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“You Mean Nothing To Me”: Teen Regrets Her Words To Stepmom After Being Denied Beach Trip
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“You Mean Nothing To Me”: Teen Regrets Her Words To Stepmom After Being Denied Beach Trip

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Family relationships can be complicated for many reasons, often even more so when it’s a stepfamily; becoming a part of a newly formed clan comes with a certain set of challenges.

Redditor ‘OppositePumpkin2750’ recently opened up about the challenges she faced trying to create a relationship with her stepdaughter. The teenage girl seemingly wanted nothing to do with her dad’s wife and showed her no respect—that is, until she learned that her stepmom was going on a beach trip.

Stepfamily relationships can be quite difficult to navigate

Image credits: Kelly Sikkema (not the actual photo)

This woman tried creating a relationship with her stepdaughter, but the latter wanted nothing to do with her

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Image credits: Fa Barboza (not the actual photo)

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Image credits: Allison Huang (not the actual photo)

Image credits: OppositePumpkin2750

Forming an amicable stepparent-stepchild relationship might be challenging

Typically referring to families consisting of a child or children, a parent and their new spouse, stepfamilies—like regular families, for that matter—each have a unique dynamic. While some are more than capable of fostering loving relationships between all members, others find it difficult to coexist in peace.

Some of the main challenges stepfamilies face, as pointed out by Utah State University Extension, are the role of the stepparent, competition for attention, and conflicts over loyalty-related matters. The first problem is based on the fact that it can be tricky to figure out how a stepparent should interact with the stepchild. It’s suggested that at least in the beginning of building a relationship, it might be best to refrain from disciplining the child and try to develop a friendship first.

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The second and third factors affecting stepfamily relationships are based on the mixed feelings the child might feel towards the new addition to the family, as well as their own parent. They might consider the parent’s new partner a threat or competition in regards to the biological parent’s attention or feel worried over taking sides between the new person and other family members.

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As a growing number of marriages end in divorce, many people find themselves living in stepfamilies

Nowadays, quite a few families go through structural changes at one point or another. According to Pew Research Center, roughly 15% of children in the US live with parents in a remarriage, as two-parent households are reportedly on the decline and such scenarios as divorce, remarriage and cohabitation seem to be on the rise.

The change resulting in a growing number of stepfamilies is likely to be driven by a growing number of Americans ending their marriages. Nowadays, roughly two-thirds of people under 50 who’ve ever been married are still in their first marriage, while the number of such people back in 1960 was as high as 83%.

A separate survey carried out by Pew Research Center back in 2010 found that back then, more than 40% of people in the US were part of a stepfamily; and they were as likely as any other family to say that their kin is the most important thing in their life. In addition to that, roughly seven-in-ten adults with at least one step relative say that they are very satisfied with their family life.

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While the OP’s stepdaughter didn’t seem to be too happy with her family life, or with her stepmother, at least, the latter tried being patient and understanding with her, as the woman herself has gone through her parents’ divorce, as she revealed in the comments. In addition to sharing more details in the comments, the OP also provided fellow redditors with an update on how things evolved later on.

Fellow redditors shared their thoughts in the comments, the OP replied to some of them

Some people believed that it’s not only about the stepdaughter, but the husband, too

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The OP provided an update on how things developed

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Image credits: OppositePumpkin2750

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Vėja Elkimavičiūtė

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mralt avatar
MR
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother gets it. That's a huge positive. The father not seems to be the real hang up.

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pasej41913@bustayes.com
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daughter f****d around and found out. Good life lesson: actions have consequences

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sharyn turnicky
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad's job requires alot of travel. He has next to no idea what goes on at home. If it were stepmother 's son treating him this way the story would take on a whole other meaning and response. He is heading for another divorce if he doesn't wake-up

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Lisa Barbeau
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He hasn’t wanted to know because during his little bit of time at home he wants the illusion of peace and quiet with no problems.

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MR
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The mother gets it. That's a huge positive. The father not seems to be the real hang up.

cufyelilmo avatar
pasej41913@bustayes.com
Community Member
1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Daughter f****d around and found out. Good life lesson: actions have consequences

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sharyn turnicky
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Dad's job requires alot of travel. He has next to no idea what goes on at home. If it were stepmother 's son treating him this way the story would take on a whole other meaning and response. He is heading for another divorce if he doesn't wake-up

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Lisa Barbeau
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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

He hasn’t wanted to know because during his little bit of time at home he wants the illusion of peace and quiet with no problems.

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