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Someone Asks Moms “What Do You Actually Want For Mother’s Day” And 30 Deliver Honest Responses
Mother’s Day is right around the corner—and that’s true no matter what corner of the world you live in. It’s one of the quirks of humankind that different countries mark the celebration on different dates. However, that only highlights the importance of treating our moms with love, care, and respect throughout the year, not just once a year.
Redditor u/zxkool started a viral discussion on r/AskReddit after asking the moms who use the platform about what they actually want for Mother’s Day. Their answers were extremely enlightening, and we’ve collected the most insightful ones to share with you. Scroll down for their open and honest posts.
Parenting blogger Samantha Scroggin, who runs the wonderfully witty Walking Outside in Slippers page, was kind enough to share her thoughts with Bored Panda on what moms would appreciate the most on Mother's Day. Check out Samantha's awesome insights below!
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#1
I had a miscarriage because my medical care providers refused to listen to me. My uterus pressed on the lines to my bladder and gave me an infection (really simple and common thing to happen durring pregnancy its completely treatable and should never be more than a mild inconvenience) I went septic and we almost died together. What I want for mother's day is for women and especially women of color to stop receiving medical care worse than that of a third world country. If I get a second request it would be universal healthcare. I'm over 16000 in debt for someone who attempted to kill me and my child. This is insane and I have no way of paying it. Even if I did why would I want to? Everytime I receive a bill it makes me break down in tears in a combination of "I lost my baby" and "I can't afford this"
Jorie 2 years ago
Two years ago I awoke with pain in my abdomen at 3:00 AM like I had never experienced before. The 911 operator and the EMS station I talked to both said something like "you have a tummy ache" in a total condescending manner. In any event, they took me to the hospital. I wound up in emergency surgery with an appendix that broke in half in my abdomen and spent eight days in the hospital. Yeah, it was just a tummy ache. I could have died.
tuzdayschild 2 years ago
If your doctor is not listening to you, get a new doctor. Don't feel bad or guilty or anything. Your health is light years more important than your doctor's feelings.
Brocken Blue 2 years ago
“Get a new doctor” isn’t always an option, especially when you have a restrictive insurance or live in an underserved area. I mean, I agree with you 100% It’s just not always a possibility
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Junebugjump! 2 years ago
No civilized country would do this to a woman, much less one who lost her fetus. American is exceptional at many things. Racism, misogyny, crippling debt based on for profit medicine and insurance... To start with. But hey, more guns and military spending!
Mike_The_Nike 2 years ago
b***h doctors shouldn’t get paid. Also, doctors should have a body cam when they’re working to ensure the best treatment.
Bored Panda was interested to find out what any mom's family members can do to make Mother's Day extra special. Blogger Samantha told us what moms appreciate the most on this day. (We hope you're all taking notes!)
"Speaking for myself at least and hearing from other moms I've talked to on the topic of Mother's Day, we really just want to be shown appreciation for all we do and are," she opened up to us.
"Hand-made cards from my kids and coupons to help me with chores are at least as welcome as store-bought gifts," Samantha said.
"My husband has helped the kids make me breakfast in bed, and that was thoughtful and adorable. Bonus points if Mom doesn't have to clean up her own breakfast in bed!"
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#2
A clean house, a long nap, and to not have to see my mother-in-law this year. It always turns into her day but hi, I'm a mom too.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
Not sure why the husband can't go out to take mother-in-law out for brunch or something and let OP stay home and enjoy a nap.
Glen Ellyn 2 years ago
When my children were quite young, all I wanted was a day to do whatever I felt like doing and not have to worry about children, husband, the household, or what to have for meals. One year, I got my wish and took myself to a major league baseball game. By myself. I hadn't been to a game since I was a kid, and I loved it and really enjoyed myself. Some people thought I was weird for going on my own, but it was great - for a few hours I wasn't someone's mom or wife.
Apathetic Bovine 2 years ago
Yup. My first mother's day as a mom, I was completely forgotten. But we had to spend it with the MIL. Awesome, so awesome.
Beatrice Fairchild 2 years ago
I can feel you there, except it's every Mother's Day for me.
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Rahul Pawa 2 years ago
You're a mom, so now she gets grandparent's day and she should leave mother's day to her daughters(-in-law).
M Bow 2 years ago
Both are mothers and both should be able to celebrate in ways that they can agree on. Her son can celebrate both women without either having to miss out on a special day
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I don't celebrate mother's day anymore. It was ALWAYS about my mom. God rest her soul. But after I became a mom it was always and forever about her. It ruined it for me that I just spend it as another Sunday. My husband and daughter respect my wishes to do so. I celebrate my daughter instead.
Kelsie Marx 2 years ago
I completely understand. Luckily, my mean sister-in-law b***h slapped me a month ago (for no particular reason), so, we are not doing Mother’s Day with his side of the family.HOORAY 👍😃👍!!
