50 Bizarre Divorce Stories That Prove Truth Is Stranger Than Fiction
Interview With ExpertWhile we all hope for a ‘happily ever after’ in our relationships, sometimes they just don’t work out—and that’s okay. It’s often better to go separate ways than stay together when things aren’t right.
Even so, there are times when the cause of a breakup can be a bit… unconventional. Like a disagreement over Star Trek or a fight about toilet paper. At least, that’s what did it for a few couples in a recent r/AskReddit thread, where users shared some of the strangest reasons people ended up getting divorced.
Keep scrolling to check them out, and don’t miss our conversation with divorce coach Nawal Houghton about what might be hiding behind these seemingly trivial splits.
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My history teacher in high school was married to a woman who had escaped from a Magdalene laundry in the '80s. Less than a year into their marriage she started having seizures that had no visible physical/neurological cause and couldn't be controlled with meds. Eventually the hypothesis was that the seizures were caused by the trauma she suffered in the Magdalene laundry, but they couldn't figure out how to treat them. By then the seizures had damaged her brain so much that she was functioning on the level of a toddler. There was eventually a new anticonvulsant that came out and was able to control her seizures, but the brain damage was permanent. This wasn't the cause of their divorce -- my teacher stayed married to her for another 30 odd years. He got her in-home care while he was working and took care of her himself when he was home.
The actual cause of the divorce was that my teacher was about to retire, and he wouldn't have been able to afford the level of home care his wife needed on his pension even with him being home more and the government subsidies that are available in our province, so she needed to be placed in a long-term care home. Problem was, LTC homes at the time were prioritizing admitting people with absolutely no potential family support. The fact that they were married would have left her on the wait list for a spot in long-term care for 3 to 7 years. He had to divorce her in order to get her the care she needed.
Pension? Government subsidies? Come to America and we'll show you how do die sick, alone and owing a fortune. We are not allowed by law to discharge medical or student dept, and our government is not allowed to negotiate lower prescription prices. Makes total sense!!!!
Load More Replies...These were "homes" in Ireland for unmarried pregnant women, run by nuns.
Load More Replies...Okay and now we ask ourselfes again, if healtcare (including long term.care) should be i the hands of people who want to generate a financial profit and not a humanitarian profit...but let me guess, thats bad bad socialism and we have to keep obeying the market, because its the reason we all live with all that wealth....a wealth that doesnt even care if you die slow and painfull, because there is more money to be made keeping you aliv.....and now lets keep on praisinge the lord, the lord of money.
Not unusual. People in Indiana, USA are making decisions about marriage based on availability of Healthcare every day. It's heartbreaking. A person in my state cannot receive the medicaid (state health insurance) they need if they have more than $2,000 to their name in any one month. So if they marry someone who is working they lose their life saving medical care.
Or a widow who receives her late husband's social security or veterans benefits - loses them if she remarried. If she finds someone, they lose 50% of their income if they get married.
Load More Replies...My husband has seizures daily & I work from home to take care of him He gets full disability. If god Forbid I was to become disabled we would have to Divorce after over 30 years because they will not pay individual disability checks to married couple even though we both paid in. Him for 30 years before he got sick & I am still paying
you must not be in the US? My husband and I are both on disability....
Load More Replies...I sure hope the Magdalenes, and those higher ups in the Catholic Church who organized the Magdalene laundries—-translation: torture chambers for the most vulnerable—-are all burning right now.
Sadly, that part is fictional also. Justice not done in life is justice lost. IOW, they got away with it.
Load More Replies...Ending a marriage is not an easy decision by any means. But calling it quits with your spouse because they have a strange opinion on COVID or won’t share their Netflix password doesn’t exactly seem like the kind of misunderstanding that warrants a divorce.
To get to the bottom of why this happens, Bored Panda spoke with divorce coach Nawal Houghton.
As it turns out, there’s often more beneath the surface than we realize. “What may seem like a small or random reason for a breakup is usually the ‘last straw’ that reveals deeper, unresolved issues within the relationship,” Houghton explains. “It could be the result of many different problems building up over time, or it might symbolize much larger emotional experiences or simply a breakdown in communication.”
“I’ve had clients in my practice who fought over something as simple as keeping the house too hot or too cold,” she adds. “One partner felt consistently uncomfortable, which in the end left them feeling ignored and uncared for.”
Sometimes, the final argument signals that a person has hit the end of what they can tolerate. As Houghton suggests, we often adapt or put up with things we don’t like for the sake of keeping the peace. But eventually, there comes a point where that’s no longer sustainable.
I don't think it was a divorce but my favorite is still the you smell guy! This guy kept telling his significant other that she stinks. He'd tell her go get a shower, I don't know why I put up with you, you smell so bad etc etc. It had been going on for years and she had seen doctors and other professionals and had even purchased medical grade deodorants and soaps!
She could never smell it so she would ask her friends and then be like you're fine. But the minute her boyfriend/husband/whatever came home he'd be like oh my God you stink. Finally she freaks out and says we just need to break up then because I don't know what's wrong with me and it's clearly making you unhappy and I don't think I stink at all and I've been doing everything I can so we just need to break up!
He breaks down and admits that his dad has done that to his mother their whole married life and told the him to do it to his significant other, I.e the original poster.. because if he could keep her insecure enough she would never leave him. So the whole thing was a lie. She dumped him.
Disgusting, gaslighting a*****e. I had an ex bf who asked me to close my eyes and open my mouth, I thought he was going put a piece of chocolate or fruit in there, like a cute game. He spit in my mouth. I went off the rails, gagging and everything. He said his father told him if he did this, he could make me dependent on him and fall in love with him forever. Forever lasted about 10 minutes before he was out that door.
My ex sometimes did the same, also commenting on my odour. Not all the time, only twice a month or so, but it drove me insane. I didn't have the courage to ask someone else about it, so I just lived with it. Switch to today: my husband, a different person, never mentions anything about my body odour, while my ex has a personality disorder confirmed.
Father doesn't always know best. That guy blew it by listening to his dad.
So the whole thing was a pathetic attempt at control -- "she would never leave him." There are so many other ways to ensure that outcome but they require real, heartfelt involvement with the wellbeing of your spouse. Not magic tricks ffs.
Replace 'magic tricks' with 'abusive behaviour' and I'm 100% with you.
Load More Replies...This story randomly pops in to my head every so often and I’m always astounded at what kind of man would actually take that advice though? Imagine your dad telling you that he has done this to your mother and your first instinct is ‘wow I should also terrorise my wife’ instead of just realising your dad is a giant a-hole?
What an utterly piece of sh*t. Unworthy living with anyone.
Guy I used to work with divorced his wife during her first round of chemotherapy. He explained that her hair had started to fall off and that the perspective of not being able to pull her hair during doggy style for at least two years was too much of a sacrifice. He tried his hardest to play the victim after that when EVERYBODY in the office stopped talking to him.
Sad but not surprising. There is a study evidencing that a woman is six times more likely to be separated or divorced soon after a diagnosis of cancer or multiple sclerosis than if a man in the relationship is the patient, according to a study that examined the role gender played in so-called "partner abandonment." The rate when the woman was the patient was 20.8 percent compared to 2.9 percent when the man was the patient. It is such a significant risk that women are often warned at the time of diagnoses that their partner may leave them.
The study I saw (which might have been the same one) said the man gave three main reasons for leaving: 1) He didn't want to be a caretaker (tho he expected her to be); 2) Her care would become too expensive; and 3) She was no longer sexually available.
Load More Replies...TF?! To me, it is mind-boggling, not the fact that there are shallow people, not really caring.. but that they don't even understand the notion that this is not commonly acceptable , and they just blurt out their bυllshιt as if it's sth cool
Can you imagine the guy out on a date when the woman asks 'So why did you two divorce?' and he trots out that little gem? I think I'd pay to see that scene.
Load More Replies...Anyone suspecting this is fake is naive. A friend of mine had to have breast implants removed due to an infection. She'd been married a number of years. They had three small kids. Husband was upset and they separated because he said he fell for her porn star body and now that she didn't have one, his feelings weren't the same.
I sure hope the judge that granted the divorce was a woman, and made sure his miserable a*s was taken to the cleaners.
Load More Replies...Excuse me? So dude is literally having sex with his sick wife but because he can't experience all he wants to out of a sex position, he's divorcing her in the middle of chemo. Go straight to hell, b***h. f**k you.
sadly not unexpected. 60% or so of women who come down with a serious illness are left by their husbands.
I've talked to many women with cancer, and so many of the husbands will dump their wives. The reverse is not true.
Went on a date one time with a man that had divorced his wife because “she was just sad all the time and I just couldn’t take it anymore. It had been like 3 months and she would still cry when she heard his favorite song”. Her dad had passed from a heart attack at the age of 52 but this man had the audacity to believe “she should have expected it. All parents die at some point”. Yeah sure, maybe if he had been 92 it wouldn’t have been as much of a shock but it would still be something to be sad about and grieve.
I put my head down until I could catch the waiter and then noped the f out of there. Imagine if this man ever found out I had checked myself into the hospital for a 72 hour watch TWO YEARS after my mom passed because the grief finally caught up with me.
My alcoholic ex left me because I became depressed, didn’t like to drink/get drunk everyday and I wasn’t fun anymore. He started dating a woman that is a recovering alcoholic/d**g addict. I heard after 4 months she was back drinking and drugging and he couldn’t be more proud.
We lost my in-laws months apart more than a decade ago. While talking about FIL yesterday, I broke down crying. I was telling a nice story about him and lost it. You never get over it. You just learn how to live with it.
