Most of us would agree that the beauty of life lies in the unknown. Every day is full of uncertainty and even though sometimes it surprises you with the best things, life can also hit you with something you would never have thought could happen to you.

Recently, one Reddit user asked people to name something 'Nobody is ever prepared for' and the answers are well... something you are definitely not prepared for. From childbirth to sharts, these answers prove that life is full of experiences nobody can prepare you for.

Scroll down to read some unexpected responses! (Facebook cover image: Officer Bimblebury)

#1

The death of a parent. No matter how young/old.

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Turd Ferguson
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1 year ago

Agreed, miss my dad every day.

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#2

Being raped.

Sure, you know it as a concept, a horrible concept that happens to other people. And then it happens to you, and there is no way to be ready for how it will make you feel like you are nothing more than an orifice. Like you are worthless and disgusting. How you will be terrified of men for years and not let anyone touch you. How you will try to date and eventually give up because you can't feel anything.

How your heart will start to race anytime you see a car that looks like his, or walk past someone on the street who vaguely looks like him. You could be thousands of miles away, but that fear is still there.

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Windkissed
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1 year ago

I understand.

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#3

Living with chronic pain. It's not something you can understand unless you deal with it yourself. And it's not just the pain that wears you down. It's the isolation, losing the ability to do things you love, and watching your life slip through your fingers like sand.

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Zori the degu
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1 year ago (edited)

It was around the time I became good enough to crawl on the ceiling at the climbing hall that I started feeling pain in my back. Now, it's common in this sport to overwork yourself, but this pain didn't go away as all the others preceding it. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months and I grew very worried indeed. After long hours at different medical buildings, I got a permission for NMR and was diagnosed with a slipped disk. I can still climb, fortunately, but I'd likely never be as good as I would've been if I didn't have slipped disk and climbing upside down like I used to is out of the question. And it's not just climbing, while the doctor was very happy with my level of activity and encouraged it, he reminded me that every sport now carried a risk. It doesn't seem like a big deal compared to all the sufferings other people with chronic pain have to tolerate daily, but it really hurt me that just when I found my sport, this sh*t happened. Destiny seems to love pranking me. :(

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#4

Tyranny of the majority.

In school, if you got a question right that most of the other people got wrong, you were praised for being smart.

In real life, if everyone else around you believes something wrong, it simply becomes right.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

And in school, those other kids probably hated you.

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#5

When you don't see your parents often anymore and they get noticeably older each visit

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K. LNU
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1 year ago

This is one of the reasons I gave up my contracting job overseas. Spending only 2 weeks out of a year to see them, just wasn't enough. And yes, I did notice the changes.

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#6

Realizing that making and keeping friends is extremely hard. People drift apart pretty easy.

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Natasha Forchione
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1 year ago

This is so true :(

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#7

Burying their child. I have a few stories, but any way you cut it, some of the most rational people I know have buried their own kids and I don't think anything before or after, no level of therapy can make you the same again. A family friend's son was basically executed because his roommate was selling weed and some assholes decided to kill them for all of a couple ounces of fucking marijuana. A decade later, they put on a face, but you can tell they're still just going through the motions. It's heartbreaking, there's nothing you can say that I'm sure they haven't already heard a thousand times from well wishing friends/family, it'll just never be the same.

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Candy Sheppard
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1 year ago

buried 2 babies- never get over that

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#8

The first time you go to jail. Aside from the 'oh shit' feeling you have about whatever landed you there, there's the realization that you can't leave. It sounds really obvious, but think about it: in the vast majority of places and situations you find yourself in, you can leave. It might not be wise, it might not be right, and it might have consequences, but you have that option. You're used to having so many possibilities in your day to day that you don't really think about it. Until it gets taken away. You mostly get used to it with time, but nobody is prepared the first time.

