People have a lot more in common than you might think. Sure, we’re all unique in our own small special ways, but many of the things that we do aren’t exclusive to us. You might be surprised how similar you are to the strangers you pass on the street every single day.
That’s where redditor u/Miguenzo comes in. They asked anonymous internet users to share the things that most (possibly even all) guys do but that they’d never admit to. From indulging in power fantasies to crying when sad, you’ll find these men’s honest thoughts as you scroll down.
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We love being cuddled. I look like a stereotypical tough guy and know some martial arts but damn, a cuddle from my girlfriend is just the best. Personally, I don't mind revealing that I love cuddles but I know a lot of dudes don't wanna admit that
Debating ending it all often, but not doing it because of how badly it affects those around us
That little knee bend/stretch to get your balls unstuck from whatever position they magically aligned themselves
Its not for our legs/knees/hips its 100% just for the balls to reposition
"Balls stuck to thigh" is legitimately one of the most uncomfortable situations ever.
If nothing else, the r/AskReddit thread is bound to give you a sense of relatability. Even if someone seems like a complete stranger to you, you can be pretty certain that they behave similarly to you in their daily life.
Even if you have different lifestyles and habits, some behaviors are simply extremely human and it’s hard to avoid them. Whether that’s sinking into your daydreams, crying when you’re upset, or singing along to a song that you adore. It’s these little behaviors that unite us.
Daydream about insane scenarios that will never happen where you're the main hero that swoops in to save the day.
Common examples include things like thinking you could figure out how to land an entire airplane in an emergency, thinking about "What happens if there's a robbery and I stop the bad guy", thinking about saving someone from a burning building, thinking you could save someone's life if there's a random medical emergency, etc.
I've done this since I was a little girl, I absolutely have a savior complex. Why would anyone be afraid to admit they'd like to be a hero?
Pee in the shower. I could pee right before the shower in the toilet, but the second the hot water hits me, my bladder says “It’s pee time.”
It’s not just certain behaviors that people have in common. Many men have very similar fears and insecurities. For example, ‘Fatherly’ points out that many men are insecure about developing large breasts. Others are embarrassed about losing their hair or being too thin or too short. On the flip side, men who are taller than their peers might have issues with their height, too.
For others, it’s their situation at home and in the office that haunts them. Guys are worried about the kinds of husbands and dads they’ll turn out to be. Others are scared that they’re not where they ‘should’ be in terms of their career just yet.
Try to use the force. It hasn’t worked yet but maybe one day..
Nose picking is more common than anyone will admit
The nose picking is no secret. The secret is what some men do with the buggers afterwards.
Another common insecurity among guys is the fear that they might not be adequate enough in the bedroom, both in terms of performance and size. Meanwhile, many men who have an older understanding of masculinity might avoid showing any emotions or weaknesses at all. In their mind, any sort of vulnerability is ‘wrong.’
This desire to appear extremely macho at all times can have some negative effects on them and the people around them, however. For example, men who avoid talking about their mental health struggles or seeking the help of a professional when they need to can only worsen the situation.
Be straight but able to recognize when another guy is a good looking guy and say it out loud.
Ya know, it's funny. I've had a bunch of straight guy friends be like "I know you're gay and all, but that girl is HOT". I always try to explain- dude, I can recognize a beautiful woman when I see her, even if I don't find her sexually attractive. A landscape painting can be beautiful to me, doesn't mean I wanna put my d*ck inside of it. Beauty is both subjective and universal at the same time. Anyone who can't appreciate beauty due to societal norms is lying to themselves.
Crying like a little girl when their pet dies.
Little boys can cry too, and by experience, louder.
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Ignoring the stupid dig that crying is "girly" - of course I cried when our pet died and I don't have any issue admitting that.
And nor should you. Your humanity is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, nor is the love of a pet.
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I had my cat die in my arms after a vicious dog attack. I broke down like a human. Because what i felt was pure raw emotion and it had to get out.
This big muscular hairy man will cry and I don't care who sees, or if they make fun. They are family!
Yeah bro same here.....when ppl see me see a tough guy, but the fact it's I'm tender like a Twinkie. Bored to see ppl that I'm only a tough guy, I'm i, but also I cry a lot and I don t care . In school I demonstrated I was tough while crying and man o man don t wanna be the ones I demonstrated hahahahahh
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This is nothing to hide. I'd be a heck of a lot more concerned to discover he *didn't* cry . .
I've seen hundreds of grown men cry when their pet died. It was sweet and meaningful. It always would bother me when any owner held back tears. It's a family member ffs.
