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“My Wife Makes Fun Of Me”: 49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard
We may live in a more progressive society, but the traditional notions about gender continue to exist. Men, for example, are expected to uphold their masculinity. The failure to do so may result in unjust criticisms, and the stories you’re about to read are proof of that.
This recent Reddit thread highlighted how conventional gender ideas can be harsh, and the guys revealed how bad it can get. For some, it’s being judged for expressing affection toward a pet. For others, it’s the shaming they get for crying like a baby out of grief.
Scroll through these anecdotes, a lot of which are sad. Feel free to share your own experiences.
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#1
I adopted a cat a few weeks ago. I love this thing more than anything. I was starting to think I’m just a rock, incapable of having emotional stake in anything anymore…..but this lil guy is changing my life. I love him, and I would do anything for him. He’s currently lying on my neck as I type this.
Esmeralda Villalobos 1 week ago
The fact that people are judged because of their pet...cripes. I know people with pet chickens, like the bird wears a diaper, hangs out inside.
Karl 6 days ago
I love my cat more than members of my family and almost as much as my wife. He's recently been diagnosed with a condition that could shorten his life considerably. The money it's cost so far (£3k) is irrelevant as making the rest of his life as happy as possible. I'd sell a kidney if it would help.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
And the problem with this is what exactly ?? op animals are far more loving kind caring that any bloody human ever will be ,NOTHING WRONG WITH THIS AT ALL ❤️if anyone has a go at you for this , send em my way , me n my dogs will have words them pfft
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#2
I don't have a desire to advance on the career ladder, to have a prestigious job and a six-figure income (or whatever is the European equivalent to that).
I just want an easygoing life. Just being able to enjoy the people and things that matter to me and do a job that gives me joy and purpose.
Lisa Sturgiss 1 week ago
The older you get the more this means. At 42 all i want is a remote job that I can do while on the road, at my own pace seeing my amazing country (Australia) with my partner.
DrBronxx 1 week ago
I'm the same age and I have similar thoughts. I would very much like a job with shorter, better defined work hours that give me more time with my family and more time to keep the house in order.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 1 week ago
All I want is a quiet home, enough money to do the things I enjoy, and someone to share it all with.
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
I had the same. Did my thing 9:00 to 16:00, met quality and timelines, got paid well. Done
Chich the witch 1 week ago
Back in the 80s worked at a place that had a number of people who worked seasonal 9 months a year. Many were offered year round but refused. They coveted their 3 months off and made enough to live simply and keep happy
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Nothing wrong with this , we work to live NOT LIVE TO WORK ,you know what you need to live happily comfortably,,n enjoy your life outta work ,sounds like a perfect plan to me , n anyone as says otherwise is deluded ,lying and entitled money oriented p***k lol ,you should it from the roof tops op you life live it your way xx
#3
I recently loss my wife to a horrible disease. I learned that nobody in my life was prepared or willing to see me cry. Literally not one person can sit with me in my grief. When I cry, they back away like I’m doing something perverted or shameful. It’s made the loss much, much worse.
Ben Aziza 1 week ago
Unhinged f***s must have been surrounding him. I mean what the f this is making me angry.
Marnie 1 week ago
It's so sad. I remember reading a post from a guy where HIS mother died. His friends and family kept asking HIS WIFE how she was doing, never asked him.
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Silberwolf 1 week ago
Very relatable. Crying in front of other men is almost impossible. Crying in front of a woman is a bit easier, but still an ex-girlfriend of mine acted like I was an alien when I cried once in front of her. Made her visibly uncomfortable.
Vinnie 1 week ago (edited)
Keep her in the past. May you find someone who sees crying as self-expression. My husband was in tears one night because of me. You better believe I asked why, listened, and took his feelings into consideration! It was an easy fix, too - I had a crazy school schedule and he just wanted me to say goodnight when I had to stay late at school and then study late at home.
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Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭 1 week ago
They just do not know how to react, it is not that they are thinking that you are weak unless they are utter sociopaths wich i dpubt for all of them. Some people are just not comfortable with seeing other people cry, has nothing to do with you. This is even more true if you are usually a very unemotional person, that makes it for people even more difficult. For me, i just do not cry because i am brought up with this being a very weak thing for men to do. That does not mean i am not sad and i have no problem if other people do it to feel better but i would lose respect for myself.
Diane Tucker 1 week ago
Your tears are beautiful, part of your love. I'm so sorry you don't feel you have a safe person to cry with.
Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Omg ((((( hugs to you op ))) you need to cry cry ,men are allowed to as well as women , n grief is a very personal thing we all deal our own way ,and crying is a huge part of dealing with it ,if they aren’t willing to give you a much needed hug n let you cry ,then u DONT need them in your life !,real friends will happily sit with you n help you in any way you need , may I suggest,one thing , go out somewhere quiet rural beautiful a hike up a hill kinda thing and when you find a place you feel is right , sit a while think about your lovely wife ,have a cry then stand up and take a deep breath , and scream ,over n over ,(called primal screaming ,and it works it really helps ,) untill you feel calm, then sit down again n just be ,,I am so so sorry for you loss ,it will get easier , ,but very very slowly, oh n there is no time limit on grief , so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise ,xxxim
#4
I hate sports. I work in health care and I hate all the stupid sports injuries that set kids up for life times of pain and problems. I hate how it pulls money from actual important parts of education. I’m not anti exercise but I’m anti sport. I hate how sports gets more publicity than half the other issues in our society. I hate how it’s the “only way out” for to many people. I hate that a stupid ball is more important than a book.
Chich the witch 1 week ago
Never saw the point in sports. Plenty of other ways to keep fit without everything being a competition. Agree that it does take too much away from education, some univ the coach is amongst the highest paid . Why does that make any sense.
DrBronxx 1 week ago
I'm not a particularly competitive person, but I do like the gamification of exercise that sport provides. It makes it a lot more fun for me.
Load More Replies... Karl 6 days ago
It's weird how when someone dies as a result of engaging in sport (esp. extreme sport), it's classed as an unfortunate accident and that the risk was risk. Compare that to the person who dies through d***s and is condemned as being the author of their own misfortune - even if the risk is far less than the extreme sport. Similar attitudes emerge when a work colleague is off for a month with a sports injury while someone missing a day due to being hungover is beyond the pale.
Rafael 6 days ago
I don't hate sports, but I hate how people obsess over it all the fúcking time. And the injury part is true, I have a friend that finished his second knee operation because of football, and he can't wait to get back to it. I told him he ad run out of knees to fúck up, but the allure of the ball is stronger. Go figure...
Michael Largey 1 week ago
I loved playing sports, but I never understood why anyone would just sit there and watch.
