My name is Siyu and I'm the creator of Tiny Eyes Comics, a webcomic series that shares Chinese culture through slices of everyday life.
A year ago, I published two collections of my comics on the differences between Chinese and Western culture (you can find it here and here on Bored Panda). For this post, I'm putting together a collection of my latest comics that touch upon Chinese family life from education to superstition, from mom to grandma.
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Love
And actually really sad. Children are raised with love, not with expectations.
Load More Replies...In my case: Mum I'm gay. her: but you should still be on the pill. You are too young to get pregnant.
Ugh, this one hit a little too close to home. My mum has probably just given up all hope on me and will label me a spinster or "mother of kittens". Kind of sad how women are sometimes seen as something less if we choose not to get married.
Yup... you get to hear lovely things like "25?? you're old now. and boy, you're fat - you're not even bronze [place] anymore."
Offering Help
Yeah... you're supposed to insist at least 3 times... for it to be 'acceptably polite' - otherwise they think "oh, he didn't mean it and was really hoping I'd say no-need, lazy!"
Load More Replies...Could someone explain the cultural context behind this? What I see is: someone offers to help. She says "no". Her "no" is respected... and she's upset by her "no" being respected (?). I've lived in many countries, so I'd genuinely like to understand the cultural context behind her being upset by not being helped, when she said she didn't need / want help. :)
She said NO to be polite, and she hoped he would ask again and perhaps a third time, then she would have accepted.
Load More Replies...If you tell me you don't need help, I'm not begging you so you can change your mind. Idc is if this is cultural. It's also r******d.
Yeah. Just because it's cultural doesn't mean it's smart.
Load More Replies...When people do this s**t I tell them to f**k themselves if they ever mention it. Even if I don't offer help if you freaking need it FFS just ask. Can't accuse someone of not helping if you either never ask or never accept it
I ain't chinese, but am asian. I'm from kazakhstan. still rly true.
Its absolute must to decline help in Chinese tradition, but the the person being declined must still help and the person rejecting must continue to decline
Grandma
Chinese
Lucky Number "6"
hahaha 666 is a chinese lucky number but we americans think its cursed
... 'we americans'!? Shouts the rest of the world, which counts Christians everywhere
Load More Replies...Theres a story behind this and i want to know it please
Load More Replies...Same with 13... ugh... in my teens people thought I was trying to be all **cringe** edgy and cool and whatever by liking the number 13... Nooooo.... it's... actually... a lucky... number...
OOOH no this month of december is friday the 13th OOh "makes ghost moans" aah,13 is my lucky number so cant say anything really negative about it gonna watch black christmas yay
Load More Replies...The reason 666 is considered the "mark of the beast" is this. Man was created on the 6th day, putting that number 3 times (3 = the Trinity), is considered the anti-Christ. 7 is a Godly number as God rested the 7th day, blessed it and made it Holy. The 7th day, the Sabbath, = the "Seal of God."
Plot twist: it turns out that 666 was not a reference to "Satan" (who wasn't yet solidified as a concept at that time), but a coded reference to the Roman emperor Nero, who was persecuting Christians. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Number_of_the_Beast#Nero
in chinese we have an idiom called liu liu da shun which mean things will be going smoothly, especially money
Tally Marks
i'm french and we never use those "french marks" we use the american ones
I'm French and I've always used the french ones, always
Load More Replies...French girl here (of Serbian heritage), no this is not how we mark in France.
It is, you don't do it where you live, but I've live in Paris, Strasbourg and the Savoie and I've always use the french ones
Load More Replies...Seperation
That's what my husband says to me when I have to stay the night at Mom's, to take care of her. He'll call me and tell me to go outside, and look at the moon with him. So sweet. I'm so lucky!
Ah... ahahahahahha... oh, okay, this artist had parents who loved her... and were sweet about her moving... mine yelled at me for "insulting" them by moving out before they chose to kick me out... "What, this place is not GOOD enough for you, HAH? You think you're BETTER than us???"
One Point
OMG. It's my childhood!! Ohh... and wooooeee betide if you get in the 80s... then the bamboo cane comes out.
