To put it simply, gatekeeping is an act when someone takes it upon themselves to decide who does or does not have access or rights to a community or identity ("You can't be a real Phoebe Bridgers fan, you just discovered her. Real fans follow her since at least Stranger in the Alps.") If this sounds ridiculous to you, don't worry. You're not alone.

There's a subreddit called r/GatesOpenComeOnIn and it describes itself as the polar opposite of gatekeeping. Created in 2018, this online community collects and shares pictures of wholesome acts of kindness when people had each other's backs. Whether it's encouraging everyone to share their Spotify Wrapped or simply allowing someone to feel tired, it doesn't take much to acknowledge another person's emotions, thoughts, experiences, values, and beliefs. Continue scrolling and check out how it's done.

#1

Wholesome Patriotism

Wholesome Patriotism

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Marianne
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3 months ago

This! I cannot express how much I agree.

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As you can see from the pictures, empathy goes a long way. Developing it is crucial for establishing relationships and behaving compassionately. Since empathy involves experiencing another person’s point of view, rather than just one’s own, it enables prosocial or helping behaviors that come from within, rather than being forced.

Sadly, some surveys indicate that empathy is on the decline in the United States and elsewhere. But at least these findings motivate parents, schools, and communities to support programs that help people of all ages enhance and maintain their ability to walk in each other’s shoes.

#2

Halloween For Everyone!

Halloween For Everyone!

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
3 months ago

nice - but what religion does forbid costumes?

Anne
Community Member
3 months ago

Jehova's Witnesses do according to a quick google (I got curious :) )

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Eva the Egg
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3 months ago

This reminds me of men in black :P

James016
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3 months ago

I love that the kid on the left has an ear piece.

Florencia Renedo
Community Member
3 months ago

We need the world to repopulate with kids like these ones.

Rukkia
Community Member
3 months ago

Bought a gift for one of my friends for his birthday in high school. He couldn't accept it because his family were Jehovah's Witnesses and don't celebrate birthdays. So I gave it to him the next day as a friendship present. It was the first birthday (friendship) present he ever got.

Ami Temi
Community Member
3 months ago

I feel a bit sad because of that. To them, it's normal, but I love celebrating birthdays just so much and can't imagine not doing that. As long as they're happy, it's fine, though.

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LottieH
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3 months ago

I love this 💞

Mewton’s Third Paw
Community Member
3 months ago

That’s so sweet it gave me chills! How fücking DOPE are these kids?! So awesome.

Brittany
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3 months ago

So DOPE!

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MaryAnn Ryan
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3 months ago

Sadly, Jehovah's Witnesses. No celebrations allowed.

Mewton’s Third Paw
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3 months ago

Sinkvenice, why didn’t you give the same response to Mary Ann as you did to Uncle Trash?

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Rachel Peterson
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3 months ago

OMG, this was unexpected and made me cry! <3 <3

kasa alex
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3 months ago

That's actually a really cool group costume idea :)

Iggy
Community Member
3 months ago

What lovely kids!

Debbie
Community Member
3 months ago

Cool kids!

Ember
Community Member
3 months ago

Brilliant! We can learn so much from kids like these...

Chimmels
Community Member
3 months ago

Not so secret anymore

Verena Gitterle
Community Member
3 months ago

Good idea!

G
Community Member
3 months ago

This is awesome. And it's not just Jehovah's Witnesses. I know of people who are Christians who won't let their kids dress up for Halloween because they consider it unholy. It could be due to a specific religion or it could just be due to their beliefs about what Halloween means.

Rebekah
Community Member
3 months ago

Love the kid with the ear piece.

sunflower
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3 months ago

Brb CRYING.

Simon Kwan
Community Member
3 months ago

Everyone should have friends like these.

BonnieBlueButler
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3 months ago

THIS!

lara
Community Member
3 months ago

Great idea. Or they could have been in the Matrix.

CincyReds
Community Member
3 months ago

Nice! What a great group of friends!

George-Florin Constantin
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3 months ago

There's a religion that doesn't allow... costumes? There's one tiny bit of trivia that proves, yet again, what dangerous delusions religions are....

James F. Wilson Jr.
Community Member
3 months ago

Kids are only taught to hate because of their parents and so many times they chose to overcome those teachings.

Damon Tripodi
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3 months ago

Religion is stupid

Tabby_Sohee
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3 months ago

That is the cutest thing I’ve ever seen, such heartwarming friends!!

Eric
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3 months ago

wow! how thoughtful! :)

Id row
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3 months ago

Reason #455 why religion should be abolished.

Kathleen Clark
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3 months ago

I love these guys!! They are smart and forward thinking!!

Cristian Filip
Community Member
3 months ago

Why does a child have a religion? Wouldn't be more accurate "his parents religion"?

