The ‘What I Wanted Vs. What I Got’ Trend Has People Sharing Funny Stories Of Frustration
Expectations are a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it’s fun to imagine all the wonderful scenarios that might play out in real life. On the other hand, if your expectations are a tad on the unrealistic side, they can completely wreck your emotional state when you step down from your daydreams and come face to face with reality.
But what about fairly realistic expectations? Surely, if somebody advertises a product or a service, the customer can expect to get exactly what they pay for… right? Spoiler alert: oh, dear Lord, no! TikTok users have been uploading videos showing the huge differences between what they (un)realistically wanted and what they got. From clothes to dog haircuts and more.
People have been adding TikTok user Keelyknight aka Madeline’s audio (where she’s crying because of the nails she got) to their own videos, and we’ve collected some of the best ones for you to watch, dear Pandas. Have a look, upvote your fave vids, and be sure to let us know which ones were your favorite, why, and if you’ve ever been in a similar situation yourselves.
@kneelyknightThis was the worst experience I’ve ever had. #nails #help #foryou #foryoupage♬ original sound - Madeline
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When it comes to getting something we totally didn’t want, there are two aspects that you have to consider. The actual quality of the service and managing your own expectations so that you don’t end up being constantly disappointed.
The first aspect is fairly straightforward, even though it might not be easy to get around. If the product or service you’ve received doesn’t meet your standards of quality or what’s been advertised, then you’ve got to ask for a refund. Complain! Often and loudly.
Oh no... it will look better once you bush it out but that ombré is atrocious
Obviously, try to be as diplomatic as you can with your complaints—you’re dealing with other human beings after all. And it’s not always the person who’s registering your complaint who was responsible for what you got. So try not to make their life hell and they’ll be more likely to help you out.
If a company has a genuine customer-first policy in play, they’ll take serious complaints, well, seriously. They’ll hear you out, offer you support, follow up on your complaint, and do whatever they can to make up for their mistake. But we all know that far from every company is willing to be so friendly and instead has a “profit comes first, collateral damage is all right” kind of mentality.
That happened to my Westie once and I have never seen a more upset pooch. Bless him we couldn't help laughing and he sulked for a weeks
A few times when my dog had gone too long without a grooming they have to shave him. It looks horrible and he doesn’t look like my baby but it does always grow back. He actually looks like Mandy Patinkin.
I had my Golden shaved because the poor thing did not lose hair and was miserable, went to pick him up and they had left the hair on the tail. Nope, try again LOL
Load More Replies...As a dog groomer, this dog was most likely matted and the groomer had no choice but to shave it down. They should have set the customer's expectations straight from the start though.
Yes. This has happened to my dog especially during lock down when he went 4 months without a grooming. It’s upsetting but I was prepared. Luckily he’s a floof again and is back to getting groomed once every 6 weeks.
Load More Replies...Again, how matted was this dog beforehand? But please blame the groomer for not performing miracles, or subjecting the dog to cruel treatment.
Unless the groomer cut his tail off, no, it's not the same dog.
Load More Replies...One would say that it is not possible to make such beautiful doggie ugly, and yet here we are ....I would want my money back.
Poor thing looks humiliated! He's probably asked "Mommy, what did I do wrong?"
It could be the groomers fault, but it could also be the owners fault. If dogs like that don't get brushed every week or have gone without an appointment for too long there will be knots at the start of their fur. You have to shave it otherwise you'll be torturing that dog by brushing.
From looking like a soft, snuggle-y teddy bear to what the actual f**k did you do to me.
Poor baby. He looks ashamed and he did nothing wrong. Picking up on owners vibes I guess.
This just happened to my dear poodle who has completely lost his self-esteem and refuses to come out from under the sofa😞 I've never seen him so defeated. He really knows when he's not his best!
Aww...poor pupper. They do say there's only 1 week between a bad haircut and a good haircut but there are limits
It'll grow back. Just keep telling the dog how pretty they are - they'll believe you.
