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Sally Bergensen is the CEO of Oiselle, a Seattle-based athletic apparel company by women, for women. She recently took to Twitter to share a body-shaming story from her childhood that, despite taking place when she was just a twelve-year-old teenage girl, is clearly something she's never forgotten.
"Keep eating like that, and you're going to be a butterball," her father had said to her, and now she's encouraging other women to share their experiences of being body image shamed by using the hashtag #TheySaid. And as you can see below, many women were quick to come forward with their own stories of friends, family, and sometimes total strangers making hurtful comments about their body type, size, or being way off the line of beauty standards. The hashtag has even spawned a sister hashtag called #SheReplied, which people are using to share ways to respond to the next person who says something unpleasant about the female body. Scroll down to see some of the responses to uncalled for public shaming so far.
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#1
Renáta Dezsőfi 8 years ago
they should say 'for the girls water for the boys water too'... why do people poison their kids at such a young age? no wonder why they are getting bigger if their parents are supporting an unhealthy lifestyle..
Erin Hill 8 years ago
There's nothing wrong with drinking soda, provided it's in moderation
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Yunyann See 8 years ago
Let them drink what they want, in moderation of course. What a stupid idea of classifying gender in food.
Robin Foster 5 years ago
I enjoy hiking and I'm hyper-vigilant with "PTSD". I have problems with sitting inside when it's nice out, I have raynauds's syndrome and dread winter coming (I'm in pain all winter long). I hike a lot during summer months. This year, I lost weight out of nowhere. I'd stopped eating carbs and was hiking / exercising up to 60+ miles a week. I looked in the mirror one day and saw that I'd dropped too much weight. It was unintentional ... I gained some back and am back up to apx 113 lbs (I'm only 5"3 1/2). A woman told me that I was anorexic (2x). I don't skip meals, go hungry, eat strange foods and indulge in cookies and snack foods just like the person next to me does. I checked my BMI info online and I'm apparently in the normal range. However, it makes me feel bad about myself. I'm offended by people who want women to have "meat on their bones" "cushions" and who body shame me as anorexic. I'm a healthy size for my height. Americans are 23 lbs overweight. Rude.
Ironcat_xox 8 years ago
Jesus Christ that's awful!!! Some people need to grow up and learn to be real parents
Megan Spainhour 8 years ago
Actually the diet is worse than the regular. All that aspartame and sucralose in the diet...
lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
No: https://theoutline.com/post/842/diet-coke-is-not-killing-you
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lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
Nope: https://theoutline.com/post/842/diet-coke-is-not-killing-you
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Stille20 8 years ago
Ugh, I'm so sorry. I have when people think saying you lost weight is a compliment. It doesn't take into account why the weight loss has happened. Also, it's none of your business what my scale says.
Elena Mendiola Illescas 8 years ago
This happened to me too, and now that I'm healthier and gained my weight back, people criticize me :/
Adriana E. Henricy 8 years ago
why WHY, like that magazine that posted a "secret to lose weight" and it was cancer, wtf is wrong with people???
Palmyre Lgl 8 years ago
That happened to one of my best friends, a teacher told her that she looked radiant after "getting skinny" when she hadn't been eating properly for months
#3
Brigitte 8 years ago
The worst body-shaming comments come from relatives; they feel like it's ok because they're family.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Sadly, they often say these things out of genuine concern.
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
My grandma said to me (weighing 75 kg/ 165 pounds) "With that body you will never find a boyfriend!" (as if look is the only thing that matters). At the same time a friend of mine weighing over 110 kg/240 pounds stole/pinched the husband of her best friend...obviously the look was not everything that mattered.
Hannah Eh 8 years ago
My mom after I got divorced from my ex husband : "Now it will be even more difficult for you to meet a man. Now you bring a child along on top of your weight!"
Brigitte 8 years ago
Oh my god, that is so cruel. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder - your mom may think you are not pretty but others will think you're just perfect.
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Patrick O'Harris 5 years ago
My Mom is the same even though I think it's not meant to be mean. "You know I love every pound on you but you'll regret all that weight later." My dads bloodline has a high risk of diabetis, heart deseases and strokes. I know she wants the best for me...
Katie Richardson 8 years ago
Totally understand. Thought about it after I posted. :) sorry for the misunderstanding
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Hans 8 years ago
Such coaches should loose the job. I remember also a school sports teacher who would exclude a boy from ball games because he was too fat. Way to make sure people will not find fun in sports!
Justyna Ejaz 8 years ago
And discouraging them from exercise making sure they will not even try to lose weight by exercise being afraid of people's feedbacks.
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Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
I wish a teacher would ever say something like this to my daughter, they would truly regret it. I am getting angry just reading this comment
Lola Volkova 8 years ago
Coaches, trainers, lecturers can be very mean. One of my lecturers asked me if I was pregnant or just fat. He wanted to raise my grades if I were pregnant, because pregnancy makes girls stupid, WTF?
M O'Connell 8 years ago
#2 I understand, but how on earth did you jump to your first conclusion?
Load More Replies... M O'Connell 8 years ago
He probably should have been, though who knows how long ago this happened.
Load More Replies... Suhaira tasni 4 years ago
Schools these days treat you like commoners. They should treat us like we are the part of the school! They should treat us like Miss Jennifer Honey!
Jill Bussey 5 years ago
At eight years your body is a long way from formed. He should be ashamed.
Blue Cicada 8 years ago
U.S. in the '70's and '80's, a lot of bullying came FROM the teachers!!! I strive to be so different in my classroom.
Blue Cicada 8 years ago
Ergo, reporting a coach or teacher would have had no effect, or you will be reprimanded for "whining".
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NellyWish 8 years ago
I know. I really, REALLY hope this !@#$%^&* got in trouble
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Agnes Jekyll 8 years ago
What? This is a doctor? Doesn't he know the physical and psychological damage bulimia does? He is an awful, sick man.
Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
OMG wow, he would no longer be a doctor giving out those types of comments, not to my daughter he wouldn't
#6
Sierra Hall 8 years ago
Keep it up! People are ridiculous. They should never shame someone for trying to be active and healthy!
Suhaira tasni 4 years ago
It is a bit hard not to avoid what people say about you but keep up! HIKE UP TO MOUNT EVEREST
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Fawkes Conibear 8 years ago
Everyone has the right type for bouldering. That's the awesome thing about it. Bouldering is about learning how to use your body, whatever it may look it, to solve physical puzzles. Sometimes my wife has an easier time on a puzzle because she's taller than me and can reach farther and other times I do better because I can muscle my way through awkward spots. It's all just about getting out there and trying until you figure out what works for you. I hope she keeps climbing, it's lots of fun.
