Have you seen Midnight in Paris? The movie is not about the city per se, rather it's about our fascination with it. Woody Allen asks us why the dream of Paris seems more powerful than walking on its streets.
However, it's not just historical European landmarks that infatuate our minds. That cause us to look at the world through an unrealistic lens. No, no, there are many more culprits — we're too easily swayed.
Last week, Redditor u/Buttercuppy44 asked other users, "What's something we need to stop normalizing?" And it turned out to be a discussion we really needed. People straight away came through with plenty of specific and accurate examples.
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Having to respect a damaging point of view because it's part of someone's religion.
No, I don't have to respect your belief that women are inferior or that LGTBQ+ people shouldn't have rights because your religion tells you to believe that. It's a bad point of view.
This should be higher up in the list AND it can be extended to every belief in general about 'we' are better then 'them' because of religion/ money/ education/ the place where you live/ the colour of your socks/ etc.etc.
I agree. This should be nr 1. Freedom of religion is important and nobody should say “you can’t be a x”. But the freedom and well-being of others comes first. So yes, you can believe in Jesus but I still have the right to abort. You can believe in Allah but your daughter needs the freedom to not be treated like cattle and be hidden behind a veil. You can believe in abrahamic religions but you have no right to mutilate your sons penis.
Load More Replies...What YOUR religion tells YOU that YOU should believe has nothing to do with ME. YOUR religion will not be telling ME what I have to do. Simple as that.
Why should I tolerate other peoples intolerance? Is a question I like asking people.
all religion is damaging . its caused the world way more problems than its solved
More people have died in the name of a god than any other reason
Load More Replies...Look at 9-11. Look at the holy wars and genocides such as, the crusades, the children's crusades, and the Spanish Inquisition. Religion is very often deeply detrimental.
Load More Replies...And next religious fanatics are waving with the first amendment to explain why they have the right to deny other people their constitutional rights.
Three hundred thousand children abused by French priests under the complicit watchful eye of the catholic church. It was known at every level of the hierarchy, all the way to the top (several popes) who orchestrated the cover up, often moving offenders to other areas where they would still be able to harm children
Load More Replies...Patton Oswalt in response to “You’ve gotta respect everyone’s beliefs." : No, you don’t. That’s what gets us in trouble. Look, you have to acknowledge everyone’s beliefs, and then you have to reserve the right to go: "That is f*ing stupid. Are you kidding me?" I acknowledge that you believe that, that’s great, but I’m not going to respect it.
Hmmm I agree and disagree. Yeas, you do not have to respect bulls**t of any form, be it religion or not. But I think people have a right to believe in any god they want and if that means that they cannot eat pork, have to live koscher or to pray 4 times a day in a certain direction.... you should respect that. Those little peculiarities of any religion are "home" to many people. Their traditions, their anchor in the world. It is no harm to respect these.
Load More Replies...Addition: Labeling people blindly as Nazis to shut them up if they point such things out.
Nazi's racists troll, etc. All names because you are or think different.
Load More Replies...Anything that goes against basic human rights, shouldn't ever be respected.
Canceling people for things they did 10+ years ago. If someone has shown growth in that time then let them grow.
Huzzah, huzzah! The only thing more ridiculous than cancelling someone for a trivial offense committed years ago, is someone digging through ten years of someone else's social media in search of something to use against them.
Unfortunately this is very worthwhile if you are a journalist because the amount of clicks the article will get, even if it's primarily from people outraged that what's in the past should be left in the past, will make your employer very happy with you.
Load More Replies...Agreed. If someone got convicted for raping a child 20 years ago, I sure as hell cancel him, I don't care if it was 20 years ago.
Load More Replies...Yes and this usually also forgets times change. Jokes funny and common ten years ago are now (rightfully so) considered highly offensive and not done.. The world changed so so much the last 10 years.
People forget about that or fast. When I was a teenager jokes about “being like a girl” or “blond men/women being dumb” were seen as normal. I used to call blondie to one of my friends and we were ok with it (him included). Now I would never do that.
Load More Replies...Like that NASCAR dude, cancelled because his dad said the n-word two years before he was born. People grow, learn, and change, and are not responsible for the actions of other people before they were born.
Cancelling people because they don't agree with your point of view. Being crazy offensive 10 years ago is one thing, but we all know that there are certain facts that I can post (especially on BP) where I would be downvoted to oblivion.
Being downvoted is not being cancelled. It’s other people being free to express that your opinion sucks.
Load More Replies...Sad secret I went to prison for three years.. I came out a bit different, I've been out for almost 12 years and I'm still a loser to everyone. I'm sober since I've gotten married had twins finished my GED went to B.U .. didn't graduate due to money but still I feel this because to most I'll always be a junkie loser.
You are not a loser to your twins. To me you are a winner over other winners
Load More Replies...Honestly, cancel culture terrifies me. I grew up before social media where we were free to make mistakes and learn from them.
Kids beauty pageants.
Not widely considered normal. Considered creepy, disturbing, and exploitative among sane people.
Pedo buffet. Point blank. This s**t only exists for 2 reasons. Mom's who want to profit from their child's beauty, and pedophiles. Prove me wrong.
You have a point there and I agree with you
Load More Replies...Freaky as far as I'm concerned. If you are going to have kids beauty pageants, then consider having them "dress like kids" have competitions that are based on being "kids" and stop dressing them up as "little adults" with makeup, and adult clothing. Dress them in clothing that supports kids interests, not adult interests.
Carl has been deployed! He shall locate the child molesters. carl-61601...8537aa.jpg
I find it so disturbing... cause basically kids used by their narcissistic parents.
My neighbor is a pageant mom. I heard her tell her KINDERGARTENER who was struggling in school "It's okay if you're not smart, honey, you're pretty."
Ugh! That makes me so angry. Growing up I had a friend who's mom forced her to do pageants and she couldn't live like a kid. She wasn't allowed to play outside because her mom didn't want her to skin up her knees. She wasn't allowed to play sports and most of the time was just forced to "practice" for her pageants. I felt so bad for her. Even as a kid I knew how her mom acted and treated her was not normal!!
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Coming to work sick. People tend to get praised for that, but they are in fact just endangering others to get sick as well — and in the end, it costs the company more than if they would've just stayed home.
Lot of time, the pressure to go to work come from the management side.
Oh God... during the pandemic, we "essential" workers were told over and over again to not come in if we're sick! But they never increased the number of sick days we're allowed per year.
And therein lies the problem - the very notion of having some kind of allowance for how sick you can be! Sick leave is not some kind of holiday - it protects both the employee and employer. If you are sick, you are sick. You can't control when. You can't control how long it will take to recover.
Load More Replies...And then more people get sick from the guy forced to come in sick which is really backasward.
Exactly, especially when coworkers have kids who make them sick, they come in and make everyone else sick, but the folks without kids are harassed for being sick by bosses as though they started it and wanted to be sick!!
Load More Replies...I’ve had managers who would fire people for not showing up with a doctor’s note, so we would come in sick just to prove we were not going to the beach. I even went so far as to tell my boss that he would regret it. He called me a liar and demanded I have my doctor call him or that I come in anyway. My roommate drove me in, I coughed and sneezed all over the boss and the night’s prep (I worked in a kitchen at the time) finished with projectile vomiting on the boss and half the kitchen before he was screaming to get out. They had to close the restaurant for the night and the boss was fired after being forced to apologize to all of us. “If you want to have a job when you come back…”is some serious toxic garbage to tell a sick employee, but it is and has been the norm for too long. Can’t wait to see the da that changes forever
Ugh, that was gross, but spot on, lol. BTW, why aren't you at your post?
Load More Replies...I live in a country where social protection works well. You'll get paid while sick on the first weeks you're out of the office. But for some reasons, colleagues (not always your boss) expect you to check your email and work from your home. So it seems weird but you end up clearly stating that you won't be checking your emails/teams/slack nor working. Ten years ago, I would just say I was sick and move on to recover as quickly as possible without the stress to get whatsapp or text messages about this or that project.
If you work from home than you're not supposed to be marked sick in my opinion. Sick is sick. They can't expect you to be checking your mail.
Load More Replies...What I don't like is most jobs (US) want a doctors note when you call in sick. I'm 39 I don't need a not to say I'm sick
And doctors don't want people going into their offices, spreading infections unnecessarily. A cold will run it's course, the stomach flu will run it's course. Barring needing to go to the emergency room or NEEDING a prescription, no should have to leave the houses sick.
Load More Replies...I used to work with a few people who came to work sick and acted like they were superheroes. I am one of those people who catches everything and it hits me hard (immunocompromised.) Those people would get others sick and they would complain about having to do extra work because they had the decency to keep their germs at home. If they stayed home in the first place, nobody else would catch it. You aren't superheroes.
I absolutely agree. Once I left the job with close working co workers who came in sick aftea
Load More Replies...to be honest, i like quarantine since i didn't get any seasonal sickness for nearly 2 years (my immune systems sucks and i work in open office where all illnesses comes in waves)
Me too!!!! I can't remember a time when I went that long without being sick. Started being sick again as soon as people quit wearing masks.
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Being rude to retail and food workers. We work hard all day, deal with some of the worst customers bar none, and really don't get paid enough to support families but we do it anyway. For way less than it's worth
Being rude in general. In the case of those who deal with a continuous stream of customers, there's the extra burden of not getting respite to recover. If someone is rude to me, I can get up from my desk and go for a walk; a cashier has to carry on. I've worked in retail and mad respect to good-natured employees in stores and eateries. For those who aren't, that's okay as long as they do their jobs (some people are more serious in demeanor, others may be having a hard day, or they're doing the job while hoping for something else).
Load More Replies...I hate it when people argue with a cashier over a price like they determine the price
Just because the customer is king, people get the idea that they can treat the workers like trash
Many countries don't consider the customer is king. Customers deserve courtesy and the best endeavours of the staff but that's it. No-one has any right to act like an ar-se just because they're paying for a service or product.
Load More Replies...Retail and food workers have always had to deal with asshole customers crap. Now because of Covid it is even worse. I hope to never work in retail again.
This is so true I will never understand why this is acceptable way to treat anyone let alone someone making food for you ( not smart) Just be nice people
I was at a Tim Hortons in a suburban well off area one day and the clerk was obviously new to Canada. Clearly new to the job. There were 2 teenagers with designer clothes etc making fun of her and laughing at her ( to each other) while this poor girl served them. I was disgusted. people need to stop thinking that working a min wage service job means the person is uneducated or lazy OR lacks ambition. Not everyone was born into a family that could afford university. People need to feed themselves and work to survive and keep a roof over their head. Work is work and should be respected.
Definitely should be higher, I do believe that everyone should work in retail barring health issues for either 1 Christmas period or two years just so you learn what it’s like and then the world would be kinder.
Yes. A great piece of advice I heard once was, "If you go on a date and the other person is rude to the waitress, dump them." If someone is rude to people he considers "beneath him", sooner or later he'll be rude to you.
