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40 People Get Blatantly Honest About “What Is Not For Everyone, But Society Acts Like It Is?”
The idea of expectations seems very tame at first. It is a standard the collective hivemind adheres to and expects that nobody strays away from this norm because collective stability. That’s how societies work, right?
Well, the concept has a lot of nuance to it—nuance that isn’t all that positive as it can cause unforeseen damage to relationships, cause harm to oneself, or is just flat out toxic all around. All because someone is comfortable with pushing the boundaries for the sake of stability.
And when someone snaps and breaks, folks wonder why it happened. Because not everyone is cut out for this. And that’s fine. But some don’t see it that way.
Folks online recently tackled this issue with an AskReddit thread listing what things are not for everyone, but society acts like it is?
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#1
Social Media. Imagine being a 6th grader and having people think you’re weird if you don’t have an Instagram.
That s**t is poison. Wrecked our interpersonal skills. Ruined relationships. Perpetuated bullying into cyberspace when it used to end at the school day. Cemented embarrassment if you get recorded. The list goes on.
Shark Lady 2 years ago
BP and Reddit are my limit when it comes to social media. I came off Facebook 10 years ago as it was making my, already fragile, mental health much worse.
142durandal 2 years ago
Damn I’m surprised that Reddit’s good for your health. But good for you for bettering yourself.
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KLo 2 years ago
This is the only form of social media I have, but when you tell people that you have no interest in fb, tictoxic, and instamessage, they look at you like you're weird or you're hiding a dark past. Society is in calamity.
longlivethequeen554 2 years ago
I know! You get looked at like you're a weirdo!
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CascadedFalls 2 years ago
This right here. All my classmates are addicted to TikTok. I saw one of them have their eyes locked in place while walking in the halls, and everyone had to swerve to get by them, smh.
Mr. Nurse Man 2 years ago
Social media is a great way to make friends, connect with distant family, and find a community of likeminded individuals. The problem is that we rely on it too heavily to function on a daily basis, becoming addicted to it and introduce it to children way too early without regular supervision and moderation of their access.
Lavern Defazio 2 years ago
Not to mention intolerance and hate which seems to be creeping its ugly head here on BP. I dont know if anyone else notices this as well.
Starwhisper Nighthush 2 years ago
I have noticed and it's truly a shame. The tolls are everywhere, unfortunately.
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Pink Princess 2 years ago
When I was in 6th grade, people thought it was weird that someone did have instagram. And this was only 3 years ago
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#2
Religion. That’s fine if you’re a believer and it brings you peace or purpose or whatever, but it’s really not for everyone.
Shoes 2 years ago (edited)
I kinda get upset on how some people are forced to stay in a religion because the family said so
Ubedhheij 2 years ago (edited)
Oh people told me in 2nd grade and higher when I said I don't believe in God "you will go to hell if you don't believe in god" ironcly that made me believe in it less.
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Realistic Optimist 2 years ago
I had a Christian recently tell me that they were so sorry I didn't believe in god. They didn't understand when I said they were being condescending.
TheAmericanAmerican 2 years ago
Just tell them you are so sorry that they still believe in Bronze Age fairy tales 😂
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Shane S 2 years ago (edited)
If religion adds something to your life then fine, enjoy. But if it takes something away, then you’re doing it wrong. So many people sacrifice happiness for religion.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
And they're perfectly willing to sacrifice the happiness of others as well.
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Lauren S 2 years ago (edited)
I think the best practice is to respect other’s beliefs, as long as no one is being hurt. I’m Jewish but not very religious but I do believe in God. We’re raising our son Lutheran. So far I love our church. It’s so warm and loving. It teaches my son he’s loved no matter what. It teaches him that you can make mistakes and you’ll still be loved and you can try again to make a better choice. We had gone to at least 12 different churches before settling here. Just the other week they brought two men up to the front to announce that they were moving to a different state and the pastor had this whole amazing speech about them. They were so tearful talking about loving the last 30 years here, how grateful they were to be so accepted and loved. I hadn’t actually realized they were a couple until then. It made me respect my church more because that’s how I hope anyone feels if they choose any religion, loved unconditionally and accepted and supported completely.
Lauren S 2 years ago
Regardless of sexual orientation, gender identity, age, race, color, culture, nationality, etc. I just love that those two men found such a good home for the last 30 years. I’m a little nervous for them as they’re moving to Texas and my mental image of Texas isn’t one of openness and acceptance. But I’m hopeful that there are good people everywhere and they’ll find a good home there too.
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Skid Marks 2 years ago
I am a religious person, however we all have free will and the right to choose what we do or don't believe. I agree it should not be forced on anyone.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Organized religion is to spirituality what a home owners association is to a nice neighborhood.
Esist Nosrep 2 years ago
When groups of people chooses to "end" other people because of their religion
Libstak 2 years ago (edited)
When they believe their reward will be 72 virgin's...how can they believe a reward will be the painful penetration of God made sentient beings to slake freaking lust, not love, not the cherishing of God given gifts but lust. AND they don't see a single flaw in that rubbish ideology?..
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WonderWoman 2 years ago
Religion should be a personal private decision. Stop trying to inflict YOUR beliefs on OTHERS.
Hugendubel 2 years ago
I love God dearly , would probably be dead by now without Him - go easy on me Pandas :)
CascadedFalls 2 years ago
That's fine! As long as you aren't criticizing or looking down on others based on their beliefs, identity, or any other aspect, then by all means embrace and hold onto your own beliefs. It's wonderful that you've discovered a purpose that helps you navigate life.
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#3
The whole “early bird gets the worm” mentality. Society tends to glorify being a morning person and waking up at the crack of dawn, but not everyone’s wired that way. Some of us are night owls who do our best work after midnight. So, let’s remember that not everyone thrives on the same schedule, and it’s okay to be a night-loving creature in a world that often praises the early risers. After all, owls are pretty cool too!
Elio 2 years ago (edited)
I'm more of a night person and certain day time people just don't get it and think you're lazy if you don't wake up early.
CascadedFalls 2 years ago
Absolutely accurate! Last night, I stayed awake a bit past midnight simply because I wasn't feeling tired. I tend to be more inclined to stay up late rather than going to bed early and waking up early.
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Rahul Pawa 2 years ago
On similar lines, I remember the saying, "the early bird gets the worm but the second mouse gets the cheese."
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Chewie Baron 2 years ago
I am neither an early bird or a night owl. More like a constantly exhausted pigeon.
Any 2 years ago (edited)
It's b******t. Every time somebody indicates early bird's have more from the day and do more in general or something, I point out the day has 24h. I sleep my regular 7 to 8 hours as do most morning persons. It's absolutely irrelevant how your sleep schedule is, you're equally having the same hours. I love being a night owl. I am productive at my time at work, but after work the show really starts for me with my hobbies, into the late hours, while my coworker is already in bed and had spend her most productive hours at work, while I use my most productive hours for things i actually like. (Writing/Drawing and so on~)
Auntriarch 2 years ago
I suppose it mattered more before electric lighting
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I hate daylight saving time. Forcing a night owl to go to bed when it’s still light outside just to get up earlier for work is crazy. If I am ever my own boss, I won’t honor dst. I’ll just adjust my working hours to compensate.
WindySwede 2 years ago
Here it's light outside really late in the summer. If you don't like DST talk to your current boss about shifting your hours?
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We're an entire family of night owls. We've each tried to change and find it very difficult. Once, my daughters friend was staying over and she was shocked the entire family was still up at 1 a.m. I'm typing this at midnight, just having come in from a long walk with my 16 yr old.
Mila Preradović 2 years ago
My daughter's friends like to come for sleepovers because "they can stay up as long as they want yay!" They inevitably collapse around 22:30 so we just scoop them up to the bedroom and my kid and I continue to watch TV😅
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Kise Miarse 2 years ago (edited)
I work nights and when people find this out they always offer condolances lol. I *chose* it. Getting up at 6 am makes me wanna gouge my eyes out with a spoon. But staying up til then? Easy peasy. 🤷♀️
Appalachian Panda 2 years ago
What I hated most when I worked the late shift was trying to make appointments. No, ma’am. I didn’t even get home from work til 4:30 AM; I’m not interested in seeing the doctor at 8:15. Some people couldn’t comprehend this.
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WindySwede 2 years ago
Maby the company people are, but the wast majority are the worm waiting to be grind?
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StrangeOne 2 years ago (edited)
I'm a night owl but I work so early in the morning. It's a delicate balance between staying up late enough to satisfy the owl in me and be able to get some sleep and wake up for work, but not too late that I have to decide if it's better to just remain awake until after shift or going to sleep for a couple hours and pray I wake up to my alarm.
Sue User 2 years ago
Split your sleeping into shifts. Sleep a bit when you get home, stay up late, finish your sleep. We need 8 hours of sleep but it doesnt have to be continuous.
Load More Replies...So, in the grand scheme of things, the thread did not receive a lot of upvotes, clocking in at just 3,300. What it did, however, do is generate quite a discussion. 4,900 comments later, we have loads of spot-on answers as well as talks about their respective themes and topics, giving context as to why it’s bad and why we would be better off without it.
#4
Having children.
Connect_Office8072:
I worked for the State’s attorney in the Neglect and Abuse Division and I swear, you should need a test before you can become a parent.
ServiceCall1986:
I’m a woman who has never had that “motherly urge” and I never plan on having kids. People don’t seem to understand that can happen. It’s always “you’ll change your mind once you find the right person”.
No, my right person will feel the same as me. People want to change me, but I’ve always felt this way.
RavenTheCat 2 years ago
Guys have thar same issue, im a dude i wont have kids. No i wont change my mind im gay
Moxitron Jazz 2 years ago
Im straight and i dont want em either, for various reasons...
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Sahitya Madhavan 2 years ago
In my late 30s and have never felt the motherly urge to have a kid.
devotedtodreams 2 years ago
This would be #1 on my list. It's sad that women who don't want children - no matter their reason - are still stigmatized, as if you're not a "real woman" unless you're a mother. Bulls**t, I say! And of course, men should not be pressured to have children either.
Zoey Bear 2 years ago
When I was in college 15 years ago. I wrote a controversial essay about how people should need a license before having kids when they need a license before they can even drive. She agreed but she specified that it would be darn near impossible to implement.
lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
One problem is who would write the test. It could require you to teach the correct/true religion to have children.
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MoMcB 2 years ago
I have one daughter, who I love dearly. She doesn't want children, and that's fine. I've had to stop other family members harassing her, the I get the "but you won't be a grandmother " bit.
Amelia Jade 2 years ago
I have three kids. Wanted kids my entire life, worked with kids for many years, still adore kids. I do not care if my kids have kids. It simply doesn't bother me if I'm not a grandma. I've had to stop other people--including my ex therapist--from insisting my kids will have kids. My sil has pressured my nephew since he got married and I think it's obnoxious. No one owes you kids. And not having kids is a valid choice that I wish more people respected.
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Limey 2 years ago
I have never wanted kids. I always knew I didn’t. And as I am 74 believe me when I tell you the societal pressure back then was enormous. Heard all the usual nonsense, over and over. My particular favorite “you’ll feel different when it’s your own” (imagine the risk!) and yes “you’ll feel different when you meet the right person” (I did and one of the things that made him right for me was that he didn’t want kids either). 40 years married and we have never regretted it. The one thing I often heard that I do believe was “when you are ready you’ll know “. I was never ready. Just wanted to let the younger people on here know if that’s how you feel… hold fast. You are perfectly valid in this and the likelihood is you won’t change.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
I've never had kids, and at 72 I'm not likely to. (But if I did, I suppose we could share the diapers.)
Realistic Optimist 2 years ago
I totally agree. I'm a cis-male, so I don't have the same, if any, societal pressures around this, but it's crazy that people think they have a say in what you do with your life. Kids are a lifetime commitment, and I've seen far too many parents resent their kids because the parents weren't ready to be parents. It's such an a**hole move to try to manipulate someone into having kids when they're not ready. If you need to convince someone to have a kid, they probably shouldn't have a kid.
#5
Crop tops. Some of us still want the whole entire shirt damnit!
BrownTabby 2 years ago
I’ve had luck with ethical clothing companies. It’s been illuminating to see how the companies that care more about their workers also care more about their customers.
WonderWoman 2 years ago
There are approximately 500 people in the whole world that rock that crop top - and that is it. No one else can rock it. Stop buying them and soon enough they will stop making them.
