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Doing only what everyone else tells you to do is no way to go through life. Instead, it’s important to develop the confidence to embrace your true passions—and pursue them without embarrassment or guilt. Just because society tells you something is cool doesn’t make it so.

Jake Okechukwu Effoduh, a Ph.D. candidate at the Osgoode Hall Law School of York University, recently went viral on X (formerly Twitter) when he asked everyone for their thoughts on what they’re convinced people only pretend to enjoy. Camping, situationships, trips to Miami, and oysters are just the tip of the iceberg. Scroll down to see what everyone else had to share.

Bored Panda reached out to Jake and he was kind enough to share a few thoughts with us. Read on for his insights!

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We were interested to get Jake's thoughts on the massive popularity of his online thread. "I wonder why it resonated with so many people. I guess many people have thought about the question too!" he told Bored Panda.

"I didn't expect the tweet to get any attention, so seeing 38M views is shocking," he said.

Meanwhile, we were curious as to why people have such different opinions on various foods and activities. Here's what the author of the viral thread had to say: "As they say: 'One person's meat is another person's poison.'"

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Running feels awesome. Running cross country is physically, emotionally and mentally fulfilling. More so than in a track. Ergo, better than a treadmill. How could someone who likes to run not like doing it outside? Unless they live in New Delhi or a smoggy place.

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According to Jake, "People find it hard to think that something they dislike so much is enjoyed by other people. For example, I love avocados but was surprised to see many people think those who enjoy avocados are pretending," he explained.

Though he has gone viral on Twitter, Jake doesn't consider himself a content creator. Instead, he used the platform to keep up with the news and to share his insights with others.

"I use Twitter to catch up with what's happening in the world and share my thoughts sometimes," he told Bored Panda.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I enjoy going into the office, the team is great and we have a laugh BUT if you give me the option to work from home or from the office, i'm picking home every time

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love reading, but never thought they were supposed to do all that. Maybe a little wisdom or insight.

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If we sit down and think hard about our goals and priorities, then we can come up with a list of things that we genuinely enjoy doing. This might mean different things to everyone. Some, for instance, might be passionate about art and writing, while others might want to focus on music and dance. 

Most of us also want to have good, strong relationships with others because we’re social animals. Having an active social life isn’t just pleasant, it’s good for our health. The BBC stresses that loneliness can be just as dangerous as smoking. Leading a lonely life leads to more health problems, and shorter, lower-quality lives. According to health experts, around half of the American population is thought to be affected by this. 

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't like the getting up part, but once I'm up i love the feeling that I have the world to myself.

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ॐBoyGanesh
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Isn’t this an internal clock or circadian rhythm thing, which is typically set in utero? From what I understand, there are 4 general clocks with diurnal-rising being the two least common, noon-rising the most common and biphasic the most overlooked. But then, who knows how much pseudo-science goes into it? I just know I function best after dark, prefer to awake in double-digit hours and go to sleep in single-digit, assuming a 12-hour clock.

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8 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This, 1 000 000 times this! Waking up is bad enough, but 6 am? What is the matter with these people :D

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love getting up early because the world is still quiet, but I also hate staying up late past 9 party, so I think it's just my rhythm.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I sometimes wake up at 6… to tell the birds to knock it off… 🤣

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Matilda
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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Depends WHY I'm getting up at 6am! Work? Hell no - no enjoyment Holiday? I'll be up at 5am and love it - LETS GO!

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nobody enjoys getting up at this time, but what i do enjoy is that i have so much more time during the day then

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Then when you retire and can sleep as long as you want, your brain starts to automatically wake you at 6 am.