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
sport was my life until I matriculated. Plus working at an american parcel sevice filling trucks. I had enough. No more. Except some rec cycling
joann fielding 6 days ago
I hate how the salary of one major league player could eradicate homelessness in a large city.
horseloving panda 1 week ago
Sport saved my life, and I would never regret it, but my sport is rowing which is kind of more like excercise than a game sport. Also I am already injured from prior incidents, so for me its not as much of an issue, but I see so many of my teammates with injuries that could affect them for the rest of their life
Michael Largey 1 week ago
No, it's an opinion different from yours based on experiences different from yours. Snobbery would consist of denying the validity of a differing view.
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That I have zero desire to have kids. The whole parental instinct thing is something that I've never felt.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
The problem is not people who aren't meant to have children. The problem is people who aren't meant to have children but have them anyway.
Vinnie 1 week ago
The feeling is mutual. My imaginary children are so grateful not to have me as their mother, that they never visit. :)
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Karl 6 days ago
We never had kids - largely due to me not wishing to pass on my bipolar/addictive genes and make another person miserable. I must admit to being a bit judgemental about people who are carriers for terrible diseases yet choose to have kids anyway and the child is the one who's condemned to a lifetime of suffering.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
and find yourself a good partner who feels the same way.
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Stardust she/her 1 week ago
Wish my mum realised this sooner, now she just takes her frustrations out on us kids
Beef Brisket 1 week ago
A lot of people, including women, don't feel a parental instinct until their child is actually born. A lot of parental instinct is actually hormones.
R.C. 6 days ago
Yeah, as someone who doesn’t want kids, I’ve heard that a lot. 🙄 Trying to convince someone otherwise is a dangerous game though. It’s a huge risk to take, and it’s not like you can back out if it doesn’t magically “click.” That’s far too big a gamble for me. No one has ever — or will ever — change my mind on that. And honestly, if the Reddit threads are any indication, there are plenty of people who went in hoping their feelings would change after having kids and now regret that decision. I firmly believe that when it comes to bringing a new life into the world, if it isn’t something you genuinely want beforehand, you shouldn’t do it. People need to stop trying to convince others just because they enjoy parenthood themselves. Sorry, kind of a hot button topic for me lol.
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That sometimes I’m not “fine” at all, I’m just scared that if I say I’m lonely, overwhelmed, or touch starved people will see me as weak or needy and pull away. A lot of us just want a hug, a genuine “are you okay?” and space to be vulnerable without it becoming a joke or a reason to respect us less.
Kirsten Kerkhof 1 week ago
A male of colleague of mine has PTSD from this time in the airforce. I have worked with him for 20 years ands trust him completely, so I hug him when he needs comfort. The thing is, he is the only guy I do that for, even when it feels good for me as well to hug - I just cannot risk another guy misinterpreting my hug for something more ... Sad, isn't it?
Day Andie 1 week ago
Hug him and say loudly for anyone to hear, "I LOVE YOU, MY BROTHER!" Anybody that misinterprets that feel free to tell them this internet stranger thinks their toxic and useless.
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 1 week ago
According to some studies, we need 8 hugs a day to maintain mental health. I don't even get 8 hugs a YEAR.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
Hugging has become the norm where I live (South Africa) everyone hugs everyone hello and goodbye. I'm getting used to it, and quite enjoy it. 99% of the time it is only a hug with no ulterior motive.
Hollerfloozy 1 week ago
How many mental health issues go untreated because they are afraid of the same things. The stigma on this needs to drop. Fast. YOU ARE HUMAN. If you are someone I know and you say you are lonely or need a hug.. Im short, lemme grab a chair. You need help painting. Im there, lemme grab a chair. Not just saying this for internet points. This is how its supposed to be, this is how it is with me. I have done my best to teach my boys its ok to have emotions.
Hollerfloozy 1 week ago
You cant suck up an ocean with a straw. And emotions run deep at times. You're allowed to be human, my guy. As long as you know who you are, the right people will as well. Fu@k the rest.
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I love kids but not in a creepy way. My neighbor was the house for all the kids during covid and I loved hearing them play outside every day. All my friends know that I'm a great babysitter (except for the part where we have ice cream for dinner). My genetics and job make it so I shouldn't have my own kids, so I just spoil my friends' kids with loud toys and sugar.
Beef Brisket 1 week ago
It is awful how society assumes simply being born male means you're a s****l predator.
megabeth 1 week ago
As much as I totally agree with this statement, it's also awful so many ARE predators. I'm saying this as a mother of son and a sister of two brothers etc...
Load More Replies... Nova Rook 1 week ago
I was the unofficial babysitter at work parties - I would bring something goofy to play with and I'm happy to show the kids the toy (like an etch a sketch or whatever) and the next thing you know I'm entertaining a few kids while their parents get to relax and talk with adults. The best was when I brought fake moustaches and let a girl pull it off my face about a billion times so I could exclaim in shock "My Moostache! What have you done to my moostache!" Also, if a little kid thinks something is funny you can basically just keep doing the same thing over and over - they're dumb that way.
Vinnie 1 week ago
That's hilarious! I have fond memories of a man who insisted to 8-year-old me that bears don't hibernate - they fly south for the winter. Now I find it fun to pretend to be ignorant so little kids can correct me.
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Crystalwitch60 1 week ago
Ikr 🤷♀️I’d have been ok with him letting mine have ice cream for dinner ,now n then ,can’t see a problem with it as a treat lol
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Here's a lighthearted one.
I loathe the fact that playgrounds are socially acceptable only for children. Why can't I, a grown man, just chill on the swings or monkey bars for an afternoon?
Someone should make adult-only playgrounds a thing!
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 week ago
I often go sit on the swings if there's no kids around (don't wanna look like a creep). Get plenty of weird looks for it, being a 35yo woman, but I don't give a s**t. Swings are awesome.
The Queen of France 4 days ago
I love the swings. I was telling a colleague recently that when it snows, I like to go out into the muffled darkness and swing on the swings in the nearby park while the snow falls. It’s magical. I’m 57.
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
they are called Teazers or Mavericks ;-) But: in all honesty, for example in a mall, what is there for me to do while women shop for hours??
#9
I have a physically disabled 10 year old daughter. Mentally as sharp as a tack. I have 2 other children as well. I've had some serious caregiver burnout here lately and there are days where I just go through the motions. Other days, I just don't want to do it. I feel bad too because the way we connect is through physically caring for her and I don't take much time out to be her dad. I'd never stop doing it, but I'm worn out dudes. And my other kids deserve my love as well. IDK if I believe in God, but if he exists... he's kind of a [jerk].
Diane Tucker 1 week ago
Oh dear. Being a caregiver is so depleting. I wonder if this man lives in a jurisdiction that offers what where I live is called respite care; it's a few days off for those who care for a person full time. I pray he at least has family and friends who could help share his burden.
Zig Zag Wanderer 1 week ago
Carer burnout is serious stuff. I cared for my wife as she withdrew into early onset dementia with severe physical disabilities too. I basically had to bring up our children myself too. Fortunately we have a superb healthcare system in Australia, and I eventually got a lot of support. See if anything is available for yourself if you read this.