#3
I want to spend the whole day with my 2 year old somewhere fun for two year olds.
I’ve been so poor for so long that my one mom wish is having the $20 or whatever and an Uber to take him to one of those awesome toddler playgrounds.
I know it’s dumb, but seeing his face every time he gets to have a new awesome experience (like swimming, or the egg hunt I did for him last week) he gets this expression, like the sun just came up for the first time.
I’d go pluck the moon for him to play with if I could.
But hey, I just started a job and I might get paid just in time for Mother’s Day.
My mom is dead, but what I wish I did with her is take her for new experiences. I used to do the “buy mom a maid service” thing, or buy mom flowers, but I wish I had taken her for flying lessons or cooking classes or some memory like that.
Call your moms, people. Go do things with them. I didn’t think I’d lose mine by 25, and it happened so fast.
Edit: I think Reddit might have done it again! If it all works out I’m going to take us to the toddler playground AND the aquarium. His little mind’s going to be blown; I’m so happy :)
Cooter McCoughlin 2 years ago
How do I find this mom to send her money so she can do this once a month?
bruce wayne's girlfriend 2 years ago
Hey again, Cooter McCoughlin, her reddit account is UnfairCanary as mentioned in small font beneath this post, and there is also a link to the original thread in the first paragraph of this bp article. This is the link if you need it; https://www.reddit.com/user/UnfairCanary/
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Erica Knapp 2 years ago
My mom passed 3 days after mother's day 8 years ago. I'd give anything just to see her again. Mother's Day hasn't been the same since even though I'm treated well by my kids.
NaMiMoore 2 years ago
I'm 26 and moms birthday is the 17th of May, super close to mothers day so we normally celebrate both in between. I'm making her a better than sex cake and babysitting my nephew all day so she can play her piano or lay in bed and play on her phone. I don't know. I love her to death tho.
We all know that we should show our moms how much we appreciate and care about them throughout the year, not just on a single day once a year. However, we all sometimes need gentle reminders... as well as creative ideas on how to show our love. Samantha shared a few spot-on thoughts on how everyone can do this.
"Words and hugs go a long way for me towards showing appreciation," the founder of the Walking Outside in Slippers blog told Bored Panda.
"Hearing 'I love you' from my kids never loses its luster. That said, I always welcome kids doing their chores without whining and complaining," she said.
"And spouses or partners showing gratitude and appreciation is so important as well."
#4
Debbie Downer here, but as a mom to a recently stillborn son all I want is to be acknowledged as a real mother.
Edit: oh wow, thank you all so so much... feeling like a mom after loss is something I struggle with a lot and I know I’m not going to be the only mom without a baby in her arms this Mother’s Day. If there’s anyone in your life in my shoes I encourage you to reach out with the same love and support you’ve shown me as this may be a very tough time of year for them.
Junebugjump! 2 years ago
All the hugs and love in the universe for you. I’m so sorry for this precious loss.
The Short Lady 2 years ago
Doing mother's day for your own mother or your mother-in-law is like being jabbed with needles after a still birth. I wish people had been able to leave me alone.
Nicole Johnson 2 years ago
I'm so sorry for your loss. My doctor told me to celebrate mother's day when my son was inside of me because being pregnant makes you a mom. I can't imagine what you've been thru but you should be celebrated as a mother! Your spouse/boyfriend/friends should acknowledge mother's day for you! Happy Mother's Day!
Smruti Rekha 2 years ago
of course you are a real mother!! you had a foetus in your uterus, didn't you?
#5
I actually want my husband's cancer to vanish so we can continue enjoying our family and each other. I'm so scared of losing him.
That One Weird Bi 2 years ago
I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Stay strong and good luck <3
EmilyRose 2 years ago
I know how you feel I'm in the same spot myself it's soul crushing....there would be no greater gift! I truly hope you're husband is someday cured❤️
Nonesuch 2 years ago
God bless you and your husband on this difficult course of life. I trust you will experience a surprising amount of strength as God undergrads you
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A large spliff. An afternoon alone with the dog on a forest trail. A steak dinner and a bath with a movie in a clean house.
I’m a simple woman LOL.
bettina Falconer 2 years ago
Sounds unbelievable mine was exactly the same but on a balcony somewhere warm , bottle of wine , book , my newspapers good times in the background and no one about but me
The fact remains that moms and working women still aren’t as respected as they should be. Unfortunately, there is an unwritten expectation, even in the West, that women will tackle the majority of the housework and even the chores in the office. CNN recently reported on how wives who earn as much as their husbands or more still end up spending far more time on housework and childcare.
