38 Things Nobody Is Ever Prepared For

Agreed, miss my dad every day.

I understand.

It was around the time I became good enough to crawl on the ceiling at the climbing hall that I started feeling pain in my back. Now, it's common in this sport to overwork yourself, but this pain didn't go away as all the others preceding it. Days turned into weeks, weeks into months and I grew very worried indeed. After long hours at different medical buildings, I got a permission for NMR and was diagnosed with a slipped disk. I can still climb, fortunately, but I'd likely never be as good as I would've been if I didn't have slipped disk and climbing upside down like I used to is out of the question. And it's not just climbing, while the doctor was very happy with my level of activity and encouraged it, he reminded me that every sport now carried a risk. It doesn't seem like a big deal compared to all the sufferings other people with chronic pain have to tolerate daily, but it really hurt me that just when I found my sport, this sh*t happened. Destiny seems to love pranking me. :(

And in school, those other kids probably hated you.

This is one of the reasons I gave up my contracting job overseas. Spending only 2 weeks out of a year to see them, just wasn't enough. And yes, I did notice the changes.

This is so true :(

buried 2 babies- never get over that

Also, having someone you know go to jail for the first time - nothing prepares you for the feeling of loss, having to meet with a wall of glass between you, the reality life will never be the same again. And it's not your fault, but somehow you've been swept into the uncontrollable, unfathomable machine of the justice system. Thinking of anyone who is facing that today <3

I watched my best friend lose his dad to brain cancer, slowly and painfully the disease ripped the person away until he was a pale, fragile, paper-thin, shell of a man. Pure sadness.

The worst part is that people with Alzheimer's often fully realise what's happening to them. Imagine starting to forget everything, first your freshest memories disappear, then you are slowly robbed off your fondest, most special memories and finally even the oldest ones are gone. As a person, who deeply values the power of the mind and is disappointed by it's lack of importance to today's society ideals, one of my greatest fears is precisely this: diseases that affect your mental abilities. If this ever happens to me, I would likely jump off somewhere at it's very beginning, because the misery would likely kill me before the disease does. I'm a loser, much like any average person alone and without my imagination, memories, crazy ideas and following of the road less travelled, I would be no one.

I google my evil, violent ex occasionally - more in hope than expectation

Fact.

It also kills any form of company loyalty you'll ever have again. I'm at my second job since my 'position was eliminated' after 25 years of working at the same place. I don't care if this company makes it or goes belly up. I don't think about work when I get in my car. I don't volunteer to work extra hours or special occasions. It is a paycheck, nothing else. I am loyal to me and my family/friends now. No one else.

*Face straightens, ghostly white, like a skull, a gulp and a slow lick of the lips(oh, well, the last one is a twitch I get when I'm extremely anxious).

This hit me really hard... same thing happened in our family and we have never been the same. It sucks and there is not one day that I don't think of him, the moments that will never be.

I don't know what motivated her to do such a thing. It could be anything from another man, to abuse. I wonder what that parent tells the children.

I just talked to a classmate that's in a wheelchair. He told me stories about when he worked with the police. I asked him how he ended up in the wheelchair. It was a swimming accident where his head hit the bottom of the pool. He likes the fact that I treat him like any other person. I don't automatically do everything for him..I wait until he asks..that way he holds onto some independence. He's a cool guy. He would've made a great police officer.

Funny thing, childbirth amnesia is REAL!

For a lot of people, me included, death isn't a scary thing, its one of the only guarantees in life, doesn't scare me or freak me out whatsoever. Bring it on.

I read once " you are not truly dead until your name is spoken aloud for the last time", so some of us will be dead and forgotten more quickly than others.

I have cheated death so often, that I'm not afraid of dying. The first time, I was 3. The most recent was about 2 1/2 years ago. The pain and suffering is what I fear.

I have random days where it just hits me. It’s happened far more than once. I break down and panic. I’m a kid. I recommend writing, some physical activity, and be8ng around someone who you can cry around. Dogs included.

Personally I'm ready for it. Death is what makes life life. Yes, death is a unknown, and the thought of can be frightening. But personally I find the thought of immortality- living forever, watching everyone and everything I love die eventually, over and over, but never dying myself- much more scary.

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This is my greatest fear and I spontaneously think of it several times a day. It causes great anxiety. I see a therapist for depression and have discussed this with him, but told him no amount of talking is going to change the fact that this will happen to me and I will be nothing, never existed, and forgotten. It's like the feeling of having surgery with general anesthesia. Your awake and talking, then you're awake and talking 3 hours later and have no memory of that time having passed. It's terrifying. I have said many times that man created religion because he could not stand the fact of his impending mortality and needed something to convince him that it's not forever and he will live again.

As ready as any could be since i've noticed in my youth what a fkd up world this is

It hit me a while ago... I had bad anxiety and still have. I know we will die someday but, I just keep on thinking of slow painful ways of losing your life little by little.

When I think about how I could die anytime, I think about how I should probably make sure my mom has all my bank accounts and passwords to save her the hassle and that I hope my dog will be fine without me since she's so dependent.

I first realized this when I was seven. I couldn't sleep for two days, just cause I was so scared. It isn't scary to me anymore. I know I will never consciously know what comes after life, and I'm okay with that - even if it took me a long time to figure out.

As you get older, you come to grips with it. Why do you think older folks often become more morbid and less tolerant of stupidity?

Yep agree, i was 20 when it happened, didn't think it would hurt so much.

Ack! This happens to me all the time!

Thankyou for some excellent comedic relief in an otherwise morbid column. I laughed so hard.

I'm like this with jobs to an extent... I have no idea how to look for a job. Most jobs I had people came for me. I don't know how do you even figure out whether they need anyone in my profession since ads aren't too common.

I am the queen of oversharing. Not sure why I do it. I guess I just like to get everything out there from the start so we can all quickly determine if we want to continue being around each other. Or I just don't care what people know about me because I don't care what the reaction will be. If you don't like what I say in the first five minutes then there isn't much chance of us seeing each other again.

Or when you open the camera on your phone and it's set on the front camera and you see your face.

Or being told you will never have one. You always assume it won't be an issue and then BAM!

or worse, cause it looks like it's coming

It will take longer than that my friend, work life sucks, its the least fun part of life.

Well, they hear it everywhere.

I would still take a chance.

Yep, and the realisation that stuff like tooth paste, toilet paper and soap don't magically just appear, even though you know your parents buy this stuff it still feels weird having to buy and manage the buying of it yourself.

THOSE ARE BLOODY AWFUL!!!!!

What? I live in Saskatchewan and people here do forget how to drive every year - it takes about a week to re-familiarize yourself with braking and the shifted lanes - but we don't have any other issues with winter. I mean, people wear their fall coats a little longer than they probably should because we're hoping it'll warm up again (the weather often shifts around a lot in September to mid November) but that's about it.

That's why I don't. Just go to the toilet in the dark and run back to bed.

Yes, i need this.

I always anticipate getting caught.

RUN! BUY FLOWERS! BUY CHOCOLATES! BUY GIFTS! Apologize profusely for something you did in her dreams. You MAY ... I emphasize MAY get some mercy.

I feel your pain. then snapping one while restringing