People Are Posting Things They Wish They’d Known Sooner (40 Posts)

Parenting is misery a lot of the time. It's a crabs in a bucket mentality.

Also some people SHOULDN'T have kids. I know I would make a bad mother so am kind enough not to have a child just to fulfil the hormonal urge to create a mini me

When people ask when am I having kids I ask why they're so obsessed with my second life.

Even though I've told my mother that I don't want kids and my husband agrees, every time I visit her she tries to convince me, even when I've told her I don't want the stress of a raising a child for 18 years, and years of worry after that

It is because way back in time it was necessary for species survival so life revolved around having kids but now we need to start thinking the opposite as the population has become out of control as we will be running out resources.

This - I can't have kids and don't want kids. My parents don't want me to have kids for health reasons. They have a grandkid through my sister, so no pressure there LOL.

Some shouldn't even reproduce at all.

Absolutely people need to stick their nose out of other people's business. As far as how people feel....remember we are creatures designed to try to perpetuate our species and our line. My son has decided not to have kids. I understand his reasons and respect it. (I would respect it even if I didn't understand.) He's done more for the world than I ever have. He can be fulfilled and happy without kids. But there is a some heartbreak for me that I won't have grandkids. I assume that's largely due to my being a mammal with a very strong drive to have my line go on. But I'm also human and would never pressure him or shame him or anything like that. But don't discount the feelings. There is very little strong instinct in humans than procreation, and that extends to grandkids. (Probably why we live so long past menopause since grandparents have traditionally been very involved in raising kids.)

exactly, this is exhausting, especially for women. Also, so many people who have children should have been told "please don't have children"

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Sure thing. People who don't fulfill their purpose in life, reproducing, aren't mental at all. They definitely don't treat their pets like humans, have a void in their life or have mental and emotional problems. I've never heard a single person at the end of their life say they wish they had no or fewer children. However many do regret never having them. It's not always about what "society" expects. Some things are just part of the natural order.

Ask them when they're regretting having THEIR kids

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Ummm, I have kids and also a lot of properties in my name and nothing is paid by mortgage or loans. So I don't get this mentality that having kids will bankrupt you. Or maybe it depends on the country you live in?

trying to impress others with your money is actually a sign of insecureness

Happiness has nothing to do with getting what you want Outside of medical reasons like depression Alzheimer’s etc happiness is a decision it isn’t based on getting what you want

This!!! I live a quiet, drama-free, and happy life. A good movie, a cup of hot tea, and some knitting is my exciting Saturday night!

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Why would your mind even go there though? Other people and impressing them was never mentioned. There’s something about you that makes you say that out of the blue. Happiness can come from anything anyway. But this topic was about having more, not impressing others.

l love this comment 👍💋

Great comment and as someone who will be 45 this year, it seems wisdom is revealing itself more every day.

How immensely petty of them, thus proving that they truly were not worth it.

Also, teaching others to value your time, as well as their own.

On a similar note, don't fight battles you can't win. If victory is unattainable then retreat, prepare, then fight when you can win.

This! And people also need to learn to never argue with fools, especially if they are on the internet. Sometimes you just have to let them be wrong...

Generally okay... But I learned to listen to seemingly worthless people anyway - sometimes they teach me something unexpected (and unwanted by my ego)

Sorry to say most people ain't worth it!

There are some people out there whom I would prefer not to be liked by.

And then, you end up in retail. :D

Bring them back? Do they not have trade schools where you live?

To be fair, working with your hands and being academic are somewhat unrelated, acquiring knowledge can be done through different ways. Some being through writing, some hands on. Etc. It can be just as academic to learn with your hands.

So are automotive mechanics and anything automotive for that matter (bodywork, etc).