As a server for 22 years, I can totally relate to this one. By far being a server is the hardest job I've ever had. It affects you mentally physically and emotionally.
People underestimate how much food workers and the essential workers actually work. People think it’s okay to look down on them because they have a smaller paycheck when you Karen’s can’t even live without most of them.
Ads on stuff you've paid for.
Yes, where they watch 3 various of the same commercial. With slow load times giving you false hope that it will skip the commercial and go straight to the show. Crash and reload, only the play the commercial again.
Load More Replies...Not actually owning stuff you’ve paid for (Digital purchases of music and movies)
Im tired of being sold stuff at all. If I want what your selling, I will go get it.Untill then, leave me alone.
how will you know it exists if they don't advertise it though?
Load More Replies...Ads. Ads in general... why should I watch an ad about pink nail polish right at the middle of a DYI video tutorial?
'cause ducky, us girls like to be girly when hammering ..... do my hair all pretty when I garden in my stiletto's too.;)
Load More Replies...Yes, when cable started, they justified paying for it because it was supposed to be ad free.
I just bought solar lights for our garden and am now CONSTANTLY getting pop-ups for solar lights. Uh, yeah thanks - bought a set 2 weeks. You can f*ck off now.
Filters that change the shape of your face to fit a beauty standard. Kids are growing up with an even more distorted view of what they should look like than previous generations
Right? And these things aren't some niche fad either. They're standard features on mass market electronics. Disgusting.
Load More Replies...Humanity wasn't ready for the industrial revolution - our reach is so far beyond our grasp now that it's frankly a miracle we're still here.
Load More Replies...When I got my new phone it had a face filter build in that makes you face smaller, eyes bigger, skin smooth. I honestly kinda shocked me that something like that is just build into the base camera system now
And they all look like identical caricatures as well as not even human. Perfection gets boring quickly. Beauty has plenty of room for imperfections that make your look unique but, if corrected, will wreck it. Think of Jennifer Gray before and after the nose job. She looked better before, didn’t she? And you really didn’t notice her nose that much, did you? But she had grown up with people criticizing or making fun of her nose, which made her really self-conscious about it, and she always wanted to have it fixed. Pretty much wrecked her career, as well as her unique look. Why look like everybody else, when Nature gave you a unique kind of beauty that makes you stand out from the crowd?
I'm so glad I didn't grow up with this extreme view of beauty and I really worry about kids today. This stuff needs to stop.
You've never owned a Barbie Doll or seen teen magazines?
Load More Replies...Using them on a dating app is the worst, it's pretty much false advertising.
Taking pictures of strangers without their knowledge and posting it on the internet. It is toxic as hell and it wasn't that long ago it was seen as creepy.
It should be illegal. The last thing I want is for someone to take a photo of me and end up becoming a meme or something.
It is illegal, at least in many countries, however I think it's the case that you have to know about it and ask for it to be removed, then they ignore you, then you can do something about it... Yes, one of those helpful laws...
Load More Replies...Why are you all referring to accidents and people needing help? The text does not imply this at all. BP is full of pictures of people, wearing funny masks, fashion fails, weird things/people you see on public tranport, etc. Pretty sure that most people weren't aware their picture was taken, let alone posted somewhere.
Yes, Bored Panda is one of the worst offenders. Especially with people who don't fit their agenda or political beliefs.
Load More Replies...it depends on the situation; when photographing in public places, it's not practical to ask people's permission; as a photographer who shoots a lot of festivals and other public gatherings, I avoid posting embarrassing or unflattering images, but I do post photos of strangers without their knowledge --- and newspapers publish them too
Photographers have been taking pictures of people 'without permission' almost since the birth of photography. The issue is not the taking of the picture (although there are all sorts of questions regarding good manners), but rather the nature of the internet and our perception of how it impacts on lives. The nonsense is that you will see someone ranting about an invasion of privacy one moment and then turning around to take a selfie before posting it on social media.
Weird that Bored Panda runs this one, considering how many photos they post (just like so many other sites)
They post stock photos, they aren’t just taking photos of random people
Load More Replies...Depends on the context, which is where it all becomes murky. Targeting a person is an asshole move, but taking a street photo of strangers is not.
As a former journalist: If you don't want your image to be public, don't go out in public. Being paranoid about your picture being taken isn't something you should foist off on other people - your not wanting your image seen isn't their problem. Either seek psychological help, or be a hermit.
What are you talking about? Many pics pf strangers are specifically taken and used to ridicule them online. That’s not paranoia - look at all the stuff you find online - and it IS an offence in many places. This post isn’t about someone being in the background of some newspaper photo.
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That anything is possible if you try hard enough. Don't get me wrong, a lot is possible, but not everything. There are factors beyond ourselves that determine our success. The best we can do is to give our best, and be happy that we've done so.
Hardwork doesn't always lead to success. A lot of people that became successful through "hard work" don't usually include one thing in their success stories: the role of luck. Some of them were lucky to be born in the right place, to the right people, at the right time, happened to go to the right school, happened to make the right friends, etc. For every success story, there are thousands and millions that did the same amount of hardwork and got nowhere. The difference is, those hardworking but unsuccessful people were simply unlucky. No one knows a sure formula for success in life. It's easy to think you do when you've made it.
I would have loved to be a medical doctor, but I'm not smart enough. I have several degrees including a PhD in engineering but those people are REALLY smart - they can remember things much faster than me, I could never keep up with the amount of information they have to learn. Plus they can keep thinking after zero sleep... my brain turns into cotton wool after 10hrs of thinking (maybe less!!)
There are many types of intelligence. Memory is only one of them :)
Load More Replies...This has been my downfall. I always believed I could do anything if I put my mind to it. Then found out the hard way there is a widening gap between what I want and what I can get done. Now I am on disability with a permanent burnout.
I feel you. I was raised to believe the frap that "anything is possible if you work hard". I spend all my youth studying and working hard to achieve my dreams. All to end up didabled and without a life. F*****g lies.
Load More Replies...The only thing that is certain, is that if you think you can’t, then you’re right. I really dislike the message that all you have to do is think you can do it to achieve something, that’s setting impossible goals. There’s nothing stopping you trying, but it’s ok to fail. Karawhiua, have a go anyway, but always be happy with failure and what it’ll teach you, it totally takes the pressure off and makes trying things fun.
People have worked hard to prevent climate change, and it's still happening
I can very highly recommend this YouTube video of veritasium about this topic. Every kid should learn this on school. It provides the evidence behind: To be successful you very (statistically) likely have to be working hard and be talented, but then luck plays a massive role to distinguish between success and failure. https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3LopI4YeC4I
And successful humans tend to massively downplay the role of luck and the role of external factors (support by the state through using tax money), which creates a toxic atmosphere of framing failure as not working hard enough and giving successful folks the "justification" to bail on taxes and look down on people who failed. Especially toxic in the United states imho, if you look at all the homeless people "who just didn't work hard enough" (*sarcasm)
Load More Replies...Anything is almost possible, but it's not so much a matter of trying hard. More to find another way if one is blocked. And time is also the essence.
People being bastards on the internet, because of anonymity.
Well that's just rude. You can go f**k off.....and have a truly beautiful day & enjoy yourself. Stay hydrated & maintain social distancing
Load More Replies...Worst are the one creating fake account to use this so called anonymity.
This. I never say anything online that I wouldn't say in person.
This just shows that humans are very likely to be their worst selves when they know you can't identify them. This is why people act wild and loot and riot. They know you can't identify them. The Internet is one global riot
Using religion as a weapon.
To me it's more using religion as an excuse (to discriminate, to question science, to explain away EVERYTHING...)
Many stricter religions are like "Be good to others... Unless he has the wrong faith, then he goes to hell".
I'm very disappointed with the high-profile hypocrisy of many self-proclaimed religious people. Racism, hate, intolerance, selfishness, hubris. That's not what religion is supposed to be about. Nor is it about personal gain... *I'm looking at YOU Joel Osteen*
I have a coworker who does this....smh and sadly he gets away with it
Repeat after me: Christianity. Is. A. Cult. (and one that smashes on other cults)
The greed of the top 1% that fuels the pollution and decay of our planet.
Looking at you Jeff, Bill, and Mark
I'm going to get downvotes here, but you need to swap out Bill for Richard. Yes, Mr Gates has done some deplorable things while gaining his millions. But he has done philanthropic things that the others haven't even considered. Demonstrably tried to improve things for the rest of humanity. The others? No bathroom breaks and trains that barely run at all never mind on time. Oh, and I'm damn sure it wasn't his age that stopped him taking part in the Prick Space Race, so that's a point in his favour too. Dislike or full on loathe him all you want, but he is no longer in the same league of greed and evil as the others. (Mr Zuckerberg is in a league of his own, although he does look like he wants to be Bezos when he grows up, so...)
Was my first thought too. Gates is no saint but he's not quite in the same league of awful as Bezos. His vaccination efforts alone set him apart from the rest. There are other members of the 1% that fit the example much better.
Load More Replies...And Elon - the worst of them all. But he's soooooo cool, such an edgy guy, smoking weed on TV, while he has no boss he has to fear who might strongly oppose weedery of any kind ... calling people pedophiles without any proof ... and then, oh sorry, I took too much ambien - I'm no a-hole for being an a-hole, it's the pill's guilt. Creepy af and ... ugh, just a no on two legs.
We all contribute to the damage being inflicted on the planet to some degree or othet. If there is to be positive and timely change we must all accept our responsibility and make significant changes to our lives. We can not hide behind pointing the finger at x, y or z.
The idea that being an as*hole is a sign of intelligence. Jerks are rarely intelligent. Sheldon Cooper, Rick Sanchez, Hannibal Lecter, and Dr. House do not exist.
In my experience, being rude and condescending turns out to be a sign of stupidity, not intelligence.
Sheldon was actually very true to life for a lot of smart autistic people..but he would be what we would be without adapting skills. And most of us have adapted to our environment.. But he feels rather authentic. He isn't rude or condescending - he just doesn't understand most humans. That's why he follows the rules.. hot beverages for upset humans etc.
I thought the creators of the show stated that the character of Sheldon wasn't autistic?
Load More Replies...There's a proven link between being highly intelligent and socially inept, the writers (and viewers) of these shows don't always get it right. Sheldon isn't far off the mark, Scorpion shows it better, and Hannibal Lecter is a psychopath so is a different kettle of fish.
Yeah. I have been shown to be smart and I do struggle with social stuff. But I am also very friendly, fun, and generally extroverted. There are just parts of social skills that I struggle with (like I had to be manually taught how to make appropriate small talk, smile, make eye contact, hang out with friends, etc). I also have ADHD and have had to deal with RSD, being hyper, and social anxiety.
Load More Replies...Pop culture doesn't normalize the idea that jerks are intelligent, but that highly intelligent people are jerks. Well, some are in real life, and I wish to f**k that society would drop this idea that it's okay to be an asshole if you're a genius. Influential people need to be held to a higher standard than the rest of us, not a lower one. After all, they can do more damage.
