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We may live in progressive times, but society is generally still patriarchal. Sexism against women continues to manifest in many forms, and toxic masculinity remains a prevalent trait among many men. 

As a way to stand against chauvinism, several women shared the ways they’ve shown acts of microfeminism. For the uninformed, these are small yet deliberate actions to call out gender biases in daily life.

Some did it by breaking stereotypes through their children’s toys, while others took action to assert themselves in the workplace. Scroll through to read more of their stories. 

#1

“I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism "If an 11 year old girl can handle having a period, you can handle hearing about it."

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    #2

    Young woman holding vintage telephone receiver, symbolizing communication and small daily wins from feminists. Growing up in the 80s, people would often call the house to speak to my Dad using the colloquial phrase "Is the boss man in" My mother without fail always replied "Yes, you are speaking to her".

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    #3

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism When they're talking about how great men are at being providers and protectors I like to point out that it's "not all men."

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    #4

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism I had a relative by marriage who would always stare at breasts in conversation. Rather that go the “my eyes are up here” route, I would engage him in conversation, staring at his crotch the whole time. He stopped talking to me—I considered it a win!

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    #5

    Two people having a serious discussion over coffee, highlighting small daily wins from feminists in a home setting. When they're being aggressive, asking them why they're being so emotional.

    sarahkatharineny:

    Calling them neurotic or hysterical also works well.

    followthelemur:

    Someone came up with "testerical"...

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    Mel in Georgia
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha! "Testerical." Will remember that one.

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    #6

    A sleeping baby resting on a man's chest, symbolizing small daily wins from feminists in everyday life. This one feels super small, but I work at a company that is like 80% male and our paternity leave is only about 4 weeks. I had my son at a different company where both parents got 6 months of fully paid leave (a freaking miracle). So now, every time someone has a kid I make sure to ask my leadership why our paternity leave is so short because the dads need to be able to bond with their kids too. I explain how great mine and my husband's were too and how that meant we both stayed at mediocre companies for a few years longer than we would have otherwise. Trying to get these men more time at home with their kids...

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    Julia Mckinney
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Hey, just remember, even small drops of water can wear away stone. Small actions can sometimes have a big effect.

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    #7

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism I correct anyone who refers to a woman over 18 a "girl". Nobody ever calls a man in their 20s a "boy". Even news headlines still get this wrong. I will die on this hill!!! Also, there's no such thing as "nonconsensual sex". Either sex or r-pe.

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    Bur*
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do 100% agree BUT... I call "men" in their 20's boys all the time. College kids? Boys. Adult sports team? Boys Men that act out and disrespectful. BOYS.

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    #8

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism I have a work one and a mom one. My work one is that whenever I'm emailing a man and a woman, I always say the woman's name first in the salutation.

    My personal one, to support future working parents, is that my young son and I do a sweep of the apartment to tidy before bedtime, and I don't tell him what to pick up. I just say, "Hmm, does it look clean in here? Does anything else need to be put away?" and he notices what's out of place, then puts it away. This is all part of my dastardly plot to spare his future spouse the classic, "But you didn't TELL ME doing the dishes meant pots and pans too!"

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    cerinamroth
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favourite way to address a room full of people instead of "Ladies and gentlemen" is "Women and the children of women"

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    #9

    Female doctor using stethoscope to check young girl’s health, representing daily wins for feminists in healthcare. When both parents are present, I look at dad first when asking factual questions about their child. Date of birth, any allergies, etc. 95% of the time mom has to answer anyway, but I want dad to feel a tiny bit of shame that he doesn’t know. Maybe shame is a bit harsh, but I at least don’t want to perpetuate the idea that mom is responsible for everything and dad shouldn’t even know the basics.

    One of my favorites that I’ve read before is daycare workers making a point to call dad first. As a working mom I appreciate that so much. I always make it a point to provide my husbands name and number first, yet somehow I am always called first 100% of the time.

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    FranSinclair
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    We definitely deal with the school calling thing. One of my children gradutes this year and it has ALWAYS happened with each of my kids. I write his number first bc i work daylights. I dont work some where that answering a phone is an easy or convenient thing to do. My husband works nights. He is at home and can literally see the school from our house. Ive told them this. I still get calles first or the only one at all?!

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    #10

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism My friend’s teenage daughter likes to freak out her stepdad by announcing her period ‘I am shedding my uterine wall…’

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    Mreoww
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My dad was never freaked out or anything. Periods are normal in my house. It’s pretty nice.

