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Weddings are one thing. But the juicy wedding anecdotes that get passed around from guests in real life is another. From fussy bridezillas to nightmarish decor, hilarious invitations, accidents, "what da heck was dat" moments, and even full-blown fights… Some people live for the nuptial gossip.

And the chances are they belong to this quirky online community that deliberately targets some shame-worthy weddings. Captioned "let’s shame those weddings," the subreddit r/weddingshaming is the online home for roasting wedding themes, brides, grooms, wedding parties, in-laws, outlaws, guests, Uncle Bob, vendors, and more. “You name it, we shame it!” states the community’s description.

Created in 2018, the controversial subreddit now has 151k members who love digging through anything wedding-related. So let’s take a look at what they dug up and shamed down below.

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Photographer Shaming A Guest

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, that was inconsiderate of the guest. You really don't need to take a photo of everything to be deleted later on anyway.

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Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

Just Hope There Isn’t A Third...

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The world of wedding shaming offers real-life drama combined with sassiness and a fair share of roasting, all in the comfort of a virtual environment. Groups like the “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming” Facebook group, which has 80.6k members, and the r/weddingshaming subreddit with 153k members have become somewhat of a phenomenon in the past 2 years. It turns out there’s something universally irresistible about ripping apart someone’s supposed best day of their lives.

Luna, the moderator from Australia at “That’s it, I’m wedding shaming,” told Wired that “There’s something about weddings, whether you’re invited or not, that just brings out the worst in people.” She suggested that this is precisely what gives the group a feel similar to reality TV shows.

This online shaming trend became a hit back in August 2018 when a post from a group shamed a bride for asking her guests to pay about $1,500 towards her wedding. The story went viral after it was shared by model and social media star Chrissy Teigen.

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4 Weddings And A Cat Party

4 Weddings And A Cat Party

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Found On Twitter

Found On Twitter

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Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

Bride Cancels Vendor For Supporting Black Lives Matter

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But many people are not so positive about this new trend, claiming that “beneath those silly nuptial stories lies an online playground of hate.”

Bored Panda reached out to Darlene Lancer, clinical psychologist and the author of “Codependency for Dummies” and “Conquering Shame and Codependency.” Darlene said that wedding haters and shamers are not members of a “hate group,” according to the FBI.

She explained: “hate groups” direct their hatred against a particular race, religion, gender, ethnic group, or people of a particular sexual orientation. The FBI investigates these hate groups to protect democracy and individual liberty.” In that sense, wedding shamers are not one of them.

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Hey! Why let a little inconvenience such as COVID spoil our big day?" was the general concensus of the wedding party. This how COVID multiplies at an exponential rate.

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Darlene further explained that “Ironically, public displays of extravagant and ostentatious weddings may also be fueled by shame where the emphasis is on impressing other people of the family’s wealth and status.” Such behavior can be a compensation for not feeling adequate or sufficiently respected.

Shaming others, the clinical psychologist suggests, is a way of protesting and ridding themselves of shame people have inside, which is often hidden and unconscious.

“It may be fueled by anger and envy because of the widening discrepancy between classes of haves and have-nots. Aggression and envy are also defenses to shame,” Darlene concluded.

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Real Life Soap Opera

Real Life Soap Opera

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Mimi777
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are allowed to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

Bridezilla Wants All Her Bridesmaids To Cut And Dye Their Hair So They Look Identical

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It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

It Can’t Just Be The Bride’s Big Day, You Know

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't understand the need for some people to steal someone else's thunder. Was the mother-in-law that insecure?

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You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

You’re Probably Wondering Why This Is Shame Worthy. Well How Do You Feel Now That You Know She Was ***not*** The Bride

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Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

Karen Thinks Artists Are Ripping Her Off For Charging $1000 For A Live Painting Of Her Wedding Ceremony. Expects To Get A Literal Picasso For That Price

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This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

This Girl Is An Icon. She Really Spilled Some Tea!

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We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

We Sent You This Card So Send Us Money

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We don't like you enough to actually invite you, but give us money anyway.

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#18

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

A New Wedding Theme For You To Consider....

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Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

Do Not Talk To The Bride At All

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is a wedding planner who spelled 'ceremony' as ' seramony'. Ha, ha, ha! There are plenty of other errors, but I've decided not to be a grammar Nazi.

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Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

Everyone In The Comments Is Calling Her Out. How Can You Think This Is A Good Idea?

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Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

Mother Of The Groom And The Groom On Their Special Day

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#25

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

“Please Shoot People So We Can Have Our Wedding Illegally”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Words fail me. 'Tyranny defense device'? FFS. Look, no offense, Americans, but no wonder your democracy is on the point of total collapse.

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Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

Bride Freaks Out After Finding Her Own Post On Reddit

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$250 Min Gift To Attend

$250 Min Gift To Attend

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Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

Ah Yes, The Good Old "Get Pregnant So I Won't Need To Be In A Bridal Party" Scheme. Works Every Time

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Downunderdude
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No problem here, sweetie. If she's REALLY a good friend, she'll have an abortion so that she doesn't ruin your day with messy kids. Over-reacting? No, of course not: it's all about YOU, not her.