I don't know - people with Asperger's syndrome for example are often very intelligent but lack emotional components. You can quickly be considered absolutely rude and don't even understand why for example if you just told somebody the truth but did not think about "packaging it nicely" first...
Autistic guy here. I have spent my entire life being told I have no tact. Or that I'm too blunt. Oh well.
Load More Replies...Being rude definitely doesn’t make someone smart, but there does seem to be some correlation between extreme intelligence and lack of social skills, which can translate to rudeness.
Problem here, is that many highly intelligent people get annoyed with dealing with stupid interaction combined with the fact that many highly intelligent people I am talking 145+ IQ often have fairly low EQ, so they struggle with normal interaction which makes them seem rude even if it is unintentional. Again this is not a rule and not set in stone
Low EQ mostly results in people that are shy and awkward, not people who are assholes. Someone with a high IQ and low EQ is far more likely to put their foot in their mouth rather than insult everyone like a douche. House, Rick and Lecter are used as examples here and all of them have pretty normal EQs...they just don't care that they hurt others.
Load More Replies...Hmmm engineer here - I have a few colleagues who are really smart but rude. They get sick of hearing stupid engineers saying dumb things. I get it, I'm not like it, but I get it.
My dad is a physicist and let me tell you Sheldon is absolutely real.
I once talked my friend out of casting someone in a show because the person was an asshole. Sure, he was a super talented actor, but working with him would have been a nightmare. My friend went with the second best actor instead. Second best had a terrific personality and wound up really helping bring the best performances out of the other actors. It was the right choice.
Sheldon is not being an asshole by choice. At the end of the show, you can see that he begins to understand the world around him a bit better.
Throwing cigarette butts on the floor.
San Francisco was so sick of it, the got street sweepers to count the number of cigarette butts in the sweeper bin (I can not imaging doing that job), they sued the tobacco companies, making it cost extra to buy cigarettes in the city. Hollywood creates the norm, so many movies depicting actors just tossing away the butts.
Sorry don't mean to be peevish, but this drives me absolutely bananas, referring to the ground as the floor. Inside, hardwood, tile, or carpeted flooring. Outside, ground, dirt, soil.
Unfortunately this problem is much bigger than one would expect. Statistically, two thirds of all cigarette butts are thrown on the floor. It is technically illegal, of course. According to wikipedia (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cigarette_filter), 4.5 trillion (!) cigarette butts per year are disposed of this way. A survey by the technical university of Berlin, Germany, found out that there are statistically 2,7 millions (!) of cigarette buds lying around on every square kilometer of the city. German authorities spend about 225 million euros per year just on cigarette butt removal.
Having an opinion on everything.
It’s okay to look at something on the internet and think to yourself “I don’t have to care about this.”
Best time saver, ever... (Oh, why do I put a comment here? I should not care) /s
I know people whom I've never ever heard saying "oh really, I didn't know that" or similar. When I tell them something, they always, ALWAYS act like they already knew it (even in cases where that's obviously not the case) and come with their own "expert" opinions about it. I've stopped telling them stuff.
It's also okay to say "I don't know enough about this to have formed an opinion yet".
I was banned from a mom's group on Facebook recently for saying I didn't have an opinion. The leader asked me how that was possible, and I said I truly didn't care either way. She was obviously a bit extreme in her opinion, and didn't feel it could possibly not have one.
So tell us how you *really* feel about little Katie not liking vichyssoise and bratwurst? ;)
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Load More Replies...I don't have to care about abortions because I'm never gonna get anybody pregnant.
Kids doing animal abuse. Stop it with, "they are just kids they don't know any better"
If it's too extreme, it's often a sign of a sadistic personality, so more reason to work on that early
Proven link between animal abuse and escalation to murder...
Load More Replies...One of the first words learnt in my house was, “Gentle.” While petting the dog.
That's great idea - it can become a cue word that could work in different situations.
Load More Replies...or messing with animals that are in distress, like beached sea animals that need to get back into the water
A lot of them have a layer of fat that protects them in cold water, but causes overheating on land. Here's a wonderful story of humans who did the right thing: https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/british-columbia/stranded-orca-saved-by-volunteers-who-kept-it-cool-for-hours-until-high-tide-1.3164728
Load More Replies...I have a real problem with this. If your kids don't know any better it's because you didn't teach them. So I think that the parents are at fault and should be charged. Unless, as Luka said, a sign of a very sick mind - then that's a whole new ball game.
I do too. I've gotten in trouble for yelling at my cousins (7+3) because they refuse to put down my cats or just leave them alone. They pull their tails, throw them, and if I yell at them, apparently I'm the bad one because "they don't know better," "they're just children," etc. This type of behavior has inflicted pain on my fur-babies, and I will not stand for it.
Load More Replies...when I was a kid I was quite mean to animals, had a lot of personal problems and no adult who really addressed those problems, just like their problems weren't addressed. anyway, I was pretty lucky as growing up I was naturally wired to learn and develop my personality into something better. ended up not only being an animal lover, but I do a lot of volunteering in sanctuaries and rescue centers. it took me a lot to forgive the kid I was and the pain I inflicted to animals, but there is always a way to learn and redeem ourselves.
I can't fathom how learning to respect life in every form is not the basis of education for everyone.
THEY don’t know better, but you do! That’s what parenting is all about. If little children get baby siblings, you also have to teach them to be gentle with the baby. Little kids don’t know better and often mean no harm, that’s fine, but that doesn’t excuse a parent’s indifference.
The idea that a woman can slap a man if she's angry at him, but a man should never hit a woman regardless of the circumstances. The former is assault - hitting people who aren't already involved in a physical altercation is never OK, regardless of the circumstances. The latter ties into that; if you are being attacked, the level of force you use in defence should be dependent on the danger you are in, which has almost nothing to do with the sex of your attacker. Both of these rely on the tired and sexist trope that women are meek little does who have not the physical strength nor moral turpitude to commit violence against the big, strong, tough men. They normalize assault and abuse and accordingly belong in the dustbin of history.
Finally someone who adresses this! This double standard bothers me fir a long time. Also, some women who try to be "feminists" still keep this in check. If you want equal rights for men and women, that includes the downsides too
Exactly! I am a proud feminist. I own an RBG calendar, listen to pretty much straight riot grrls and The Chicks, flip off catcallers, and call out sexism WHEREVER I see it. Men are just as entitled to safety as women are. Period. No if’s ands or buts.
Load More Replies...Yes. If a woman punches a man, everyone around laughs and thinks nothing of it. If he gets tired of it and tries to fight back, then suddenly he's the villain. Like because a man could beat up a woman, if he was allowed to fight back, therefore he should just stand and take it no matter how much she hurts him and he's not allowed to fight back.
And this is why Johnny Depp is called a wife beater. Amber Heard admitted hitting and abusing him on tape. But because he pushed her (IIRC) he's a wife beater.
Load More Replies...I hate the double standards of things like if a car full of guys pulls along side a lone female and makes comments and gestures its seen as wrong and disgusting which it is but situation reversed its acceptable a perfect example of this is the Benny Hill show where there is a sketch where is is chased around by a bunch of women in there underwear its seen as funny and saucy humour but reverse the situation and it suddenly becomes very sinister
Benny Hill was recognised as problematic even at the time. Considering just how bad things were back then, this is really saying something.
Load More Replies...I live somewhere where that is not considered right. Neither men hitting women, nor women hitting men.
Agreed. Also, a woman can slap a man's ass and call him fine, but if it was reversed it would be assault. That's a double standard. A BIG ONE.
Bullying. It's absurd how society will frame it as a "stage of your life" rather than supporting individuals more so they know how to deal with it. Especially academically, still overlooked majorly.
And massively overlooked or flat out ignored on social media. Ad in the workforce. It not just something kids do on the playground.
I enjoyed The Office t.v.show (U.S. version), but I couldn't stand how they treated Toby. It is not the only program that portrays work place bullying as funny.
Load More Replies...I truly believe that anyone who bullies to the point the victim self harms or attempts/commits suicide. Then the bully should be charged with manslaughter at the very least.
Also, punching a bully gets you in as much trouble as they get in, which would be reasonable if it wasn't for the fact that telling the teacher does NOTHING
For the bullies it may be just a stage in their life... for me, it's a lifelong scar.
Bullying is a single word that defines almost all of the world's issues but, sadly, few realise it. People bandy words about such as 'racism' and 'sexism' but they are just versions of the same thing: bullying. Bullys will pick on anything, often the most obvious difference, to 'justify' their nastiness. We need to stop splitting this behaviour with the idea of tackling different issues, but to see it for what it is.
I agree. The root of all abuse is abuse of power. Whether it stems from money, strength, peer support, religion, politics etc. It is those with "more" subjugating those with "less" within whatever the relationship is based upon.
Load More Replies...I know a guy who is being bullied WHILE THE TEACHERS ARE WATCHING. And then their parents are like "My KiDs NeVeR dO aNyThInG wRoNg"
It’s definitely not tied to age. Bullies come in children and adult sizes.
It's terrible, but pretty much everyone goes through it, so not easy to change
And some adults when confronted with the fact that their kid bullies other children like to say, "Kids will be kids."
Alcoholic moms. No, you don’t NEED to bring wine to your daughters soccer game. It’s not quirky. It’s awful. Wine mom stuff on social media only strengthens it and makes it more popular.
Instamom is the stuff if nightmares. Like the recent one where she jams on the brakes to teach her kid to buckle up. Full blown narcissism in action
Well my response won't be popular...my mom did the whole slam on the brakes thing to me because I kept taking it off. My arm got cut on something in the process. Mom bandaged me up and we talked about me getting hurt way worse if there was an accident. I have been very diligent about buckling up every time.
Load More Replies...Ha ha ha, loved taking the kids to Friday evening cricket, time to sink two or three pints and catch up with the other parents doing exactly the same thing. Lovely times. I'm always amused if you have more than one or two in the US you are deemed to have an alcohol problem.
However, in the next BP series on "parenting tweets of the month" we will see endless entries of "My kids did XYZ so I happily sat in the closet with a bottle of wine." and all of them get upvoted.
Yeah... reminds me of all those 'let's not objectify women' posts and then you see a whole load of 'she's pretty/he's hot' comments on posts that are about people's achievements or something.
Load More Replies...Seriously?! Let her have her glass of wine: sitting there watching a game that only marginally interest her because her kid is in it is likely the only "free" time she's going to have all day before she's going back to keeping a whole household running non-stop. When was the last time she was able to go out with HER friends? It's her one time in several days where her only function is attendance: why shouldn't she make a mini-party out of it?
Having a glass of wine every now and then is fine. Needing it is a symptom of alcohol use disorder and should be taken seriously.
Load More Replies...to me since Covid era I discovered how too many parents do not like their kids nor spending time with them.. I know a few and same people who've always judged me cause I decided not to procreate. I decided cause I would have been a very unhappy mother. Just like all those who are parents and judging me.