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    #11

    Young woman studying at a desk with a laptop and book, representing small daily wins from feminists. I wrote a personal finance college textbook. On average, female examples were better off / making better choices than male examples.

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    #12

    Man in a checkered shirt and green tie working on a laptop and notebook, representing small daily wins from feminists. At work I’ve noticed that by default it’s always the women who are expected to act as secretaries when there is a meeting among peers, so when I’m leading a meeting I will always ask a male colleague to take the notes! And when I’m on an email chain discussing setting up a meeting, I always designate a male colleague to check everyone’s calendars and set up the meeting. It’s such a little thing, but it’s little enough to fly under the radar. And bonus, if the men do notice they can’t argue about it without looking like jerks!

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    Mel in Georgia
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And it teaches men to appreciate whoever does these tasks.

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    #13

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism A man told me how he was talking to his teenage sons about "a certain kind of girl."
    I inquired- you mean a woman who enjoys s*x? You do know women enjoy s*x, right?
    You're not getting away with sl*t shaming to me old man.

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    #14

    Person seated on a toilet holding a sanitary pad, highlighting small daily wins from feminists related to menstrual care. Whenever a man acts disgusted by conversation of menstruation, to say “You wouldn’t be here if your mom didn’t have a period."

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    JB
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "... And you should've been one!"

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    #15

    Woman and child doing laundry together, illustrating small daily wins from feminists in family life and chores. I purposely started my son on helping me unload the dishwasher and sometimes (when I can handle it) washing the dishes. We probably started when he was around one. He’s 2.5 now and regularly helps out. He knows where all the pots and pans and cutting boards go and puts them away all by himself. Both of us parents can do the night time routine as well so daddy is fully a nurturing parent. Also I got my son baby dolls and we pretend to take care of them.

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    sofacushionfort
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mom and preschool I would fold sheets and blankets together. When we’d meet to join the corners we’d kiss.

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    #16

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism My son is 2.5 and loooves to do the dishes, he has his own vacuum, his own toddler swiffer wet jet-esque, he helps switch the laundry over and can clear his place at the table / put his dishes in the sink etc. He LOVES helping out and being part of the family dynamic, and he gets such a sense of pride from it. I got him a mini cleaning kit as well and he will wash the windows lol. We are big on teamwork in our house!

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    #17

    Young professional feminist woman in glasses smiling and talking on phone, celebrating small daily wins confidently. I teach ESL to adults. When using photos for vocabulary, I almost always use pictures of women in professional jobs and tech jobs, and men doing domestic work and child care.

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    Mel in Georgia
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It should be a mix - just like real life.

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    #18

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism Wearing heels. Yes I am 6’3-6’4 in heels, yes I am taller than you, no I won’t make myself smaller.

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    L.V
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Good for you! I'm the opposite, I don't like wearing heels, and well wear flats no matter how formal the occasion is.

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    #19

    Female basketball players in action during a game, highlighting empowerment and small daily wins from feminists. From now on whenever someone talks to me about sports I will say.. "is that the women's or the mens team?"

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    JadeAngel
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Is it just me or does the woman on the left look like Amy Schumer?

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    #20

    Pregnant woman in black clothing gently holding her belly, symbolizing daily wins from feminists. Whenever a male coworker tells me his wife is pregnant I excitedly ask if he’s coming back to work after the baby is born. And then sit in the silence while they work through what just happened.

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    cerinamroth
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That would be a very odd question, depending on where you are. In Germany, the silence would mean "Of course I'm not, you dumbbutt. I'm going to be spending time with my brand-new family member and supporting my partner as she recovers!"

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    #21

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism I do enjoy asking folks to explain the sexist jokes they tell and watching them get so uncomfortable and disgusted with themselves they can't finish.

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Works with racist and homophobic jokes, too.

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    #22

    Woman in business attire reviewing and signing a contract, illustrating daily wins from feminists in a professional setting. I'm a lawyer and mostly work with male clients but I use the phrase “just between us girls” all the time. If women have normalized being called “guys” I don’t see what the difference is.

    I also will address a group of men (man I work with a lot of men…) especially if they are younger than me and being annoying as “boys”. Again the number of times I’ve heard grown women referred to as “girls” is horrifying so just putting the shoe on the other foot when stakes are low.