Lydsylou (she/her) 2 years ago
I actually hate crop tops I don't want to be walking around with my belly hanging out thanks. Just because I'm thin doesn't mean everyone needs to see my belly
#6
Romantic relationships. So many people can't fathom the fact that I'm perfectly happy being single. I have a solid support network from my friends and family and feel perfectly content without a romantic relationship. I'm always happy for my friends who end up in good, loving relationships, but it's not something I am interested in.
Thee8thsense 2 years ago
Had an elderly female friend who had a very nice life, having retired from a career as an RN. People often asked her why she never married, and she would reply "Because I never met anyone I liked as much as myself".
BrownTabby 2 years ago
As someone who might be aroace, I need to keep that one up my sleeve!
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StrangeOne 2 years ago
"You're going to die alone". There's about a million ways for that to happen regardless if you're in a relationship or not. I could be lost somewhere in the middle of winter and freeze to death. What's you're point, ma?
Lucas 2 years ago
Quite. I'm married. If they go first, I'll probably die alone. Being in a relationship is absolutely no guarantee of anything like that at all. How many people actually die together? If they do it's probably because of some awful accident!! No one wants THAT!!
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Boootifull Unicorn 2 years ago
its okay to have never met anyone you want to be in a relationship with. that isn't "absurdly high standards" or being a "prude", no one should have to dedicate most of their life to someone they don't even want to be with, because they are afraid of being alone.
RavenTheCat 2 years ago
Look im in a relationship so maybe i cant say much. But before i met my bf, i was happy being single, we met in such a unique way . Point is i know how it feels to desire independence, and im happy for anyone who chooses it
Dainty72 2 years ago
I couldn't agree more with this! Been on my own for 21 years and I'm more than happy to stay this way. Past relationships haven't been great, and I raised my three daughters alone. They're fantastic, happy and working. They live in their own homes too, but I've not got any interest in finding love. I have enough from my family!
Jack Burton 2 years ago
Im quite doubtful about this one but people are free to do so. It's like the all " i dont need sex" from people who never experienced orgasm. Im pretty sure loving someone and being loved in return is one of the greatest need for human being.
Moosy Girl 2 years ago
You don’t need to be in a romantic relationship to love and be loved.
Load More Replies...Answers revolved around social norms and expectations that everyone should be doing this or that. You know, things like hustle culture, social media, getting married and having kids, faith, and doing what is considered “normal” by the majority. But, at the end of the day, those are just norms and expectations. They shouldn’t be deciding factors just because... but peer pressure is a thing and it does some toxic things.
#7
Having the most expensive extravagant wedding.
CascadedFalls 2 years ago
I came across a someone on Boredpanda suggesting that instead of splurging on the wedding party, couples should invest in a memorable honeymoon. The idea is to create lasting memories through travel rather than focusing solely on the ceremony with cake and a first dance.
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Suzanne McHenry 2 years ago (edited)
I eloped to the USA and got married to my Husband at the county court house in Marion, Arkansas, the total cost circa $100. We had two witnesses, my Mom and Dad in law. I am British and call them my American Mom and Dad, sadly my Dad in law died in 2017. Then my own Dad in 2018 and next weekend will mark my own Mums death from last year 2022. So I now just have my lovely, kind, super and beautiful soul my American Mom left. Thanks for taking the time to read this. Best wishes all.
The voice of reason 2 years ago
Was perfectly happy going to the courthouse, with one witness and spending $28.00.
Lori T Wisconsin 2 years ago
People don't enjoy being guests at big weddings. Nobody I know likes weddings. Just have a small wedding with close family; save money and enjoy a less stressful day!
Jorie 2 years ago
A doctor I work with is getting married next October. The engagement ring must have cost $20K. The venue is $50K. The flowers are $5K. There is still the gown and a million other things not even settled yet. She and the groom are already disagreeing about certain aspects. I can't even wrap my head around this.
#8
Alcohol - some people can't fathom that others can't be arsed to drink it, or choose a sober lifestyle after a bad experience.
LadyRougarou 2 years ago
I had stomach surgery and since then I cannot tolerate alcohol. My family looks at me weird although I've explained why I can't drink a million times. It's weird how unacceptable it is that a person chooses not to drink 🙄
Poison Ivy/Boo 2 years ago
Same here, although I was diagnosed as diabetic. I don't understand why my refusal to drink has anything to do with what they are doing. I don't mind people drinking around me or if someone wants to eat chocolate or crisps in front of me. Honestly, you do you and don't give me cràp for it.
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StrangeOne 2 years ago
You're not a loser for not drinking alcohol. People who say s**t like that are trying to deflect their own insecurities about drinking on to you.
The Doom Song 2 years ago
I work in a bottleshop. I have seen many levels of chronic alcoholism. People are smart for choosing not to plunge down the rabbit hole
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Doctor Strange 2 years ago
Good for you, and I hope you keep the streak going
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Limey 2 years ago
My husband is 25 years sober after alcoholism nearly killed him. The pressure to “come on just have one” is unacceptable. As a Brit living in the USA I find it that kind of pressure is worse in the UK, but either way people need a little situational awareness. If someone doesn't want to drink, leave it alone. They have their reasons.
Lori T Wisconsin 2 years ago
Glad your husband is sober. Lost my stepson to alcohol several years ago; it's a hard and lonely fight. I support all who fight that battle.
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ॐBoyGanesh 2 years ago
I have no desire to drink. I’ll have a glass of wine paired with food when offered or maybe champagne at a celebration. I’ve never considered just going and buying a 6-pack or fine scotch. I never drink anything but water at clubs or bars. Alcohol just doesn’t interest me in any way. The assumption that I’m in recovery is a common reaction. Or that I’ve had bad experiences with alcohol. Neither is the case, but it IS so unfathomable that people often would rather believe I’m lying to them about issues with it than accept it’s just not my thing.
The Chronic Insomniac 2 years ago
I learned in my early twenties that alchohol tastes terrible to me and I get 3 day hangovers. I'm 56 now and people still look at me like horns sprouted out of my head when I tell them I don't drink. Worse, are those that assume I don't drink because I used to abuse it. No. It tastes like diesel fuel to me and a few hours of feeling buzzed doesn't seem like enough of an incentive for actively believing I'm dying a slow death for the next 72 hours.
Shane S 2 years ago (edited)
Alcohol is in the same class of carcinogen as tobacco. More research comes out all the time that no amount of alcohol is “safe”. Alcohol just has really good PR.
Cathy 2 years ago
Could be in the same 'class' however smoking is really, really bad for you. Nevertheless, rest is absolutely true. No amount is safe and the standard should be not to drink.
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Team sports. There are other ways to learn teamwork and be part of a group, such as orchestra, marching band, scouting and a lot more.
lazyblackcat_779 2 years ago
I love sports. I play and participate in every physical activity possible. However, people are different and have different interests and as long as they are happy and healthy I have no reason to dislike them for disliking sports. I just want to say that even though I like sports I agree.
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unfilteredCigarette73 2 years ago
Especially if you're playing sousaphone, baritone sax, or percussion..
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Just working/playing with teams, at all. Being on a team is not for everyone and doesn't come easy for everyone. I thought I was okay, but turns out I'm not great working with teams. I'm way too independent to the point no one really likes to work with me. I hate being bossed around and sharing credit/criticisms. Never really had a good experience with teams, come to think of it.
Steve Robert 2 years ago
The monetizing of sports has ruined the college game. Paying a college football coach $75 million dollars just to fire him is the definition of absurdity! And when the coach is the highest paid position in most universities, people wonder why tuition has become more expensive than buying a house!
Lou Cam 2 years ago
Schools tend to heavily focus on team sports and not physical activity for health reasons. Kids that hate team sports just develop a hatred of exercise as a result. Doing things like swimming, running or even aerobics class for fun not competitively, would benefit a lot more kids.
Lily Castellow 2 years ago
I feel like marching band is more of a team sport than anything else- everyone is doing something completely different from each other but also creating something you can’t do by yourself. My best memories are from marching band and I get upset when people pass it off as something easy because it is so physically demanding
Ashen Mccann (They/Them) 2 years ago
I'm in Band, Choir, and Theatre. our school gets ZERO funding from the district for the arts programs so when our band performs at f*ckin Disneyland we have to sell at least 300 ice cream bars a year and each student needs at least one sponsor so we can afford to go. And we do good, we have a fundraiser concert that gives us the money for PAS, Band social activities, the school musical, concerts, we literally do more stuff and have more (and much better) percussion instruments than the schools that get funding *cough* the high schools *cough*
You can kinda blame evolution for making social and societal pressure a thing. It’s natural for folks to strive for companionship that’s best suited for life in a given community. Societies are what has given humans an edge in survival on this planet for as long as they have. And so the very fabric of our existence depends on us sticking together in that sense. It is also that same fabric that causes pressure into staying within its norms. Sometimes, very aggressively.
#10
Hustle/grind/climb the corporate ladder culture. I just want to do what I'm good at and enjoy my life, not kill myself getting to the top.
pumpkinpretzel:
And also, (kinda on the flip side) the idea that everyone should start their own business and be their own boss.
Not everyone can/should/wants to…
Sergio Bicerra 2 years ago
I read a story about a guy who, everytime he was just about to be promoted to a management position, he asked to be left alone, cause he felt like being a coach instead of a player, and he loved to play.
BlackestDawn 2 years ago
Yep, just because you are good at doing something doesn't mean you are equally good at managing people doing that thing. Management requires a completely different kind of skill set, and not everyone is suited for it. I find it bizarre that some companies stop giving raises unless that person takes a management position.
Load More Replies... Ash 2 years ago
I got my first full-time job in 2021 (was in grad school before that). It doesn't pay a ton, but my god, I love it. Great company culture, good benefits, work from home, flexible hours, unlimited paid time off. It doesn't pay great, but it's enough. I'm staying right here as long as I can. I don't even want a different position in the same company: higher money would mean more responsibility, and I really like where I'm at. If it ain't broke, don't fix it. Some people really want to climb in their careers, and some people don't. You shouldn't expect everybody to care about the same things in life.
Mabelbabel 2 years ago
It's the same with hobbies. No sooner than you mention a creative hobby, some people immediately say 'You should open an Etsy shop/do craft fairs, they'd sell really well.' I do embroidery and cross stitch tapestry, and generally pretty skilled at it. I do it for relaxation and enjoyment. Mostly I gift them to friends and family, and to local charity auctions to raise funds, but I absolutely don't want to set up a business and sell them as that would take all the fun out of it-I don't want the pressure of having to produce pieces on time or take orders from others, or go hustling for feedback. I'm in a needlework club, and other members feel the same way-we all get told we should monetise our hobbies. That means it wouldn't be a hobby any more, it's totally not the aim of a hobby.
The Other Guest 2 years ago
100% accurate. And I noticed that the majority of the "You should sell those!" people never wanted to actually purchase anything, or if they did they would offer a ludicrously low price for a handmade item. (A former co-worker repeatedly offered me $20 to make him a chullo like the one I made for Mr Other Guest. The yarn alone was twice that, and it took me about 100 hours to knit.) My favorite conversation was, "Sure, I'll make you a scarf. The yarn will cost X." "OK!!" "And it'll take me Y hours to make it." "OK!!" "Now take that & multiply it by what you make per hour." "Oh, forget it!!!" "Why? Isn't my time as valuable as yours?" ::person walks off in disgust:: And then there was the co-worker who thought I was saving "so much money!" by knitting my own socks; she thought yarn cost, "Like, a dollar?" She almost passed out when I showed her the price tag on the handpainted sock yarn I had in my bag...
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Agfox 2 years ago (edited)
Not to mention that climbing the corporate ladder often ends with a practical example of the Peter Principle, viz (in simple terms) competent people are eventually promoted to a position beyond their level of competency. Many people can remember having to work with incompetent Managers at some stage in their working life
AnimalsPleaseTakeOver 2 years ago
Yes! All the technical people being promoted to 'management' make the worst managers. Not everyone can nor wants to be in management.
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Igor914624 2 years ago
I am that guy. I got all the way to CIO at one company. Had all the perks, the reserved parking space, the admin assistant, the works. And I hated it. I got into IT because I am a technical person. Budget meetings, hiring and firing, procurement, and all of the other management stuff drove me bonkers. When the company decided to move out of state, I took my severance and started looking for a tech job. I edited all of the management experience out of my resume, and got a job doing what I love. Granted, it was for less money, but I was happier in the long run. Since then, I have had people find out that I was an exec in the past, and try to promote me. I turned them down. When one tried to push me into it, I quit and found another tech job. Not everyone wants to move up and be the boss. Some just want to do what they love.
