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Pride Month 2022 has kicked off, and the LGBTQ+ communities are celebrating the freedom to be themselves. Which, even though it's the 21st century, is still apparently threatening to some people.

I know it sounds absurd, but take the subreddit "Are the Straights OK?" for example. Its members regularly discover posts that discriminate against minorities, and often do so in a way that resembles all those toxic cliches from 25, 75, and even a few hundred years ago.

Continue scrolling to check out what statements have recently appeared on the subreddit and fire up Bored Panda's older publication on it for more similar jibberish if you want to go down the rabbit hole even deeper.

Given all the problems they have, you might be surprised that wealth creation, according to new research from Merrill Lynch, is actually happening at a faster pace among diverse communities, including the black, Latino, and specifically, the LGBTQ+.

The study focused on "affluent households," which, according to the three reports from Merrill Lynch, means US households earning more than $125,000. Affluent gay, lesbian, and transgender households saw their net worth skyrocket by a whopping 76% since 2015. (For comparison, the average "affluent" home saw its wealth grow by 53% during this time frame.)

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Double Standards

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Forget the boys, half the reason cited for those rules are the teachers. We apparently trust men less than i do my dog with a sandwich on my coffee table, but women are too emotional for presidency

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Not All Heroes Wear Capes

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Jesus Christ

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course. As long as it's not born, it's a person and they want to protect it. As soon as it's born, it's a burden and they don't care anymore.

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"As a gay financial planner, I have seen the difference in family dynamics between my hetero clients and LGBTQ+ clients," David Rae wrote in Forbes. "About one-third of LGBTQ+ respondents said family members did not support them. While I believe acceptance is improving, it is not a given."

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"LGBTQ+ Americans tend to get married later, and if they have children, they tend to have them later in life. Additionally, the cost of starting a family for LGBTQ+ individuals is usually much more expensive on average. That being said, for same-sex couples who don't have children, there is a lot more money to go around, which can make it easier to live a fabulous gay lifestyle while at the same time still building wealth."

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Better To Be Silent And Assumed A Fool Than To Speak Up And Remove All Doubt

Better To Be Silent And Assumed A Fool Than To Speak Up And Remove All Doubt

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Swimsuits

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Reminds me of how nipples are censored, only if they are female... even though they are anatomically identical to male ones.

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*gasp* Women Have... Veins?! Impossible!!

*gasp* Women Have... Veins?! Impossible!!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women with veins, how unnatural... next thing you're gonna tell me women can poop. It's crazy!

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Matt Walsh Is A Controlling A**hole And Jeffrey Combs Is An Absolute Gem

Matt Walsh Is A Controlling A**hole And Jeffrey Combs Is An Absolute Gem

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It's also important to point out that the LGBTQ+ community is still highly diverse, with members at the top and bottom of the income and wealth spectrums.

Merrill conducted an in-depth study to help understand the financial planning needs of the LGBTQ+ community. The study also explored the financial challenges that members of the LGBTQ+ community overcame. 'Diverse Viewpoints: Exploring Wealth in the LGBTQ+ Community' is just one in a series of studies that Merrill has commissioned.

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Caro Caro
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This made me tear up. The poor boy. I'm glad the mother stood up for her son and left the mother-effer!

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Nope, Definitely Not Ok, It's A Freaking Blanket!

Nope, Definitely Not Ok, It's A Freaking Blanket!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ouch that would have seriously hurt. That's a lovely blanket and beautiful colours. Sorry you went through that. :(

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"There is fear throughout the LGBTQ+ community about growing old alone," Rae said. "I could easily make a joke here about the fear of looking old, but this is a serious issue for many in the LGBTQ+ community. As a group, we face many challenges as we age."

"One pertinent question is, 'Who will look after us as we age.' LGBTQ+ folks are a third more likely to be concerned about paying for long-term care costs when compared to the general public. For one thing, long-term care is extremely expensive. Also, there is pervasive discrimination within many elder care facilities, both from residents and staff. These issues can be even more problematic for the transgender community and those living with HIV. I've spoken with many gay and lesbian seniors who have essentially gone back into the closet in their retirement communities."

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Why Can't Women Just Enjoy Their Boobies? Their Super Stuffed Up Milkies? Their Honker Wonker Doinky Bonkies?

Why Can't Women Just Enjoy Their Boobies? Their Super Stuffed Up Milkies? Their Honker Wonker Doinky Bonkies?