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    CK
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gender neutral "guys" is as valid an etymological evolution as "guy" coming to mean any guy rather than just guys named Guy.

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    #23

    Woman with afro hairstyle wearing sunglasses and blazer, talking on phone at a desk, representing feminist daily wins. Whenever anyone says they need to check with their doctor, attorney, CPA, etc. I always respond with, “Great! Let me know what she says!”

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or they could just pray to God for Her guidance.

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    #24

    Toddler expressing frustration in a cluttered room, illustrating small daily wins from feminists in family life. I'm a teacher. I always tell all of my students (but especially the girls), "don't say sorry. Say thank you." No "sorry for bothering you." It's "thanks for helping me." No, "sorry it took so long." It's "thank you for your patience."

    I have a 3 y/o son and a newborn daughter. Every outfit someone buys her that is uncomfortable or unnecessarily restrictive just to be "cute" goes straight in the trash or donation pile. No scratchy, uncomfortable girl clothes in this house! Play-ready outfits only.

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    Mel in Georgia
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a friend who is one of the most remarkable, strong, bad-a ss women I know, and it drives me crazy how much she apologizes for nothing. This really needs to be unlearned by women.

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    #25

    Woman walking on city sidewalk in beige coat and blue jeans, representing daily wins from feminists in urban setting. I don't move aside for men when I'm walking from the parking garage to my office. I'm not mean or stern about it, I simply stay on the path I was on.

    sharon.a.life:

    I’ve been working on not moving out of the way when walking down an aisle or sidewalk. It’s shocking how many men don’t move.

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    The Big Bad
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried to do this, but got bumped so many times. Even screamed at once, while I was on the right side...

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    #26

    Two young girls enjoying time outside on a wooden treehouse, representing daily wins from feminists. Addressing women by their title. I used to work with a lot of doctors - PhDs and MDs - and would default to “Dr. Andrews” (a woman) and “Phillip.” A lot of people would do the opposite, which led to men who weren’t doctors in either sense getting called “Doctor” and a woman who had multiple PhDs AND an MD being called “Kate.”

    Including women on the to line and men on the cc line.

    At home, I’m raising three girls; my entire personal life is feminism writ large. They have T-shirts that feature Sonia Sotomayor (I’m Puerto Rican, okay?) and say, “forget princess, call me your honor.” Their Fourth of July shirts have the Statue of Liberty, Rosie the Riveter, RBG, and a suffragette and say “girls will be girls.” I’m planning a photo shoot at a local suffragette memorial with them wearing Jane Austen themed shirts that say “Society of Obstinate, Headstrong Girls.”

    One day, they won’t need permission to be loud and have big dreams, but today? I’ll teach them they always have MY permission to be authentically themselves, whoever that may be.

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    #27

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism My two sons each have one night a week where they help me make dinner.

    Tonight my almost 4 year old helped me make meatballs and dumped spaghetti in a pot. Obviously I’m not having him put things into or take things out of a hot oven, or touch the stove, but he’s mixing ground beef and I had him salt the water before I boiled it, etc. So like it’s easy for their ages, but it’s a start.

    My sons *will* know how to cook.

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    Robert Beveridge
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex castigated me for it, but I started my 13yrold on knife skills when he was 5. He's thanked me for it multiple times this year.

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    #28

    Elderly woman in floral dress and pearl necklace speaking to a man outdoors, highlighting small daily feminist wins. Since the queen died I exclusively call her successor the male queen. It gets a giggle out of my feminist friends.

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    For many, "male queen" is used in a different context.

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    #29

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism My almost 90 year old grandma always address cards to my family with “Dr and Mr Jones” and I love it. FWIW, my hubs is unbothered by it.

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    cerinamroth
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I loathe being called "Mrs *husband's initial* HUSBAND'S LAST NAME" - by my own family members. And after explaining after the wedding that we had chosen a double last name, Filipino style, made up of both of our names. I am not an appendage of my husband!

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    #30

    I don’t wear makeup at all anymore which feels significant because I’m an attorney and often in court.

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    Fire Singer
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Gave up on makeup years ago, I'll wear it once every few years when I'm feeling fancy, but I just didn't get joy out of wearing it. It was a chore for me. I have a friend who LOVES doing her makeup and that's awesome. If you like it, do it, if you don't, then don't. There should be no expectation just because you're a woman. Oh and men, you can wear makeup too if you want!