Oh yes and not ashamed either. The back corner of our land is the pet cemetary for our treasured friends and family and our grown children and grandchildren inter their family pets there also...............it's hallowed ground.
Oh that was absolutely me for so, so long. Unfortunately....i've been living in romania for more than a decade, and stray animals are plentiful and very short lived. Every apartment building has at least a few cats living in the basement (they have open portals, unused and unfinished) and i'm a soft touch so i take care of them. All of them, in a two block radius. At one point we had 20 making daily stops to our garden, and i've spent at least two hours a day for 12 years putting out water, food and doing things like going out in the dead of winter to wrap cats up in my coat so they can have a touch of warmth. We give them meds and get any we can fixed and placed, we've taken in 7 over the years. I name them all, i love them all, and they all flock to me. I stopped counting at the 200th death....years ago. But each loss continued to break me for many years after. Until....they didn't anymore. I still continue to play care taker to every stray i see....but i'm dead inside.
I've seen them hit by cars, poisoned, frozen, torn apart by dogs, starved, renal failure, overrun by parasite....every terrible eventuality many....so many multiple times. We had the sweetest little kitten, of one of our long term garden cats, so friendly and adorable, only 6 or 7 months old instantly showed up whenever we called. Until one day it didn't show. We hadn't seen it for about 36 hours, were walking over to my moms to make sunday dinner and we found it 3 feet outside our garden in the bushes. We already had 7 cats...but my wife was getting ready to take this one too, she just broke down. I couldn't anymore. I scooped up the poor stiff little thing and got rid of it, and kept waiting for tears to come...but they've stopped. Along the way i've come to realize that they're all already dead...all i'm doing is trying to make sure they have the best life possible in the intervening time. Which is a different kind of heartbreak really.
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Crying is not the domain of little children. It is healthy to express your emotions.
If I may point out we dont cry like a little girl. We cry like princesses 😤
I cry however I want to... have and will sob uncontrollably when my pets die. Grief at loss is nothing to be ashamed of.
I wanted to deal with the loss of a pet myself and thought of watching the movie Marley & Me. My husband came home earlier than expected and said the movie was interesting and wanted to continue watching it with me. I tried to explain what kind of movie it is, but to no avail. He cried inconsolably during the movie and I offered a shoulder and a hug. It's good to let your feelings out in a constructive way. There was nothing embarrassing or unmasculine about it. Just the normal pain of loss.
Yep. I get that snot nosed, sobbing, ugly cry when we lose a pet. Done it before and will probably do it again when Baby Mouse passes.
STOP SAYING ‘CRYING LIKE A LITTLE GIRL’ EVERYONE CRIES SOMETIMES
I wept for a week when my little mate Buster died aged 7 of Leukemia - still hurts 10 years on. He was a Jack Russell / Collie cross, full of life and fun and brought joy to everything he was involved in (unless you were a rabbit or squirrel of course !!)
What is wrong with crying after a pet dies ? It is perfectly normal emotional response. You loved the pet? Well, with great love comes great grief after they die. I sometimes still have dreams about our dog that died in..2010. The thing is - she is happy and healthy in those dreams and not old and sick as in her last days. Every time I have these dreams I start crying after waking up, I am telling myself that this is her way of telling me, that she is in a better place now and still thinks of us.
When the vet called with the results and told me that my dog had an inoperable tumor on his liver that had metastasized to other organs, I cried like I never had before. Making the decision to put him to sleep was one of the hardest things I've had to do.
This is is full on for me atm, my partners dog he’s had forever had to be put down yesterday arvo for attacking lambs repeatedly- he’s in such a bad state so this is such a rude remark to make about oneself, poor guy doesn’t know it’s ok to CRY LIKE A SPARTAN.
i just cry. i dont think the age or gender is important here. edit: op is called boomer6312 so i understand now.
My husband's best friend. Serious tough guy - Green Beret, black ops, the whole nine yards. Had never shown any real emotions in the several years I had known him. Cried like a baby the day we had to put his Akita down.
When i lost my previous cat, get haunted me for months. I don't wanna get into details , he didn't die.but i lost him. And i still wish i could see him one more time
I am dreading the moment when my gecko dies, I might too internally
I lose it when I lose my pets. Dogs, Cats... they are my friends and I mourn them as I would my kids or best friends.
When my cat "Moot" of 13 years died I cried like a baby. My ex was shocked that I took it so hard.