It is ongoing. My father died 40 years ago and my mother died last month. I feel like I will be sad forever.
Load More Replies...It’s great when these out themselves on the first date and save wasting your time
When that stalled grief hits you, it really hits you. Happy to hear you got help and hope you are doing better now.
Same here. My ex didn’t believe that depression was real, and that ‘You decide for yourself to be happy’. After 15 years he called me at work to say he had moved his things out at lunch and was filing for divorce. Oh, and that he had told our son when he dropped him off at school that morning. After a few years of therapy and medication, I discovered that I could be happy. 21 years into the best years of my life now! Single.
So, what else is hiding behind these seemingly trivial reasons for divorce? According to Houghton, financial strain, infidelity, and poor communication are often to blame. However, she’s also seen more unique causes come into play.
One surprising issue Houghton has observed is lifestyle mismatches. “Differences in interests or habits—like one person becoming overly invested in a new diet, religion, or fitness routine—can create tension,” she says. What might start as a harmless personal preference can snowball into a significant source of conflict if the other partner feels left out or pressured to change.
Unmet expectations in daily routines, such as disagreements over household tasks or cleanliness, also play a big role. “In a few cases, couples have even cited unusual sleeping arrangements as a reason for divorce,” Houghton shares. “Whether it involved someone insisting on using dozens of pillows or strange bedtime habits, their incompatibility in sleep became a deal-breaker.”
Saw a story on here about a guy divorcing his wife because she chose to breastfeed her children. Why you ask? Because she was “perverted” and it was “pe**phile-like” of her to allow her newborn to breastfeed because nipples are only for pleasure according to him. Sounds made up but she posted the court documents and everything and it was 100% real. Dudes definitely projecting some inner pedo tendencies.
i actually said that out loud, scrolled down, and saw your comment
Load More Replies...Hope the judge (if there was one involved) granted her full custody and him to pay loads
They did. He looked like an absolute fool in court and all over Reddit. He even tried to claim it's cheating because baby was a boy so she 'had another man sucking her nipples'. I followed the story from the very first post.
Load More Replies...Oh I remember this. He was in the military and he got dishonorably discharged because of his unhinged ranting that breast feeding made kids gay and was sexual assault and he tried to beat his wife to stop her and it was wild.
Wait. What? Where would one find this story? I'm off to Google.
Load More Replies...Does he not wonder why milk comes out of them if they're not for feeding?
I totally agree with the inner pedo tendencies. I met someone (friends only) while diving and we became dive buddies. He'd always call other men "pedophile, pedo, etc. He had a lot more issues going on, but he was good at diving. One day, I decided to Google him. Dude was a pedo. 12 year old little girl. Ended the friendship as soon as I found out. I still feel sick thinking about that. I've done stuff on my end against him, but not willing to share/disclose as of now for my safety since he is 100% crazy. Edit:men, not med.
The saying “takes one to know one” became popular because it’s true. Most likely. Idk for sure but probably lol
Load More Replies...When we fail to teach boys about what the female body does and how it is not just their pleasuredome, this is what we end up with.
Someday I want to know where these ludicrous ideas come from and why males who have NO EXPERIENCE with women are determined to believe they're true.
I had a friend that refused to breastfeed because she said ripples are for pleasure and she just couldn't imagine letting her children suck on them. This friend also refused to vaccinate her kids, but always kept her dogs vaccines up to date. We're not friends anymore
My coworker’s daughter divorced her husband right after their honeymoon because he was so cheap he wouldn’t let her eat out on their honeymoon. They had to get things from the grocery store for the mini fridge and that was all they were allowed to eat because it was a waste of “their” money now that they were married. (But it was fine when she paid for meals out *before* they were married). I think it was technically an annulment.
She didn’t want to be married to a cheap bastard her whole life.
Good move, the fact she paid for them eating out consistently before the wedding though should have been a flaming red flag.
I agree, but at least she figured it out before she financially supported him for a decade or two.
Load More Replies...Sounds like he liked the feeling of being "kept" while she busted her butt earning a living for the both of them. Good for her to drop him and move o n with her life.
I once had a medicine student boyfriend, with richt parents, who tried to pay for my presents myself!!
Of course she’s a sicko. Breasts are for men to enjoy, they are not a mechanism to nourish babies/s
Not downvoting you, but just alerting you to the fact that this comment got lost and belongs on a different post. I hate when this happens to me!
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The couple was actually still in love but one of them became disabled and couldn’t access support benefits unless they were legally single, so….
That's just unbelievable. Imagine having to do that just to get some benefits! I hope the couple got it sorted out and are still happy together.
Happens a lot in the US. My husband and I have one child with severe disabilities and multiple times doctors have suggested we divorce on paper to get better benefits and support
Load More Replies...I know a couple that had to divorce to be able to qualify for health services needed for the severely disabled daughter. The husband made too much money but as a single parent the mom could get benefits. They’re still together but still. Yes, this is the US healthcare at its finest
It's tragically common. For anyone in this position: each spouse can sign a "Durable Power of Attorney" making the other their medical and/or financial proxy in case of need. This can help restore many of the legal benefits conferred by marriage which will be lost in the divorce.
Load More Replies...Yep, the US: Gay bar-owning, older couple fought for the right to marriage for years. One day, one has a brain bleed at the base of his skull. Fortunately, he survived with no lasting effects, except the cost of the experience. Insurance would barely cover the cost as it was nearly a million USD; he had to be destitute to have the government cover the costs, so he had to divorce his partner and sell his business.
That's why we aren't married. 16 years. 2 kids. Still legally "single". People are rude about it.
This happens more than you think. It is very sad to have to break up a family unit all due to being middle class and not able to afford medical coverage.
It had to be here in the US. Our healthcare system is totally f*cked up.
This is the second post I saw like this on here. I dont know which country is this, but this is just plain cruel.
“Some spouses describe a growing emotional distance, where they feel more like roommates than romantic partners,” Houghton notes. “This ‘roommate syndrome’ often feels like a slow, subtle decline in intimacy, but it’s usually what leads to divorce. Even without fights or obvious conflict, the emotional disconnect can become unbearable over time.”
Parenting style clashes can also drive couples apart. It’s normal for partners to have different views on raising children, but when one wants to home-school and the other insists on traditional schooling, or they have opposing approaches to discipline, the relationship can suffer.
Medical bills, so the partner isn’t forced to accept debt after the other’s passing.
As a recent widow, I can tell you that unless your spouse's name is on the paperwork, or they personally signed paperwork stating they would be financially responsible for something, they are under no obligation to pay any of your bills should you pass away. I thought I had to pay for things, but was informed by my lawyer that I wasn't legally obligated unless I had signed for it.
Thanks for adding this! It's very good for everyone to know because debt collectors will call and lie and swear you're liable for the debt.
Load More Replies...If they were married when the debt was taken on, divorcing her won't matter. It's still marital debt (in the US anyway).
Support, benefits, medical bills... this seems to be a recurring theme.
She didn’t like the ghosts that haunted him… he didn’t even believe in ghosts.
I still think the real reason was the dog walker she was banging.
I had to re-read the first line again to get what the heck was going on, meanwhile in the back of my mind I'm trying to figure out what a dog had to do with ghosts haha. The last line really explains a lot.
I knew a couple that were married for years. The wife became pregnant about year 10 of the marriage. Husband left her because he decided the day the baby was born that he didn’t want children.
I despair that many many men act only on what will fulfill their lusts and pretend to love. As soon as their lusts are endangered and their preferred way of life, they just take off. It wouldn't be a big deal except that they marry and claim to love their partner...they know that they are not in love, it's pathetic.
It goes both ways. I have a dear friend with three children, his wife decided she didn't want to be a mom, she wanted to go out and party, so she walked out. He asked me to talk to his oldest about what to do when she started her cycle, and how to pick the right bra size. Back then you couldn't just google it. SO - don't just throw it on men, women do it too.
Load More Replies...Stereotypes becomes stereotypes -- like cliche's -- for a reason. It's because they express something universal and also true. Usually. Sorry for your sake that they exist, but they do.
My niece divorced her husband because he decided their planned-for baby was too much work and interfered with his video games. He seemed normal until the baby was born.
Correction: He was pretending to be normal until the baby was born and his true self came out and showed his fugly face. Fixed it.
Load More Replies...Many of these troubles are symptoms of latent incompatibility, often noticed when it’s already too late. But, as Houghton points out, it’s possible to gauge how well you and your partner truly align before you tie the knot.
“It’s essential to have honest conversations about your core values—family, finances, career goals, spirituality, and social beliefs,” she advises. While personality differences can complement each other, significant misalignment in values can create friction and misunderstandings. Couples should ask themselves: Do we agree on the big things that shape our lives?
Remember to pay attention to how well you communicate. “Before marriage, observe how you and your partner handle disagreements, make decisions, and express emotions,” Houghton suggests. “Are you able to resolve conflicts respectfully and productively?”
Emotional compatibility is just as important. “Some people need verbal reassurance, while others may prioritize physical affection or acts of service,” Houghton says. It’s crucial to understand each other’s emotional needs and make sure you feel safe and supported. And of course, this should go both ways.
This is not the only reason why we divorced, but my former husband and I fought A LOT because I would not make an appointment for him at my gynecologist’s. (I worked in the office.) He was not trans. He had male genitalia. There was literally no reason for him to see a gynecologist. It was a huge bone of contention in our marriage.