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    #31

    “I Want Dad To Feel A Tiny Bit Of Shame”: Women Share 50 Clever Micro Acts That Challenge Sexism When our school district has a snow day, a lot of the dads show up to the office and the moms don't. So I like to ask the dads, "Who's taking care of the kids?".

    They always seem confused to hear that question, even though women hear it all the time.

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    Child of the Stars
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm the mom and I'm confused by this. Why would either parent show up to school on a snow day?

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    #32

    I like doing chivalrous acts for men. Opening doors, asking if they need help with grocery bags, etc. Tbh they always thank me, it's like a really kind role reversal.

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    Mel in Georgia
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would pointedly help put away equipment after a mixed chorus rehearsal. One older Southern gentleman told me that the men could handle it. I replied that I am strong enough to help, so why shouldn't I? He had nothing to say to that. I was an enigma to him. 😆

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    #33

    I ALWAYS pay whenever my husband and I go out to eat, or to the movies or wherever, even though our finances are completely shared, hahaha.

    Oh, also, in our house, my husband is the one that makes most meals, and our two daughters (3 and 4) are convinced that daddies are the ones that cook.

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    ArchangelLoki
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    4 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My fiance is vegetarian and I'm a carnivore. If I order a mixed grill and he gets mac and cheese, we always take bets on if the server will try to give him the big plate of meat. 9/10 we have to point out that I ordered the grill, not the man.

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    #34

    At work I’ve stopped asking and started telling the employees (all men but 3) to do what they need to do when I have to email them for something. Instead of “Can you turn this paperwork in please?” It’s “Turn your paperwork in, thank you”.

    At home my husband is a great partner and dad. We make sure our son sees us working together, being kind and affectionate to each other and we specifically talk with him about how we behave in our marriage and why. All boy moms should do this, we need to help our sons be likable and lovable and independent if we want them to be happy. All girl moms should too, but I think for boys the expectations are changing very quickly and they need to be prepared.

    I also don’t help either of them find things when it’s something that shouldn’t be a mystery, like bread for example.

    I’m not petty about any of it, I am polite and matter of fact at work and with things at home, and I think that’s important. Respect and equality should be the norm, and I’m going to act like it is.

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    #35

    Female teacher in a classroom setting, holding marker near a flip chart with notes on daily wins from feminists. I refer to all the teachers at my daughters’ school as “Ms.” and have convinced my husband to do the same. I explained that there is only “Mr” and why should a woman be differentiated based on marital status? He’s 100% all in and it’s amazing.

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    Tina Girard
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I remember the outrage when the idea of using Ms was first emphasized. The shrieking and howling about feminism gone mad. So of course I use it all of the time.

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    #36

    A woman explaining feminist small daily wins during a discussion with colleagues in an office setting. I don’t apologize for something that isn’t worth apologizing for like emailing someone a few times or asking for clarification.

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    The Big Bad
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm working on this one. I don't want to apologize for being good at my job anymore.

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    #37

    Father combing his daughter's hair in a cozy bedroom, highlighting moments of daily wins and family care. I made my husband in charge of doing our daughter's hair every morning.

    Quality is mixed, but we're working on it.

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    LuckyL
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I tried, but he just didn't want to put in the effort. He's an ex by the way. (and yes, this happen really often and it's not about doing our daughters hair)

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    #38

    I have intentionally started referring to my husband as my spouse without gendering him, husband carries too much patriarchal power in the work place.

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    RamiRudolph
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    "Patriarchal power"? Do you have any idea how stupid you sound?

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    #39

    I address envelopes—Xmas cards, invitations, etc —with the woman’s name first.
    “To Mrs. and Mr. Smith”
    “To Mary and Bob Smith”
    I didn’t think anyone would really notice….but they did!

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    #40

    Young children sitting at a table enjoying snacks, representing small daily wins and empowerment related to feminists. Calling the dad first instead of mum when kid is sick at school, addressing cards/letters to the female partner first.

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    Jaya
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Fun fact: most places will automatically call the mom if the parents didn't specify who they want to be called, and quite a few places will even call the mom instead of the dad when the parents DID say that they want the dad to be called. Absolutely ridiculous.

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    #41

    Standing my ground on public transit vs the manspreader, leaner, snorer. Yes I will hip-chuck, shoulder nudge, or clap my hands to wake you up.

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    L.V
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't mind the snoring, but don't encroach on my personal space!