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8 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I’m a confirmed early bird - especially at this time of year. I go out for a walk at about 6.30 and spend a couple of hours picking wild berries to be turned into wine. The air’s much cleaner too.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I generally go to sleep some hours after noon, like 4 pm, sleep until 11pm or so and get up. I love the still, quiet hours from 2-4am.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I only like getting up early if it's to go abroad for holiday

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I get up at 4am and actually like being early into the office. I actually get so much done before anyone logs on.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

IF I've had a good night's sleep, I love getting up early to get things done. I'm most productive in the morning.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I love it cos years of night shifts made me feel depressed and not connected to ‘life’ and I felt like I was missing out on life. 6-7 at least I feel apart of the world again. I think night shift screwed me up a little 😂

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t like getting up at 6 to get ready for work, but I do like the money to pay the bills.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My alarm goes off at 5 so I can take my meds (has to be taken on an empty stomach), but I'm up between 5:30 and 6 so I have some time alone before the kiddos get up.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I feel like I'd waste a lot of time if I get up late. The latest for me is 9am LOL :D

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I have to get up at 6am every morning for middle school AND elementary AND my 4yo sister gets up at 6 because of me

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I used to love getting up before the sun... everything was fresh and quiet.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hey pandas, stop downvoting people just because you disagree with them… 🙄

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Look... I like *being* up early, but I hate *getting* up early, you feel me?

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t like it my body just gives me no choice. Sometimes it’s 3!

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I like waking up at 3am, because i hate people and i need at least 3 hours of time alone to get the important things done before i'm interrupted by the endless intrusive idiocy of the day.

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However, it’s because our social lives are so important that we might be overly worried about our reputations and that others like us. Instead of being 100% authentic and true to ourselves, our aims, and our values, we may adapt our behavior to fit in better. This might mean copying our social group’s interests to leave a positive impression, whether it’s suddenly trying to enjoy camping or some other activity. 

Here’s the thing, though: it’s perfectly fine to try out new and unexpected activities. Embracing a sense of adventure and surprise, and living curiously, are all wonderful things. However, pursuing specific activities just because you’re scared your friends and acquaintances might judge you otherwise isn’t healthy.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Instagram, depends on who/what you follow. Though the adverts/suggested posts in my feed can f**k right off

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I live on an island where we have to watch for falling coconuts all the time. It’s so delicious. Especially if you filter the pulp or meat. How people don’t love coconut I’ll never understand.

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It’s perfectly fine to say ‘no’ if you’ve tried, say, golf, but it never really clicked. On the flip side, if you did enjoy the activity like your friends do, then that’s wonderful, you’re on the same page. The point is, friendship—true friendship—means setting and enforcing boundaries, and feeling comfortable enough to be honest about what you enjoy and absolutely do not. So you might not like camping—that’s fine, you’ll bond with your pals over hiking or cooking.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So I was thinking of those retractible daggers on cats paws before I realised they meant manicures.

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Verywell Mind points out that herd mentality, also known as mob or crowd mentality, can be observed everywhere we go. That’s how fashion trends, investment decisions and political affiliations can spread: people set aside their personal judgments and individuality in exchange for adopting the beliefs of the majority. 

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

have you ever tried salted licorice, cultural heritage of the Scandinavian countries, much worse than viking raids?

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Folks who are victims of herd mentality tend to conform with the rest of the group, even if they had very different opinions before joining it. They often have a fear of being excluded and may adopt more extreme opinions in order to fit in better. Not only that, members of these social mobs also suppress dissent by stamping out contrary opinions. 

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I didn't understand anything; what is "La Croix" and what means "fr"?

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The best way to fight back against herd mentality is to cultivate more self-awareness. In other words, you have to take an honest look at your beliefs and (dis)likes. Be open with yourself about how much your peers affect how you act. Then, it all comes down to making the decision to be more authentic in the future… or to continue going with the flow.

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is silly. Taylor is the biggest performer on the globe right now. Its not even close. People aren't pretending.

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It also helps if you become more skeptical of all trends and popular opinions. Try to see through the hype and spot the nuances in situations. The more you develop your critical thinking skills, the more you’ll be able to protect your individuality. And though human beings crave certainty and stability, you can slowly develop your confidence if you start to embrace being uncomfortable going against the crowd. Though you shouldn’t be a contrarian just to stand out!

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8 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Or, as my dad calls it, “pretending to be homeless for a few nights.”

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So, dear Pandas, which of these tweets (or should we be calling them Xs now thanks to Elon Musk?) did you resonate with the most? What things do personally think aren’t all that enjoyable but folks feel pressure to say they love ‘em? What activities do you genuinely love? Share your thoughts in the comments, we’d love to hear from you!

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