Edit: He did not have male breast tissue concerns. His reason was that he thought it was unfair that a doctor could choose to treat women only. He found gynecological science to be discrimination against men. I was never able to convince him that a gynecologist is basically a uterus doctor and there’s no reason for a cis man to see one. In his mind, he was oppressed.
I was the person who answered the phone and set appointments for patients. He didn’t want me to call for him.
Maybe. But at the same time some people are just unbelievably stupid
Load More Replies...Women healthcare is way subpar to general and men healthcare. Talk about being oppressed. I do hope this is a troll post. If it’s not, what the ex needed was a psychologist.
That's sincerely baffling. By his logic, it was also discriminatory that she never had a prostate exam 😅 I feel like if she had brought that up, he would've made it sound like it "wasn't the same thing"
Go ahead and schedule an appointment for him and let the doctor examine his pussy since he clearly is one.
I think when the speculum comes out he'll have a vastly different opinion
Load More Replies...If I were the wife, I would have made the appointment 3-4 months out saying that is the earliest appointment available for new patients. Inform him the doctor doesn’t accept his insurance so he’ll have to pay out of pocket. Then, when and if he actually shows up for the appointment, make him wait a couple of hours in the waiting room because the doctor had an emergency c-section and is running behind. I guarantee you he’ll leave without seeing the doctor and never ask for an appointment again.
Should have made him the appointment and let him get into the stirrups with his junk hanging low for the Dr to tell him he can't access what he needs to.
Or to "scoot down a little more. And a little more." UGH!
Load More Replies...So he was stupid. Divorced him because he was completely stupid! Legit reason to divorce.
A friend of mine divorced her husband over a cocktail.
He didn’t drink. She drank occassationally. They always slip the bill, except if she ordered an alcoholic beverage, then she would pay for it. Ironically, his non alcoholic drinks cost more than her alcoholic drinks. Expensive mocktails, smoothies, etc.
A crowd of about 8 of us went out for dinner. After dinner she ordered her first alcoholic drink, a cocktail. He told the waiter no, cancel it. She said yes she wants it, he said no, she yes, he no, yes, no. This went on for ages and bare in mind, she was paying for it anyway.
She walked out and filed for divorce.
He refused to pay for her dinner, I paid for her and said consider her first divorce present.
"She drank occassationally. They always slip the bill". Looks like OP had tee many martoonies before posting this haha
It's because she's "baring in mind" and the imagined nudity is putting her off.
Load More Replies...The reason one person imposes on the other what to eat/drink etc. is CONTROL.
They didn't divorce because of a cocktail, that was literally just the last straw.
I am sorry, but when a married couple "splits the bill" WTF. How married are you when you are running separate accounts? I know it works for some people, but seems like one foot out the door...
Hey Bored Panda, do you need a remote proofreader? I'm available. Seriously.
No. This is not discrimination. You cannot discriminate against someone for something they don’t have. Men do not have vaginas, a uterus, ovaries or babies.
Her husband was purposely over-tightening every jar of food in the house. She finally snapped after he said he would stop and he started again a few weeks later and she filed for divorce.
The whole “tighten food jars so women ask you for help!” is for one, out dated, for two, sexist, and also, that’s literally so inefficient!
We have a running joke whereby my daughters and I always bring up that they are "strong, independent women" (because they are, but we bring it up in silly situations)... then one day we'd JUST been making that joke and I'd left the room, when one daughter followed me out and sheepishly asked me to undo a jar for her. I said "I thought you were a strong, independent woman who don't need no man?" :D We laughed.
Load More Replies...When someone who is supposed to be your PARTNER acts like your ENEMY it's time to gtfo of the sh1tuation.
F that…they sell jar openers on Amazon…imagine his face when she whips that out 🤣
Imagine this!! Haha or imagine his face when she just throws away all the jars she can't open and makes him buy new ones. He would probably be annoyed by having to pay for new stuff all the time.
Load More Replies...It happens quite often that I struggle with opening jars, I got some weak hand muscles or so, and I asked my husband for help a lot at the beginning of us living together. He opens them, of course, but he prefers to show me tricks and aids to do it myself so I'm not dependent on him being around :)
Washing up gloves are your friend. It's what finally stopped me needing to ask my neighbour to open jars and bottles for me.
Load More Replies...He wants to tighten all the jars so I can’t open them? Then his a*s will be sitting there loosening Every. Single. F*****g. Jar. Every. Damned. Time. He. Pulled. This. Horseshit. so they’re securely sealed but I can still open them. Oh I do hope she had hundreds of jars in the pantry. (Hey guys, looks like horseshit isn’t a censorable word.)
PSA! If a lid is too tight on a jar just jam a butter knife under it as if you wanted to pry it open. Do this until you hear a little psss sound or feel a change in pressure, after that the lid should come off no problem. Funnily enough this trick was taught to me by my bf so I could open anything even if he's not there.
The whole story: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofNoUpdates/comments/1drjb0n/aitah_for_filing_for_divorce_because_my_husband/
Was reposted to BoredPanda here? https://www.boredpanda.com/filling-divorce-husband-over-tightens-jars/
Load More Replies...I read this one on Reddit. She absolutely needed to divorce that guy. I mean, he was actually using a wrench to tighten the jars!
I'd also divorce a man whose masculinity is that threatened by easily opened jars; he sounds like a childish nightmare
What kind of pathetic man would do this? Only one in the world, I hope
Consider your lifestyles—not just your daily habits, but whether your visions for the future align. “This includes things like where you want to live, how you spend your free time, and your views on health, wellness, and social life,” Houghton adds.
Talking about long-term goals is another key step. Ask yourselves: Where do we see ourselves in 5, 10, or 20 years? Think about career paths, having children, travel plans, and even how you envision retirement.
It may seem obvious, but be transparent about your financial expectations. “Discuss how you both approach spending, saving, and budgeting,” Houghton recommends. “Make sure you’re on the same page about financial goals and understand each other’s money habits to prevent future issues.”
Don’t underestimate the impact of physical intimacy. You and your partner should feel at ease talking about and meeting each other’s needs. A strong physical connection, mutual attraction, and satisfaction all play a key role in keeping a relationship solid.
Lastly, take a look at how your partner interacts with their family and friends—and how they engage with yours. “Family and social dynamics can say a lot about how well you and your partner are matched,” Houghton says.
So, if you hear another story about a strange reason someone decided to end their marriage, don’t be too surprised. Chances are, there’s a lot more going on behind the scenes. And as you take the next steps in your own relationship, use this knowledge to build something strong and enduring.
The husband faked having been in the military to impress the wife while they were still dating (her dad was military). He went to great lengths to continue this lie as the relationship progressed. Wore a military uniform to the wedding, faked time lines in his life.
After the wedding he was pressured into getting a GI loan for a house, and that’s when the story fell apart. Turns out he bought the uniform off eBay.
Forgive me if I'm wrong, but isn't it illegal to pretend to be military? Or is it just pretending to be law enforcement?
Pretending to be active military and/or accessing military benefits is illegal. Just pretending you were in the military when you weren't only makes you a lying a$$hole.
Load More Replies...I have a distant great uncle who did this. His wife didn't find out until after 40 years of marriage. When she retired she started doing their family history (something she had wanted to do their whole life and he had actively discouraged). His brother, who had served, passed away (after the war) and he wore his uniform. He even received medals! I am not sure exactly how he did that but I'm guessing record keeping was not great and they relied on stories of which my great uncle had many. It was a massive shock to my grandmother and aunt to learn they were all well researched fabrications. Anyway after 40 years of claiming benefits and a pension my great aunt uncovered the truth. She blew the whistle and initiated divorce. He was arrested and died in jail.
I dated a guy once who did the same thing to me. Thankfully, I detected his b******t a month into dating and broke up with him. I ended up having to get a restraining order because he kept showing up to my work and begging me to take him back.
Stolen Valor. I think that might actually be classified as a crime now.
My wife had a coworker this was happening to, Im a former marine so I can sniff it out when someones military stories don't seem right. The dude was pretending to be a 1st LT in the army, I asked him where he whent to college and he said he hadn't. I called him out right there I said then unless you got a battlefield commission which they don't do those anymore, you are full of s**t. Long story short the coworker married the guy then found out he was full of s**t when she tried applying for tri-care insurance behind his back. As far as I know they are still married....
Semper Fi and hopefully the coworker will come to her senses.
Load More Replies...My ex tried to tell me he had been a Navy Seal and I laughed in his face. He looked shocked (I had seen his discharge papers) and asked what was so funny. I replied, "Pretty sure your IQ has to have three digits". Before I get any haters on this - I had already decided he had to go. Not only was he an idiot, but a) he never mentioned he was Bi-Polar. He told me the pills he had to take daily were for a back injury b) he never mentioned that he and his ex had a child that died c) he also never mentioned he had gone to jail for stalking and harassing her after she broke up with him d) he had her name tattoed on his arm AFTER he got out of jail. I could go on & on. Yes, he did stalk & harass me after I kicked him out. To the point that I bought a gun & learned how to use it. He was finally (after almost a year) arrested when he left detailed death threats against me & my children ON MY ANSWERING MACHINE. Caller ID showed the call had come from his parents house.
There was a story on reddit about a man divorcing a woman, because she lived according to a very precise beige color scheme, and would toss out any item (including baby toys and clothes) that didn't fit that scheme, culminating in a bunch of lovingly knit sweaters the MIL had made. It didn't help that this woman came across as utterly bonkers and abusive. So, that's that.
