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30 Screenshots Of Toxic People Treating Their Significant Others Like Trash
Not every relationship ends in a ‘happily ever after.’ And sometimes, your knight’s shining armor is just for show. So much so that these people end up being called out on the front page of the internet for how awfully they treat their partners. Lies, accusations, and manipulation... it's an emotional rollercoaster that's more powerful than a soap opera.
Bored Panda has collected some of Reddit's most infamous posts about toxic relationships where people clearly don’t respect their significant other. You’ll find the stories and screenshots as you scroll down.
When you’ve read through this list, you can look through our previous articles about 'nice guys' who only pretend to be kind right here and here.
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#1
My Aunt’s Skeevy Boyfriend Went From Asking What My Husband And I Want For Christmas To This Garbage In 2 Minutes
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#2
I Understand Coming Out Can Be Difficult, But Cheating On Your Wife Of 20+ Years Isn’t Okay
Paulo Freitas 2 years ago
I know a guy like this, but in his defence, dude was a Sallesman ( image is very important ) and this was almost 30 years ago, plus everyone knew, even his wife, i assume they had an " understanding ", but he had 2 or 3 kids with her though.
#3
Please Show His Wife The Note And Money
There is an online community called r/niceguys that features some of the worst cases of people pretending to be nice, only to put down others when they don’t get their own way. ‘Nice guys,’ no matter their gender, tend to be jealous, controlling, and spiteful.
‘Nice guys,’ like the ones portrayed on the r/niceguys subreddit, as well as other online communities, are all about creating the appearance of being kind, wholesome, and supportive. The reality, unfortunately, is often very different.
#4
Husband Goes A-Wall Over Wife Giving A Man A Glass Of Water
#5
Going Your Whole Pregnancy Knowing Your Boyfriend/Husband May Not Be The Father, Yet Still Leading Him On Is One Of The Most Emotionally Abusive Things You Can Do To Someone
#6
It’s Been A Week Since I Kicked Him Out And Went N.c. This Morning, I Transferred My Anger Onto Paper
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
HE HIT THE DOGS?????? ONLY BIG FAT IDIOT A******S WITH DAMN F*****G A*****E ATTITUDES AND AN EMPTY BRAIN CAPACITY HITS DOGS 😡 HE WILL BURN IN HELL FOR ETERNITY
They usually have confidence issues that run very deep. They tend to be extremely jealous, and attempt to control who their significant others spend time with.
Their personal insecurities lead to relationships that are very unhealthy because they’re built on a foundation of suspicion and paranoia.
#7
Trashy Husband
#8
Who's That Pokémon!? It's Niceguy Cheating Boyfriend
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
People who say they’re a ‘nice’ guy upon first encounter, often via internet, are 98% not.
#9
I Can Hear The Wedding Bells
Jesse Setliffe 2 years ago
Go to police. Give ex-wife everything she wants in the divorce settlement. Remain alone from now on; you deserve to be.
Anyone can tell you that if you take trust out of the equation, you’ve got a relationship that’s pretty much doomed to fail. It’s not really a relationship if you’re always accusing your partner of lying to you or being unfaithful.
In some of the situations presented in this list, there are a few ways to tackle the problems at their source. The first is to have an open and honest conversation with your significant other about their behavior.
#10
Podcaster Says He Would Leave Her Wife If She 'Lets Herself' Go After Childbirth
"If my wife lets herself go after I have kids with her, I’m going to tell her once. If you don’t get your sh*t together, because I still want to be sexually attracted to my wife, my spouse, but if you can’t do that, I’m out’".
Sonja 2 years ago
He should tell that louder and more often and put it on all his profiles everywhere so women know to avoid that shallow idiot who'll only date them for their bodies and ditch them as soon as things go tough or they might lose their looks for whatever reason. I mean, no one in their right minds would ever date this guy. What if she has an accident? What if she gets cancer? Or something else that'll disfigure her? Getting married is gor the good times AND the bad times. If your love for your spouse only goes skin deep, you're not relationship material. At best, you are a toy to have fun... if you're pretty enough. Or pay some coin. But otherwise, you're not worth the investment that having a relationship needs.