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ask him to strap two pumpkins to his chest for a day and see what he thinks by 5pm.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So If you're walking around with a big booger hanging out your nose... Wear it like a man!

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Ah Yes, Misogynistic Christmas Cards For All!

Ah Yes, Misogynistic Christmas Cards For All!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Gotta stop them from running away and screaming for help....what a fkn piece of sht!

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The US Department of the Treasury says that gay married couples make more money than lesbian couples, and both gay and lesbian couples make more than opposite-sex married couples.

"It is pretty easy to explain how gay and lesbian married couples can make more money per year and at the same time be paid less for equal work," Rae said. "The proportion of dual-income households among gay and lesbian couples is higher than that of opposite-sex couples. You may have two lesbians earning less both because they are female and lesbian, but if both work full-time, they, on average, make more than the so-called nuclear family where the husband works and the wife stays home (don't shoot the messenger, I'm just pointing this out)."

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Cait Doesn't Get It, And Neither Do I Mate...

Cait Doesn't Get It, And Neither Do I Mate...

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok and I don‘t get that a grown woman wouldn‘t know „what to do with herself“ just bc her man is away for 2 (!) days?? Are you a toddler?

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However, in many places around the world people from the LGBTQ+ community still have to hide and even flee persecution for simply being who they are.

"Among 84 million people who are currently forcibly displaced worldwide, LGBTQ+ persons are particularly vulnerable and marginalized," the UN said in a statement in May. "Fleeing persecution and socio-economic exclusion, they often reside in countries that do not provide strong human rights protections or actively discriminate based on sexual orientation and gender identity."

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Pretty Much

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

These are also the incels that tell women they will treat them like princesses, not like those Alpha Chads.

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I Genuinely Find This Hilarious Especially Knowing The Original Creator Was Being 100% Serious

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"The structural vulnerabilities that LGBTQ+ persons face are intensified by their situation as migrants, asylum seekers, refugees, or internally displaced persons," the statement continued.

"Persecution from State and non-State actors, as well as socio-economic exclusion fueled by stigma, discrimination, armed conflict, natural disasters, and climate change force many persons of diverse sexual orientation and gender identity (SOGI) to flee their homes in search of a safe environment, where they can live authentically and fully exercise their rights."

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Women Are Such Mysterious Creatures, They Never Say What They Want

Women Are Such Mysterious Creatures, They Never Say What They Want

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This happened several months ago so I blocked him after he kept trying to get me to date him. Now he somehow reached out to me on Skype and offline school will start in 2 days so now I have no choice but to see him in person

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That- That's Not What Loyal Is-

That- That's Not What Loyal Is-

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About Ice Cream

About Ice Cream

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N Gregory
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Well, if she bites it it means a) she's got teeth of titanium and b) she's a frickin animal - I mean, who bites ice cream? (I... may have missed the point)

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When You Think It Can’t Get Worse You Notice The Glove…

When You Think It Can’t Get Worse You Notice The Glove…

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Both clearly having a laugh. Probably work on/own the farm and this is how they handle pregnant livestock so they're making a joke of it while letting family & friends know they are expecting. I think it a-moo-sing anyway.

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Andrew Pugg
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am not often lost for words but.... . . ..but what a cockwomble, twatbadger of a person I cannot call him a man

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At Least He End It There

At Least He End It There

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, please end it! Good riddance. My God, I'm getting more disgusted by the minute reading this list 🤬🤬🤬

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Found Some Vintage Anti-Suffrage Posters That Show How Afraid People Were Of Women Voting

Found Some Vintage Anti-Suffrage Posters That Show How Afraid People Were Of Women Voting

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dee dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So basically they were afraid of ending up in women's shoes. Aha.

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Not Only Did People Get Mad About The Trailer, This Post Got Reported A Lot

Not Only Did People Get Mad About The Trailer, This Post Got Reported A Lot

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Can't really tell from the poststamp sized picture, but I take it the long haired groom is a woman, too?

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Ah, Poor Babies…

Ah, Poor Babies…

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't think I can type " for fks sake.." for every post in this list....

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How Do You Even... What

How Do You Even... What

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Yeah, Don't Have Sex Before Marriage

Yeah, Don't Have Sex Before Marriage

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This Sign Above A Children's Toilet

This Sign Above A Children's Toilet

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Are They Serious?

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Definitely Not Ok

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're a bit more than weird buddy. A bit more than weird.