StrangeOne 2 years ago
There are things I prefer to do that don't make much money, at business I don't mind working for on a surface level. But hearing the dirt what really goes on in the underbellies of the corporation, yeah, I don't want to get THAT involved. Plus, seems the managers jobs is all about focusing on numbers and calling out to the teams to do better, barking orders, and standing around watching us minions. I'd rather be the minion than having the success of the whole store's profits and performance on my back. Just want to go do my organizing as best I can, quietly, keep a low profile and go home.
#11
Talking to toxic family members.
Sahitya Madhavan 2 years ago
So true. I'm expected to be all normal with my abusive sibling. 'After all, he's your elder brother. You are family.' It's frustrating.
Amy Moore 2 years ago
"She's your mother".... and she let bad things happen to me and made eveything about her
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Sue Denham 2 years ago
This. After 40 years of abuse I cut ties with my parents (my father wasn't abusive but also pretended nothing was going on which, to me, was condoning the abuse). Aunts and cousins would still tell me I would regret not being in touch with my mother, that I was wrong to deprive her of her grandchildren etc.. No regrets, except I wish I had walked away earlier.
Nannychachi 2 years ago
I don't give a rat's rear-end how we're related. I'm not having a forced relationship with a nasty, abusive person. I'm looking at you, mother dear.
StrangeOne 2 years ago
You can't help being born into the family, but you can find your own family.
Kise Miarse 2 years ago
If a person drops contact with family. They didn't do it lightly and there's definitely a reason. Folks just can't fathom that someone else's situation/experience is different from their own.
Ariadna 2 years ago
My mother make me Literally sick because she used to call me pig, barril, that fat is pathetic and no one will want me, that I was ugly… of course that hurt me. I ate with fear, hidden at night. I leave my house at 19 and of course lost all the extra weight, felt so much better with myself. I’m 35 know and she still talk shut about me and remember anyone that calls me pretty, that I used to be a “tonel”. Is my mom and I will always respect her but I prefer my mental health an avoid been with her, my husband understand that. She also said to him that she can’t imagine what he looked un me. Buuut I’m the awful daughter that ignore a mother. It’s not easy but you need to stop people that hurt you
Doctor Strange 2 years ago
I absolutely HATE the 'but you have to forgive them, they are family!' trope in media. So many TV shows and other stories have horrible family members who barely (if at all) apologize for their actions and then the person ends up forgiving them because 'family'. NO. Absolutely NO. Forgiveness must be EARNED through action. And only the person hurt can decide if it is earned. And even IF if is, that STILL doesn't require that you let that person back into your life. Don't spend every moment of your life stewing in anger or pain, move on, but you DON'T have to forgive someone who hasn't earned it.
María Hermida 2 years ago
You can actually forgive a person without letting them be in your life again. The harm they caused will be always there, and even if you forgive you should never forget. Not everybody deserves a second opportunity.
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Argh this one hurt. I cant hear no more the "how can you dont talk to your mom ??" Well she is a toxic narcissist hateful piece of s**t of a boomer. People always assume YOU ARE the problem if you ghost family member.
L. Murphy 2 years ago
No, but it does seem the standards of good motherhood are unattainable for the majority. It is rather funny how many Dad's are "ok", yet if they had vaginas their parenting would be the "worst".
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Emily 2 years ago
Fart water? I'm not sure I know what that is, but what a great phrase! :-)
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Christmas. I really don’t like Christmas, but people look at me like I have two heads if I say that out loud, like I’m not allowed to not like Christmas. Not a religious reason, I just find the holiday to be too intrusive. It insists upon itself, and everywhere you turn, Christmas gets jammed in your face, down your throat, up your a*s. It’s October 29 and my neighbor just put his Christmas lights up. They won’t come down until the end of June. Is eight months of Christmas really necessary?
Bob Brooce 2 years ago
I hate starting the Christmas season at the beginning of October, or even after Halloween, but I don't find it intrusive. That said, I do hate that so many of the people who make the biggest deal over Christmas are the same morons that b***h about atheists and the LGBTQ community "shoving their lifestyle in our faces" or claim they're being persecuted because some people who know that a lot of people aren't christians use inclusive greetings during the holiday season.
E.V. 2 years ago
Same people who shove their guns in our faces. Complain about rainbow flags being everywhere but have no problem carrying a gun and scaring everybody because it's their right to bear arms. So stupid.
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Poppy 2 years ago
I hate how far Christmas extends beyond the actual holiday. The shops are full of c**p from October. I used to work in retail and the Christmas songs used to start on the radio in October and I've grown to detest every single one of them. Having to listen to the same songs, day in, day out on repeat has just ruined them for me. I hate how it's commercialised. It's gone from buying a token to show your loved ones how much you love them to a spending free for all and trying to out do everyone else with how much is spent. I hate how everyone is supposed to be happy and jolly and enjoying themselves. When you live with mental illness like I do, it's hard to even seem like you're happy for the sake of others. I'm horrifically depressed at this time of year and being told 'Cheer up! It's CHRISTMAS!' is just soul destroying. As if that's going to make me suddenly better!
Jorie 2 years ago
Poppy, I suffer from Christmas depression similar to yours. The depression is hard enough to get through, and trying to pretend you don't feel that way only adds to the burden of sad feelings. Just try to let yourself feel blue, knowing that it will pass. Don't make more emotional work for yourself than you need to. Wishing you peace.
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Celena Camps 2 years ago
I dont like the materialism of christmas. I work as a social worker and see poverty everyday. So i have hard time with christmas and the idea that loving someone is equated with how much money is spent on you, especially for families who already have everything they need
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
I hate the early Christmas thing too. I love Christmas when it IS Christmas but FFS! It's too early to start selling Christmas stuff. At this rate Mariah Carey will never get any sleep! Who the hell wants to buy an easter snowman or valentines tinsel?
Arrien 2 years ago
Makes you understand the Grinch better.....All he wanted was peace and quiet. The stores start putting the Christmas stuff out as soon as the Back to School stuff is done. By the time we actual get to Christmas day, I'm sick of the hype and I'm done with the whole mess...I'm just going thru the motions now.
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Emma S 2 years ago
I don't like how it seems to have become the norm to start celebrating Christmas in October. In my city there is a Christmas Market in the city centre every year. It used to only start about two weeks before Christmas and then close on Christmas eve. Now it starts just after Bonfire night in the beginning of November.
shankShaw deReemer 2 years ago
I'm not a Christmas person either. I really don't like any of the year's-end holidays. Bad stuff seems to always happen around this time of year and truthfully, it makes me very sad.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
I hate christmas it is gross and just an excuse to celebrate and perpetuate evil a*s capitalism and it gets longer and longer every year. christmas stuff was out before halloween stuff this year.
longlivethequeen554 2 years ago
Same here! I get called all sorts of names when I say I don't like Christmas. I hate it for many reasons and I hate it more and more as I get older. I swear if I get called Grinch one more time I'm gonna punch someone in the face!
And just like anything that’s taken to an extreme, society too can take expectations and norms to a degree where it starts marginalizing people. And those who find themselves stuck between their own ideas and desires, and the opinion of society can end up in a spiral of stress and inadequacy. And all of this is very ironic because communities form to ensure stability and we now have folks who are destabilizing it.
#13
Driving. Maneuvering thousands of pounds of metal at speeds that can easily kill you and other people, yet we encourage people to do it before they can vote or drink or live alone, and at least in North America you’re seen as some sort of immature freak if you can’t or don’t want to.
Sally Signup 2 years ago
Driving is pretty much essential in the US unless you live in a big city.
madeleine f 2 years ago
I rather live in a place that is walk and cycling friendly with a well developed public transport.
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David 2 years ago
I don't judge someone for choosing not to get a driver's license. But I do feel a bit of judgement when a person who chooses not to get a DL frequently wants their friends with vehicles to be their taxi service. I have seen both scenarios play out IRL. I understand that some people have a legit reason why they can't get a DL. I'm talking about the ones who don't want to bother but also don't want to bother with the hassles associated with public transportation.
BrownTabby 2 years ago
As a public transport user, be an ally when we call for better public transport. As others have mentioned, many countries have basically no public transport outside large cities.
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Couriva 2 years ago
It's crazy how people constantly encourage me to get my license and ignore my worries. Like you really want somebody who blanks out and doesn't see large objects driving?
Bob Brooce 2 years ago
Upvote for being aware that you have limitations. There are a lot of bad drivers who don't even know they're bad at it. Not seeing or being aware of other objects seems to be one of the common problems. It also works the other way. I know a guy who seems to be oblivious to anything smaller than another vehicle.
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BrownTabby 2 years ago
I’ve been watching some fear of flying videos and many of them mention car crash statistics as a point of comparison. We rightfully call for accountability when there’s a plane crash. But people die in car crashes every day and all the public does is gripe about drivers who don’t go above the speed limit. I am disgusted and terrified by the lack of respect for what can happen if cars are not handled carefully.
Breadcrumb. 2 years ago
In North America it's very much frowned upon to take public transit and there is a war against cyclists. You're a "poor dirty drug addict with a DUI sponging tax dollars" let me shout at you from within the compounds of a car and explain to you how you're doing it wrong. A car can be a very dangerous weapon. Very" normal" people can have threatening behavior driving..
Sue User 2 years ago
Portland, Oregon. Biking is a badge of honor and pre pandemin, something like 40%of the people working downtown took public transportation. My suburban stop had a train leaving every 7-8 minutes and my house was within walking distance of three bus lines, one which came every 15 minutes during rush hour and ran 24 hours a day.
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Midnight (she/her) 2 years ago (edited)
16 is too early for a driver's license. The only reason it's legal is because you can work at 16, so companies want you to be able to drive to work. Even though the brain doesn't fully develop until 25. There's a reason car rental places won't rent you a car until you're 25. (Sorry I just felt like venting about that)
Moosy Girl 2 years ago
We didn’t have a car when I was growing up so I never felt the need to get a license. I did start learning how to drive but quickly realized it’s not for me. Now that my parents are starting to need transport to a hospital more often I’m considering getting a cycle rickshaw to taxi them around in, lol.
StrangeOne 2 years ago (edited)
My grandmother never got her license. I never got my license. My kid refuses to learn, too. We all got bothered with questions when we'll get our license. Well, getting the license to drive is one thing. Being able to afford a car, maintain it and worry about the risks involved is a whole other part of the issue, here. If I have issues with blinding LED high beams, gleaming sun flashes and glares to the point I can't see, as a pedestrian then how in the good graces would it be responsible of me to be operating a heavy weight, speedy weapon? Besides, we have public transportation here and I don't plan on living where there is no public transportation.
#14
A 9-5 job. I'm a bartender/server and a natural night owl. I honestly think that's why I even prefer the service industry because I just feel more normal at night lol. I have my degree and did the 9-5 for about 2 years but everyone's energy all day kinda makes me nauseous 🥲 But the relentless judgment for being on a different schedule than the rest of society is constant.
BrownTabby 2 years ago
The things people attach “morality” to never fails to blow my mind. I know y’all would riot if we didn’t have night staff doing their jobs but you’re gonna turn around and look down on them? Yeah nah, bro.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 years ago
My bf claims that science/research has “proven” there’s no such thing as “night owls”. Science can “prove” it all they want, but all I know is that I loathe the morning, regardless of how rested I am, and I don’t feel “awake”/alive until around 2pm. I worked the closing shift when I worked retail and it worked beautifully XD
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Kylie 2 years ago
Or out shopping or whatever activity during "9-5' hours, it's assumed you're unemployed or whatever.
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DeoManus Argentem 2 years ago
I loved taking the 1600-0000 shift nobody else really wanted! No bosses to micromanage me (all mid level management and above left at 1600) - even as lower management I became the big boss - it was my show. Allows me to run my errands during the day when most people are working so it's not crowded. Commute is a dream (go in just before rush hour, leave when you're almost the only car on the road). You're home during market hours so you can better monitor your investments and trading. You can sleep while most of your neighbors are at work, so noise isn't a problem. You never need to worry about rearranging your work schedule for appointments (banking, auto, medical, etc) The only real downside is your social availability - going out with your friends is pretty much limited to your days off. But that's fine by me - as an introvert I can use it as an excuse, lol! 2 days availability is plenty!
Ryan-James O'Driscoll 2 years ago
I'm a night owl, but I found bartending hard. In the winter it was not uncommon for me to not see daylight for weeks at a time.