Hollerfloozy 1 week ago
It's important to take a few moments for yourself. To take a break from it all. Even if it's just running out for coffee and sitting in the driveway drinking it. Your mental health is super important. You will stay burned out until you start to take better care of yourself as well. I know its hard to carve out time when life is demanding. But like I said. Coffee, driveway. Soothing music.. or thrash.. which ever. Being a caregiver is hard. So hard. Dont beat yourself up. Instead.... maybe remember you have to take care of yourself too.
Day Andie 1 week ago
This is coming from a good place, but sometimes it's beating a dead horse. They're on ever single minute of the day with care, and when they're not, there's the house, meals, laundry, etc etc. Caregivers know they need a break, but sometimes there isn't even enough time to go in and take a pee with the door shut. Especially caregivers with kids that can't be unsupervised. Our country has abandoned caregivers, and it s***s.
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It hurts when women assume I mean them harm.
BOW57:
It makes me feel sad in a kind of powerless way. I am one of only 2 (remaining) men in 4 generations of my family so most of my social circle consists of women. I see how men's behaviours influence every aspect of their lives. I wish I could do more to make other men see women the way they are, as people: equal, strong, with a full and equal personality and sensible, developed brain and everything that comes with it. It is painfully clear that too many men don't see them that way, otherwise they wouldn't act the way they do. But I still feel sad when other women act towards me in the way they need to if they don't know me.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
"It hurts no one to be assumed a scoundrel worthy of respect until he has proven himself a friend worthy of trust." - Ambrose Bierce. Bierce wasn't specifically talking about relations between the sexes, but it certainly applies.
#11
I've been so damaged from military service/private security work AND just relationship betrayal, that I sincerely think I have a place on the spectrum of psychopathy.
My emotions when alone are non existent, I've seen so much and lost so many connections that I legitimately don't care about anyone or myself anymore. I'm only pretending to have emotions.
I'm not trying to sound cool, I'm seeking help as of earlier this year with both psychologist and psychiatrist.
#12
I'm a teacher. People hate teachers. Worse, I'm a man that teaches kindergarten. That automatically gets me the side eye.
The_Nicest_Misanthrope 1 week ago
I feel sorry for teachers. What I hate is this new wave of entitled, lazy Millennial/Gen Z parents who give their kids main character syndrome. And before anyone comes for me, I'm a (happily child free) Millennial.
Beef Brisket 1 week ago
My husband wanted to walk to a nearby store. He lamented that he could hear the kids out for afternoon recess, so he could not go now until 4:30 or later. I laughed and asked why. He replied that as a man he would be considered creepy to walk past the school while the kids were out for recess, and he couldn't go after recess because he wouldn't have enough time to shop and walk back before the kids were out after school. He could only go if I walked with him. I have never, ever had to consider when or where I walk. Apparently most men always do.
Diane Tucker 1 week ago
Do people really hate teachers? I've not come across this. I'm so sorry, if this is true!
L.V 1 week ago
Entitled parents yes. As well as people who don't realise that the counterpart of having long holidays and shorter teaching hours is to have to long hours at home preparing courses and correcting tests, as well as dealing with 30 odd kids all day long, no matter how you feel.
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Ryan Mercer 6 days ago
You gotta play an instrument, like the guitar. If you play guitar for kids, everyone knows you're all right. You don't even have to actually play. You can just strum the strings while singing, "I'm being eaten by a boa constrictor..." Now you're the fun kids guy and you're golden.
#13
I own a women’s sweater and three women’s T-shirts. They are comfortable as hell, especially the sweater. Got them because the options in the men’s section were ugly as hell and the items I got are not feminine looking, they could pass and pass for unisex.
Ben Aziza 1 week ago
I did buy a jacket like that. Went through the whole "Phantom pockets" saga...The two pockets that were not fake were so dam small you would think the makers found a way to collapse space itself into the negative...
Ben Aziza 1 week ago
Oh by "like that" I don't mean the same looking jacket but one that is leaning towards for women / unisex.
Load More Replies... Sarah Kathrin Matsoukis 1 week ago
I buy mens stuff because a lot of it is more loose around the belly. Women's fashion tends to be uncomfortably tight at the waist.
Emilu 1 week ago
Yes. I also find that my shoulders can be too broad for women's clothing at times, so I have to size up massively to compensate and then it just looks ridiculous.
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#14
I hate most men.
I grew up with a total softie of a stay-at-home father, and I am forever grateful for it. It sickens me to see so many objectively bad men pumping out kids and gleefully passing their own trauma down generation after generation after generation. They are the poison of the world, and they've built it up so they're rewarded for it.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
My dad’s doing this to my little brother and it makes me so upset. He’ll yell at him for small things and then say s**t like ‘don’t cry in front of the girls’ ‘when Im gone you should be protecting the girls of the house’ ‘sports players don’t do that’ etc. I’m worried for him :(
Vinnie 1 week ago
I hope your little brother has people who can make him feel safe to be himself. It is hard for an older sibling to watch this and to contradict parents. Do you have decent relatives and friends? What about groups outside the home? I've heard of people finding safety in libraries. My local library has free activities for children. My mum yelled a lot, so arts and crafts classes were a nice change.
Load More Replies... Silberwolf 1 week ago
Passing down trauma onto the next generation happens all the time from fathers AND mothers. It just shows itself in different ways...but both can be equally destructive...
Phantom Phoenix 1 week ago
OP didn't say that he has no guy friends. His view that the majority of men are traumatised and objectively bad doesn't rule out mates who belong to the minority of emotionally intelligent, respectful men. The kind that sees women as equals, people, friends - as opposed to domestic servants &/or a collection of holes to conquer. Not being the All Conquering UltraManGuy patriarchal version of masculine doesn't = a "pick me" guy. Patriarchal buIIshit thinking *is* generational trauma.
Load More Replies... #15
I like wearing female clothes and wearing make up, and generally pressing “feminine” but I am not a woman, or trans. I’m essentially a reverse tomboy. I have no desire to transition, I’m in a loving marriage with a wife and two kids. I absolutely do NOT associate with LGBTQ+ or “drag queens” and I’m not a feminine man by any means. I do judo, i shoot guns, I’ve been to Afghanistan with the marine corps. I am a god fearing Christian.
I just like the idea of being pretty, in the way you look at a sunset or a painting and go “oh that’s pretty!” And not in the way you go “she’s pretty because she’s a woman”.
David Paterson 1 week ago (edited)
Good on you! You be you, and forget the labels that everybody tries to stick on you.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
Honestly yeah, guys deserve to be pretty. If I was a guy I’d be depressed as hell with whatever options are there for beauty.
joann fielding 6 days ago
And shoes. The choices for men's shoes is just sad. They should have more options for men.
Load More Replies... Ben Aziza 1 week ago
Wait does that not just loop back to boy? I AM CONFUSED cus it still works both ways Like i² What would the name be for " "girl tho?
Load More Replies... #16
I love Anne of green gables, pride and prejudice (the bbc miniseries with Colin firth is the best), kdramas, and so forth.
