People have a lot more in common than you might think. Sure, we’re all unique in our own small special ways, but many of the things that we do aren’t exclusive to us. You might be surprised how similar you are to the strangers you pass on the street every single day.
That’s where redditor u/Miguenzo comes in. They asked anonymous internet users to share the things that most (possibly even all) guys do but that they’d never admit to. From indulging in power fantasies to crying when sad, you’ll find these men’s honest thoughts as you scroll down.
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We love being cuddled. I look like a stereotypical tough guy and know some martial arts but damn, a cuddle from my girlfriend is just the best. Personally, I don't mind revealing that I love cuddles but I know a lot of dudes don't wanna admit that
Debating ending it all often, but not doing it because of how badly it affects those around us
That little knee bend/stretch to get your balls unstuck from whatever position they magically aligned themselves
Its not for our legs/knees/hips its 100% just for the balls to reposition
"Balls stuck to thigh" is legitimately one of the most uncomfortable situations ever.
If nothing else, the r/AskReddit thread is bound to give you a sense of relatability. Even if someone seems like a complete stranger to you, you can be pretty certain that they behave similarly to you in their daily life.
Even if you have different lifestyles and habits, some behaviors are simply extremely human and it’s hard to avoid them. Whether that’s sinking into your daydreams, crying when you’re upset, or singing along to a song that you adore. It’s these little behaviors that unite us.
Daydream about insane scenarios that will never happen where you're the main hero that swoops in to save the day.
Common examples include things like thinking you could figure out how to land an entire airplane in an emergency, thinking about "What happens if there's a robbery and I stop the bad guy", thinking about saving someone from a burning building, thinking you could save someone's life if there's a random medical emergency, etc.
I've done this since I was a little girl, I absolutely have a savior complex. Why would anyone be afraid to admit they'd like to be a hero?
Same! I used to even draw pictures where my mom was getting her purse stolen (burglar-person in striped shirt and "raccoon"-style mask and all!) and I was saving her by... swinging my beloved stuffed German Shepherd by the tail like a flail, with the intent of apparently knocking out the mugger with a plush toy XD 35 years later, I still have that stuffed German Shepherd... haven't gotten the chance to knock out any bad guys with him yet, though XD
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I have to admit my daydream involves a lion. I have n't go to the zoo in nearly 12 years. But if I went, I know I'm prepared.
Jeez, can't you ladies let the men have this one? These are men's secrets.
I've daydreamed my entire life, and I've learned to express my fantasies in Garrys mod through comics and animation
I do this, but the biggest one is what if I lived in (video game)
again, not something solely done by men.... need proof? look at the comments.... i haven't looked but just know they are there.
Yeah, no. I don’t think about things like this much unless I am watching a movie or playing a game. When I do, I know, I’m not likely to be a survivor or hero. I don’t fantasize about being bad things happening to where these thoughts would be relevant. I think more about good things happening and how I can get there.
As a woman, I do this too! It's just fun to think about what you'd do, honestly.
I'm a 62-year-old woman, and I worry that I'll be the only one available to save the day, but I'll eff it up somehow.
Yes.. 46 and still saving the day. Most of the time as a Guyver, sometimes as a 40k spacemarine and on rare occasions with the use of the black kakari. Never used the Force, now that I think of it..
Landing the entire plane is easy. Putting it back together afterwards is the hard part.
Any 'landing' is a good landing compared to the alternatives...
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Expect the unexpected. You never know. (Have we learned nothing from 2020?)
In case of a zombie invasion, don't panic, you will probably be a zombie.
I read so many science fiction and fantasy adventure novels, it's impossible not to imagine myself as a character in one of them when I'm doing something boring at work or whatever. Exploring alien worlds has got to be more fun than sorting packages at the post office. lol
I used to do this but saving my bullies so they liked me...
Yeah, I do that as a woman. Not really a guy thing, just having an imagination.