Sonja 2 years ago
Oh I hate people who judge you solely for sleeping during the day. I was a baker. My day started at midnight. I had to be at work at 1 am and often worked till 10 am. Of course I then went to bed. My neighbour loved making disparaging jokes about party people. His wife would hit him in the ribs and shushed him, reminding him what my job was. Then she left him and he thought it was fully to make noise in the morning to wake me up. Including ringing the doorbell until I had to come out. Until I started doing it too before I had to go to work. That old git didn't like it to be woken up at 12:30 am. Geez, I wonder why his wife left him. What a moron.
Maisey Myles 2 years ago
And the people working 9-5 head to the bar after work. You’re making them happy
Heather Talma 2 years ago
And yet, if you suggested that people do their unnecessary drinking during the day so bartenders could work 9-5, they look at you like you've lost your goddamn mind.
Javelina Poppers 2 years ago
But them day-trippers are glad to see you when they go for a night out.
Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
I wasn't aware of that. We all should be happy there are night owls, ha ha.
#15
Guns, well at least in US society.
Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
If you read the 2nd Amendment thoroughly, you’ll see that, unless you’re in a well-regulated militia—-NOT the “militias” that are nothing but untrained ragtag groups of extremist wannabes, but the REAL thing that you have to be physically fit and go through intensive training to become—-owning a gun really isn’t even a Constitutional right. It should be viewed as a privilege to be earned by going through intensive background checks, extensive training, and expensive permitting to EARN, and which can be permanently taken away from you if you abuse it by behaving badly with your gun. And behaving badly, should include open carry as if we’re living in the goddamned Wild West ffs, collecting way too many guns because no one person needs a personal arsenal, and not keeping your guns locked up securely and out of the hands of people who have NO right to access them, such as children, or a relative with a hair trigger temper, a criminal history, or any kind of mental/emotional issues.
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Rocky Nelson 2 years ago
It is better to have it and not need it then too need it and not have it.....
Colleen Glim 2 years ago
Unless you live way out in the country, the only thing you’re going to “need” it for is the other bugger with a gun
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keyboardtek 2 years ago
Owning a gun used to be a non issue. The NRA actually was a pro gun safety, pro gun regulation organization. They were 100% in support of regulation of the machine gun that was used in drive by shootings during prohibition. It was taken over by right wing fear mongering extremists. Now, if you even hint at sensible gun safety and gun regulation laws, the fanatics have a hissy fit. This comment alone will probably infuriate a hundred of them.
Lori T Wisconsin 2 years ago
When have dead kids become an acceptable price to pay for preserving an antiquated law?? The 2nd amendment is not a right to keep and carry any weapon whatsoever in any manner whatsoever and for whatever purpose you like.
UtanaYona 2 years ago
The 2nd amendment doesn't need to be restricted to save kids...just post "Gun free zone" signs and that will force the shooters to go somewhere else
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Eric Williams 2 years ago
Once again...people kill people. Guns are no more lethal than hammers, axes, etc. when wielded by unstable, insane or drunken fools.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
People don't go into schools and slaughter dozens of children with hammers and axes.
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Uncle Schmickle 2 years ago
It MAY have had some relevance in the 18th Century, but not today. I can't understand how Americans are so crazy about guns. Here in Australia, there's extremely tight regulation on the ownership of firearms ... thank God.
Melissa Powell 2 years ago
There is no reason for anyone to have a gun big or little. No one in my family hunts so no trophies Thank God. Uvalde is the one that tore my heart out. Watched it unfold with law enforcement outside a school room. I worked in LE and that would not have happened with the cops I know. Please someone do something about guns.
Jackie Lulu 2 years ago
Wow. A conversation about guns sure brings out the "best" in everyone, doesn't it!
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Instruments of violent death rarely speak to our higher natures.
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#16
Sex. Nobody should be shamed for having sex or not having sex.
onemanmelee:
Similarly, hookup culture. Not everyone glorifies the idea of "anytime with anyone, anywhere."
Boootifull Unicorn 2 years ago
I REALLY don't understand hookup culture. Can someone explain it to me? Because the way I see it is like; Oh hello random person, I don't know if you've had twelve STD's or are a psychopath who'd gonna kill me in my sleep, but wanna go do something incredibly intimate and personal because I find you aesthetically pleasing? o_0
Barbara 2 years ago
I'm going to tell you about my expierience. I like sex a lot, but I'm not interested in bonding or relationships. Sex is intimate, but I have never seen it as something that must necessarily be related to personal/emotional issues. So, if I know another adult who is on the same frequency, we take the proper precautions and we both consent, why not enjoy it? The next day I want to return to my independence, which makes me very happy. However, when I wanted to settle down, I had no problem even I was married. Now I am alone again and for the moment not looking for anything. It definitely depends on the person.
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"It doesn’t matter what you do in the bedroom as long as you don’t do it in the street and frighten the horses.” - Mrs. Patrick Cambell
Shawn NowayJose 2 years ago
Risk of STI's and STD's are not connected to morality in any way. They are risks involved in certain activities. They can be mitigated with protection, and proper vetting helps to weed out the dangerous folk. These are risks, not moral failings. A person's relationship to sex and what it means to them is their own business, including not wanting it at all. We can and should promote and develop tools to further mitigate these risks, not shame individuals on having more active sex drives and lives. As for people being psycho. That's on them. Do of course be careful, but being victimized is also not a moral failing.
The Original Bruno 2 years ago (edited)
Also: constant bombardment with sexuality in pop culture. In my office building, the bathrooms, elevators, breakrooms have constant music. And it's extremely sexually explicit. If someone SPOKE like this in an office setting, they'd be guilty of sexually harassment, but I have to listen to people sing about how horny they are wherever I go in my building outside of my own office? Do we need raw, graphic sexual content in subway trains?
Poppy 2 years ago
I've got a fairly high body count. I don't care though. It was what I wanted at the time and although I had a lot of bad sex (as well as good), I enjoyed myself. Recently I've been celibate for 10 years through choice. However I now have recently had a couple of hook ups with a couple of friends with benefits and again I enjoyed myself. I'm always careful, use condoms every time.
Midoribird Aoi 2 years ago
Regardless of how careful you are, get regular blood screening done anyway. Condoms are never 100 percent.
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And kink shaming people who enjoy sex that they do in private and doesn't affect anyone else.
Marie Dahme 2 years ago
Thank you. This should be higher. And not only that, why is it...if a woman has a high body count, then she is a s l u t. If a man has a high body count, then he's a studmuffin. WTF ? Wish someone could explain that one to me.
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Im genuinely confused by this one, are people without any sexlife at all, no orgasms ever ? Cause once you know how good it is i cant imagine yo stop. But of course people are free to do so, im just curious.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
I'm asexual so literally no sexual attraction to people. I have no interest in sex. Idk sounds weird to me. Although some asexual people may choose to have sex for reasons that aren't attraction based
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#17
Being extroverted and constantly craving social interactions.
Cute-Landscape7610:
this. i love being at HOME. i love my small circle of close relationships - those are the people that can be recharging for me.
i do not crave being in loud, overpopulated environments or making small talk with a bunch of strangers or distant acquaintances that i have no bond with. even being around extremely social, extroverted people that i do love dearly (my almost in laws) gets exhausting, because they nearly always have their family friends over. i just could never.
madeleine f 2 years ago
Introvert people often get judged for being boring but I found conversations with the least loud person in a big group often is the most rewarding. The ones that shouts can be so obnoxious and exhausting being around.
Bree Piper 2 years ago
I saw a pic recently of a crowded beach and it just made me queasy. Nope.
Toothless Feline 2 years ago
I'm the weird one. I derive energy from interacting with other people, but most people are just soul-sucking. Most of the time, I'd just as soon stay home.
Aroace tiger (she/they/he) 2 years ago
I adore both going out and staying in. Neither exhaust me or give me energy over the other. Being ambiverted is cool
Ti Al 2 years ago
Or it being a black and white concept. I' m quite outgoing, bond easily and like meeting people, old friends or new ones. And I also like my me time, being home alone and doing my own stuff. So, what am I?
Samantha Kalitzki 1 year ago
Wir werden noch immer missverstanden und als ablehnend empfunden obwohl wir einfach nur nicht soviel Sozialkontakte brauchen und möchten
Pickle (they/she) 1 year ago
Why is it that now extroverts are less desirable? I'm an extrovert, but while I do enjoy social interaction, there's some times where I prefer to be by myself.
#18
Marriage.
Im_100percent_human:
I used to believe that Marriage was a societal invention that really did not serve an important purpose. I decided at one point that I never wanted to get married. My views have evolved on this as I have aged. While I still believe that marriage, as an institution, is a societal invention, but it does serve an important purpose. It provides a default legal contract that defines the sharing of property and responsibilities. While this may sound trivial, it is not. This is particularly important for couples as they age, become sick, and die. It really defines how another person can make decisions on your behalf and benefit from a shared life. If you are to couple with another person, you should marry at some point.... You really don't need to have a wedding or even tell anyone. Just do it for the sake of your partner.
Doctor Strange 2 years ago
I think we should abolish gay marriage. There should just be marriage. Doesn't matter if its a guy and a girl, two guys, two girls. It's all just marriage. There is no seperate category for 'gay marriage'. You don't get a gay driver's license, why should you get a gay marriage license? It's just a marriage license.
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AndThenICommented 2 years ago
This is why I love being a country that recognises de facto relationships. Didn’t even need to be married to sponsor my partner’s visa.
David 2 years ago
The reverse is also true (sadly). At my age if I find 'the one' again, we may or may not get legally married because that 'sharing of property' also comes with sharing of bills - in my state. I know a couple who got divorced because he had cancer and knew he had some huge bills coming down the pipe and he didn't want to die and leave his wife saddled with the debt. I wish people would wait longer before getting married. Not a certain age - I mean longer into a relationship. I've known too many people who should have spent a lot longer getting to know the other person before getting married. Including myself. I discounted red flags I should have heeded because I was "in love" and all that.
Max Fox 2 years ago
This is pretty accurate. A marriage is, first and foremost, a financial arrangement. While now a ring is used, a traditional Jewish marriage is formalized by the man passing on an item of worth to his soon-to-be wife. That is how you formalize a financial contract. Of course it is fully formalized when the couple go into a room alone for a set amount of time. And no, actual sex isn't the primary purpose of this, nor was it ever so. Unrelated, adult men and women are prohibited from being in a closed room together, so this is a statement that they are now a married couple. What happens there? They eat, of course. Considering that Jewish religious law requires the couple to fast on their marriage day until the marriage itself, that's probably what the couples have been doing for a few thousand years.
The girl who wore glasses 2 years ago
If you don't want to get married but do want to share with your partner, and/or have them be responsible for health and business decisions if you are incapacitated, SEE AN ATTORNEY. Otherwise, property passes by law to your children; if none, to your parents and/or siblings. The nightmare surrounding healthcare decisions is too much to get into here.
Louisa Spoke 2 years ago
Up until recently marriage was about families joining and creating more wealth and power. Girls and women had no choice in marriage and were used this way. I have never married and never had children. I have lived with my partner who is a man for 39 years now. I really don’t care about gay men or women getting married. If they want to let them. Lawyers will be the ones making money out of them. My father was a lawyer.
Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
Yep. Though I really like that my wife and I made that official "statement" to the world that we want to be together. Works for 32 years. Everything else from the OP post, I agree.
Celtic Pirate Queen 1 year ago
After 14 years together we decided to get married. Our reason? He needed a tax write off and I needed better medical insurance. Of course we loved each other, but the actual getting married was for purely practical reasons. $84 at the San Diego courthouse. I didn't even buy new clothes (he got a nice new shirt). Our priorities are based more on the quality of our life together and not on going into debt to impress anyone, family or otherwise. We did have a nice BBQ the following weekend (we got married on a Monday).
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
I have heard a man proposing to his woman in order to secure her, should he die. Two men actually, and it really makes everything much easier when you become widowed.
Wondering Alice 2 years ago
I thought civil partnership was brought in to help solve this. I assumed it to be like some sort of legal declaration of next of kin. Ought to be that way, with no actual requirements for a romantic relationship or anything.
And, as it so happens, these evolutionary processes also lead to the fact that we’re hard-wired to respond to social pressures—to a degree where changes can quite literally be detected in the brain.
Many look at others for guidance. It’s a thing called social proof whereby a community essentially determines what’s good and what’s not based on how much they approve of it or partake in it. A certain kind of popularity.
#19
Interest in sports.
Helena 2 years ago
Nothing more irritating than sports being intertwined with our schools and colleges.
Bob Brooce 2 years ago
A-freaking-men. Gym class is fine, but don't waste a dime of my tax dollars on a football or baseball team.
