45 People Who Had The “Pleasure” Of Dealing With Toxic People And Shamed Them Online
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No relationship is perfect, but the internet and social media have allowed us to peer into certain couples' day-to-day interactions and realize that things could be a lot worse.
The “sounds toxic, but ok” Facebook group gathers screenshots, posts, and messages from the worst kinds of people to be in a relationship with. Entitlement, possessiveness, and hostility all feature, so get comfortable before you delve into some of the worst humanity has to offer. We also got in touch with the founder and admin of the page to learn a bit more.
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oki but thats smart and evil and amazing advice EDIT: mom i'm famous
Bored Panda got in touch with the founder and admin of the “sounds toxic, but ok” Facebook group and she was kind enough to answer a few of our questions about the group and her own thoughts on what actually constitutes downright toxic behavior. First and foremost, we were curious why the group was started in the first place.
“I created the group originally as an advice group for people to post and reach out anonymously to others for help!” she shared with Bored Panda. As of writing this article, it has over a million followers, so the demand for this content and advice is definitely there.
Oh my god I am so done with s**t like this. I am a woman and no, we don't all wait for men to "get it". Talking to your SO is a thing!
I spent 8 years of marriage trying to communicate my needs to my partner. He finally got it--when I told him I wanted a divorce.
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Actually, I get this. It doesn't mean she's not talking to him about the problems, it just means that he's not listening or addressing the problem. One person can't do all the labour to make the relationship work, and she could be doing everything right and still get burned out on it.
Exactly - How many times do you have to talk about the same damn thing - with no change on their part - until you just accept that they are never gonna change? Move on, girl.
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I 100% get this. I've been with guys in the past that no matter how many times you have the same conversation nothing ever changes, you realise they don't actually care about things that make you miserable and uncomfortable so over time you just slowly without really realising distance yourself from them emotionally and there comes a point you're just done with their c**p (disclaimer of course women can do this too, I'm just specifically talking about my past relationships) and you just no longer want to be near them let alone in a relationship. The guy thinks you went apeshit over nothing, overreacted and ended it over nothing when in reality it's been a slow decline while pleading to be heard and understood and show that you give a s**t about your partners happiness. It's not uncommon by any stretch.
This is often the case when someone cuts a toxic person out of their life. The toxic person thinks that their last action was the main reason for getting cut off and is very confused by it because it was just some minor thing, when in reality it wasn't about that little thing, that was simply the last straw.
my brother is so much like this he gets me mad so when he does a small thing that annoys me it causes me to snap and he complains that i got mad over a small thing. i didnt get mad over that i of mad of the multiple things you have done
This could be any relationship. I have friends that I have done this too. Sometimes there is just too much water under the bridge and you don't want to drown.
A bit of unasked for advice: Don't try to change someone out of their habits or "personal level of comfort with uncleanliness"... Find someone whose habits and standards are already acceptable to you. If you meet someone who is a slob but lovable in every other regard and marry them and proceed to hector and nag them every day about how they've always been when you knew about it beforehand, then that's a "you" problem.
If you were getting tired with them then why didn't let them know earlier what bugs you? It gives at least a fighting chance to fix things between you.
Something divorce lawyers hear is, "I did not see this coming! Everything was fine, and then she suddenly announced she was going to divorce me." They also hear, "I have talked with him again and again. He said he would change, and he would for a week or so, and then it would be exactly the same. I can't take it any more."
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We were also curious to hear what she thought drew so many people to view this content, as it can be quite “caustic” for the soul. “I believe people are interested in relatable life stories, and posts, and seeing them put out in a humorous way allows people to laugh about past experiences/ relationships,” she shared.
Lastly, for such a “popular” word, it can be hard to pin down exactly what it means. So we wanted to hear how she defines being “toxic.” “As for what I define as toxic, I think that everyone has their own limits and barriers when it comes to dating or even personal relationships and you have to figure out what you want to allow. I think it’s also important to reach out to trusted loved ones in your circle if you are unsure if someone in your life is toxic.”
Either buy a suit for your wedding next week or get yourself out of that situation real fast.
Experts are similarly divided on what exactly makes a relationship toxic. There are a few easy answers, abuse, physical, verbal, or other is definitely as clear a sign to get out as you’ll ever get. But this can create a false dichotomy, where some think the absence of clear abuse means their relationship is fine, even though this is far from the truth. For example, somewhat hostile language, sarcasm, and frequent criticism are common predictors of divorces.
So he stole her card and money? Go straight to police, file report, contactt college about tuition being paid with stolen money, might get some back.
More often than not, toxic behavior is masked through some indicators of love and protection. A controlling partner will frame their actions and demands through the lens of “it’s better for you.” Of course, setting aside any sort of protective language, it also indicates that they have no trust in your own abilities, which should make you question why they date you in the first place.
Her ex should bait her into sending him expensive stuff, like ‘bet your new boyfriend can’t even afford a decent watch’ and wait for the rolex to arrive. :p
You say you didnt think about that, and or that they make sence , or that you didnt use your whole brain, and now that u are you can see your misunderstanding.
Not to play the devil's advocate, but some toxic partners don’t exactly know any better. Humans mimic the social behavior they have seen. Psychologists have found that people who encounter positive relationships in childhood, for example, a successful marriage, are less likely to exhibit negative and toxic behavior later in life.
I mean, to be fair thats a lot of things they gave you! You should be more grateful! /s
While from the outside, it might seem easy to “just” avoid getting involved with the sort of person you can see here, it’s important to remember that most people are somewhat adept at hiding their most toxic traits until it’s too late. Plus, once you are interested or even in love with someone, you tend to overlook things you really shouldn’t.
i guess you can still ask what they provide in a relationship once you start dating. you probably pursue someone based on something like looks or a few conversations. a relationship is different and you hope someone is more than just that one thing that attracted you inthhe first place.
A casual glance through these examples show people who range from insecure to keen on fighting for the sack of fighting. While drama can spice up someone’s day a bit, it’s not controversial to say that most people have a limit for drama. Constantly wondering if your partner hates you, is judging you or something they are doing is a test is a recipe for a short and unhappy relationship.
The fights might not even be easily identifiable as a fight. Toxic partners love to gaslight, meaning that they will attempt to convince you about what you think and don’t think. Ultimately, it’s all at the service of maintaining power. An unceasing demand for power is often a sign of deep insecurity, which has all sorts of horrible ways to make someone unpleasant to be around.
False analogies are like boiled bacon metaphorically speaking.
The bottom line, if something is really starting to make you unhappy and your partner seems indifferent to it, it won’t magically fix itself and you need to leave. If you want to hear more about bad relationships, Bored Panda has got you covered, you can check out our article on “dead giveaways” that a relationship is toxic.
Does she really not know? As in, wasn’t curious about the fishing buddies her man was meeting?
She is right though. She is not looking for a boyfriend. What she is looking for is called call boy.
If you are a real biach and want to prove you are still Hung up on him, then sure, do this.
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You know, I wonder if the people who write (piece together) the boredpanda articles ever read each other's posts? So much of this stuff gets reposted again and again under a different "clickbait" title.
You know, I wonder if the people who write (piece together) the boredpanda articles ever read each other's posts? So much of this stuff gets reposted again and again under a different "clickbait" title.