It Came From Otterspace 8 years ago
Exactly! Bouldering is an awesome hobby where everyone has to find their own way of tackling the routes in a way suitable for their own hight, strength, weight etc. so body type really doesn't matter. On the wall we all have our advantages and disadvantages, no matter how we are built. I really like her response, that's the bouldering spirit! :)
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Vivian “Jinxed It” R. 8 years ago
Even if she isn't having the "perfect body type" for bouldering right now, but she will definitely get it while doing it. :)
M O'Connell 8 years ago
Ugh. I did some research on rock grips, kind hoping that this person was just really-insensitively telling her she exceeded some mfgrs safe weight limit, but those rock grips are rated for 250lbs each when properly installed, so whoever said that was just an a*****e. If you're limber, and up for it, go climb whatever you want! PS: Put on a f*****g helmet :)
Mimis Nachbarin 8 years ago
NO. She obviously has the right body type! Some people are just idiots.
Laurin Shattersmith 8 years ago
Now start doing pull ups! It'll make the climbing a lot easier & build more muscle!
#7
ItsPam Duh 8 years ago
I'm so sorry. I am on antidepressants that have caused weight gain and I have experienced such negative feed back. People can be cruel.
Mimis Nachbarin 8 years ago
You need to look at someone who's seeing you naked and beeing amazed of all the lot of your beauty... THAT is what you need. And you definitly need stop to hear what mother says.
Leah Tafolla 8 years ago
That's exactly what my dad and his ex that he still lives with tell me whenever I'm around them
Aine 8 years ago
Sounds exactly like my own mother... It was her main complaint about me from the time I was small until I was in my twenties, even though my weight was clearly caused by medical issues (diagnosed later on). Then, my young teenager sister, who's thin and pretty, yelled at her to stop berating me. It never happened again.
Amazing Unicorn 8 years ago
Select meds do have a side affect of weight gain. They say so on the bottles.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
#she said...next time you look in the mirror to do your makeup, make sure you use a lighter lipstick, your mouth looks all stretched out from negative comments, and that bright red, makes it look like a gash on your face.
Yunyann See 8 years ago
Don't she know you are on med and it has side effects?? Even she is your mother, please don't listen to her. Wish you well and good health.
#8
Lara B. 8 years ago
Body shaming from a different perspective. After a nasty break-up in December i started suffering from depression and just stopped eating. I was down to 44kg in no time and people kept telling me how awful i looked. I knew that it looked terrible, but no need to keep f*cking telling me that all the time. That really hurts. Now I am getting better each day :)
Stille20 8 years ago
People need to mind their business about weight. Especially sudden weight loss or gain. Clearly the person is going through something. Hope you are feeling better.
Load More Replies... Agnes Jekyll 8 years ago
My god. Girls can't win for losing. When I was young people picked on me for being thin. When I gained weight, my mom told me I was fat.
Raakhee Toolsi-Boodhoo 8 years ago
My parents called me "patharki" which translates to skinny all the time I stayed at home. I overly conscious of myself and would not eat in public so that didn't help my weight issue. But instead of helping me they just taunted me. Now I have actually put on too much weight but that is only because my husband loves me and will never see me go hungry.
sunnyrei82 8 years ago
Seems like we're NEVER good enough! There's aaaaaalways something wrong with us! UGH!
Janet Margaret 8 years ago
this was my life forever... I was always shamed for being very thin. It's in my genes, how can I help it?
Mae_Day_All_Day 8 years ago
This is what I get all the time. Yes people, I eat a lot, I just don have the "meat" on my bones. I also workout every other day.
Dee Jeffrey 8 years ago
I hate when people use to say that s**t to me. now I am like 🖕🏿🖕🏿🖕🏿 I love how I look.
#9
Mimis Nachbarin 8 years ago
Since when do boys not want fat girls?!? Maybe not all of them, but still a lot of them. Your mom would be surprised...
Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
I'm sorry, is she sure that is her actual mom? She may wanna take another look at the birth certificate, because I can't imagine a real mom saying this to their daughter.
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M O'Connell 8 years ago
TBH, weight never made any difference for me when I was in school. My first girlfriend lost some weight, going from size 10 to size 8, and she was super pissed when I didn't notice. Size was irrelevant, I liked her for her. The only people who care so much are shallow and not worthy of your interest anyway :*
Megan Spainhour 8 years ago
What happened to parents raising their kids up, not bringing them down?
Christina Turcotte 8 years ago
Jesus. I can't even imagine talking to one of my daughters like that.
Iris Omri-Engler 8 years ago
That is terrible and ridiculous as well. Fortunately some men have still other skills than only weight plus I know still enough like it when a woman has some more to cuddle with
#10
Marceline 8 years ago
Looking beautiful with a swimsuit doesn't have to do with a girls/womans weight or body shape! It has to do with self-confidence, and feeling comfortable for who you are! You look amazingly beautiful!! P.S.:Great choise of swimsuit!
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
And thank for choosing a bikini that suits you body. As a curvier girl, I hate seeing too skimpy/too tight. Curve, not sausage!
Elli Tiuku 8 years ago
Well, for health reasons it would be good for you to lose some weight :/ You look good, but unfortunately the way one looks isn't always healthy. There might be problems conceiving a child for example. Just one of the hundred reasons to keep your weight normal.
M O'Connell 8 years ago
Why on earth are people downvoting genuine compliments to her wonderful suit?
#11
A_fangirling_Demigod_witch 3 years ago
ik it's kinda creepy things like that to a child, this dude from a local store thing would always call me gorgeous and beautiful when i was younger, it was a bit creepy
Load More Replies... Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
So sad, people don't realize what they are doing to our children, and some do but don't care. Then they wonder why the suicide rate is so high!
#12
Sofia Bellavista 8 years ago
Nobody can hurt you like your parents. There should be mandatory courses and exams to pass to gain the right to procreate.
Yunyann See 8 years ago
Don't bother what she said, but seize the opportunity for sponsored shopping spree. Have fun.
Ann Jeppesen 8 years ago
What a disgusting parent. If anyone should be ashamed it should be kids of a parent that would ever say something like that to their child
#13
Adriana E. Henricy 8 years ago
some people should take classes on "how not to be a s****y parent"
Brenda Travis 1 year ago
I remember my dad calling me a "fat little sh**". I don't even remember what I did wrong.
#14
Anastasia B 8 years ago
Same thing happened to me... I was 15 and it was my aunt. I never wanted to be a model anyway but why say such a mean thing?
