeping or catching a nap if the kids napped … told I was a horrible mom cause I needed to sleep.. him and his family convinced my kids I was a horrible mom cause I needed to sleep .. finally broke through to the kids that ya hey when you and daddy are sleeping I’m awake.. so when does mommy get to sleep ? Daddy and His family ? Ya that never got through.. seriously mil came over and suggested I quit my job so I could take care of the kids.. I was like I would love to do that are you giving me the money I earn ?? (Btw, husband worked for his dad in sales and was often able to work from home if he was sick or taking a day off etc)
Yagi-chan 4 years ago (edited)
This is so damn right. The few times in 10 years that I’ve gotten to be alone for a few days, I’ve had people tell me how generous it is for my husband to look after our kids. If you want to add to the reasons why women want to be in the workplace, it’s to have anything outside of the home that is their own without being made to feel like a mother’s job is only to be with children and that free time is somehow selfish. It’s not. Plan yourself a two day trip and go be by yourself and don’t allow others to backhand compliment your mothering role by making you feel bad for taking a short quiet moment to yourself.
Ivy at Eve 2 years ago
Sis-in-law used to work shifts so my brother had to take care of the kids when she worked evenings or weekends. He hated it when people told him how nice it was he was babysitting his kids. He was not babysitting, he was -and is - an involved father, taking care of his kids.
Adrienne Doyle 3 years ago
This is one of my biggest pet peeves, as that's called being a father as he helped make that child.
#31
Why Are Males?
Caro Caro 4 years ago
I would call him out, get management and then call the cops! Effing dirty slob.
An Co 4 years ago
He can be kicked out. But he cannot be arrested. Taking pictures of people in a public space is not illegal. Even if it is for a perverted reason. As long as he is not following you, he has broken no laws. Still a creep however.
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Will 4 years ago
I remember being 12 years old at a hotel breakfast with my family. A grown man stared at me openly for 20 minutes then took his phone out and took a photo of me. I was too scared to tell my family.
Mimi777 4 years ago
Years ago I had a guy take pics of me while at the gym he posted them on a local forum for our town asking if anyone knew who I was. People were commenting with my full name and my social media links. I was so weirded out I quit going to that gym I didn’t feel comfortable anymore. It probably didn’t even matter because there’s probably guys at the other gym who do the same thing.
Calypso poet 4 years ago
Yuck! And that's Planet Fitness! Judgement Free Zone but not a pervert free zone.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Turn on your own camera, politely call him out. Alas, it is possible he is well within his right to take pictures of whomever :(
#32
Leave Him In The Dust
El muerto 4 years ago
some time it bothers me, some women think they don't have a choice because they are in love.
Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
Or they are economically reliant on a partner, or isolated from family and friends, never been taught to love themselves, taught that by loving someone just right and enough you can change them....
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Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
If you are in love with someone who makes you cry on regular basis, you are in love with a wrong person, who doesn't love you. If your partner loves you, he/she will take care to make you smile regularly, or cry with joy, if there must be tears involved.
crazy_cat_notAlady 4 years ago
it's even better when it's because "you are stupid" "you r irrational" "you r hormonal" "it's ur fault" and my personal fave "you deserve it".
Sky Render 4 years ago
Also pretty sure the dude giving you night terrors about him murdering you in your sleep is not safe to live with. (I wish I could say this is a joke, but I knew someone once in that situation who refused to leave her husband despite suffering this exact scenario. He tried to kill her in a house fire and she finally ditched him after that.)
Amy Pattie 4 years ago
Unless you have back issues and he’s a trained chiropractor, and the pain is good
Dennis Troelsen 4 years ago
problem is that there is always a parent or friend saying give it a little longer see if tomorrow is a little better and the she listens to them and stays instead of just packing up and get going or kick him out
Pamela Blue 4 years ago
Self-esteen issue here. No-one else is going to love me, so I must deal with it.
#33
This Is Why We Can’t Even Trust The “Good” Guys
Mariette Ferreira 4 years ago
And then people ask why I prefer to stay home with a drink and a book.
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QueenMiri 4 years ago (edited)
He deemed you worthy of respect and her not. As if he has any power to decide that. Sick monster. May she rest in peace 🕊.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Probably he deemed it safer from being persecuted when murdering a stranger than someone he was known (and seen) to be friends with.
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Sarah 4 years ago
I wish I could give you a second upvote for not putting an apostrophe in Bundys. ;-)
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Lola 4 years ago
One of the nicest guys I talked to (at least I thought so at the time), was someone who had served time for sexually molesting his daughter for years. I had no idea until someone told me about it. Boy, did he put on a show when it came to acting all nice and proper. Never spoke to him again after that.
Noel Bovae 4 years ago
People like that should never be allowed back into society!
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Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
Had something similar happen. Guy at work asked me out. He was really nice, we got along great, so I decided to say yes. He picked me up at home, including coming to my door and not just honking his car horn. He opened the car door for me, opened the restaurant door for me, kept the dinner conversation polite, didn’t press for a goodnight kiss (I had decided I wasn’t attracted in any way but platonic). He was a proper and perfect gentleman the whole evening. Two weeks later, he was arrested for raping another woman he was on a date with. Why he was a gentleman to me and not her, I will never know.
Jon S. 4 years ago
By a landslide. I read an article by a feminist organisation critiquing the current media focus on street violence when the vast majority of violence against women takes place in their own home. They said it feeds the patriarchal narrative that women are vulnerable and need constant male protection.
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Keep Your Friends Safe!
Kat 4 years ago
Apalling, yes, but so good that some people have that kind of security net.
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Brendan 4 years ago
Good system. I don't know if I can speak on behalf of women, but I presume they would rather a man didn't grind his crotch against them on the dance floor.
My O My 4 years ago
As a woman. Yes! There are (few) exemptions. My boyfriends were allowed to
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Improperplays 4 years ago
My dumbass would use the get me away asap instead of the im okay by mistake,
chrissy goodman 4 years ago
wen i was in college me and my friends would never go to a club or bar without at least 2 guy friends. they constantly looked out for us they were our saftey net so to speak.
#35
Used Or New, We Will Run You Over
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
Please tell me he is a virgin too. Ask for what you can also offer.
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
Actually, the fact that he said it means he's pretty much guaranteed to be a virgin. Forever.
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Dude, you best get a bus pass cause I dont think you will ever buy a car, new or used .
Ausrine Ciapaite 4 years ago
A young lad has noticed that in his village young virgin women were praised and showered with attention and compliments, whereas older women, who were enjoying their sex life to the fullest, were avoided and called names. The young man was confused about this behavior and so he went to the wise man of the village. The young man asked the wise man why this occurs in their village and the wise man pulled 2 candies out of his pocket. One was wrapped in beautiful, shiny wrapping paper; the other one was without any wrapping, clearly an old toffee candy. The wise man asked: "Which one would you choose?". The young man grabbed the old candy and put it in his mouth. The wise man said in surprise: "but why?". The young man replied: "I don't know what is under that shiny wrapping, it could be a piece of kaka for all I know, but the other one, I can clearly see it is a candy." the Wise man said with a sigh: "you just messed up such a good sermon..."