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keyboardtek 2 years ago
The thing about physical education in high school is the focus on competitive sports is really unhealthy. And we are never taught the really useful things like the proper way to lift without damaging your back, proper posture, the best way to deal with repetitive jobs, even a simple daily exercise routine to maintain good health. We are not taught any of that until we have an injury and have to go through physical therapy.
Suzanne McHenry 2 years ago
Keyboardtech, now that is an excellent idea and point.
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Anna Chandler 2 years ago
Pissed me off I had to pay an athletic fee in college, but no free tix to games, no free access to the campus gym. And the coaches made more than the college president. Ridiculous.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
Former Notre Dame coach Brian Kelly was recently badmouthing his former employer. "At Notre Dame they built a school of architecture. Here at LSU we build athletic facilities." He of course failed to see the irony in his comparison. You won't go far as a college football coach if you recognize irony.
Doctor Strange 2 years ago
Why do we get so invested in grown men (and women) playing children's games?
Fynne 2 years ago
Not enough people talk about the pressure for every single boy/man to be great at sports and super athletic
Chuck Freiman 2 years ago
I'm a man and have never felt the pressure to be great at sports. When I was a boy, I was not a great athlete but still enjoyed playing sports.
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Kathleen Ryan 2 years ago
Our work treats sports like the only acceptable non-work topic. I.m like..oh. the sportsball
Steve Robert 2 years ago
There is nothing wrong with team sports. It's the monetizing that has destroyed the game. And now that you can legally bet on these games, are turning our nation into addicted gamblers.
#20
"Sucess" in our modern way of thing about it. Not everyone wants or can handle being extremely wealthy, famous, or powerful. Some of us just want our slice of a good life and live it.
Jeremy James 2 years ago
True. Money and wealth are often falsely conflated. Money is paper, or even imaginary paper. You can't eat it. Well, you can, but it's not at all delicious. Wealth is tangible. Wealth means things that enrich your life.
Load More Replies... lazyblackcat_779 2 years ago
You did not succeed in spelling “success” however. Oh, the irony!
StrangeOne 2 years ago
I don't want to be famous. That means more people trying to be all up in my business, watching my every move and scrutinizing, not only my life my family's, too.
Sue Denham 2 years ago
Both of my sons enjoy their work and look forward to going to work. One's a digger operator and the other is in Aviation Security. To me success is loving what you do.
Celtic Pirate Queen 1 year ago
I wouldn't mind being rich, but I most certainly don't want to be famous.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
In my opinion success is when you can look at your life and not really need anything more.
BoredPossum 2 years ago
Just wanna live an easy life but the ones already winning this game aren't satisfied before they have beaten all other players.
#21
40 hour work week.
xMadxScientistx:
I don't honestly think it's for anybody. People say there are a bunch of psychopaths out there who just love working every waking moment, but I kind of think they just tell people they feel that way to look like they're virtuous.
Stardust she/her 2 years ago
In the news in my country, someone said that us youngsters should work 70 hours a week if we want our country to get ahead
keyboardtek 2 years ago
That is because the country needs the taxes as the rich no longer are paying taxes much.
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Biljana Malesevic 2 years ago
And working from office. If I can work from home, and in my job I can, why force me to come to office, lose 2 hours on commute every day, expose myself to germs, flu, cold, and having to spend 8+ hours in the cold sterile office when I would rather be home where everything is the way I want it.
Sonja 2 years ago (edited)
Also working more than neccessary or doing completely useless and unproductive things to show the 'right mindset'. I am a good worker. I'm tenacious, loyal and very productive. But I refuse going to an office. I only work remotely. Nothing of my job needs me to be in office. Absolutely everything is done at the computer anyways. A meeting in person brings me no value just because I can smell the people and breath their pathogens. I will not waste valuable lifetime to travel to an office just to sit in a cheap chair, hurting my back and still working on a computer. My Home-Office is far more comfortable and I have ergonomic furniture. And that alone makes many people think I'm lazy. It doesn't matter that I have a high output, amazing quality of work. If you don't jump hoops and bend backwards, you're not a good enough employee for far too many people.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago
i dont think anybody really likes this but its something that has become necessary if you want to be able to afford food and shelter but even then sometimes its not enough
KariAdoresHerKats 2 years ago
I work 40 plus for the money and that's it. Life has become so expensive.
IndoGrrlRN67 2 years ago
I have a 3-night 12-hour schedule which I love (except when we're short staffed -ALWAYS- and work 4-night 12-hours or 5-night 12-hour)
However, there has to be a fine balance between being all in or all out when it comes to functioning in society. Setting boundaries and understanding what you as an individual needs is crucial in maintaining personal health. Turning into an absolute people-pleaser can lead to harmful relationships which in turn have zero benefit for the individual, all the while turning against society isn’t wise either as it’s not all bad.
#22
Sexually provocative imagery on everything, being seen by kids. We steep in it all our lives
David 2 years ago
One of the things I like about Ghibli movies is they are not crammed full of sexual innuendo and double entendres. Some of the western studios seem to think you can't make a viable kids' movie without tossing in a lot of jokes that only (you hope) the adults will get. We watched a lot of both but sometimes it was awkward when the adults / older grandkids laugh at something and the little ones want an explanation.
Poppy 2 years ago
Upvote for Studio Ghibli. In fact, in the movies, if anyone so much as has a chaste kiss on the cheek, one of the characters usually goes very red and embarrassed, that's about the extent of anything even remotely sexual.
Load More Replies... L. Murphy 2 years ago
As a female, I am so sick of seeing women and boobs used to sell everything from life insurance to batteries. I understand if it's bras or tampons, but does everything have to be about sex?
David 2 years ago
As a man, me too. I like breasts. But I'm not such a simpleton that I'm going to purchase any product just because an attractive woman is holding it up. Sometimes the opposite because I find it offensive. The breasts are not offensive. The mentality of "we the manufacturer think you are too stupid to not see through this" is offensive. At least we have mostly moved past the "women are incompetent idiots" days. I remember an old cling wrap ad where the woman has the wrong brand and struggles with it so much she manages to get all tangled up in it. Then she gets Saran Wrap or whatever brand and it works like it is supposed to. Super demeaning stuff like that.
Load More Replies... Kelly Scott 2 years ago
And then there are people in the US who throw a fit if the kid sees a naked statue.
David 2 years ago
Yeah. Sad. I have been to countries that were more relaxed about topless beaches and also about things like alcohol. My impression is kids grow up more chill about both. Seems like in the US many kids grow up thinking of breasts as sexualized and getting stupid/sick drunk on your 21st birthday because you can are things they should do.
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Tucker Cahooter 2 years ago
Don't worry, BP will do their best to censor even the most innocuous image to avoid sullying the minds of the kiddies who might stumble across it
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I'm really not impressed with the fact that kids here are doing the sex moan thing recently. I don't know where they have picked it up from or if they even know what it means, but it sounds so off.
CaptainSlapNTickle 2 years ago
Nothing about the incessant and almost forced violence in absolutely everything?
Just Another Girl 2 years ago
I think this is a US thing. Violence is fine, but OMG show a tit and parents lose their minds. We should not be ashamed of the body, but should be ashamed of ourselves for normalizing violence.
#23
College.
xSmittyxCorex:
I don’t know about society at large, but media sure acts like it. I swear almost every show and movie ever it’s assumed the entire cast went to college. And not a local college either, they left home, stayed in a dorm, and somehow in between all the studying, a lot of partying and weed was involved. And if it involves highschoolers, its assumed they’re going to go, and if not, it’s cause they’re the stupid/trouble-making one.
E2U&U2 2 years ago (edited)
I hate to say it, but an undergraduate degree is the equivalent of a high school diploma decades ago. Some employers view it as a minimum qualification to consider a resume or application. I have a BA but hold a position that usually needs a Ph.D. I got here by having common sense, initiative, a strong work ethic, and the trust of my superiors. Those qualities aren't rewarded the same anymore.
Cee Ahch 2 years ago
I never got a HSD. Went to trade school with a ged. Make 190k as a trade engineer and I own my own buisness. 0 student debt.
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Lori T Wisconsin 2 years ago
Public colleges are as good or better than the expensive, elite, private schools. Dont waste your money going to a college just for the "Name".
keyboardtek 2 years ago (edited)
Trade school is a good option. The country has a shortage of plumbers and electricians. They charge $125-150 an hour now, and they are booked a month out and hard to get.
Javelina Poppers 2 years ago
Many community colleges offer a skilled trades program similar to trade school, I'm an instructor at one now.
Load More Replies... Boootifull Unicorn 2 years ago
i don't understand people glorifying the twenties, when you go to college. um, no, my thirty's are looking pretty good, i wont have to study anymore and will probably have a job. my twenties look freaking hard.
The Darkest Timeline 2 years ago
I get the sense that a lot of people think there are far more college educated people out there than there really are. Only about 1/3 of all Americans have a college degree. How many of you are surprised by that?
Lyone Fein 2 years ago
I am a former college professor, and I discourage people from going to college if they don't already know what they want to study. Most humanities degrees (English, History, Psychology, etc.) will be of little use. An undergraduate degree in the sciences is useful if you are going to work in a lab, or if you are going on to medical school or an advanced degree in science. Most folks, however, would be much better off going to Community Colleges and getting two year degrees in high paying practical fields like computer engineering, nursing, automotive engineering, vet tech, plumbing, being an electrician, etc. Why get $60,000 in to debt for something that ends up being useless to you in the end?
lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
I worked for a company that audited all job titles against degrees and demoted engineers without degrees.
Javelina Poppers 2 years ago
I took the skilled trade route and made a good living and a good life for my family.just off my HS diploma. After 37 years I retired, but I'm still working now as an adjunct instructor at our community college system in their skilled trades program.
Robin Roper 2 years ago
At one point, about 15% of all jobs required a BA/BS level degree. Now, it's about 40%. It's businesses, corporations, and the civil service that started this trend.
Toothless Feline 2 years ago
This is something that annoyed me about Spider-Man: No Way Home. Peter, MJ, and Ned all get rejected by colleges because of Spider-Man, and the only thing they can think to do is beg an admissions officer to let them in. The three of them are all incredibly smart. They could easily bypass college and be mega successful. But the assumption is that "smart kids always go to college". I have never had a job in my degree field (communications/graphic design) except for occasional freelance work (which I hate). The only good thing I got out of college was a couple of lifelong friends and my spouse.
#24
Capitalism? I mean, it literally is only for the capitalists. Everyone else gets to labor, or die, or both...
BrownTabby 2 years ago
Every day I rue the phenomenon LBJ pointed out: “give a man someone to look down on and he’ll empty his pockets for you”. That’s a massive part of why so many poor and middle class people vote against their best interests.
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Papa 2 years ago
For all of those opposed to capitalism, what do you propose as an alternative? One of the things I've learned in my 62 years is to be cautious about criticizing something if I don't have a plan to fix it.
nm 2 years ago
I have learned in my 71 years that the capitalism was good as long as there was the communism present at its side. After the fall of the latter, the former is becoming a monster.
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I have always wondered why I so often hear people telling me, that they will be voting for a certain party because they promise tax cuts. When I ask them how much those cuts will affect their personal economy it turns out that it will have so little effect, that it will not be felt at all (you know 2 dollars a year). But the same party will cut back on schools and other things that they themselves need. Somehow a lot of people forget that capitalism is most important to those with capital.
Hence, it’s important to learn how to express individuality, but all the while understanding how you can help a society and how a society can help you.
The first part can manifest in many ways: wear unique clothes, don’t be ashamed to embrace what you enjoy near others, speak your mind, that sort of thing. In turn, losing the trying to fit in mentality might save you a lot of stress along the way.
#25
Probably gonna get crucified for this but... Rap/hip hop or any type of music in that style... including a lot of this new Bro Country stuff. *goes and hides under the table now...*
Jeff White 2 years ago
Just don't assume that if it's not for you, it should not be for anybody.
Papa 2 years ago
Did you not see the title of this article? The person who posted that never said it shouldn't be for anyone.
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David 2 years ago
No downvote here. I hate rap. Like other genres I'm not into - there are a few exceptions I have enjoyed. But on the whole - it's a lot of sameness of people rhyming about what a bad person they are and terrible s**t they do. But you shouldn't be downvoted for it because you can name ANY genre and there are people who do not like it. That is the beauty of music - there is so much to choose from and something for almost every taste. I don't hate on people who don't like the genres I like.
Poppy 2 years ago
Personally, I believe if you like something like a genre of music, then no one else has the right to criticise it. It's your own preference. I am a metal head and I've had people literally tell me 'How can you even listen to that stuff? It's just noise'. I'm sorry Karen but it speaks to my soul and has been part of my life longer than you've been alive so get stuffed! I personally don't like jazz, country and most pop music but I wouldn't criticise anyone for enjoying it.