So true. I know quite a few parents who don't really enjoy spending time with their children. I was the only child-free person at a party once and had to listen to them all MOAN about their kids for hours.
Load More Replies...I hate how alcoholism is normalised, specially on tv shows. Just look at modern family, I love that show, but I hate that it's all Haha the mother needs alcohol to function. It's sad and people shouldn't relate to that in a positive way.
As a recovering alcoholic I hate “wine mom” culture. Why are we glamorizing excessive drinking again? It’s just basic and ignorant.
Good for you getting alcohol out of your life. I wish all good things for you. 💜
Load More Replies...Living with an alcoholic is awful. I live with one and I never know what their behavior will be like from one day to the next.
Yup, grew up with one. Morning dad was a completely different person than evening dad. Very confusing for a little kid. And now I absolutely cannot tolerate drunk people, or wine mom beer dad culture. (Which sadly makes me outcast in many school functions...but I'd rather not be tense all the time, waiting for the drunk drama)
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Using mental illness as an excuse. I suffer from several, and it's very hard on me.. But, i get professional help and deal with it head on. Reading constant posts everyday about people having this disorder and that disorder and that's why it's ok to act a certain way is demotivating. Awareness is important, but dozens of posts everyday about having borderline personality disorder or bipolar disorder and why it's acceptable for you to be an a-hole is not awareness... If you suffer from these so badly, please get help
Getting the help you need is not always easy, asking for help when you're with an anxiety disorder and depression that makes you feel guilty for looking for help, plus you feel suicidal and the physical symptoms won't let you move from bed, eat or even function and many people can't control their triggers due to abuse and PTSD so only because you met that specific person or people you CANNOT generalize at all. Countries and governments should take this more seriously. Where I am from, Iceland and in whole Scandinavia and Finland mental sickness is a government issue and all works have mental sick days leave, insurances with therapist and such because we deal with months of darkness and lack of vitamins, plus add a disfunctional family, domestic violence and chronic pain or any other sickness. So no. I highly disagree with this one. The world SHOULD normalize mental health as a major priority because it affects physical health and everyone should be helped, including those who behave like asholes should recieve support and have a treatment because I'm sure there's some sort of trauma causing that disorder. As a psychologist and suicidal survivor dealing with endometriosis that affects your hormones and mental health this is my profesional opinion.
This is.tough, and I mostly agree and see where you are coming from. But getting mental help isn't always easy. A lot of doctors don't take some insurances, if any. Some people have bad reactions to a lot of psych meds. I am by no means saying, use your illness to be an asshole, but sometimes people can't get the help they need.
I agree. Don't use your disorder as an excuse for being an asshole. Some disorders are out of people's control though. Like autism, tourettes and other disorders like that. People with these disorders can seem very annoying to you if you don't understand what's happening to them. Also, not everyone has access to help like you do. A lot of people can't afford professional help like you can. So consider that as well before you judge
I have to say, I respect ANYONE willing to look at themselves and to work on things that are not functioning well. Be it of organic reasons or learned behavior, you have my respect. Mental health issues are still a huge stigma and embracing a path to bring a better you takes an amazing amount of courage and conviction.
It was so hard getting my treatment set up...mentally and physically I was drained while my personal and business relationships were in jeopardy it wasnt a gudd time for me and as I continue to gain control of my life and momentum to go forward I was able to step outside myself get the help I needed
There is never a true excuse for being an asshole. Sure, you can explain, but you still have to work to deal with it
Verbal Tourette syndrome is the only true excuse I would say
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Married couples disliking one another. Normalizing abusive and toxic elements in marriage is lame, bro.
Like the jokes about men being “chained” when they decide to marry. Then don’t f*****g marry. If I was the girlfriend In would be furious
Yes, and the need for a stag night to "celebrate my last night of freedom". You are supposed to WANT to be with your spouse, not feel like you are missing out on all the 'better' options in life.
Load More Replies...I used to run a bar and the number of guys who would come in, sit down and start moaning about 'the mrs' was unbelievable. If she annoys you, tell her, not me. Work on your relationship instead of whinging about it down at the pub.
Realistically whining about it at the pub was probably all they needed. Sometimes there is no deep underlying issue and people just want to vent.
Load More Replies...if you hating the wife WTF are you married ? i sure as hell wont be if that ever happens , be the best thing for both of us . who WANTS to live with someone they HATE ? beggers belief
For alot of men, the love of their kids and the fear of losing them to the courts is greater than the dislike of a slobby bitchy wife.
Load More Replies...Yeah it's sad that this has been normalised. Marriage is a good thing when you marry someone that's compatible with you
First, toxics elements is not good, and continuously complaining isn't either. But sometimes joking about it, and sometimes expressing dislike, shows that marriage isn't the pink cloud people believe it to be. It's really not. You don't have to pretend everything is fine and it's all butterflies and pink clouds. You should be able to express your thoughts about marriage. Sometimes it shows devotion. Is one comment someone makes to another one exemplary of the entire relationship?
Yes. To be serious here: No one is perfect. It's inevitable that two people in a marriage will sometimes annoy each other. Sometimes the right solution is to sit down with your spouse and talk about it. Sometimes a good solution is whining to a friend and getting it out of your system. Sometimes a good solution is accepting it and joking about it.
Load More Replies...As a gay person who is going to be married next year, I find these kinds of comments to be particularly offensive, especially when they turn up in the wedding proceedings. (I've noticed they turn up in m/f wedding stuff more often.) Like, I remember growing up and being told that gay marriage was cheapening the value of marriage or something, and like... at least I'm enthusiastic about it, not pretending I'm being dragged before the officant in chains!
Never understood this. Men AND women seem to constantly complain and put down their spouses. And when a couple is respectful of each other and has a healthy relationship people roll their eyes at them and say it is pathetic or unbelievable. Why even get married ?
Why do comedians joke about this stuff so much?! If it isn’t working, get a freaking divorce.
Working while on vacation. You go on vacation to relax and enjoy yourself, not to try to fill out spreadsheets and deal with work stuff in your hotel room.
I'm guessing this is more a US issue from what I have read, most of us just don't work when on leave.
I don't think this is a US issue. I think this is a "media portrayal" issue. I only know of a few people that work when they are on vacation or sick leave. Those that do already work in toxic environments or are trying to prove something. Most Americans vacation like normal.
Load More Replies...Japan as well. Google "Black Kigyou". It's a term for companies that exploiting their employees. Still exist these days.
Load More Replies...We hardly work when we're at the office, so working on holiday is an absolute nono.
Luckily, as a CDL-A truck driver, it's impossible for me to take my work home or on vacation.
Using the phrase "it's my right" as a get out of jail free card to engage in whatever reckless behaviour that takes your fancy.
I call them hypocritical sick stupid f***s.
Load More Replies...People will scream about their rights but forget they have obligations too
Sure, it's your right, but be aware that the consequences of that right are also yours. Going to Turkey to get a Kardashian butt or a DD-cup for cheap ? Sure, that's your right and you saved for it. But don't come calling on our health care when it turns out they used industrial silicone kit in your body and you are now suffering agonizing pain. Start saving to get it fixed.
i completely agree yes you have freedom of speech but if you say dumb s**t like your gonna kill someone or bomb someone or are just otherwise an asshole you need to be prepared for the consequences of saying it its freedom of speech not freedom of consequences
Load More Replies...Just because it's the law, doesb't mean it's the right thing. Laws can be wrong too
The number of people who throw around the First Amendment without understanding it...
...And those people shouting it the loudest rarely know the exact extend of their rights. E.g. Your freedom of speech does not ban Facebook from kicking you off their platform because they do not like the fake facts that you spread. Freedom of speech is about what censurship and punishment the government can do, but has no influence on what you area allowed to post on a private webpage. Likewise the second ammendment does not grant you the right to enter my home with a gun, unless you get my permission to do so (which you never will). My home, my rules, and unless you can present a search warrent, I alone decide who enters my private quaters and will kick you out based on rules I decide -because that is actually my right. Ironically the people who stand on their rights to act like an A**hole, are also those who whine the loudest when someone use their actual right in a way that annoy them, e.g. refusing to serve them because they are being an idiot.
The entire "game" involved in modern dating or even most social interactions. The playing hard to get, the "arriving fashionably late" like people can we please keep it simple?
Ya go on laugh at me.
I've been married for just over a decade and would be absolutely terrified of being back in the dating game. I wouldn't know where to start.
Likewise; same timeframe too. My wife and I joke about that all the time. the idea of making a profile (basically an advert for yourself) is horrific.
Load More Replies...The obviously awful one is playing hard to get. Because if we try to teach that 'no means no' but there's also this trope of 'when I say no, I really mean try harder to impress me', of *course* people are gonna get confused.
As a guy, that’s why I’ve truly given-up the chase. At 49, enough is enough with the rejection and games and bs don’t stop or change with age. I’ve simply stopped approaching women. If society tells me it must be me who does that or misses out, oh well. Simple as that. 🤷🏻♂️
Load More Replies..."Modern dating"? HAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Like a great many things today, that type of behavior is not new.
This is what infuriated me when I was dating. SO many people are completely unable to just be upfront and think they have to go through a whole act like it's a mandatory mating ritual. Want sex? Say so. Want a relationship? Say so. Rebounding? Say so. The other person will either be down for it or not, and if they're not, just try someone else. Don't spend weeks acting like we're dating when all you wanted was a fling.
People don''t even do "normal" dating anymore, or what was normal when I was younger. It's all Apps and Dating sites now, like they are picking from a menu at a restaurant. Trying to meet someone in-person that you might like to date is becoming incredibly difficult, if not close to becoming socially unacceptable.
Unhealthy weight. I’m not talking about being fit and thin and making people feel bad about their bodies. Im not talking about having a few extra pounds and making people feel bad for that. I have a few extra pounds, I’m not super fit, but I’m relatively healthy. Everyone’s body is different. Healthy means a lot of different things.
I’m talking about normalizing morbidly obese people as beautiful and something to be celebrated. It’s dangerous especially if children see them as someone to look up to. Then they’ll think it’s ok for your body to carry around so much weight that your heart and lungs are working overtime to keep you alive. It will lead to devastating later years in life as you age and your body slows down. You’ll be at risk for cardiovascular issues, you’ll probably die before your time, and the last few years of your life will be bed ridden while you waste away.
While I agree that there is such a thing as unhealthy weight, you still won't see me attacking the "body positivity movement". Because for people to change for the better, the first step has to be letting go of the self-hatred and shame that plagues the seriously overweight and drives them into a self-destructive spiral of self-harming and self-comforting behavior. If the body positivity movement helps anyone let go of the guilt and self-hatred that's poisoned their lives then more good than harm has been done, and it's not like body negativity ever did anyone any good. You can't shame people into being thinner or healthier, that's not how humans work.
Ugh. People are uniquely irrate that fat people can love themselves and be loved. You don't see this obsession with "health" with people who skip their annual check ups, get tans, or have high blood pressure. This anger isn't about "health" at all.