Anggi Santika
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3 months ago (edited)

In many countries it's a culture (sometimes even law) that children takes religion of their parents as it's parents duty to teach them moral, when they grow up they can choose (supposedly).

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dido74
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2 months ago

What a great bunch of kids!

Elaine Mattingly
Community Member
2 months ago

Strong sign of intellengence, not running rampant destroying everything, chosing instead to find a new and better way. I respect these young men.

Ariah Sharp
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2 months ago

Christianity, we believe that halloween was originally a holiday for satanists (which it was) and then it was adapted to modern culture. But there still are some satanists that still use this holiday to worship satan. So we do not celebrate it (at least my families form of christianity)

Steve in Denver
Community Member
2 months ago

This really hit me. Kids being AWESOME always strikes me deeply.

Sally Spelbring
Community Member
3 months ago

ROTFLMAO THANKS FOR SHARING

Cybele Spanjaard
Community Member
3 months ago

Thanks boys ..

HorseMuse
Community Member
3 months ago

This is the best! Grand Prize !

Christel Nellemann
Community Member
3 months ago

That is so good. Great friends. And the red tie kid looks so proud and happy. They have his back .

Jaqueline Gillespie
Community Member
3 months ago

Great kids

Alex Hamilton
Community Member
3 months ago

We Yids have Purim when ALL the kids dress up.

Karen Webb
Community Member
3 months ago

how innovative and kindbess overflowing. this boy is blessed to have such friendship

Patricia Stilwell
Community Member
3 months ago

I love the radio earpiece on the guy to the left of the "President."

I'm a gay trans bitch
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3 months ago

awwwww

David Zhou
Community Member
3 months ago

hello? president justin coming. The secret service is on gaurd.

Jill Tremblay
Community Member
3 months ago

I think the Baptist Religion is against Halloween also....?

OMEGA
Community Member
3 months ago

this is too wholesome

23AClark
Community Member
3 months ago

😘❤❤❤

Shinebright
Community Member
3 months ago

It’s badai religion everyone just for your factual information

leia's emotional cupcake
Community Member
3 months ago

I love that there is a girl too.

Ben Smith
Community Member
3 months ago

Nice...but the child is still in costume.

Patricia Rose
Community Member
3 months ago

Cool! Way cool!

Patricia Rose
Community Member
3 months ago

This is cool. Way cool!

Tina B
Community Member
3 months ago

That description should have stopped before the last word.

Sonakshi Lahiri
Community Member
3 months ago

He looks like indian..but hinduism doesnt forbid costumes..weird

Melissa Nunya
Community Member
3 months ago

If it's for religious reasons his parents may not be cool with the loophole, unless no one told them

Courtney Christelle
Community Member
3 months ago

VERY thoughtful boy!

KimTx
Community Member
3 months ago

This is awesome!

Connie Martin
Community Member
3 months ago

This is FABULOUS

KathyinHawaii Gumpel
Community Member
3 months ago

And women

El Dee
Community Member
3 months ago

I didn't think there was a religion that stopped kids dressing up? I mean it's not like it's actually a Christian thing anyway..

Soveyra Munoz
Community Member
3 months ago

😎

Brittany
Community Member
3 months ago

I wanna be a part of that cool kids club!

WholesomeArmyweeb
Community Member
3 months ago

Aww that’s so cute

Irahs Lirab
Community Member
3 months ago

NOT VERY TOLERANT of others wishes...just wanted to toot your own "justin's" horn. Typical WHITE LIBERAL.

tmw
Community Member
3 months ago

I think islam may also. THere is an episode of little mosque on the prairie about hallow e'en.

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3 months ago

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Ozacoter
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3 months ago

Very wholesome from the friends. But terrible for the poor kid to be forced into a religion that limits his freedom like this.

Anna Banana
Community Member
3 months ago

I don't know how I feel about this... I'm an atheist and I think religions do more harm than good, but perhaps this kid is getting other celebrations that his friends aren't? Maybe you are looking at it through the lense of your culture, where Halloween is an important tradition, so you feel he's missing out, but maybe he has other fun traditions?

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#3

Come On In And Long As You’re Nice

Come On In And Long As You’re Nice

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Sian Waldron
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3 months ago

As an atheist I love this sign ❤️

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Empathy really is a superpower: it helps us cooperate with others, build friendships, make moral decisions, and intervene when we see others being bullied.

Humans usually begin to show signs of empathy in infancy and the trait develops steadily through childhood and adolescence.

That being said, most people are likely to feel greater empathy for someone like themselves and may feel less empathy for those outside their family, community, ethnicity, or race.

#4

Everybody Say Thank You To Andy

Everybody Say Thank You To Andy

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Marianne
Community Member
3 months ago

Thank you Andy!