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She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

She Looks Absolutely Gorgeous.... Except She’s Not The Bride

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IlovemydogShilo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just walk past her holding a large very large glass of red wine and “accidentally” trip when you get next to her. If she protests just say “well at least it’s not a REAL wedding dress”

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I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

I’m All For A Nudist Wedding But The Kid?

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Tell Your Wedding Guests To Die

Tell Your Wedding Guests To Die

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Politics At Non-Political Events Is Probably My #1 Pet Peeve

Politics At Non-Political Events Is Probably My #1 Pet Peeve

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Jarno Flinkers
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey dad, I have a riddle for you. How many Trump supporters do you need to put in a light bulb? None, because they are shooting at the room for being black.

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Bride Urges Guests To Uber To Her Wedding In Order To Avoid The “Quarantine Police”

Bride Urges Guests To Uber To Her Wedding In Order To Avoid The “Quarantine Police”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don't mean to sound cruel, but some people just *deserve* to get the virus... even if only as a form of karma.

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Kid Wants To Dress Up As A Lion To Their Wedding. Also Told To Change Their Centrepieces As Kid Doesn’t Like Balloons. Kid Is Op’s Mother’s Best Friend’s Child

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Where I live (the Balkan region in SE Europe), the mere notion of a child refusing to do something or generally disobeying their parents is unthinkable. And you can be sure there would be a punishment for such behavior.

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The Bride Is On The Right

The Bride Is On The Right

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Should have turned her away before she even walked through the doors

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From Pinterest. I Really Dislike Things Like This... Is Someone Forcing You To Get Married!?

From Pinterest. I Really Dislike Things Like This... Is Someone Forcing You To Get Married!?

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Katy McMouse
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm sick to death of cutesy signs every time you turn the hell around.

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I Can’t Believe You’re Afraid Of Covid, What About My Wedding?

I Can’t Believe You’re Afraid Of Covid, What About My Wedding?

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How dare You not risk you life to watch me walk around in person rather than waiting til it's safe. Ur selfish desire to live is breaking my heart.

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Normal Thing To Do...

Normal Thing To Do...

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Just saw the date 8th of December 2019. I think none of them will be getting what they want

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A New Low?

A New Low?

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While We’re On The Topic Of Cake Toppers....i Can’t Stand The “Woman Trapping The Man And Keeping Him From Things He Likes To Do” Trope. There Are Far Too Many Versions Of These

While We’re On The Topic Of Cake Toppers....i Can’t Stand The “Woman Trapping The Man And Keeping Him From Things He Likes To Do” Trope. There Are Far Too Many Versions Of These

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Videographer Refuses To Do Same-Sex Weddings

Videographer Refuses To Do Same-Sex Weddings

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Pamela24
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"We'd rather lose a good portion of money than support people who love each other in expressing that." How ridiculous. Especially during COVID times.

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My Idiot Cousin Is Getting Divorced. After My Friend Told Me How They Got Engaged, I’m Not Surprised. Karma

My Idiot Cousin Is Getting Divorced. After My Friend Told Me How They Got Engaged, I’m Not Surprised. Karma

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Bride In The Middle, Cow Who Turned Up To The Wedding In A White Dress With A Train On The Right

Bride In The Middle, Cow Who Turned Up To The Wedding In A White Dress With A Train On The Right

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Jo Choto
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I seriously do not understand what kind of person does this or why.

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Is It Wedding Shaming If The Groom Doesn’t Even Know They’re Dating?

Is It Wedding Shaming If The Groom Doesn’t Even Know They’re Dating?

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sorry, but I feel like this has to be fake. Regardless if she misheard him or whatever the case would’ve been.... planning a wedding for 7 months and they didn’t even have ONE conversation about how it was coming along? I don’t buy it

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Taken From A Party Planning Site, Advising How To Have A Free Wedding. Other Gem Advice Was To Get Mother-In-Law To Make The Wedding Cake

Taken From A Party Planning Site, Advising How To Have A Free Wedding. Other Gem Advice Was To Get Mother-In-Law To Make The Wedding Cake

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Now we know where a good portion of these choosy beggars come from.

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Foxxy (The Original)
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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We had a budding “photographer” that was a friend of my BIL take photos at our wedding coz we were on a budget. In saying that in return my hubby did a small concreting job. He ended up with the better end of the deal coz the photos were crap. That is the only thing I regret from our wedding, wished we hired a professional. Sorry went on a tangeant. Lesson is don’t cheap out on professional photography (but don’t need to go overboard)

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Katy McMouse
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hah! This happened to me in high school. My godmother's neighbor was a real asshole with money problems ( he wouldn't spend any). He found out that I had taken my very first photography class in my junior year and thought he'd save a few bucks by "hiring" me to be their photographer. Being a somewhat shy and meek teenager, I didn't have the balls to say "no way". I did it, they were processed and it was a disaster. He then had the nerve to be pissed at me, calling me a stupid girl and lamenting the $100 I was paid. I tried to make him understand beforehand that I basically knew nothing. I felt horribly guilty for a long time until I finally realized how stupid, cheap people deserve every bit of disappointment coming to them.