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sosunlight
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1 year ago

Also, having someone you know go to jail for the first time - nothing prepares you for the feeling of loss, having to meet with a wall of glass between you, the reality life will never be the same again. And it's not your fault, but somehow you've been swept into the uncontrollable, unfathomable machine of the justice system. Thinking of anyone who is facing that today <3

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#9

Watching a parent slowly slip away. I'm currently holding the hand of my dying mother. Two weeks ago she had a massive stroke. She is currently in a coma like state in a hospice facility. She will never recover, just slowly slip away a little more every day. It pains me to see her in this current state. I talk to her as if she was normal, as they say hearing is the last sense you loose. I reassure her everything is ok and there is nothing to worry about, but I leave the room sometimes just to cry.

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Jaguarundi
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1 year ago

I'm so sorry for your loss.

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#10

Alzheimer’s and Demetria. Now imagine that you didn’t know anything that you knew before. It all suddenly is just so far away for you to remember. What if your mother, someone who gave birth to and raised you suddenly forgot who you are or confused you for someone else. That honestly scares me more than death. The sum of everything that people did with their lives is really on held in your memory, material is temporary and can easily be destroyed or taken. But imagine your on your death bed and you die only knowing a few of any details of your life. Imagine if your child came up to say hi and you couldn’t recognize who they were and you thought they were a stranger. Imagine the hurt they would feel. Alzheimer’s is one of those things that really hurts everyone around you. It’s like your body is their but a whole bother person is occupying it and your not their anymore. You're not you anymore.

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Zori the degu
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1 year ago

The worst part is that people with Alzheimer's often fully realise what's happening to them. Imagine starting to forget everything, first your freshest memories disappear, then you are slowly robbed off your fondest, most special memories and finally even the oldest ones are gone. As a person, who deeply values the power of the mind and is disappointed by it's lack of importance to today's society ideals, one of my greatest fears is precisely this: diseases that affect your mental abilities. If this ever happens to me, I would likely jump off somewhere at it's very beginning, because the misery would likely kill me before the disease does. I'm a loser, much like any average person alone and without my imagination, memories, crazy ideas and following of the road less travelled, I would be no one.

sosunlight
Community Member
1 year ago

Exactly. I never thought about this until I watched it with my MIL. She was a beautiful, brilliant person living with the horror of knowing she was slowly losing her memories and abilities. Even then, she was still one of the most amazing people I've known. I still miss her every day :'(

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JP
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1 year ago (edited)

I've actually seen what's worse than dementia/Alzheimer's. Having a mind as sharp as ever and your body doesn't work anymore and no one comes to see you in the nursing home. My grandfather had Alzheimer's and I went to see him once a week. There was this lady that still had every bit of her faculties, but really couldn't move from illness. She lay in her bed all day, not able to even shift herself or work a TV remote, and never had visitors. She lay by the nurses station and the staff would talk with her. I made a point of visiting with her every time I visited my grandfather. After she passed the nurses told me that I was the highlight of her week. So, yeah. If I'm losing my mind, I guess I don't care, I wouldn't know it and would not miss what I didn't remember. I'd rather have my mind gone than my mind there and my body gone. I think that would be a bigger hell.

Magpie
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1 year ago

My doctor knows I would rather be an organ donor ( dead ) than be some other demented person. Medically assisted mercy suicide should be legal.

S Bagci
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1 year ago

My Grandma recently passed away and towards the end she forgot who we were. It is hard when the person you love who has always been there for you suddenly doesn't know you . She remembers now though and she'll know me when I see her in heaven someday. :)

Rebekah
Community Member
1 year ago

This. This absolutely terrifies me. I remember when I got the call, and started sobbing. Because my mother, my own mom, was going to forget me. It was like a death. A death that didn't stop.

Kiss Army
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1 year ago

My husband's father had Alzheimer's and stage 4 lung cancer. During his final months, his wife (my husband's mother) unexpectedly passed away. Whenever we went to visit him he would ask how she was and if he could see her (she had been in a different room at the long term care facility they both resided at), so we would have to retell him that she had passed away. Watching him relive it was some of the hardest experiences I have ever had. That and the day he realized he was never going home again. It was so hard to watch and broke my heart over and over again.