“Even as financial contributions have become more equal in marriages, the way couples divide their time between paid work and home life remains unbalanced,” the Pew Research Center, which conducted the study, pointed out. Researchers found that in 29% of heterosexual marriages, women and men earn around the same amount of money, roughly $60,000 per year.
“Husbands in egalitarian marriages spend about 3.5 hours more per week on leisure activities than wives do. Wives in these marriages spend roughly 2 hours more per week on caregiving than husbands do and about 2.5 hours more on housework.”
According to the researchers, the only marriages where the husbands spend as much time on housework as their wives is when the latter are the sole breadwinners in the family. Of course, women are earning more than half a century ago when the husbands were the primary breadwinners in 86% of marriages. However, there’s still a long way to go until there’s equity not just in terms of wages, but also in unpaid housework.
#7
Brand new mom (7 weeks) and I would love a big dinner and dessert because I’ve been eating like c**p and haven’t been able to really cook while caring for the baby. I’d also like to take a long bath and maybe get a pedicure.
Phil Green 2 years ago
Does not your partner cook? Are they incapable? You deserve everything you ask for!
Lia is a platypus 2 years ago
I really want to go over to get house and make her the dinner and dessert. I'm also a Red Cross trained babysitter, so she would have the time for a bath and a pedi. :(
Caitlin Sullivan 2 years ago
Just here to affirm those who are parents but not partners that you *are* valid even though society at large expects you to have both and ignores your wholeness. It may surprise all y’all to know that being a parent doesn’t require you to be in a relationship.
#8
Just a day where I get home from work, they've done their chores and they aren't bickering over nothing.
It's not a lot, really...
Junebugjump! 2 years ago
It isn’t. It’s terrible to always have to go to DEFCON 1 or be the enforcer. I hope they also do NOT ask why you always yell. This made me insane.
Jp@nda 2 years ago
Why do I always yell? Why can you never just do what needs to be done without a) having to be asked b) having to be asked ten times
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#9
An hour or two of total and complete silence.
Perfumista Perfumista 2 years ago
If you are a mom and there is complete silence, something is very wrong.
We can get so used to our local celebrations that we can completely forget that the rest of the world might do things differently. Some countries like Hungary, Lithuania, Romania, Portugal, and Spain celebrate Mother’s Day on the first Sunday of May. (That falls on May 7 in 2023, so you’d better be getting ready!)
However, the vast majority of the world marks the celebration on the second Sunday of May (i.e. May 14 this year and May 12 in 2024), from Australia, Belgium, and Brazil to Canada, Peru, and the United States.
#10
Gift voucher for a massage, a clean house and the lawns mowed. And a charcuterie board and a bottle of paired white wine all to myself.
#11
I never knew children and SOs were the main reason for mother's stress. Will try to do better for my mom starting with the dishes.
Junebugjump! 2 years ago
Bless you. Being a working mom is particularly hard. Read Fray’s book “This is how your marriage fails,” if you want to really understand why being a wife and mom is so rough.
#12
One night in a hotel to sleep....and to come home to a clean house that wasn’t cleaned by me.
EDIT: k WOW, this really blew up. A silver and GOLD?!😭
To those saying something about my relationship and me doing all the work. My husband cleans (and cooks and does laundry) lol but moms everywhere know it’s not the same as when we clean. When my babies wake up in the middle of the night they’re not looking for daddy, they want mommy. That is all.💗
Some nations like the United Kingdom and Nigeria, however, celebrate Mother’s Day a bit earlier, on the fourth Sunday in Lent, known as Mothering Sunday (which fell on March 19 this year).
Other outliers include Norway which celebrates moms and motherhood on the second Sunday of February (which fell on the 12th in 2023). Countries like Albania, Armenia, and Bulgaria combine Mother’s Day with International Women’s Day, March 8. Meanwhile, Poland celebrates Mother’s Day on May 26, Thailand does it on August 12, and Indonesia does so late in the year, on December 22.
#13
A day alone. A whole day. To sleep in. To shower as long as I want. To nap. To drink my tea and coffee HOT. To go to the bathroom uninterrupted. To nap again. To peruse through the shopping centre at my own leisure. To not be bombarded with a million questions (majority of which are "Why?").
*I love my kids. But f**k I would love just one day off.*
Rachel Mion 2 years ago
This is what I used to get for Mother's Day when the kids were at home. Priceless.
Michelle H 2 years ago
Imagine doing all this, but not being able to turn off "mom mode" You're out enjoying all the 'alone' time without realizing you've rushed right through everything (like a mom does on occasion) thinking you've taken all the time in the world and it's only noon :) Also, every time you hear the word mom in public you look to see if it's your kid. My children are grown 16-26, and I still find myself completing things to quickly and turning to see who called mom. Happy Mother's day to all the mom's and mom 2.0 who are like a mom
#14
For my husband to go down on me again at least once.