AzKhaleesi 4 years ago
Tell me you're a narcissistic POS without saying you're a Narcissistic pos.
Charlie Anderson 4 years ago
They don't deserved to be called a man. They are a disgrace.
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Nathan Pogorzala 4 years ago
What the f**k is wrong with that guy? His own absent father drop him on his head?
Jessica Aubé 4 years ago
I don’t get this . Now this certainly doesn’t apply to all woman but I myself was NOT a good lay as a virgin or for a while afterwords. Took me years to figure out what I liked and to speak up about it and time to learn how to please my partner .. some virgins may be kick ass but most of my girlfriends have similar back stories .. practise makes perfect you know? What’s so great about this virginity thing ? First time sex ( and usually for a while after) is awkward as s**t for most people
Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
Marrying a virgin guy must be the same excitement as you're teaching him that ladies' parts don't look like his hand.
#36
Thoughts?
BingeFest1 4 years ago
If I ever actually find somebody I'd want to marry I would never propose with anybody around. I would want to eliminate any peer pressure and create an intimate environment
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
And more importantly : it would be already decided by both of you. Put a ring, no matter where, would be just a formality, not the all matter, a surprise.
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Penny Fan 4 years ago
Don't embarrass someone's daughter in public by putting her in an impossible situation. FIFY
Anna Banana 4 years ago
Yeah, how is that not an embarrassing situation for the woman? Does the OP think she likes having to decline a proposal in front of so many people?
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Caroline 4 years ago
My now husband and I decided to get married while sat on the sofa, watching tv. "Shall we? Yeah." Very romantic! But we've been together 21 years so..
Patricia 3 years ago
We'd been talking about it for a month before my husband "popped the question" in the car in the driveway of my parents' house. We've been together 50 years this coming fall, so...
Load More Replies... Nadine Bamberger 4 years ago
In that particular case sh had broken up with him way before and he kept following her.
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
It's the height of stupidity to propose in apublic setting with an audience unless you are extremely sure your partner will say yes. But even then not advisable.
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
I proposed to my wife in the middle of the night in a national park. No one around, no lights, just the two of us. It was intimate and no pressure, just wanted to know her honest answer. (we're celebrating 25 years this year! :)
Daniel O'Neal 4 years ago
But, gosh. Surely the middle of a mall surrounded by random strangers would've been more romantic. j/k
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Faith Hurst 4 years ago
The first time you discuss marriage should not be the proposal. I'm always confused when people are surprised by a proposal. You don't talk much in your relationship?
#37
Instead Of Holding Rapists/Harassers Accountable, He Mocks Women For Trying To Protect Themselves. A True Pos
Xottel 4 years ago
It's not about locating the witness. It's about scaring the bad guy by becoming a potential witness. Some women even resort to making fake calls on their way home. I'd say it stops at least some horrible people so that's an improvement.
Bara Menhardova 1 year ago
When I was a kid, I was told that if I'm ever alone with someone I don't feel comfortable with to tell them my dad is coming to meet me/pick me up etc. (I didn't have a phone until I was a bit older), because then they'd be less likely to try and hurt me. A lot of these tactics are basically just about giving the impression that someone will know if something happened to you, and fast, and because most criminals are cowards and don't want to get caught, that does act as a deterent.
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Stormapotamus 4 years ago
Dude, we face time not to protect ourselves, but in case something happens to us. Which is f*****g sad and not funny at all.
Sarah Mccullough 4 years ago
I was wondering why I couldn't find the comment under that name others are referencing
Load More Replies... Mark Kelly 4 years ago (edited)
But it can deter people if they can be identified or there’s an easier way for them to be caught.
Jason Boling 4 years ago
Neither do men. Quite often. Men are killed and beaten by other men so it isn't all about women.
Sarah Benedictus 3 years ago
honey, no one is denying this happens to men. this entire thing is about women tho. men raping and attacking women, well over 90% of this sh*t is down to men, so maybe start your own thread if you can't handle the truth.
Load More Replies... Tommy Edison 4 years ago
you bitches need help.. 1.) stop taking things out of context 2.) most normal people dont feel safe walking alone at night 2.) it was a joke... a facetime call isnt going to protect anyone.. 4.) where did he avoid holding rapists accountable? you literally just threw that in there like he said something about enabling rapists... STOP IT! seriously YOURE TOXIC !
Sarah Benedictus 3 years ago
how about you show us on the doll where the truth hurt you?
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Henry Viii's Wives If They'd Never Met Him
Ana 4 years ago
I still think Anne of Cleves got the best deal. She didn't have to remain married to Henry VIII and even got a sweet castle and money to boot and she never ever had to get married again.
Sally Horrocks 4 years ago
It's well reported as to what Henry VIII thought of Anne of Cleves, but I'd love to know what she thought of Henry, who was more than twice her age, obese, flatulent and with a festering leg ulcer that apparently stank to high heaven!
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Bow, I’m a Slytherclaw 4 years ago
for five more minutes, *intense music* we're six.
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Sarcastic Cow 4 years ago
They probably didn´t had such nice teeth...but hell, they´re beautiful!
Daniel O'Neal 4 years ago
No modern dentistry, true, but also a lot less tooth decay before refined sugar was such a big part of our diets.
Load More Replies... Hugh Willie Mungous 4 years ago
These manipulations are incredibly well done. I'd love to know what the original artists would have thought - especially Holbein. I reckon he would have been fascinated too (sorry to be off topic but I'm just so impressed by this work to these works).
Peter Panda 2 years ago
Holbein would have been off making magic eye skulls
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Charlie_The_Gay_Frog 4 years ago
The only reason I remember who they all are and their names is bc I listen to Six too often smh
Azure Adams 4 years ago
True but I don't think their teeth would be that nice... being 15th century England and all
Candy corn 4 years ago
Katherine Howard got the worst of it, I think. She was married to Henry who was decades older than her and executed a year later for being with other men before him. she was only seventeen. she lived a short, sad life being exploited by men way older than her.
#39
Thought This Belongs Here. (From Selfawarewolves... Men Are So Close, I Can't Decide If They're Ignorant On Purpose Or Genuinely Can't Grasp Basic Concepts)
Lauren Caswell 4 years ago
Sounds like the guy who yells "hey pretty lady" and approaches a woman they don't know, and when she "walks fast" to get away or tells him to stop, she has a "bad attitude"
K Witmer 4 years ago
My daughter who is 18 got pulled over yesterday bc she went through a yellow light. Two cops showed up. She heard them talking and one cop said he wanted to stick his thumb up her ass. She was so scared. Thank god it was broad daylight and on a busy road and shameful to say she has some privilege. I really don't know what to do?? Do I file a complaint? That terrifies me bc she could really suffer retaliation. Do I not say anything bc it more than likely won't matter if I do. Do I buy her a new car so she won't be easily recognized by these cops again? Bc that's what I think I'm going to do. I traded cars w her for the time being. Worst case we have to sell our home and move.