I hate watching sports.
R Ferreira 1 week ago
I love to see the genial moves on sports (specially soccer) but I can't bother myself to see the whole game.
Nicole Weymann 1 week ago (edited)
Female me is halfway there, too: I hate both sports AND drama/"big feelies" 😅
#17
That I love my wife. The amount of weird looks I get from people after a group [complain]-fest about their partners, after I have nothing negative to say about my wife, is astonishing. It feels like the norm is, “that ol’ ball ‘n’ chain at home makes my life hell, she doesn’t cook, clean, and I never [get laid] anymore!” Hate my wife jokes and all that never made sense to me. Like, do people ACTUALLY not like their partners/spouses?
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
it's peer pressure, sadly. Complain about home, everybody chimes in. If you say how good it is, food, séx 'n all, nobody believes you
Karl 6 days ago
I got into an argument with my boss over the lack of benefits in my job and told him he was lucky I was here today as my wife told me to walk out and find something better. He scoffed "You listen to your wife?". "Of course I listen to my wife" I replied. "Why wouldn't I? She's intelligent, gives great advice and earns 5 times what you pay me" I added the last bit as my boss is very hung up about money and status, thinks his s**t don't stink and is cheating on his wife with a call girl. I suspect his wife is cheating on him too so perhaps they deserve each other. Anyway, I got that payrise :)
#18
I recently found out my job will be ending in January. I need to move on and find new employment but I just feel paralyzed. My wife keeps telling me to "be a man" and it destroys me every time.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
"Be a man."? Lady, be a spouse. Remember those wedding vows? "For better, for worse."
#19
Probably that I cry a lot. I live by myself and most times when I watch a movie, I’ll cry if something resonates with me. Even a little. I don’t even know why, tbh. Sometimes I’ll lay in bed and tears will come.
No idea what my damage is, but I certainly don’t want people I know knowing that I am a mess.
Papa 1 week ago
I find that I cry more easily, and am more emotional in general, as I've approached retirement age. I'm not sure why.
Emilu 6 days ago
I've found I cry more as I've aged as well. As a teenager/in my 20s, I rarely cried. Nowadays, it feels like I cry at the drop of a hat (but god I hope that's not the case). I've cried in front of my boss several times (which is super cringe. I thank whatever deity exists that she is a lovely person and doesn't hold it against me) and sometimes even just thinking/reading about sad stuff makes me cry, whereas previously I'd have just *felt* sad.
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Tobias Reaper 1 week ago
I get very emotional about things and I go to cry but then its like something stops me and says you are not allowed to cry or there is no point as nobody will care
Day Andie 6 days ago
Tears can be healing and help you process pain. That shows dealing with emotions in a healthy and adult way. Unstoppable tears can be a sign that you need help to process pain. Crying and needing help are definitely not signs of weakness. Knowing you need help and finding/getting it is a sign of strength, growth, and maturity. Working for strength, growth, and maturity--isn't that what a man does?
Kid Murray 1 week ago
Any hardcore sports fan will tell you the toughest guys are the ones who cry the most at their retirement press conference. Hockey legend Mark Messier was part of the smallest club in the NHL- the guys who are so tough and feared, they never fight, and he cried like a baby when he retired. I would not recommend calling Mark Messier a baby for crying. That would go poorly.
#20
I don't want to work.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
hahaha, does anybody want to work? I sure as hell don't. Having said that, though, I am super grateful to actually have a good job.
Howl's sleeping castle 1 week ago (edited)
I was so worried about my husband's health in his last job. He was managing the social media team of the police department. Would start work at 7 from home, take 30 mins to get ready and eat breakfast and then ride his motorbike for 1 hour to reach office. Work till 6 pm, ride one hour to return home, work again till 9. Take 30 mins break for dinner then work till 11. 6 days a week! Then one day he suddenly said he can't keep up and wants to resign and man! wasn't I glad. I agreed immediately.
Kid Murray 1 week ago
I don't, not really. I do what I'm doing now, I watch TV, play cheap games on my phone, and occasionally, I sell a book. The most work I do is a once a week vacuuming. I'll never get rich but I make enough for my simple, quiet life. I have the best job on earth.
#21
I regularly shed tears because of music or movies.
Multa Nocte 1 week ago
My spouse does the same and it endears him to me SO much, even if I pretend not to notice it. ;-)
#22
That compliments actually mean a lot to me, even tiny ones.
Panda McPandaface 1 week ago
Even in gay areas compliments are few and far between in my experience
Load More Replies... Doctor Strange 1 week ago
I can remember the last time I got an unsolicited compliment on my looks with perfect clarity. I was 6 years old. I'm over 40 now.
Multa Nocte 1 week ago (edited)
Sadly, there is a fine line here, and I think it's the same with men giving compliments to women. I give a lot of compliments but I try to make them objective and straightforward so that no one takes it as a sign of sexual interest.
Lisbeth Guz 1 week ago
I wish I could, but many times my displays of kindness are perceived as s****l interest, so I refrain from doing so. I try compliment my husband often though
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
I've read this before and I make a point of complimenting my male friends now.
Day Andie 6 days ago
The one thing about being older than dirt is that I (female) can compliment men without having to worry about a guy perceiving it as s****l. And frankly, I'm old enough that if a rando weirdo thinks it is s****l, I just think it's funny. I'll have to remind myself to keep doing it. It's great when some guy that looks nice grins like it brightened his day.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
A lot of men give multiple explicit erotic compliments to women they are s******y intimate with about their bodies. Many never get a single one in return. Ever.
#23
I like kids, in that i think their energy and enjoyment of life is a welcome relief to the gray world we inhabit. Say this around certain people and they immediately think you're a [creep], sadly.
#24
I don’t want to be a provider or “man of the house”. I’m already struggling and stressing out providing for myself.
Disgruntled Panda 1 week ago
Senjo, you're exactly why people are afraid to be honest. It's not necessary
Vinnie 1 week ago (edited)
I don't know why Senjo defaults to judging without knowing what the man above is undergoing. A little compassion can go a long way. A male colleague was dealing with major family stress. I tried to find someone to help him. It didn't work out, but he was so happy that someone cared enough to try. It seemed to give him strength and he worked out a solution.
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#26
I like plushies.
Day Andie 6 days ago
Plushies are great. But the fact that they are watching you is a little... concerning. Maybe keep an eye on them.
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#27
I'm jealous of the fashion variety women get to enjoy. They can wear pretty much anything a man can, but also get away with a huge variety of dresses, skirts, etc. and get judged far less for conspicuous makeup choices like heavy eyeshadow.
Diane Tucker 1 week ago
Yes, men in other historical periods seem to have had more range of choice in the male fashion department. I hope you wear what you want because it makes you feel good.
Tobias Reaper 1 week ago
this annoys me in primark there is a whole floor and a bit for womens clothes men dont even get a whole floor
Lisbeth Guz 1 week ago
I agree, but I envy man clothes' quality. It's become harder and harder where I live to find women clothes that have no plastic at a decent price.