Exactly. Nobody insults others for drinking, smoking or for being too underweight. It’s not about health it’s about fatshaming
Load More Replies...Seriously, this is BS. We know we are obese, we know the health issues that obesity causes, we know it's not healthy. You telling us doesn't change the fact, we are fat not stupid. We don't need reminding that we are disgusting pieces of s**t that don't deserve respect or any happiness.
Everyone deserves respect and happiness I don't care how big or small you are...I treat everyone the same which is how I would want my loved ones to be treated...with dignity and respect! I'm sorry you've been around sh*tty people that made you feel this way...just know there are good genuinely kind people who DO care!
Load More Replies...Is it normalised though? Yes, there are a few 'big and proud' people around in the media, but if you turn on the TV you are still way more likely to see some dangerously underweight model than an obese person.
Yeah, I don't think it's normalized that much at all. Look at all the diet and exercise advice still floating around out there. We're not remotely at the point where people are aspiring to be overweight or even lackadaisical about it. When people say s**t like this, it just looks like they resent having to see fat people around at all, not that they're concerned about people's health.
Load More Replies...I am obese. I know it's a health risk. I just don't want strangers screaming insults at me from their car. I don't want a random drunk guy walk up to me, asking if I love hamburgers. I was bullied at school for being fat when I was ten years old. I was normal weight. I developed an eating disorder in my teens because of that. It took me more than a decade to start loving my body and to undestand that none of the people who write these posts care about our health. You just don't like looking at fat people, you don't ever say a word to a smoker, an alcoholic or a severely underweight person. The reason these post don't work is because they're pure hypocrisy. Everyone playing doctors here. I get regular checks, I have no chronic diseases, I have an active job. I JUST WANT TO LIVE IN MY BODY WITHOUT FEELING LIKE MY EXISTENCE OFFENDS EVERYONE AROUND ME. IS THAT TOO MUCH TO ASK? THAT'S WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT.
Agreed! Is not being publicly humiliated too much to ask? Right now I need to go to the post office, but it’s Saturday so more people will see me…I’m not sure I’m feeling mentally tough enough today. These posts just make bullies feel justified.
Load More Replies...The image and the post is just fat-shaming. We've been normalising emaciated bodies for how long, which is equally unhealthy on the vital organs and particularly unhealthy on the bones. Why pick on big people to illustrate this point?
Can't we just stop telling people what to do with their bodies entirely? In situations like "you have X condition and losing/gaining Y amount of weight will reduce symptom Z" or "This structure/device is only safe to use for people between [weight A] and [weight B]" it makes sense but beyond that, what difference does it really make? Just leave people be.
having unsocial and aggressive dogs, and not leashing or otherwise controlling them
Its how the owner treats/trains the dog, every dog has the potential to be the sweetest thing ever (yes even those scary big dogs like pit bulls and rottweilers) thanks for commenting this because not a lot of people understand that its the owners, NOT the breed.
Load More Replies...I have an unsocial and very anxious dog that could come across as aggressive and would never consider not leashing him in public. I am even considering getting one of those warning leashes so people know not to pat him. I always make sure I have him under control, especially if a person or other animal walks nearby.
Similar issue though my dog loves people he is scared of dogs. He wears a fluorescent warning band that goes over his lead - someone commented today how good an idea she thought it was, after putting her dog on his lead. I'd highly recommend getting something like that - nice and visible. Sadly both my dogs (and me) have been attacked this year because other people weren't similarly considerate with the result that both of my dogs are now far more scared. Anxious-do...c62c5.jpeg
Since being medically retired (bad knees), I offer to train dog owners for free. I only work by word of mouth. I don’t want dogs put down because owners dont understand how to communicate with their pets. Of course there are always going to be those who use their pets as a weapon, which usually ends up in the death of the pet. Heartbreaking
I agree with leashing and controlling them. But not to the first. Many people have unsocial or aggressive dogs either because they were adopted (so nothing up to them) or they couldn’t get socialised for whatever reason. While you control them and they don’t harm others everything is fine. We can’t just put our dogs down for being afraid or unsocialized.
My neighbour cheerfully warns people away from from his damaged dog: "He's half dachshund and half chihuahua." I'm glad the little crank has one person to love him and care for him.
Load More Replies...People who let their off lead dogs (friendly or otherwise) run up to my two on lead ex racing greyhounds. It's not Ok, it doesn't matter how friendly your dog is or if he just wants to play, mine don't. If you see an on lead dog of any breed, don't let your dog run up to it.
Yes! My dog loves playing with other dogs, but can freak out if she's on leash or restrained (like me holding the collar). It drives me nuts when people let their dog run up and yell, "It's okay, he's friendly." Then mine looks aggressive when she's just scared and warning away a possible threat.
Load More Replies...Hear hear! As a dog owner I don't want to step in it either. Always pick up the poo! Don't want to do it? Don't have a dog.
Load More Replies...I totally agree my dog was so friendly until he and I were attacked by 2 unleashed dogs thankfully the owner got them back before they hurt us but we were both terrified since then my dog is very unsociable ( due to fear) but is always kept on a harness and leash .
Or, people thinking food aggression is cute. It's not, and it can lead to other types of aggression.
I trained my dog to know what "quiet" means. It can be done!
Load More Replies...Degrees for office jobs that take almost no time to learn and usually have nothing to do with the degree anyways . So many people out there who can’t afford college but, are just as capable as anyone else.
Ridiculous demands from the same companies that cry over the lack of qualified employees
When is as looking for admin work, I couldn't believe the balls on some of these companies. Require a degree, five years experience, and drive to a different office, 70 miles away, twice a week without additional compensation, for $13 an hour? Wtf are these folks smoking?
Load More Replies...That having a degree automatically makes you better for the job than someone who actually has experience and has been in the job for a few years. I'd been working in the office for three years, when they decided to bring in a graduate - the same age as me - at £5k more than my salary, because he had a computer science degree. Couldn't work the f-ing photocopier, and forgot his password six times in a month. But sure, having a degree makes you smarter than the woman who actually knows how to do the d*mn job and gets the work done.
a computer science grad doing just non-science things seems like he wasnt the best :P
Load More Replies...I had a friend whose husband was a chemist for a big company. He did all the work, he was, quite frankly, freaking brilliant and did all the hard work. He solved the problems, but they would never, officially, put him in charge because he didn't have a Ph.D. He finally went back and got the Ph.D. and they "promoted" him and he was still doing the SAME EXACT WORK HE DID BEFORE.
I've worked in the legal field as a patent prosecution secretary for 20+ years (making over $100k) with nothing more than a 2 year degree, and even that wasn't a necessity. I laugh at the law firms that want candidates to have a 4 year degree, and paralegal certificate, etc, etc... All the best secretaries I know are the ones that learned on the job and had great work environments where sharing knowledge and experience was encouraged. All a person really needs is to be good with details and have good communication skills, and those can't necessarily be taught to someone.
ON THE JOB!!!! Every "Boss should have to suffer on the job they have no clue!
Load More Replies...Or “entry level” job listings that are anything but. You’re not supposed to need 5+ years of direct industry experience for an entry level job. The entry level job itself is supposed to give you those initial years of experience, FFS!
Mostly its lazy HR - they are clueless about actual skill sets, and high barriers allow them to filter out a large number of applicants. If the hire "has a degree" they can also dodge blame when the person flops.
Companies that want experience in their software. The software that no other company within a 100 mile radius is using.
Diamond and gemstones as gifts. They're shiny rocks with artificially inflated value. They're only expensive because people are willing to pay so much for them. If everyone stopped buying them, the price would fall faster than the Hindenburg. Or faster than the employment rate this year.
I'm always depressed by the "my ring has got to be the biggest" stories.
Stories about the biggest whatever! Gems, houses, income, boat, blabla. Bragging.
Load More Replies...I like shiny things. Rings are pretty. That being said, the cheap imitation stones are sooo much better than the real deal because then I'm not gonna be super stressed about losing it and can easily have a collection of different shiny things to wear when I get tired of each individual shiny thing.
agreed! i have a collection of lovely,vintage rhinestone pieces...the brooches look fab on winter coats and the bracelets are a hoot to wear and " jangle"... and if a stone falls out? oh well! no huge sinking loss.... many yrs. ago i found a Cartier tank watch on the floor at a boutique shop..turned it in to the owner and found out later that the lady who owned it was frantic over losing it! her hubby would have had a hissy fit... w-a-y too much drama in owning pricey jewelry( unless you are fabulously wealthy!😞)
Load More Replies...Forty years ago, I asked my (then) boyfriend for an engagement dog instead of an engagement ring. We've adopted five rescue pups over the years. Never once wished I had the ring instead.
I probably should have asked for an engagement cat. I haven’t worn my ring in 2 years (I really dislike jewelry on my hands). 😂 I think my hubs was happy to find out I didn’t want jewelry - like ever.
Load More Replies...My fiance's ring was £35 from Argos. (I'm not a rich person) She knows this, and she would'nt change it for a real diamond ring if she could.
I know people look down on it but Argos does have some really pretty jewellery. My friend's engagement and wedding rings came from there.
Load More Replies...I have no problem with people liking pretty jewelry. But I do have a problem with the idea that an engagement ring should cost 3 months salary or more. I think that's crazy. If I had a piece of jewelry that cost 3 months pay I'd be afraid to wear it for fear of it being lost or damaged. And for most young couples just starting out, wouldn't that money be better spent as a down payment on a car or a house?
I heared that it was to show that man is serious enough to save money for some time. It means he is ready to sacrifice and take good care of woman. Now it doesen't make sense anymore.
Load More Replies...When I got engaged, a coworker looked at my ring, then hers, drew a breath, and knowing what insult was about to crawl out from her lips, I cut her off with a squealed, "I know - he chose perfectly - it's perfect for my tiny hand! Anything bigger would just look wrong on me." And honest to gods, it would. I tried other rings just for fun and ugh! no.
I'm a jeweler, (a goldsmith, I mostly do metalwork, only rarely set stones anymore) so it might surprise people by saying that I agree... the diamond trade is based on horrors and a slick advertising campaign. (Beyoncé recently promoted with the Tiffany ad) I avoid most of the "largest gem show in the world" that's in my city every February (the Tucson gem show) I mostly go for the tools, not stones. Want to feel insignificant and get a massive headache? The vulgar volume of sparkles and piles of diamonds in the high priced shows makes me sick to my stomach. If you must have sparkle, check out the mining source (there are a number of small, credible gem dealers who have private ethical mines) or try a lab grown, which can be a great alternative
I feel the same way. I've had a naturally mined gorgeous 3.5CT Asscher cut and was embarrassed at people, including my friends, who wanted me to stay with my ex because he could get me nice things. It's a vapid world. Whilst I appreciate the beauty in cut and craftsmanship very much, to me it just symbolizes greed and selfishness and possibly abuse and conflict...a lot of negativity for me. I am thankful for lab grown pieces, you only see the beauty.