Suzy the observer 4 years ago
So. Wrong. Tell her to record everything with an in-car camera. The fact that her situation needs advice is SO WRONG.
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Casey McAlister 4 years ago
Earphones are on because I want to listen to music and not to your pathetic attempts at flirting.
Edison Michael 4 years ago
Lol That woman was literally running away from him. That's a whole new level of obliviousness.
Ryan-James O'Driscoll 4 years ago
It's almost as if women will only show that they are single and available when they want to show that they are single and available.
#40
Being In You 20’s Should Be About Self Development, Your Eduction And To Lay The Foundation For Financial Independence
denzoren 4 years ago
I'm in my 30s and have very little to no experience. I have been made to feel like a lost cause many times but I do enjoy my time alone especially when I see friends who ended up in loveless marriages.
Catlady6000 4 years ago
I learned the hard way. Better alone and lonely than married and miserable. You can usually fix the lonely, way harder to fix the miserable
Load More Replies... ZooMom 4 years ago
So I am married to my best friend in my thirties. We married at 20 and 22. What is my advice for people looking to make a marriage work?! DONT GET MARRIED IN YOUR TWENTIES!!! We are 100% in love and I believe if we had gone slower, even spent more time apart, we would have wound up back together. Instead we “wasted” so much time trying to grow as a couple while still trying to grow as people. I was trying hard to bet he ideal wife and should have been more focused on being the ideal me. I know it seems counterintuitive to tell you we are best friends and so in love now, but it took so much work!!! And to be honest we got lucky
Samantha Becker 4 years ago
I got married less than a month after I turned 19, and he was less than month away from turning 21. We'd known each other for five whole months and were madly in love; no amount of logic could sway us. Two days after we married, he moved 3,000 miles away (we were in the Army and he was being sent to a new duty station). We divorced 19 months later, after having seen each other a total of 26 days. We remained best friends, but we were young and stupid and needed to grow up. I couldn't deal with the distance and had my own issues to work through. Almost two years exactly after our divorce, we started dating again. Three years later, we remarried. We'll celebrate out 25th anniversary (we always count from the first wedding) in a few months. If they're The One, they'll still be The One in a few years. It's ok to wait. You might even save yourself some heartbreak in the meantime.
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kathryn stretton 4 years ago
This doesn't stop. I'm in my 60s now and I do remember thinking that I'd be glad when I get older and less 'attractive' and so feel safer. I'm now older and definitely less 'attrective', but still experience exactly the same problems I did in my younger days. Makes me so mad!
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
The ironic thing is that you usually find true love when you’re not at all looking for it, don’t even want it, in any way, shape, or form. I had pretty well decided I was never going to find anyone I’d want to marry. I had been engaged 3 times by then—-2 of which I called off, the other was a man 18 years older than me, an age gap that didn’t matter to me, but that he couldn’t get past. So I started laying the foundation for the rest of my life as a single woman; saving money to buy my own house, looking into adoption, etc. And THAT’S when I met the man who has now been my husband for 20 years. I even kept him at arm’s length for months at first, because I had decided against getting into another relationship for a good long while. He was cool with us getting to know each other on the inside first, and was right there with me the whole way. Then suddenly, love!
#41
Most Stay-At-Moms Do Not Get The Luxury Of Building A Career, Or Even The Luxury Of A Personal Life This Is How Women End Up In A Financial Trap With No Support
fire bug 4 years ago
Ummmm... my wife and I support our family. I work long hours. My wife takes care of 90% of the household stuff. I clean the kitchen every night and get home by dinner time every night to have family time with her and our kids. I don't support her and she doesn't support me. We support each other.
Janet Williams 1 year ago
Sir, it sounds like you need to host a Masterclass for all the youngbloods. Where can they sign up?
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Victoria Pitt 4 years ago
OMG yes. And I used to get all this s**t from my boss at my old job. He couldn't understand why I felt so busy or stressed, I lived alone after all. I was always thinking to myself excuse me, your wife has probably been doing your laundry and cooking for you and cleaning the house for you for the past 30 years.
Bobby 4 years ago
Stop comparing apples and oranges men. My wife is stay at home, and sometimes I get jealous of that when I'm at work. But then I give her a "day off" tell her to go do her thing and I'll watch the kids, take care of chores, etc. I'm much happier not being the one at home, that job sucks.
Mama Panda 4 years ago
When I was first married, my husband has this same attitude. So I listed all the jobs I did throughout the day such as cook, maid, taxi, shopper, and you get the gist. Then I found a website that gave me the average pay for all the jobs I listed in our state. On his payday, I presented him with my bill and the expected pay amount and his mouth hit the floor. He was in full support of me after that and when he would forget, I would give him another bill.
Ozacoter 4 years ago
I did this too to convince a sexist man that claimed that homemakers do nothing the whole day. If i charged my partner for my services (even at a minimum wage which isnt realistic) he wouldnt be able to afford me. The calculation made me feel much better about myself as a sick woman who cant go to have a paid job
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Paradise 4 years ago
I had a mom-whose kids were not in my care- who was interested in working our school-age childcare and she and I chatted a few times while kids were on the playground. Her resume had her job of X years title as household manager, and she said a friend said to put it on there. I liked it. (I wanted to hire, but she backed out. She decided to still be a sahm)
Gerry Higgins 4 years ago
I thought a home maker or "stay at home mom" WAS a career? Looks like a job to me.
#42
Say It Louder For These Predatory Men!
Rakjell Hanwell 4 years ago
As someone who was sexually harrassed as a 14 year old by a 33 year old woman, for multiple years I hate how this is made to be a gendered issue. The tweet shown is specifically not gendered.
Rens 4 years ago
My boyfriend was 13 or 14 when a 17 year old girl pretty much forced herself on him. He wasn't the first or the last. Not a huge age difference but it's still rape. He wasn't mentally ready for it but his body was. Another guy I know had his drink spiked by his best friend's mom who then raped him. He was so ashamed and confused, it affected him for the rest of his life.
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Phil Vaive 4 years ago
If you have to worry about how old they are, they're too young for you and you're a creep
King Joffrey 4 years ago
If a grown man wants to be with a 16 year old, it's so he can manipulate her... and is most likely unable to find a partner his age.
WildBerry 4 years ago
And what about the female teachers who have sex with their young male students?
Load More Replies... Roxy Eastland 4 years ago
In the Netherlands there is a different age of consent for youngsters that are basically the same age and for sex with older people. I can't remember the age difference that counts, but it always struck me as imminently sensible. Curious fumblings with someone of the same age is very different to being seduced/exploited by someone ten years older.
