31 Things Parents Do That Obviously Show They’re Not Doing A Great Job, As Shared Online

I've seen this with my in-laws. They simply do not consider anyone else's thoughts, feelings, opinions, etc. to be valid unless you are agreeing with them.

We're just joking, stop being so sensitive, God people can't even take a joke anymore... Said every jerk family member ever

Don't know why you're down voted for this

Adult children... that's one thing. But when your kid is still a minor it is 100% YOUR JOB to provide for them and acting like they owe you for that makes you a s****y person

That's common enough. My mother's rule for adult children under her roof: either study or pay rent.

Totally agree (this is what I did, for the period I still lived with them). But as I was still in high school, my father would often rant about how he spent more on me as compared to my younger brother (who is 5 years younger). This was so hurtful and unfair: I was still a child and still in school.

We’ve made that age 21 in our house, and nominal rent at that, because I want them to save as much as possible to be fully prepared to move out on their own!

Graduated high school at 17, had a full time job. At my graduation party my things were packed and was told it was party for me to move out. Mom still claimed me as a dependent on her taxes and got my full refund that I needed. A lot. Some people don’t care

Well, maybe not 18, since many 18 year olds are still full-time in high school...

That is 100% not what this is about and you know it.

Nope, not in this economy

When my kids moved home after college their rent was putting half their earnings into savings.

People kind of choose to create, not be created.

Agreed, but not if it's retroactive. That's just greedy.

My mind has changed in the last 5 years. I have a 20 yr old who lives here rent free. He is working and saving. The cost of living has risen so high. It will take him longer to save what he needs to move out if I charge him rent and utilities.

That's just harsh at 18. If someone is still at home at 25 or something, yes, make them pitch in, but 18?

I dont think a parent should be charging a teenager for anything.... the kid is going to have enough memories of getting to pay and be responsible all on their own. Just love them, be a good example... now if they want to move back in with you @ 30, then that's something different

Everything after the “but” is irrelevant to what the OP was talking about.

That's not believing they owe you for raising them. That is you're an adult and living costs money.

That's not a child.

In this economy? What other choice do they have?

@Lydsylou: None of my four siblings or myself paid rent, and my youngest sister was the only one who moved out at 18. What was expected was that we took care of our personal stuff, like buying new clothes, putting gas in the car, buying movie tickets or going out. My parents were okay with giving us a bit of time to get jobs, save up the money so we could move out.

If you're not charging your child rent once they are no longer in school, you are a horrible parent who is not preparing your child for reality. With that said, you should take every penny they pay you and put it in an interest bearing investment account to give to them when they older and looking to buy a house.

tell me you are american (or live in a rich, prosper country) without telling me you are american.

Why?

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Good answer.

My mother is 87 and she firmly believes apologies, tears, emotions are all signs of weakness. Try that for your whole life.

Same here. He did everything he could to try to demean me or make me look stupid. Especially when I knew something he didn’t, he thought I was trying to make HIM look stupid and I wasn’t that way. I just wanted the correct info out there. He was also mentally abusive to my mother. When she passed in 2018 and I found out that he ignored her wishes and gave away things she wanted me to have, I decided I had had it with him and I have not spoken to him since 2018 and he’s 91 and I’ll never speak to him again. I don’t have a single good memory about him, not one.

Oh I am with you here ..went no contact with both parents in 1999.

You finally had the courage to choose for your own sanity and dignity. Good on you!

They never see what they're doing as wrong.

Good for you for cutting that toxicity out of your life.

It actually has the opposite effect. I would've respected my parents more if they had just admitted their mistakes instead of sticking to their guns or pretending it didn't happen.

Oh, that is not an apology. That is a passive-aggressive insult. I would get, "I'm sorry, but that's just the way I feel."

They sacrificed the wrong things. Too worried about the carpet stain to care the kid cut themself on the glass when they dropped it.

My grandmother had people outside the family convinced she was a sweet little old lady whose family abandoned her. But they never witnessed her vicious attacks on all of us.

Omg this is my family...think they did everything they were supposed to. Thanks sooooooo much for the anxiety disorder mom/dad

*mic drop*

My older sister: "You need to spend more time with Mom! Why don't you spend time with her?? You'll REGRET IT once she's gone!" lolno. My mother is a toxic, abusive narcissist. I will not regret "not spending more time with her" once she's gone.

I hate having to use my phone in grocery stores when I have my kids with me because of my shopping list, but I don't use my phone during other outings unless it's important and my husband is with us. I won't check text messages or answer calls. I set my phone to silent and drop it into my bag of mystery and only retrieve it in the car if I'm using GPS or playing music, if not I get it when we get home. However, I am terrified of my kids getting taken, hurt, or lost.