Rhân 8 years ago
Maybe she was just jealous of you. Even if it is your aunt. Some people seem to love making other feel bad, because they feel bad about themself
Load More Replies... Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
OMG, that uncle should have been slapped upside the head by the grandpa and every other adult or parent that heard him say that to a 13 year old child
Suhaira tasni 4 years ago
At least your grand[a is kind-hearted. The pain you feel when your own relative say stuff like this
Autumn Rivers 5 years ago
I was told the same thing when I mentioned that I wanted to look into modeling when I was 17. Jokes on them now. I'm 37, have been modeling since I was 28, and for the past 5 years it's been my only career. I've made a living modeling after being told my whole life I was never good enough. Listen to your heart, no one but you know what's inside ❤️
lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
The ironic thing is, in her profile picture, she looks amazing.
Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Grandpa seemed to know, words are just as powerful as weapons, or, in his case, kindness and love! Goooo grandpa!!
Shauday Smith 8 years ago
As with most of these, i feel like context would be better here. Family members do tend to just blurt insensitive things (note all those grandparents in the other tweets) But models get flak for being grossly underweight... I was told the exact same thing by family members when i was younger. And had someone say the same thing as this Uncle... They weren't saying I was fat, they were complaining that the industry was too restrictive and followed up with their comment saying i looked healthy for my age. The conversation went from a family member complimenting my growing body, to the weird standards of models in the blink of eye... Uncle may have been taking a jab at his niece, or an underhanded jab on models... I guess i just would have liked know to if there was a follow up to that sentence.
#15
Mae_Day_All_Day 8 years ago
I'm flat chested too. I'm 13 yrs old. I get body shamed too. But not that much so it's all good lol
Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
You should never worry about the opinions of others sweetie. People will talk whether you have small ones or big ones because people just love to speak negatively. Well most ignorant people who really just are not happy with themselves so they want to put others down. So you don't worry. Keep the same positive attitude and keep loving yourself no matter what.
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Blue Cicada 8 years ago
Ugh! Upon divorce, my ex told me my breasts were too large, and no man would find me attractive, even if I lost weight.
Christina Turcotte 8 years ago
Holy hell . . . way to teach a young lady that her only value is in being something nice for men to look at. :(
#16
Aunt Messy 8 years ago
I get that nonsense from time to time. Guess what? I'm 54. I plan on doing whatever I want for the rest of my life and I need muscle and bone mass to do it.
M O'Connell 8 years ago
You look like a man?!? What ancient Mesopotamian fertility idol do these other women look like?
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
They don't. That's why they have issues with her and likely with us fertility goddesses too
Load More Replies... Kirsty Buckland 8 years ago
Hey I'm not exactly thin and whilst I do envy you for your physique, I would never offer you anything but praise! You don't in any way look like a man, you look great! I'm glad you see it for what it is when these people make comments like that - pure jealousy!
Dre Mosley 5 years ago
Having some muscle tone/definition does not equal, "looking like a man." SMH.
Robin Foster 5 years ago
I've been told the same. I've listened to men talk about their sisters that way. "Sinewey, disgusting". It's rude. Men don't like bodies that are in shape or athletic. who cares about what men think. I ignore it and worry about what I want to do with my time and life and just know that that's how I'll look for it.
#17
Erin Pratt 5 years ago
If anybody said to my kids, I’ll toss their rude ass out. Permanently. I don’t care who it was.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
She would not have been to my house again. Being outspoken is a privilege that comes with age. Cruelty is not.
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#19
Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
Yesss, couldn't have said it better. That grandpa is terrible
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Kate Perry 5 years ago
My grandma offered my brother $50 to stop biting his fingernails and then called me into the room to offer me $50 if I lost 10 lbs. I was around 9. He got his $50. I never did. I am an adult in my 40s now and she is long since dead, but I remember this vividly and have to wonder who in the hell thinks this is appropriate? I wish I could go back in time and respond with sorry I inherited your fat genes granny.
Washingtonian 8 years ago
Only a dollar b***h? Your dumbass just caused 4x the inflation, also I'm just gonna take a huge s**t (at your front preferably) and leave.
#20
Daddy’s Girl 1 year ago
I saw a woman in the store the other day with a shaped body. Thunder thighs that were absolutely gorgeous. People can be so insensitive.
#21
Pol Macqueron 8 years ago
It makes no sense: at 13 yo, she's responsible for you and moreover she's supposed to be supporting you and love you no matter what
Naima Ivansdóttir 8 years ago
you do realize that supporting and loving also means be concerned when you either gain or lose too much weight? it's not about the looks, it's about health. stop pretending that fat is beautiful or skeleton is sexy, EITHER IS NOT HEALTHY. a responsible and caring parent will try and make you understand that.
Load More Replies... Meredith 8 years ago
Girl, you are absolutely NOT overweight. Most 13 year olds are right in the ballpark of 120.
Amanda 8 years ago
Thank you! I'm 13 and 130 lbs so I'm a little overweight but I'm ok with that :)
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Adriana E. Henricy 8 years ago
bc maybe the girl ate whatever her awful mother gave her? why are people like this :( im so sorry
SIENNA HOLMES 7 years ago
I weigh 30 more pounds than that and people never said anything like that to me.......
Yasmin Piontek 8 years ago
And the second she got pregnant she doubled the brain cells in her body..
Lynn Cai 8 years ago
120 pounds sounds normal to me- I was at that weight when I was 13. Your height also plays a factor.
lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
Yeah. When I was 10 I had the height and weight of a twelve yo
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Ironcat_xox 8 years ago
Jesus Christ I want to slap all of these people that make their OWN CHILDREN AND GRANDCHILDREN feel fat!!!!! YOU WERE FREAKING 9 YEARS OLD!!
#23
lazy panda 8 years ago
When I was 10 I was a bridesmaid in my cousin's wedding and my mom told me that I had to lose weight so I would look prettier in the pictures.
Βασίλης Μπαζάκας 8 years ago
I said that to my self when i had problem with my weight. It was just one more reason for me, to try to lose weight. So, in other situation a parent, may say it for good reason. Dont watch it as "insult", maybe its your fault sometimes.
Full Name 8 years ago
A 13 yr old is still primarily fed by their parents, so it's the parents fault for not feeding them properly and teaching them healthy living. Mom could've definitely introduced the subject in a more positive way though.
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Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Honestly, I would kind of expect this from a thoughtless jerk of a teen sibling, it's the parents that make me see red!
Suhaira tasni 4 years ago
Excuse me sir but then how will she nourish and survive and have energy and etc and etc? YOU STOP EATING YOU JERK AND HORRIBLE AND FREAKING AND ETC AND ETC
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lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
My brother once said I was getting fat. At 10. You know what I did? I then went on to exercise every day for an hour or more, and lost almost 7 pounds. What's ironic is he's a bit overweight, and is barely losing any weight at all. And more so, I was a healthy weight for my age and height.