#11
This Cb Demanding A More Expensive Bag From Her Boyfriend
Vasana Phong 2 years ago
If someone can please forward this rant to her boyfriend, and save him $500 a month
Nadine Debard 2 years ago
'I really feel like a loser'... Sure you are, but not for the reasons you think. Poor boyfriend. Poor, poor boyfriend.
cadena kuhn 2 years ago
My husband makes more then both of them and if he bought me a 700 wallet I would kick his a$$. You know how much actual useful stuff I could buy for that
Mistiekim 2 years ago
Your boyfriend gives you a monthly stipend AND buys you food and expensive gifts on top of that? Are you a girlfriend or some sort of sugar baby?
Historyharlot93 2 years ago
$5k a month is only $60k a year, which puts them in the middle class. Plus there’s about 22% taxes on that too. I’d like to know where on earth these people live if these boyfriends can just drop that much money on sugar babies. Doesn’t matter because it’s a troll.
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Vinita Talaulikar 2 years ago
Start working young lady and pay for your own luxuries, comforts and necessities..
DuchessDegu 2 years ago
I'd be beyond pissed if my bf gave me a $700 wallet! Give me a $10 wallet, and the rest in cash 😁 what a complete waste of money!
Bobert Robertson 2 years ago
Neither brand is for the rich. Both brands are for the snobbish middle class who want to look rich. Real wealthy people don't advertise brands and dress rather plain
Lola Atkinson 2 years ago
I think this nice girl needs to experience complete destitution and homelessness for a year. Would make her a better person.
Not-a-Clue-What-to-Call-Myself 2 years ago
SHE feels like a loser?! The boyfriend is a loser dating such an entitled [insert uncomplimentary designation here]
Dirk Daring 2 years ago
Having a $1000 wallet is a nice way of letting street criminals know you're a good target.
Pudgy Panda 2 years ago
Nah, people like that usually have nothing but maxed out credit cards in their wallets.
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Cerise Hood 2 years ago
I won't tell people how to spend their money, but the wealthiest people are the ones who usually don't flaunt it. The expensive purses are just for show.
MongoMarcia 2 years ago
I had to goggle cb. Oh, choosing beggar. I thought it was callous biatch from the context of this story.
Sabrina 2 years ago (edited)
CB is circuit breaker in Singapore during Covid-19 lockdown
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Deta Rossiter 2 years ago
i hope the BF reads rant, and drops this woman. I do feel sorry for who ever marries her though!
Ralph Kretschmer 2 years ago
Maybe she should date a cashmachine - because that's obviously what she sees in a boyfriend.
BetterBitterButter 2 years ago
I don't know how he's living with her? Let her live with her LV and Chanel.
Maltaros 2 years ago
The guy makes $60,000 a year yet she thinks he should have money to throw away. That barely covers rent and necessities in a lot of places. She needs to get her priorities straight. And no way is the guy making $48,000 a year throwing that much money at her sister unless he is doing a lot of side-hustle stuff.
HighNMightyBigshot 1 year ago
The REALLY good designer products don’t have their names plastered all over them.
Kevin Esson 2 years ago
You don't deserve a boyfriend. I hope you end up a spinster. That way you might realise what a horrible little b*tch you are.
Kevin Esson 2 years ago
You don't deserve any boyfriend! I hope you end up a spinster, you selfish b***
Kajira4evr 2 years ago
Aside from everything else... Doesn't she have a job? What does she do with it? Also, if she's that interested in the dosh there's a career change she could do Money isn't the most important thing in a genuine loving relationship
Ashley Thompson 2 years ago
Your bf is focusing on being wealthy while considering you, while your sister's bf is living poor with his decisions on spending money. Be grateful
Sean Simpson 2 years ago
This is how messed up her mindset is; even if we were to take her worldview of boyfriends giving girlfriends an allowance as acceptable, she says that her sister is physically more desirable than she is. Why would she think she could command the same price when she isn’t equally hot? Entitled^3 She deserves the shallow, unfulfilled life she will end up with.