Jack Burton 2 years ago
Dont understand this one, cant we just listen whatever music style we want nowadays ? In 2023 every type of music is instantly avalaible...
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
I like all sorts of music. When someone asks me what kind of music I like I say "Yes"
E.V. 2 years ago
I don't like rap because I don't understand what they're saying. I'd have to constantly look up them up on urban dictionary. I guess I'm old.
Der Kommissar 2 years ago
Maybe its not the slang you don't get. angry men yelling into microphones is, on occasion, unintelligible
Load More Replies... Bob Brooce 2 years ago
I've never heard a hip hop song I could easily tolerate, but I do appreciate a very small amount of rap, such as what's done by Linkin Park. If anyone else likes it and wants to listen, go right ahead. Just remember that not everybody wants to listen to your music, so don't blast it in public places no matter what kind of music it is. Even if it's one of my favorite songs I don't want to hear it when I'm in the woods or at the beach.
The Other Guest 2 years ago
And I bet your parents felt the same about the music you listened to growing up. And their parents felt the same about the music your parents listened to growing up. And their parents felt the same... Probably goes all the way back to when the first proto-human started hitting hollow logs with sticks instead of knocking rocks together.
#26
Credit cards.
DEVILDORIGHT:
Living in and with debt is just lunacy to me. What sense does it make to live your entire life in debt to a corporation? None. If I cannot afford to pay for a thing outright, I don't need it. "Oh but a credit card/debt, allows you to have what you want." NO. It allows the bank to come take your shit and throw you to the wolves and out on the street should you fail to pay the debt incurred.
David 2 years ago
Well, I see one of your problems right there. You assume that having a credit card = buying things you can't afford. I have credit cards. I pay them off in full every month. I get cash back so the net effect is they pay me to use them. It also means I have a built in proof of purchase, I am carrying less cash on me / lose less if I lose my wallet. And in many situations I get longer warranties. Costco electronics purchased on their visa get an extra 2 years on the manufacturer's warranty. When my camera was stolen in the Philippines, AMEX replaced it for free because it was purchased on their credit card and I was traveling. It is also a form of insurance. I do not always have enough cash in my wallet to cover an emergency tow or tire replacement. TLDR: CCs are a good thing if you use them wisely.
Bob Brooce 2 years ago
Credit card are just a tool for finances. Some people get a nail gun and put nail through their body, and other people just use it to put nails in the right place faster than with a hammer. Some people use credit to buy stuff they can't really afford or because they're living paycheck to paycheck and don't have enough money on any given day. Others use credit cards to spend the same way they would if they had to use cash, without having to carry that much cash (or a checkbook), plus they gain other benefits by using the card.
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Toothless Feline 2 years ago
I fell into the credit trap many years ago, not so much from buying things I couldn't afford, but from using cards to pay for routine needs when cash wasn't there because of job situations. Spouse and I are now several years past a bankruptcy, and we have only a single card with a low limit that we use to manage cash flow between paychecks and to reserve hotels and rental cars, which frequently won't take a debit card for reservations. We pay it off every month. The only other debt we have is our mortgage.
Poppy 2 years ago
Sometimes life has a way of smacking you in the face and you have to go into debt. It's easy to say 'if you can't afford something don't buy it' but if your roof is leaking over your kids bedroom, your washing machine has quit and your car is making a weird noise, sometimes going into debt is the only option as you can't allow your kids to sleep in a damp room, you need clean clothes (going to a laundrette can sometimes be more expensive in the long run) and if your car stops working, you can't get to work to earn money. Sometimes it's not a case of wanting something, it's sometimes a necessity.
Alan Watkiss 2 years ago
This is so close to home, I was made homeless and needed a place to live quick, I got the place but it had nothing, and I couldn't afford it outright, despite working a full-time and part time job
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Steffi Rose 2 years ago
Some people can’t afford to eat or keep the heat on without a fallback though
Fall F. 2 years ago
Yeah, and that's called slavery. Surprisingly or not, very common in the USA from all the 1st world countries.
Load More Replies... Thee8thsense 2 years ago
The one purpose a credit card is useful for is renting an automobile, and various travel related things.
Fall F. 2 years ago
Not anymore. Times changed since the 1990s, and now all worldwide companies in those businesses are accepting normal debit cards too.
Load More Replies... Uncle Schmickle 2 years ago
Like the comment below, credit cards are convenient, as long as the full amount is paid within the stated due by date. However our greedy banks in Australia are now charging a " surcharge " fee for most credit card transactions ! There can't be any justification for this.
Danish Susanne 2 years ago
You forget that not everyone can pay for a house in cash, so living in debt can be a matter of having af place to live.
Sina 2 years ago
People lost the meaning and value of having a credit card. It is meant so you are able to purchase items that outright are unaffordable, because they're expensive. It doesn't hurt to have a credit card and make the payments every month properly, if it is to only be used for items that not many people can afford outright without taking a bit hit on their monthly budget. If your fridge breaks down, it costs serious money to replace if it's not fixable. One can't easily pay that outright, but nor can one live without a fridge for several months, to save up and buy it outright. Or a washing machine, or a car etc. That's where a credit card is useful. But we've all been bombarded with the notion that a credit card is meant for shopping sprees, that many people get in trouble because they don't use it responsibly. Use it only for big purchases, that you can comfortably make the payments for 1-2 years, and it's not the end of the world. Just, make sure you leave it at home if not needed :p
Jill Bussey 2 years ago
In addition to David's note below, I would add that some shops (UK) are refusing cash! They will only take credit/debit cards.
#27
Being connected ALL the time: Wifi, TV, streaming.
Upstairs-Radish1816:
I was in my 50's when my son gave me his old smart phone. He couldn't understand how I could leave the house without it. I kept telling him I've gone this long without one I couldn't see the need to have a phone all the time.
Giraffy Window 2 years ago
No, social media account, entering my phone number and personal legal identification is NOT a beneficial extra security measure that you are entitled to.
Load More Replies... Bob Brooce 2 years ago
I understand (and appreciate to some extent) people who are happy without a cell phone. That said, if you have one I don't see why you wouldn't take it with you the way you take your wallet. You don't need to answer it, and you don't need to make routine calls, but if anything goes wrong you've given up your ability to contact people. And a PSA for anyone who doesn't know: as long as your phone can connect to a cell tower in the US you can call 911 even if you don't have a cell phone plan. The emergency numbers are different in other countries but assume the same is true in most places.
Helena R 2 years ago
This, you can put it in your bag/pocket you don't even need to look at it, but why would you run the risk
Load More Replies... Sven Horlemann 2 years ago
Sounds like my wife. The same wife, that insists that I have my mobile with me on trail runs in case something happens, so I can call.
BoredPossum 2 years ago
That's not bad advice. Having a way to communicate can save lives but making it the center of your life can destroy it.
Load More Replies... Flora Porter 2 years ago
Yep. I won't install any home appliance that relies on wifi. Never forget that 'smart' really means 'allows us to collect data on you to sell you more stuff and make you pay for upgrades'.
BoredPossum 2 years ago
And apparently they make your network vulnerable to hacking.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
It would be one thing if the only calls cell phones could take were person-to-person. But unwanted junk calls, telemarketer calls, and robocalls are able to bypass blocks people can put on their phones, and have flooded cellphone lines to the point where I shut the ringer off because of all the interruptions—-which then makes me miss the calls from people I actually want to talk to! Then I get fussed at for not answering their call or seeing their text. Well s**t, when did it become a choice between being able to concentrate for more than a minute and getting the pile of work in front of me done but missing that ONE decent call or text that comes in, or allowing myself to be interrupted by 20, 40, 60 unwanted b******t calls before hearing the one good call come in? TBH, I worked a hotel front desk for years, and had to also cover the switchboard. That experience of never being able to get any-f*****g-thing DONE without numerous interruptions made me hate telephones long before cellphones came along. Why TF do you think I would change that opinion now that the phone is in my pocket or purse?
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
Bev and I have PTT on our phones and walk around supermarkets using our phones as walkie talkies and being silly about it "Eggs in aisle 3... Sniper egg detected. Going in for a closer look" and "The sausages said my shirt looks nice. Must be complimentary"
BrownTabby 2 years ago
As someone with a terrible sense of direction, having a phone with Google Maps has been an absolute godsend. Being able to bring my own movies to watch on planes has been good too.
Teresa Spanics 1 year ago
The reasons that I take my phone with me are I have my Bus Pass in its case, I can check the weather on weather apps, and for alerts aka earthquake, etc.
But societies are necessary, for survival, of course, but let’s put it into perspective: society has enough power to push for changes and public opinion that might just keep you safe, say, in a pandemic where everyone wears a mask, and the one not wearing one would be pressured, if not mandated, into it so that it wouldn’t stir any more trouble. But that works for everyone’s benefit if the focus is for the benefit of everyone, and not motivated by self interest. So that’s something to think about.
#28
Owning a pet.
Tim0281:
I agree. I'd love to have a dog, but I'm a childless bachelor that lives in a second floor apartment. I don't have the time or space to properly take care of a dog. It wouldn't be fair to the dog if I got one.
StrangeOne 2 years ago
I've lived with a dog, I've owned a dog from a puppy to a year old. They don't train that easily and require a lot of attention. Things get destroyed, your house starts smelling like dog pee from accidents, and you have to puppy/dog proof your home like you would with a toddler.
LakotaWolf (she/her) 2 years ago (edited)
Yes! I have two cats (aged 7 & 2) and two dogs (aged 2 and a 5 month old puppy.) My life revolves around their care, but I chose that so I’m okay with it :) My house and yard are as pet-proofed as I can make them. I got lucky with my puppy - crate-trained easily, only one accident in the house, and he doesn’t even bite/nip or bark (is he even a dog?!) But he IS a TON of work. He requires a lot of attention, affection, and training (he’s a Belgian Malinois because I am an idiot.) However, my happy, healthy animals fulfill me and fill my heart with joy. I am fortunate to be able to have the time and finances to devote to them. …and yes I patrol the house and yard twice a day to make sure there’s no random c**p that the cats or dogs will eat XD
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Florence O'Grady 2 years ago
If I am ever able to own a home, it will have to have a fenced in yard.No fence, no dog. I would adopt older dogs, because they need a home, are usually house trained, and make great companions.
Flora Porter 2 years ago (edited)
In the UK there are websites like dating but with dogs. I 'borrow' a dog one day a week plus occasional overnights, which works for me. No worries when I have long work days, no vets bills for me, no walker fees for the owners and the dog never needs to stay in kennels. Win-win-win. There are also charities where you can walk dogs for an older person, which helps them keep their dog when they might otherwise have to give them up.
Just Another Girl 2 years ago
I appreciate people who know when NOT to get a pet. It’s not for everyone and if you know you can’t give an animal the life it deserves it’s best to not get one.
Michelle C 2 years ago
I’m blessed with two pets, but recognize that some folks cannot afford pet care, have allergies, etc.
Brainmas 2 years ago
I love my dog, but it's very unlikely I will even have another one. I can't imagine not having cats though. I completely understand people who don't want pets. A lot of them love animals but know they don't have the right environment or lifestyle to have a pet, and know it would be selfish to get one anyway.
Jeff Jones 2 years ago
Where would we be without dogs? Think of their military & police service. Service dogs for the disabled. Therapy dogs for veterans & children in hospitals. They make this cruel world better.
Joshua Macdonald 2 years ago
Adopt an older tiny pup. Tiny walks, tiny poops, lots of cuddle, Already trained and just want love. Any location can support the right furball. Don't doubt yourself. I bet they'd rather be with you than in the shelter
#29
The idea that in order to be part of this world, you have to focus on events that don't concern you. We're expected to be 'aware' of conflicts all over the world, poverty, crime, social problems and all other kinds of horrible things that happen daily but don't concern us. This leads to constant panic and stress, caused by events and situations that aren't in our sphere of influence but we're expected to be aware of them. There's almost no way to live a stable life when we're constantly battered over the head with events happening in other parts of the world, but if we ignore them, we're horrible people.
Thee8thsense 2 years ago
In this case, as in most on this list, a viable solution is to simply not care what others think of you. Really. Personally, it came as I got older, but it feels fantastic.
Camber Hollywood 2 years ago
It's none of my business what others think of me. Which is distinct from not caring about how I'm perceived.