Rannveig Ess 4 years ago
I think part of an issue is that every U.S. state has an "age of consent". (also every country) In the U.S. it ranges from age 16 to age 18. It's illegal if the age difference of the two involved is more than 2 years. This varies by state also. Point being, "age of consent" is not based on physical, emotional or psychological factors,' it's an arbitrary legal number decided by..who? Also.... "The lowest Age of Consent in the world is 11, in Nigeria. The age of consent is 12 in the Philippines and Angola, and 13 in Burkina Faso, Comoros, N***r, and Japan. Japan often stands out as the only developed country on the list of lowest ages of consent, but local prefecture statutes in most areas of the country raise the effective age to 16-18. Several Middle Eastern and African countries have NO legal age of consent, but ban all relations outside of marriage. This has raised concerns by international organizations, especially in some countries girls are married at as young as 9 or 10"
v 4 years ago
I can still remember a significant and telling conversation at lunch one day a little over 20 years ago. I honestly don't remember what the overall conversation was about (definitely had something to do with age of consent) but this one guy who had a daughter around the age of 10 at the time made the comment "Old enough to bleed, old enough to breed." This particular person professed to be conservative and christian. I wish I could stand here today and say that I, in some fashion (AWESOME or otherwise), put him in his place. Unfortunately I didn't. But this instance, with me in my mid 20's, was most definitely one of the most important interactions that influenced my life since in the way of questioning, arguing and fighting the "status quo" mentality of conservative, christian, America. conservatives and christians don't care one bit of human life. They only say the words and play at acting out the words so they can continue to get kudos from people no different than them.
Cory Tollman 4 years ago
I remember hearing that in junior high. The other part is "old enough to sit at the table. Old enough to eat out". Both are some of the many things that pre-teen and early teenaged boys though clever and funny, while also being vulgar.
Load More Replies... Katherine Heasley 4 years ago
Any grown-ass male who keeps track of the age of consent so he knows when it's "legal" to hit on girls is, by definition, a creep.
#43
Tea
QueenMiri 4 years ago (edited)
Women who could tell stories about crazy ex boyfriends rarely make it out alive. That's why you only hear about crazy ex girlfriends.
alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
And never take accountability for the gaslighting and manipulation they've done to create situations of "psycho chick"
Mark Kelly 4 years ago
But there really are crazy women out there no matter if you treat them well , men too.
Jason Boling 4 years ago
I've experienced plenty of crazy women banking on their assessment of me being decent and not willing to stoop to return verbal and physical abuse.
Susan Bosse 4 years ago
Just had this convo w one the members on my team at work. I told her to refuse to react when someone pushes your buttons. It takes their power away in the situation and you remove their justification for their own actions. Don't hand them ammunition to use against you. PLUS it really pisses them off that they're not pissing you off/hurting you. Cry, rant, etc., in private or to friends. "Never let them see you sweat."
Catlady6000 4 years ago
I learned this waiting tables. It's really very effective
Load More Replies... Brendan 4 years ago
My friend's ex gf ran him over with her car. She also scratched my face after I made a sarcastic comment. Crazy ex gfs exist.
WildBerry 4 years ago
Yes, they do. My friend started dating a guy months after he broke up with 'crazy gal". The ex girlfriend came after my friend because she wanted her boyfriend back.
Load More Replies... cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
Sorry to burst your bubble, but one of my ex's flipped out because I dumped her when she wanted me to put my daughters into foster care and bring up her sons while she takes drugs and sleeps with her ex-husband, thinking I didn't know. Her response? She slashed the tyres on my car and tried on many occasions to get me beaten up until I took her back. I was and still with my fiancée at the time, and she has a court order stating that she is not allowed within 1 mile of me and if I get attacked in any way she will be the first person taken in for questioning. Our lives have been quiet for the last 10 years, so far and I hope they will stay this way.
Pittsburgh rare 4 years ago
I won't deny there are crazy exes out there, but many times l'd like to hear their side of the story too. I've seen how my ex dumps women so no wonder they ask for an explanation or closure
#44
Seriously
Guido Pisano 4 years ago
helping your wife means that most of the job is on her shoulder. I prefer say that I do my part...
Bobby 4 years ago
This is too broad. Some dads do this just to not do work. Sometimes its more of a get the kids to actually do something to help. Moms say "go help your dad' quite a bit too. I will say i think more dads are the lazy type than moms though. A lot of you deserve your own MCU movie
NinjaWolfy94 4 years ago
My mum asked me to make my dad a salad sandwich the other week. He'd been sitting around watching tv all day long (like he always does) doing absolutely nothing productive. I, on the other hand, had been working for 5 hours straight already (small personal business). I get why my mum didn't want to do it (she'd been doing yard work) and I respect that she shouldn't have to. So I asked her to tell him to make it himself. She didn't. I did though.. he grunted and went back to tv. 10mins later mum finishes making him a sandwich 🙄🙄 Now if my mum asked me to make one for HER, well off I'd go. Because she does a hell of a lot for us and deserves a f*****g break the legend.
Jason Boling 4 years ago
Big assumption there that "bro" is not already working on something and he's not teaching his child to help too.
SocksNeverMatch 4 years ago
Camped with other families when my daughter was in grammer school. I was 1 of 2 Single mom,s both with daughters. The other were married couples with 1 or multiple sons. After years of trips I finlally had enough when all the parents were asking our girls to help them with setting up the general camp area and supplies while they were already helping their single moms set up their tents etc and all their boys were as uysual off playing. I finally looked at my tired sweating daughter and the two other daughters and said.." you three, put everything down and go play with the boys- if they do not need to help neither do you" Boy was my message heard loud and clear. all the boys had to help when we broke camp and for the remaining trips we went on. I still let my girl off the hook after she set up our tent-she had worked enough!
#45
Reminder
J. F. 4 years ago
I'm a misanthrope- I actually enjoy to not have to deal with somebody on a daily basis. I must be a quite rare man according to this article
Q B F T 4 years ago
Most people who self-describe themselves as "misanthropes" are angsty teen boys.
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Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
Since my last relationship, which was abusive both physically and emotionally, I've been happily single...for the past 6 years. I'm often questioned on why I'm still single, as if my worth is based on being in a relationship. To those people, I say, "Oh, I am in a relationship...with myself. And I'm pretty sure I'm the one for me."
Pheebs 4 years ago
My teens and 20s I rarely dated. I remember in my longest no-boyfriend span (just shy of 5 years total) I was constantly getting asked why I didn’t have a bf, wasn’t I unhappy without a person. Especially considered bizarre because I was wasn’t the friends with benefits or hook up type, so I must’ve had something wrong with me. I liked that I could hang with any friend (guy or girl) and have fun, keep my own schedule as I pleased, and then go home and have quiet time to do my own thing. I had zero regrets. And in the end when I did finally date again, it was someone I got to know really well as a close friend (best friend ultimately) before the pressure of dating and “when are you two going to get married and have kids”. It was awesome.
May 4 years ago (edited)
I'm aromantic and asexual, and I'm so grateful not to have the genes that would make me want to date men. I couldn't handle all the crap my straight girlfriends have gone through.
Jihana 4 years ago
I am sorry, I legit just read "I'm aromatic", and I was like WHUT?
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Slinkman 4 years ago
I lived alone for the most part of my life. So do some of my male friends. Believe me ; we are not unhappy, unhealthy or lonely. Such bullshit.