IIRC she was a wannabe influencer, so it wasn't even as if she had an aversion to colour, she just wanted everything to look just so for her videos and branding. I'm pretty sure that putting things away is an option, but perhaps that never occurred to her.
Load More Replies...It was on BP a month or so ago. Babies need color in their lives.
So now we're doing stories based on retellings of something someone read on Reddit? Gtfo with this nonsense.
Oh yeah, I remember this sad beige mom. She was an Instagram influencer too, so all kinds of red flags.
that's INSANE! and beige is so BORING. and aren't primary colours supposed to help children's mental development. imagine putting a bland aesthetic before children's development and happiness.
I remember this. I think she was an “influencer” trying to maintain an aesthetic.
My ex divorced me after his best friend died of a d**g overdose. He left me to be with his best friend’s girlfriend, he felt he needed to “take care of her” now that his friend was gone. We had only just met her at the funeral. They broke up within 2 weeks.
Something doesn’t add up here. It takes longer the. Two weeks to get divorced.
The ex husband and the girlfriend broke up in 2 weeks not the divorce happened in two weeks.
Load More Replies...My dad did this. His friend died and he left his 3rd wife (my stepmother whom I loved very much) to “take care of” his friends wife now she was alone. I could never figure out the logic. Who was supposed to “take care of” my stepmother now SHE was alone? Just didn’t make sense. I think he had at least met this lady a few times before, but anyway it didn’t last but a few days. My stepmom took him back. She was a saint.
There’s probably an update after the ex-husband’s relationship tanked. Probably along the lines of he knocked on OP’s door saying the usual horseshit that he realized he was stupid and had made a mistake, OP is the only woman he ever loved and he wanted to start over with her, yadda yadda yadda. Of course, OP didn’t take him back or cancel the divorce. She let him stew in the wreckage he created after blowing up his whole life with her so he could f**k his dead best friend’s girlfriend, only for that relationship to implode on its own two weeks later. What a sleaze bag that guy is. OP dodged a real bullet there. I hope she finds a real man who loves her and would never even think of doing that kind of stupid s**t. I also hope her ex never finds another relationship anywhere close to as good as he had with OP. In fact, I hope all the rest of his relationships are temporary, meaning the women break up with him and not the other way around, and that he is made 100% miserable in every single one of them. He deserves more, but that’s just what I came up with off the top of my head.
Call it what it is. He saw the GF and started salivating. In other words, lust.
My dad did something similar. His friend died and he left his wife (3rd wife, my stepmother whom I loved very much) to “take care of” his friends wife. I just couldn’t figure out the thinking at all. Who, then, was going to “take care” of his wife, now she was alone. I do think he had at least met this lady a few times before but still. It didn’t last but a few DAYS and my stepmom took him back, she was a saint.
I'd put money on the girlfriend and ex were doing it before the friend died.
Don't you see how ridiculous you do see yourselves censoring normal words? So guessing the words rather than reading them, makes then different? Do they mean something else if you write them with asterisks?
Man and woman. They have three or four kids. She was a big woman and wasn’t attractive. Husband worships her.
Wife gets cancer. The weight just falls off her. She survives it and a little weight comes back. Suddenly, other men are finding her attractive. She loves the attention. Starts going out to the bars at night and staying out.
One day she sits hubby down. Tells him she can do better than him since she now has more options. Packs her stuff up and abandons hubby and the kids like they had never mattered to her. Not a drop of regret.
She said cancer had given her a second chance at a better life and she wasn’t going to waste it.
So after he cared about for her throughout the cancer treatments, she decided she deserved an upgrade?
Haha this is basically my cousin. She was married with 4 kids (two sets of twins) her husband was a nice hardworking type guy they were well matched bigger people kinda on the dumb side but happy. My cousin got an inheritance from her rich grandmother (the non related side to me) got some lipo suction Botox got her boobs done the whole nine yards. Left her husband and the kids in the lurch as she moved across the country to be with some new guy. Basically it didn't work out for her, the guy wasn't rich like she thought and got sick of her real quick. Her now ex husband wouldn't take her back and stuck her with child support, everyone in my family thinks he is awesome and she deserves her new lonely life.
Years ago I read about a man who was born blind and when he was older an operation became available to restore his sight. The surgery worked and he could see. He divorced his wife because he said he didn’t realise she was ugly until he saw her. Not sure if it’s true though.
There's a (made up) rule: Conservation of malignancy. Malignant People Don't Get Cancer. This one would be an exception.
Mormon couple I knew had an *extreme* lack of sex ed. As in, they didn't know a thing about it even on their wedding night.
Their expectation was that they would get married, get naked and lay next to each other on the bed, and God would do magic-something for the pregnancy to happen.
When nothing happened, the dude actually went out and got advice from a male friend of his about what *should* have been happening. That's literally the moment that he learned penetration would be a thing.
They were both so disgusted by the idea that they had their marriage annulled the next day.
Religion is codified ignorance, asserted as a virtue.
Load More Replies...Frankie Boyle describes it best: you want me to put my ding-a-ling in your fairy cave? ARE YOU MAD WOMAN????
Good old cults ahem I mean Mormons religion messing everything up since it's founding
They were both disgusted? They prob should have stayed together then and had a platonic asexual relationship
Looking at the median family size for Morman couples, I think most of them have figured it out.
My first thought too. If they were both Ace they should have stay married if it was otherwise a happy, loving relationship.
Load More Replies...My professor of Catholic law was a judge also at Milan. He recounted that he had many cases like that.
I know a couple for whom the last straw was my father making a joke at the wife's expense, and the husband laughing at the joke.
For context, they'd been on the rocks for a while but were doing counseling etc to try to save the marriage. At their son's birthday party, my dad was lighting the candles. The wife asked, "why did you start from the edge instead of the middle?"
Dad said, "I was worried you'd have nothing to complain about."
The husband laughed, the wife stormed out, and they divorced.
Based on what exactly? One anecdote from a kid who happened to be privy to a third person (who was not a party to the marriage) making 'joke' about women complaining? Yep. Sounds like a fair judgement to me.
Load More Replies...Sound like the two men may have been belittling her behind her back for some time, saying things like that. And this time it just slipped out, but it showed her the true face of her husband!
That sounds like a stretch. I'd wager that she really is a bit of a complainer and feels like he never took her seriously. And got mad when she felt like it was confirmed
Load More Replies...I can't understand why a question suddenly qualifies as a complaint. (IMO lighting from the edge is a little strange, in that you'd be reaching over the lighted candle flames to finish lighting the ones in the middle.) If both men are ganging up on the wife, it means the real subject isn't whether she complains or not, it means the husband isn't what I'd call really married. I can see why they'd have been "on the rocks for a while."
The father's response implies that her complaints were neither infrequent or reasonable.
Load More Replies...Good for her. Husband sounds horrible. And it's a good question she asked. I would also have wondered.
It sounds like the husband has been telling the OP's father that his wife is always complaining; perhaps it's the talking behind her back she objected to, not the laughing at the joke
I know a couple who had different opinions regarding coronavirus and ended up divorcing over it.
My friends now ex-husband wouldn’t let her wear a mask when they went out, during the pandemic. He told her she looked ridiculous it was embarrassing. He claimed the ‘China virus’ was a hoax and was sucking down horse dewormer. Guess who got Covid, spent weeks in the hospital and almost died?? He’s never completely recovered.
Wow, im thankful my parents forced me and my siblings to wear masks when we went out, and even had me wear one at home when i was exposed once
Load More Replies...I'm glad my wife and I agreed on it. We both wore masks when out in public, and both got vaccinated as soon as we qualified.
I was still in prison when COVID came. The prison quarantined everybody. The counselor (staff) on my floor lost a perfectly healthy friend from it. I don't know about the other floors, but she made sure our floor was compliant-- and she told us why. She earned my respect for that. The prison provided the paper masks, and gave us several each week. When that proved too expensive (I assume) we were given washable cloth ones. When the vaccine came out, we were offered it. (I don't know if anyone was given boosters, but I should think so). I didn't trust the prison staff to know how to safely store the vaccines or to get them from a reliable source. I also didn't trust that the staff, even the medical staff, didn't know what was in them. We were just told they were safe. I didn't get the vaccine. When I was released, one of the first things I did was to go get my vaccine. I got my boosters, and all is well. I will say that a friend of mine in the prison who did get the vaccine survived her bout of COVID.
Between coronvirus and these elections, it's a wonder more relationships haven't fallen apart.
We still wear masks if we're sick. My daughter recently had a really bad cold. I had a couple of appointments and had no idea if I was going to get her cold and was possibly already contagious and able to spread it. So, I masked up to minimize spreading it--just in case. Good thing I did because I'm currently sitting here pretty damn sick. We lived in Japan for 10 years where it is the norm to mask up when you're sick.
So he lived, but did he learn? I somehow doubt it. Facts are futile against feelings.
I knew three people who dies of Covid. One was travelling in Italy and came home just as it started, one pe-vax developement, and one after the vax came out (she was vaccinated). All people with no health issues.
My mate teared up during the ceremony apparently it was unmanly and she got the "ICK".
I love the pictures of my husband crying during our wedding ceremony. It makes me feel so loved.
Women that think men shouldn't cry for happiness or intense sadness are the worst.
He should have punched her in the shoulder, belched, and then banged her sister. Much more manly.
My family actually has a Family Law Firm, so I grew up with strange stories of divorce.
Strangest reason for a divorce? Wife didn’t like that husband made her ex (previous marriage) look pathetic to Wife’s family during a holiday bbq. Apparently, Husband was noticeably better with the grill than Ex and Wife felt that Husband had emasculated Ex on purpose. And before anyone says it, no Wife was not having an affair with Ex, she was having an affair with her stylist.