Panda McPandaface 1 week ago
I wear *almost* whatever I want and I certainly wear colour but I do pull it back a little bit when I'm buying clothes - perhaps I should be braver, but I feel like I get enough side-eye as it is for not dressing in dreary colours of cheap sportswear.
Papa 1 week ago
Don't worry so much about what other people think. I definitely like colorful shirts, and no color is off limits. One time when I wore a pink shirt a coworker seemed bothered by it and said "What kind of men wears a pink shirt?!" I told him the kind that's secure in his masculinity.
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I sometimes regret having children.
Lost Panda 1 week ago
I love my children, and I don't regret having them. What I do regret is that I had them so early that I didn't have time to prepare myself for everything else (financially, experiences, etc.)
Moving Enigma 1 week ago (edited)
Not all, but most of my friends and relatives who have kids say the same thing, that they love their kids to bits, would do literally anything for them but if they get reincarnated they'd like to try the next time around not having kids.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
This is a difficult one. I think a lot of people feel this but of course one can never admit to it!
BK BigFish 5 days ago
The great thing about children is that regardless of how you feel about having them, they live, and that is the greatest gift you could give to them, yourself, and the world :)
#29
That while I enjoy doing the dirty jobs a man will do, I love having manicures and pedicures. I also love a good romantic movie. Also, makeup isn't just for women. I can feel pretty if I want to.
Margie Ang 5 days ago
Painting the nails is just the last step of a mani/pedi. Having a good pedicure from time to time helps a lot with a ton of other issues, and makes walking feel great again! I don't understand why everyone doesn't do it...
Silberwolf 1 week ago
One of my Top Ten favorite movies of all time is 'Amélie' by Jean-Pierre Jeunet. (But I'm fine with taking care of my hands and feet myself.)
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
My (very) manly man loves massages, pedi and manis and is not shy about talking about it. I don't think he's into make up and romantic movies though...
#30
I'd like a hug, please. Something, anything to show that I matter to the people around me beyond a money/labour source.
David Paterson 1 week ago
Say it. I was starved for hugs until my daughter said five years ago "you can ask people for a hug, you know".
Doctor Strange 1 week ago
You have to be careful with this. In the US (at least at the moment) federal s****l harrasment laws state that it can still be considered harrassment EVEN IF THE PERSON AGREED, if said person was in a position where they felt they could not say no. So, for instance, a boss asking for a hug could put the person in a position where they fear they might lose their job. In my case, I'm big and scary looking. If I ask for a hug, someone might feel they can't turn me down for fear that I might harm them.
Load More Replies... Karl 6 days ago
My 95 year old neighbour called me one day and asked me to come over. I went round and she said "Can I please have a hug? I really need one". Of course I obliged. I sensed she hadn't had a hug in a long long time. Not weird at all - almost funny since she's tiny (about 4'8") while I'm 6'2" !
#31
How tired I am...
I'm tired of working my life away and providing for a family that seemingly only cares if the wifi works, I'm tired of being everyone's rock, tired of getting phone calls or text messages from everyone asking me for help to do things or needing someone to talk to but incidentally when I call or reach out no one's available. I'm tired of pouring love, energy and attention into a partner that doesn't reciprocate even the slightest bit of affection in return, im tired of giving 2-3hour foot rubs but when i ask for any type of attention "shes tired", I'm tired of always feeling like life is a race I'm being forced to run and I'm always lagging behind regardless of the time, effort and energy I put into it. I'm tired of feeling like I'm banging on the walls screaming for someone to take notice that I'm losing a grip on things and no one seems to care. I'm tired of going to my pcp and telling them that my body is seemingly falling apart but all the test come back fine. I'm tired of telling them I need to see a therapist but my insurance doesn't cover that. I'm tired sleep doesn't fix how tired I am, I'm tired that being tired is tiring all in all I'm just tired.
Jocelyn Webster 1 week ago
I am deeply sorry you feel this way OP. I too have a partner that feels this way. Slightly different relationship happenings. But, I understand. Please share with those that you do love how you feel. Unfortunately, no one was wired how to read minds. My heart goes to you and I send a hug of encouragement.
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
actually, sounds like the typical mother! But I get it ("cares if the wifi works" made me laugh!)
Andi 1 week ago
was that comment actually helpful on a thread asking men to open up? its not a competition and we all have our truths. I think this is the situation for many men trying their best. bury it, then bury the shovel .... then wonder why male suiside is so high ...
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#32
I’m okay with not being too ambitious.
#33
I once opened up to my partner about how stressed I was being the sole support for her and our 4 children. I was in a dark place. It felt like the whole world was on my shoulders....
She mocked me. Asked if I needed a "pitty party". During an argument a few weeks later, she used it to show that I wasn't a "real man".
That whole "its ok to not be ok" is a great slogan, but i and many other men have seen it to be [nonsense]. Needless to say, I won't be baring my soul to other people again.
Awenpotato 6 days ago
And what about their four children? Who's going to be paying for them? He will then have to pay child support, plus pay for somewhere for himself to live, how's he going to manage that?
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Lesley Ganserer 1 week ago
You need to find a new partner who will cherish you. Your wife is very selfish.
Awenpotato 6 days ago
And what about their four children? Who's going to be paying for them? He will then have to pay child support, plus pay for somewhere for himself to live, how's he going to manage that?
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Your wife is shit, to put it in the vernacular. It's not a fault of you; it's a fault of her. Not every woman is as terrible as this post makes your wife out to be; I promise. Go out and find someone better; someone that treats you the way you deserve.
Awenpotato 6 days ago
And what about their four children? Who's going to be paying for them? He will then have to pay child support, plus pay for somewhere for himself to live, how's he going to manage that?
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I believe a Prius is a perfectly acceptable and logical vehicle to own.
Silberwolf 1 week ago
Any man who thinks owning a gas guzzler equals masculinity, is an immature and very insecure boy. Just grow up.
George Costanza 6 days ago
Agree! Cost me $25K, has AWD, seats 5 people, and has good cargo space. Guy friends make fun of it all the time but I don't care. Gets me everywhere I need to go reliably and cheaply but also comfortably.
#35
That I also struggle with how to parent our special needs boys and you always telling me I'm not their dad when they're my stepchildren who everyone else has run away from makes me feel [awful].
Andrei Iepure 1 week ago
That sounds really heavy. Sorry you have to go through something like that. I bet you're a good dad
#36
I admit it, but it seems strange for some people to understand that I like being a dad and actually like playing with my kids because they're turning into cool individuals.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
I really don't understand some of these comments. Surely this is how fatherhood should be???
Emilu 6 days ago
You'd hope so, certainly. Sadly, I know some dads who, well... give their kids the essentials. They aren't *unloving* per se, and certainly not uncaring or abusive etc, but there's no playing or hanging out because they want to; they do it because they feel that they *have* to, which I think is pretty awful. However, I'm CF so I know nothing. 🤷🏽♀️
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That taking care of my autistic son makes me not want to live.