I donated blood in high school, a few weeks later a card came in the mail saying what date I was eligible to donate again and that my blood type was A+. My mom got said "Congratulations, you finally got an A+ in sOmEtHiNg. :P
as for me whenever i got bad grades they angry like hell but whenever i got good grades they'll just like..... "I don't care"
Are ya kidding me? I would take him out to his favorite place to eat.
I agree with the mom If I get one point off, I want to commit suicide. If I get two points off, no biggie
Well that kid will either grow up to be a genius that hates his mother, a shut in who hates everybody especially his mother or a suicide.
Panda
That's panda diplomacy and it's thing https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Panda_diplomacy
Why all the fuss? Pandas go back and forth every four years no matter what. It's a gimmick like every thing else. We're cute, people come to see us, but we feel used!! No real connection! I wish they would stop this nonsense.
Load More Replies...Vegetarian
In Buddhisme the monks are forbiden to eat meat
Load More Replies...I was yesterday years old when I learned that being vegetarian and vegan is not the same thing?
Cook Like Your Mom
When we had Christmas diner a few years ago my brother in law asked my mom why is that the food is much better/ or he enjoying it much better on Christmas and she told him she always adds some special Christmas seasoning and he was satisfied with her answer. Then I asked her what kind of seasoning she added and she told me, no seasoning, it's just the Christmas... My mother is a great cook and I'll never be able to compare to her.
Because YOUR version of "Just do it until it looks right-la!!... you know.. stir and stir until it gives off the right texture" isn't the same as hers.
This applies to Italian moms, too. And Greek moms, definitely. Pretty much moms in general, I think.
Noodles
is that noodles? bc if it is, I feel you 100% <3
Load More Replies...Hmm... why the downvotes? I simply was agreeing that I liked noodles... aka: Ramen, aka: Mein...
It's either Rice or Noodles in Asia, English and Irish it's Potatoes, American it's McDonald's 😅😂🤣
"I Love You"
I personally like the more direct way, say what you mean and do what you say.... yes i am dutch, why?;)
there are five languages of love and different people respond differently
Load More Replies...In my country none of this actually happens. We just say "Bye mum"...
Thanksgiving
Michelin
I agree with Grandma. It's ridiculous that the more expensive it is, the less there is of it!
Don’t go to a really expensive place if you want good food, it is for skinny rich people. Find a place in the goldilocks zone, not too cheap, not too pricey.
Where are you gonna go in America where you don't get a plate to feed at least 3?
High food being served in small portions is just a scam to maximize profit while giving an exclusive feeling to customers. Its deeply ingrained in western gastronomy now.
So true, the more you pay the less you get and the more it's been handled by hands 👐
This is how I feel when I get a side of mandarin oranges at Red Robins
Intimacy
Isn’t that great that just a pinky touch is so exciting. We’ve lost that in the US. It is a shame.
Kiss
In my country, TV stations censored bloody & romantic scenes. I get the violence part, but a peck on the lips shouldn't deserve censorship. In the contrary, they air many emotional & verbal abuse scenes which may last longer than physical wound. Good thing I stopped watching TV 10 years ago.
LOL This was my Russian Mother in law with my HUsband... LOL she called a movie the dirtiest movie ever because it implied sex (not even showing skin) and showed kissing.
Wrong. They are just kissing. Whats wrong about that? I would let my Baby watch that. (Germany btw)
Load More Replies...Getting Married
I support this. If you can't afford a roof over your head, you're in no position to be proposing marriage. The way it looks, you're putting the responsibility of that roof on your partner, and that's not cool. Key note, when I say afford, I don't inherently mean own. I rented a room in a house for years before moving in my with my wife, but the point was that I paid for my own shelter. If I couldn't afford that much, I would never have asked her to marry me. My wellbeing should *never* be her responsibility.
If you don’t even have an apartment you are definitely not ready to get married.
In some countries, marriage license refusal was prevalent if no apartment lease was proved
Oh wow... she's allowing him to "only" have an apartment? ... she's lenient!... and she didn't stress "OWN" an apartment... wow...
People can have R.V.s and stuff y’know or they might like to travel. Just because someone wants to ‘enjoy life’ more before doing something doesn’t always mean they still live with their parents
Load More Replies...Chinese parents are always too overprotective, but not at the same time. So true.