Dumbest reason for a divorce? Husband idolized his own father, so when his parents got divorced because his Dad thought his wife was getting old and he should find a young trophy wife (Spoilers: He Didn't). Husband filed for divorce so he could act as his Dad's wingman without any guilt.
Men have two heads and only enough blood for one of them…
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Maybe because they see rich old celebrities with young attractive wives?
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The wife was obsessed over toilet paper usage, and would listen in when the husband was going to the toilet to see how many pieces he used.
The panic during the great toilet paper shortage was real lol
Load More Replies...If the wall holder/hook is squeaky at all, you'll hear it in the next room without trying, every time the person turns the roll. And it can't be fixed with oiling it, most of the time, due to the construction.
Load More Replies...I have a 13yo with (diagnosed) OCD and we have what I presume to be the opposite problem (strictly speaking, OP doesn't say whether the wife was concerned with using too much or too little, but I read it as the former). You wouldn't believe how much paper it can take for someone with OCD to believe they are clean (if they don't end up just showering). Or how many times I've had to unclog the toilet.
Load More Replies...Somehow my oldest son got the idiot idea in his head that you only need 3 squares each time.
He refused to share the Netflix password... yup, that was the final straw.
I have a friend who divorced with this as one of the many, many examples of emotional abusive control he was exerting over her and their children. She lives like one born again, now - she’s so happy to be in control of her self now and have her own passwords and accounts.
It seems very weird to not share your Netflix password with your spouse, I can't think of any legitimate reason for it.
Load More Replies...I think we need more info before judging this one because if they didn't already have one joint bank account, maybe they agreed that streaming sites would come for their own individual accounts, in which case he shouldn't have to share. On the other hand, if it was indeed the final straw that probably wasn't the case and he was just a controlling bastard.
He ate meat. She was vegan. They had separate grills. He cooked burgers on hers while she was gone.
I'll bet he did this rather than clean his own grill...don't blame her for losing it if she came home to 2 grills stinking of meat and covered in rendered fats.
I'm decidedly not vegan, but I agree with you. If she doesn't force him to be vegan, he should be able to respect her diet choices.
Load More Replies...I would divorce somebody over this. I also wouldn’t be vegan, but if I was & my a*****e of a husband thought it would be funny or was just too lazy to clean his Grill, then he’s doing it to be a f*****g a*****e and he doesn’t deserve to be married
That was spiteful, inconsiderate and disrespectful and probably only one example of his behavior toward her.
I mean I bet they share plates and silverware and meat touches that. A grill can also be cleaned. Unless he did it out of spite. Hm.
Im not vegan, im not trying to be rude but what do vegans grill anyway? Veggies? Like cant that just be done inside? Again, not being rude just confused
Load More Replies...I think that a lot of relationships where you have a stark difference in views are doomed from the start. Vegan and non-vegan is just one example. In those cases it's never "us", it will always be "his" or "hers".
Not necessarily I'm a vegetarian and my fiance eats meat well not so much anymore but that was his choice I don't push my views on anyone
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I have a distant relative, they divorced because the wife slept too much.
There are places called Sleep Labs that could have checked and seen if she had Narcolepsy.
I have chronic fatigue and sleep loads. Fortunately my hubby likes his own company and needs time to himself, so it works for both of us.
"Intolerable puns" was listed in the divorce paperwork.
If my parents were to ever get divorced that would probably be in their paperwork as well. My dad is truly awful with the jokes and puns. But she's survived 54 years already so I think she just accepts it as a part of life. :) We all make sure to roll our eyes and groan whenever he busts one out, but the man is terminally undiscouraged.
Did they not date before marrying? I would think this would have been on display before they got married.
In the haze of being 'in love' you think you can tolerate it...
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She accused him of banging his boss.
As she was a relative we believed her, but I bumped into the bloke a few years later and it turned out he had evidence of her sleeping with at least four different guys whilst they were married. She made up the story to safe face.
That was one awkward Christmas afterwards….
Have to admit, imagining a "safe face" and not save face made me chuckle to myself. I wonder what a safe face looks like? Best not ask the BBC as they clearly haven't got a clue 🤣
One of my uncles. His first wife filed for divorce after he took a bite of a sandwich she'd made herself.
Now I guarantee there were other problems in that relationship, but that was apparently the final straw.
How many of these are about the "thing" but really, about something so much deeper than the "thing".
And it's about how many times they already discussed this "thing" - if this is the 100th time this has happened after discussing it 99 times with no good results, it's time to leave.
Load More Replies...I had a friend who would take a bite out of everything I ate, like when we went out together, and who also raided my kitchen when she was invited to my home, like opening a cupboard, saying "I need something sweet!" and taking out some chocolate or something. I am all in for sharing cool new food or expressing your needs, but this was downright rude and I just hate to have bites taken out of my food instead of sharing it with a fork or the hands. Also I want to be asked. We are not friends anymore, to no surprise.
I totally get this one. My soon to be ex whines and complains about how this is HIS house, and we're using HIS money, but every single thing of mine is OURS. Doesn't even ask. Just takes.
I used to have a book with short, supposedly true snippets that had all been posted in newspapers, and the collaborators verified as true. One man shot and killed his wife at the dinner table, ate, then called the police to turn himself in. When asked why he murdered her, the man said she was always making green beans for supper. "Wouldn't you be mad," he asked the officer, "if you had to eat green beans all the time?"
I think these are the straw that broke the camels back.. But one thing I always hate is when a partner eats MY food or drinks my drink when they have their own. Drives me insane.
Narcissistic, toxic, abũsive àrsehole ex used to do it on purpose everywhere we went 😡
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In the paperwork for my divorce the reason down is that i did not make her a cup of tea.
Im from the UK.
Last I heard that's an offence punishable by death so guess you got off lightly
It clearly states in the Magna Carta, if thou is makest a cuppa, makest me one too.
Load More Replies...A bit off the path, but I would love to have a proper cup of tea. As an American I feel like it just isn't done right here. Maybe I'd love tea if I could get the right blend, made the right way.
A friend of a friend moved back to his country after deciding that he doesn’t want to pay taxes in wife‘s country and support its welfare state. They had two children in school and his wife obviously didn’t want to uproot her life for such a stupid idea. They divorced shortly after.
And now he pays child support. At least I hope he does, even if it’s automatically deducted from his paycheck and sent to her because he can’t be trusted to not become a deadbeat dad.
Would depend on the country he fled to and which country she's in.
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I heard from a friend was because one partner refused to share their collection of rare rubber ducks. It sounds odd, but it became a major issue that led to their separation.
I had to look that up. It's insane: https://lasvegassun.com/news/1999/nov/05/judge-plays-solomon-with-beanie-babies/
Load More Replies...Now in my head is running that song Ernie sang on Sesame Street - "Rubber ducky, you're the one / You make bath time lots of fun / Rubber ducky, I'm awfully fond of you / ..."
If you've put a lot of time and effort (and probably money) in to collecting something, I understand not wanting to share.
In addition, the stress, confusion, upheaval and "disbelief" during a divorce - especially one that is unexpected - can make people do things that they never dreamed they would do.
Load More Replies...What is the deal with the rubber duckies? I see multiple vehicles with rubber duckies on the dash in my town of 2500. Pandas who live in bigger areas is this a thing or just some weird WI thing? Thanks
It is a Jeep thing started a few years back. Mainly to show appreciation to a modded Jeep, mostly among Wranglers. Like with Wranglers there is the wave which dates back to post WWII.
Load More Replies...The wife got a visa to Australia but he didn't. They were trying to leave communist Poland together so she went ahead with their small child. By the time he was able to join them they'd grown so used to being apart they just didn't want to be married anymore. They're still very close friends but both remarried and live separately.
Bureaucracy being a reason for divorce seems a little silly, but at least it worked out OK for them in the end.
Load More Replies...I had friends of whom the wife wanted to move back to New Zealand. There was a weight requirement, can't weigh more than X#. The husband either couldn't or wouldn't lose the weight. She took the two kids and moved anyway. The husband didn't care after a while.
I knew a couple who had been together for more than 20 years, but all of a sudden, they both filed for divorce because they argued about where to put their toothbrushes in the bathroom
They have 3 kids, never went to marriage counseling, and both have successful careers and are very popular in their communities
I’m fairly certain there’s more to the story than that.
Succesful careers? Could have had separate bathrooms? There is undoubtedly more to the story than that....
I don't know if it works in english, but in german there's a difference between reason and cause. The cause of the divorce here were the toothbrushes, but the reason(s) were sure something else.
I have a friend who got thrown to the curb because his now ex-wife's new cat did not like him.
Ah, you say that but our cat seems to love me... and I'm a total bastard.
Load More Replies...Okay, I love pets, and I would never choose a new partner over a pet. But being married and divorcing your partner because of a NEW pet? Unless the husband was mistreating the cat, I can’t agree with that priority. Or maybe it was just an excuse and the underlying reason was something else.
Sometimes it's just a mix of showing to the pet who's boss, and at the same time that you like them and they don't have nothing to fear from you. I adopt a black cat that at 1st hated me. Now she's even jealous of me whem I play with my other cat.
Load More Replies...My cats hate my mother, but I won't stop talking with her... some cats are just temperamental like that.
One of my mum's cats hated me. There were 4 raised from kittens (we bred the mother once) whilst I was still in the house. I played with all kittens and treated them the same. When my parents split, they kept 2 cats each and from then one of them hated my irrationally whilst the other was always happy to see me. Both cats my dad kept were always happy to see me too.