Vicki Perizzolo 2 years ago
you're a selfish self-center b*atch... you need a serious reality check.. whiner
Dulcie Tolcher 2 years ago
Empty headed, selfish, jealous and needs kicking to the kerb. Needs a job as well.
Celtic Pirate Queen 2 years ago
WOW. Why would ANYONE want to be your boyfriend, you gold digging c*nt.
Judy Watson 2 years ago
This one needs to lose everything and go live on the street for awhile!
Sandra Morison 2 years ago
Get off you lazy backside and earn your own luxury items..........poor boyfriend hope he dumps her
Cara G 2 years ago
I am DYING to tell her that the likelihood of her LV wallet being authentic is literally 1%. The interlocking Vuitton logo was originally designed to avoid counterfeiting in the mid-19th century when the brand strictly made luxury luggage. Now 99% of all LV merchandise produced globally is fake because of how easy it is to replicate.
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
How in the hell can people afford stuff like this on $4000 per month? And why?
LynzCatastrophe 2 years ago
So a good bf is one who spends lots of money on you?! What have you done that has been worth a boyfriend at all?
Donna Leslie 2 years ago
This woman will never experience the bliss of feeling head over heels in love, she'll spend her life being judged by her friends, as she clearly judges everyone around her. My boyfriend earns very little, but I have never loved anyone more, I feel honoured to have the opportunity of sharing my life with him.
Private Caller 2 years ago
Other bf isn't smart with his finances. Yall a whole bill. I could never.
h to da izzle 2 years ago
F**k off and i hope you get to live in the woods with just the clothes you have on your body. Oh how i despise these people.
Rigor Moreno 2 years ago
I hope his bf read this and dump her immediately so she could lose everything. She'll know the difference for sure...
Jane Cortez 2 years ago
Oh my God! I hope that all of the people like this are thrown to the curb and have to live by their own dimwits in hopefully deep, dejected poverty.
Lara Verne 2 years ago
$700 for a wallet? Whoa. Well, I know it's not the main issue here, but WTF is that person thinking? Louis Vuitton is for poor people? Boyfriend give her "only" 500 just for her own spending? Boyfriend should find better girlfriend.
MimSorensson 2 years ago
I can’t with this one. No, got nothing, except of course RUN DUDE!! RUN TO THE HILLS, RUN FOR YOUR *LIFE*!!!!
LooseSeal's $10 Banana 2 years ago
These folks are living in an entirely different reality from the one I inhabit.
Rune Hamme 2 years ago
seriously, you better get out of here with your nasty, disgusting, scummy, ungrateful s**t unless you want to be terminated by brutal people on the internet XD
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
She needs to spend a few weeks scrubbing toilets for minimum wage
The Veil of Fire 2 years ago
And I got excited when I found a cool, no name, leather shoulder drop purse with fringe (rodeo season, cowboy fringe is "in"), for just $10.00. Still got it and it comes out during rodeo time. would not know what to do with just a wallet for $700. Just hand me the $700. I'll buy myself a $5.00 wallet put the rest in the bank and be thrilled with the gift.
Zachary Gillette 2 years ago
Um, I make over 4K a month too and I'd never buy any of that garbage. Also, who gives their GF an allowance?
The Other Other White Meat 2 years ago
M'lady, tis called getting a job and buying your own s**t. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
Melissa 2 years ago
Not necessarily. The sister might just have a really generous man who loves her and she appreciates him...unlike this brat.
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Neuropotathy 2 years ago
U don't have to ask me twice to lament about women being greedy. But this is a blatant troll.
#12
This Guy Chose To Get His Wife Pregnant Rather Than Be Alone
Katie Andrews 2 years ago
Childfree woman here. This guy was my worst nightmare when younger. I'd have gotten an abortion in a NY second rather than be baby-trapped and tied to such a manipulative jerk for life, with a baby I never wanted. So happy to be postmenopausal. That window is closed FOREVER, hooray!