Load More Replies... Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
However, isolating yourself and being ignorant of world events by choice also leaves you completely unprepared when those world events become national, then local events. What need to happen is a simple reporting of news—-not the making or creating of “news” that turns out to be sensationalist b******t—-with a balanced mix of both bad news and good news. Believe it or not, even with all the awful s**t Halle king every day, there is actually MORE good stuff happening that never even gets close to being in the news, or gets buried because it’s eclipsed by sensationalized non-news b******t. News is not entertainment, it’s information. It should go back to being solely information. Just the facts, all fact checked and therefore true, no embellishment, no opinions, no propaganda, no manipulative spin and half quotes taken out of context. Facts. Information.
Poppy 2 years ago
It's healthy to be aware of world events, however constantly scrutinising every little aspect of it is what's causing issues with people.
Papa 2 years ago
If you want to stay informed about about everything going on in the world you go right ahead, but I wouldn't say it's healthy.
Load More Replies... Cyber Returns 2 years ago
I would love to see a news program that has nothing but good news on it
Moosy Girl 2 years ago
This is why I stopped reading the news and started reading BoredPanda instead. I’ll get the gist of what’s going on in the world from listening to people at work. :p
#30
Small talk.
Auntriarch 2 years ago
Must be something wrong with me, I don't mind small talk at all, enjoy it sometimes
Grace Knowlton 2 years ago
I have always hated small talk. I want deep meaningful conversations or none at all
Celena Camps 2 years ago
Me too .. i hate small talk also .. but am enjoy 1 on one conversations. I also hat texting for similar reasons
So, what are your thoughts on any of this? Throw in your two cents and share stories in the comment section below.
And once you’re done with that, why not peep at this article about things that seem to have been normalized, yet they are anything but normal due to their toxic, immoral or just flat out wrong nature.
#31
Homeownership. Some people just don't have the budgeting skills, willingness, time and knowledge to do maintenance, or the discipline necessary for homeownership.
Lauren S 2 years ago
I think homeownership should be in this list. But I disagree with some of their reasoning. Some people don’t come from backgrounds or circumstances that afford them the luxury of saving for a home. Or when they are financially ready the timing is poor with an inflated market and high interest rates making homeownership not a financially responsible (or feasibility) decision. Others I’m sure don’t want the responsibility of maintenance or costs that come with it and that part of what op said is true. But I disagree with budgeting skills or discipline, that’s not why most people can’t buy houses.
BrownTabby 2 years ago
Thank you. Please save me from privileged people’s takes on housing.
Load More Replies... StrangeOne 2 years ago
Someone I know sold her house to go back to renting an apartment. She said she was always worried about something happening to her home and repairs. She spent much of her time on her lawn and maintaining her house. She became tired of it and wanted to enjoy more out of her life than devote her time to a building.
Poppy 2 years ago
I have ADHD and managing money is something I REALLY struggle with. I was offered a mortgage many years ago to buy the flat I live in and I turned it down because I knew my mental health meant that I wouldn't be able to make the payments on time or at all and I'd be evicted eventually. As it was, my landlord started eviction proceedings because of my rent arrears and I only avoided it by the skin of my teeth because the landlord (social housing, not private landlord) was very accommodating and was willing to work with me to keep me in my flat and let me pay off what I owed. I'm more stable now and able to budget more, I am no longer in arrears and able to make my rent payments. I've probably paid the full value of the flat by now with how long I've lived there but I would still not take a mortgage and be a homeowner as I can't rely on myself.
Blyss Blyssylb 2 years ago (edited)
And some don't/can't be tied down like that. It's kind of like a marriage but with more expenses and things like "immanent domain" to put it short
Florence O'Grady 2 years ago
I once met a lady where I cleaned heat and air vents in a hospital. She and her husband worked for the same temp agency and chose to live in an apartment, not a house. Because of them working for the same temp agency, every year they took a month off for vacation. They always went to England. She would stay in London, see the shows, visit friends, etc. He would ride his bicycle around the country. I never got the full story of how and why they chose that lifestyle. All I know is when she told me that, her smile never left her face. You could have cut the happiness that left her body with a knife.
Melissa Powell 2 years ago
Lived in a condo for 25 years. Sold it and move to AZ from CA. Had enough money to buy a nice house. Owning a house is very expensive, I should have stayed in my condo.
L H 2 years ago
I get why some people don't want to own a home, but what is their plan for when they retire? Still pay ridicolously high rents? (I'm in the UK if that makes a difference)
Tyranamar Seuss 2 years ago
My plan is to live in housing they have for the elderly on a fixed budget down by the beach. It's rent controlled. Nice small little apartments. Or there's an area with affordable trailers further south along the beach. That's why I must be poor when I'm older. But not too poor.
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#32
Working the same job/career for 40+ years.
keyboardtek 2 years ago
I am a jazz pianist who repaired digital pianos, synthesizers, and organs for 36 years. It was like being in a toy store as I got to play them all day long!
Load More Replies... Tabitha 2 years ago
With an actual pension you can live on at the end of it—-that hasn’t been drained empty by corporate raiders who bought the company, took everything of value that wasn’t red hot or nailed down, then sold it or closed it down and moved on like locusts to decimate the next one.
whiterabbit 2 years ago
Do what makes you happy. But don't b*tch about never getting ahead when you change jobs every single year and never put the time in to grow a career.
Uncle Schmickle 2 years ago
Nothing wrong with that. In fact it used to be the norm .... provided you like the job. It used to be thought that if a person kept moving from job to job, there was something wrong with them.
Melissa Powell 2 years ago
Start as a receptionist in a government agency retire at age 50 or not. Start at age 50 like I did. They liked me and I liked them.
Javelina Poppers 2 years ago
Depends on where you're working...........some playgrounds are nicer and more fun than others.
#33
Veganism.
RavenTheCat 2 years ago
Theres nothing wrong with veganism itself its the *peta* culture that gives it a bad rep in my opinion, maybe im dumb
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
Not dumb. Peta are the worst hypocrites to animal welfare in the world so OP chose the wrong word here and should have went with cultish die hard vegans that try to convert you. Since Peta began they have killed over 43,000 animals. Why? Direct quote from PETA: “Euthanasia is the happy ending for many animals”
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Poppy 2 years ago
I don't mind if someone is vegan, but I don't like the militant veganism where I'm told I'm a murderer because I eat meat etc.
forgetful, not lazy 2 years ago
I agree, because I always wondered, what if? If everyone went vegan, what would happen to all those animals? Go fend for themselves and maybe die a different way? I do not see people running to adopt every cow, sheep , pig etc. I'm sure other animals would love to have them as a meal because you cannot tell a tiger, croc, to go vegan too. Things that make me go hmmmm?
Load More Replies... BrownTabby 2 years ago
Yup. Here’s a lil social experiment: the next, say, 10 times you eat in a restaurant, you can only eat vegan things. After your 10 visits are up, let me know if you still think veganism is dominant. And I say this as someone who loves a good steak.
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Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
I'll make you a deal. I won't complain about your vegan lunch if you don't complain about my ham and cheese sammich. ;)
Aileen Grist 2 years ago
Each to their own. I'm a vegan - but I used to love the taste of meat. I used to smoke cigarettes too and every now and again the smell of someone else's ciggie is really nice. So each to their own.
Will Cable 2 years ago
I hate how vegetarian meals have now switched to vegan versions. Some wonderful places to eat changed their menu and now they are not worth visiting.
Moosy Girl 2 years ago
YES! Yes, I was just typing this myself when I saw your comment! At supermarkets too, vegetarian stuff is being replaced by vegan stuff. I don’t want to go vegan, I just don’t want to eat meat.
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Based on recent unpopular opinion posts, Halloween costume parties for adults. Every time someone says they don't like them, they're met with "you just don't like fun" comments.
RavenTheCat 2 years ago
This is another example of to each their own. I understand both sides i myself just love halloween
Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
I just like the dressing up. I loved planning my Halloween costumes when I was a kid. Hell, I took Drama classes in school so I could continue to dress up in costumes after I got too old to go trick or treating. Later, I loved it when I worked for companies that let employees dress up if Halloween fell on a workday. Fun comes in many forms, and everyone is free to choose what they do and don’t like for themselves. For me , it’s dressing up in a costume. For someone else, it might be bungee jumping or collecting stamps. I’m totally cool with that. You do you. I would never presume to tell someone who doesn’t like dressing up that they don’t like fun. That’s just selfish, conceited, and really f*****g rude. Live and let live, ffs.
Load More Replies... Jared Robinson 2 years ago
it is true that some people don't like fun. AND THAT'S OKAY LEAVE US ALONE.
Huddo's sister 2 years ago
I think it's more that different people have different ideas of what is fun.
Load More Replies... Sonja 2 years ago
The problem is that people who don't like Halloween parties often ate extremely disparaging against people who like it. And they don't just say: I don't like Halloween parties. They start arguments that Halloween parties are the worst and often go so far to claim they should ne banned for adults. I rarely meet people who feel they have to tell anyone that they don't like Halloween parties just when they don't like it for themselves. Those people just don't go to such parties and tell you this calmly and say: but you go! Have fun! People who feel the urge to insert themselves into conversations about Halloween parties always feel the urge to claim they are something awful in general and how dare you like them.
Auntriarch 2 years ago (edited)
I absolutely love costume parties. I don't even need an excuse. But I'm the only person in my family who does, so I always choose a theme that can be interpreted both outrageous and subtle
lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
Some times I want to do costumes and sometimes not. Both are good.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
It's the time outside of Halloween where people pretend to be something they're not that's the problem for me.
#35
Desk jobs. All through school they preached that we were failures if we were anything less than doctors, lawyers, middle management, etc. So we all trained for those things and did really well. Now there aren't enough jobs to go around in those fields. Now it's just "your degrees are useless! Go work fast food! You failed!"
Really getting tired of the out of touch 50+ crowd ruining people's lives.
Geoffrey Scott 2 years ago
Indeed, some kid comes to me and I invariably counsel trades. Electrician, pipefitter, HVAC, whatever. Little to no debt, start at 40k/year before OT.
Load More Replies... Lavern Defazio 2 years ago
Im really tired of people who say people 50+ are ruining people' s lives.
Jackie Lulu 2 years ago
This member of the over 50's crowd is really sick of being blamed for everything. If something bothers you so much, stop whining and get out and fix it.
Flora Porter 2 years ago
Too binary. We didn't 'all' train for high-paying professions, and many people 50+ still get pushed out of whatever careers we managed to get together. Look around you before you post.
lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
The only thing worse than having a manager is not having one. There are a lot of bad managers but a competent manager makes things easier. I have had good bad and just competent, and never been a manager.
Load More Replies... Lame Llama 2 years ago
Just refer to your own parents. A lot of 70+ In friends with are not like that.
Sand Ers 2 years ago
Because they are in power, and clinging to it with a death grip. We need decision makers who will be alive to live with the consequences of their decisions.
Load More Replies... ravenhorse 2 years ago
Oddly enough, many people in the 50+ crowd's lives are equally ruined for the same reasons. Then add in ageism
Tabitha 2 years ago (edited)
If you’re talking about the “out of touch 50+ crowd” who also happen to be the CEOs and other Executive Suite “suits”, who make way too much money for the nonexistent actual value they bring to the company’s bottom line—-and who begrudge every penny to those front line and factory workers who ACTUALLY bring value, as well as profits, to the company, but are on the lower rungs of the hierarchy, salary-wise, so are objects of contempt to the suits—-then I agree. But as a now 63 year old woman who could never break through that glass ceiling and move into upper management, much less the Executive Suite, I would prefer that you NOT lump me in with those a*****e suits. I hate them just as much as you do. Actually MORE, considering all the downright cruel s**t they dumped on me through all the years they passed over me and gave promotions, for dead easy management jobs I could’ve done in my sleep, to f*****g idiots (unqualified and inexperienced fellow old boys’ club members, nepo babies, side pieces, you name it), who would then proceed to totally f**k everything up, then get praised, promoted, and given a hefty raise, and just leave their mess behind for the rest of us to clean up and get NO recognition for. It is reductionist to lump everyone of a certain age together into one vilified group. Some of us in that age group always hated others in our same age group for the exact same things.
Cerridwn d'Wyse 2 years ago
Oh trust me there are not enough doctors, they're not enough nurses, anything in the healthcare field they're not enough of them so take that part out
#36
Cohabiting with an intimate partner.
Poppy 2 years ago
I honestly couldn't live with a partner. I have lived alone for so long and I have ADHD and if my routine is messed with by having someone live with me, I'd have a meltdown. I'd be quite happy to have a loving and committed partnership and not live with them.
Kimbowa 2 years ago
I think it might be a bit more fun and interesting if you don't live together. At any rate, maybe separate bedrooms. Be together in yours or theirs and then go and get a restful night's sleep alone spread out with all the blanket for yourself.