David Hale 2 years ago
What kind of man would not do that? It's one of my favorite things to do.
#15
To not have to hide in the bathroom to eat ice cream or sweets by myself. My 3 year old can hear the wrapper on a Klondike bar from a mile away.
littlerabbit 2 years ago (edited)
They act like they're deaf and don't hear what you ask them to do until they hear a chocolate bar or sweet wrapper, then they appear out of nowhere!
Ken Beattie 2 years ago
Need to start eating something in a similar sounding wrapper that the kid would hate. Pavlov's dog them into hearing that noise and thinking "Yuck!" Once they're trained go back to eating klondike bars in peace.
Rachel Reynolds 2 years ago
What would you do for a Klondike bar? I know my kid would shank a man.
#16
I want a picture of my son and I. I’m a single mom, so all of our pictures are selfies. I would love for someone to offer to take our picture.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
I think if you were to ask, this could be achieved. People may not offer for fear of looking like a weirdo.
Ariadne Toms 2 years ago
I hear you. I'm a single Mum too and selfies aren't as good and asking a stranger means you get whatever picture they take
#17
Not a Mom, but check this out:
You pay a maid to clean your house. While she's cleaning, you go to the spa for a scrub and massage. While you're getting scrubbed, you get your car washed and detailed.
Just imagine that drive home.
Ken Schroeder 2 years ago
Dear heart, double down and get a taxi/Uber/ride so you don't have to kill those vibes driving.
Sue User 2 years ago
I was looking into vacations but airfare and hotel was too expensive. So I realised I didnt really want to see sonething new, just be pampered ( after years of kids, husbands, taking care of mom). So I have hired a maid, a lawn care service and am subscribing to a meal service that is premade. I am so excited for next week.
#18
I have a 17 year-old daughter, and I’m a single mom. I’d like to be able to sleep late (she could feed the dog & put him outside, and make her own breakfast). Then I’d like a letter from her saying she loves me, and remembering some of the times we’ve enjoyed or that I helped her I became a single mom by adopting my daughter when she was 2. I remember how hurt I used to feel on Mother’s Day back when I was discouraged that I might not ever have a child. And honestly, I think of my child’s birth mom, too, on Mother’s Day (she is deceased), and I know it’s a bittersweet, mixed-up feelings kind of day for all adoptees, birth mothers, and adoptive mothers.
Salty Sasquatch 2 years ago
Shouldn't a 17 year old be capable of making herself breakfast, at the very least??
Lord Mysticlaw 2 years ago
I was about to say, my kid is 15 and I sleep as late as I want. I have a rule that I cook for the family once a day, at dinner. The rest of the day you feed yourself. I make sure there's plenty of food in the house, the rest you can manage on your own. And the dog loves sleeping late with me 🤣
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#19
A nice card with a heartfelt message in it, hopefully giving me a clue that my kids have noticed I'm a person and not a kitchen appliance.
Dawn Marie 2 years ago
I'm an empty nester to a 24 year old son and a 29 year old daughter. I would love a phone call on Mother's Day. I usually get a simple text with the 3 words. They live over 1500 miles away and I should feel lucky, but I would still like to hear their voices. I do talk to my daughter often, and my son about once a month. Am I being the AH?
Forty Seven Pandas 2 years ago
Thank you for sharing this. My mom lives in a different country. We mostly text, so I didn't realise how much a call means. I guess I felt like we are always in touch anyway. I'm going to make more of an effort.
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Junebugjump! 2 years ago
You’re not. It's really hard when you feel unloved. It’s really the Mother-wound. We all have some version of it.
Lia is a platypus 2 years ago
I do that every year for my mom, but one time, my dad ruined it. I had planned out the day so carefully (breakfast, lunch and dinner + plenty of time to sleep in, clean house, etc...). He just HAD to go give her a STOREBOUGHT joke card that he wrote his name inside that said something sexist about mothers day being the only time she would get a break, or something. She was so sad for the whole day, even though I did the rest of my plan, and honestly I hated him for that. I was nine years old and he ruined something I had worked on for a few weeks.
#20
I wanna go to Target alone and get Starbucks and live my best basic b***h life for two hours.
Also, I wanna bang my hot husband. He's the reason I'm a mama.
Barbara Skolly 2 years ago
I'm Canadian.... going to Winners is my getaway. If there is a Winners and Homesense combo... heaven
Kelsie Marx 2 years ago
Going to Target doesn’t sound like a fun place to go to get away. You still have screaming kids running all over the store😵💫
#21
For you to get off Reddit and. clean. your. room.
Jack 2 years ago
Best place for her to post to reach her intended audience! 🤣
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Megan Cheeky Chook 2 years ago
I had no idea kids were still on Reddit. I want my husband to get.off Reddit and clean his room (all of the rooms)
#22
A professional housecleaning service to come and clean my house. I honestly think most moms would love this.