Load More Replies...Also, the market value of diamonds is inflated because the industry deliberately restricts the supply.
Rio Tinto literally destroyed and aboriginal heritage site in the last year, they crushed it, nothing left but red dust and what was once a sacred place, it is disgusting that they did this just so they could dig up diamonds, which are far less valuable and important.
Cheating. Sooo many "love stories" on netflix, or just any sort of romance movie released these days have cheating involved in them so much. It's always branded as this romantic thing to do. Oooo like at this dark and brooding handsome guy with no personality. Time to f him and forget about my 2 year relationship, or some s*** like that. It's not romantic, it's just wrong, and it should not be normalised.
It's all a little more complicated, some people seem to think cheating is about as bad as it can get. But that being said, romance movies are actually the most messed up when you think about it
Oh, they are. Especially the ones that normalize stalking.
Load More Replies...I've never understood people who have an affair and then want to convince the other person to divorce their spouse and marry them. Like, why would you want to marry this person? You KNOW that he doesn't live up to his vows. He proved that by having an affair with you. If he's willing to leave his wife for you because you're younger and prettier, what happens when you get a few years older and he meets someone who's younger and prettier than you? Or if she's willing to leave her husband because you're richer, what happens when she meets someone who's richer still? (Or whatever the attraction is -- just using the classic stereotypes for an example.)
Reminds me of my Sims. I had a married couple, and the husband was having an affair with the old woman the family was living with. She convinced him to leave his wife, he agreed, and then was sad about it, apparently. I ended up deleting that level since I wanted to start over, but it still makes me think.
Load More Replies...On a side topic . . . Nice to see BP not censoring some words in posts. Finally grown up, are we?
Don't mention it or they will change it or some s**t
Load More Replies...1 of 2: And usually really randomly between characters who had never even looked at each other before, much less seemed attracted to each other. Also usually happens somewhere that fooling around with each other could cost them everything if they’re found out, like work. And, counterintuitively, one usually makes some kind of loud public scene, that totally lets the cat out of the bag, right in front of their coworkers, even their bosses—-yet the other one doesn’t get angry at them for possibly costing them both their jobs, but actually wants them even more. It most definitely does NOT work like that in real life. In real life, the married one goes back to their spouse, because it’s easier than breaking up the household, and the single one is left alone and forgotten. Rarely does the married one get a divorce and marry the single one. Having zero discretion at work can cost both of you your jobs, and possibly your whole careers, as people gossip, not only with coworkers, but others in…
2 of 2: …the same industry, so there goes the chance of just switching companies, or even moving to another state or country, if you were well known in your field. If there’s no job loss, there’s certainly gossip and speculation by the small minded and cruel. Your reputation is damaged—-and it’s always worse for the woman. And nothing is worse than the wronged spouse finding out, especially from someone being petty or downright cruel, because it’s up to the cheater to come clean, no one else. See how much of a mess comes from cheating? The best advice anyone can give is “Don’t s**t where you eat”. Don’t do something as foolhardy and potentially damaging as cheating. Period. Anywhere. Anytime. For any reason. Especially not at work, or in the neighborhood, or church, or any other close group. It’s wrong, and you’re not the only one who will pay dearly for it.
Load More Replies...If you make it clear to your partner that your splitting yeah go date whoever you want after. But just leaving with no warning is sick and damages people for life.
People still think of cheating as purely a sexual "romp" instead of what it really is. Betrayal of trust that will infect every aspect of a relationship.
If you feel like cheating, what you may have to do is question your feelings toward the future cheated person are, maybe they are not that strong as to go on, unless you already have a family, when third parts enter the equation things change radically.
Unhealthily obese pets. You took a warrior and domesticated it! They aren't happy if they're fat! They just eat on instinct! Stop inadvertently hurting the beings that love us unconditionally!
Well, canines and felines are predators by nature, so... you could say they are "warriors" in a sense.
Load More Replies...I have a very fat dog, people judge me constantly, the dirty looks are infuriating! She was dumped at a rescue at 12 because she has cancer, she has some swelling due to it but they made her fat, not me! And now she’s a dying little old lady she can have what she wants, when she wants it, I’m not about the make her last bit of life miserable! People need to stop judging and condemning everyone for everything…which kinda makes this entire post moot.
Bless you. I came here to say the same thing. Not all animals are heavy because of irresponsible owners. There are all kinds of medical issues that can contribute to weight gain, just like with humans. I've been rescuing for decades, and I have had all kinds of cats and dogs. Currently, I have 5 black cats, 4 are completely normal weight, the fifth is huge. Mike has a metabolic issue, and he eats no more than the other 4 cats. He's the second obese cat I have ever had, the first one came to me when her elderly mom passed away... like PiscesMama, I was not going to put this geriatric, sad and obese pet on a strict diet for her final days on earth. I've had rescue dogs who came to me already obese, and a couple who were on steroids that made controlling their weight difficult. I've also cared for many terminally ill dogs who are losing flesh as they decline. I am not starving them any more than I am overfeeding. Lots of people rush to judgement, just like with people.
Load More Replies...EXACTLY! My dad showed me this picture of this obese-VERY obese-cat in a stroller and it broke my heart! That cat was NOT a breed that is normally that heavy and it made me so sad and so angry.
Agree, a Chonk is not cute or funny. It’s abuse. On average, a healthy weight for an adult cat ranges between 7-10 pounds. I know the larger breeds could be more. An extra pound or two on a small animal is like an extra 15 pounds on us. Chonk = diabetes
I have 4 indoor cats. Three are normal weight, one is obese. He has been on a diet most of his life. Nothing worked. Changed vets, changed diets, changed food amounts, nothing worked. He's 11 and last year he was taken off his diet. The vets have no idea why he cannot lose weight. It upsets me. I dont post him online as chonky. I'm not "hurting" him, he was just destined to be a baby white seal.
Yes, my big guy Mike is the same. He's been obese for several years now, he just gradually began to gain weight, and as he did, he became less active, which led to more weight, which led to less activity... a pattern that lots of us know all too well. I was lucky enough to have vets work with me to help Mike be as healthy as possible, but too many people are ready to rush in and tell me how terrible I am because my cat is obese.
Load More Replies...Yeah, except nobody is called a bit*h for saying so or accused for fat shaming.
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Bragging about getting less than 6 hours of sleep.
If you only need a small amount of sleep, way-hey for you. You still get the amount of sleep you need. Some people need more than you. Get over it.
This. Sleep needs are so variable. Some people need 5 hours, others need closer to 10. Standard 8 isn't one size fits all.
Load More Replies...That is nothing to brag about. I get less than 6 hours sleep a night I feel exhausted most days
8-10 for me to feel good 7 or less n ill be dead ass tired all day
Load More Replies...Geez, wish it was something to brag about. I'm seriously struggling with lack of sleep, it's not a badge of honour. It sux a**e.
I’ve slept one hour in the past 48 and I’m not bragging...I’m just pissed. Lol
Load More Replies...Bragging period. Let others laud you and if they don't maybe what you did or didn't do wasn't all that laudable.
Heheheh.... almost everyone in my school😪
Load More Replies...Yes do you know how many people I hear bragging because they work 70+ hours a week I don't know why we start letting our job define us like when someone introduce you to someone for the first time they be like this is x he works for a construction company
The grind. Not taking vacation. Working on vacation. Working through your lunch break. Working early and late all the time. Answering emails after hours. We are completely dispensable to the companies we work for. Don’t lose your life grinding for a company who only thinks of you as a number.
I work at a university, and vacations are sacrosanct here. We have an unwritten rule that you never call someone who is on vacation, no matter how dire the need may be.
I worked at a university and had the opposite experience. I got calls on weekends, had to take laptop on vacation to check in at least one hour a day, and had to get ugly about not working during my lunch break. It all depended on your administration and work culture. For me, it seemed like the higher you went in the hierarchy at my uni, the less respect they had for time away from work.
Load More Replies...I have known people that worked themselves to death for money. The extra money they made initially was more than taken away by later doctor's expenses, hospital expenses, nursing home expenses, and finally, funeral expenses. The immune system will fail if you don't take at least one day a week to rest & recover. Workaholics, Beware! 1_q7Z07h0A...f-jpeg.jpg
People who do this for the "company" are not doing it for the company. You have to understand that a lot of these people identify themselves through their work. You would not criticize them if they were artists or writers but you fail to understand it is the same exact motivation.
When you're young, you get a lot of holidays, but when you grow up, they disappear. This is one of the reaso s I miss my childhood
Attitude is one of the hardest things to change if you work in a place with an attitude like this - is the word No such a bad word!
Don't do this! You will be fired at the first chance because there's always younger, slimer, ask the half of money, a relative of your bosses..
Over-consumption. This goes out to social media influencers who flaunt their hauls and influence people to buy things that they don't need. It will just add on to the landfills. Please, no one's benefitting from hoarding.
That's too much credit for the influencers. Overconsumption entails much more than that. Sadly enough.
I agree but there is the whole idea of Keeping up with the Joneses and the Kardashians that has left many struggling persons to want to emulate lifestyles they just can't afford and truly don't need
Load More Replies...Basically we see people buy things they don't need, with money they don't have, to impress people they don't like
Ads on TV seduce us into thinking...I need that. Brand new and extra powerful dish detergent. Really ? Why didn't the company make it that way in the beginning ? So many manufactured items are inferior in quality yet more expensive. Ditch your jeans and shoes because they are out of style ! Yet they are still in good shape. Think before you buy. We, as a society, are seduced into believing more equals happiness. That idea lasts for 10 minutes. Let's reduce our purchases thereby reducing waste. The amount of things we throw away are insane.
These days I buy pretty much everything I want. Not because I'm super rich, but because I don't want that much any more. I'm rich enough to afford the things I really have a use for -- enough food to eat and a decent house and some books and a computer. Which okay, to many people in the world makes me incredibly rich, and I'm grateful that I'm able to afford these things. But I no longer run after new toys thinking that if I just get one more fancy toy it will make me happy. It never did and it never will.
What drives me crazy is when people destroy things on social media. Like, a Barbie? Fine. Carrot? Okay. Flush five iPhones down the toilet? Grind up a shoe? No! Those could be donated to people who need them!
Walk into any store. There is SO MUCH STUFF. Not necessities. Not things to make my life easier. STUFF. JUNK. Landfill fodder.
Hatred of someone who lives differently than they do.
Yeah, I'm so done with the whole "you're wrong if you don't share the same opinions as me" thing. Or even going so far as to "expose" or cancel someone for having a different or maybe even unpopular opinion. Keep your nose and your camera out of peoples faces and mind your own f-ing business.
Gates no, he's not hurting anyone. Benzos, keep doing what you've been doing but with a little more gusto.
Load More Replies..."Do no harm to others" should be the principle all human beings live by... sadly, we don't. (I'm NOT suggesting I'm perfect- I am trying to live more consciously and don't set out to hurt anyone). I'm tolerant of everyone so long as others in this thread have said, their "difference" in thought, words and actions does not negatively affect the well-being of others.