Clare-Marie Murphy
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1 year ago

I was definitely NOT prepared for my mother to be diagnosed with both. She was the strongest , most independent , confident person I had ever met.The worst thing is seeing who they are now compared to who they used to be. It is not the same person who raised me, she is an empty shell of who she was before. The double edged sword : You do not want to see your mother like this, so you hardly visit. .. You feel guilty about not visiting. Then you feel bad after you went for a visit because seeing your mother like that is too hard... Mourning someone who is still alive...

Ed Lesperance
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1 year ago

I remember 50 years ago clearly. Yesterday, not so much. PTSD from wartime started stealing my memories 30 years ago. I'm left with shreds of my life.

Bunny Lady
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1 year ago

My mum died of Alzheimers. From the mid stages she seemed to go into a calm state. She was unaware from that point onwards what was happening to her. She was in a care home but convinced she was living in her own home. Yes she stopped recognising us but that was distressing for us, not for her. I am grateful for this at least.

Nicole Bowman
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1 year ago

I had a client with Alzheimer. She used to swim everyday, unless it was thundering. She would wander around and look at the pool. She told me, once, one of the last times she felt herself, she felt drawn to the pool, but couldn't figure out WHY she felt drawn to it. She would feel drawn to other things too. As she got worse she acted out more because she was practically going mad from being drawn to things or people and knowing the WHY. It was very sad to watch.

Iva Kazalova
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1 year ago

I wish you could spell dementia at least

Carrie Brockmeier
Community Member
1 year ago

My father died at 57 from early on set Alzheimer's. It is a evil and cruel disease. I wish no one would ever have to deal with that lose.

Merann Bartle
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1 year ago

I watched a video on dementiafriendly.org.au and a sufferer said “Please don’t give up on me. I’m still in here”. It made me so sad I cried.

Shana
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1 year ago

My grandmum has dementia, living in an elderly home after my grandfather passed away. She has her good days where she knows everything. And other days when she thinks she just visiting a friend in the elderly home and will go home soon. I visit her whenever I can, but I’m always scared she won’t know who I am. Last time I went, she knew who I was but was convinced I had children (my brothers do, I don’t) so... I know she can’t help it and it just hurts to see her like this. (Health is also declining, problems with heart etc... she could live another 10 years or she might pass away tonight... )

Rafaella Bueno
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1 year ago

My father was really, really afraid that this was starting to happen to him. That's one of the reasons why I'm not too sad that he passed. I'm lonely, I miss him a lot, but I'm not sad... he passed away quietly in his sleep suddenly, just like he always said he wanted. He was in physical pain, depressed and afraid of wasting away... I know he passed in the best way possible and must be very satisfied with it.

Borgia 137
Community Member
1 year ago

i'm a live-in carer and i looked after many people with Alzheimers. Horrible thing is, that When the person is gone, the family is left with a living body, that is simply someone else. As a living memory. They look the same, but the memories, which define relationships, are gone and you're stranger to them. The only thing i can imagine worse than that is, when the patient is slipping into Alzheimers. In the begining they realize that something is wrong. That they have "windows" in their day. Some of them fill out missing time with made up memories. Then comes confusion and delusions. One of my ladies was constantly worried(quite an understatement) that someone wants to rob her, or even rape her. She was all the time convinced that "he" is hiding behind the curtains or under her bed. She lived in constant fear and distress.

Borgia 137
Community Member
1 year ago

The road from getting days of the week mixed up to slow starvation, because they don't understand the mere concept of swallowing, or if they are lucky, pleumonia, that will release them quicker from this misery, that road can be scary and cruel. I agree, that people should have the right to choose quick, painless death, over years and years in fear and even pain.

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Borgia 137
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1 year ago

i'm going to be the horrible senseless person and i will point out, that mixing "there" and "their" and "you're" and "your" cringes me.

Xiaolaohu
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1 year ago

And nothing about Demetria versus dementia, I understand the finger slip/auto correct, but still funny.