Load More Replies...We had a cat - one that my then-girlfriend had brought home as a surprise - that would get into the bed, climb over me, and then climb atop my girlfriend and pee on her. This happened several times. After we broke up and before my ex moved out, the cat came with me and slept beside me in the bunk bed in our daughter's room. She never peed on me, ever. I should have listened to the cat much sooner. Rest in peace, Bastet. (My ex deserves no rest.)
They divorced over a game of monopoly the both thought they were cheating at monopoly it escalated to shouting then fighting until the both got mad and started sawing furniture in half. Three days later divorced, she lives in France, he lives in Botswana now.
This is the exact plot of a National Film Board of Canada animated short called The Big Snit, with the exception of them moving to Botswana and France. Including the sawing of furniture. We've been had! lol
My sister and her husband originally got together over cheating at Monopoly. We were playing with my then boyfriend, his cousin, and mine and sister's parents. Sister has the role of bank, passed the cousin sneaky hundreds under the table because she fancied him. 19 years later they're married with 2 kids. We still have regular family board game nights (no cheating allowed!)
They got married in college and divorced by the time he got into medical school her reasoning “he doesn’t make any money” the guy is a heart surgeon in Chicago now.
Not technically a divorce, but I knew a long-term couple that broke up because he insisted that she should be the one to buy condoms for him...like, if she wouldn't buy condoms for him, she was showing she wasn't committed to the relationship. They are both insane, but what a weird reason to end a years-long relationship over.
leave canoes out of it! They’re the innocents in this whole thing 😅
Load More Replies...A coworker thought it was strange that her husband divorced her. After their son was born, she informed her husband that she would be focusing on their son for the next 18 years, and would get back to him after. She was so confused by the divorce.
Why are people reading this as he isn't paying attention to the child. To me it sounds as if she said she will solely focus on the child and neglect her relationship with her husband in favor of the child no wonder she was confused.
This seems a little vague. Did she mean that she will prioritize her child's needs as he grows? Or that she will grey rock her husband and then give him acknowledgement after the kid becomes an adult?
She’s sounds unhinged but I hope they tried counseling first. Sometimes first time pregnancies muck up your emotions for a bit, maybe she was just overwhelmed
Nope. If she loses focus on the marriage, that marriage will not be there when the kid is grown.
Load More Replies...Not that I'm defending that nutjob lady, but no matter how crazy and undeserving she is: the guy still has responsibilities to HIS kid. Since nutjob will likely take custody and be the major care giver his paying alimony is justified.
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Realizing that the wedding ring was not fancy enough (my mother in-law's friend).
Mine was a $200 simulated sapphire from Sears. Years later, he wanted to "upgrade" me. Nope, love the one he proposed with. It's not about fancy
Hell, I never even had an engagement ring, just a wedding band, and it doesn’t matter a damn to me. I got a good husband, and that’s all I care about (married 24 years next May).
Used to work with a woman about 20 years ago that had a $4,000 bridal set. She told me that she wanted an upgrade at 5 years. To me that says your rings mean nothing to you except how much they cost and how big the stones are. I can guarantee that my 1/5 carat means more to me than all of her expense c**p does. Single diamond on a thin band and my wedding band is also narrow with a migraine edge. Would I have liked a little bit of a bigger stone, yes but he got what he could afford and I wouldn't have changed it for anything in the world.
Some people are as shallow as oil on water.
Load More Replies...my engagement ring was $4 from one of those walmart spinners... my wedding ring, we upgraded to a $40 ring.. 21 years later.. still think saving the money for things like, ya know.. a house.. was a better choice...
Mine came from a p**n shop (we had almost no money at the time) and I wouldn't trade it for anything.
i really hope you wrote p**n shop and not what BP censored edit* p a w n
Load More Replies...My engagement ring is a £200 second-hand diamond solitaire and I love it. The stone is very small but has great colour and clarity. I hate big, bulky rings on me as I have tiny hands and I'm very clumsy (would probably break the ring or catch it on stuff).
My hubby bought me a small diamond ring that when the light hit it right you could see a big dark blotch in the center. Once seen, couldn't be unseen so we returned that one and I picked out another - it was pricier, but the ring I'd always dreamed of so naturally I helped pay for it.
I never got a ring until we'd been married 15 years. It wasn't the most conventional of weddings.
The husband of my sister cheated on her more than once. Every time they got back together and finally married and had kids.
She wanted couple counseling to flat out some problems they had (he wasn't able to get the money together and bought nice things for himself, she earned more than him, he was a man child and didn't help much in the household, he often was mean to the kids.
Finally HE divorced on Christmas eve because SHE doesn't have trust for him. Left her in debt, git together with another woman two weeks later. Today (circa one and a half years later) both kids don't want to visit him anymore because they eventually realized what an idiot he is.
Gee, thanks a lot Mom, for letting that f*****g idiot contribute half my DNA.
Some people are just sperm donors, and others are just incubators. Unfortunately we don't get to choose.
Load More Replies...I know a girl who met her truest love on WoW. She moved from CA to like the Midwest to be with this dude and start their "amazing life". At some point during wedded bliss she started an argument with members of her guild that boiled to the point where she insisted her man defend her from these online meanies. As he was a real adult he told her to handle it on her own, so she left. 10/10 romance.
My husband and I both play WoW whenever we have the time. Every Sunday we team up and play together. I have various Guilds (I'm an altoholic, and have two accounts worth of characters) but the only Guild members are our own characters :) Seems to work for us - but then, we've only been doing this for the past 34 (thirty four) years...
huh. She did it wrong. I'm a gamer. Have my hubby in my guild? Never. The one game we played together he was in another guild so we could take out our aggression on each other in the game rather than in real life. Was kinda fun.
I had á friend like that. She used to pick fights on Facebook and then begged me to stand up for her. Just so stupid and wonder why we are not friends anymore?
When I worked in mortgage, I facilitated at least 3 divorces so people could qualify for loans.
A woman divorced her husband because he insisted on eating peas with a knife—talk about a cutting-edge reason.
Sounds like he read the same poem I did, in my 4th grade reading book. "I eat my peas with honey; I've done it all my life. It makes the peas taste funny, but it keeps them on my knife." This is the only poem I (F59) have ever memorized and I memorized in 4th grade.
I don't know who the poet is, but it sounds like something Pam Ayres would write.
Load More Replies...My Dad loved peas and my mom hated them. So to "keep the peas" (pun intended) she would slide them under her mashed potatoes. Discoved she liked them that way and ate them like that until the day she passed!
But the knife should never be in your mouth. As for licking the knife, yuck.
I don't have a source. But I read a story about a couple in rural Pakistan (I think). Per the rules, if either spouse says the word "Divorce" three times, then they are divorced. Period.
Well apparently they were in bed and the husband talks in his sleep a bit. And the wife heard him say "divorce" three times. So she wakes him up to tell him he just divorced her. He calls it nonsense as he was sleeping and nothing said while sleeping counts. She argued it did.
Long story short, they went to the village elders for a decision. They said that they were, in fact, now divorced. (Ex) husband says he doesn't want to divorce her, he loves her. They said that didn't matter, they're now divorced. He asks if he can just remarry her right there. They say he can't. He has to marry someone else first, and then divorce her. Only then can they remarry.
I often tell people no divorce was ever a bad idea... except that one.
It's called talaq and it's a divorce in Islam. In order for him to marry her again she had to marry another man and divorce him. Just to clarify. The elders are wrong because anything uttered in sleep, anger or being forced doesn't count. She, the wife, can't marry a man say then i want a divorce and go back to her first husband. She has to make a go of the marriage.
Marriage and, by extension, divorce are very odd things really. Animals don't need to do it to be monogamous, so why do we? It's all rooted in some sort of religion, no doubt.
Religion and other social norms. But most of the world didn't have codified and commonplace legal marriage as we understand today until the last 150 years or so. Most Americans would probably be quite surprised to learn that their great or great-great grandparents were never "legally" married.
Load More Replies...My Grandmother was married like 5 times. One guy was really tall and when she moved in, the kitchen cabinets were installed really high. He didn’t want to adjust, so she left him.
My grandparents were both short, so when my grandad built their house, he made the cupboards and benches lower. It was so nice when my parents bought the place from them because we could all use the kitchen with ease. Since moving out it has been difficult for me to use kitchens easily and my back hurts if I have to cut things at the benches for too long. I would find it very difficult to live in a place with higher benches and if my partner refused to have once that were in the middle ground I would consider breaking up too.
When my wife (a PhD researcher) and I (academic endocrinologist) had our house built, 50 years ago, we had the kitchen counters made 3 inches (7.6 cm) higher than usual, since that was laboratory countertop height. It just felt more "normal" to us. And when visiting other people, their kitchen counters seem too low. They were designed for the circa 1900 5' tall housewife.
Load More Replies...If he made it difficult for her to function in her new home, especially if she was expected to be the one to primarily use the kitchen to cook for them, she must've felt like it was still "his" home and not "their" home. If you won't bend to accomodate someone you love and their needs/accessibility, do you even love them?
My mom got in a fight with her first husband and threatened to divorce him. He said, "you wouldn't divorce me," and she said, "oh yes I would!" And told me she marched downtown and filed because he didn't take her seriously.
Luckily, she married my dad and I'm here but she always loved him and regretted that. And yes, she has an (undiagnosed) personality disorder from my viewpoint.
He refused to shave off his beard.