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#5

Making Your Child Happy

Making Your Child Happy

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Helen Haley
Community Member
3 months ago

That, is a good day.

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#6

Minding Your Own Business Is Free

Minding Your Own Business Is Free

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am_c0m0
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3 months ago (edited)

Minding our own business would solve a lot of our problems.

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Like other traits, empathy may have evolved with a selfish motive: using others as a "social antenna" to help detect danger. From an evolutionary point of view, creating a mental model of another person's intent is critical: the arrival of an interloper, for example, could be deadly, so developing sensitivity to the signals of others could be life-saving.

Babies display an understanding that people’s actions are guided by intentions and can act on that understanding before they turn 18 months old, including trying to comfort a parent. Advanced reasoning about other people’s thoughts develops around age 5-6.

#7

Bikinis For Boys

Bikinis For Boys

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John Smith
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3 months ago

Hahahaha....

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#8

Gates Open Slide On In!

Gates Open Slide On In!

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IzzieM
Community Member
3 months ago

look at that happy face!

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#9

Read Whatever You Want

Read Whatever You Want

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IzzieM
Community Member
3 months ago

I support this!

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Experts say that people high in narcissism, or who have a narcissistic personality disorder, can exhibit empathy and even compassion. However, that ability only goes so far, as ultimately they prioritize their own needs.

Some researchers believe narcissists can become more empathetic by developing greater self-compassion, which can increase their own feelings of security and self-worth and enable them to open up to hearing others.

#10

Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

Shout Out To The Solo Eaters

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Something
Community Member
3 months ago

This made sense in 2018 when eating in restaurants was normal.

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#11

Do What Makes You Happy For You

Do What Makes You Happy For You

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John Smith
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3 months ago

Both it's okay....

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#12

Unexpected Pet

Unexpected Pet

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pei meow
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3 months ago

Awww!

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#13

Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win

Someone I Went To School With Posted This About Giving Their Son A Unicorn-Themed Birthday Bash. Positive Parenting For The Win

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Zuila
Community Member
3 months ago

My boy loves colour pink and red. As soon as he was able to show it to me, I have made him red birthday cake and bought red or pink clothes. He also liked to play with baby doll, toy washing machine and cooking gadgets and we allowed him to play what ever he wanted. That phase has now mostly passed, but red is still his favourite colour.

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"Do a thought experiment," Mark Davis, a professor of psychology who has spent decades studying empathy, said. “Imagine if humans didn’t have the capacity for empathy. What would it mean if, in fact, we never gave a damn about what happened to other people? That’s an almost an inconceivable world."

"As awful a species as we can be — and we certainly have the capacity for terrible things — we’re also capable of some pretty wonderful things, noble things, self-sacrifice."

#14

Family Is A Family Is A Family

Family Is A Family Is A Family

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Julie C Rose
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3 months ago

A while ago someone asked me if I “have a family”. I said yes and was genuinely confused when she started asking me about kids.

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#15

Southern Hospitality

Southern Hospitality

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Ms.M.
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3 months ago

⬆️ this guy rocks

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#16

Anyone Can Be Tired!

Anyone Can Be Tired!

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ADHORTATOR
Community Member
3 months ago

Thank you!

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#17

Never Too Late To Join A Movement

Never Too Late To Join A Movement

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Natalia Shoemark
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3 months ago

Good point!!!

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Interestingly, the word "empathy" is relatively new. It didn’t enter the English language until the early 1900s, derived from the German word einfühlung, according to Daniel Batson, a researcher of empathy and professor emeritus at Kansas University.

#18

Felt Like This Might Belong Here

Felt Like This Might Belong Here

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MauKini
Community Member
3 months ago

My husband doesnt find my jokes funny, but he cracks up when i cant finish the joke because im laughing so hard.. I love him!

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#19

It's The Thought That Counts

It's The Thought That Counts

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IzzieM
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3 months ago

8 am class with a fun lecturer, where do I sign up?

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#20

Never Too Late For New Beginnings

Never Too Late For New Beginnings

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am_c0m0
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3 months ago

This should get more upvotes!

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While some people are more naturally empathetic than others, there are easy, evidenced-based exercises that anyone can do to increase their empathy. 

First, talk to new people. Trying to imagine how someone else feels is often not enough. Luckily, the solution is simple: ask them. "For me, the core of empathy is curiosity," Jodi Halpern, a psychiatrist and bioethics professor at the University of California, Berkeley, who studies empathy, told The New York Times. "It's what is another person’s life actually like in its particulars?”

#21

We Are All Nerds Together

We Are All Nerds Together

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Roxy Eastland
Community Member
3 months ago

I can completely relate to this. I love it when I discover that a friend that I've known for years has an in depth knowledge on a subject I never suspected.