I did stop a robbery once. It was not fun and heroic, just scary. Two drug addicts robbing a gas station. My then boyfriend took off and hid in the back, I got angry that they scared the very nice lady cashier so I ran up yelling at them that I called the cops and would gladly testify against them. Somehow they got startled and walked out. They where later found hiding a bit away with the loot they had managed to grab on the way out.
The reaction everyone of us has in an emergency is totally automatic. Even if you think you'll react in a certain way, you don't know until s**t happens. I'm like you, that's why I know it's an instinctive reaction. However, bear in mind you did something *very* dangerous. You could have been shot or stabbed. Sometimes the most logical option is to let them get the money and go away, try to remember what they look like and call the police, as soon as everybody is safe.
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I fantasize about being a hero, but because I know my limitations I only think I could land most of an airplane in an emergency.
I daydream a lot and when I say a lot it takes up about 70% of my daily activities but when questioned I say it's because I'm thinking really hard on my Bio school work.
I don't often dream of landing an airplane but when I do, I dream of landing the ENTIRE airplane. /S I mean, was that adjective needed? Anyone out there dream of landing only half an airplane? lolol But serious answer - while we may not be 'heroes', there is nothing wrong with trying to think through emergency scenarios when you are calm in case some day there is an emergency.
I also usually daydream and imagine scenarios of any kind when I'm bored. serves a lot since then I start writing what I imagined as a good micro-story
I do this every night! What would I do if I have an intruder, should I release GoodBoi, should I resort to grabbing my rifle...
I try not to dwell too much on these reflexes, because I’m kinda scared that something bad will actually happen and I’ll screw up because I tried to be a hero.
I have at least had training on a 737 simulator, so I'd have a better chance of landing a plane than most.
This is something everybody (should) do. Its part of the brains natural instinct to be prepared. And then some of us like action as well, and embelish a bit.
Pee in the shower. I could pee right before the shower in the toilet, but the second the hot water hits me, my bladder says “It’s pee time.”
It’s not just certain behaviors that people have in common. Many men have very similar fears and insecurities. For example, ‘Fatherly’ points out that many men are insecure about developing large breasts. Others are embarrassed about losing their hair or being too thin or too short. On the flip side, men who are taller than their peers might have issues with their height, too.
For others, it’s their situation at home and in the office that haunts them. Guys are worried about the kinds of husbands and dads they’ll turn out to be. Others are scared that they’re not where they ‘should’ be in terms of their career just yet.
Try to use the force. It hasn’t worked yet but maybe one day..
Nose picking is more common than anyone will admit
The nose picking is no secret. The secret is what some men do with the buggers afterwards.
Another common insecurity among guys is the fear that they might not be adequate enough in the bedroom, both in terms of performance and size. Meanwhile, many men who have an older understanding of masculinity might avoid showing any emotions or weaknesses at all. In their mind, any sort of vulnerability is ‘wrong.’
This desire to appear extremely macho at all times can have some negative effects on them and the people around them, however. For example, men who avoid talking about their mental health struggles or seeking the help of a professional when they need to can only worsen the situation.
Be straight but able to recognize when another guy is a good looking guy and say it out loud.
Ya know, it's funny. I've had a bunch of straight guy friends be like "I know you're gay and all, but that girl is HOT". I always try to explain- dude, I can recognize a beautiful woman when I see her, even if I don't find her sexually attractive. A landscape painting can be beautiful to me, doesn't mean I wanna put my d*ck inside of it. Beauty is both subjective and universal at the same time. Anyone who can't appreciate beauty due to societal norms is lying to themselves.
If you're single; Having feelings/Attraction to almost every female friend you've got.
Doesn't gotta be strong feelings. Doesn't have to be romantic.
But you've thought about it. At least once. Maybe three times.
Many men are also wary of getting in touch with a doctor when they have health issues. There’s a certain deeply-rooted stigma that men ‘should’ be strong enough to handle everything on their own and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. While having a stoic mindset is definitely helpful in life, health issues aren’t something you should be playing around with.