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    #42

    Mine would be training my kids to get and find things themselves. When they ask me for something I alway ask, are you looking with your mouth or with your eyes? That generally makes them take a better look and find the said item, vs defaulting to having mom find it.

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    GrowingThruConcrete
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I started charging a 9.99 fee for those types of questions- or an exciting deal! you get 2 for $30

    #43

    Woman smiling while using a laptop on a couch, representing small daily wins from feminists in a relaxed home setting. When I created all the fake employee data for our product demos, I made all of the managers women and all the women make more money than the men.

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    And then got fired...

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    #44

    My sister goes one step further whenever someone talks to her about football and pretends to have no idea what they're talking about and then goes "Oh, WAIT! You're talking about MEN'S football. Sorry, I don't watch the male lionesses."

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    nicholas nolan
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Why the f**k are you talking to me about sports?" tends to shut everyone up. I had to learn about that s**t whist working "counter sales" at my job. F**k. That. No more. You wanna talk about sports, you're catching a half hour of obscure WRC rally factiods.

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    #45

    Young woman organizing and unpacking boxes at home, illustrating small daily wins from feminists in everyday life. Before starting a slightly challenging task: “well… if men can do it.”

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    Tina Girard
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my late grandmother (born in 1906) always said to never wait on a man to do something you can do yourself.

    #46

    Never cleaning the kitchen at the office. It’s nobody’s job, which means it’s not my job.

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    Nota Robot
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I clean up my own stuff. Nothing more, nothing less.

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    #47

    At work, whenever I have the chance, I point out that there is also a baby changing table in the men’s bathroom. Especially if there’s a line for the women’s since the changing table there is in the ADA stall.

    I’m also a manager and I make sure to go over everything I can with my pregnant employees so they understand their rights during pregnancy, during leave (in a state with its own policies), and when the return to work (especially if they want to pump). I do what I can to help all employees maximize their parental leave when they want to - the men also so that they are available to support their partner.

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    Lee Gilliland
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is usually a changing table in men's bathrooms, put there by an overoptomistic female designer.

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    #48

    Had only ever taken my kiddo to women's professional hockey games. When I took her to an AHL game a couple of years later, she asked where are the girls? I told her this was a boys team. Her response, "But boys can't play hockey, only girls."

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    Auntriarch
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    During Margaret Thatcher's regime, a little boy was overheard in a playground "I don't want to be prime minister, that's a girl's job!"

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    #49

    Young woman working at desk with laptop and documents, focused on writing, representing feminist daily wins concept. I work in mortgage lending… whenever a hetero couple wants to put in an application manually (they give me the info and I fill it in)… unless they specifically request it one way, or the man is the only with an income, I always put the woman as the primary borrower. Which means she will be listed first and sometimes only on all the important financial documentation and on the county documentation like the home’s title.

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    Nota Robot
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, that IS infuriating. My wife's name just isn't listed on the insurance or mortgage, though the contract does state we're both covered.

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    #50

    I draft all docs to be gender neutral & teach my daughter to say “person” rather than man or woman. Tiny things!

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    #51

    Mine lately has been "why is that the focus?" Any time a man tries to deflect when women are talking.

    And the only way to avoid answering the question is going to be them ending the convo cuz there will be follow up if they give a non-answer.

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    #52

    Not sweeping the office every time because I'm the only woman out of 3 in the office. I will do it 1 out of 3 three times, though.

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    Tina Girard
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was sweeping with a straw broom at work once when a co-worker looked at me and said "leaving us so soon?" I died laughing.

    #53

    My toddler is in her “mine!” phase, and we tell people she is practicing her assertiveness.

    I’m a teacher, and I always make sure to call the dads, include them in meetings, and refer to them during meetings if they’re not present.

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    nicholas nolan
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh, I really hope they're still correcting that kid's behavior behind the scenes. I spent way too much time around kids that were allowed to continue that mine phase into school ages.

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    #54

    My Siri is a male voice who does my bidding, and our robot vacuum is “he.”

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    Kimberly Alison
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Love it! Ha! I’m changing my SIRI voice tomorrow!

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    #55

    Claiming all of my legroom on an airplane. If you're man-spreading into my space, prepare to awkwardly touch my calf the entire flight. Then I double down by taking both armrests if I'm in the middle.