Jessica Aubé 4 years ago
There are always exceptions .. just because statistically 1 in 5 woman has been raped or almost raped and my one friend hasn’t doesn’t make it untrue.. I’m glad your happy .. but statistically this is true . Your anecdotal evidence doesn’t compete with the actual evidence
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#46
We Used To Think We Were Always At Fault
Zephyr Anthem 4 years ago
True if you date a self centered douche who doesn't care about your pleasure...
Seabeast 4 years ago
Which is a high percentage, sadly. Men are socialized to think that sex is something women do FOR them rather than WITH them.
Load More Replies... Dennis Troelsen 4 years ago
here is a little thought, if you fake your orgasms how can he know if he has found the spot or not, trust me most guys are just as stressed as you are most of the time what goes through our heads mostly with new partners is, am i doing this wright, should i do something different, why is she not saying any thing, man i suck at this, the better a guy knows how to get you off the longer he generaly lasts him self, unless he's just a toxic alpha, there are only two/three reasons you cant get a guy off one he is to stressed about performing or in general it happens, hes's gay and afraid to say anything, or a medical condition.
Lj 4 years ago (edited)
Yes honest communication is key. He needs to care about satisfying her sexually (and vice versa), and they both need to be open and honest. Sometimes one partner may need some coaching, because some people are very shy about expressing their own sexual needs. Sometimes they’re even out of touch with themselves. During the act, asking “Does this feel good?…”, “(Like) this…. Or this?…”, or “Show me how it feels best / how you like it”, for example, could help open communication. (Edit: removed an unneeded word that made no sense.)
Load More Replies... Jon S. 4 years ago
One thing I would caution here. I haven't been with a huge number of women, but every woman I have slept with has liked something different in bed. The lessons you learn with one partner don't often translate to the next. And this is fine when you are a couple who can talk about what you like in bed, you can learn new things and improve the sex with time. But several of my girlfriends were so reluctant to give any feedback that there was never any room for improvement. The sex stayed mediocre. Please, please ask men for what you want in bed, most of us want to do right by you but we don't necessarily know how.
An Co 4 years ago
Funny, in my personal experience, when a guy fails to orgasm, he blames himself, and when a woman fails to orgasm, she blames the guy.
Lj 4 years ago
I’ve seen everything happen. For eg. when a guy makes a big performance of (basic) in-out, if the woman doesn’t know better (due to unrealistic expectations based on porn or fiction movies/books, lack of personal experience…) she often feels something is wrong with her for not orgasming. When the guys fails to orgasm they both feel guilty. She fears she’s not sexy enough, tight enough, doesn’t know how to perform well enough, and he fears he is malfunctioning.
Load More Replies... Amy Pattie 4 years ago
Frick damn you ok dating people? If you relate to this, break up now, it’s better to be single.
JP 4 years ago
Ok, see, this is why when men complain about their wives/GFs not wanting sex any more my first thought is "Well, dude, you must have been doing it wrong, not listening to her when she told you want she liked and didn't like and was unwilling to take more than 3 minutes. I don't blame her. Vibrators do exactly what you like, for how long you like and you don't have to pick up its sock or clean skid marks every week." Well, I used to think it...it's becoming a bit more verbal now. You know, my out loud voice is taking over.
WildBerry 4 years ago
JP - a women's libido drops with menopause. In addition, medications and some health conditions can make a woman not want sex as often.
Load More Replies... Kari Panda 4 years ago
I think this is the same for men, at least in long-term relationships. A man who married someone he loves wants to make them happy.
Sarcastic Cow 4 years ago
I heard this gem once: "she had the same amount of time to do as I did!"
#47
Women Protect Women From Harm. Men Protect Other Men's Ability To Lie, Cheat, And Knowingly Harm Women
Valisbourne Spiritforge 4 years ago
I don't know about any 'bro code'. But any friend of mine cheating on his SO (also probably a friend of mine by association) and expecting me to keep it a secret isn't really my friend.
Nikki Sevven 4 years ago
If your male friend will cheat on his girlfriend, how loyal do you think he'll be to you?
Keyy 4 years ago
but that's a girl code too .. i have sisters and cousins and home girls who cheat but their friends don't tell the guy, women have side dudes .. i agree the "bro code" is weird af like bros before hoes is the dumbest s**t i ever heard but lets not sit here and say women don't cheat and hide it
Keyy 4 years ago
how about you guys just stay out of other people's relationships
Load More Replies... Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
I'll never keep another man's side in doing bad things just because we are both men.
Keyy 4 years ago
then you're a snake .. you should only care about the person you're friends with not that persons SO
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Keyy 4 years ago
you a snake too .. why lose a homeboy and what do you gain from this ?
Load More Replies... Gerry Higgins 4 years ago
And when you're girl friends cheat on their man you run right to him with the tale or do you keep her secrets?
Skylar Thompson 1 year ago
You tell him, Gerry. Everyone deserves to know they're being cheated on
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#48
Never Settle For Less Than You Deserve
Catlady6000 4 years ago
I'm always polite. And you always know where I stand. Very few people mess with me. I'm very polite and respectful as I rip you to shreds. I've been told that makes it scarier?
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QueenMiri 4 years ago
Exactly. Some men still think that they are entitled to our friendliness simply because they are men. That's not how it works.
Tommy Edison 4 years ago
youre an idiot... some women think that men should kiss their ass and pay them simply for existing and having a vagina
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Robert Thompson 4 years ago
If you want a certain kind of guy, be the kind of girl that certain kind of guy would like. A predator would not like a self-reliant woman.
Soleil SanMao 3 years ago
Yeah, we are onto the game. I feel sorry for young women out here today that are looking for a husband/father/family man. They are few and far between.
Yelena Yardeen 4 years ago
Yes. This. Separately to this, I am also becoming heartless. *shrug*
ShadowLand 🇨🇦 4 years ago
There's a fine line and if they even stick a toe over it - I'm gone!
#49
It Never Ends
Vicki Thill 4 years ago
Yeah, like guy friends telling me what kind of woman he's into; I want a woman who is super model pretty with long tan beautiful legs, who wears dresses and heels and and and.... "No, dude, I've seen you chew your food, go order a blow up doll."
Touch Connors 4 years ago
Is your uncle the singer Tom Jones? He said the same thing about his 60+ yo wife
Kat 4 years ago
My great grandmas second husband died suddenly and she said that she already suspected that he was going to die soon as he wasn't really up to having s e x lately. She was 87 then and he was 62 when he died...
Catlady6000 4 years ago
Impotence is often a sign of more serious health problems
Load More Replies... J. F. 4 years ago
Maybe he didn't meant it in a sexist way- by saying "she had let herself go" he could mean her mental state. If she was always happy but got more depressed over the last years she clearly changed from the woman he married. And having a depressed partner can be very hard indeed
Aunt Messy 4 years ago
Or he's a bald fat jerk who's been that way since 15 minutes after the wedding.
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Robert Robi Z 4 years ago
Does 'let herself go' mean she changed physically (surprise! people get older!) or she changed her behaviour like she became more freeminded, confident, independent... She had the right both ways.