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I've Lost So Much Respect For This Elon Musk Guy

I've Lost So Much Respect For This Elon Musk Guy

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Trillian
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Elon Musk and Putin have a lot in common. Like how could anyone have ever believed they were halfways decent? Y‘all need to have your a*****e radar checked.

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Honey,that Sounds Like A You Problem

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It's sad that men are brought up to be so homophobic, that they don't even dare marry a guy in a video game. Meanwhile they go out with the boys, get drunk, f*ck each other on a dare and don't consider it gay at all.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Racist and Sexist all in one! And Homophobic! That has to be a new record!

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This Is At A Kid’s Stationary Shop

This Is At A Kid’s Stationary Shop

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I May Be A Sex Repulsed Ace But Once A Week Seems A Bit Much When Your Partner Dosn't Feel Sexual Attraction

I May Be A Sex Repulsed Ace But Once A Week Seems A Bit Much When Your Partner Dosn't Feel Sexual Attraction

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes, because whatever the relationship and the orientation, seeing sex as a commodity that one submits to for the benefice of their partner regardless if their own desire is totally healthy and totally not-rapy.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It makes sense though. If you and your partner don't have matching sex drives one of you is going to be unhappy if you don't find a compromise. If one half of the couple is not willing to compromise then the relationship should end, if both are happy to compromise then it can continue.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely not. You always go at a frequency that the one who wants less sex can be ok with. Asexual or not. And accept it without nagging for sex even if it's frustrating. If you don't feel ok with your sex life you break up - it's a valid reason. Sure, you could come up with solutions like having an open relationship but that should be a mutual decision.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Devil's advocate here: if the ace person has no desire for sex but they are not in fact repulsed by it and once they have it they somehow don't mind/enjoy it, in that case scheduling some sex encounters with their partner can be doable. It's like eating a particular food: I don't crave for it but it doesn't disgust me so, if my partner cooks it and enjoys it, every once in a while I eat it too. It's just a theory, so please don't hate me. If any ace would reply with their opinion about it, I'll be happy to hear it.

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Emmydearest
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'll add that obviously it must not come from pressure by the partner. The couple needs to sit down and respectfully talk about boundaries and such.

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Terran
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

How about talking to each other, work something out, an if that doesn't work agree on a break up?

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M O'Connell
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What!? The "minimum number of times to have sex per week" is always Zero.

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Erin Eubanks
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So basically you're telling one person to weekly, rape another person.

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John Rizcallah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not at all. The asexual person is agreeing to have sex, not being coerced or forced or anything. This is a discussion between consenting partners. Rape is exactly the opposite.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Even apart from everything else, that just sounds incredibly unsexy for BOTH partners. Uh oh, it's Sunday and we haven't met the minimum quota for this week, better get it over with. I mean couples that DON'T involve an asexual don't schedule sex (in general, I mean if you've got 4 kids or whatever you may have to!).

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I actually think people are misinterpreting this one. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't some ace+non-ace couples active in that sense? That's something between the partners to discuss and make their own decision on. If asexuality is a spectrum, then it's good to mention that not every ace person thinks the same way! Every aspect of a relationship plays a role in it's success or failure, whether it involves an asexual person or not. This post is generalizing what ace people are comfortable with, and that I don't agree with in the slightest.

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xolitaire
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yes they exist and are "active" in that way, but it's a very delicate balance. A relationship like that needs clear boundaries and both partners openly stating what they can and can't do. And a "time table" like the article suggests is absolute bullsh*t and clearly made up by a person who doesn't really understand what asexual means.

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Bill cipher
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

people who think this will burn and as an asexual i will see to it that it happen >:(

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dee dee
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What the f**k?? The very definition of asexuality is having no desire for sex. So, the ace would be forced to have sex just to please the partner? That's not a partner, or that is not asexuality anymore. Maybe both. Ugh.what the hell people. Person can't understand asexuality, maybe they should steer away from aces and let them enjoy their lives in peace.

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John Rizcallah
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No. That isnt what the post says. Maybe you should actually read it? It says to talk it out and try to come to a compromise wherein they both agree to have sex because it is important to one of them. My gf LOVES to check the mail. I would never ever check the mail, otherwise. Literally never. We had a weird argument about it, but we compromised and I agreed to check the mail three times a week as time allows. I am doing something that I have no desire to do because it is important to her. We talked it out, like real adults. Same thing here. Talk it out, see if you can come to an agreement that makes everyone happy. Like fuxjing adults.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn’t about hooking up on tinder or Grindr, it’s about making a loving relationship work. The asexual person can feel free to tell the partner “we won’t be having sex ever” but that’ll likely be the beginning of the end

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Chilli
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok everyone, here are your red flags *Hands out red flags.* now, we're all gonna wave them on three.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As everyone has shared their opinion, I'd also like to share mine without being attacked. Thanks.