Many men are unwilling to see a professional if they have issues that are particularly embarrassing. Others are scared of getting bad news, so they choose to live in denial, hoping that the problems will go away on their own.
To put it bluntly, have the courage to be humble—see a doctor not just when you have health issues, but also for regular checkups. You’re not less of a man because you take care of your health. Quite the opposite!
Sneaking a peak at some cleavage. We don't even have to be attracted to the women but we still gon look
Hehehe I'm gay as the day is long, and even I find it hard not to notice cleavage when it's like... really out there. I don't get any sort of charge out of it, but c'mon, it's like... right friggin' there. Hard not to see when it literally jumps out like that. I've heard lesbians say the same thing about guys wearing speedos- like "woah! you're uhh... well, there you are" lmao
Sniff our armpits to be sure it don't stink or we enjoy the smell.
When I was in college, a guy on my dorm floor swore he had never masturbated. He was 19. I'm sorry, but I refuse to believe that.
Could be religious thing. Most religious people don't really know about sexual stuff until they're married. It's possible he doesn't even know what masturbation is, just knows it's something sexual. It's really easy to keep away from things that you're not taught about or see as taboo.
Morning pee's sometimes goes sideways and there's annoying cleaning up to do
Honestly, if I'm half asleep (or drank enough beers), I'm sitting down. F*ck what anyone says.
Struggle severely with existential levels of mental health
My doctor asks if I ever considered suicide and I tell him, doesn't everyone?
Looking at houses and cars I can’t afford everyday
Every man has tucked his d**k back between his legs and gazed upon his mangina in the bathroom mirror.
Check out women (or men if they prefer) they find attractive in public when with their partner
We both appreciate beauty in many forms. My husband and I point out good looking people to each other especially if they're "your type", I like bald men, my husband makes sure I see them all. He likes tall women, I make sure he sees them.
The truth is drinking too much. It is common for men to lie about how much they drink to their doctors and when taking surveys.
Singing along to a song that they shouldn't like, but do.
Why should anyone feel like they "shouldn't" like a song? This is just bizarre. There's plenty of songs I don't like... but to like one and feel like doing so is somehow taboo just seems... I dunno. Not healthy.
Sometimes when we shave we try and see how we’d look with the moustache of a certain Austrian painter
But if I wanted to look like Gustav Klimt I wouldn't be shaving in the first place!
not sure if this is for all guys, but my bf will never ever admit that he prefers to be little spoon 😭
I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
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Yes, humans. Humans with these weird chicken-skin bags of crazy marbles we’re cursed to drag through life.
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So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
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Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
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I love posts about mens mental health. Anyone saying they don't like hearing stuff like this, I hope you ask yourself why. If it's because "oh well women go through this too, so it's invalid" that's not a good reason. I know this is a heated opinion but I'm just so sick of people invalidating others because "I have it worse", or "I want to spend more time focused on my problems". Men have to deal with so many things alone because not enough of us care to listen.
I agree. Telling yourself others have it worse can be a useful tool for self-reflection. Telling someone else others have it worse makes you an a-hole who is trying to invalidate other's experiences and feelings.
Load More Replies... Yes, humans. Humans with these weird chicken-skin bags of crazy marbles we’re cursed to drag through life.
Load More Replies... So many of these are specific to individuals. Half of these I never do and I will testify under oath to that fact.
I can't imagine someone fessing up to some of these, even as an anon.
It's not fair to say "what ALL men do" since not all men are the same. Just like not all women are the same. We're all individual people.
Well then, more that 50% of men do, good enough.
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Agreed. Much love to the male Pandas who are in a rough spot.
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I had a friend growing up who would always do a kamehameha while we were playing; and it didn't matter what game we were playing, he would always sneak in a kamehameha. It used to annoy me so much lol. Although in hindsight, I can't really judge because I was the same way with tackling.
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