I'm sure there was more to that story, but that apparently was the relationship's coffin nail.
To be honest beards are one my icks. They feel disgusting to kiss and they give me a rash. I never dated men with beards for this reason - I dont want to kiss them. I was pretty honest with my husband when we met (he was clean shaven). I told him I can't stand kissing beards and moustaches and that if he ever decided to grow it out I would not be kissing him. Thankfully he feels the same way about facial hair so we are safe from divorce but honestly if he had grown it out, knowing how I felt about it and knowing the impact it would have on intimacy in our relationship, I'd probably consider walking because it would likely be a symptom of broader issues.
He feels the same way about facial hair? He doesn't want you to grow yours out either? :D
Load More Replies...Nasty, smelly, full of ancient rancid food, and not taken care of—-and he refuses to get rid of it because he obviously can’t take proper care of it? Oh hell no. Yuck, we’re done. Neat, clean, soft, good smelling, extremely well taken care of—-and looks incredibly good on him? Oh hell yes! Put that razor away baby! In other words, beards don’t bother me as long as they’re kept neatly trimmed and are extremely well taken care of. In fact, there are many men whose well cared-for beards make them look extremely dashing and sexy. Scraggly and smelly emphatically does not, and can go TF away, and take their scraggly s**t smelling facial c**p with them.
I can understand this at the same level men can't stand women with hairy armpits and legs. I do wonder how intimacy works with a beard...are there certain acts he expects of her but that are very unhygienic and therefore not reciprocated by him? I've heard this as an issue in relationships and, well, there ya go.
My man has a bigger beard than pictured and we have no problems with any sex acts. His biggest problem is eating tacos, tbh. (And I like to tease him by eating the crumbs from his beard!)
Load More Replies...I heard a story once about a woman who had never seen her husband without a heavy beard. One day, he shaved it off to surprise her. Turns out, the guy was very unattractive and the wife divorced him because she felt he had deceived her about his looks. She was afraid her kids would look like him.
I had to beg Hubby to grow a beard. But to be fair, he worked for years at a business that didn't allow beards, only mustaches (food service), and wasn't sure he'd like facial fur. But I have my scruffy guy at last! He really likes the freedom from the daily razor.
A uni friend got divorced because her husband left desiccated coconut on the sofa after he ate a snowball (chocolate covered marshmallow covered in the coconut).
She was married 2 months.
I'd put money on it not being about the coconut couch and the fact that he treated their home like a hotel and his wife like a maid.
You seem to have an awful lot of misandrist opinions you're keen to share... it could be as simple as he's untidy and she isn't. It doesn't have to be anything to do with him treating her like a maid or expecting her to clean up after him. You'd berate others for drawing such a conclusion with so little evidence, but you're happy to do it yourself as long as it's an assumption the man is at fault.
Load More Replies...Had he used napkins, or a bowl, or some other container to catch the escapees, and there were a few pieces of coconut that escaped? Or did he just act like a child who knew Mommy would clean it up?
I agree it's ridiculous, but desiccated coconut does get bloody everywhere is you spoil some. You'd be finding it in uncomfortable places for weeks. (I love the stuff!)
My ex husband got remarried fairly quickly and after not knowing the woman very long. My kids never liked her very much but she was kind to them and they were trying to get to know her. He divorced her after less than a year and told everyone it was because she is a “flat earth believer”. 🤯🤦🏻♀️ .
How are you with people being partially delusional? /jk
Load More Replies...These things seem quirky and minor but honestly living with a science denier or an extreme political believer etc is exhausting and embarrassing in alot of social circumstances, I can see this being an ultimate deal breaker easily.
Yup - but seeing as these deep-rooted beliefs tend to show (if it's important to them they're gonna talk about it, be it religion, engineering , gardening, or whatever) I struggle to see how they even got together in the first place.
Load More Replies...I have learned that, when it comes to stating reasons for the divorce, you will get completely different answers from each party. Sometimes all they have in common is both being lies.
that's what happens when you try to get a rebound marriage and don't actually date someone for a while to get to know them.
Guy absolutely hates *Star Trek* and refuses to have it in the house. Girlfriend loves sci-fi and *Star Trek* specifically. They get married. Naturally, girl wants to watch *Star Trek* but new husband won't let her. They divorce some time later.
I love star trek, I would definitely divorce if my partner banned me from enjoying a show I loved in my own home. It was not about star trek, it was coercive control and devaluing what makes her happy.
All this, bar the fact it would be about Star Trek for me. And the Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. And of course Asimov.
Load More Replies...Refusing to have Star Trek in the house would be a red flag. So go watch it in the garage! But there is no rational solution to anything when one of the two wants to have ETERNAL CONTROL.
If he hated it and she loved it why tf did they get married in the first place?! Stupid is as stupid does i guess
Mature people banning each other from watching films on the telly? Unveliebable. By mature, i meant grown-ups.
Reminds me of my first bf. I was 17 and he was 27. I moved in with him and he then tells me that I cannot listen to the cds I got with the Beatles because he didn't like their music. But he thought it was fine to have me listen to his sh1tty music every day. Some was even songs intended for children/preteens and sung by preteens. 🙄 that relationship forced me to lose my obsession with the Beatles.
Used to work with a guy who liked star wars; his wife liked star trek. When they went to cons, he'd want to dress as a storm trooper from SW but she'd force him to wear a Klingon costume from ST. She had a photo of him in it and would show anyone, even complete strangers, who'd so much as give her the time of day. Felt bad for him honestly. Dunno if they're still together.
Long ago, like waaay back when i was just a tiny little pre-license, i had a couple who had differences about what the dude ate.
not because it smelled weird when cooking. not because it violated her religious beliefs or something. no, it was just the IDEA of him eating bacon, pork, ham, etc...and she wasn't jewish or muslim.
i suspected this issue was cloaking something much deeper, but i never got to find that out. i saw them for 3-4 sessions and they vamoosed, and about 2 months later she emailed saying sorry, but they'd had a huge fight over the easter ham and she'd had enough, she filed for divorce.
it takes all kinds to make the world go round, i guess.
I got divorced from my partner for tax reasons. Her employer sent her on a prolonged work assignment to Belgium, which requires both spouses in a marriage to declare tax (in Belgium), regardless of whether they live there. Neither one of us wanted to deal with the extra tax complexity, and we had gotten married mostly because we thought it might make life easier should we have moved to a country where there would be tax benefits etc. Ironically, the crazy Belgium tax system was the exact opposite. I don't remember the exact duration, but I think we were only married for about 6-9 months.
We stayed together as a couple for several more years but ultimately split up for other reasons.
As a belgian i agree, belgian administration is insane, complicated and slow. It's the country of surrealisme and not only for it's Art
Add "insanely expensive" especially for single people. Half my paycheck goes to the government. ( another Belgian citizen )
Load More Replies...My uncle and aunt got married for similar reasons (but are still married because they love each other, they just wouldn't have legalised it if they didn't need to). They were moving to Italy where she could teach at an international school. If they didn't get married he wouldn't have been able to get a visa. They also could moved after 5 years so they didn't have to pay taxes in Italy. Good thing they were married because they then moved to Oman (where she could teach again) because they wouldn't have recognised them as a couple. As it was, he wasn't allowed to get a job, because only one partner is allowed to if they are immigrants.
But, if you have evidence you have already paid tax on the money in the country you earned it in, then surely you can claim exemption, they can't seriously tax you again?
Only if there is a double tax treaty with the other country. Belgium has a double tax treaty with a lot of other countries but I suspect its more about 'declaring the income" rather than paying the tax. Even if there is a tax treaty in place, you still have to declare income even if its not taxable. It can get complicated.
Load More Replies... I saw an AITAH post yesterday where the guy wanted a divorce and was questioning the paternity of his child after his wife (who has been entirely faithful for more than a decade) went to a bachelorette party with a stripper there.
In fact most of the weirdest reasons for divorce I read about on there.
Also saw a Reddit post where male strippers said that 85% of the time, the bachelorette did something that would be considered cheating. I'd wager it's roughly the same proportion in the other direction. Having a stripper at your stag/hen do is nearly always a mistake.
It's been almost exactly 5 years since the divorce, but if you ask my step-dad today why my mom left him, he'll tell you "she left me because of socks". He's convinced she left him because he refused to pick up his socks. No matter what literally anyone says, he'll say it was because of socks.
It was as much the socks as it was the Iranian yogurt(tho it was actually closer to the mustard post). Dude was an abusive POS and I thank a god I don't believe in that she finally got away.
Hard to believe how many marriages have been destroyed by Iranian yogurt.
I know a couple that were married then divorced to keep a rent stabilized apartment low. 4 Bed Room + 2 Bath + 1 Parking in the heart of the NYC. Rent today is $635.18. Had they stayed married - $2,400 a month.
So I looked up rent stabilization in NYC. Adding a spouse to a lease will not increase the amount, other than the normal increase allowed at lease renewal. I'm betting this is Section 8 housing, which is subsidized housing for lower income families, especially with children (4 bedrooms), and a single parent with a single income. You add another income to the mix, of course you're going to pay more, that's more income coming into the household. And you can't even find a one bedroom for $2400, let alone a four bedroom, two bath with parking at that deal.
I live in subsidized housing in Arizona, so it might be different, but if you move someone into your apt, even if you're not married, their income counts against you. If I moved a bf in, married or not, they're subject to the same rules I am. They get background checked, have to give up all financial records, and then they would charge according to our combined income. And if we made over the amount, which is what happened with my last bf, then you either can't live together or you move out. And, at least here, there's no secretly living together, they inspect the apartments every 6 months, and management lives on property.