Whatever, that after pic looks awesome, with the mohawk and all!
Most important: act like everything’s okay, otherwise your dog would feel guilty because they think it’s their fault. "Oh, cuuuuutie! You’re SO beautiful! This accentuates your funny side!" Than hit the groomer behind closed doors.
The facts are the 'before' photo is just that; a photo. We don't know what state the owner's dog was in before taken to the groomer - who may have had little choice but to shave it down. Doesn't explain the top of the head but...
Well, the hair will grow and probably look just like the pic in about a month.
That pupper was really cute before. Unless necessary to give it a haircut don't mess with cute.
Poor little dog! He looks so sad! I hope you told him it would soon grow out!
it doesn't look like the same dog. It was cute before the haircut.
Poor little darling doesn't want to be seen out. Get him a nice non embarrassing coat to wear and wait for the hair to grow back.
That's actually a well executed haircut. Those aren't even the same dog. One has a tail, the other does not. One appears to be a toy poodle, the other is some kind of Maltipoo.
Consider seeking legal aid if the product was especially expensive or if you, your loved ones, or your pets suffered because of what happened. If somebody’s blatantly advertising something that’s clearly false as a way to make a quick buck, then you’ve got to do your part in putting an end to it.
However, there’s that pesky second aspect when it comes to not getting what we wanted. And that all comes down to our expectations. Sometimes, what we want is so perfect, requires so much skill and craftsmanship, that not everyone can fulfill our orders. In those cases, what we envision and what the local craftspeople can provide simply don’t sync up. Or, to put it more bluntly, you get what you pay for.
I can’t even fathom the thought process in thinking these were remotely similar. How to people get away with this?
Don’t expect your nails to look like a model’s when you’re getting them done at a discount store at your local mall. Similarly, you can’t expect a newbie dog groomer to get the same results as a grandmaster with decades of experience: they’ll do their best but you simply can’t expect them to perform according to your imaginary expectations.
In life, it’s best to do your very best to get the result that you want and then relinquish any and all expectations. You did your best. Well done! Now sit back and don’t fret, find something else to do. If you get what you want, fantastic. If not, no big deal—you’ll try again later. Maybe with a different tactic in mind.
Having low expectations is a healthy mindset, similar to the one where you’re encouraged to do good things for people without expecting anything in return. Life has a pleasant way of surprising us when we’re not desperate, needy, and whiny.
PsychCentral explains that the first step in relinquishing unrealistic expectations is being able to spot them. Of course, that’s easier said than done because we may have had certain expectations for years and years. And a lot of it’s connected to our desire to maintain control over everything.
Some examples of completely unrealistic expectations include the beliefs that everyone should like you and that the world should be fair. We simply can’t have that kind of control over the world (well, unless we’re a superhero, the Emperor of the Universe, or a member of the Greek Pantheon).
All you would have to do to get that sort of hair is go to sleep and wake up
Similarly, if we’re constantly disappointed by results and not having our expectations met every step of the way, well, maybe it’s time to analyze them in detail. Spend the weekend looking at your belief structures.
Give yourself permission to not have everything go perfectly. Embrace flexibility. That doesn’t mean giving up your high standards (quality is good stuff, people), but you have to be relatively down to earth. Otherwise, you’ll spend the rest of your life making wanted vs. got TikTok videos.
Let this be a testament to all: You get what you pay for. I'm a cheap-ass on most things but I work in a design-centric industry... If you want wedding invites, cake, beauty services, business cards, flowers, costuming, basically ANYTHING that is arts-adjacent, SPEND THE MONEY if you have high standards, people. Support the folks who have spent their money and energy to perfect their craft. If ya can't afford a pro cake, a messed up monster cake is adorable and very much expresses your love without the price tag.
THIS. You can't buy a $30 cake and expect it to look like the $200 designer cake you saw on instagram. You can't pay your hairdresser $50 and expect the $200 celebrity colour job.