David Paterson 1 week ago
There are few things in this world more soul destroying than taking care of a child with a severe mental disability.
John Vandyke 1 week ago
I struggle every day with raising my son with special needs.
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Bonnie Gardiner 6 days ago
I understand this. My son lives in an adult group home now, but he is in his mid 20s with the mind of a small child. Non verbal, low functioning, with mental retardation, and epilepsy. My advice is, do not be afraid to ask for help. Ask for advice from his doctors and therapists. And if someone suggests a group home really research. My son could sleep just 2 hours a night and be fine until the next night. In all those years I felt like I never slept. I was always watching him, listening for the signs of a seisure. Now he is watched over by two caregivers with experience at all times. He's happy and he has a good life, that I could not give him. Both of you are worth this.
#38
Sometimes when I’m home alone I put on my girlfriend’s hoodie because it smells like her and I just sit on the couch hugging myself like a complete loser.
I’m 32, 195 cm, 105 kg, deadlift 200 kg.
Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭 1 week ago
I do not know how your size is relevant here unless you want sympathy for the poor sweater
#39
My favorite type of music is what people would consider to be "white girl music", I turn that off when friends are over because I've been made fun of for the music I listen to enough times that it's easier to just let them choose the music.
Silberwolf 1 week ago
Mostly I listen to hard rock & metal, but sometimes Avril Lavigne is also a nice change..
Nikki Sevven 1 week ago
You like what you like. I'm female and love metal, punk, and hardcore. Also, one-hit wonders (for some reason), '70s punk, any well-written pop song, and classical. You like what you like.
#40
I really like Disney/Pixar movies, I enjoy cookies and milk over beer.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
Pixar is the GOAT when it comes to good heartfelt movies, there should be literally no shame in anyone of any demographic enjoying their films
Sara Frazer 1 week ago
A couple years ago I found out that my partner had never seen "Up". So of course I have him sit on the couch with me to watch it immediately! In the beginning sequence that shows the old couple (sorry I forgot their names lol) going from kids to older, and the wife passing, I looked over and my partner had tears going down his face. Which made me cry, we looked at each other and held hands. Seeing him in that moment just made me love him so much more
Emilu 6 days ago
Oh man... Up was the first movie I'd cried at in a long time. Carl and Ellie, also, IIRC 😊
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That I am 28 years old and never been in a relationship.
Emilu 6 days ago
I don't mean to sound unsympathetic, but nobody (worthy of OP's time, at least) cares about this except for them. Some would actually view it as advantageous, in fact. It's like that naughty 's' word (sex, BP. Sex). No non-AH will care if you're a virgin, or how many notches you have on the bedpost, etc. OP needs to stop being so unnecessarily harsh on themselves.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
I'm sure that the OP has been in any number of relationships. Just not a romantic one. Mentioning it like this may end up jinxing his good luck.
George Costanza 6 days ago
Do you want to, though? Or are you happy as-is? If the latter, then don't worry about it.
#42
That I as a man enjoy volunteering teaching children and teens. Teaching kids as a man gets you the side eye, doing it for free means you warrant extra scrutiny.
Emilu 6 days ago
Yes. I don't know if you heard about it where you are in Aus, but we had a kindergarten teacher arrested recently on charges of child SA and they were telling over a thousand families across the state to get their kids tested for STDs. It's people like that that ruin men teaching for everyone, and having men as teachers is not inherently a bad thing at all.
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I don't have any desire to marry or have children. At all.
I know I'm young. This won't change. I don't care. I don't like kids and I like my alone time.
But no I get argued with anytime I say this.
Esmeralda Villalobos 1 week ago
Yo I knew from the time I was 17 I didn't want kids. I was always told {probably because I have a uterus} that I would change my mind if I met the right man, grew up some more, whatever. Here we are, nearly 30 years later, and I STILL DON'T WANT KIDS. They're illogical critters, I can speak on that as a former child. Sorry for going off, lol
UKGrandad 1 week ago
Illogical children I can put up with; illogical adults, on the other hand...
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Jocelyn Webster 1 week ago
I as a female too have these arguments. Im 38, OP. I dont care. Take your chidlens and be gone with your relationships.
#44
That when my wife goes away for 4 days to a week, the first couple nights are spent enjoying sprawling out in the bed...but the next two days are more "Ok, she can come home any time now" because it just feels...*wrong* that I'm going to bed without her.
#45
That I fear losing the people I care about most, and it haunts me more than I ever admit.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
This is quite reasonable. In fact, it would be troubling if it were not so.
#46
I love powerful women, like strong body, strong mind, and confident in themselves.
Like pick me up, throw me on the couch get on top of me and kiss me first type of [stuff].
Surprisingly I've been judged for this.
Esmeralda Villalobos 1 week ago
I feel like that would be hot, regardless of 53x or gender. I can't pick up my man, but I can sure shove him and jump on him :D
Michael Largey 1 week ago
Being an introvert, this was one of the few ways a woman could successfully approach me when I was single.
#47
I have like 50 stuffed animals from when I was a kid and if there's ever a house fire and I can only save one thing, it's them. I have a lot of emotional baggage that was softened by having stuffed animals in my bed when I was younger. The least I can do is be thankful to them.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
Having a room full of stuffed animals is just fine as long as a taxidermist was not involved.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
Honestly same. I’ve made a thousand different escape plans which involve my plushies escaping a house fire with me as I can’t bear to live without them
#48
Sometimes a lil nose pick booger extraction just does me right.
KrazyChiMama 6 days ago
Nothing wrong with it! Just please dispose of any said pickings in a tissue and wash your hands when done, please :) (no booger wall! I swear I still have nightmares about that from my stepson lol)
Mark Alexander 1 week ago
If you weren't supposed to do it why do your fingers fit so perfectly?
#49
Being a submissive guy.
There's a lot of negative responses to things like not being a bread winner or not being dominant in the relationship / bedroom. Ton of other stupid things too but if I was able to be transparent about things it would make finding a compatible partner a whole lot easier and I don't think from a girls perspective a partner who cooks cleans and is more attentive to needs is a bad thing ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.
Phantom Phoenix 1 week ago
3rd option. Partners. Equals. Neither partner dominant or submissive. Work out rhythms and systems that work for you. It's not emasculating if he does laundry and cooks dinner. It's not a "role reversal" if she has a higher paying job and maybe works longer hours. People aren't cookie-cutter clones in cookie-cutter relationships
Ben Aziza 1 week ago
Hey we agree about this at least! Nobody is ever going to be at their 100% all the time so it is just common sense to fill in any gaps and help your partner out when needed. "Roles" are too rigid for that... Plus for me, it adds other unpleasantries. Like the whole "bread winner / stay at home sla i mean partner" never made sense to me. The "breadwinner" dies, then what? What happens to the family? What if there are kids too? I know some ppl make it "work" but it could never be me in that situation. On either side.
