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22 Times People Kept Secrets From Their Partner, Only To Reveal Them After Marriage
Article created by: Ieva Pečiulytė
They say you never truly know someone until you’ve lived, traveled, or done business with them. However, some people possess an uncanny ability to conceal their true selves for many years, much to the shock of those around them.
These personal anecdotes are from people who made startling discoveries about their partners that only surfaced after they had exchanged vows. Some were cute quirks, while others were so disturbing that they spelled the end of the marriage.
Enjoy reading, and feel free to share any similar experiences you may have.
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#1
The fact that she is actually a good cook! For 10 years I cooked almost every meal because every time she cooked it wasn't very.. well.. good.
Got married and ever since she has made awesome meals which are absolutely beautiful. I asked her when she learned to cook and she told me she had always known how to cook but wanted to make sure I wasnt marrying her to be a housewife that cooks and cleans for her husband.
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#2
That he could juggle.
You're with someone for a decade and you think you know him, then all of a sudden he starts juggling the four oranges he's holding and when your jaw drops just says, "oh, I learned when I was a kid."
This whole time we could have been on the road as a circus act and he waits until now to reveal his talents.
#3
My ex wife hid her physical violent tendencies until after marriage. Nothing like getting punched for not doing the dishes correctly.
#4
That he actually *didn't* want kids, and that now we were expecting I needed to honor that.
No longer married.
#5
When my grandparents got married, my grandmother was 24 , and thought my grandfather was 25. It was during their honeymoon that he confessed that he was only 19. Gran was annoyed, obviously, but I think she was too relieved to be married to stay mad at him; 24 was getting close to being left on the shelf for an Irish Catholic woman in the 60s.
#6
I didn't find out until our divorce that my ex-husband had credit card debt and no retirement savings. His company had a good 401k match and he had told me that he was contributing. Turns out he had never even set up his 401k and was not putting any money toward retirement savings, in addition to accumulating credit card debt.
Thankfully all the debt was in his name and the divorce filing had him paying all of his debt and me keeping all of my retirement savings. Bullet dodged there.
#7
That despite the life plans we'd talked about, once we married he expected me to be the breadwinner, the homemaker, cook and accountant in the family. He needed to "stay home and work on his music". Oh, and that two bedroom place? No, he didn't want kids, he wanted his own bedroom. Oh, and intimacy? "I could just "do my business" in your room, but sleep in my own bed after". Nope, nope, nope.
#8
My ex husband failed to mention that his first marriage ended because he cheated on her three weeks in, that he hadn't been to Afghanistan, that his sister was actually still alive, and so much more.
EDIT: Typo.
#9
My, now late, husband came to me directly from his mother's home and into mine. I cooked, cleaned, and did everything that a good old fashioned wife does for her husband, all the while he claims that he cannot do these things.
After living together for four years, two years into our marriage I became so ill that I was laid up for weeks. I feared that we would both starve and be living in filth and poverty from eating out until he surprised me with a, better than my own, home cooked meal. It was delicious! Even the house was cleaner than ever.
I think it's hilarious that he hid his domestic talents from me for so long and was even better than me. I was duped for four years!
#10
That she pretty much only married me to raise her two children from two previous marriages. Took me 18 years to learn that one but now she doesn't want to be a wife or a mother as I'll be keeping the 16 year old we had together so at least I got that going for me....
#11
My ex wife neglected to mention she was a lesbian until after we were married.
Kind of a deal breaker.
#13
She hid the fact that she'd bought me a PS3, Oblivion, Infamous, and Fallout 3 as a wedding present until we got home from our honeymoon.
#14
He's afraid of heights.
We were together 7 years before we tied the knot (tax reasons and love of course). 2 years later, and I finally realize why he seems disinterested in sky diving, zip lining, roller coasters, cliff sides, etc.. He said he only did it because I wanted him to.
I am not an observant woman.
#15
He actually was living under a false identity. He stole the identity of his military superior when both of them were attacked in Korea.
EDIT: Yes, I divorced him, but that's not the first lie he told me and it got to the point where I just couldn't tell whether or not he was lying anymore. I fell out of love with him because he was like a stranger to me.
#16
Three time felon looking to get married then divorced so she could get paid.
Divorced and broke now.
#17
She farts. A lot.
Seriously, 2 1/2 years of dating and never heard a squeak. After the wedding, farting constantly.
I'm really surprised she didn't let one rip at the alter after I said, "I do.".
#18
He was a massive stoner. I tried to move on and live with it, I even coped by joining him. But I got fat, lazy and depressed. I also was the only one working. It took me 6 years, but I left him, eventually remarried and I am very very happy.
#19
Oh my god. My husband his that his favorite radio show was car talk and that we would have to listen to it every Saturday morning. Every Saturday until I left for college, my dad made me listen to that show. When I graduated, I thought, "at last. I'll never have to listen to that on a Saturday morning again." I was wrong. I'll have to listen to it every time my husband catches a rerun until they stop playing them or until the end of time.
#20
That she is bisexual. She apparently didnt think I would be accepting, so she waited til a year and a half in. Not even mad.
#22
My wife doesn't like Mario Kart.
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