Load More Replies...That is why there is the saying “You get what you pay for”. If you want it cheap, it’s going to look cheap. Why do people keep ordering clothes from Wish? 😂
Why did they eve'the bother trying? Most of it was to be expected... especially the face masks.
I never cease to be amazed by how people are surprised about shitty results when they find the cheapest dodgiest way of doing things hahaha
I always pay attention to the person I'm speaking to with any requests to see if they look like they understand or if they're looking mildly panicked. It's important to understand the limitations your stylist/baker/nail technician etc has, especially when it's involving crafts that rely on skill. Not everyone is an expert on every possible option within their trade (although it would help if people admitted that to their clients before they commit some of these atrocities)
The masks are just fools being separated from their money. If you don’t have the underlying structure, a flat mask is not going to look like a CARTOON character’s face when you drape it on your face!
This happens (at least the tattoo, piercing, hair and nail stuff) if every Tom, D**k and Harry can just go and open a shop. If people would get proper education and training in their crafts, this would not happen.
But if you visit someone with proper education and training you must pay 3 times what Thomas, Richard and Harry charge.
Load More Replies...A lot of companies - especially oversees companies that make it hard to get a refund - will use a beautiful photo of a professionally made dress then send what's essentially a sack. Fast fashion is a ripoff in so many ways.
If someone shows you a picture of the hair style you want or the nails or cake, etc, and you don't think you are capable of delivering that, then speak up. It's a waste of time and money.
I don't get this nail fails. Like after 1 nail it is visible what the quality is. Stop doing the other 9 nails and get the hell out of there
Why do people let things continue being done when u see they're making a mess, hair, nails?
I'm going to complain for a moment here. Under the one about the bad spray tan, I said "It looks like they made her up in blackface. She should sue." I keep getting downvoted for it either by ignorant people who don't know what blackface is, or by white supremacists who object to me condemning blackface. It's pissing me off, fellow Pandas. Thank you. I'm still furious, but at least I can vent.
You are looking for a fight with those woke comments, BP isn't the place for that. Stop bringing in racism in a discussion that doesn't call for it and you don't get down voted so much
Load More Replies..."if you think hiring a professional is expensive, try hiring an amateur and see what happens". Also, people who buy clothes on Aliexpress, Wish, Shein and similar should know by now the stuff is NEVER like what you see in the pictures.
My mom has cute leggings from Aliexpress sale. I also saw many people get beautiful clothes for their children from there. It's not 100% bad, sometimes people want to take the risk.
Load More Replies...Hey, if you need something to buy online you should go to the main product website. For example you need a cup Yeti and you found a cheap one on Amazon just go to Yeti.com so you can have the real product and the warranty. It is win win. Anyway, that is how it works for me. I hate this overpriced sites like Amazon or Ebay. Good luck!
Yeah it doesn’t seem like any of these things were ordered from the original designer. Something doesn’t sit right about that with me, as an artist.
Load More Replies...About the shaved dogs, coming from a dog groomer: There's a lot of issues with the "wanted" photos of the dogs. There was one where the wanted picture was of a puppy with a puppy coat, while the dog was an adult. The groomer should have discussed this with the client and tried for more reasonable expectations. Also, it looks like they were all shaved down. This is most likely due to MATTING. You don't see any of the before pictures, and if your dog is matted IT WILL BE SHAVED DOWN, no matter what. Take care of your dog's coats, and you should be able to have a better groom.
I see a lot of hair saloon disasters. It won't be easy to get exactly the style you've seen on the picture. You won't have the same hair type and the hair dresser. Consult with your stylist and choose what will look good. Don't just follow the trend. Also, don't be stingy and research before you go to a saloon.
People still think they are going to get something awesome by buying cheap, knockoff crap from China... when 99 percent of the time, that simply isn't going to happen.
My whole renovation could be on here. Only the guy who painted our walls delivered what was expected
Oh, I am sorry that happened to you. That's worse than most things here. Hope you didn't have to pay for work that was sub-standard. That can be worth going to court over as it is usually much larger sums of money.