Load More Replies...Certain apartments in New York have strict laws about how much you can charge in rent making them far below normal cost. But usually you have to inherit it and there are lots of rules around who can have it. They probably discovered you couldn't be married and keep it
Load More Replies...I heard of a couple who couldn’t decide if their kid should go to public or private school. Divorced over it. Still didn’t solve the problem.
This sounds like a fundamental values problem rather than which school the child should attend.
Yes, and definitely something they should have talked about before marriage. My brother and his partner recently asked my mum about what she thought was better and then no doubt discussed it between themselves because they want to know ahead of time what the pros and cons are and if they are on the same page.
Load More Replies... A roll of toilet paper and which way it goes on the roll.
This was >30 years ago and we still tease him about it.
To be fair it was the straw that broke the camels back but yeah. Toilet paper.
(he's since been happily married for almost 26 years).
My wife has a preference on how the TP roll is hung, I couldn't care less. So I make sure it's the way she likes it. (edited for typo)
New paper goes towards you, over the top. SMH. Can’t believe people are still arguing about this.
You've never had a cat who liked to play with the toilet paper, have you?
Load More Replies...Every time i see something posted about how the toilet paper roll is supposed to go on the roller the comment section makes me concerned this will start a civil war somewhere. ;)
If no agreement can be reached, how about a double-roll holder, one for him, one for her? Similar solution for dissimilar toothpaste-squeezing styles: two tubes. In any case, not a hill to die on.
If you look at the original patent, the paper is shown as going over the roll, not under. That said, who cares? as long as you leave me some I'm not gonna worry about it! :D
A friend divorced her husband because he was afraid of the ghost who was haunting the place they were staying and who was tormenting their child (the ghost, not the husband). He was afraid of being in the house alone too. I mean I can see her reasoning though regardless of whether you believe in the paranormal or not.
If you've seen any haunting movie, it's because the family is poor, the house was "a steal" as reported by the real estate agent, and they had put too much money into it to afford moving out, let alone cutting the loss.
Load More Replies...One couple divorced because the husband refused to stop feeding seagulls that kept stealing their food and ruining their picnics!
Brazilian Football player Kaka's wife divorced him because he was "too perfect".
Df.
Her opinion. She said she couldn't fault him for anything other than being too good.
Load More Replies... I remember about 15-20 years ago, a couple in their late 90s, who’d been married for over 75 years, were getting divorced because the husband found out that the wife had had an affair 60-plus years earlier.
Dude, the other guy’s probably long dead, and she clearly chose you in the long run. Besides, you probably only have a few months left. Just live it out, and you and the other guy can duke it out in Heaven soon enough.
He felt betrayed for decades after discovering it. I don't know if I would blame him.
This: it would taint every memory, because had he known, even though they might have stayed together, he'd have been seeing things slightly differently. Effectively his whole life became a lie.
Load More Replies..."Live it out" with someone who's been lying to you for 60+ years?!?! GTFO. That's something a cheater would say.
This might be unpopular... but. Whilst I don't condone cheating I'm not sure divorcing over an infidelity that happened 60 ago in a marriage that lasted 75 years was the right choice. It was obviously painful news to learn, and this could have been avoided had the lady come clean at the time of the affair so it could have been dealt with. But she did clearly choose her husband in the long run and did her best to make it work. They're both in their 90s, so in their final years they're both now going to be very sad and lonely. Companionship is something that most people take for granted. Especially in your later years. Too many people jump instantly to divorce or "leave and find someone new". I'm not saying you should stay with someone who cheats, but I am saying you owe it to yourself to at least discuss things as adults before throwing away 75 years of marriage 😟
Think of it this way, The marriage wouldn't have lasted 75 years had she come clean
Load More Replies...He knew all along. He was just putting off the divorce until the children were all dead.
Some couple divorced because one thought the other made bad coffee... like really that’s a dealbreaker now? gotta choose your battles.
That was the plot of many old Folger's Coffee commercials.
They got married, big white wedding, six weeks go by and they file for divorce. "I realised I didn't actually love him". HUH?
So a friend of mine said his wife shut the door on his father's face. Apparently he got really mad at this and things haven't been the same again. Filed a divorce couple of months ago.
The couple's dogs hated each other,so they divorced.
? How did they not know this before they got married? Did they wait until the ceremony to introduce fur children?
Maybe they didn't live together until marriage, and it wasn't an issue til all the dogs were living in one house..
Load More Replies...A friend once told me her parents got divorced because of Princess Diana's death.
Pam Anderson listed "Borat" as the reason for her divorce from Kid Rock.
I just looked it up, he was mad that the sex tape was mentioned, so he called (screamed) her a whore in front of everyone and stormed off. Exactly as expected from that human trash bag, Kid Rock.
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He's Aka (kidrock)is a trump supporting piece of garbage sorry 😔 scratch that that's a insult to garbage it's more like dog s**t or cat s**t and that's still a insult to the s**t I'm still really 😭 only his ear got clipped some demon is looking out for him then again truly evil people have a nasty habit of not dieing for some reason anyway rant almost over. Vote For Anything or Anyone That Isn't Orange S**t AKA Trump
Funny calling someone evil while wishing their death.
Load More Replies...I once heard of an Indian American getting served divorce papers because it was a green card marriage (unbeknownst to him) to prevent his wife from getting deported back to Canada.
Indian American as in Asian or American Indian as in native?
Woman and man each wanted to keep their last names. So they divorce every three years and change their names.
Is it the law where they live that you must change your name upon marriage?
Not where in the USA at least. I have several friends who kept their names after marriage.
Load More Replies...Still don't get this. My parents were married in old-fashioned Belgium in 1963. The idea of my mom taking dad's name just did not exist. Never has. Baffles me that in the Netherlands (=one of our closest neighbours) NOWADAYS women still take on the husband's name. Djeez.
FR... just keep your own name when you get married, nothing says you have to take the other spouses' name.
I read somewhere that a man divorced his wife because she was wearing pants.
Seems like they should've established the "dress code" before getting married? ;) Sounds like she did the right thing though. He sounds like a right controlling b@stard.
If you're bothered by a woman being in pants, then you're also worried about what's in yours.
I divorced my husband because he didn't pull the tongue of his shoes out from in between the laces...
(I mean there were a lot of other issues, but that one got on my nerves every single time we left the house and I just couldn't take it anymore).
Is that what you put on the divorce papers or did you say irreconcilable differences? Part of me wants the shoe tongue thing to be on the public record because it is so silly.
I know of a man who divorced his wife because she couldn't give him children. She's now remarried to a much nicer man and has had two children. I guess we know who really had the fertility issues!
Very simplistic but my husband abused and stalked me because I wrote fanfiction and he thought that meant I was cheating on him. I was still very much emotionally available to him and wanted to work things out but a) he hacked my account and deleted all my very successful work, b) he fired guns in the house, one of which destroyed my 6k gaming setup, and c) started to get physical with me. Byeeeeee
Similar, but opposite: my mom’s friend/coworker is in a relationship we all highly suspect is at least emotionally abusive, and he’s just a general POS (racist, ableist, regularly user r-word, drunk, constantly misgenders his trans son, who is one of my best friends), but she can’t divorce him because a) she’s a teacher and relies on his income and b) it doesn’t seem safe. It’s really sad, she’s such a lovely bubbly person but she totally shuts down around him. I’m glad at least my friend is in college now and away from that, he got a really bad hit of dysphoria from a specific misgendering, I’m still mad at his dad about it.
She's choosing to stay; her love or fear of him is bigger than her self worth.
Load More Replies...I moderate a private FB group that is, let's say, anti-Trump; we have 600+ members. Several have experienced divorce due to their opposition to Trump and his vile persona. This is where we are in the US.
not me but my best friends aunt. she grew up in an extremely conservative household and did not get the birds and bees talk till she was married, on her wedding night. she refused to have relations with her husband and had the marriage annulled. she remains unmarried and childfree, living her best life. more power to her.
I know of a man who divorced his wife because she couldn't give him children. She's now remarried to a much nicer man and has had two children. I guess we know who really had the fertility issues!
Very simplistic but my husband abused and stalked me because I wrote fanfiction and he thought that meant I was cheating on him. I was still very much emotionally available to him and wanted to work things out but a) he hacked my account and deleted all my very successful work, b) he fired guns in the house, one of which destroyed my 6k gaming setup, and c) started to get physical with me. Byeeeeee
Similar, but opposite: my mom’s friend/coworker is in a relationship we all highly suspect is at least emotionally abusive, and he’s just a general POS (racist, ableist, regularly user r-word, drunk, constantly misgenders his trans son, who is one of my best friends), but she can’t divorce him because a) she’s a teacher and relies on his income and b) it doesn’t seem safe. It’s really sad, she’s such a lovely bubbly person but she totally shuts down around him. I’m glad at least my friend is in college now and away from that, he got a really bad hit of dysphoria from a specific misgendering, I’m still mad at his dad about it.
She's choosing to stay; her love or fear of him is bigger than her self worth.
Load More Replies...I moderate a private FB group that is, let's say, anti-Trump; we have 600+ members. Several have experienced divorce due to their opposition to Trump and his vile persona. This is where we are in the US.
not me but my best friends aunt. she grew up in an extremely conservative household and did not get the birds and bees talk till she was married, on her wedding night. she refused to have relations with her husband and had the marriage annulled. she remains unmarried and childfree, living her best life. more power to her.