#25
Rhân 8 years ago
Yeah, some doctors should change their job. I really don't get it. Okay, if someone really has an unhealthy body, especially as a doctor you should be honest and help your patient. But this argumentation makes no sense and is just rude. Also if mental issues aren't your field of work, you should be careful with words. (Not only because weight gain could be a side effect of depression)
Patricie Sh. 8 years ago
"You are not having depression, you're just trying to show me how much you hate me by doing this." - My mother, I was 12 and it was a chronic depression caused by hormon dysfunction or what, almost a miracle I didn't kill myself after that (*didn't succeed). Went through anorexia and now she told me I'm fat. Great, I guess? Surly a compliment..
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
I hope you are getting emotional help to deal with her, and that you are able to limit contact. Your emotional health needs to be 1st.
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Anna Thouvenin 8 years ago
This one particularly gets me. It's so f***ing wrong to say "you don't have depression" if he's not even able to diagnose it! This must be reported as a GP is supposed to guide you to specialists if you need one, especially for mental health that is a completely different expertise than physical health.
Leoninus Fate 8 years ago
they say this for everything, cut me 14 years old, 3 years after getting my face messed up and scar-ed up from my stepmom, I was 6'9 and 102 {100?} pounds "You need to lose weight, you will feel happier than" yeah....... no, turned out I had Pseudo Tumor Celebi, depression, and other problems
Mae_Day_All_Day 8 years ago
Whoa what happened with your stepmom and you? Sounds rough...
Load More Replies... Elena Mendiola Illescas 8 years ago
My DENTIST used to make a lot of remarks about my weight... I stopped going with him
Daddy’s Girl 1 year ago
Too many doctors are not trained to treat women and girls. They should find another profession.
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Eglė Grigaliūnaitė 8 years ago
My mom told to 12 year old me "you can't be an actress, you're not pretty and your ears are too big". I'm a 25 yo successful actress, I feel very good in my own skin and nobody has literally said a word about my ears in any context.
M O'Connell 8 years ago
Unfortunately, I've known several Korean women who have had this done. They say it has helped their careers, but is losing your personal identity really worth it?
Load More Replies... Jill Bussey 5 years ago
I hope you told her what to do with her money and that your eyes are lovely as they are.
Wanda Queen 8 years ago
Ugh. I am a westerner but have down turned eyes, I've spent all my life being called "slant eyed" or having people ask "what's wrong with your eyes"? #ignorance
#27
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
I had a very sweet friend ask me this, quietly and out of genuine concern. I thanked and ate 3 slices;)
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M O'Connell 8 years ago
I knew a girl in college who was a power-lifter. If you didn't know that, an a*****e would assume she was overweight. I think she was about 240lbs of muscle.
Anna Brown 8 years ago
Ikr I'm overweight but people falsely assume un fit...i hike and swim and do aerobics
Daddy’s Girl 1 year ago
Muscles aren’t skinny, and they aren’t light. But they can be beautiful.
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Leoninus Fate 8 years ago
such a bad thing, starving yourself can actually lead to weight gain, your body tries to bulk up thinking there's no food and puts you in a hibernation-like a thing with fat,
Kati 8 years ago
Thta's not a thing you should say to someone fighting anorexia tho.
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Aamna Shah 5 years ago
An uncle once told me something similar and he prefaced it with the usual 'don't mind but you need to watch what you eat. You've entered a phase where it'll only get worse so you need to lose weight or you'll be really fat.' My expression obviously changed which he and others noticed. What's worse is he said it with my father sitting besides me who never spoke a word. Then even though I didn't say a word about this incident with him or anybody else, he told me 'I feel bad about every little thing.' Even some good people don't realize that you can't shame most people into losing weight nor should you.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Honestly, this is how I gained 60 lbs. once I started eating regularly and healthy, I'm down to 194, and amazingly healthy. All #s excelent
ChellyMabelle 8 years ago
Kind of happened to me, too. I was on a healthy high protein low carb diet, I was happy with myself and my slow but noticeable progress. Then my dad told me I won't loose weight and gain, all I do is b******t because I ate a warm meal aka veggies and meat for dinner every night - "I just have to eat nothing and skip dinner".
Ro Si 8 years ago
Actually he was right. Normal means cut off sizes of meals, not by meaning of starving, thats wrong too. But excluding junk food helps a lot too.
Ro Si 8 years ago
By the way, swinging betweet one extreme to another is the key to anorexia and all the eating disorders. I was fighting overweight, too, since the last year and I still do. By the way, overeating was one of the main reasons I gained so much weight, together with hormonal disorders. But i can not be offended by things I know about my body. It is fueling my motivation, without making me feel miserable. I love me, that is why I take care of my body ;)
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
I weighed 54 kg/ 118 lbs with that age and was called "fat cow" so often, that I believed them. If I think back to then, I think "how stupid were you?" - but you are influenced by the people around you.
lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
Fun fact: if you're taller, you typically are heavier than average (I think)
Full Name 8 years ago
I had a girl around that age tell me she wouldn't go out with me because it would look like she was babysitting me because I looked so young. I guarantee that story would garner next to no sympathy, but when someone says anything negative to an overweight person everybody flips out because it's trendy. It's not nice to make fun of people for any reason, but why are some things that are preventable considered just awful while other things that are innate considered fair game? I'm also short and I had an overweight girl tell me she prefers her men bigger (totally unprovoked. I never hit on her in the least). I said that's okay because I preferred my women smaller and everybody lost it on me like I was the a*****e even though she provoked it and her weight was preventable. I don't get humans sometimes.
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Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
OMG sooo sad, reminds me of when I was 13 and my friend told me guys that date fat girls only date them for 1 thing...yes and she was supposed to be my best friend, funny thing was I wasn't even fat at the time as I look back at pics I looked great, sometime a persons motives can be jealousy as well.
#32
Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
That has to be the most horrible thing someone could say to their child :-(
Elena Mendiola Illescas 8 years ago
It breaks my heart how parents could said such horrible things to their own children >:'(
#33
Sherlock Holmes 8 years ago
A three year old?? A three year old NEEDS some chub - they're growing very quickly! A skinny toddler is a sick toddler most of the time!
Ria Weyprecht 5 years ago
No, a skinny toddler is just a skinny toddler. Body shaming works in both directions.
Load More Replies... Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
WTF what the hell type of people are these and where are they from? Who the hell says that to a 3 year old?
Alida Sheptenko 8 years ago
my mom said this to me all my life as well, starting very in early childhood. Still does.
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Cassie 8 years ago
A hell of a lot of good men aren't shallow enough to apply rigid standards to body type.