Load More Replies...Y'all just pay for a pro, what do you expect, stop bashing the hairdresser/ cake maker/nail artists if they aren't trained to do it how the f you expect them to manage those XD
It's what happens when you try to copy others instead of doing something original.
I wanted to see how many times the word sue came up. I was pleasantly surprised that I only saw it once.
Some people get clothes that are way to small for them then complain? It's not the stores fault it's theirs. And about the others, you get what you pay for. Most of these cost like 10$ when the pictures they wanted cost about 100$.
Why is "I ordered the same size as the model " supposed to fit when they aren't even close to the size of the model?
I don't understand how your nails can turn out so bad. You sit right there. The nails are right in front of your eyes... If you don't speak up when the nail lady does the first nail too short, you can't be surprised about the result...
The pic of the nails at the top isn’t even that bad! It’s the same thing they asked for. Maybe a shade darker, but pretty much the same.
I don't understand how you let someone continue a bad job on your finger nails. You are right there, you can see the colors, the length of the nails etc. Tell them to stop. The other problems may just be that the people are asking for things, say the cakes or the hair styles, that the designers have never done or can't do. Unless they are advertising it as something they do.... Of course they should say, I'm sorry I can't make this cake. Or I'm sorry your hair isn't going to take the dye like this etc. The idea that "you get what you pay for" isn't the issue here. We don't know what people were doing other than asking to have something done that looked like what was in a picture.
A lot of people seemed to just be ordering the wrong size. Makes me think maybe they ordered the wrong size so they could get attention for expectation vs. reality...
Let this be a testament to all: You get what you pay for. I'm a cheap-ass on most things but I work in a design-centric industry... If you want wedding invites, cake, beauty services, business cards, flowers, costuming, basically ANYTHING that is arts-adjacent, SPEND THE MONEY if you have high standards, people. Support the folks who have spent their money and energy to perfect their craft. If ya can't afford a pro cake, a messed up monster cake is adorable and very much expresses your love without the price tag.
THIS. You can't buy a $30 cake and expect it to look like the $200 designer cake you saw on instagram. You can't pay your hairdresser $50 and expect the $200 celebrity colour job.
Load More Replies...That is why there is the saying “You get what you pay for”. If you want it cheap, it’s going to look cheap. Why do people keep ordering clothes from Wish? 😂
Why did they eve'the bother trying? Most of it was to be expected... especially the face masks.
I never cease to be amazed by how people are surprised about shitty results when they find the cheapest dodgiest way of doing things hahaha
I always pay attention to the person I'm speaking to with any requests to see if they look like they understand or if they're looking mildly panicked. It's important to understand the limitations your stylist/baker/nail technician etc has, especially when it's involving crafts that rely on skill. Not everyone is an expert on every possible option within their trade (although it would help if people admitted that to their clients before they commit some of these atrocities)
The masks are just fools being separated from their money. If you don’t have the underlying structure, a flat mask is not going to look like a CARTOON character’s face when you drape it on your face!
This happens (at least the tattoo, piercing, hair and nail stuff) if every Tom, D**k and Harry can just go and open a shop. If people would get proper education and training in their crafts, this would not happen.
But if you visit someone with proper education and training you must pay 3 times what Thomas, Richard and Harry charge.
Load More Replies...A lot of companies - especially oversees companies that make it hard to get a refund - will use a beautiful photo of a professionally made dress then send what's essentially a sack. Fast fashion is a ripoff in so many ways.
If someone shows you a picture of the hair style you want or the nails or cake, etc, and you don't think you are capable of delivering that, then speak up. It's a waste of time and money.
I don't get this nail fails. Like after 1 nail it is visible what the quality is. Stop doing the other 9 nails and get the hell out of there
Why do people let things continue being done when u see they're making a mess, hair, nails?