Or disdain. I read an article on some web site where the writer said that she lived in such a great neighborhood, even the construction workers were "sipping lattes" on their break time. So ... people who drink lattes are better than people who drink regular coffee or ... gasp ... colas? You judge people based on their beverage choice? Really?
... or hatred towards people being a little bit different, just them themselves, not doing any harm, not wanting to, but being punished for being differently. School taught me that this is the default behaviour of humans, it seems - and they couldn't even point at anything and tell me what's so "different" about me.
Toxic positivity. There’s a huge difference between being optimistic and having raised colored glasses on. We’re all people, and we all experience negative and positive emotions. The only way you can properly get over your emotions is by allowing yourself to feel them. Glossing over your emotions with an aura of “Everything’s fine” isn’t going to solve anything, and it’s just gonna make you feel bad.
I had a supervisor who was a true believer in toxic positivity. Her attitude was "If we all believe in this stupid idea, it WILL work!", when the sensibly positive attitude is to say "We CAN come up with a solution that will work!".
I've had times where I have outright told my staff "I know this isn't the best idea, but it comes from above, and we have no choice... so who can help find a way to make the best of the situation? Lets see if we are creative enough to make it work in spite of it being a bad idea"
Load More Replies...I agree with this, but I just have to comment on "raised colored glasses". 😂😂
Oh year, you can spot that something is going to fail from miles away, but you are not allowed to say so because it would "ruin the positive spirit". Just put on the "can-do-attitude" and get started ...as if the positive attitude will not be ruined much more down the line when we discover that we are in waist deep sh!t that we created for ourself, and no longer has the time and resources to get out of. The earlier you predict the problems, the easier they are to steer clear of. Sometimes a little optimism can be what is needed, but don't be a fool and think that it is a universal tool.
Failures in political leadership. I feel more and more we are becoming less critical of failed character in our leaders.
We criticise. It's just water off a duck's back. Its not criticism that's lacking, it's accountability and consequence.
Yes. Like during all this covid stuff, how many examples there have been of politicians who make rules about wearing masks and lockdowns and so on, and then don't obey the rules themselves. If you or I break the rules, we have to pay fines, maybe even go to jail. The politicians break the rules, and they make one of those fake apologies -- "I'm sorry if people misunderstood what I said", or those apologies that translate to "I'm sorry but I'm far too important for the rules to apply to me" -- and then absolutely nothing happens to them. They break the law with impunity.
Load More Replies...Oh they aren’t failed from the stand point of the 1%, they are getting exactly what they want, which is what the founding fathers feared
The idea that political "leaders" are somehow above us and know what's best for us. THEY work for US and we tell them what to do, not the other way around
This is the way it would work, ideally. But in the US, at least, government representatives rarely represent the people who elect them. They work for their wealthy campaign donors and everyone else gets f****d.
Load More Replies...Our PM (in the UK) is the most incompetent and dishonest leader I've ever known in my lifetime. He lies, he gets caught out in those lies, he brushes it off and carries on and his cronies DEFEND HIM!!
" A bag of rats" as Matthew, the wise pothead, once said. I light my bong in your honor oh great Matthew McConna...McCaunahey...Mcconnaghy? What was i saying?
Assuming you are speaking of the U.S. here. The reason for this lack of critical consideration of our leaders is because our leaders are mimicking our own failed character. Look at how Trump won and stands a strong chance of winning again. He played to the base mentality of ignorance and ridicule and won for it.
who's leader would want to be in that dump today? peole got criticize for any dumb stuff they did 35 years ago? everything is recorded, pictures... "omg! did you see him? he didn't put is flasher when he turn at the road. he must resign! those who are bright won't go in that mess. Churchill was a hell of a politician but he wasn't perfect. today he would've been crucify
Student loans. Education is getting more expensive by the day and the added burden on a student in paying back a student loan helps nobody. Furthermore people encourage student loans as though the students are obligated to take them if they pursue higher studies. Pure nonsense.
I think that is a US problem with Student loans. Everyone gets brainwashed into needing an expensive degree. What about technical colleges? You can make a very good living being an electrician, plumber or framer or whatever. I feel people are looking down on those professions. But who is going to come when your AC is out, who is going to built your home? We need to appreciate especially laborers. These days it is kind of refreshing to see how impacted our supply chain is because of driver shortages and so on. I hope that'll lead to a better understanding on how important these careers are.
Another US problem that can be fixed by not voting for people who make it their goal to control women's wombs and reserving education and health care for the rich.
Community college is basically free in Texas because it's so cheap. If you are sick, the hospitals must treat you by either stabilizing you and transporting you to another or finishing the treatment. There is help in place for the poor. Maybe you should research things yourself instead of listening to talking heads.
Load More Replies...Education should be free but if not then the loans should at least not bear interest.
Also time to be done with students who go to expensive colleges and rack up huge debts for degrees that don't lead to a way to pay it back. I'm all for cancelling student debt for doctors, nurses, engineers, and trade schools.... I have zero interest in bailing out poly sci or art history majors who spent $250,000 on tuition.
And the college my dad works at is slowly (quickly!) losing funds. The state doesn’t want to pay for schools anymore.
I never understood Government Student Loans, you mean I can borrow the money I gave you in taxes and pay it back at a ridiculously high interest rate?
I was shocked to learn that the difference between having a degree or not, in my job, was one dollar more per hour. So much for paying off all that debt.
Hating police. I've worked places that police don't go. You all don't know how good you have it.
I don't hate police in general, but I've had my arm and nearly my skull broken during the 2001 Genoa protests (unprovoked attack on peaceful protesters) and I was in the Diaz school raid (but luckily wasn't hurt as I was hiding in a closet). Sooo... there's good apples and bad apples... but the bad apples do a lot of damage as they are put in a position of power.
People always talk about "bad apples" as if they're isolated and their corruption doesn't touch the others - but remember, the maxim is: "One bad apple spoils the barrel". If there's a single corrupt or brutal police officer, his co-workers and supervisors aren't blameless.
Load More Replies...That's an ignorant statement because this totally depends on someones experiences with the police. Unfortunately location (country), skin colour and gender are of more influence on this experience than they should have at all.
I don't buy this "There are more good cops than bad cops" myth. If there are really more good cops than bad cops, the good cops would be able to clear the force of the bad cops. In reality good cops either shut up and look away or leave the force because they can't stand how other officers abuse their powers to bully people. And we all know about the stories of how superiors covered for bad cops overstepping their powers or being just racists or sexists.
You said it perfectly. The “good cops” either ignore or hide the bad behaviours, they are obviously not good.
Load More Replies...I dunno. It's a career that descended from punishment for drunkards, then slave patrols, then union busting. It's currently known for brutality, rampant bias, and prioritizing property over people. I don't hate police officers as humans. But I do definitely wonder about anyone drawn to that line of work.
This starts with distrust of the police because of bad experiences. The police needs to keep improving. There have been too many high profile cases recently of officers abusing their position of authority to commit truly heinous crimes. Part of the problem may be with recruitment - we can't get decent folk so we'll lower the bar, or be less vigilant vetting past behaviour because we need the numbers. Sadly, as with everything else, this comes down to money and government and corruption and power.
It's still pretty unfair though. That's like saying "it's okay for me to hate all men because I've had bad experiences with a few men in the past". Yes there are members of the police force that are awful, yes the system is awful and it protects those awful members, but that still doesn't give us free reign to hate on everyone that's part of it.
Load More Replies...I agree. Ever go into a bad neighborhood and see all the bars on the windows and gates on all the shops? They aren't there to keep the police out!
Maybe if we stopped normalising police incompetence, brutality, and corruption, people wouldn't *need* to normalise hating the police? Just a crazy thought. This mentality is essentially victim blaming, criticising people for being the victims of bad cops. When you have an industry that allows its employees to literally murder people without consequences, the problem is not with those who hate the murderers.
The hate of police comes from a real place though. I never hated police, until they busted my door down, put a gun to my husband's head and forced me to wake and strip my children naked so they could look for "signs of abuse" 4 1/2 hours after my toddler hit the 911 button on my phone (this was when phones had an emergency button that everyone pocket dialed). Now, I fear police. And since getting into the mental health and drug rehab fields, I learned to fear them more. Fear absolutely overlaps with hate. So, the hate, was earned!
Thank you for sharing your story, Sabrina. You're right: People who have never seen the dark side of law enforcement tend to wear rose-colored glasses.
Load More Replies...There is no career where everybody is good, none. Be it priests, doctors, engineers cops or anyone else, bad people will find their way into every walk of life. The upside is so will a lot of very good people.
Yeah, but a bad shoe salesman isn't going to kill you on the job, have a union of other shoe salesman protect them from consequences and outright *punish* any good shoe salesman from trying to stop the bad ones and a general culture that'll blame the victim for having the wrong feet in the first place. while putting shoe salesmen on a ridiculously high pedestal.
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Students overwhelmed by homework when it isn’t necessary. I’m excluding situations like when the workloads from classes are reasonable and happen to pile on one day or students who aren’t organized, etc. This whole thing is a grey area, but sleep, burnout, mental health exists.
A little coordination between teachers could solve this problem. I can remember the times where we had to do an assignment for English and an hour later our French teacher came up with a similar time consuming assignment. When we explained that that meant we had to choose which one we could do, he postponed the assignment for 2 weeks. But other teachers just said "Deal with it." It's education, teacher, we're not operating a multibillion dollar business with deadlines and targets here.
When we would complain the answer was that its only 3 chapters to read and write a report on.... due tomorrow. Then the math teacher gives you pages to read and solve. Each teacher + each teacher + each teacher = up til 11pm trying to get the "It's just ...." Homework done for the next day.
Load More Replies...Studies have shown homework is not helpful for learning - students generally either learn in the classroom, or the stress and bother of homework makes any learning achieved outside of class counterproductive.
I'm a freshman in college. After the past two school years, at least let me regain my socializing abilities after, what, 18 months of not being able to use them at all. My prescription for epilepsy, which consists of lamotrigine and levetiracetam, doesn't help. I chose to go to college to gain knowledge, not stress.
Load More Replies...As a former high-school English teacher, I was/am against most homework (ESPECIALLY THE "MAKE WORK" TASKS) as well. For children in years 7-9 (aged 11-13/14) a little (30 mins) independent reading(free choice, fiction or non-fiction) a day would suffice. If other subjects set homework in alternating patterns, there should never be more than an hour or so a day. Years 10/11 are prep years for exams here in the UK. For those students I would recommend 30 mins of independent reading(any subject) and another 30 mins of writing practice. The writing task does not need to be elaborate and should focus on a particular skill. The first part of the following lesson should then be dedicated to reinforcing the concept covered in the homework task. The homework from other subjects should lead to a maximum of 2 hours per day and projects/large assignments spaced sensibly through a term. THIS ISN'T HOW MOST SCHOOLS WORK, HOWEVER.