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Mama Panda
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

We used a family member to take our wedding pics, worst mistake ever! She claimed to be really good and later we found out that she was using her ex hubby's photos as her own. He was the photographer not her. I learned my lesson the hard way.

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AF
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If I were asked to do photographs for "the exposure" I would be so tempted to agree, show up, take pictures, and then put a HUGE watermark, logo, etc., over all the photos, so that maybe a few square millimeters show of the actual wedding, 'because you said it's for exposure."

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Roxanne D'souza
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is the only correct way to do it. Let them pay for each individual photo and then only you can remove the water mark.

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Jess-a-men
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My parents got my grandmother's second husband to make the pictures and they paid him for it. Just because he's family doesn't mean that he should have to do his job for free.

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John Baker
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are few things more insulting to a professional than suggesting he/she should work for free for the "exposure."

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Michael Willems
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

A waste of good money, eh. As a photographer and photography teacher, I see many of these cases where “the nephew shot the wedding because he has a camera”. And without fail, these always result in massive regret.

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Batwench
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My MiL made our wedding cake, as her Xmas cakes were the best. She was so happy when I asked her. Mind you we did pay for all the ingredients etc.

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Olivia Agave
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My mother's cousin was her photog - but she paid him properly for it and with the boost in confidence from being paid for his photos he now does professional wedding photography. It doesn't matter who they are or how they are related to you - pay your photographers!

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Donna Leske
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My future grandmother-in-law made my cake and it was perfect. Six layers of dark fruit cake, perfectly made. We had it decorated and assembled at a cake bakery shop.

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Csaba Hegedűs
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You can also try saying that you/your child/aunt/grandma/dog has cancer to soften them up!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It would be ironic if this was paid-for advice from one of these self-help sites...

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We Both Got Covid But All That Matters Is That We’re Married

We Both Got Covid But All That Matters Is That We’re Married

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Raine Soo
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

150 people may have contracted COVID, and "it was still all worth it". Can I throttle these newlyweds?

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Well Ok Then....

Well Ok Then....

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They just need a dog about 6 paces behind with a shirt saying "The Divorce".

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Brilliant Job By Videographer

Brilliant Job By Videographer

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Oh no, I botched the crowd shots... where can I possibly find a suitable substitute?" :D

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#51

Girl I Rarely Speak To Anymore Asks If She's Invited To Our Wedding. After Telling Her That She Isn't She Tells Me I Should Rethink Marrying My Fiancé

Girl I Rarely Speak To Anymore Asks If She's Invited To Our Wedding. After Telling Her That She Isn't She Tells Me I Should Rethink Marrying My Fiancé

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"Hey, I Have An Amazing Idea For A Super Unique Pic!"

"Hey, I Have An Amazing Idea For A Super Unique Pic!"

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Pamela24
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Weird choice but compared to many others here...I don't see that much of an issue.

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I Don’t Know What To Say About This

I Don’t Know What To Say About This

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Lauren Caswell
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Way to make a young probably teens step child feel even more embarrassed about their braces than they already were. I would never want someone who would be so oblivious to be my child's step-anything. Thank God my son's stepmum is a gem, she always treats him as one of her own, as I tell my boy, parental decisions are made between the three of us (myself, his father and his stepmum). I don't think that's common though we are quite lucky.

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#55

Making Fun Of Corona And Blm At Your 200+ Person Wedding. Yes This Was The Only Time Anyone Wore Masks

Making Fun Of Corona And Blm At Your 200+ Person Wedding. Yes This Was The Only Time Anyone Wore Masks

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Uh Oh... Shame. On. Us. (18k In The Group On Facebook)

Uh Oh... Shame. On. Us. (18k In The Group On Facebook)

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Whichever one of you" "We both know who you are" I'm pretty sure you have no idea.

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#57

Because We All Want Our Guests Knowing We’ll Be Too Drunk For Sex On Our Wedding Night

Because We All Want Our Guests Knowing We’ll Be Too Drunk For Sex On Our Wedding Night

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Found In A Disney Shaming Group- I’m Sure Ashley Tisdale Would Be There!

Found In A Disney Shaming Group- I’m Sure Ashley Tisdale Would Be There!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...are these people mature enough to get married? I have nothing against marrying young, but this just seems...weird.

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#60

I Didn't Realize A Pandemic Stopped Once You Are "Over It"

I Didn't Realize A Pandemic Stopped Once You Are "Over It"

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"People Are Still Afraid." I Mean, It's Not Like The Pandemic Is Still Happening, Right?

"People Are Still Afraid." I Mean, It's Not Like The Pandemic Is Still Happening, Right?

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I’m Sorry, You’re Trippin About Your Ex At Your Wedding? Wat

I’m Sorry, You’re Trippin About Your Ex At Your Wedding? Wat

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This Trend Is Universally Bad, But This Iteration Is The Worst I've Personally Seen To Date

This Trend Is Universally Bad, But This Iteration Is The Worst I've Personally Seen To Date

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