I'm going to complain for a moment here. Under the one about the bad spray tan, I said "It looks like they made her up in blackface. She should sue." I keep getting downvoted for it either by ignorant people who don't know what blackface is, or by white supremacists who object to me condemning blackface. It's pissing me off, fellow Pandas. Thank you. I'm still furious, but at least I can vent.
You are looking for a fight with those woke comments, BP isn't the place for that. Stop bringing in racism in a discussion that doesn't call for it and you don't get down voted so much
Load More Replies..."if you think hiring a professional is expensive, try hiring an amateur and see what happens". Also, people who buy clothes on Aliexpress, Wish, Shein and similar should know by now the stuff is NEVER like what you see in the pictures.
My mom has cute leggings from Aliexpress sale. I also saw many people get beautiful clothes for their children from there. It's not 100% bad, sometimes people want to take the risk.
Load More Replies...Hey, if you need something to buy online you should go to the main product website. For example you need a cup Yeti and you found a cheap one on Amazon just go to Yeti.com so you can have the real product and the warranty. It is win win. Anyway, that is how it works for me. I hate this overpriced sites like Amazon or Ebay. Good luck!
Yeah it doesn’t seem like any of these things were ordered from the original designer. Something doesn’t sit right about that with me, as an artist.
Load More Replies...About the shaved dogs, coming from a dog groomer: There's a lot of issues with the "wanted" photos of the dogs. There was one where the wanted picture was of a puppy with a puppy coat, while the dog was an adult. The groomer should have discussed this with the client and tried for more reasonable expectations. Also, it looks like they were all shaved down. This is most likely due to MATTING. You don't see any of the before pictures, and if your dog is matted IT WILL BE SHAVED DOWN, no matter what. Take care of your dog's coats, and you should be able to have a better groom.
I see a lot of hair saloon disasters. It won't be easy to get exactly the style you've seen on the picture. You won't have the same hair type and the hair dresser. Consult with your stylist and choose what will look good. Don't just follow the trend. Also, don't be stingy and research before you go to a saloon.
People still think they are going to get something awesome by buying cheap, knockoff crap from China... when 99 percent of the time, that simply isn't going to happen.
My whole renovation could be on here. Only the guy who painted our walls delivered what was expected
Oh, I am sorry that happened to you. That's worse than most things here. Hope you didn't have to pay for work that was sub-standard. That can be worth going to court over as it is usually much larger sums of money.
Load More Replies...Y'all just pay for a pro, what do you expect, stop bashing the hairdresser/ cake maker/nail artists if they aren't trained to do it how the f you expect them to manage those XD
It's what happens when you try to copy others instead of doing something original.
I wanted to see how many times the word sue came up. I was pleasantly surprised that I only saw it once.
Some people get clothes that are way to small for them then complain? It's not the stores fault it's theirs. And about the others, you get what you pay for. Most of these cost like 10$ when the pictures they wanted cost about 100$.
Why is "I ordered the same size as the model " supposed to fit when they aren't even close to the size of the model?
I don't understand how your nails can turn out so bad. You sit right there. The nails are right in front of your eyes... If you don't speak up when the nail lady does the first nail too short, you can't be surprised about the result...
The pic of the nails at the top isn’t even that bad! It’s the same thing they asked for. Maybe a shade darker, but pretty much the same.
I don't understand how you let someone continue a bad job on your finger nails. You are right there, you can see the colors, the length of the nails etc. Tell them to stop. The other problems may just be that the people are asking for things, say the cakes or the hair styles, that the designers have never done or can't do. Unless they are advertising it as something they do.... Of course they should say, I'm sorry I can't make this cake. Or I'm sorry your hair isn't going to take the dye like this etc. The idea that "you get what you pay for" isn't the issue here. We don't know what people were doing other than asking to have something done that looked like what was in a picture.
A lot of people seemed to just be ordering the wrong size. Makes me think maybe they ordered the wrong size so they could get attention for expectation vs. reality...