Load More Replies... Kraneia The Dancing Dryad 2 years ago
"Sometimes I wonder if men and women really suit each other. Perhaps they should live next door and just visit now and then.” ― Katharine Hepburn
Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
Even when you live with someone, sometimes the best means of communication is by carrier pigeon. And the safest.
Load More Replies... Michelle C 2 years ago
Yup. Why live with him if I’m not sure I’ll spend my life with him? I’d rather be fully invested first in all respects, including being married legally and sure that we’re both covered as much as possible otherwise!
Rens 2 years ago
As a disabled person, I can't live with a partner because I would lose my benefits. I've lived alone for over 5 years; I have ADHD and Autism, so I'd hate the disruption. My last relationship was with a man who lived in my building (he passed away in January) and it worked well for us to have our own homes but spend waking hours together.
Lame Llama 2 years ago
Whatever works for the couple right? Separate bedroom is a luxury for many.
Load More Replies... Lavern Defazio 2 years ago
Cohabiting with ANYONE. It costs more to live alone these days, but well worth it.
#37
Taking dogs everywhere. It's become ridiculous in the UK now with people taking them on shopping trips to big stores, but worse still, restaurants are now allowing dogs in eating areas. It's gross ...
S M 2 years ago
Disagree. A well-behaved dog in a restaurant is often less “gross” than many adults, let alone children.
La Lucy 2 years ago
People with fear of dogs or maddive allergies be damned? No, people need to realize that dogs don't need to be everywhere. And digs in restaurants is not hygienic.
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La Lucy 2 years ago (edited)
Completely agree. I love animals but your pets belong at home. I am highly allergic to dogs and lost count of how many stores and restaurants I have had to leave because of dogs. And cannot buy from certain stores because they allow non-service dogs and the fur gets on their merchandise. Have also gone to restaurants with fur floating around the food. Nope.
Dainty72 2 years ago
I have no idea where in the UK you can do this? Only service dogs are allowed. Also restaurants that I've seen only allow dogs because of outside seating areas. It's quite rare for restaurants to allow dogs in, so it's easy to avoid. I know it must be awful when you have an allergy like yours though. My daughter has the same but with cats. And it's instant. I feel for you!
Load More Replies... Poppy 2 years ago
I will always gravitate towards someone who has a dog. However I do disagree with taking a dog somewhere and leaving it tied up outside a business whilst you're inside. I've seen dogs howling and barking outside a supermarket for more than an hour and no one came to check on it. It's not fair on the dog and the dog is at risk of being stolen. I will also get annoyed at someone who has brought an uncontrolled dog somewhere. If it's yanking on the lead, jumping up at people, barking etc and the owner does nothing to calm it down, then that's annoying.
Lauren S 2 years ago
I thought that said talking dogs and I was thinking I was missing out on something great!
Hugendubel 2 years ago
I love the concept of taking dogs into the office/work . It has a good/chill vibe
Kali Chaos 2 years ago
Hard disagree. I'll take a well-behaved dog over a Karen with an unwatched toddler every single time. And as someone who has worked in the service industry for ages, it's way less scary to me if your dog accidentally wanders into the kitchen than if a small child did the same.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
Dogs are far less gross than human beings. Is the dog sitting on your particular plate of food? No? than STFU. it's probably your own hair in your blood pudding soup.
Cat Furr 2 years ago
Just went to Subway and the worker was sitting on the floor petting her dog. I walked in and she put her dog in the crate that was also sitting in the dining room and then went back behind the counter to take my order. I LOVE dogs more than humans but YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!
#38
Monogamy *and* polyamory. The main reason people think polyamory is bad is because non-polyamorous people attempt it and inevitably fail at it because they think polyamory is something you can just switch on and off and “try out”. At the same time, society acts like monogamy should be the standard for everyone, when it’s just not suited to everyone.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
yeah things have to be defined as something otherwise they aren't anything. if it doesn't have a definition it does not exist.
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Pittsburgh rare 2 years ago
I've been told l SHOULD try polyamori before knocking it off because my monogamy is just self imposed. I don't need to try to know it's not my thing, and that sort of evangelism about it is what gives it a bad rep. If someone says they're monogamous that's the end of the conversation.
Michael Largey 2 years ago
An important argument in favor of monogamy is the fact that the number of spouses you have at any one time varies directly with the number of in-laws you will have to deal with.
Emily Ward 2 years ago
The problems that arise are that it effects children around it and a lot of times its a man who manipulates women into it. Ive known some. One woman finally ran off and he tried to find her to bring her back and another was forced into it for a place to live with her son. Either enter the relationship or she couldn't live there when she was financially in a tight spot.
Cyber Returns 2 years ago
I divorced my wife because she thought monogamy was a type of wood and polyamory was someone who has a lot of guns
Momo Skarsgård 2 years ago
That was a teaching opportunity not grounds for divorce. The escalation is real. Lmao
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Math teacher here: Algebra. EDIT: I'm not saying "Mathematics" I'm saying "Algebra".
Bob Brooce 2 years ago
Tell us you're a lousy math teacher without telling us you're lousy math teacher. Very few people need to understand quadratic equations, but some basic algebra is part of everyday life for a lot of people, even if they don't realize it. Learning algebra is also part to the process of learning to think.
Boop the Snoot. Pound the Paw. 2 years ago
Panda. Please be gentle. BP is one of those rare places where we can spend time without constantly bumping into snark or rudeness. Your entire point cld have been made perfectly without the first sentence. We all need kindness.
Load More Replies... Cyber Returns 2 years ago
I saw a massive algebra equation written on a board at college once and some one had written on the bottom 'the butler did it'
Jenny Mason 2 years ago
I have dyscalculia and maths was my least favourite subject at school. It doesn't matter how much you shout at me, or put me down for not getting it, I am not able to wrap my brain around the subject.
Michael Largey 2 years ago (edited)
Different math teacher here. After a certain point, success in math becomes more about talent than skill. But that point comes way, way after Algebra. And if you need to learn a certain area of math and don't have that talent I mentioned, other areas of the brain can fill in for it.
Lame Llama 2 years ago
Algebra is essential for everyday life. We use it without even realising it.
April Pickett 2 years ago
I hated Algebra. I couldn't understand it and it made no sense to me. It's the only D grade I ever got. I'm much older now and understand that we do use it pretty much every day, but a whole semester's worth of classes? What I use now could have been part of a general math course with no trouble at all.
Vermonta 1 year ago
It depends a lot on the teacher. I made a C- in high school but a B+ in college. The difference was my college teacher was able to explain actual instances of using it in real life instead of scowling.
Load More Replies... lawrence Andrew 2 years ago
90% of what we learn in school will have no direct use. Much of it is building blocks for what we will need to learn. It's hard to guess which 10% we will need or when we will need it.
Toothless Feline 2 years ago
Algebra is the essence of mathematics. You use algebra on a daily basis without even realizing it. Calculus is the one that many people don't need.
#40
Some sort of political opinion.
Emily Ward 2 years ago
What I'm tired of is people bashing other people saying they must be a trump person etc etc even when the conversation has nothing to do with politics or anything related to it. It's like a go to now for people to try and win an argument.
Der Kommissar 2 years ago
Which one? Reagan, the Iran-Contra guy? GHW Bush, the Iraq invasion guy? GW Bush the Iraq II invasion guy? Nixon, the crook? so many to choose from other than the obvious one
Load More Replies... Flora Porter 2 years ago
I do sympathise and don't have an opinion on everything or always vote for the same party, but if you live in a democracy and don't have any informed political opinions, you're wasting your vote.
Jared Robinson 2 years ago
everybody has political opinions, everything is political. this makes no sense.
keyboardtek 2 years ago
The opinion is not the bad part if one changes that opinion as new facts are learned. It is when people begin to think their opinion is the only absolute right way. And then they buy guns and start thinking it will be a good idea to kill anyone who does not think that way.
Javelina Poppers 2 years ago (edited)
Brings out worst in all parties and I see it reading these comments.
Tobias Reaper 2 years ago
if i am elected prime minister then i shall make cheesecake available on the NHS
Emily Kerkstra 2 years ago
if you don't have a political opinion, then you are in the class that has all the benefits of the current system. congratulations!
What do you think ?
Will Cable 2 years ago
I hate it that people without children are expected to give up holidays etc for those with children. My partner isn't down for a shift Christmas but I have a feeling that he'll be asked to give up the holiday so those with children can have the time off.... Yet when he booked holidays he was expected to cover his own holiday for a couple of days as they couldn't get anyone to cover!
Daniela Lavanza 2 years ago (edited)
He should just say no. His life without children is in no way less valuable than that of people with children. Childless people's time and schedule are NOT in any supposed to compensate for others' obligations. What about those who merely want to spend their holidays with their families, old parents, friends...?
Load More Replies... Emily Ward 2 years ago
Exercise obsession. It is not the fix all for everything. It is not for everyone. It has never once in 40 years helped my depression. It has never helped my sleep schedule. It has never made me less hungry. I did get a damn staph infection at the gym though that scared my back. So now i cant wear anything with an open back shirt.
Lou Cam 2 years ago
Exercise can make you much hungrier! Swimming especially, I could twice as much after swimming and tend to gain weight if I don't restrict myself.
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Biljana Malesevic 2 years ago
"I started working out at 40/50/60 and I am all fit now so you can too" (always with photos of very fit older or middle aged person). NO, not everyone can. People have chronic diseases, problems, old injuries, health issues... not everyone can suddenly start pumping weights at some 40+ age and be all fit and muscular. It's not for everyone don't try to shame us into it. A lot of people over that age have several medical issues and a lot of them have chronic pain and old injuries which should not be provoked. It's not easy for everyone and not everyone should even try to start with heavy weight lifting at any age, at least not without full exam and doctor permission.
kansasmagic 2 years ago
*Nothing* is for everyone. (Well, except death I guess...) It's amazing to me how many adults mistake "I personally like/prefer X" with "everyone should like/prefer X".
Berlytea 2 years ago
Not minding your own business. This whole list is a bunch of "issues" that folks wouldn't be concerned with if society would just embrace the lost art of minding your own damned business.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
Thank you very much! Someone posted above about political opinions reflecting core values. Know what? IDGAF about other's opinions or "core values". Keep your thoughts and such to yourself and I'll do the same. Except here at BP of course, lol.
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Will Cable 2 years ago
I hate it that people without children are expected to give up holidays etc for those with children. My partner isn't down for a shift Christmas but I have a feeling that he'll be asked to give up the holiday so those with children can have the time off.... Yet when he booked holidays he was expected to cover his own holiday for a couple of days as they couldn't get anyone to cover!
Daniela Lavanza 2 years ago (edited)
He should just say no. His life without children is in no way less valuable than that of people with children. Childless people's time and schedule are NOT in any supposed to compensate for others' obligations. What about those who merely want to spend their holidays with their families, old parents, friends...?
Load More Replies... Emily Ward 2 years ago
Exercise obsession. It is not the fix all for everything. It is not for everyone. It has never once in 40 years helped my depression. It has never helped my sleep schedule. It has never made me less hungry. I did get a damn staph infection at the gym though that scared my back. So now i cant wear anything with an open back shirt.
Lou Cam 2 years ago
Exercise can make you much hungrier! Swimming especially, I could twice as much after swimming and tend to gain weight if I don't restrict myself.
Load More Replies... Biljana Malesevic 2 years ago
"I started working out at 40/50/60 and I am all fit now so you can too" (always with photos of very fit older or middle aged person). NO, not everyone can. People have chronic diseases, problems, old injuries, health issues... not everyone can suddenly start pumping weights at some 40+ age and be all fit and muscular. It's not for everyone don't try to shame us into it. A lot of people over that age have several medical issues and a lot of them have chronic pain and old injuries which should not be provoked. It's not easy for everyone and not everyone should even try to start with heavy weight lifting at any age, at least not without full exam and doctor permission.
kansasmagic 2 years ago
*Nothing* is for everyone. (Well, except death I guess...) It's amazing to me how many adults mistake "I personally like/prefer X" with "everyone should like/prefer X".
Berlytea 2 years ago
Not minding your own business. This whole list is a bunch of "issues" that folks wouldn't be concerned with if society would just embrace the lost art of minding your own damned business.
Mike Fitzpatrick 2 years ago
Thank you very much! Someone posted above about political opinions reflecting core values. Know what? IDGAF about other's opinions or "core values". Keep your thoughts and such to yourself and I'll do the same. Except here at BP of course, lol.
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