Doyle Alan 2 years ago
I think most any one would love this. I know I would and I'm not a mom.
MrsFettesVette 2 years ago
Same, we are thinking of hiring a cleaning lady but we want to get our house in order first.
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I want to go to the park with my husband and son. Maybe go out for lunch somewhere together. And I don't want to be the one to have to initiate things we do together as a family.
I'm editing to add this because I have gotten comments that make a good point: It's a good idea to be appreciative of any attempts by your partner when s/he makes an attempt to plan things. The best way to encourage this behavior to reward any little attempt they make rather than complain when they do try.
#24
I’d really just be excited to get uninterrupted sleep for a night.
Anna Drever 2 years ago
I’m grandma age now but I remember that time in my life and how exhausted you get from broken sleep. I told my doctor I couldn’t sleep the night through and he offered me sleeping pills. It wasn’t ME that needed the sleeping pills. 😭 (Just in case anyone misunderstands I would never have drugged my children)
#25
A clean house, solid uninterrupted d**k down from my husband and dinner I dont have to cook or clean up. Not in any particular order.
#26
I want a house that stays clean for more than an hour, a meal I didn't make that I dont have to clean after, and a lovely day with my children and husband without having to worry about spending money. And chocolate, and a nap I don't have to set an alarm for.
#27
A day off. But a proper day off, where they actually take care of everything I do, so it's not just do nothing on mothers day do twice as much to catch up the day after
eta: my husband does his share as a father, but I'm a stay at home mom, so, yeah lol
#28
I want McDonalds and while I eat that I wanna watch whatever the hell **I** wanna watch on the damn tv without any b***hing or whining.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
Poor honey. This is called Monday and Thursday at my house.
#29
What I’ve learned from this thread is a clean house and if they have kids living with them, either time with them or a short break from them, is all that they want for Mother’s Day. And my mom has told me that she wants a clean house every year yet I still clicked on this thread to see what I should get for her.
The Other Other White Meat 2 years ago
It took me far too long to realize that my mom just wanted our help in the garden... time together, digging our hands in the dirt, fresh air and sunshine, tending to the beautiful masterpiece she created. Sometimes it's as simple as that 💛
Nonesuch 2 years ago
I like this thought. Time out in the yard digging up what needs to be dug up and planting what needs to be planted.
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#30
Champagne.
Someone to come deep clean my house.
Someone to cook me dinner while I sit on the couch with a drink.
#31
A day where I don’t have to do anything. No cleaning, washing, cooking. Four year old wants to go to the park? Not my problem. Six month old did a poo? Too bad. A day where I am not accountable for anything/anyone. And have beers at lunch. And cake for dinner.
#32
To wake up naturally, just once. I’d love it if I could just sleep and not have to get up to my daughter yelling out, or my alarm, or my fiancé coming in to ask me something when he’s offered to get up early with our kid. Just one day to wake up properly when my body decides its time to wake.
#33
Not to be needed for just a day. I took a trip by myself a couple of years ago and the absolute best part was not being needed by anyone.
I could just relax without worrying about when my relaxation would be interrupted by my husband and kid coming home and needing help with stuff or attention.
Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with them and shower them with attention and cuddles, but I really miss having uninterrupted *me* time without having to worry about getting texts asking me where something is or if we have milk or whatever or watching the clock wondering how much time I have left.
#34
For somebody else to deal with my mother-in-law (she lives with us, and "enjoys" her dementia), for the day.
I don't want flowers or candy. I want to not have to get up before everyone else and get the household moving. I want to be able to go to bed before 11pm and actually zonk out. I want to read a book undisturbed.
I want my kid to take a shower without me reminding him to do so. I want my husband to get up before I do. I want our partner to get up before noon. I want my MIL to have an hour of not being a self-absorbed, self-important, self-aggrandizing b***h c**t from hell (which she's been for the 30+ years I've known her... this isn't just the dementia).
I want the cats to not pick on the dog. I want the dog to just flop on the couch next to my MIL, so she can shower him with the affection she obviously has for him.
I want to get out of the house for an hour.
#35
To feel like I'm appreciated! Maybe a simple thank you for always doing this... thank you for being there this year when this happened ect. Gift wise I'd rather spend time together doing something we all enjoy as a family like a picnic. Simple but meaning full.
PLEASE NO MORE MUGS! (I have 8!)
#36
I don't care about gifts of any kind, permanent or perishable. If I want something I'll buy it myself. I just want us to spend some time together. It could be anything you want as long as we get to interact. It's not just because I want the company, though I do appreciate that. I want to see how much you've grown since the last Mother's Day. I wouldn't be doing my job as a mother unless I were helping someone mature. I'd want to know how you've been in the last year, what you plan to do in the future, how you think I've been as a parent, or anything that we haven't talked about before. If there's anything you've learned with or without me, that makes me proud. If there's anything you can teach me, more power to you. Seeing my children grow up to be good and reasonable people means more than anything else to me.