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Artist FKA Ramsey 4 years ago
Right, because everything that happens is all about him. Her dying was also about him. I hope she haunts the hell out of him.
#50
*internal Screaming, Forever*
El muerto 4 years ago
I really think that he was honest and realize that she should move on...now, not brushing is unhygienic, but she can move on as hi said...there are no victims here
WildBerry 4 years ago
I don't brush the usual way. I use a WaterPic and put the brush attachment on so the brush is going on my teeth and the water is flossing. If you brush but don't floss, you can still have bad breath from food trapped between your teeth. And one should brush their tongue too!!
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James 4 years ago
Not trying to be sexist to turn it around on women here, but this reminded me of a woman I went out with a few times. At one point she told me that she never brushes her teeth and that our mouths are naturally designed to cleanse themselves. Yeah, there wasn't another date after that. I don't care what gender you are, basic hygiene is a must. I felt disgusted that we had kissed before that.
Michelle M 4 years ago
'Mouths are naturally designed to cleanse themselves' That's a new one. Why wouldn't you ever brush your teeth??!!!
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An Co 4 years ago
She can DEFINITELY find someone better than him. My only question is what she saw in this guy in the first place.
Rainy Day Wolf 3 years ago
she probably met him the day of the month he brushed his teeth
Load More Replies... Ellie Rosser 4 years ago
Well he was honest and made a valid suggestion. So much better than it's being made out to be.
Rens 4 years ago
Personal hygiene and grooming is important; I'm not touching anything that's less hygienic and groomed than I am! And I don't have unrealistic expectations either. Brush your teeth; wash your hands and clean and trim your nails; bathe regularly; I don't care about body hair, just be clean and tidy; and there is a difference between natural body smell and body odour!
#51
Be That Kind Of Direct, Lol!
Kari Panda 4 years ago
Eh, careful with that. There are enough wannabe sugar daddies out there who‘d gladly take you up on that.
Victoria 4 years ago
Back story to that...... years ago I was out with some friends on St Paddy's day, and this dude is hitting on two of my chick friends, they tried the "we're lesbians" line but it only made him more stubborn. Creep's wingman tries hittin on me, and I told him I was actually a dude dressed as a chick for a night on the town...... ZOOOOOM he was G.O.N.E.
Load More Replies... SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Oh dear, I so wish I could witness this one! (but I don't go out because I am afraid of humans)
#52
Wow
alwaysMispelled 4 years ago
Why do I have trust issues? Being cheated on repeatedly, repeated gaslighting, and emotional manipulation. Oh, and the flat out lying.
#53
Call Their Bluff 2020
Sleazy Weaver 4 years ago
He might just unfortunately share the same name as a murderer & be joking about it, otherwise I doubt he would stick around after the background check.
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#54
Imagine: It’s Your Life
Ellie J 4 years ago
Eslamala every time I see a comment from you my eyes already roll before I read whatever idiot comment you write :)
AppleDragon 4 years ago
Hey! Sometimes their comments are really funny! Go ahead, I SEE YOU REACHING FOR THAT DOWNVOTE BUTTON!
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Victoria Pitt 4 years ago
Don't have to imagine it, already living it! Holla!! 38, not married, no kids, 2 degrees, a successful career and have traveled to a lot of places. Not getting married to some idiot I didn't love when I was 29 was the best decision I ever made!
Brandy Dor 4 years ago
Tried that.....my roommates age 16,11, &9 .made me come back because they couldn't afford the rent without me
Tacocat 4 years ago
Um...I know quite a few. My aunt included. I mean, they're adults. That's not that young
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#55
100% Accurate. Never Let It Slide
Pittsburgh rare 4 years ago
So bloody true. I had one of my ex friends "diagnosing" me as BPD... without even knowing me Plot twist: l don't have BPD and he was trash talking behind my back AT THE SAME TIME he was with me. F**k them both, frankly.
Bored Toadette 3 years ago
Oh yes thats true! Been there myself. His friends hated me because they thought i were psycho. Except one of his friends. Who actually came to me and asked if I was okey and told me everything he told them behind my back. That one friend of his had my back and thanks to him, i'm now happy without a liar who mentally abused me for years and then told his friend how *crazy* i was.
#56
Women Are 6x More Likely To End Up Divorced If They Are Diagnosed With Cancer Or Ms, Than If Their Male Partners Were Facing The Same Illness
May 4 years ago
Is this in the US? I work in oncology, and we don't have this phenomenon here in Denmark. That's so depressing.
Vic 404 4 years ago
Not sure I agree. About "a" car : some deserve more than one.
Load More Replies... WildHoneyPie 4 years ago
When I married my husband I was absolutely confident he would have my back no matter what. 25 years later I feel the same. I've also seen him through some serious health issues. My point is, don't settle! And if he does turn out to be such a pos after all, you're better off without him.
MiriPanda 4 years ago
It does not say all women are saints, but what part of "6x more likely" did you not understand?
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Please Share Stories Of Some Weirdly Specific Rules You Set After *that* One Guy
#58
Never Let Them Get Comfortable!
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
Can opener in our house. And since I cook from scratch, I don't need it, but he would!
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
January 10th 2010 my fiancée captured my heart with her smile and her eyes. Apparently, I captured her heart because mine was warm and kind. We hate it when someone refers to the day they met as a battle. If it was a battle, then why the hell are you together?
Victoria Pitt 4 years ago
I would never even date a guy who makes jokes about the gf or wife. That's such a tired old mentality. This one ex-co worker of mine with was in his 50s used to come in and make some stupid ass joke that compared his wife to a dog. Barf. No one thought it was funny.
Pumpkin Spice 4 years ago
Huh. I think he's kinda confused about who's the bitch here.
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We All Know Why
NsG 4 years ago
Phoning their parents - I'm 40. Why has a bunch of teenagers decided to crash my dinner party?
JuJu 4 years ago
Scold them for not wearing shirts and that they might get a cold. (I now understand my mother)
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HoneyBun Arts 4 years ago
Offer them some pacifiers because when you reject them they’ll start whining ✋🏻
Miss Frankfurter 4 years ago
I would never have invited them in the first place so it would be a party crash. Informed they have 3 strikes to leave when they're told to. If they won't, the next people who will be making them leave will be wearing uniforms.
Bored Toadette 3 years ago
They don't look old enough for party's. Without alcohol only. They can't be more than 15-16yo?! Disturbing to ser kids pose like this, no matter what gender they are!
real._.izuku 4 years ago
if they do anything to my friends, I will chase their a$$ out of my house with a f*cking frying pan
#60
Ladies, Let’s All Do Our Best To Teach The Next Generation Of Women This. While Sexual Adultification Affects Young Black Women The Most, It Definitely Occurs To Young Women Of All Backgrounds
Rebekah Krause 4 years ago
Hey, let’s find a way to express this that doesn’t shame and belittle young women/girls!