Ditch that phrase!! You are a human being, don't buy the BS that you shouldn't show grief over a death! 😲
You are human. This is normal. Our culture teaches males not to cry. Some Europeans find this normal and are not ashamed. Italians and French
Just so you know, little girls cry like men. Grief is the worst, but crying helps a wee bit.
My dog was better to me than 99.9% of all the people that said I was their friend
My heart shattered into a million pieces when Nugget passed away. It's been almost four years, and I still cry at least once a month.
I cry when I'm happy and when I'm sad. It's a genetic trait I share with my dearly departed uncle on mums side. He never worried, always had a hanky ready, would talk your ear off with tears streaming down like it was nothing. I'm a female and it bugs me as people think I'm a cry baby, I'm 56 years young and haven't mastered not crying so I doubt I'm ever going to.
If I had 3 wishes, the 1st would be that our pets lived longer. ♥️♥️
Goddess has brought so many fur babies into my life to be saved, cared for and loved. The problem has been that these babies usually have something medically wrong with them and eventually we have to say good-bye and I tell you, it NEVER gets easier. I am a huge guy, bald, tattoos on my face, etc...and I absolutely loose my s**t every time I have to let one of my babies go.
I cry like a man with full snot bubbles and tears, and heaving and coughing, none of this girly little b******t crying. You gotta give it your all full 100% ugly brutal crying, if you don't puke are even crying?
Well in many ways dogs are better companions than humans. It is devastating when they die.
Again, emotions are OK. You are not anything more than a human and humans have emotions. Grief is hard.
If you're single; Having feelings/Attraction to almost every female friend you've got.
Doesn't gotta be strong feelings. Doesn't have to be romantic.
But you've thought about it. At least once. Maybe three times.
Many men are also wary of getting in touch with a doctor when they have health issues. There’s a certain deeply-rooted stigma that men ‘should’ be strong enough to handle everything on their own and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. While having a stoic mindset is definitely helpful in life, health issues aren’t something you should be playing around with.
Many men are unwilling to see a professional if they have issues that are particularly embarrassing. Others are scared of getting bad news, so they choose to live in denial, hoping that the problems will go away on their own.
To put it bluntly, have the courage to be humble—see a doctor not just when you have health issues, but also for regular checkups. You’re not less of a man because you take care of your health. Quite the opposite!
Sneaking a peak at some cleavage. We don't even have to be attracted to the women but we still gon look
Hehehe I'm gay as the day is long, and even I find it hard not to notice cleavage when it's like... really out there. I don't get any sort of charge out of it, but c'mon, it's like... right friggin' there. Hard not to see when it literally jumps out like that. I've heard lesbians say the same thing about guys wearing speedos- like "woah! you're uhh... well, there you are" lmao
Sniff our armpits to be sure it don't stink or we enjoy the smell.
When I was in college, a guy on my dorm floor swore he had never masturbated. He was 19. I'm sorry, but I refuse to believe that.
Could be religious thing. Most religious people don't really know about sexual stuff until they're married. It's possible he doesn't even know what masturbation is, just knows it's something sexual. It's really easy to keep away from things that you're not taught about or see as taboo.
Morning pee's sometimes goes sideways and there's annoying cleaning up to do
Honestly, if I'm half asleep (or drank enough beers), I'm sitting down. F*ck what anyone says.
Struggle severely with existential levels of mental health
My doctor asks if I ever considered suicide and I tell him, doesn't everyone?
Looking at houses and cars I can’t afford everyday
Every man has tucked his d**k back between his legs and gazed upon his mangina in the bathroom mirror.
Check out women (or men if they prefer) they find attractive in public when with their partner
We both appreciate beauty in many forms. My husband and I point out good looking people to each other especially if they're "your type", I like bald men, my husband makes sure I see them all. He likes tall women, I make sure he sees them.
The truth is drinking too much. It is common for men to lie about how much they drink to their doctors and when taking surveys.
Singing along to a song that they shouldn't like, but do.
Why should anyone feel like they "shouldn't" like a song? This is just bizarre. There's plenty of songs I don't like... but to like one and feel like doing so is somehow taboo just seems... I dunno. Not healthy.
Sometimes when we shave we try and see how we’d look with the moustache of a certain Austrian painter
But if I wanted to look like Gustav Klimt I wouldn't be shaving in the first place!
not sure if this is for all guys, but my bf will never ever admit that he prefers to be little spoon 😭
I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
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Yes, humans. Humans with these weird chicken-skin bags of crazy marbles we’re cursed to drag through life.
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So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
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Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
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I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
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Load More Replies... So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
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Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
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