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Sergio Bicerra Descalzi
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1 year ago

My mom has Alzheimer, and had a very hard life. Since the symptoms started appearing, she's happier than ever, like all her bad memories disappeared. Can't remember my dad cheating on her, all her family losses, the really really bad times she went through 20 years ago. Idk what to think...

Magpie
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1 year ago

My doctor knows I would rather be an organ donor than some other demented person. Medically Assisted mercy suicide should be a thing.

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#11

Googling an old ex to see how she's doing these days since you haven't spoken to her in over 7 years, and finding her obituary online.

It took my brain a good 5 minutes to actually process and acknowledge that the picture of her that came up was from a funeral home website.

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diane a
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1 year ago

I google my evil, violent ex occasionally - more in hope than expectation

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#12

Finding out your SO is cheating on you.

That sort of betrayal of trust is brutal and even if you suspect something, you still want to believe it's not true.

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Rebekah
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1 year ago

Fact.

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#13

Unexpected layoffs. You'll never feel safe at work ever again! :)

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Jaguarundi
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1 year ago

Right that!

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#14

"We need to talk"

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Jaguarundi
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1 year ago

Almost the four most frightening words in the language, any language.

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#15

The loss of a sibling.

I lost my brother a couple months ago and while he was sick we never saw his passing as a reality. It hit the whole family like a truck. None of us are the same and likely will never be the same.

The family dynamic has completely changed, the roles we had filled for the past 30 years all shifted. We're all adrift. We're all flailing. We're all seeking to fill the void of his presence.

No amount of accepting it will change these things. There is a void in our family that only he could fill. We were not, are not, and will not be prepared for dealing with it without him.

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Natasha Forchione
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1 year ago

This hit me really hard... same thing happened in our family and we have never been the same. It sucks and there is not one day that I don't think of him, the moments that will never be.

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#16

Come home, Wife is gone. Kids gone. She took them and left the state.

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Jaguarundi
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1 year ago

I've known folks that had come home from deployment and were completely wiped out, bank account, possessions, kids, even their off-base apartment was gone. These had been women as well as men. The SO had power of attorney and ran with it.

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#17

Sudden disability. Its been almost a decade and I still don’t feel like I fully grasp it and how it changes everything lol...

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Carol Emory
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1 year ago

I just talked to a classmate that's in a wheelchair. He told me stories about when he worked with the police. I asked him how he ended up in the wheelchair. It was a swimming accident where his head hit the bottom of the pool. He likes the fact that I treat him like any other person. I don't automatically do everything for him..I wait until he asks..that way he holds onto some independence. He's a cool guy. He would've made a great police officer.

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#18

Childbirth. I just had my daughter five days ago. I thought I was prepared for labor, but holy s*it, back labor is the worst pain I’ve ever felt in my entire life. No amount of mental preparation would have made me ready for that. On the plus, my husband finally won the argument of two kids (our daughter is his second) vs. three kids. Because I’m never doing that shit again.

Also, the never ending anxiety of “can I keep a completely vulnerable and fragile human alive today”?

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Windkissed
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1 year ago

Funny thing, childbirth amnesia is REAL!

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#19

Coming to grips with your own mortality. It just hits you some day that you're going to die, and eventually will be forgotten.

Aint nobody ready for that.

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MetalHeadWhoLovesAnimals
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1 year ago

For a lot of people, me included, death isn't a scary thing, its one of the only guarantees in life, doesn't scare me or freak me out whatsoever. Bring it on.

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#20

The feelings of your first true heartbreak. That felt like nothing I've ever felt before. Couldn't eat or sleep for a week and the effects have lasted months after. I've had love before but it took me til 28 to truly feel heartbreak like this.

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MetalHeadWhoLovesAnimals
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1 year ago

Yep agree, i was 20 when it happened, didn't think it would hurt so much.

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#21

Catching your headphones or clothes on a door handle.

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Not_Alec
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1 year ago

Ack! This happens to me all the time!

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#22

A shart.