#37
Half this comment section; a clean house
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
How about this kitchen? If it's dirty, so what. I'll clean it. If somebody could just ala kazam this into my house, I'll never ask for another thing ever.
Annie 1973 2 years ago
Yup I agree with this. I'm sick, cancer, depression, anxiety, ptsd and fibromyalgia and I just don't have the energy to clean so my place looks like a bomb hit it. However I'm in the middle of packing up everything because my landlord is kicking me out of my apartment because my electricity got switched off because I couldn't afford to pay it. Temperatures have been way below freezing with a ton of snow so I had to have my heating on. It's in the contract that if the power is switched off due to non payment then I lose my contract so in 3 days if I can't come up with $500 I'll be out on the streets in freezing temperatures.
#39
What I want is my husband not to ask me what I want. I want him to just figure something out with the kids. However I do LOVE when they bring me little art work they be made at school or on their own. I save each one. That makes me so happy. This mothers day I just want a pedicure and a margarita at our favorite Mexican place. That sounds so good right now.
SweetCheesySpaghetti 2 years ago
this is exactly what i want - except for the margarita and pedicure. I could go for a nice Chardonnay at a a place on the water, though!
#40
My son, daughter and son-in-law spending an afternoon with me in the kitchen, playing music, talking preparing a meal together then sitting down and eating together. That is my idea of heaven.
#41
I just want one day to be me, not mom, wife, daughter, employee, etc. Every single day is spent taking care of someone else, operating on their schedule, fulfilling their wants and needs. I’d love one day where my husband can find all his stuff on his own, the kids follow the routine we have every single day without prompting and fighting, one day where my mom doesn’t blow up my phone while I’m at work because she forgot her email password AGAIN and got locked out and can I fix it and log in and print some things and bring them to her on my lunch break? One day where I can sit down and eat my dinner instead of shoving a stale granola bar in my face while cooking things I don’t eat because nobody else here eats like me. One day to sit down at a computer, open a word doc, close my eyes, and pour out the stories I’ve been yearning to write for years, from back when I had spare time and the creative energy. I’d settle for a root beer float though.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
I'm sorry honey, you must be a mute. I do wish you a root beer float tho.
#42
I want a truckload of good dirt to even out all the areas we've had a lot of erosion in our backyard the last several years. I'd also like a couple of hydrangea bushes. Some of my plants have died recently (no reason except they were over 20 years old), and my gardens look a little sparse.
#43
A new PS4. Sick of sharing mine (it is MINE, *I* am the who bought it) with my kids and my husband. I want a new one that I will set up in my bedroom and declare a Fortnite-free device.
#44
A macadamia tree. Please and thank you.
ThatOmniCapybara(she/they) 2 years ago
Have you ever tried macadamia nuts coated in chocolate? I have and it's delicious!
#45
I’m 8 months pregnant, already a mom to a 3 year old. I want sleep and a back rub. A cure for heart burn, acid reflux, and leg cramps would also be nice.
#46
Hot shower...the kind where you stay in so long the water gets cold. Very good bottle(s) of wine. Steak dinner I didn’t make. And a real good orgasm ....a very very good orgasm... Then a nap.....wake up house clean. Is this for too much to ask? 😏
ROSESARERED 2 years ago
I miss mine. When the one her dies, I'm going back to instant gas hot water
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#47
A goddamn nap. I have 2 under 3 and the little beasts never sleep. I’m perpetually exhausted.
Annie 1973 2 years ago
I know that feeling. I had 3 under 3. I'm forever grateful to my gynecologist that she sterilised me after my 3rd
#50
For it to be remembered this year. It hurt so badly last year to be the mom of a 5 year old and 1 year old only to have my husband completely forget to do anything. Then when I confronted him with my hurt, he asked for a divorce. He’s a master of timing, I’d say. Now, we’re separated and he’s told me this was the regret of his life.
a really far away planet 2 years ago
i'm male and have a f*****g terrible memory. so that apparently means i'm deserving of that? i think people can change, i mean, he said that it was a huge regret later and op didn't give a lot of information about stuff; she just said "completely forgot to do anything" and didn't elaborate at all on that; what, did he forget to love, care for and feed them? then yeah. but if it's something like "forget to do shopping" or something then what really did he do? in a lot of parts of society women have to do more than men, and that's expected of them; it's a gender stereotype (not that i condone it). they might live in somewhere where that's normal. i think maybe that's why he divorced her then because he thought she wasn't doing enough; yeah, that's his fault and the mom probably wanted him to do more, but it does not mean at all that he's a terrible guy; i think its bc he might've just grew up this way. so i think your statement is mostly baseless and rude, especially because i'm a guy.