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    Petra Schaap
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    5 months ago (edited) Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    first of all; middle seat gets the armrests (unfortunately not everyone seems to know that) second of all; HELL YES. You can not push or poke me away. If you're getting really annoying i will ask out very loud to please stop touching me. and if Spidey here tries to touch me he is in for a nice surprice. (i have unlimited petty revenge)

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    #56

    Waitress serving croissant to man working on laptop in cafe, highlighting small daily wins from feminists. Ooooo I like this. At work (I’m a server) I always place a woman’s food down first (after kids if there are kids at the table). If there are little ones at the table and I have a hot plate for little one instead of placing the food in front of mom to handle I place it in front of dad. And if they are splitting food I place the empty plate in front of the man and the plate with food in front of the woman.

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    Lubica Acker
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a common standard practice and has been taught as part of the etiquette for decades.

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    #57

    I'm an elementary teacher so my kids already see a lot of women, but I always make sure to read books about women who have jobs and are good at them.

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    #58

    Every time my dad says ‘she’s a nice girl’ or whatever, and the person is clearly not a child I say ‘woman’ and smile at him until he repeats the sentence properly.

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It's not just about respect - it's also about accuracy. I know adult males who can be called "nice boys" but fail to be nice men. The same is true with some women.

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    #59

    I like to hold doors open for big burley men.

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    Susie Elle
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I do this too, but it's more out of common decency

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    #60

    One of mine has always been paying for a meal/event tickets occasionally on a date. I can tell a lot by the way the guy responds.

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    #61

    At work I use traditionally masculine names rather than traditionally feminine names if using a turn of phrase. So "Negative Nancy" becomes "Negative Nathan" and "Pollyanna" becomes "Pollyaaron."

    Also when spelling something for someone in customer service over the phone (at work or at home) I use fun or female names. So A as in Adam, B as in Boy and C as in Cat becomes A as in Anna, B as in Bethany / Beautiful and C as in ... well still cat lol.

    At home I am raising my young daughter to not "owe anyone her affection / touch." And I don't let people guilt her into it. "Awww no hug goodbye? That makes me sad..." Nope sorry, be sad then. She doesn't want to so she doesn't. She's not rude, but I'm teaching her to be firm and clear.

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    Deborah B
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Use "Ned Flanders" in place of "Pollyanna" because "Pollyaaron" makes zero sense.

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    #62

    1- If sending kid birthday invitations via email, I will send to both parents rather than moms only (though tbh it’s usually mom responding. 2- I signed my husband up to be in the chaperone lottery for field trips. 3- I consult with schools and at meetings school teams will direct almost all questions at moms - they assume mom is default parent. I love to make sure questions and feedback are directed at dads as well - my small effort to get dad’s more involved at school and with their knowledge of their kids.

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    #63

    My husband cooks 6xs a week. It’s usually something elaborate. I cook once a week and it’s always pasta, jar sauce, and sautéed kale. He also plans dinners and grocery shops. Completely owns the cooking portion of our lives.

    gosh_golly_gee:

    My husband is the laundry spouse! He works from home and I don't, and he also is very particular about how the laundry is done, so he owns the whole deal. It's amazing to not have that take up space in my head.

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    AnnaB
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Off topic, but kale...🤮

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    #64

    I refer to every judge, CEO, lawyer, doctor, detective, and more as “she” by default until and unless I’m corrected.

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    #65

    When I'm in the grocery check out and a man is encroaching in my space, I just turn to face them and dead eye stare till they back up.

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    Daria
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    tbh i do that with anyone who dares to encroach

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    #66

    A firm handshake and look them right in the eye.

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I like a firm handshake. It's over quicker.

    #67

    At work, if I need to take a day off because my son is sick, I never apologize. I’m not mean about telling my boss I need off, but I no longer start sentences with “I’m sorry, but….”. My mom one, my son loves all things trucks/monster trucks. I make a point to get him ones that have more traditionally thought of girl colors. His favorite one has hot pink wheels, and a neon cheetah print on the body; it’s a baddie.

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    Fire Singer
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A friend of mines husband recently went through school for early childhood development, he said most boys actually like traditionally "girl" things like bright colors, baby dolls, and kitchenette toys, until someone inevitably says it's a girl thing then they stop using them.

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    #68

    I love this. My biggest thing is that my boys are responsible for a dinner a week starting in middle school and have always done there laundry.

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    #69

    Doctor in a white coat reviewing documents while consulting a patient in a professional medical setting. When talking about what people do for a living you can for example say "he's a male doctor" instead of "he's a doctor". It bothers them so much for no reason.