Bargain Queen
People are always laughing at me for being hopeless at this and paying too much
This is how my husband and I haggled in Egypt (he's Egyptian) we'd walk in and prices start high because I'm obviously a foreigner. Hubby and I decide a price between us.. price is 4x the amount it really cost. Hubby starts haggling in Arabic price drops in half Hubby starts arguing and tells him look I am from here I know it doesn't cost that... price is now about 50% mark up and closer to what we want to pay. Hubby asks me about new price I say Nah let's go check the next shop... bam we get it for what we want.
Chinese Name
when you speak three languages and sometimes talk to three different people using each of those languages......
When you speak 4 languages and 1 dialect and change between them in the middle of a sentence and people are like what
Load More Replies...Don’t feel too bad. It’s prob been tons of years. I forgot everything in a year
Old Customer
the most annoying question for retail workers - "I don't want to pay this much. Can I get it cheaper?". (Answer: no. If you don't want to pay that much - buy something cheaper).
I interviewed at Williams Sonoma and someone said they often heard "i'm a friend of Mr. Sonoma," which was the original location.
it's interesting how we don't really haggle in america very much
Move Out, Move In
Well we Filipinos are more often be with our parents until we get married and sometimes even if we are we still doesn't move out because we can't leave our parents behind.
Economically this is happening more and more in the US. Kids go to college, get a decent job but the rents are too much to make it on their own, alone. They move back home, help with the bills and everyone wins
Everyone survives. We win if we CAN make it on our own, and this is a choice.
Load More Replies...In this case, I so wish I had had Chinese parents at the age of 22.
The difference is the American 22 year-old is still living at home to suck money from their parents, while the Chinese 22 year is still living at home so they can help their parents.
If I understand this correctly, children in Chinese families have moved out, got married, and bought their own homes by the time they're 22? (Based upon an earlier comic, saying that they must have their own apartment before a couple gets serious)
You've assumed rather a lot there! Imagine moving out and going to university, then graduating and needing to move back in.
Load More Replies...Black Sesame
The placebo response is amazing......not sure if that is what happens with my first coffee in the day.
Load More Replies...Fish Heads
I believed her for years before discovering that she was leaving the best parts for me. Cri ;w;
I would always throw a tantrum if I couldn't poke the eye of the fish out with a chopstick.
After my dad and I went fishing for bluegills when I was a kid, he would always remove the heads and leave the bodies in a colander to be rinsed before frying. One day I found the decapitated fish and panicked. I screamed “Daddy, WHERE are their HEADS?!!!!” He responded, “The head told the rest of the body ‘you stink’ and swam away.”
It took me 20 years to figure it out and now I try to give her the best parts 😭
I actually like head better because I like to eat the eye... Idk if thats just me...
Eat More = Love
Too real!!! I don't think my grandma realizes that I spend 90% of the time sitting down so I can't really use all that food
I think this one is universal too. Both my Italian and my Croatian grandmas were like this, and now my Korean mother-in-law as well.
Load More Replies...Chinese Grandma: Yells at you for not eating enough and gives you candy and money
That’s true, I’ll be at my grandma’s for a few days and she’ll be like “(Insert actual name)/ Ame/Rose, do you want (insert snack)” and I may not be hungry at the time so I’ll say no thanks or not right now and she’ll just say “are you sure?” She’s actually the only living grandparent I have left so even though she can be a bit much sometimes I still love her and she’s really all I got other than my bf (my parents are tolerable and I only have like a little under two years before I can leave)
Time Perception
The seasons, the planets, the tides, the harvests... life moves in a cycle. Things from the past are never left there, everything is connected.
Load More Replies...Europeans only moved to a seeing time in linear terms in the past few hundred years. Before that, the two metaphors of a circle and an arrow were often used. The calendar has a typical circular view of time - days, weeks, months, years,and leap years. Most Europeans saw time as a cycle until the industrial revolution brought the scientific revolution, and the idea of a eternal universe was developed. However, since the discovery of the Big Bang and the idea that time actually has a beginning, the circular view of time is creeping back in. After all, if time has a beginning, it also has an end. If time can start once, it can also start again, etc, so the end of time can become the beginning, etc.
I read tarot and have learned from that perspective that time is not linear, it is a spiral. Time is a construct; it isn't real. So this is a perfect illustration!