Explain your position. Tell them how you feel when they don’t trust you or talk down to you. Set some clear and healthy boundaries. Though, keep in mind, a single conversation won’t save your relationship—it’ll take time and effort for real change to happen.
If that doesn’t work, you may want to consider couples counseling. Having a neutral third party give you a helping hand can work wonders. However, not all relationships can—or should—be saved.
#13
My Facebook Friend Posted Her Boyfriends Debit Card Info Because He Wouldn’t Give Her $40 To Get Her Nails Done
#14
My Sisters Boyfriend Trying To Guilt Her By Saying He Helped Her With Problems
#15
Looking For Fun (Aka Sex) While Husband Is Deployed, But You Must Attractive Smart And Drug Free To Cheat With Her
If your partner is physically or emotionally abusing you, reach out to a counselor or an organization for advice specific to your situation. These professionals can support you as you consider what to do next. There is no excuse for abuse.
#16
Girl Accuses Boyfriend Of Leaving Her After He And His Family Discover She's Been Faking Her Pregnancy For 8 Months
HardieBoysMama 2 years ago
This is the type of person that finds a needy pregnant woman, tricks her into meeting up by offering baby clothes, then tries to cut the baby out of her body.
#17
Context: He Posted A Pic Of Himself And His Wife On R/Tinder And Then Commented This S**t - His Brother In Law Then Saw The Post And The Comment
#18
Husband Who Is Struggling To Make Ends Meet Gets Mad At Wife For"Lowering Herself" Because She Found Coupons In The Trash To Feed Her Kids
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
Um… am I weird, or is that reaction from the dude totally messed-up?
What separates ‘nice guys’ from everyone else is the lack of genuine confidence. These ‘nice guys’ have a victim mentality and lash out at the people around them when things don’t go their way.
Again, this isn’t gender-specific: anyone can be toxic, it’s not just guys who are jerks.
#19
Can’t Get Ahold Of Boyfriend, She Cheats, And He Is In The Hospital
#20
Wife's Time Of The Month
Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
WHY SO YELLY? also, it IS that time of the month...that time where she educates this troglodyte about how easy it is to disappear a body.
#21
Married Niceguy™ Looking To Cheat After He Acts Like A Husband For A Night And It Didn't Get Him Laid
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
Am I the only one who is also concerned about the EYES of the human in the picture underneath that disgusting text?
A while ago, Bored Panda touched on the topic of building a genuine sense of confidence. A fitness expert explained to us that it all comes down to proving that “you’re not a victim.” He suggested focusing on small tasks and small victories at first.
According to the expert, helping others in need, taking care of your health, advancing in your career, and focusing on having a successful relationship are some of the things that will instill a sense of confidence.
#22
Trashy Girl Tried To Kill Her Boyfriend Instead Of Just Asking Questions
#23
I Can't For The Life Of Me Understand Why Her Boyfriend Has A Problem With This
#24
My Girlfriend's Ex's List From Circa 2009 For Getting Back Together
“When you’re successful in one area you build confidence in yourself and that will translate to all of your life,” he said, earlier.
However, positive changes aren’t instant. They take time. The fitness expert noted that “your brain needs proof around your new identity."
"Confidence comes from repetition and mastery. The more you do ANYTHING, the more confident you become. The good news about this is everyone is capable of earning confidence," he explained.
#25
Just Nice Guy Alen, Looking To Cheat On His Wife And Have You Cheat On Your Husband
#26
More Fun Texts From The Darling Ex Husband!
#27
"I'm Sorry" Says The Nice Guy Who Verbally Abused His Wife So Badly She Left Him In The Middle Of The Night
"Responding to failure is all about the story we tell ourselves. Do you tell yourself that you are a failure? Or do you tell yourself you failed, have now gotten feedback, and know how to get better? It’s all our perspective," he pointed out that we control how we respond to criticism and feedback. Some run away from uncomfortable truths. Others use them to grow and become better people, for the sake of their loved ones.
Many men featured on the r/niceguys subreddit are prime examples of toxic masculinity: they have a misogynistic attitude that arises from distorted ideas of what they ‘should’ be like.