Load More Replies... Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
Let me tell you, I have been big before, small before medium and at each size men were attracted to me, I have been married for 10 years and know my husband since high school, he has loved me at any size so that is a bunch of c**p, because everyone has different taste in women, just have confidence in yourself no matter what because men love women with confidence. Oh and there were many women who wanted my husband but it was only about me no matter if I gained wait or not, only a person who accepts you and likes you for you is worth your time. So I would tell mom and grandma, "I'm sorry if you thought I would be interested in a man who only likes me for looks, because I am not that shallow or stupid"
Manuela Simon 8 years ago
being severly obese is a health risk, but it is so sad that these "tips" are said to normal weighing or slightly overweighed girls (most likely girls, with boys overweight they are more tolerant)
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Yasmin Piontek 8 years ago
Why would he look at 10 y/o girls' thighs in soccer shorts, huh? But srsly, such a jerk
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Smoofy 8 years ago
DUDE SHE IS GROWING A HUMAN PERSON IN HER UTERUS. SHE WILL GAIN WEIGHT. WHO GIVES A S**T ABOUT THE SHORTS!?
M O'Connell 8 years ago
"Only 10lbs"?? That shouldn't be possible when you consider all the anatomy involved in pregnancy! What a b******t remark!
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
How unhealthy was her sister? I doubt her OB/GYN was happy with that.
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jo_shortland 8 years ago
I could never out on weight before I had my daughter and used to get a lot of comments too which are very hurtful "you are too bony" "Ooo careful you might snap a leg" but it's not your fault
Smoofy 8 years ago
I've had this problem before. People have thought I was anorexic, or else they made fun of me for being really thin or small.
maya P.K 4 years ago
thats what my "friend" said to me. i actually eat pretty well and i just ate about 10 pancakes, two helpings of salad, and a big ole slice of shepherds pie. idk why im still so skinny. that "friend" kept being mean to me and i stopped being friends with her. it was rly hard because I've known her since i was born and i still am sad about it. ive got a amazing new best friend now! (p.s Addison if ur reading this i hope you arent as toxic now and have a good life)
Zori the degu 8 years ago
No wonder there are so many anorexic girls! Who's giving such idiotic ideas anyway?
Denise Borchert 1 year ago
My Mother-in-law called me "anorexic" and too skinny to hold a baby, and not big enough breasts to breastfeed. She was so jealous of my slender body type. Then, after getting cancer and succumbing to the steroid d***s prescribed by Dr.'s, I lost my ability to walk and was super hungry all of the time, therefore gaiining 100 pounds. My Husband and I visited my M-I-L and she was waiting to spring on me, so happy that I had finally gained some weight. She had bought me an outfit at the Good Will and said, "I wasn't sure if it would fit you, so i tried it on myself and it was bulky on me. Please try it on to see if it fits" I took one look at it and could tell it would be too small for me, so I was honest and said that I don't enjoy trying on clothing. I'll try it on tomorrow when I get dressed in the morning. She was so dissappointed that I wouldn't try it on. She wanted so bad to prove to my Husband that I was fatter than she was! Shekept trying unsuccessfully to get me to try
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Leoninus Fate 8 years ago
this is so sad, My brother does this to our sister, she has the same problems but diff background as me, our brother lost tons of weight after getting all his med problems fixed, we haven't, our sister has the opposite of me {im under, she's over} and our brother calls her whale, bakery, fat, chub chub, and other words, she's 28 and 200 pounds, he is 24 and weighs 160 pounds with me at 29 at 120 pounds, our brother even got on tv for losing his wight.....{i guess pm or message me if you want that link}
Manuela Simon 8 years ago
During a break I went outside with a large thin friend next to me and some boy shouted after us "Look, there are <>!" (That´s what the Stan Laurel and Oliver Hardy Show is called in Germany.) I spontaneously turned around and shouted "I am not thick!" (because it was obviously that my thin friend couldn´t be meant with it) and everybody still laughs about that, because it includes that I said "I am stupid".
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Mimis Nachbarin 8 years ago
I am sorry, but this is the most idiotic, wrong, mean and simply absurdest thing I ever heard a mother saying to her daughter. Seriously.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
So, like someone pointed out so accurately above this post, they are supposed to be taking care of you! So, if they think this, and all those other nasty thoughts, why not say these things instead... let's all take a walk after dinner, it's such a nice night! Hey let's go to the beach and play frisbee before the sunset! You know, daughter, I've put on some weight. I think I need a walk, would you take one with me and keep me company? We could walk the dog together, how about that?
Naima Ivansdóttir 8 years ago
maybe they do. what do we know? i'm not nice to people 100% of the time - not even family. it's the same for them. get over it.
Load More Replies... Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Sorry, it should read Naima, not animal. iPad find a word ,is rediculous!
Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Animal, I did, a long time ago! This post was/is, for sharing body shaming stories from our past, that have happened. I'm 58 years old,now, and I could care less what people say, including my family. So, get over it yourself. If you can't respond politely or encouragingly, don't respond at all. I could have been some 18 yo teen, and you would have knocked her for a loop, and put a hole in her confidence to speak up and out. So , please, no mean thoughts here, but stuff it, honey.
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Wombat34 8 years ago
What's she supposed to do about her boob size? Anyway, this is horseshit. No guys care about boob size. They're all good!
Rhân 8 years ago
Sadly some guys do, but I think that no matter how you look, there is someone who will love you the way you are, so what. It is just normal that not everyone like, find you attractive or love you, but that doesn't mean, that there is no one who will.
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Dora Larson 8 years ago
That's dumb she has no control over her boob size AND IT DOESNT MATTER
Kirsty Buckland 8 years ago
I take it that means they're implying she has small boobs? I've been - some people would say blessed, I say cursed - with big boobs since the age of 11. It's not all it's cracked up to be. Yes you get a lot of attention, but it's not nice attention. It makes you feel tacky and cheap. I would give anything to be a smaller size. Any man whose sole focus is on chest size is absolutely not worth a second of consideration.
Stille20 8 years ago
b-maids are the worst!!!! Its like there is suddenly a competition to be the brides favorite accessory. I tried on dresses with the maid of honor and looked really cute in one. She told the bride she didn't like it, but maybe it was because I needed to try it on it a bigger size.
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Bag Of Donuts 8 years ago
I know this one. The sister of my ex boyfriend told him I looked better when I've been a bit skinnier and with Make up.
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Lila Pratt 8 years ago
I have very big calves too. I didn't mind until someone pointed out that I looked like a weight lifter. It made me feel bad about it for a while then I decided to just love them just the way they are. They make me look strong, they have a nice shape, and they make me win races! Too bad for the skinny jeans!
Mariette Ferreira 5 years ago
I've got super muscular calves, always have. I can't buy boots in a regular store. I am skinny. You can't undo how you're built. Enjoy & embrace.