My son is 14 and regularly comes home from an 8hr school day only to site and do homework for 5-6 more hours.
Did you know that homework is absolutely not necessary under the age of 14?
This just needed to be said: f**k whoever came up with the concept of homework!!
As a student this is all to real, we have absurd amounts of homework and there is several periods in the year when all the tests and assignments are all within the period of 4 weeks for around 8 subjects, its absolutely dreadful and means that I find myself working for hours on end (from when I get home at 4 to 8) just so I can get assignments and homework done
Not caring about education. So many people obviously didn't pay attention in elementary school and don't care about it.
Over here, the government doesn't see education as a "top priority" while I think it's one of THE most important things
It’s frighteningly evident in the US, where people who didn’t sit up and listen in school become gullible, and prone to being taken advantage of, and making very bad decisions. They believe bullshit they read online and not highly educated professionals. They have zero idea how their government works, and zero idea about how rights work. They have under- or undeveloped critical thinking skills, so don’t consider the potential fallout from their actions. They think if they hitch their wagon to someone who is wealthy, they’ll get rich too. They also make hypocritical, illogical, counterintuitive, and often dissociative statements that appear to be nothing more than a parroting someone else’s words. Ignorance is not bliss, at least not for the rest of us. I would prefer a population of critical thinkers than one of weak-minded, gullible, empty-headed nincompoops.
Thank you for that. The US needs more of you and less dolts!
Load More Replies...It really ticks me off when people say "But Bill Gates dropped out of college and became a millionaire." Put this in perspective, though - there are 7 billion people on Earth, but only ONE Bill Gates. What are your chances?
A friend of mine once showed me a meme about that. Showing Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, and maybe some other rich guy, all of them dropped out of school and became wealthy. Then it goes "if I drop out of school" *image of washing the dishes in poverty somewhere on a dirty street*
Load More Replies...Remember the episode of The Simpsons when Lisa gets a bad grade and becomes popular, but is instantly returned to her teacher's pet status after it turned out that the teacher made a mistake? Yeah, that's happening in real life.
IMO this is the reason why so many of people in my country (Spain) can’t speak proper English. In school if you said things well or pronounced them correctly they would make fun of you. So it limited a lot the learning experience.
Load More Replies...I can relate to that but I'm from Louisiana and we are so far behind than other states education should be the same across the board except for state history
I had (military) friends who moved from NY to SC and she said the schools were so far behind it wasn't funny .... sad
Load More Replies...Aw Hell No!!! It's my experiences at school that made me hate school!!!
Putting pressure on kids to stay in school and do better than the next kid can set them up for failure. Until schools stop trying to put all kids into one box and realise there are kids that just don't fit the box, some are never going to care about education.
Academics might not be for everyone, but trades school can be great for some. Or not necessarily a recognized trade At one office, the cleaner told me that she got sick of her office job and was happier as a cleaner: more freedom, no office politics.
Load More Replies...Again, another incorrect generalization. Public schools are funded through property taxes, so a poor neighborhood will not have nearly the same enriching educational system as the wealthier town over yonder. Can't speak for the nitwits in the back of the class at either school.
How alcohol is so casual in today's world. Lots of people misuse alcohol and don't even know it. Anytime you're seriously getting inebriated, you're hurting your body so much. I see way too many people coming into the liquor store I work at and buying WAAAY too much. And that's normal. Kids should be raised on the realities of alcohol consumption.
Also how media portrays alchohol as necessary and drinking while you are upset as normal and necessary. Specially with media from USA, it’s terrible how most protagonists have an obvious alcohol problem. Bad day at work? Kip? Drinking until passing out. Children are annoying? Wine. Going out with friends? Must be with alcohol…
Media has romantically portrayed alcohol as the just means to deal with any life experience. Just watch any issue of, say, Maude. The private wet bar is front and center of nearly every episode. This is just an example. I'm not dissing Maude.
Load More Replies...Reminds me of a few days back. I was babysitting while the parents were out having dinner on their anniversary. I saw a drunk person for the first time that night. It was a bit scary, to see this previously collected person stagger through the door, giggling and repeating everything she said multiple times.
I think people, specifically parents, should stop normalizing that it's a given that their child will grow up to have a family. Instead, parents should emphasize that it's difficult to find the right partner, and that it's possible that it might not even happen at all, and that it would be okay as well.
This is important. But parents only care about themselves when they think of their children. They see their children as extensions of themselves, and not separate individuals that will have their own unique paths in life
Yeah...No. I absolutely do not feel this way about my children.
Load More Replies..."Emphasize that it's difficult to find the right partner"? Doesn't sound like the right starting point for someone that hasn't even started to explore love yet. Healthy self-confidence and self respect as well as respect towards others and being able to deal with disappointment is much more helpful imo. Though I do agree that parents shouldn't expect from their kids to make them grandparents. You choose to make little humans, they owe you nothing.
I am glad to be in my family, where my brother who doesn't want to be in a relationship is never pushed to be in one. All the jokes about future relationships fall on me, since my parents know for a fact that I do indeed want marriage and kids XD.
My son has autism (Asperger's) so his social skills are lacking. I have concluded that the only grandchild I will have will be a cat. And I'm okay with that.
My sister had three grand-cats for a while. Then her son's relationship broke up. He does get visitation rights to see the cats.
Load More Replies...Yes! My father talks about how one day I'll "settle down and find a husband" and we'll have a nice family. Sorry not sorry Dad, but I have two loving partners, and the closest thing you're getting to grandchildren is cats. Lots and lots of cats.
I don't want kids. Ever. But my mom asks me *TWICE A WEEK* when I'm going to give her grandbabies. I have a sister, too. The only reason my mom doesn't badger her is because she's underage.
With someone like that, I'd be tempted to announce twice a week, "I had sex with a random stranger in a bathroom/bushes/bus shelter/etc. Woohoo, you're going to get a grandbaby - I hope they're triplets!! Start pumping, mom, we could need extra titties!"
Load More Replies...Obsessing over celebrities/people you do not know irl. So basically stan culture. People will say they 'stan' someone as a point of pride. If it's gotten to that stage then you really really need to take a step back. No hate to those who keep it amongst themselves but yeah not healthy at all imo
A reference to the Eminem song Stan. The song is about an overly obsessed fan (named Stan) who writes letters to Eminem and ends up driving off a bridge with his pregnant wife, because Eminem didn't write him back. The terms means a very very overzealous and obsessed fan of a celebrity/band/cast of a tvshow or movie. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Stan
Load More Replies...I don't trust huge fans of things; when it's popular, tgey can't stop praising it, but when it's over, everyone is suddenly gone
I find celebrity culture very weird full stop. You read 'oh I love them' being said by people who have never even met them. People might like the way the celebrity seems in the media, they may do good things, they might be lovely/funny/charming in interviews. None of that means we would like them that much in real life if we got to know them properly. I might be a 'fan' of a certain band's music but the band members are still just people. I might like an actor in a certain film... they're playing a part. People can present a wonderful face to the world and then go home and kick the cat for all we know.
Load More Replies...I don't think most people that use the word "Stan" to describe their obsession with a celebrity know the history of that expression. It's from a song by Eminem. The song is titled Stan. It's about a fan that was obsessed with Eminem and went and killed himself because Eminem didn't call or write him back when he sent letters and called Eminem. This fan (Stan) had pictures of Eminem on his wall, bleached his hair to make it look like Eminem's hair at the time the some was released, got a tattoo of Eminem's name on his chest. He ended up driving off a bridge with his pregnant girlfriend in the trunk of the car and they both died. Before you "Stan", think of what it really means. Stan was a toxic fan that was negatively obsessed with a famous person and he took his own life because that famous person ignored him
It's earlier than the song, referring to a situation where someone stalked (I believe) Gwyneth Paltrow around 1999. He was obsessed and believed that she was meant to marry him, sent her lewd messages and pron. He was called a stalker fan.
Load More Replies...The American dream, that your politicians give a damn about you and that there’s any hope for this planet, there’s not, we are just free falling before we hit the pavement right now.
It's this kind of things that make me think america has no reason fir tge arrogance of some of theur people. You can clearly see that your country is not the greatest country on earth, but you refuse to do so and influence others to go to your country
Overworking yourself.
In some countries it's a choice that people make. In other countries it's a necessity to keep a roof above your head and feed your family.
Well, then we shouldn’t normalize having to overwork yourself to live. It works both ways.
Load More Replies...Throwing tantrums in public. Time to openly admit that the person flipping out is usually in the wrong.
Not so. Some people have a hard time dealing with emotions, it’s too easy to sit back and judge. Each fight is different and sometimes the loudest most animated person is the one being victimized the most and they have just reached a breaking point. You never know until the people fighting are split up and interviewed
I have that problem a lot. I have ADHD and autism. I have extreme difficulty controlling my emotions sometimes, especially if I haven't had much sleep. If I have a breakdown in public, it's because I'm under an extreme amount of stress from trying to support myself and my girlfriend and going through school on top of that, not because I'm a "bitchy Karen who's upset at that poor employee for putting soy milk in my latte by accident", as someone once said to me. That wasn't even me who was upset at the employee.
Load More Replies...Do people actually say this is right? Karens are openly made fun of on tge internet
That's the point. The person throwing the tantrum is in the wrong, and it's gaining nothing for the person other than internet ridicule, so people should just stop throwing tantrums in public.
Load More Replies...Not if you know tge person tgat throws the tantrum
Load More Replies...STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
STRESSING YOUR ANIMALS FOR A “CUTE” SOCIAL MEDIA POST. It’s not fair or cool to get your dog or cat worked up for you to get some extra clicks. This can mean scaring them on purpose or making them perform or be in unusual environments just for clicks.
YES! People who put clothes on animals, for any other reason than a coat for warmth, should take a bloody good look at themselves. Animals don't NEED to wear clothes, don't WANT to wear clothes and, certainly, don't WANT to participate in and cutesie wootsie games you're playing with them! Animals are our companions, not our props!!!
Load More Replies...I’m probably going to get downvoted for this, but using being LGBTQIA+ as an excuse for mental health issues. I’ve seen multiple people online with “head mates” which is really just having split personalities. That is, in my experience, is usually a sign of mental illness. Get help!
I don't understand what you're saying. Are you saying LGBTQ have split personalities? I'm trying to get what you're saying. Can you elaborate more please?
Load More Replies...Every time someone disagrees with you, they call you toxic. I they don't like the truth: toxic. blablabla
Load More Replies...Funny that I can't read: "Being Anti-vaxx is fine, they just have another point of view that should be respected"
There's a lot missing from this list: driving home drunk or even tipsy, hypocritical behavior, social media influencers, idolizing celebrities, the pharmaceutical business and the opioid issue, racism, ruining our planet.....soooo many things that we've become blind to.
Bullying intelligent people calling them nerds! We should praise them, not belittle them!
Criticizing things people can't change like their height, or their nose, or in the case of men, the size of their penis. Only one of these things have corrective surgery and it's far too costly for most people.