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#50
It's scary to walk around alone at night regardless of [gender]. Not all men are tall and strong and I'm not at all confident to fend off an attacker that's serious about hurting me.
Doctor Strange 1 week ago
I don't mean this sarcastically or in a mean way, but take self defense classes. I am an assistant instructor for women's self defense classes, but the same techniques would work for a man as well. Learning how to defend yourself will help you feel more comfortable and confident. And with a well taught style, the techniques are effective regardless of your size. The trouble is finding a good school, there are a lot of junk out there.
Jack 3 days ago
Remember the point is sometimes to let people vent, not to immediately try to solve problems. Sometimes people just need to share, and as men, we often don't get to just share without someone trying to solve for us.
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Fat women are hot.
#52
I'm fine being single and by myself but oh my god i miss feeling desired by someone. I miss having someone to talk to, to share in small cute intimate moments and I honestly feel that it may not be in the cards for a long time, maybe "my person" doesn't exist lol. Some days (or nights in this case) it gets very lonely.
#53
That I’m emotionally [empty] inside. Nothing in the tank. Everyone in my life comes to me for motivation, or emotional support. I do my best to give them what they need, and I’m told that they come to me became my solutions work, but there is nothing there, no spark.
#54
I love decor and miss my cats when I’m gone for a while.
I’m a mid forties burly straight dude.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
So you're a visual person and like animals. Millions of guys just like that.
#55
Pants suck but male fashion has zero alternative.
Jocelyn Webster 1 week ago
Leggings and that long shirt linen thing... sorry OP, I forget the name.
#56
A few things...
1) that I dont drink. I quit because I drank too much, pretty simple. But there's this stigma that guys love to drink and get all messed up to have fun. I'm past that phase of my life but still feel judged when I say I dont drink
2) I go to therapy. It helps tremendously to have someone paid to listen to your problems and offer advice in a non judgmental way. Sure you can always vent to a friend or family member, but that almost always comes with judgement. So I go to therapy instead and I feel like it really helps.
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
Yes, why can a conversation about alcohol not just end in "no"? Want a beer, or glass of wine? "No, thanks". - Done. But on a bigger party, just get one to carry around. Avoids the recurring question
Khavrinen 1 week ago
I've always liked Jim Gaffigan's stand-up bit about not drinking alcohol. "People always ask you why; they don't do that with any other food. 'You don't use mayonnaise? Why? Are you add.ict.ed to mayonnaise?'..."
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Yep, a bunch of people left my life when I gave up drinking. I did NOT turn preachy, I did not bring it up. I wasn't lecturing anyone. I was very careful to let people know that it was MY stupid problem and had nothing to do with anyone else. Didn't matter. Some people cannot handle other people's sobriety for some reason.
#57
I would love nothing more than to be held for just a few minutes.
Panda McPandaface 1 week ago
I'm 6'2". I never ever get to be the little spoon and I'd love it.
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#58
I'm a big fan of candles. When Fall hits, you can find me sheepishly smelling 30 different scents and lying that they are for my wife.
Jocelyn Webster 1 week ago
No need to lie OP. Enjoy the candles. They're meant for that, no matter your gender.
#59
I enjoy drinking strawberry milkshake.
Emilu 1 week ago
Do people really care about what other people enjoy drinking (aside from alcohol; I've seen that peer pressure)? I mean, is the poster expecting people to turn around and call him a loser because he likes strawberry milkshakes? Frankly, if you're that invested in what somebody else likes to eat/drink, you're odd.
Panda McPandaface 1 week ago
Some men are so wierd about things like this. "It's pink, you must be gay". Only beer is manly enough for (toxic) 'real' men.
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I love drinking hot drinks with two hands.
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
this is also better if you only have that one cup! To avoid it falling and braking
#61
I absolutely despise this society and I hate the fact that I have to contribute to it in any form just to survive.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
Contribute to the elements in society which fight the things you despise in society.
#62
How much pain and how sick I truly am on any given day. My wife is not even aware of it. 🤷.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
Why doesn't the op tell his wife how sick he is? What kind of a relationship is this?
Belynda Young 1 week ago
A lot of men won't tell their wives they are in pain or that they are sick. Everyone know why that is, a man in pain is seen as weak and disposable. Sad but true.
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#63
I like quirky stuff and cute mascot characters. I'm 33 and work in engineering and construction and I like putting stickers on my work laptop to personalize it but can't help but feel i am getting judged heavily for that Chiikawa sticker when I pull that out at the jobsite.
#65
I’m 54 and still scared of the dark.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
Well this is a pretty basic human fear as fear of the unknown is what helped our ancestors survive for a while. What makes the dark scary is the fact that someone or something may be lurking just waiting for you to walk in
#66
I still really really REALLY want an Easy-Bake Oven.
#67
I miss Project Runway. One of the finest examples of TV completion ever. I would actually bone up on fashion and sewing terms to understand what was going on.
#68
I prefer sweet drinks/cocktails.
Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭 1 week ago
Me too. Sweet is so much better and i doubt that many people who drink whisky really like it as much as they pretend. Apart from the fact that i can drink very little of it before i get really drunk, some nice vanilla Liquor i can allways enjoy. Or eggnog. Or Baileys 🥰
Nichole Harris 1 week ago
Oh no dear! Whiskey is amazing and a good sipper is smooth and complex. Currently sipping on Evan Williams
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Being bisexual, but heteromantic.
Basically everyone across the spectrum rolls their eyes or gives you a look of disgust lol.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
I get you OP, I really do. People either tell me I’m confused or that I’ll realise I was straight all along when I get older even though I do like girls too
Chilli 1 week ago
It means that he can feel s****l attraction to multiple genders but romantic attraction only to people of the opposite gender
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I love cutesy stuff. In the privacy of my own home, that is.
The most anyone knows about it is that I love hamsters, and that's not even scratching the surface.
#71
As a gay man ive found it difficult to remove myself from “gay best friend” typecasting with a lot of straight people. It’s a nuanced conversation and I’m not jaded about it but it is something that gets to me often.
I feel like it’s hard to make friendships without my sexuality popping up in, what is to me, inauthentic ways. It makes me feel largely invisible and that I’m present to fulfill a role and not because of who I actually am.
#72
I haven't been in a serious relationship in almost 10 years.
Michael Largey 1 week ago
Sometimes that's called recovery. A decade not dating was that for me.
#73
I like baths.
The truth is I like hot tubs and spas but I don’t want to drop the money on some huge fancy tub with a rain proof enclosure so I just take baths instead. My wife likes to tease me about it.
Jocelyn Webster 1 week ago
Relaxing in any form, by any means is nothing to tease about. It's humanly needed.
#74
I think the mass market for "manly" things is stupid, and the reason men like the "manly" things are usually because they use to be made better or are more simple.
#75
I order multicolored sprinkles on all desserts whenever possible...at least I want to...not brave enough...I make my wife do it.
#77
That I'm terrified of becoming a father. And I don't know how to get over this.