A psychotherapist explained to us some time ago that people like that tend to think that men should “never be ‘weak’ or ‘soft’” or vulnerable. People who embody the traits of toxic masculinity feel that they always need to be winners and they tend to look down on women, as well as their rights.
#28
Police Officer Cheats On His Wife While On Duty And Gets The Other Girl Pregnant
#29
Nice Guy/BF/Husband??
The Ghost of Glasgow 2 years ago
I've been here. Don’t pity them. Don’t think "oh they've changed their ways" or "they didn't mean it." You leave their a*s. I didn't and ended up in a world of sh!t and difficulties mentally. That treatment is unacceptable and "ducking" manipulative.
#30
Ex Girlfriend Texts Me At Around 11:30 For A Hookup. Shes Married And Her Army Husband Is Deployed
“A man with healthy masculinity is the opposite to these traits: someone who is self-reflective, embraces their emotions including sadness, anxiety and crying, a man who isn't afraid of their own femininity and believes that women are equal, and therefore are very clear about respecting boundaries and consent with women,” the psychotherapist told Bored Panda during an earlier interview.
He added that healthy masculinity allows men to feel comfortable with having their opinions challenged. They’re open-minded and willing to have debates because they’re not scared of being proven wrong.
#31
When Your Maid Of Honor Sleeps With Your Husband
#32
"Good News, My Wife Died. Suh, Ladies."
Katie Andrews 2 years ago
Speaking as a widow, this s**t is all too common. Men don't take the time to grieve, to do the hard internal work, to re-create a new life without their spouse. Nope, he wants to replace one NPC with another NPC. He wants an intelligent pack mule who will cook, clean, have sex, etc. My insistence on living apart together, and keeping all finances separate works wonders to weed out all bums. Like me for me as a person, not for what I can do for you. And yes, was married twice, 25 years, happy the second time for 17 years. Just don't want to live with any man again. Love my space, peace, and quiet, would just like fun companionship. And I prefer a grown-a*s man who can take care of himself like a real adult.
#33
My Ex Wifes Response To Why She Could Be Trusted Not To Have Another Affair
#34
Husband’s Gift To His Wife This Morning. Hopefully She Gives Him A Divorce
#35
Lol Let Me Drug My Boyfriend So He’ll Always Want Me
#36
Husband Cheating On Wife With Maid. Posted On A Community Yard Sale Site
#37
This Is The 'Ex' Husband Of My Girlfriend's Best Friend. She's Been Trying To Get A Divorce From Him For Almost A Year, He Won't Sign The Papers But Will Message Her Friends And Coworkers, Constantly Lying About Her Cheating And Making Himself Out To Be The Victim
#38
My Ex Asking Me To Take Her To Pick Up Her Boyfriend From Jail And Her Response When I Said No
#39
His Wife May Have Just Posted Her Husbands Last Facebook Update
#40
What My Neighbors (Ex?) Boyfriend Did To Her Apartment Door
#41
Nice Guy Husband Turning Bitter Because Wife Had Male Friends Before Marriage
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
‘Plus I was nice guy’ huh, if you say you’re ‘nice’ on first encounters on the internet, there’s a high chance you’re not
#42
My Friends Boyfriend Sent Her This… For Saying She Needs Space To Spend Time With Her Dad On Father’s Day
Ches Yamada 2 years ago
"Why don't you enjoy the fact that there's a guy out there that cares about you and ... loves you with his whole heart". Yeah, her DAD, f#ck off it's Father's Day.
#43
Posting On Fb About Abusing Your Boyfriend
HelluvaHedgehogAlien 2 years ago
A towel? I threw a towel at my rude roommate who tried to feed chocolate to my dog :( and THEN I slapped her
#44
Advertising The Passing Of Your Husband
#45
Three Years Ago, My Ex-Wife Was Concerned About Losing Her Alimony If She Remarried. At The Time Said I’d Pay It For At Least Another Year. That Was Forgotten Until This Morning:
#46
When You Are Selling Nudes Of Your Wife On Facebook
#47
A Visual Representation Of My Rage When So Aggressively Took Back His Very First Heartfelt Apology Because He Did "Nothing Wrong" And Was "Forced" To Say Sorry
SO has not once in 3 years stuck an an agreement. Every promise broken. Many times, he has lied to my face about it. Every time denies he was wrong or minimizes the issue. Then he attacks me (I am controlling, constantly berate him, I'm selfish, "on a high horse" etc). He didn't do anything wrong! This is my fault, my problem. He is the victim of my inflexibility!
🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
We have been to counseling specifically because he breaks agreements. We've also talked A LOT about how inappropriately he responds when confronted with a wrong doing and have been working on helping him learn alternative ways to react.
This weekend was his second chance to actually stick to an agreement and apply everything we worked on (he blew the first chance, shockingly). But guess who didn't stick to the agreement?! I chewed him out and that's when the "forced apology" came. Not long after he stormed into the bedroom, took it back, and then DARVOed me.
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
"DARVO (an acronym for "deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender") is a reaction that perpetrators of wrongdoing, particularly sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior."
#48
My Ex Girlfriend. Self Explanatory To Get A Cheaper Cutting Board
#49
Nice Little Text Exchange I Found On My Boyfriend’s Phone Today To His Girl Best Friend. 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼😃😃💕💕what A Sweet Man🫠
Genericist 2 years ago
Ehh, this one's borderline without context. Why was she going through his phone anyway?
#50
Husband Just Doing A Little Jail Time
Lakota Wolf 2 years ago
"hwp"? "d/d free"? I'm 40 and I grew up with the internet and this made me feel old and out of touch XD
#51
Wife Gets Stabbed By “Dope Pipe” By Husband. He Posts On Facebook. Tags Her Then The Comments Start
Sonja 2 years ago
The problem wit NiceGuys™ is not that they're insecure or whatever. The problem is that they don't see women as equals or even humans. It their minds 'females' are subhuman, less worthy than males. They truly believe, for what reason ever, that a woman is generally less intelligent, less able and their emotions less real than their own. That is why for them spending time with any woman is just a hassle they have to go through to get sex. So they think completely normal human interaction is already being nice when done to a woman. Because they don't believe that a woman deserves the same respect and consideration than a man. So if they behave normal and decent against a woman they only do so to get something. And that's also why they believe a woman just being nice is leading them on. Because that's what they do. Their whole existence is transactional. While normal people go on dates to have a good time and get to know each other they only go on dates to prepay for sex later.
#52
She Was Looking For A New Boyfriend Not Even A Week After Her Last One Died Of A Drug Overdose
#53
He Is "The Most Respecting Guy" While Explicitly Disrespecting My Request For Him To Refrain From Responding. This Is My Now Ex Husband Who Touched Me While He Thought I Was Sleeping, Knowing My History Of Sa While Sleeping. His Begging For Another Chance Was Triggering So I Tried To Tell Him
Belynda Young 2 years ago
Hmm I am wondering if she had a paralyzed dream. I have had a few, I have dreamt that I was yelling at my husband to help me .This happened several times. The ptsd she has from the trauma may cause very realistic dreams.
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Jessica Bertram 2 years ago
i am sleepless in Denver and cannot for the LIFE of me believe this is what i wasted 15 minutes of my life on.
Lauren Caswell 2 years ago
Another reminder to be thankful I dropped the gaslighter from my life. I used to be as good as on this list with him: my life is so much better now. I hope these ppls get away from their crazies
JustJackie 2 years ago
The use of the word female here, tells me everything I need to know about you. Very telling that you did manage to use the word men, to describe these s**t stains. Which one is you?
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i am sleepless in Denver and cannot for the LIFE of me believe this is what i wasted 15 minutes of my life on.
Lauren Caswell 2 years ago
Another reminder to be thankful I dropped the gaslighter from my life. I used to be as good as on this list with him: my life is so much better now. I hope these ppls get away from their crazies
JustJackie 2 years ago
The use of the word female here, tells me everything I need to know about you. Very telling that you did manage to use the word men, to describe these s**t stains. Which one is you?
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