Load More Replies... bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
You got your gift early. Plus lost dead weight. You deserve better.
#51
A clean house, a large iced coffee delivered to me from my favorite coffee place, delicious food I don’t have to make and no fighting or being pestered for a whole day.
#52
All I want is to be woken up with a "Happy Mother's Day", then left alone for the rest of the day so I can play video games and nap at will. Also dinner that I didn't have to make or clean up after. This is all I ever want for my birthday as well - along with cake that I didn't buy or make.
#53
I want my mother in law to step down and realise the day is no longer all about her and only her. She’s got two daughter in laws who are raising her grandchildren (our steps kids) week in, week out and we want some recognition!!!! And we don’t want to eat pasta for lunch at a restaurant we hate.
bottomless.abyss.of.bordem 2 years ago
Get a salad, or something light for lunch, and do you for dinner.
#54
A day off! Don't ask me for anything. Let me just go out with my girls and have a stress free night!
#55
What I learned from this thread: continue being childfree.
#56
As a new mom (three weeks). I've been jonesing for a massage. Sitting in awkward positions for feedings and pumping has done a number on my back and to get away for an hour or so and get pampered (especially since I couldn't lay on my stomach for the last however many months lol) would be a treat. Edit : I do have a boppy and other supports, however even with the pillow and especially with my pump I have to bend forward more than 'normal' and that messes with my back
#57
I want to spend the day with my husband and kids but I don’t want to be responsible for anything. I want to make zero decisions, change zero diapers, fill zero bottles. Don’t ask me if you think it’s time for baby to nap, don’t ask me what we should do for dinner, don’t ask me what snacks we should bring. I want to expend zero mental energy.
#58
I think moms genuinely just want *something*, in my experience it’s the thought that counts, so something that reminds you of a moment you had with your mom maybe.
#63
I just want time with my kids (busy adults). And it looks like that’s gonna happen. She lives and works four hours away but they’re coming up for the weekend. Her brother is a new-ish dad, with his new-ish business and an old professional fishing habit that doesn’t always make room for Mother’s Day. So we may celebrate according to our own calendars. And that’s fine with me.
What do you think ?
lenka 2 years ago
24 hours alone. Every year the weekend before or after mother's day (mothers day itself I reserve for the kids) I take a weekend for myself. I book a hotel, not far, usually somewhere reasonably close but nice with a sauna, swimming pool and restaurant. I take a sauna, have a swim, take a book down to the bar, drink wine, read, meander into the restaurant have a nice meal, head up to my room chill out alone in the silence. It's pure bliss.
Nikki D 2 years ago
My mom died recently. My neighbor and plant mother treats me like her child. Can I shower her with everything I used to do for my mom? I know her kids won't do anything, just wondering if that would be appropriate. Nice earrings, a cool plant, and a handmade card. Would that be weird?
lenka 2 years ago
Not at all. I am sure she will appreciate it and I am glad you have someone in your love to keep sharing "mom love" with you.
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Caro Caro 2 years ago
The things these women want are so little and simple (humble). I can't get my head around the fact that they need some me-time, rest, affection and peace and quiet. Jees. I kinda feel sorry for them.
lenka 2 years ago
I think when you are a mum of very young kids, its very hard to learn to prioritise yourself, and of course when you do, you face judgement (at least I did). I am pretty good at taking time to myself, hanging out with my girlfriends and prioritising myself on a regular basis and my husband does 50% of the cleaning, cooking, shopping and parenting, but time alone is still what I ask for for mothers day because between work and parenting and life, time is still my most valuable resource.
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Sandy D 2 years ago
I would like a back and neck that isn't causing constant pain, so a brand new, fully functioning, pain free spine! Not asking much, am I 😜
TheGirlWhoWoreGlasses 2 years ago
So many of us want a clean house. Because most men and kids can't be bothered, which is reinforced by society and even advice-givers (the person who thinks cleanliness is more important should do it). I am so over this.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
A slight 'happy mother's day' recognition not from the kids but my husband. They are his from his first marriage, I love them dearly, and he has told me thank you for taking on a role as a bonus parent but some mother's days he goes without saying a thing. We can't have a baby between us just yet due to financial problems, which is another sore spot for the day. Just a little recognition would be enough for me. (I don't expect the kids to do or even say anything, they have their birth mom which is more than enough for them to take on).