Bobbi Steele 8 years ago
People get plastic surgery to have calf definition. I'm fat, but men love my muscular legs. Women don't get it
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Sarah Bevan 8 years ago
"Why don't you dress like other girls" "I'm not other girls, i'm me, I dress like me." "But boys won't like you." "I'm not dressing for boys." "Ohhh... you're Gay." "Not that either. I just don't feel the need to completely change the way I look, smell & feel to trick some guy into being with me until he's with me so long I end up looking like this ANYWAY." "Oh you're a Feminist." "YEP" Literally met my current BF of 5 years while I was sweaty & covered in mud from playing sports.
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Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
I would have told her careful, acting as if you really care about me, you wouldn't want people to think you're a real mom. (Real moms don't make those type of comments to their children)
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Ashley Charboneau 8 years ago
Wow. That was over of the most traumatic, most like the mom from The Help but worse, one I've seen
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Good for you! That's an intense workout and takes stamina and strength!
Lori Johnson 2 years ago
A couple of days ago I returned to my office after time away and a co-worker who barely knows me came up to me and said "you've lost some weight since I saw you last". Then she said "other than that you look great". In other words "other than the fact you are so fat, you look great." Then she literally gave me permission to lose it slowly and not worry about how fast it comes off. What she doesn't know is that I went no contact with my family of origin due to narcissistic abuse and have been grieving the loss. I'm also going through menopause. I have been struggling with my body image and mental health for a while. A lot of people have body shamed me my entire life and right now I'm 20 lb overweight and that is the most I've ever weighed so most of the time I've been only slightly heavy so why do all these people feel the need or entitlement to fat shame me? It really hurt and can't shake it off because it happened one too many times. I don't want to go back to my office again.
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Victor Vakaras 8 years ago
Foot size? wtf. What a weird thing to insult. "Thanks! I'll work on reducing the size of my feet!"
Patricie Sh. 8 years ago
In Asia (I think) small foot is the real beauty. That's where the Cinderella story is form.
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Claire Sylvester 8 years ago
I am 5'8" and have size 8 feet. I am very proud to be tall and get all the good shoes on sale!!
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Cut off the feet and both issues solved. What exactly was she supposed to do?
Well Hello There 7 years ago
As a tall (and a little underweight) girl, there are plenty of tall guys in this world. And with the foot size thing, I...Don't know what to say.
Claire Mellusco 8 years ago
I was constantly bullied for being tall with big feet! No one gets it cause they think being tall is 'lucky'!
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Michelle Lee 8 years ago
My mom always commented on how thin she was as a teen Vs her daughters. We all developed eating disorders. I personally chose recovery after 20 yrs of starving and purging. I can only hope this new generation of parents can focus more on health than being thin.
Zori the degu 8 years ago
But that's not so much! I mean, the girl might just have heavy bones and structure. I'm 14 and I weight around 65 kilos, but I'm not fat, I'm just quite muscular and stout.
Ashley Charboneau 8 years ago
Anything under could've easily been unhealthy unless you're a drawf or something
lasagna's underrated 8 years ago
And you should feel good about it, you're healthy!
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ChellyMabelle 8 years ago
We had pizza for dinner during holidays. I wanted another piece. "Are you fat pig going to eat another one? I guess you're not" My Dad, I was 12. #TheySaid
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
My great-grandma (visiting us once in 5 years) to me, 9 years old in a nice-meant voice "Oh, you have quite "ladylike" big thighs!" This was the first time someone commented on my body the way that I thought "I am obviously not right the way I am". It was nice meant, really, but it was like "you are fat and disgusting" and many people continued to say such "nice" stuff to me until I became what they formed me. And now I have to work hard to get rid of this useless ballast (the overweight as well as the bad sentences in my head and my bad self-perception). Why can´t people just be a little bit nicer to each other?
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Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
I will share the same thing I shared on the with the other girl who's friend was a b***h. This reminds me of when I was 13 and my friend told me guys that date fat girls only date them for 1 thing...yes and she was supposed to be my best friend, funny thing was I wasn't even fat at the time as I look back at pics I looked great, sometime a persons motives can be jealousy as well.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Oh, daddy! Don't be silly! Disgusting is watching you drink so many beers and shove two hot dogs in your mouth at once!
ChellyMabelle 8 years ago
I am so sorry for you. :( Was also a competitive swimmer at this age and and dealt with similar words from my dad.
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Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
I had an aunt who used to say this to me when I was a kid, but she called most people fat so I paid her no mind, she was just a bitter lady
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Olga Śmiełowska 8 years ago
How is that body shaming? How could they know you have problems with eating?
Narfy T. Barfy 5 years ago
People say that to me when i was starving and not eating anything for lunch and barley a snack for dinner and breakfast...
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floating_delight 8 years ago
My heart goes out to you. I am a fat woman (and just to make this clear, I AM fat and I AM confident in myself and my body and since I defeated anorexia, I actually kinda LIKE being fat), married to a lean, tall, skinny guy. When I met him years ago, he went through terrible depression and he was sickly skinny, starved and malnourished. With help and thanks to his insatiable appetite, I managed to put a few kilos on him, now he's just "normal" skinny, but healthy-looking. He's eating insane amounts, he just has awesome metabolism, unlike me, and it breaks my heart that he now honestly think he's fat and he's trying to restrict himself and lose weight. I spend time every day to tell him that he is beautiful and that even is he did become fat, I'd still find him a total hottie as long as I see him happy and confident in himself, because body-shaming is a terrible thing that has nothing to do with one's gender.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Put gramma in the back of the church, and after the wedding ask her, could you see ok gramma? I know your eyesight is bad!
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Jorge Valdivieso 8 years ago
If you think ex boyfriend words are important the problem is yours.
Christy Foster 8 years ago
My ex-husband told me, "It's a good thing you have small breasts, because if they were bigger, you'd look so much fatter than you are now."
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Lakia Hawkins 8 years ago
LOL, yess I agree. Men love big butts, most of them anyway. Anytime I decided to work out more and go on a diet, my husband would always joke with me not to lose my butt, I went on a diet before after I had my baby and worked out, lost weight and my butt got smaller he had a fit LOLOL
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Ashley Charboneau 8 years ago
"So sad to hear about that foot the couldn't remove from your mouth" lol
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Jorge Valdivieso 8 years ago
There are nothing agresive in your mother sentence, and i think you Judge hard your mother. Is incredible you remenber that like something really hard in your life. Is nothing. I have got a big nose and the people call me Cyrano sometimes, but i dont care people. I have got my mother teeth, very fragile and need dentist all the time, we talk together about how i would like have got my father teeths he can eat candies and nothing happens. I think you haven´t got real problems, or you ignore and see just on movies.
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Hoparduc Snowpanther 8 years ago
that is horrible going to a party for fun and ending up being fatshamed it starts with the same letter but still people you can hurt others feelings also why are people judging when the person they judge looks like Aphrodite compared to them?