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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Asexuality is a SPECTRUM. There's something called gray asexuality, and demisexuality. This isn't widely known or something, apparently. But, not all asexual people think the same! No, this isn't at all implying rape and frankly I'm disgusted people even suggested that. Who jumps to that kind of conclusion? Seriously? Some asexual people feel repulsed by the idea of sex. In this scenario, this would be definitely not cool if the asexual partner is downright repulsed. In most cases, you won't find any sex-repulsed person with a person who isn't. That isn't common in the slightest. When it happens, it's people who value romance over anything else. There are plenty of asexual people who happen to NOT be repulsed by sex and simply just don't have the urges. Those people, are the ones typically most commonly seen in relationships with non-ace people. Let me explain why; it's a need/want for one partner, but it's not for the other. The other is neutral and can consent to it!

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To anyone saying "Well, in relationships you do things for your partner that you don't want to do because you love them" aren't getting it. Asexual is a large umbrella, but we seriously don't feel sexual attraction. Our libido is low (like we could go a lifetime without sex, years, decades). Weekly sex feels like torture. For us, not all but most, this would be like asking a heterosexual to have homosexual sex once a week. It's not a decision, it's who we are. If your partner doesn't get that, you need to move on.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you can't be in the relationship, then leave. That's exactly the point. You are in fact AGREEING with this post, just refusing to understand it. If you can't handle having occasional sex with someone that isn't asexual, then you can't be in a relationship with them. That's what the post actually says.

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Genevieve
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Don’t down vote me, I posted it before I realized that this is a very controversial subject. The article above is not okay, I will say that.

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Kate Jones
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

just get a freaking fleshlight. I get not wanting to be with a asexual person but this isn't like a new thing. Break up and move on or get a fleshlight.

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Roxy Eastland
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

There are techniques that can work for couples in this situation, that meet both people's needs, but just telling the asexual person they're going to have sex anyway isn't one of them.

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Cin
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If you start a relationship with an asexual, you know what you’re getting into and have to fully accept it. The idea of a minimum times of sex a week could potentially pressure someone into something they don’t want to do to please a partner. It’s something that has to just happen, not be planned.

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Kathy L
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why would an asexual person want to even BE in a relationship with somebody who insisted on sex? Why not--I dunno, break up--and both find more compatible partners?

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Daniele Tigli
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

"Siri, check my Calendar and let me know when would be a good time to f***"

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xolitaire
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Ok WHAT. I am ace and this is the absolute worst thing I have come across on this list. It totally disregards what the ace person in the relationship wants for the benefit of the other person. And on top of that it downgrades sex to a weekly chore. This is vile from start to finish.

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John Rizcallah
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No it fuxjing doesnt. It validates that both the ace and the non-ace are important, and both if their sexualities are important. Did you even read it?? Grow up, mate. People matter, even when they aren't you. Fuxking immature twat

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm borderline ace and my now ex would want to do the deed at most once a month because she was borderline ace as well. It didn't work that well because I'd have preferred twice. Once it got to a year without any activities we agreed that our 'frequencies' were a bit out. You can't force someone into it, that's called rape.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If two adults are in a loving and respectful relationship, compromising on this is like compromising on anything else. If you love someone you do things you don’t enjoy for the sake of their happiness all the time, and they do the same for you.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

...how else can an asexual and non-asexual person stay happy in a monogamous relationship? This seems perfectly reasonable to me. Solid relationships ship advice, even when neither person is asexual. For most people, sex is an important act of intimacy.

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JasonK
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Everyone here has no problem saying that the asexual person shouldn’t commit to having sex but in doing so you all are saying the sexual partner must commit to not having sex! Such a clear double-standard.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

No? The person who wants more sex is free to leave the relationship. That's what you do when you both have dealbreakers and they don't go together. It's a totally valid reason to break up. I say this as a person with a higher sexdrive compared to my partner. You are never allowed to put pressure into having sex. Sex is about mutual consent. If it comes to the point when you can't follow their pace without being miserable - end the relationship.

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