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Sean Forrester
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1 year ago

Thankyou for some excellent comedic relief in an otherwise morbid column. I laughed so hard.

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#23

Breezing through high school with high grades without even trying then getting to university and realizing you can't do that anymore but you literally have no idea how not to. You don't have the discipline to study properly let alone know how to study properly.

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Rafaella Bueno
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1 year ago

I'm like this with jobs to an extent... I have no idea how to look for a job. Most jobs I had people came for me. I don't know how do you even figure out whether they need anyone in my profession since ads aren't too common.

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#24

Somebody oversharing their life details in the first 5 minutes of meeting you

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Ivana
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1 year ago

I am the queen of oversharing. Not sure why I do it. I guess I just like to get everything out there from the start so we can all quickly determine if we want to continue being around each other. Or I just don't care what people know about me because I don't care what the reaction will be. If you don't like what I say in the first five minutes then there isn't much chance of us seeing each other again.

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#25

Toast popping up from a toaster when it's done. S*it gets me every time.

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Cristian's GeneralBuilding
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1 year ago

Or when you open the camera on your phone and it's set on the front camera and you see your face.

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#26

Their first kid

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Bumble
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1 year ago

Or being told you will never have one. You always assume it won't be an issue and then BAM!

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#27

Honestly probably another large recession. Most people don't have very much money saved...so I can't even imagine how badly that would devastate the country.

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Candy Sheppard
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1 year ago

or worse, cause it looks like it's coming

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#28

The lifestyle change from becoming a full time student to full time worker. It's been a year, i feel as if i'm still adjusting.

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HoffLensMetalHeadLovesAnimals
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1 year ago

It will take longer than that my friend, work life sucks, its the least fun part of life.

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#29

The first time your toddler drops an F*bomb. You don't know whether to laugh, scold them or pretend it didn't happen and hope it never does again.

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BusLady
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1 year ago

Well, they hear it everywhere.

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#30

Winning the mega-millions/billions lottery. I've read many stories about how it ruined people's lives.

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HoffLensMetalHeadLovesAnimals
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1 year ago

I would still take a chance.

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#31

First apartment. Not that it's a bad thing, but all the reading in the world, and you'll still forget to buy one random item that'll f**k your night up.

For me, a can opener. Didn't have a goddamn can opener!

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anarkzie
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1 year ago

Yep, and the realisation that stuff like tooth paste, toilet paper and soap don't magically just appear, even though you know your parents buy this stuff it still feels weird having to buy and manage the buying of it yourself.

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#32

Paper cuts.

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Kim Briek
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1 year ago

THOSE ARE BLOODY AWFUL!!!!!

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#33

Winter. It happens every year and people always forget how to deal with it. I live in Alaska and people have been here for years and don't even have winter costs or boots. Don't even get me started on driving when it snows that's a whole different can of worms.

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Parmeisan
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1 year ago

What? I live in Saskatchewan and people here do forget how to drive every year - it takes about a week to re-familiarize yourself with braking and the shifted lanes - but we don't have any other issues with winter. I mean, people wear their fall coats a little longer than they probably should because we're hoping it'll warm up again (the weather often shifts around a lot in September to mid November) but that's about it.

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#34

Turning the lights on after waking up in the middle of the night.

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Kiahna
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1 year ago

That's why I don't. Just go to the toilet in the dark and run back to bed.

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#35

A clever comeback

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ShiftyLookinNinjaPandaGirl
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1 year ago

Yes, i need this.

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#36

Getting caught lying. Most people only lie cause they think they are good at it and that the truth won’t come out.

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Iapetos
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1 year ago

I always anticipate getting caught.

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#37

When you cheat in your girlfriends dreams.

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Hard 2 Guess
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1 year ago

RUN! BUY FLOWERS! BUY CHOCOLATES! BUY GIFTS! Apologize profusely for something you did in her dreams. You MAY ... I emphasize MAY get some mercy.

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#38

Snapping a guitar string

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MJ
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1 year ago

Ploink...

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