Jorge Valdivieso 8 years ago
Probably not. Rude words by your aunt, but maybe he have got a healthy reason.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Ooooh , and if we sewed your mouth shut, you'd be the perfect mother in law!
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Hoparduc Snowpanther 8 years ago
why didn't you knock him out? A simple uppercut and that b***h learns his lesson
Jorge Valdivieso 8 years ago
The question is why you had or have so horrible boyfriend. Break with him and live free. I think you did. Good for you.
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Jorge Valdivieso 8 years ago
Just one person care about a stupid opinion probably from stupid person when win a championship. YOU.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
And your balls are STILL hanging too low! Here's the name of a plastic surgeon, I'd hate to see them drag on the ground one day!
Hoparduc Snowpanther 8 years ago
that's the syndrome of "is the rabbit wearing the hat?" it doesn't matter what happens people will judge
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Silent Skeleton 8 years ago
My parents do this all the time. Even when I got a small plate on purpose, and only got about an eighth of a regular serving of dinner... it honestly feels horrible
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Lisamarie Dexter Pocza 8 years ago
I have a huge hernia on my belly. I get asked all the time. I'm 48
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Girdles and spanks should be burned. A good bra? Will always serve you well.
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Justice Richardson 8 years ago
Intimidating to the person who said this to you!!! I would've told them maybe they should try working out sometimes.... Maybe they wouldn't be so intimidated.
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Leoninus Fate 8 years ago
Idk, I think I would have taken this as a compliment, you need strong shoulders in swimming, but then again if running was your fav thing or you were a pro for it, then yeah it sounds a bit hurtful
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Hoparduc Snowpanther 8 years ago
having big muscles isn't that bad. You should have showed them your power and knocked them out
Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Oh, don't worry! You don't work out hard enough to get muscles like these.
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Z.R Walker 8 years ago
This is like commenting on a man being womanly by cooking for his children.
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Silent Skeleton 8 years ago
yeah... my mom says this on almost a daily basis. And she wonders why I prefer to stay in my room then hang around her.
Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Oh, I know... and it's too bad you just can't get rid of your mustache!
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
I'd say to her, if you ever make a comment like that to my daughter again, in public or private to her, with or without me , I promise, I will sew your nasty mouth shut, with the biggest needle I can find, now apologize, now!!
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
The (ex) boyfriend of a friend to her "When you gain 5 kg/ 11 lbs of weight, I will break up with you." Unfortunately that was not yet the point where she dumped him...
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Silent Skeleton 8 years ago
Can I use that next time someone says something like this to me? that's amazing
Load More Replies... Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Oh, and don’t think I didn’t notice you looking at those desserts.. you, see, I run, so I don’t worry about my depriving myself, moderation is healthy, but you of course , might not understand that concept,,especially where words are concerned!
Kim Lorton 8 years ago
Yes’m Silent skeleton, use it, run with it and stare those women beasts in the eyes and say very calmly don’t think, you’ve escaped my notice.. I’ll be watching you,,and your words!
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Claire Cover 7 years ago
NO. JUST NOO ON SO MANY LEVELS. I CANT BEGIN TO DESCRIBE HOW WRONG THAT IS.
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Kim Lorton 8 years ago
I got a lot of the your face is so beautiful, but you need to lose weight. And I blatantly ignored all their s**t. I got it from all sides. The only problem I had, was that my other three sisters were like sticks as kids and teens, I wasn't. When I was 14, I has a 36 b, and at 18 I was 37 22 38. They were all still sticks. Just starting to get figures that looked girlish. The only reason they thought I was heavy was because of that.. and as I looked at pictures one day, from when we were all younger, I had curves at age 12!! I was just not like the other ones. So, when I did have weight issues, I knew where it came from. My parents even had the why are you eating more talk, and putting on weight? C**p! I was 13!!
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Laurin Shattersmith 8 years ago
Body shaming aside, try it sometime, if you're a decently strong swimmer. One of the swimming challenges I had to do for a badge involved swimming a decent distance in a short time in full clothing, stripping down in the water at the end, and climbing out of the pool in just my swimsuit. The challenge was great and I felt accomplished afterwards.
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
An acquaintance succesfully studied at London Institute for Performing Arts (sponsored by Paul Mc Cartney) with really good dancing skills and got no job at all after, because her body shape was not "petite"/dainty enough. So noone cared about her skills, only of her appearance. :-(
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Justice Richardson 8 years ago
Says a lot about them and their parents. No home training, and if I had to guess, the parents didn't spend time with this child. No morals, no values, no respect. These traits are learned from our parents, at home.
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Jennifer Updyke 8 years ago
I can relate to this. I've never been a skinny minny, even at my fittest. At one point I was running 3-5 miles a few days a week and still struggled to get past 175 lbs and I'm only 5'5
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
"Studying at university, studying at university... you should marry and get children!!" my grandma told 19-year-old-me. I am a big disappointment to her, because I am 39 and still single (AND fat...)
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Leigh Hogan 8 years ago
"Why? You'd rather it be a surprise?" *snicker* Okay, snappy come backs aside, there's nothing more respectable than being capable.
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Manuela Simon 8 years ago
I don´t know how much a size 4 is, but according to google pictures it is a dream body shape! Don´t like your mom!
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Melanie Peapell 8 years ago
@oiselle_sally "Don't worry, you are too ugly to be raped", from a guy friend when a group of us were discussing recent rapes and sexual assaults in our city. #theysaid
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Hans 8 years ago
If find the "family advise" particularly appalling. Failing to teach your children the merits of sports and how to cook healthy, nutritions food, probably even serving them unhealthy food when they were young, but then making comments about the weight is disgusting. Undoubtedly, parents ought to be critical when their children have an unhealthy livestyle. But, as other posters also underlined, being a critical advisor means supporting rather than shaming.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Exactly. How hard can it be to quietly and privately say, "I'm concerned, your weight doesn't seem healthy, how can I help?"
Load More Replies... Sierra Hall 8 years ago
It's horrible to see that the ones that are supposed to be there for support are the ones tearing them down. This won't motivate anyone to become healthier, quite the opposite. It will make them try to lose weight in unhealthy ways. My mother has never called me fat, even when I was. She would wake up every morning and tell me how beautiful I was and to never let anyone make me feel otherwise. If I wanted to lose weight, she said "OK, I'll help you but know that I think you are beautiful the way you are." I believe my mom will be getting a big hug today. I will continue that tradition with my daughter, she's 4. I tell her how beautiful, smart, and kind she is everyday. It's my job as a parent to be the comfort my child needs in a horrible, judgmental world.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
My mom had an untreated mental illness and often said hurtful things, but never once did she body shame me. Passing on body positivity
Load More Replies... Iris Omri-Engler 8 years ago
The most painful for me is to read such kind of statements from the own parents and relatives. There are so many reasons one can have overweight and instead to bully everybody some people should better turn on the brain and give support if they know the person or at least keep silent.