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
Sounds like his wife/partner is pregnant. He needs to speak to people about it, and he'll find that it's pretty common.
Awenpotato 1 week ago
Don't do it then, tell your partner honestly and if it's something she really wants then end it, don't just do it for her sake and spend a life in regret
#78
I cry easily. Very very easily.
Even at stupid, obvious commercials designed to tug at the heart strings, things like that.
My wife makes fun of me, but I'm used to it by now.
Belynda Young 1 week ago
Did you see the one with the sad lamp in the rain.. omg it was ridiculous the made you cry and then they mocked you for crying.. It was glorious
#79
I have always enjoyed "girly" music. I was a teen in the early 00s, when my music taste became pretty well cemented. As much as I enjoy Tool Korn, and the other male oriented rock, when I'm in the car alone, I'll crank up Michelle Branch, Paramore, and My Chemical Romance.
#80
I'm pretty open with people about a lot of things IRL. I've been told I'm easy to talk to in part because I am so willing to share my smile and my story.
But I'm terrified of being truly vulnerable with people anymore. I feel like a fraud for saying that, considering I haven't been in a serious romantic relationship ever, but I've been hurt by friends so many times over my life that I feel actual adrenaline-laden terror when I try to imagine putting myself out there and getting to genuinely know people.
I desperately want to be able to be a father someday, so there's a conflict between those feelings of fear and desire for expanding my family circle. But it's hard to talk to people about, double that when the few friends I do have treat it like a joke.
#81
I hate kids. Don't want them around me.
#83
I don't like going to concerts with women friends because it's exhausting having to play defense and have random women hate you for being tall.
Context: I'm 6'4" and my wife, her friends, and even their partners are max 5'6". They all love running to the fence leaving me playing defense as people are pushing up and I have to stand there. Also usually a drunk girl that will punch me in the back for blocking her view only to realize I have several people in front of me.
#84
I'm out as bi to a lot of people in my life, but not anyone I work with or most of my family and 2 close friends from grade school.
I don't want them to rethink any interactions from years ago or view me as their bi friend. I just want to be their friend. And at work I don't want to have to deal with the mindset of "Sure bro, you're really gay!"
I think of I came out as bi it would change preconceived notions these people in my life have (I have basically all the societal enforced masculine qualities one could think of). And it would be freeing. But I abhor attention and making things weird within a group and don't want to do something that would make my life harder and I couldn't put back in the bottle. If I was asked point blank I wouldn't lie, but don't think announcing it is something I could handle.
Stardust she/her 1 week ago
I’m also bi and frankly it’s too much effort to just tell everyone because most people would misunderstand and it’s none of their business anyways
Senjo Krane 1 week ago
In this day and age I would've thought that a person's sexuality is their own business. It's whether or not you're a decent person that counts. To me anyway.
Geobugi🇰🇷🇰🇭 1 week ago
Nobodies business unless you want a relationship of any kind. Simple. I never understood the whole "have to come out" thing. Nobody has to come out to anybody just because.
Michael Largey 1 week ago (edited)
A friend of mine told me somewhat seriously "I don't know if I'm bi or just indecisive."
#85
I’m in my mid 30s and I enjoy staying home playing video games watching horror movies and anime.
#86
Talking about my emotions and how i feel about things.
Oh and that i lost my virginity to my now wife, with whom I've been married to for 15 years, at the age of 26.
#87
I sometimes make mistakes and I am working on them. Pretty simple really. While I don’t “care”, it sure feels like everyone around me does.
I’m not depressed about it and I’m pretty happy with who I am. But… could the rest of you men get over it? It’s always other men. Always.
Why do we have to try to make people an example. Stumble in a speech? Why the hell is everyone so critical? All of you have imperfections too. Quit focusing on others’ and be a little more supportive.
Oh and I don’t like sports. At all. It’s the most boring and unimportant thing to talk about. I know others like it and that just fine. But I really have a hard time pretending to be interested.
Bruce Mardle 1 week ago
I agree about sports. I'm only interested if a friend is competing, which currently means I'm not interested at all.
#88
I’m a straight male who loves ABBA!!
#89
I like Sanrio characters particularly Pochacco but rarely buy any merchandise for fear of being a weirdo.
Lost Panda 1 week ago
I like Kuromi, but no one in my family knows this... My sports car when I was younger was named that before I met my wife
#90
I am on dating apps with the intention of finding a partner. Someone to be with for the rest of my life... But in the meantime, I also wouldn't mind a couple hookups.
Like. It might take me years to find the right person. I would also like to get laid a bit in those years.
#91
I liked the final season of Game of Thrones.
What do you think ?
Lost Panda 1 week ago (edited)
Can I add one? I'm tired of always having to be the one to do something. My wife once asked me why I was doing X or that I didn't have to do Y, and my response was "I do it because it has to be done. Not that I want to." I let my wife and kids rest when they're tired or sick, but as the man of the house it's seen as weak or lazy if I want to take a break for a day. If I'm sick, I'm still expected by everyone (family and work included) to "man up" and get the same things done. I need a break or I'm going to lose it... (Edit: The only downtime I get is lulls at work, which let me get on BP and when I smoke, but even that is frowned upon)
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
this is kinda listed above. I have seen it, and I agree. But mothers never rest!
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Bob Maloogalooga 1 week ago
This was refreshing and a definite counter-balance to the previous man-hating BP installment...
azubi 1 week ago
Fellow guys, I have an idea: how about we do all the 'girly' things we like and use our more traditional masculinity to kick anyone in the teeth who objects?
PenguinEmp 6 days ago
Agreed! Personally I love makeover day with my niece. It's the best time. She goes all out and it makes me happier. I also love painting my wife's toes.
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"49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard"
Load More Replies... Lost Panda 1 week ago (edited)
Can I add one? I'm tired of always having to be the one to do something. My wife once asked me why I was doing X or that I didn't have to do Y, and my response was "I do it because it has to be done. Not that I want to." I let my wife and kids rest when they're tired or sick, but as the man of the house it's seen as weak or lazy if I want to take a break for a day. If I'm sick, I'm still expected by everyone (family and work included) to "man up" and get the same things done. I need a break or I'm going to lose it... (Edit: The only downtime I get is lulls at work, which let me get on BP and when I smoke, but even that is frowned upon)
Rali Meyer 1 week ago
this is kinda listed above. I have seen it, and I agree. But mothers never rest!
Load More Replies... Bob Maloogalooga 1 week ago
This was refreshing and a definite counter-balance to the previous man-hating BP installment...
azubi 1 week ago
Fellow guys, I have an idea: how about we do all the 'girly' things we like and use our more traditional masculinity to kick anyone in the teeth who objects?
PenguinEmp 6 days ago
Agreed! Personally I love makeover day with my niece. It's the best time. She goes all out and it makes me happier. I also love painting my wife's toes.
Load More Replies... Annabelle 1 week ago
"49 Things Men Are Afraid To Admit Because They’ll Be Judged Hard"
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