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    Chonky Panda
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But isn't the word doctor gender neutral?? If you're already adding he or she before, it really doesn't matter, right?

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    #70

    When I fill out forms that ask for “father’s name” but not mother’s name (common in Greece, my home country), I just write it in (i.e. “Mother’s name: …”)

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    #71

    I am on [mat] leave right now and I will only refer to it as “parental leave”. I also helped redesign my company’s leave policy and changed the language to “birthing” and “nonbirthing parent” because I think the language shift puts more of a focus on how supporting both types of parents with leave supports the full family. I think that de-gendering both of these makes it so having, bonding, caring, raising a newborn is less of a “lady thing”. Love all the parenting ideas!

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    Michael Largey
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As so often is the case, the more inclusive phrasing is the more useful. “Birthing” and “nonbirthing parent” can be used to describe a lesbian couple who are using artificial insemination as well a hetero couple comprised of a mother and a father.

    #72

    Professionally, I staff women to my projects if they’re on equal level with a man for the same role.

    Personally, we’ve taught my daughter that if someone touches her without her consent (like another kid grabbing her arm; inappropriate touching has been a whole other conversation), she can tell them to stop, yell at them to stop, then physically stop them in whatever way necessary. At age 4 a boy at the playground wouldn’t stop grabbing her arm so she did the full escalation, ending with pushing his hand off which shoved him down a small hill at the playground. His mom was pissed, I laughed in her face.

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    RomanceRadish
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Girls, for so long, were taught to be "nice" and "agreeable" and "don't cause a scene."

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    #73

    I had some major health issues a couple years ago, and when in hospitals I'd call every male doctor by his first name, but ask every woman who entered the room "are you the doctor?" Just to shake things up.

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    Chonky Panda
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Huh? Asking woman that question is still rude imo

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    #74

    I look men directly in the eyes if I catch them looking at me, fix my gaze, and refuse to look away - like everytime they they glance again they see me looking at them - until they physically respond in some way (like completely turning away, talking to someone next to them, looking at their phone etc)

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    #75

    I never put my contact number as primary parent on any forms (doctor, school, etc.).

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    #76

    Businesswoman discussing small daily wins from feminists with male colleague in a modern office hallway during workday. You can complement a man saying, “You are a pretty good lawyer, for a man.“ “You are an l excellent architect for a man.”
    See how they like it.

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    MistBorn
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This shouldn't be used as a everyday exchange, it's more suitable as a reply to a snarky comment

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    #77

    Female scientist wearing a lab coat and mask, analyzing a sample as an example of feminist daily wins in science. I work with both male and female doctors. Any day I’m working with a male surgeon, I use the pronouns “he or she” when talking about them. When I’m working with a female doctor, I just use “she.” The majority of my patients are boomers who tell me they haven’t seen a doctor all day because they had a female doctor round on them in the morning.

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    #78

    I am making my son help me with yard work next weekend, because it’s ridiculous that moms always have to do yard work, their husbands are perfectly capable of helping with that. This may have stemmed from a fight I had with a bunch of thorns last weekend.

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    K Barnes
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's interesting, where I live yard work is a traditionally male gendered role rather than female. Growing up, typically dads did the yardwork and moms did the housework. Gardening being an exception.

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    #79

    Most creatures and things are “she” by default. Husband and I both do a lot of the chores. Repairs and stuff are done by whichever of us feels more comfortable. I’m great at fixing toilets and sinks while he’s my fridge guy. I don’t really when I make meals but she’s learning how. I tell her she can do almost anythings boys can do and if she’s bad at something, it’s probably not because she’s a girl. We also touch on non-cis people existing. She’s only 3, so….

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    #80

    When I meet a male CEO I cheer “Boy Boss!”

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    #81

    “love the pixie cut!” to random men

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    #82

    When men look like they are agro at each other, going to fight, or ones standing up to another one etc, I say omg yall are the cutest couple, where did yall meet?

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    #83

    Making mommy shark as big as daddy shark. (not directly applied to my job but, i still do it every time!).

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    #84

    I ask if they’re sexually active.

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    #85

    Whenever I see animals behaving well/being cute, I refer to them as female “what a cute little lady” and whenever I see an animal behaving badly/being ugly, I refer to them as male “what an ugly little guy”

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    Mreoww
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    5 months ago Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s getting to close to misandry.

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