Kate 4 years ago
I don't see the shaming? It's making the point that teenage girls need to know that being hit on by older men isn't flattering/doesn't make them special or "mature" - it's usually because the man can't get women his own age so is trying to pursue someone who won't have enough life experience to see the red flags.
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'compromise!!'
Pittsburgh rare 4 years ago
You can be on the nice side of Reddit. I'm on the puppies, flowers and rainbows subreddits 😂
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Rebekah Krause 4 years ago
Why are you such a jerk? Seriously. Did you wake up just to come here and be jerky?
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Love A Good Roast
Viviane 4 years ago
I'm straight and female and I'd marry the mom before I even think of dating her son. I just wouldn't have kids with her.
Victoria Pitt 4 years ago
I see your point but I wouldn't marry THAT mom, who hasn't kicked her son out of the house or taught him to put on his big boy pants and be self sufficient.
Load More Replies... Tamra Stiffler 4 years ago
You can't be doing everything right, either, and expect a woman to submit to you.
Bored Toadette 3 years ago (edited)
Nothing wrong with video games, but being 30 and still living with theyre parents is a deal breaker for me. I am independent myself, and want the same in a partner. Someone who havent been living on theyre own, don't know how to pay bills or wash theyre own clothes and expect gf/bf to make them food and after clean up after them? No, thank you. Been there, never again!
TrashPandaSociety 4 years ago
Dude. Tell this to the dumb bitch that moves in to that basement& is now acting like wifey and is ok with it.
#63
A Trend I've Noticed Among Lvm
Little Wonder 4 years ago
I have a friend who went on medication and gained about 20lbs. Her husband refused to even hug her until she lost the weight and got "sexy" again. Meanwhile, her husband looks like a naked molerat. Men certainly have the audacity! (For the record, she lost the weight but refused to sleep with him until they'd repaired the relationship)
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Bobby 4 years ago
I love my wife's stretch marks. They are a constant reminder of everything she had to do to bear the children that have enhanced my life so much. Seriously, how can a man not look at something like that and not think its the sexiest thing in the world?
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
I don't know, Bobby. But I hope that someday I'll find someone who thinks the way you do. I have no kids, but plenty of stretch marks.
Load More Replies... SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
Things men also have: cellulite, body hair, stretch marks, skin imperfections, saggy b....
Martha Meyer 4 years ago
Men don't get cellulite and stretch marks as easily as women though. Men and women have different skin. They compensate with three times the amount of hair.
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#64
If You Catch Feelings Easily, This Might Help! Stay Strong!
J. F. 4 years ago
Or can be reinforced if it's an educated discussion. Men think about social issues, too
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MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
Oh my ,is this the reason I never really had a crush on a real human?My friends ask me all the time how is this possible?And I dunno what to say.I once liked a guy,he was nice called himself feminist and all ,then proceeded to tell me that I should be home 6pm.If I were his daughter,he'd be pretty upset.He thought I would drool over him for showing concern.I dunno what to say.
#65
Psa: As Soon As Man Says That, Run The Opposite Direction Sis. This Is Red Flag. Manipulation
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
I wish, but it takes them 30 seconds until they go back to being super annoying
cybermerlin2000 4 years ago
My fiancée didn't like a joke I came out with (it was in bad taste, I'll admit) and I went quiet for a while. She very angrily said, "Oh, I suppose you're not going to talk again, is that it?" and I replied "Nope, my next 20 jokes depended on that one... I'm just sorting out a new playlist of jokes"
#66
It Do Be Like That
Kari Panda 4 years ago
The first time I met my now husband, I was wearing socks with holes (grew up poor and had been wearing socks with holes my whole life). He teased me about it and then brought me a pair of his own socks to wear :)
#67
Potent
Anna Banana 4 years ago
"Women feel like they don't need men anymore" is precisely what went right with this generation!
#68
Facts
Pheebs 4 years ago
I have so much respect for the middle school I attended. All genders took tech class (basically wood shop, with a bit of electronics mixed in) for 9 weeks every school year, and all took home ec where they learned to cook, sew by hand, and eventually use a sewing machine. Skill was not based on gender - it was based on the effort you put in.
Cold Contagious 4 years ago
Sounds like a cool place. All schools don't offer things like that and it kinda sucks. I did take computer science and wood shop in middle school but home ec wasn't offered there or in high school. I definitely would have taken it.
Load More Replies... J. F. 4 years ago
Anybody who can't cook (at least edible food) and clean is embarrassing, no matter of gender
#69
Reason #6567 Why Being Single Is Better Than Settling
MrOwlAteMyMetalWorm. 4 years ago
You are living the best age.42 is the answer.
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Exactly
Bobby 4 years ago
I sure hope it auto deletes the profile. I haven't had any notices or alerts from tinder in about 6 years, but I never thought to delete the profile when I deleted the app. And I'm not going to download it again to check, that's just a misunderstanding waiting to happen
June 4 years ago
I doesn't auto deletes. But if you don't open the app anymore your profile drops at the bottom of the list and never shows again.
Load More Replies... Freelove 4 years ago
When I first started talking to this one guy online, he looked me up on Facebook and on his end it said that I was in a relationship. I most definitely was not and on MY and it showed my profile said I was single. My heart sunk, thinking he thought the worst of me since it looked like I was cheating. I sent him a screenshot of what my profile looked like on my end, showing that I was marked as single, and hoped that my chances with him weren't ruined by whatever that Facebook glitch was. I'm really glad he believed me... We've now been married for 5 years and have two beautiful children together.
#71
Enough Said
Bored Toadette 3 years ago (edited)
That is from a song. The song is about "how men want woman to look like". After reading his message, it was like the song "build a bit ch. Hope for he's sake that he is looking like a model or something with standards like that though🤢
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#72
So Glad He Is Her Ex
Jessica 4 years ago
who's favorite laffy taffy flavor is banana for real? artificial banana is gross. he was probably just thinking about his banana needs
Fluffy Griffin 4 years ago
I like banana laffy taffy best. I also like the banana runts. But both those are still low on my overall candy favorites list.
Load More Replies... Martha Meyer 4 years ago
I feel like this guy might have more of a memory problem than anything else. lol
#73
Made Me Chuckle. Accurate!
Rebekah Krause 4 years ago
The difference is I want to clean up after and cook for all of them. Please.
Load More Replies... WildHoneyPie 4 years ago
I love the guy on the bottom right! Look at that adorable expression.
SlartyBlartFast 4 years ago
All these kitties are gorgeous, and I feel I need to protect them! How dare you compare them to humans!
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
I take the button right, I like how his mustage and beard are already white but he still looking very young. And those kind eyes.
#74
Girlfriends/Wives Are Not On The List Of In-Network Therapists
Sleazy Weaver 4 years ago
Unless he s**t himself, you can't change him. Unless you're a professional who's been through years of education to understand human psychology, you aren't equipped to handle his problems all on your own.
#75
Mic Drop
Thorfin Wolfsbane 4 years ago
all things aside, i love to see you're and your used appropriately
#76
This Is Nice But If You’re On A Date At Hooters It’s Already Not Going Well
Legen ( wait for it ) dary 4 years ago
It's already good enough they have this. Hope in a women's toilet.