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#22

Does This Truck Count?

Does This Truck Count?

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CrazedFalcon17
Community Member
3 months ago

:D

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#23

Good Guy Owner

Good Guy Owner

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MauKini
Community Member
3 months ago

I love this. In Germany it is forbidden by the law to look for food in supermarket dumpsters. As long as the food doesnt pose a safety hazard, the food should be donated (which some supermarkets do, but its only a few plus they have to pay tax for the food which they are donating, so not many do this).

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#24

Hi Milly

Hi Milly

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Verena Gitterle
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3 months ago

HI MILLY!

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You can start conversations with strangers or invite a colleague or neighbor you don't know well to lunch. But the trick is to go beyond small talk – ask them how they're doing and what their daily life is like.

Put away your phone and other screens when you’re having conversations, even with the people you see every day, so you can fully listen and notice their facial expressions and gestures.

Also, follow people on social media with different backgrounds than you have (different race, religion, or political persuasion). 

#25

Stress Relief

Stress Relief

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Hans
Community Member
3 months ago

And do not geet engaged into ridiculous competition. You do not need to have read the full History of Middle-earth to enjoy watching the hobbit. (You should, though, before criticising supposed plot-holes.)

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#26

Money Is Power, But Also Not

Money Is Power, But Also Not

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Marianne
Community Member
3 months ago

Also when the minimum wage rises, you can hope that other employers will also offer more, to give people a reason to stay in their job instead of taking an 'easier' minimum wage job.

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#27

Better Late Than Never

Better Late Than Never

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Nat Hedley
Community Member
3 months ago

Dude in my graduating class (back in 1997) was 84 years old at the time of his graduation. Learn like you'll live forever, it's never too late.

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#28

Oh Thank You

Oh Thank You

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Roxy Eastland
Community Member
3 months ago

<3

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But don’t just stand in someone else's shoes, as the saying goes—take a walk in them. For example, consider attending someone else's church, mosque, synagogue, or other houses of worship for a few weeks while they attend yours, or visit a village in a developing country and volunteer.

If you don't have enough time for these activities, you can simply explore a new neighborhood, or strike up a conversation with a homeless person in your community.

If someone’s behavior is bothering you, think about why. Consider what it’s like to live their daily life.

#29

Gay Pride Can Be Whatever You Want/Need It To Be

Gay Pride Can Be Whatever You Want/Need It To Be

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Hans
Community Member
3 months ago

It is your life after all.

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#30

Friendly Encouragement

Friendly Encouragement

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ADHORTATOR
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3 months ago

this is good

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#31

How Lovely

How Lovely

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Zuila
Community Member
3 months ago

Thank you for this! Kids will never learn how to behave or communicate with others if they can't be at public places. My kids usually behave very well, but can be quite loud.

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#32

Showing Respect For One Another’s Professions

Showing Respect For One Another’s Professions

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Roxy Eastland
Community Member
3 months ago

What a weird comment. Don't we all love the person that turns up at our doorstep with our eagerly awaited parcel??

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Remember, you don't need to understand everything about someone to make them feel respected. Just don’t make assumptions about people based on what your life is like. The people on this list certainly haven't.

We’re all humans, and we all have a desire to connect with one another. Building our empathy, considering the perspectives of others, and opening ourselves to uncomfortable conversations can make that happen.

#33

Witches vs. Patriarchy

Witches vs. Patriarchy

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Reagan Maher
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3 months ago

Exactly, this goes for men too

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#34

Jesus Never Stutters

Jesus Never Stutters

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Eva the Egg
Community Member
3 months ago

DiD I F*****G StUtTeR?

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#35

You Get To Decide How You Define Being "Grownup"

You Get To Decide How You Define Being "Grownup"

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Something
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3 months ago

Why would a saleswoman at a furniture store not want to sell furniture?

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#36

All Allies Welcome!

All Allies Welcome!

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Sue Burrison
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3 months ago

Me too.

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#37

Taking Care Of Your Mental Health Is Important

Taking Care Of Your Mental Health Is Important

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Dietmar Pichler
Community Member
3 months ago

This is important.

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#38

We’re All In This Together

We’re All In This Together

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WilvanderHeijden
Community Member
3 months ago

A lot of people do make it their business to decide what other people should earn, how and where they should live and why they shouldn't have universal healthcare. They're called Republicans.

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#39

Ok Zoomer

Ok Zoomer

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Marianne
Community Member
3 months ago (edited)

Smartphones are the library of Alexandria? Wow, I have to remember this one!

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#40

They Had Us In The First Half

They Had Us In The First Half

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Ms.M.
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3 months ago

I truly laughed out loud. "God" is a gem!

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#41

I Love Sharing My Book Collection

I Love Sharing My Book Collection