New Year
welp...that's just what we asians do. it's very expensive but it shows respect, so we do it
Load More Replies...Luck
I'm not sure about the Chinese, but in my culture, it is said that if you hear the screech of a barn owl, someone in your family will die within a year.
Load More Replies...Declining Gift
Fry Bread
I had steamed red bean dumplings for breakfast in Beiing, loved it. Failed to find it anywhere else except in a small shack during trekking in Borneo :D
I wonder if it's supposed to be Navajo tacos. I've never heard a Navajo call it Navajo frybread
Tobacco Packaging
In the US, not so long ago, smoking was promoted to pregnant women to help them "relax", and kids were marketed to with candy (fake) cigarettes..... It's simply 2 different eras in marketing, in 2 different countries, with 2 different goals in mind. One is to make money off of cigarettes, the other is to not have the health care system pay for the repercussions of smoking cigarettes.
I remember those candy cigarettes, slightly sweet chalk. Were they made by the tobacco companies?
Load More Replies...Underage smoking in US: Illegal and prohibited Meanwhile I was offered a smoke at 6
I'm sorry, I don't understand what the Chinese package is saying... Is it a picture of a cemetery?
Baby Tooth
Is there a reason for throwing it out the window? In my culture a tooth is put under the pillow for the tooth fairy to come and take in exchange for money or a trinket. Would be interesting to know about any others, too!
I still want to know what on earth the fairies want my teeth for !!!!!
Load More Replies...bury the upper teeth and throw the lower teeth to the roof so that new teeth can grow healthy (that's what my parents said, no fairies involved)
In Romania it's similar to the Chinese one. We throw the tooth on window in hope a crow will catch ot or pick it up and bring one of steel
in romania, when i was little, we were taught to throw it "over the house" :) this way, it would come back as a bigger and stronger tooth :)
In javanese culture it depends on which teeth, if it's from upper jaw you throw it to the ground, if it's from lower jaw you throw it to the roof
We would be excited to find a shiny new quarter. Now kids want an iPhone!!!
Surname
There is law that states a women has to take her husbands surname in Western countries. I have not.
in italy it's normal to call in-laws mom and dad, it's more familiar. so you know if you betray your wife or husband, your betraying your Family :)
Europeans called their in-laws "mother" and "father" until fairly recently. Brother and sister in law were called brother and sister. That's why the "in-law" is there, to differentiate between the relatives by birth, and those who legally became your relatives after marriage.
Eat Fruits
Why no fruit until 2 hrs after a meal? So you’ll eat all your food I guess?
In chinese medicene, fruits get our stomach cold because they have all that water. We need our stomach warm to digest the meals, that’s why they have hot tea right before and after the meals
Load More Replies...je voudrais juste dire que les desserts aux fruits sont les meilleurs
For me it was 1 hour before and straight after a meal... Nothing sweet and processed , just fresh fruit. And it stuck with me for life... I'm so healthy, I'll probably get sick now that I've said that 🙄
I don't care where you're from, nobody can cook like Mom! Or Grandma! The recipe never turns out the same....
Unless you are from a long line of c**p cooks and not turning out the same is a good thing!
Load More Replies...In the end, I didn't see much differences with my Serbian/French culture, here. :)
High five. As a Koreanised Italo-Croatian, I can tell you there's lots of similarities between Europe and Asia. ♥
Load More Replies...as a Chinese person, these are so true (at least for my family)! Keep it up!
I enjoyed the comics very much. Asian traditions are very nice. Americans are losing too many time tested traditions to laziness and apathy. It’s a shame.
I don't care where you're from, nobody can cook like Mom! Or Grandma! The recipe never turns out the same....
Unless you are from a long line of c**p cooks and not turning out the same is a good thing!
Load More Replies...In the end, I didn't see much differences with my Serbian/French culture, here. :)
High five. As a Koreanised Italo-Croatian, I can tell you there's lots of similarities between Europe and Asia. ♥
Load More Replies...as a Chinese person, these are so true (at least for my family)! Keep it up!
I enjoyed the comics very much. Asian traditions are very nice. Americans are losing too many time tested traditions to laziness and apathy. It’s a shame.