Anna McHugh 4 years ago
OK, so it's Hooters, but a lot of classier places don't do this - and they should.
IlovemydogShilo 4 years ago
If you're going to Hooters for a date, chances are that it will not just be the menu he wlii be looking at. Suggest somewhere else or better still, RUN.
Arthur Waite 4 years ago
And because this is being shown off on 'the media', it's more likely to cause an ugly scene right there in the restaurant/bar. Be prepared.
Mette Stenersen 4 years ago
If he brings you to Hooters in the first place, just leave right away.
Queen Metapha 4 years ago
Last week I saw something like that in a very comfy bar (not anything like Hooters) on a women's toilet in Austria.
Marco Hub-Dub 4 years ago
The “Angel Shot” is now so ubiquitous at clubs & bars that when women excuse themselves to go to the restroom guys even joke “I hope you’re not going to get an Angel Shot.” Just Google the term and you’ll see. It was a great idea when it was new and unique in 2013, (8+ years ago, online sites & dictionaries began defining it in 2015) but now it’s time to come up with a new code. The hand gestures mentioned earlier in this post and several others may work for a while, but not the Angel Shot. Either way, it’s time to brain storm a new alert system that can’t be so easily recognized by creepsters.
BlackPearltheSeaWing/NightWing 4 years ago
Everywhere should do this! It could be very helpful in uncomfortable situations
#77
My Wish For 2021 And Beyond Is That More Women Realise That They Don’t Have To Put Up With Callous, Selfish Behaviour In Their Relationships
#78
For Real Though
#79
That’s Gonna Be A No From Me
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SumoNinja 4 years ago
If you read an article like this and think "but it isn't all men, I'm not like that" don't blame women, blame the 40% of men who are ruining it for everyone else, male and female. Also realize that your hurt feelings are nothing compared to a lifetime of fear and being treated as an inferior person or disposable object.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
And f*****g SPEAK UP when your male buddies are talking and acting like assholes, douches, perverts, creeps, and potential rapists, and call them out for it. Publicly. Make it socially unacceptable. If they get called out and publicly shamed for it——every single time they try it—-maybe they’ll think twice about doing it again. If they don’t stop, then just drop them as a friend, and go find better quality people to hang out with.
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Kaori Panda 4 years ago
For the record here, r/FemaleDatingStategy is not a very, uh, liked subereddit because oftentimes there is a lot of things said about men like "who cares if men have mental health problems" and such. I agree with all these screenshots, but the subreddit that the came off of isn't the best. There are a lot of entitled people on there, which is sad because the sub could have been a really positive and supportive place.
Random Panda 4 years ago
I spent all of 5 minutes in that subreddit and saw so much sexist and misandrist crap, I never went back. That sub is utter trash.
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Julie 4 years ago
Talking on your phone /texting and wearing earbuds while walking alone is not safe.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
They’re often not playing music with those earphones in, and never not keeping their ears and eyes open to their surroundings while on the phone.
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Gabrielle Daylano 4 years ago
I made a profile on something like tinder. Oh the things I have seen 😅... I said on my profile that I'm bi. This man started with do you f*ck my ex? Well, first who the heck is you're ex and why are you bothering me with this. And that I was probably not because I wouldn't fall for the types of girls that falls for him. He said my attitude is the same as his ex and blocked me 🤣 well, I wonder why girls have an attitude with you 🤔
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Oh dear XD. I'm bi too! But that dude was a jerk. (I think I'll just stay away from dating apps).
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Rae Reyn 4 years ago
If you ask my daughter the way to a man's heart, she'll say "between the 4th and 5th ribs". She'll also tell you what we say to death is "not today"
PenitentEyeball 4 years ago
I hate the fact that men are learning this! All men should know the way women feel! And they should listen to women!
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
If the data backs it up, is it really a generalization? No. No, not really.
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Donny Cromwell 4 years ago
For 17 years I tried my best to set a good example for my daughter on how someone treats someone they love. Her choice for a boyfriend helps me feel that I did a good job.
Q B F T 4 years ago
Imagine that all the time for decades starting from when You're about 11 or 12 and not just from one man but from many - from any. And that would still be a much better than average experience, because like you say, your guy never actually did anything.
Load More Replies... SumoNinja 4 years ago
If you read an article like this and think "but it isn't all men, I'm not like that" don't blame women, blame the 40% of men who are ruining it for everyone else, male and female. Also realize that your hurt feelings are nothing compared to a lifetime of fear and being treated as an inferior person or disposable object.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
And f*****g SPEAK UP when your male buddies are talking and acting like assholes, douches, perverts, creeps, and potential rapists, and call them out for it. Publicly. Make it socially unacceptable. If they get called out and publicly shamed for it——every single time they try it—-maybe they’ll think twice about doing it again. If they don’t stop, then just drop them as a friend, and go find better quality people to hang out with.
Load More Replies... Kaori Panda 4 years ago
For the record here, r/FemaleDatingStategy is not a very, uh, liked subereddit because oftentimes there is a lot of things said about men like "who cares if men have mental health problems" and such. I agree with all these screenshots, but the subreddit that the came off of isn't the best. There are a lot of entitled people on there, which is sad because the sub could have been a really positive and supportive place.
Random Panda 4 years ago
I spent all of 5 minutes in that subreddit and saw so much sexist and misandrist crap, I never went back. That sub is utter trash.
Load More Replies... Julie 4 years ago
Talking on your phone /texting and wearing earbuds while walking alone is not safe.
Kathryn Baylis 4 years ago (edited)
They’re often not playing music with those earphones in, and never not keeping their ears and eyes open to their surroundings while on the phone.
Load More Replies... Gabrielle Daylano 4 years ago
I made a profile on something like tinder. Oh the things I have seen 😅... I said on my profile that I'm bi. This man started with do you f*ck my ex? Well, first who the heck is you're ex and why are you bothering me with this. And that I was probably not because I wouldn't fall for the types of girls that falls for him. He said my attitude is the same as his ex and blocked me 🤣 well, I wonder why girls have an attitude with you 🤔
Raven DeathShade 4 years ago
Oh dear XD. I'm bi too! But that dude was a jerk. (I think I'll just stay away from dating apps).
Load More Replies... Rae Reyn 4 years ago
If you ask my daughter the way to a man's heart, she'll say "between the 4th and 5th ribs". She'll also tell you what we say to death is "not today"
PenitentEyeball 4 years ago
I hate the fact that men are learning this! All men should know the way women feel! And they should listen to women!
Leo Domitrix 4 years ago
If the data backs it up, is it really a generalization? No. No, not really.
Load More Replies... Donny Cromwell 4 years ago
For 17 years I tried my best to set a good example for my daughter on how someone treats someone they love. Her choice for a boyfriend helps me feel that I did a good job.
Q B F T 4 years ago
Imagine that all the time for decades starting from when You're about 11 or 12 and not just from one man but from many - from any. And that would still be a much better than average experience, because like you say, your guy never actually did anything.
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