Lilsomms 2 years ago
Mothers Day is still rough for me. My mom died after slowing spiraling into poor health for years. I was two months away from giving birth to my first child. It absolutely devastated me. So my first Mothers Day was my first without a mother of my own. I love my husband, but he forgot about the whole holiday because we were on lock down with 3 month old and both very overwhelmed. I haven't really enjoyed any subsequent M-days since. A lot of over planning, high expectations and stress. This year I outright asked for a few hours alone in the house (baby number 2 is due later this summer), some tulips (my favorite flower), and a Lego kit of a floral arrangement. That's it. He was so appreciative of my honesty. He'll make dinner too, which is of course welcome because he loves to use our smoker and I definitely won't protest some good bbq. Someday I know I'll reclaim the holiday and enjoy it. Especially now that I'll soon be a mom of two. But it takes time and I will always miss my mom.
Jennifer 2 years ago
I have two boys (8 yrs and 6 months). For the past 7 years my oldest and I have gone out and chosen veggies and flowers to plant in our vegetable garden and flower pots. I love being able to reap our harvest together throughout the summer...it's like a summer's worth of mother's days. That is what I wish for every mother's day.
Rachel Reynolds 2 years ago
I'd like a MIG welder of my very own, a pile of steel and an afternoon to my self to weld stuff. Barring that, Sushi and saki dinner without having to watch the hibachi show (my kids don't like sushi, but they love hibachi and love the show. Especially onion volcano)
lenka 2 years ago
24 hours alone. Every year the weekend before or after mother's day (mothers day itself I reserve for the kids) I take a weekend for myself. I book a hotel, not far, usually somewhere reasonably close but nice with a sauna, swimming pool and restaurant. I take a sauna, have a swim, take a book down to the bar, drink wine, read, meander into the restaurant have a nice meal, head up to my room chill out alone in the silence. It's pure bliss.
Nikki D 2 years ago
My mom died recently. My neighbor and plant mother treats me like her child. Can I shower her with everything I used to do for my mom? I know her kids won't do anything, just wondering if that would be appropriate. Nice earrings, a cool plant, and a handmade card. Would that be weird?
lenka 2 years ago
Not at all. I am sure she will appreciate it and I am glad you have someone in your love to keep sharing "mom love" with you.
Load More Replies... Caro Caro 2 years ago
The things these women want are so little and simple (humble). I can't get my head around the fact that they need some me-time, rest, affection and peace and quiet. Jees. I kinda feel sorry for them.
lenka 2 years ago
I think when you are a mum of very young kids, its very hard to learn to prioritise yourself, and of course when you do, you face judgement (at least I did). I am pretty good at taking time to myself, hanging out with my girlfriends and prioritising myself on a regular basis and my husband does 50% of the cleaning, cooking, shopping and parenting, but time alone is still what I ask for for mothers day because between work and parenting and life, time is still my most valuable resource.
Load More Replies... Sandy D 2 years ago
I would like a back and neck that isn't causing constant pain, so a brand new, fully functioning, pain free spine! Not asking much, am I 😜
TheGirlWhoWoreGlasses 2 years ago
So many of us want a clean house. Because most men and kids can't be bothered, which is reinforced by society and even advice-givers (the person who thinks cleanliness is more important should do it). I am so over this.
Wysteria_Rose 2 years ago
A slight 'happy mother's day' recognition not from the kids but my husband. They are his from his first marriage, I love them dearly, and he has told me thank you for taking on a role as a bonus parent but some mother's days he goes without saying a thing. We can't have a baby between us just yet due to financial problems, which is another sore spot for the day. Just a little recognition would be enough for me. (I don't expect the kids to do or even say anything, they have their birth mom which is more than enough for them to take on).
Lilsomms 2 years ago
Mothers Day is still rough for me. My mom died after slowing spiraling into poor health for years. I was two months away from giving birth to my first child. It absolutely devastated me. So my first Mothers Day was my first without a mother of my own. I love my husband, but he forgot about the whole holiday because we were on lock down with 3 month old and both very overwhelmed. I haven't really enjoyed any subsequent M-days since. A lot of over planning, high expectations and stress. This year I outright asked for a few hours alone in the house (baby number 2 is due later this summer), some tulips (my favorite flower), and a Lego kit of a floral arrangement. That's it. He was so appreciative of my honesty. He'll make dinner too, which is of course welcome because he loves to use our smoker and I definitely won't protest some good bbq. Someday I know I'll reclaim the holiday and enjoy it. Especially now that I'll soon be a mom of two. But it takes time and I will always miss my mom.
Jennifer 2 years ago
I have two boys (8 yrs and 6 months). For the past 7 years my oldest and I have gone out and chosen veggies and flowers to plant in our vegetable garden and flower pots. I love being able to reap our harvest together throughout the summer...it's like a summer's worth of mother's days. That is what I wish for every mother's day.
Rachel Reynolds 2 years ago
I'd like a MIG welder of my very own, a pile of steel and an afternoon to my self to weld stuff. Barring that, Sushi and saki dinner without having to watch the hibachi show (my kids don't like sushi, but they love hibachi and love the show. Especially onion volcano)
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