Shana 8 years ago
Been bodyshamed myself a few times. My ex called me fat once... (after we broke up, he started dating a girl that was way bigger than me, that kinda hurt back then but he's a dbag anyway) And one time some guys stopped their car next to me as I was walking down the street, while eating an icecream. Heard the group laughing and 1 said "should you even be eating that, you fatty". Like, how about you mind your own business and lemme me enjoy an icecream on this hot day? Btw, all the females in my family are a bit "bigger", I got the thinnest waist in the family, but can't escape the bigger legs though. We're not really fat though, just chubby I guess? I work out to lose weight, but you can't change your bodyshape so... Atleast my family never made awfull comments like that.
Bag Of Donuts 8 years ago
I'm sorry for that. Stay as you are. By the way: Jesus loves you.
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Teija 8 years ago
Don't parents have any idea how much they hurt their kids by saying stuff like that. Disgusting!
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
People rarely listen to what they say before they say it, or even after.
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Fairsher 8 years ago
Sister and brother in law gave me a card with cash in it to buy clothes. They had cut up men's pants, men's shirts, all large men pictures and taped them in the card. I was 24 and had been about a size 14, 5ft 11 in. I was so hurt but then more angry. The next year they bought me a coat, a mans coat because they said they couldn't find a women's coat in my size. I have had to deal with these people for over 40 years.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Sometimes you just have to surgically cut people from your life, if you can. If you do, calmly tell them why and provide instances
Load More Replies... Mark Smallman 8 years ago
Happens to everyone. At 12 my mate told me I had legs like Mike Tyson and when I was about 16 he used to refer to me as "Jabba" Had the last laugh though (not that I am petty) cause when we got to about 30 it was totally the opposite although I never felt the need to point that out to him.
Agnes Jekyll 8 years ago
I'm really sad that there are 22 pages of this. I imagine the longer this stays up, the more pages there will be.
Brownie emoji 8 years ago
Went to an orthro appointment Woman leads me into the space saying " Ohh your so skinny" look back at mom it waiting room Mom has suprised look on face Next time after I gained weight ( I wasn't healthy and was growing) Woman ( after I'm in the chair): oh, you were so skinny last time.. oh well you still kinda are. As a 14 year old I'm appalled by how this woman thought to comment on my weight. Being 12 and weighing about 75 pounds was gross and now I'm at a healthy 105 pounds. That woman was stupid. ( I'm 14 I can still be a child and call people stupid)
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
You or your mom need to either say something to this woman or speak t her boss. She's saying things like this to other people
Load More Replies... Hans 8 years ago
If find the "family advise" particularly appalling. Failing to teach your children the merits of sports and how to cook healthy, nutritions food, probably even serving them unhealthy food when they were young, but then making comments about the weight is disgusting. Undoubtedly, parents ought to be critical when their children have an unhealthy livestyle. But, as other posters also underlined, being a critical advisor means supporting rather than shaming.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Exactly. How hard can it be to quietly and privately say, "I'm concerned, your weight doesn't seem healthy, how can I help?"
Load More Replies... Sierra Hall 8 years ago
It's horrible to see that the ones that are supposed to be there for support are the ones tearing them down. This won't motivate anyone to become healthier, quite the opposite. It will make them try to lose weight in unhealthy ways. My mother has never called me fat, even when I was. She would wake up every morning and tell me how beautiful I was and to never let anyone make me feel otherwise. If I wanted to lose weight, she said "OK, I'll help you but know that I think you are beautiful the way you are." I believe my mom will be getting a big hug today. I will continue that tradition with my daughter, she's 4. I tell her how beautiful, smart, and kind she is everyday. It's my job as a parent to be the comfort my child needs in a horrible, judgmental world.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
My mom had an untreated mental illness and often said hurtful things, but never once did she body shame me. Passing on body positivity
Load More Replies... Iris Omri-Engler 8 years ago
The most painful for me is to read such kind of statements from the own parents and relatives. There are so many reasons one can have overweight and instead to bully everybody some people should better turn on the brain and give support if they know the person or at least keep silent.
Shana 8 years ago
Been bodyshamed myself a few times. My ex called me fat once... (after we broke up, he started dating a girl that was way bigger than me, that kinda hurt back then but he's a dbag anyway) And one time some guys stopped their car next to me as I was walking down the street, while eating an icecream. Heard the group laughing and 1 said "should you even be eating that, you fatty". Like, how about you mind your own business and lemme me enjoy an icecream on this hot day? Btw, all the females in my family are a bit "bigger", I got the thinnest waist in the family, but can't escape the bigger legs though. We're not really fat though, just chubby I guess? I work out to lose weight, but you can't change your bodyshape so... Atleast my family never made awfull comments like that.
Bag Of Donuts 8 years ago
I'm sorry for that. Stay as you are. By the way: Jesus loves you.
Load More Replies... Teija 8 years ago
Don't parents have any idea how much they hurt their kids by saying stuff like that. Disgusting!
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
People rarely listen to what they say before they say it, or even after.
Load More Replies... Fairsher 8 years ago
Sister and brother in law gave me a card with cash in it to buy clothes. They had cut up men's pants, men's shirts, all large men pictures and taped them in the card. I was 24 and had been about a size 14, 5ft 11 in. I was so hurt but then more angry. The next year they bought me a coat, a mans coat because they said they couldn't find a women's coat in my size. I have had to deal with these people for over 40 years.
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
Sometimes you just have to surgically cut people from your life, if you can. If you do, calmly tell them why and provide instances
Load More Replies... Mark Smallman 8 years ago
Happens to everyone. At 12 my mate told me I had legs like Mike Tyson and when I was about 16 he used to refer to me as "Jabba" Had the last laugh though (not that I am petty) cause when we got to about 30 it was totally the opposite although I never felt the need to point that out to him.
Agnes Jekyll 8 years ago
I'm really sad that there are 22 pages of this. I imagine the longer this stays up, the more pages there will be.
Brownie emoji 8 years ago
Went to an orthro appointment Woman leads me into the space saying " Ohh your so skinny" look back at mom it waiting room Mom has suprised look on face Next time after I gained weight ( I wasn't healthy and was growing) Woman ( after I'm in the chair): oh, you were so skinny last time.. oh well you still kinda are. As a 14 year old I'm appalled by how this woman thought to comment on my weight. Being 12 and weighing about 75 pounds was gross and now I'm at a healthy 105 pounds. That woman was stupid. ( I'm 14 I can still be a child and call people stupid)
Flora Polvado 8 years ago
You or your mom need to either say something to this woman or speak t her boss. She's saying things like this to other people
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